Do You Know What You Want and Is It Reasonable? Ep 71

You have a list. He needs to be over six feet, make six figures, and check every box you've been adding to since the last disappointment. Every item sounds reasonable on its own. Stack them all together and you haven't described a man, you've described a Disney prince who does not exist on this planet in this lifetime.

This episode is about trading the fantasy checklist for the qualities that actually predict a good partnership.

Inside:

Why the "same man, different outfit" thing happens in the first place. Your father was distant, so you swore you'd never choose distant, and somehow every one of them turned out distant. That's your nervous system reaching for the familiar, because familiar feels safe even when it hurts.

The one quality worth more than the spark. Of course you want a spark. Just don't let it run the whole show. Look for reliability instead, a man whose words and actions match over time. If he says he'll call Thursday at seven, does he, or are you already making excuses for him?

The green flags that actually matter: consistency, real communication, thoughtfulness, whether he shows up for other people. The reason I fell for my husband was learning that he and his brother spent their vacations rebuilding his mother's hurricane-damaged house before we'd even met in person.

The honest talk about the six-foot rule. Men under six feet are sweet, thoughtful, kind, and worth your time. Holding out for tall is often really about feeling smaller yourself, and you have far more freedom over 50 than that rule gives you credit for.

This is one of a series of short episodes leading up to Simply Irresistible. Come to the free live class, Same Man, Different Outfit, Thursday July 9 at 7 p.m. Central. Sign up at dianebrandonmoody.com.

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