What is Simply Irresistible exactly? And a date clarification, Ep 76

If you've heard me mention Simply Irresistible all week and wondered what it actually is, this is the episode that lays it out.

I built it, first, for myself. For the woman I was before 2018, the one who wanted love so badly, who was tired of being asked "why are you still single," who kept opening my heart and kept watching it not work out. What changed everything wasn't another dating tip. It was learning to metabolize the anger and grief she'd been carrying, and becoming magnetic on the other side of it. She built this so no other woman has to figure that out alone.

In this episode, I'm honest about who it's for and who it isn't:

If you're genuinely happy on your own, free, content, not aching for a partner, I'll tell you straight: this may not be for you, and that's okay.

But if you're quietly scared you'll leave this life without a partner to laugh with in the dark, without someone to lean on when you're sick or scared, this is for you.

I also walks through what changed since last year's beta: the program is now a full year for one price, twelve weeks of lessons plus nine more months of weekly coaching and community, real nervous system work alongside practical dating tactics, a Slack channel where I actually answers you, and a goal that might surprise you, teaching you to think for yourself so you don't need her forever.

One honest note I make clear: I am not a trauma therapist, and I'll tell you kindly where her lane begins and ends.

Enrollment for the founding cohort closes Monday, July 13 at midnight, and the cohort begins Tuesday. If this is you, join here: dianebrandonmoody.com/love-audit.  Please note that in the recording I said it closes on Tuesday, but it really closes Monday. 

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Transcript

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Diane Brandon Moody: Hello everybody, it's Diane Brandon Moody here again. Welcome you, welcoming you back to my

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Diane Brandon Moody: 12-episode mini-marathon on my podcast, 50-Something Love. I'm very happy that you're here.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Today's episode is

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Diane Brandon Moody: is all about what exactly is simply irresistible. If you weren't in the same man, different outfit program on Thursday, July 9, th then you're not aware that I launched simply irresistible collective.

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Diane Brandon Moody: and

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Diane Brandon Moody: I'm very excited about it. I took a look at the Beta last year, and I made some significant changes.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Which I would be happy to talk to you about in a love audit, but…

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Diane Brandon Moody: What simply irresistible was designed as Is…

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Diane Brandon Moody: For me, I designed it for myself.

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Diane Brandon Moody: pre-2018.

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Diane Brandon Moody: I designed it for the me.

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Diane Brandon Moody: that… Wanted love in my life so badly.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And… The me that was doing.

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Diane Brandon Moody: something wrong all the time in finding it.

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Diane Brandon Moody: I was angry. I was sad. I got tired of being asked, when are you going to get married, or

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Diane Brandon Moody: There's, you know, like, why are you still single? What's… what's wrong with you because you're still single? You're pretty, why can't you get married? Why can't you find a guy? Blah blah blah blah.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And all of that was just absolutely devastating to me to keep hearing that and to keep trying to keep opening my heart and

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Diane Brandon Moody: not… Nothing working out very well, I'll just put it that way. It just didn't.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And… My life changed in the 20

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Diane Brandon Moody: with a lot of women, and we were dancing a lot, and we were learning how to metabolize our darker feelings.

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Diane Brandon Moody: because metabolizing them are very important. Nobody with any intelligence about how

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Diane Brandon Moody: the brain works is going to tell you that you are not allowed to be angry, or be sad, or anything like that, because that is simply part of the human experience. It happens.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So anybody who says that, just, like, ignore them.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Where work has gone so much in the last few years is how to metabolize it so that it doesn't stay lodged in your heart, in your soul, in your brain, and becomes

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Diane Brandon Moody: a hindrance to who you are, to finding love, or anything like that. So, without even actually trying to, I found ways to metabolize all that I'd been carrying around.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And… Then I became magnetic.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Because I was able to metabolize all this.

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Diane Brandon Moody: It was extremely important.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And you know the rest of the story about putting an ad on Craigslist, because my…

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Diane Brandon Moody: Intuition told me to and wouldn't shut up until I did.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So you know the rest of this. But that's what really changed. So

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Diane Brandon Moody: it came about because I didn't want another single woman to have to go through that experience unless she wanted to.

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Diane Brandon Moody: If you are the woman out there.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And you are so happy on your own. You have freedom. You love freedom. You have finances. You love your finances. You have your friends.

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Diane Brandon Moody: you're happy, you're not stuck in anger or sadness, and you're not stuck in wanting a relationship that you can't have. If you are that happy woman.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Simply Irresistible may not be for you.

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Diane Brandon Moody: If you are the woman… I know it's very common for people of a certain age, myself included, for us to say, well, I don't need a man, but I want one.

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Diane Brandon Moody: That right there is repellent energy, and that can drive them away really fast.

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Diane Brandon Moody: But, I digress.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So anyway, like I was saying, if you're the really happy woman on your own, then you probably…

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Diane Brandon Moody: are okay, on your own. I don't know if Simply Irresistible is for you. You're welcome to book a love audit on my website, and we'd be happy… I'd be more than happy to have a conversation with you.

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Diane Brandon Moody: However… If you are the type of woman.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Who is scared to death.

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Diane Brandon Moody: that… You're going to leave this lifetime without love.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Without a partner you can count on.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Without another human being to lie in bed and laugh with at night.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Another person to help with.

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Diane Brandon Moody: What goes on in the home and life if you're sick or injured or had surgery or something like that.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And you don't feel like you have that person you can depend on. Then please, please, please.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Book a love audit call, and let's talk.

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Diane Brandon Moody: What I have done… I will go over the details.

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Diane Brandon Moody: In depth with anybody who calls.

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Diane Brandon Moody: But here are a couple of the things that I've changed. The main one being…

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Diane Brandon Moody: The program is still 12 weeks long. This is the learning that I think you need. We start out with calming the nervous system, calming your body, your body hangs on.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Through your brain, through the algorithm that is your nervous system.

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Diane Brandon Moody: To the hurts, to the danger, to the threats you've had in your life.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So… We're talking about small t trauma.

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Diane Brandon Moody: In the trauma world, what that means is big T trauma may be

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Diane Brandon Moody: rape, sexual assault, your life is threatened, you were kidnapped, something very severe like that. I'm not a trauma therapist. Those would be the job of a trauma therapist.

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Diane Brandon Moody: I know what my lane is, and that isn't it. So, work on your trauma, do your trauma therapy, and then come back, and I'd be more than happy to talk to you. I have worked with people with trauma, but they took the responsibility of working with someone

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Diane Brandon Moody: To get at least a few layers of that handled.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Before they came to me.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So…

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Diane Brandon Moody: We've extended it to a full year in terms of membership, and it's all one price, you don't have to keep paying. It's one price where you get the 12 weeks of lessons and learnings.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And some of them will…

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Diane Brandon Moody: be more difficult for you than others. Some of them may be easier for you than for other women in the group.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Some of them may be just.

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Diane Brandon Moody: super basic, that you consider super basic. That's okay, because not everybody comes from the same place, and some of them are gonna…

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Diane Brandon Moody: Make you just feel absolutely gobsmacked between the eyeballs that how did you not know this, how did you get to be this age without knowing this kind of stuff, so that's what 12 weeks of study is like.

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Diane Brandon Moody: During that 12 weeks, every week we have a coaching session that's on Tuesday nights in case you need to know about the day time, see if you're available. It's recorded and it is sent to the people in that cohort. So it's not sent to other cohorts, it's sent to your cohort.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And then we,

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Diane Brandon Moody: After that 12 weeks, you're welcome to stay in there as long as you want to, up to a year.

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Diane Brandon Moody: That's up to 9 months of camaraderie with other women.

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Diane Brandon Moody: of someone to bounce questions off of. I had a really terrible date last night. Can you help me and let me know what you might have done differently?

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Diane Brandon Moody: Or, I had the best date ever, and now I'm afraid that I'm gonna do something dumb. Can you help me, help me strategize this? So we, we do a lot of nervous system work.

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Diane Brandon Moody: But we also do tactics. Here's how to write an ad if you want to write an ad, if you want to be online. You don't have to be online, we have other ways of doing that, but if you want to be online.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Here's how to write an ad. And actually, I even share, the copy of the ad that I wrote that got me 300 responses, if you're a VIP.

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Diane Brandon Moody: because it worked really well. It was pretty unique, and it was pretty awesome.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So there are bonuses in there. I can go over them with you if you book the call.

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Diane Brandon Moody: But, that's what it looks like in what is the single biggest chain change is we're not done in 12 weeks.

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Diane Brandon Moody: I have a Slack channel, you can reach me with questions, you can send me an email, you know, I am very good at responding to messages. I'm not somebody who disappears with messages. So,

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Diane Brandon Moody: You can reach me and ask me those questions if you feel stumped. Now, the goal of Simply Irresistible is that you learn how to think for yourself.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Because I want you to understand how all of this works, so that you can make your own decisions going forward.

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Diane Brandon Moody: There's a point in there where I kind of add it back to you. Well, what do you think you should do? How do you think that should go?

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Diane Brandon Moody: let's talk through it. If you want this, and this has happened, then what's the best way of going about that? Because I really and truly do want you to figure it out yourself.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So that you don't need me for the rest of your life.

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Diane Brandon Moody: But I get it, when you're learning, there's always something to ask about when you're first getting the hang of it, and that's what I'm there for.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So.

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Diane Brandon Moody: There will be lots and lots of coaching, and lots and lots of room for questions.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Yeah, and then if you really want to stay in, you can come back for the next year. The membership price for the year will be considerably less than what you pay for Simply Irresistible because you're just coming back for the membership to hang around.

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Diane Brandon Moody: and be of service to other people if you want to, or maybe not. Maybe you just want to ask questions. You may want to, after you finish Simply Irresistible, you may only want to show up once

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Diane Brandon Moody: A month.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Or whatever.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Just to keep your feet in. That's up to you. You don't have to be there every week if you don't want to.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So…

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Diane Brandon Moody: I may have just confused it for you, and the best way to get more answers are to go to dianbrandedmoody.com slash loveaudit, and book that call quick, because we close on Tuesday.

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Diane Brandon Moody: July 14th, and it's coming up, and I would love to have you in it, so please book the call.

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Diane Brandon Moody: If you have any questions, if you are interested in knowing more.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Give me a shout at info at Diane Branded Moody, and I will be happy to answer for you. Meanwhile, I'm looking forward to you joining the group, because it is going to be freaking amazing.

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Diane Brandon Moody: See you next time! Tomorrow!