What is a Love Audit and why do you need one? Ep 77

I've been inviting you to book a Love Audit all week, so today I'm telling you exactly what one is, and what it isn't.

A Love Audit is a conversation between you and me to see whether you're a good fit for Simply Irresistible, and whether it's a good fit for you. And let me be honest about my heart here: I would love to have you in. But I won't put you in a program that isn't right for you, because three months of deep work you secretly hate helps no one. So we talk first.

Here's what a Love Audit is not. It isn't a session to vent about men, and it isn't free coaching on everything else going on in your life. It's a genuine, warm conversation about fit, because the work inside Simply Irresistible is real, sometimes deep, and occasionally a little tender, and I want us both walking in clear-eyed.

In this episode I also get into:

The difference between the small-t trauma I work with, the old beliefs you may not even realize you're still carrying from childhood, and the big-T trauma that belongs with a trauma-informed therapist first. I know exactly where my lane is.

The two things we actually do inside the program: settle your nervous system, and teach you real tactics, like reading green flags and red flags and handling the moments that used to trip you up.

Why I call myself a dating transformation coach, and why you won't just be hanging out in here.

We start Tuesday, and enrollment closes Monday, July 13 at midnight. If you want in, let's talk first. Book your Love Audit at dianebrandonmoody.com/love-audit. Already sure? Email me and I'll send you the link to join.

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Transcript

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Diane Brandon Moody: Hi there, Diane Brandon-Moody here again. This is,

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Diane Brandon Moody: Let's see. That was Saturday. This is Sunday. So this is the Sunday, July 12th episode. I had to stop and count. Let me tell you, 12 episodes in a short amount of time is a lot of podcasting.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So even if they are short. So today's topic is what exactly is a love audit and why do I need one?

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Diane Brandon Moody: I will tell you that, first of all, you find it on dianebrandedmoody.com/love-audit.

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Diane Brandon Moody: You get there, you sign up on one of the calendar days. If there's not a day or time that you can work with, then…

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Diane Brandon Moody: Email me info@dianeprintedmoody.com and we'll find a date for you.

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Diane Brandon Moody: A love audit is for us to have a discussion to see if you are a good fit for Simply Irresistible. And just so you know my heart.

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Diane Brandon Moody: I would love for you to be in. I'd love to have as many women that's feasible, that's still small enough for us to get somewhere. I would love for you to be in there.

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Diane Brandon Moody: But I don't want you to be in there if you're not a good fit for the program or the program isn't a good fit for you.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Not because I don't want to see your smiling, cheerful face.

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Diane Brandon Moody: But because I believe in this work and when I offer something to someone, I want to make sure that it's the best thing for them and for me.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Because it would be a tedious 3 months.

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Diane Brandon Moody: If you're going through something and you hate every minute of it.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So that's why we get on the phone call.

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Diane Brandon Moody: A love audit is usually a one-time thing.

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Diane Brandon Moody: If you have talked to me before, and it's been a while, That's one thing.

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Diane Brandon Moody: If it's been a while and not specifically about Simply Irresistible, feel free to book again.

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Diane Brandon Moody: DianeBrandonMoody.com/LoveAudit. And… What this is not is… is just simply…

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Diane Brandon Moody: a time to bitch about men, or a time to, you know.

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Diane Brandon Moody: get free coaching on a host of other issues. That's not what a love audit is for. It's really about seeing if we're a good fit.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Because, you know, Being inside…

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Diane Brandon Moody: is great work. It's sometimes deep work. It might be a little painful at times, nothing crushing, but, you know, maybe a little painful.

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Diane Brandon Moody: and we want to make sure that we're a good fit for each other, and that we're ready to do this work.

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Diane Brandon Moody: As I have said before,

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Diane Brandon Moody: Simply irresistible. We do work with the nervous system and settling down the nervous system.

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Diane Brandon Moody: But this is small-t trauma work.

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Diane Brandon Moody: This is not big T trauma. Big T trauma is perhaps a rape, a sexual assault, a kidnapping, attempted murder, you know, something huge like that. Your house burned down around you, or something like that. That needs to be handled.

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Diane Brandon Moody: by someone who's much better trained in trauma-informed therapy, and that's not what I do.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Mine is for the stuff that you may not even realize is hiding in there, like in 3rd grade. Somebody called you fat and ugly, and somehow you've carried that around inside you for years.

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Diane Brandon Moody: You may not even know it's there, but it's hampering you, because you don't feel like you can be loved by anybody, because after all, you believe you're fat and ugly, because the snot-nosed kid in third grade told you that. And your third grade brain believed him.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Or her. I don't know.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So that's more like the stuff that we can deal with.

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Diane Brandon Moody: with the kind of training that I've had.

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Diane Brandon Moody: We also do tactics, the tactics.

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Diane Brandon Moody: can be anything from you know what what is a green flag versus a red flag, or how can I handle this situation next time? Or you know anything along those lines.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So again, book a love audit if you want to be in Simply Irresistible and time's running out. It's getting closer.

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Diane Brandon Moody: This is Sunday and we start on Tuesday. So while I'm writing course material today, I hope you will go to the website and book that call.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And let me know.

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Diane Brandon Moody: When you're joining. Because I want you in there. I think it'll be great. Your life will change. I call myself a dating transformation coach because that's exactly what it is.

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Diane Brandon Moody: You're not just gonna hang out.

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Diane Brandon Moody: It's going to be a dating transformation.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So, questions?

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Diane Brandon Moody: Email me info@dianebrandtandmoody.com.

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Diane Brandon Moody: I'm looking forward to it. I know you're going to be here.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Thank you so much.

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Diane Brandon Moody: and I'll see you tomorrow for the last of my 12-episode podcast marathon.

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Diane Brandon Moody: See you later. Bye.