Decide On Joy

Manifestation part 3

• Jim Covault

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Jim:

Hello, and welcome to this episode of Decide on Joy, podcast coming to you from Harmony Spiritual Center in Fort Worth, Texas, with a lot of airplane noise going on overhead. I hope you're not hearing that.

Pjae:

I hope not either. We are.

Jim:

Yes. They, there's an airbase nearby and they, they do touch and go stuff, you know. And, and that's apparently happening now. Or a war has started, one or the other. So something, something or the other,

Pjae:

you never know.

Jim:

Yeah. So. This is the third of a series about manifestation. All the episodes titles start with a D. We've had one called Discover, which is about discovering who you are. We had Decide, which is deciding what you want. And this episode is called Determine, to say yes. Before we get too far into that, maybe just a quick recap of

Pjae:

Yeah. So, you know, the first thing, of course, is to discover who you are. You know, because we, we, we pretty much as human beings, we have so many things going on. We, we put a lot of things on autopilot. And so every now and again, it's nice to just go back and say, Okay, who, who, who am I now? You know, five years have gone by, ten years you've been, you've been in a relationship, you've had friends, and so you've been influenced by things, you've had some education. There's a number of things And we tend to to just live as though everything that we were doing before is still working for us. So it's just nice to every now and again just sit down and just go, okay, who am I now? Who do I, you know, who, who, who, who determined and just say, yeah, this is, this is just, just discover that this is who I am in terms of what your values are what you do or don't want, those kinds of things. And so Yeah, so just determine, discover, discover, I keep using the same words, the 3Ds, the 4Ds, the first thing is to discover who you are now, okay, that's all it is. And then we you know, once we discover who we are, we decide what do we want, this is who we are, what do we want, what do we want out of life, and a lot of that has to do with, with Figuring out when you determine who you are, who, who, who are you in terms of who you are and who people have told you you should be, like your parents or your classroom or the, or the, the, the consciousness around us. So. It's important that you decide for yourself, you know, who you are, discover who that is, decide what you want, moving forward. And then, once we do that, just because you've determined, discovered who you are and decided what you want, doesn't mean it's going to happen. So, part of that now is to determine what you're going to do. To say yes to your life. To what you say you are and what you say you want. You have to determine to say yes for it.

Jim:

What, what would saying no to it look like?

Pjae:

Okay, so let me, let me do it the other way and then I'll come back to it. So, if you say yes to your life, and here, cause here's again. We're creatures of habit. So I'm going to give an example from my life. I say I want to, and I've talked about this at Harmony, I say it out loud so that I can be held accountable for it. That I am an author. And I am writing, right now, I've written a fiction book, it's a lot of fun, but right now I want to write a non fiction book. Because I'm a coach and a counselor, and I want to take the information that I know, so that people can use it, they don't have to always talk to me, they can look at the book and, and, and See what they wanna do. So that's what I have decided that I want to do. That's what I decided now to determine and say yes to it. What I also love to do is I'm not an actor, but I love, I love acting. I love movies and television and shows, so it's just easy to go home, sit on the couch, and watch show after show after show. Okay, that's the habit. So, in order for me to have the life that I want, then I have to say yes to that, and no to the things that won't let me do it. Like sitting there, watching a TV show, isn't getting the book written.

Jim:

Right.

Pjae:

So I have to say yes to changing that, and sitting down and doing what I say, that I want to have come from my life. Then I have to say yes to what's going to allow me to have it in my life.

Jim:

Right. Did that

Pjae:

make sense?

Jim:

Yeah. I was thinking also of more the, the, that you may unconsciously be saying no to what you have said you want, and not realizing you're doing it.

Pjae:

Exactly. I love that. You're exactly correct. And so that's just another thing that you can look at and say, well, I've said that I want this, but here's what I'm doing. So have I actually, have I actually decided on this thing that I say that I want, because I'm not going towards it. So that you're going to have to, you get a chance to an opportunity to reevaluate it. And maybe I said I wanted it because it was something I thought I should want, but it's not actually something I do want.

Jim:

And you might be. Unconsciously saying no to it because you don't think you deserve it, or Ooh,

Pjae:

good

Jim:

one. That whole range of thing.

Pjae:

That is a good one. And so again, examining and discovering who you are and what you say you want, when you don't find yourself saying yes to it, that's another opportunity. Is it because you don't really want it, or is it because You don't think you know how. You don't think you deserve it. And this is another, I don't know if we've had this conversation or not, and this may be one we're going to have in the future but when you, when you, when you say that you want something, and you, you, you don't actually go after it because you don't know how, The how, this is crazy, people don't understand that at all, what are you talking about? The how isn't actually your business. The what, and saying yes, is your business. And then you have to let spirit, God, the divine, whatever, your intuition, whatever you call that, guide you. Because the point is, if you already knew how to do it, you'd be there already. Okay, he'd be there already. And so it's, it's, it's the exactly the right thing to do or the natural thing to do to say, I want to be a writer, I want to be an actor, and then not go after it because you don't or you don't think you deserve it. Or you don't know how to do it. And if you don't know how to do it, well, then you I'm telling you, just just say that you do and expect confidently expect the universe to show you how the how will start appearing. But if it's because you don't think you deserve it, That's a whole other set of work that has to be done. Yeah,

Jim:

yeah, that's a separate thing. That's a whole separate

Pjae:

thing.

Jim:

But certainly if you, yeah, if you, if something like that, using the actor example again, if you just decide that's what you want to do, well, there are things, you can take classes, you can, you know.

Pjae:

Absolutely. Go audition for something and get some feedback.

Jim:

Yeah. For

Pjae:

yourself and for others.

Jim:

Yeah, so there, there are ways to approach that instead of just saying, waiting, waiting for it to arrive. At your doorstep. Yeah.

Pjae:

That's not going to

Jim:

happen that way. Not usually. Occasionally to a few people it has happened. Very few people. Yeah. Yeah. Did

Pjae:

that whole getting discovered on the doorstep thing. Whatever that is. Yeah. No. It's, it's work. It's work. It's the decision and it's work on your part that you can do if you want to. Because so we have. The point that we're making, Jim, is that we have a lot of power in our lives. We can determine, we can decide, we can learn new things. There's a lot of noise going on right now. That was amazing.

Jim:

Yeah, I think that one sounds like it's landing on our heads.

Pjae:

That one's coming across. Wow.

Jim:

I would think so. The software is good about eliminating stuff like that. But I don't know, that one was

Pjae:

I couldn't hardly hear myself. It

Jim:

truly sounded like he had decided to land on the roof. And I don't know, I constantly see things, like, YouTube videos and all, where people are saying, Oh, I'm so sorry about the noise, and we can't hear it at all because the microphone's not picking it up. And I hope that's the case here.

Pjae:

We'll find out. We'll find out, we're going to look at it. But anyway I just lost where I was going with it.

Jim:

Yeah, totally, no, no. gone down the Air Force path here, we don't know. We don't know. We don't know. We don't

Pjae:

know. But we were just talking about that if, if, you know, if in fact that you decide that you want to do something, there's, there's many ways that you can test it out, that you can, and, and if it's, if it's. That you don't think you deserve it, that is, there, there are other things that you can do to, to figure that out and say, well, why don't I think that's, I deserve that? Is there, is there something that I believe, or is it something I was told? And you can begin to, and I think, I don't think we've had this, this podcast yet, but I want to, or perhaps we have. The Partners in Believing, we've had that one? Okay, well, hopefully you guys have listened to that one. Go back and listen to it if you haven't. It's the reason to have Partners in Believing. Because you, you don't, you don't necessarily know for sure that you can do something that you've decided you want. And you have people around you that can support you in moving forward. There are a number of people that will, that will be just as anxious as you and, and will feed right into the fear that you have. So you can, you can determine and decide, hey, I want to be, I want to surround myself. It's, it's like being in school. If you want to get good grades, you can't surround yourself with people who aren't going to class. You have to surround yourself with people who are kind of nerdy and are always studying and that kind of thing. It's the same thing with if you decide you want something and it's not really coming to you easily You can decide and determine to be around people who will believe with you, while you are growing your belief. You can grow belief. You can grow belief. That's a good thing to be able to know and to be able to do.

Jim:

Yeah, and, and, speaking of, we're creatures of habit, it may not just be the habits, like, sitting on the couch and watching TV, it might be the habit of thinking you can't do something or the habit of thinking these are my limits and I need to stay within them. You know, probably again, something that you, those limits were perceptions put on you from outside. But I mean, obviously there are. Some actual limits. Yes.

Pjae:

I'm five foot five. That's not gonna change. Yes. That's not gonna change. If I wanted something that's, that's only gonna go for somebody who's six 10 it's not gonna be for me.

Jim:

Yeah. Probably saying I wanna be a basketball star. I

Pjae:

think that's not gonna work out.

Jim:

Maybe not.

Pjae:

Unless they lower the baskets, it's not gonna happen. So, yeah. And, and, and I really don't like the word realistic. Mm-hmm You know, because people use that a lot. We gotta be realistic. Yeah. Well realistic. To whom? To, to, to, to, you know, and the reality is yours to set. It's yours to set. And really, if I'm 5'5 I'm going to have to use that basketball analogy, I, I don't, I don't care about basketball because I can't, I can see that I can't reach it. So it's not really something that, although there are short people who have, who have just. Accommodated that and are great leapers or jumpers or any number of things or get the ball down them down the court Yes, so they they play at another level And so you can again Wow, I think the Air Force heard us Just purposely going right across sitting on the roof. We

Jim:

thought that last one was loud. This one was more

Pjae:

Wow Wow Well, this is gonna be a fun part It's a podcast for all of us.

Jim:

It is. If, if you're hearing that, and if you're not, you'll just think we're crazy and can't

Pjae:

stay focused.

Jim:

I'm telling you, it's real. It is. It is real.

Pjae:

The airplanes are real. Anyway, so, so, so this podcast is about determining that you will do what it takes. That's what determination is, that you will do, do what it takes. You will say yes to your life. And when you do, when you do, When you, when you figure out and discover who you are and decide on something, I want to go in this direction, this is who I want to become, I want to get my degree, I want a relationship then you have to determine to do what that takes.

Jim:

Right.

Pjae:

Yeah.

Jim:

I, I think this is something that has come up in other episodes as well, but how do you, if you have those voices or whatever that are, that are controlling you and saying, no, no, no, you need to stay within your guardrails here. Yes.

Pjae:

Yeah. I love that word, guardrails. Yeah.

Jim:

Or that's, that's not something you need to be doing. How do you silence that? It's those.

Pjae:

Yeah. And I'm not at the beginning. I think you, you, it's difficult to, to I'm not gonna use the word difficult. But silencing them is not the goal.

Jim:

Okay. The

Pjae:

goal is to lower them, to quiet them down mm-hmm So that you can hear something else above on top of it. And so, one of the, the easiest and quickest way, it's not easy, but the quickest way to do it is what we call it. Affirmations and denials. And so, and we say affirmations because A comes before D, but actually when you do it, it's denials and affirmations. Because what happens is, if you say let's just stay with the acting thing, that you say, well, I want to be an actor. And, The voice in your head says, or the person who put that in your head says, You don't look good enough to be an actor. The denial is, I actually physically put my hand up. Like I'm stopping someone, like a stop sign, put my hand up, and say, That is not true.

Jim:

I'm sorry you can't see PJ doing

Pjae:

this. But I'm actually doing that. I have my hand up, like a stop sign in someone's face, and saying That is not true. So that's the denial. Deny the truth. Deny that that is true. That is not true. And then you affirm what is true. What is true is that I'm going to take some acting classes and prove that I actually can or can learn to do it. Whatever you need to say to yourself. But the denial comes first. Whatever the negative thing is that is Having you feel like you can't do something, you deny that, because that's not the truth for you. If it's coming up for you, that you want to do it, then that is not the truth for you. The thing that's just saying that you can't do it, that's not the truth. The reason why it's coming up is because there is something there that you can do, that you want to do. So you could just deny what's coming up. That's not true. What's true is, I can do this, and here's what I can do about it. And just start small. You don't have to, Go and try to do auditions at Stage West when you've never done anything before in your life. Maybe you can have a little just get your little friends together and do some poetry or something in front of them. Just get used to it. So that's one of the ways in which you start to do it. Just to calm down those, those voices in your head. And we all have them. We all have voices in our heads that either approve what we want to do and really rally us and are rah rahs and cheerleaders for us. But more than likely, we have people or voices in our heads, and I say people, because you could probably pinpoint who that is in your head. Your mom, your dad, your preacher, a sister, you know, somebody that was in your class, a teacher. That told you. You, you, you have the face in your, in your mind that told you that. And you can tell them, no, you're wrong. Put your hand in their face. And say, no, that's not true. Here's what, here's my truth now. That's what we get to do. That's the power that we have.

Jim:

All right, we can stop that one at that point. And, and there's one more episode left of the Manifestation series, and we'll see you next time for that. Thanks for being with us, and we'll see you then.