The Art of Sacred Release

Transcript

Jim 0:01

Hello, and welcome to this episode of Decide on Joy podcast coming to you from Harmony Spiritual Center in Fort Worth, Texas. My name is Jim Kova,

jae 0:11

and my name is Reverend Dr. PJ Stanley. Thank you so much for listening today

Jim 0:16

and, this is our, our first episode of the new year. We are recording in January.

jae 0:22

Yes.

Jim 0:22

Yes. So

jae 0:23

yeah,

Jim 0:23

you

jae 0:23

heard when you hear it, but

Jim 0:25

yes,

jae 0:25

we are recording in January. So note

Jim 0:28

and the title of this episode is The Art of Sacred Release.

jae 0:33

Yeah.

Jim 0:34

So

jae 0:34

yeah.

Jim 0:35

Why sacred?

jae 0:36

Exactly. Well, I this, I think this whole podcast, because it's coming from Harmony Spiritual Center. So then we like to talk about the things that are spiritual, that are sacred that that we honor what we know. About ourselves, about our lives, about how we move forward from a spiritual perspective tapping into something that is greater than ourselves, higher than ourselves. We talk throughout the year about, you know, whatever it is you wanna do, and as you're moving forward that you have, you, you surround yourself with what we call PBS Partners in believing people that, you know, have a high spiritual relationship. With that which is greater than themselves. And so it can help you understand something that seems out of control, but actually is not. And we have different things that we can do to honor who we are and what we know and live in that way. So it's, it's, it's a sacred, it's a sacred perspective and it is a sacred. Joining with others, and that's what we, I believe we're doing here, is honoring that sacred in you and in ourselves as well as we talk. We're talking from that space. We're not talking from our head space, we're talking from our heart space, so,

Jim 1:42

right. Yeah. And this episode is about releasing things to make room for new and better things.

jae 1:52

Absolutely. Absolutely. And so that's

Jim 1:53

brief. Yeah.

jae 1:54

That's one of the, the things that I know about. The universe, God, spirit, whatever you call that, which is greater than yourself, is that this is an abundant universe. Us and we draw to us so many things throughout the year, throughout the month, throughout the day, throughout the year that help us, that may actually hinder us, that we may just need to let go of. And I think the beginning of the year is a good time for you to just just take, take a inventory of what's going on in your life. How many things are actually helping you get where you want to go? And we'll talk about that, you know, about looking at your vision and where is it you want to go? What do you want to have show up in your life? Sometimes we find ourselves surrounded by people who, who don't feel or think the way that we do, and so they're actually hindering our product. And as we take a look at our lives and say, who's in our lives? Who have we let get into our lives? Who are we? These are all the things that I believe we can take a look at at the beginning of the year to say, this is where, this is what I want to claim for this year. And in order to get there, there are certain things, certain people, certain things, certain ways of being that you've done in the past year that you could say, you know what? That didn't actually share with me and I'm going to release that. So I think this is a good time of the year to just reflect. On truthfully reflect on what you're doing, on what is working and really what is not. And it's okay to just release it in a, in a just a loving way. Just release it.

Jim 3:20

Yeah. Then there may be a certain amount of natural resistance to doing that.

jae 3:26

Yes. Yeah. There's, there is, I'm I, there, I had a huge, a huge release and not, not everything is huge. Some things are just small. Like, you know, I, I love learning. I love taking classes. But this year I'm not going to be taking all the classes that I was taking at the, at the local college because there are things I just need to finish. I don't need to learn anything more. I need to finish up what I'm doing, what I've already learned, and put that into practice. So I'm letting go of that, and that's difficult for me because I love learning. But I also love completion and finishing things. So that's what I'm gonna be doing. But also sometimes you're releasing things that you weren't ready to release. In particular relationships. You can't, you, you can, you can take an inventory of your life and talk about the things that, that work for you, but you can't do it for other people. And if there's someone in your life that is, is is doing some things that doesn't work with what you're trying to do, you're gonna have to take a real hard look at that and say, is that person, am I a value in their lives? And are they a value in mine? And it's difficult to release those people because you have, there's some joy, there's a, there's love, there's all kinds of things, but they're not really, you are not really together creating the life that you want to create. And so to have to release that to realize, you know what, it hasn't, it's not working and it hasn't been working, will also bring sadness, but ultimately will bring joy.

Jim 4:53

Mm-hmm.

jae 4:54

Yeah.

Jim 4:55

Might there not? I mean, why do you always have to release something? Is it not possible that you have some space for new things to come into already?

jae 5:07

I am not, I'm not really sure how, and maybe you do, and that's probably a part of not, probably it is a part of, of sitting down and saying what's really, what's really going on? And actually taking an inventory of your life. And you can come up and say, you know what? I don't have any extra, the things that are going on in my life I want to remain. They're still helping me move forward in this coming year. But I, I think a, a real honest inventory will probably tell you that there's a couple of things that have snuck in there

Jim 5:36

mm-hmm.

jae 5:36

That aren't actually helping you. I, I certainly have some friendships and some relationships because they've been long term. It's difficult to release, but we're not moving forward together.

Jim 5:47

Right.

jae 5:47

And it's it's actually, I don't wanna say painful, that's too hard a word. It just isn't, it just isn't working out. And maybe it's working out for the other person and not for you, but this is your life. And so you get to make that choice, but it could be a hard choice,

Jim 6:02

right? So what are we actually releasing? We're doing, what are we actually releasing doing this?

jae 6:08

Okay, so what we're kind of, what we're releasing, there's several things, but the biggest thing that we're releasing thinking about is what do we think about? What are our thoughts about something and saying, you know what, that hasn't been true for a while. So we're holding on to a. An image of ourselves or a thought about ourselves that isn't true. Let me say for one, I never thought that I was smart enough to finish college, never thought I was, and that I have no idea where that came from. It might've just been a family situation because none of my family members ever completed college. And so I just thought it had to do with, I just didn't have the abilities. But I had someone in my life who loved me. And who said, are you, are you crazy? I already have my degree and you're much smarter than me. So you can definitely do this. So again, that's why I talk about having partners in believing and people who can see for you things that you can't necessarily see for yourself. Things that they, that their, their intention is to help you grow, if that's what you've stated you wanna do. And then they can reflect back to you what they actually see in you.'cause we don't always see our true selves. And so that's part of it.

Jim 7:23

Right. And an interesting thing I see here in the notes is well, says what, what are we actually releasing past wounds that we've been carrying? Like trophies? Yes. Now that's interesting.

jae 7:36

Yes. Well, because they, they are, they're exactly what they, what they say they are, they're wounds. So there was a, there was a, there was a book that that was out. And it's still available. I was reading it, not that I'm not that enamored of the book, but I love the title and the title is called Hell in the Hallway. And what that means is, is that when, and we hear this all the time, when one door closes, another door opens. And that's what happens in our lives. But what people fail to tell you is that when that one door closes before the other one opens, there's hell in the hallway, there's sorrow, there is, you know, you have to look at yourself in a truthful way. You. Want to surround yourselves with people who will tell you the truth, not what you necessarily want to hear, but what is actually true about what's going on is like something like, well, you say you want a great relationship, but you keep getting involved with people who don't deserve you. Why are you doing that? So people outside of you who love you can actually help you in a loving way, see the truth. About how you're moving through life. If, if that's what you want, and if that's what you requested of them. So I just wanna warn you that if that's what you want, and you have to know that for yourself and you ask someone that you know, loves you to tell you that, then take what they're saying. And even if it pisses you off, which it probably will, it's okay. It's all right. It means they're probably getting to the truth if it makes you upset. So, there you go. Did I answer the question?

Jim 9:14

Yeah.

jae 9:14

Okay.

Jim 9:15

I think I've forgotten the question now. Exactly. So that's why I

jae 9:17

had to ask

Jim 9:17

that. Let's assume did, I kind

jae 9:18

of looked down this field. I don't know if I answered the question or not, but hey, I think it's some good information.

Jim 9:23

What's the difference between letting go and giving up?

jae 9:28

I think you know that, I think that's something I can't, I can't really. Say that there's no formula for that. It's just something you have to know. You if you've, and it, and it has to do with a number of times that you've tried something. It has to do with, you know, how long you've been involved in trying to get something done. And there comes a point when you don't see any progress on along that road. You, you, you've tried this thing, you tried that thing, you tried the other thing. You've talked with your people that you care about, and it's still not happening. And so at some point I feel like Spirit is saying to you, this isn't the path you need to be on. Let it go girlfriend. So if you, if you run into too many obstacles, that is also another opportunity or time to say, what's this about? And so we talk in, in several different, podcasts and sessions, and we'll talk about it throughout this year as well about you having a personal relationship with that which is greater than yourself so that you can ask those questions. When you find yourself just hitting your head, banging up against the wall and you think you're doing the right things, but you're not getting anywhere you can ask that questions, what is happening here? What are you trying to tell me? And it could be that this isn't the path you need to be on. This isn't for you. So,

Jim 10:40

right. Hmm. Presumably the software will get rid of that. So are some practical things, some practices Yeah. To achieve the sacred release.

jae 10:52

So what are the, the, the, the again I feel like I'm just saying the same thing again, again, but I, but it really, it's, it doesn't, it's not a big deals, but they're consistent. So the consistent thing that I, I always ask people to do or, or think about doing is to spend some time every single day with that which is greater than yourself. Just checking in, just saying, is this the path for me? What's, what's next for me? And listening to the, to the answer, you, you're on the right track. You might want to tweak it a little bit. You'll actually get some answers. You'll hear it because it's your higher self that's talking to you, but you need to know what that sounds like because it might not actually be a voice for me. It's a conversation for other people, it's a, it's a, they see something, there's an emblem, or there's a signal, or there's a sound or there's something else that's going on that lets them know yes, this is the right way. No, this is not the right way. So the very first thing I would encourage people to do is to have a personal. Regular, ongoing relationship with that which is greater than yourself. So when you're find yourself not being able to understand what's the answer here, you can ask that question, what is the answer here? Do I stop, do I keep moving forward? And you will hear clearly keep going, you're heading in the right direction. Yes, there's some stumbling blocks, but that's okay. They're not enough to stop you or you're just a, you're just a little bit on the road, but why don't you talk to this person? And they'll, they'll send someone in. To, into your life, across your path that will set the, set it straight and illuminate your path for you. So there's a number of things that happen, but the beginning thing is the conversation with spirit. And the second thing is that you want to, that you determine because Spirit doesn't say, Hey, you need to do this, you need to do that, you need to do the other thing unless you ask. You have to, it has to be something that you want. So you think about this is, I want my life isn't quite going the way I want to. I want a better relationship, or I want a better job or I I want to love the community that I am, I want to give back whatever it is, whatever is on your mind that you wish to do you have to claim that. So it's also about just claiming your life and you can't claim your life until you know what you want in your life. So that's. Not only just releasing, but drawing in. This is what we're doing in the beginning of the year as well. Letting go of what isn't working so you can have a little more space to then draw in what you do want. Let's face it, we only have 24 hours in a day. And of that, how many hours are actually productive? You have to sleep, you have to rest. You have to eat. So we really don't have that much time in every single day to do, to move forward with some of the things that we want to do. So we want to clear out things that aren't actually moving us forward that seem to be, and you can say this. Wasting our time. I mean, I've been around this for quite some time, but I'm not making any movement on this. Let me, maybe there's another avenue I need to go down. These are questions you want to ask yourself.

Jim 13:39

Mm-hmm. And a note here suggest that it's helpful to have gratitude for what you are releasing.

jae 13:47

There is so much to be said if to me, if you don't do anything but two things every single day, pray. Or, and that's just talking to spirit. And be grateful for what you have when the, the daily, my daily routine is to pray and I actually start off prayer with just thank you. Because we didn't have to wake up, we don't have to have our hearing, our breath. We don't have to have a pla a bed to sleep in. There's, you can look around and a lot of people don't have what we have. What you have. So we just wanna be grateful and thankful. There's something about being grateful that gets you to see how wonderful your life already is. So it brings the complaints down and you get to focus on, it's not like my life is bad, it's just wanna improvement, because I think we all, I think we're here to expand, to become greater. You think about a baby, A baby doesn't still, I mean, a adult doesn't still crawl around on the ground. You, well, yeah. Okay. An adult shouldn't be crawling around on the ground unless there's something wrong. So there is always expansion and evolution. So we, we just, we want to have that relationship with spirit. Remind ourselves that spirit is with us every single day, every minute of the day, so that we can call on that when we don't know exactly what to do. We're not sure what to. What's going on? I'll share what the next move is. That's available to us all the time and we're grateful for that. We're grateful for what we have for a, a bed to sleep in. That's warm if you have that. Whatever it is you have, I don't know what you have particularly, but whatever it is you have, just give thanks for that. And then we start saying, I'd like to draw this in and let this thing go

Jim 15:32

and you actually can. Make a declaration about that. You can write it down.

jae 15:40

You can write, I thank you for mention that. Part of the, the, the, there's something about writing the, the, the written word actually taking your hand a pen and paper, or even typing it out. It doesn't have to be pen and paper. I like pen and paper, but it can be, or pencil and paper. But it can be typing it out and you. Definitely write down what you think, what you say you want. There's power in writing. There's something that, it just writes it on your heart, it writes it in your mind as opposed to just'cause. How many thoughts come into your life, into your mind every single day. Thoughts come and go. Come and go. Come and go. There's something about writing it that actually commits it to your heart and your mind. So yes, when once you're, they're thinking about some certain things, you start to write some things down, you can go back and look at it and say. Yes, this is what I want. You know what, no, I'm gonna tweak this. This is not quite it, but at least writing it down gives you a, a place to start with who you want to be, what you want to show up, who you want to be around you. Those are some, some parts of your, of your, I wanna just call it your, your, your vision that you want to write down this, actually, I'm just gonna say this real quickly, that there's kind of four domains, if you will, if you wanna call it something it's a domain, but just think about your health. Just what, what do you want your health to look like? Because really, if you're not, if you're not feeling well, you're not gonna be able to do anything anyway. So it's all moot. So your health, what do you want that to look like? What do you want your love life to look like? And that's everyone. Your family members, your, your friends. How do you want that to look? What, what do you want your work to look like? It doesn't have to be a vocation degree, an avocation, but what brings you joy? What do you want to put into the world? And then do you have enough time and money freedom to do those things? If you want to travel, do you have money or time to do it? And so those are the, those are like the four areas I think that we wanna start writing out. What do I want that to look like? Start putting pen to paper on that and start pulling that, drawing that into your life and seeing. Because it's on paper. Like I said, I want to do this, but you know what? I haven't actually saved any money to go travel. I probably wanna think about doing that. Right. Those kinds of things will show up.

Jim 17:43

Yes. Or, or seeing it written down might make you have second thoughts about

jae 17:48

it and it'll have you second down what in the world made you think I wanted to go there?

Jim 17:50

Yeah. Well,

jae 17:50

thank you. Yeah,

Jim 17:52

exactly. So there's a project for you. Go and write it down. And

jae 17:58

Alright,

Jim 17:59

there's a starting point and we will end this episode there and move on to the next thing. Absolutely. Next time. Alright. Thanks for joining us.