High Capacity – Nervous System Regulation, Stress Management, Burnout Recovery, Somatic Tools, Anxiety, Boundaries, Overwhelm
You've built a full life. The career, the family, the responsibilities, the goals — all of it.
And the fuller it gets, the more stretched thin you feel.
Not because you lack the discipline or drive to figure it out.
But because your nervous system was never upgraded to match the life you've built.
High Capacity is the podcast for ambitious women who are done just managing their stress and are ready to actually expand what they can hold.
Hosted by trial attorney turned nervous system strategist Michelle Grosser, each episode unpacks the nervous system science behind why you feel maxed out, reactive, and depleted — and gives you real tools to expand your capacity across every area of your life.
This isn't just about doing less.
It's about becoming someone whose nervous system can hold more — more joy, more presence, more of the life you've worked hard to build, and more of the demands that come with it — without the low-grade stress that's become your new normal.
Here’s what you’ll learn:
- How to expand your emotional, stress, physical, relational, and joy capacity
- Nervous system-based tools that work in real life, in real time
- How to identify your Capacity Pattern — the specific strategy your nervous system defaults to when you're overwhelmed — and what it means for your stress, your relationships, and your daily life
New episodes every Tuesday and Friday.
Tuesdays bring the nervous system science and tools.
Hi-Cap Fridays give you one practical move to expand your capacity in the week ahead.
Take the free "What's Your Capacity Pattern?" quiz: michellegrosser.com/quiz
High Capacity – Nervous System Regulation, Stress Management, Burnout Recovery, Somatic Tools, Anxiety, Boundaries, Overwhelm
431 - Stop Trying & Start Doing. The Mindset Shift That Changes Everything with Carla Ondrasik
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You know that moment where you keep telling yourself you’re “trying”… and somehow months go by and nothing actually changes?
Today we’re calling out the sneakiest productivity trap of all: the word try.
I’m joined by Carla Ondrasik, author of Stop Trying, who breaks down why “trying” keeps you stuck in your head — and why doing is a totally different energy (and outcome).
In this episode, we’re diving into:
- Trying vs. doing: why trying is mental, doing is physical, and your brain hates vague instructions
- The Tri Test: Carla’s simple experiment that instantly exposes why “try” creates confusion
- The hidden cost of “I’ll try”: how it bakes in failure, kills accountability, and fuels excuses + people-pleasing
- How to build your doer muscle: small, practical shifts (including saying a clean “no”) that create momentum fast
This conversation is for you if you’ve been living with a low-grade “I should’ve done this by now” pressure — and you’re ready to trade it for clarity, follow-through, and a nervous system that isn’t dragging around a thousand open loops.
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Take the free 2-minute quiz and unlock The Capacity Code — a personalized private podcast episode for your specific nervous system.