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431 - Stop Trying & Start Doing. The Mindset Shift That Changes Everything with Carla Ondrasik

Michelle Grosser – Inspired by Mel Robbins, Dr. Andrew Huberman, and Ed Mylett Episode 431

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You know that moment where you keep telling yourself you’re “trying”… and somehow months go by and nothing actually changes?

Today we’re calling out the sneakiest productivity trap of all: the word try.

I’m joined by Carla Ondrasik, author of Stop Trying, who breaks down why “trying” keeps you stuck in your head — and why doing is a totally different energy (and outcome).

In this episode, we’re diving into:

  • Trying vs. doing: why trying is mental, doing is physical, and your brain hates vague instructions
  • The Tri Test: Carla’s simple experiment that instantly exposes why “try” creates confusion
  • The hidden cost of “I’ll try”: how it bakes in failure, kills accountability, and fuels excuses + people-pleasing
  • How to build your doer muscle: small, practical shifts (including saying a clean “no”) that create momentum fast

This conversation is for you if you’ve been living with a low-grade “I should’ve done this by now” pressure — and you’re ready to trade it for clarity, follow-through, and a nervous system that isn’t dragging around a thousand open loops.


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