If you've been trying to figure out how to want sex more and nothing is working — this episode is going to explain why. And it's probably not the answer you've heard before.

A lot of people struggling with low desire or low libido have already done the reading. They understand the concepts. Their body still hasn't gotten the memo. That's not a character flaw. It's the wrong sequence.

In this episode, I cover:

• Why desire and arousal are not the same thing — and why the order they happen in matters more than most people realize
• What responsive desire actually is, what the research says (including Rosemary Basson's work on how desire really works for most women), and why the model in most medical textbooks is wrong
• What your nervous system has to do with low desire — and why this is the piece that's almost always missing from mainstream advice
• How cultural conditioning and shame get wired into the body at a level that thinking simply can't reach
• Where your mind actually does help with desire — and what most people are doing with it instead that's actively working against them

If you've read the books, done the therapy, and you still feel stuck in your head, this one is for you.

Resources mentioned: Episode 5 (core desires and erotic emotions) | Free guide: Get Out of Your Head at laurajurgens.com/guide | Substack: laurajurgens.substack.com

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