If you've ever left a sacred sexuality workshop feeling worse about yourself than when you walked in — or heard a friend blame herself for not being "receptive enough" — this episode is for you.

Sexual polarity teachings are everywhere right now. They promise to unlock your feminine energy, reignite desire, and deepen connection. Sounds great. The reality is different. They're built on a foundation of made-up science, cultural theft, and a paper trail that leads somewhere deeply problematic. They are also actively causing harm. 

In this episode I'm mapping exactly where this ideology came from, who's profiting from it, and what it's actually doing to women's desire, relationships, and sense of self — because I see the damage in my practice every single day.

In this episode:

• Why "sexual polarity" isn't ancient wisdom or real science — and how it borrows language from physics to sound legitimate
• David Deida, Tony Robbins, and Deepak Chopra — the men profiting and what their paper trail actually shows
• The Osho/neo-tantra origins: why the history of this ideology goes back to documented child sexual abuse in cult communes
• Why the OneTaste sentencing matters — and what Nicole Daedone's case tells us about who enforces patriarchal ideology
• What women are actually hungry for that polarity coaching hijacks and exploits
• The difference between genuine erotic power play and a grooming script dressed as spirituality
• How to recognize a genuinely qualified practitioner — and what red flags look like in these spaces

This is part one of a two-part series. Next episode I'm joined by journalist and cult researcher Anke Richter, author of Cult Trip, for a conversation on sex cults, ISTA, and the darker end of this spectrum.

Resources mentioned:

• Full article with sources and resources: https://open.substack.com/pub/laurajurgens/p/have-you-been-sold-the-patriarchys?utm_campaign=post-expanded-share&utm_medium=web
• Barbara Carrellas' Urban Tantra: barbaracarrellas.com
• Midori on consent-forward BDSM: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLaxv6fBRPDep5NIrLfjEUNzmPtY4Ax5CN

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