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Navigating Life's Storms: Reflections on Change, Fatherhood, and the Threads of Our Past

March 13, 2024 Jack & Chance Season 1 Episode 5
Navigating Life's Storms: Reflections on Change, Fatherhood, and the Threads of Our Past
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Navigating Life's Storms: Reflections on Change, Fatherhood, and the Threads of Our Past
Mar 13, 2024 Season 1 Episode 5
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Navigating the tumultuous waves of life's changes can feel like steering a ship through a storm, but it's the shared laughter and lessons that keep us afloat. Join me, Jack, and my good friend Chance, as we mark the fifth episode of our podcast series with candid reflections on everything from Jack’s recovery and moving to the Georgian countryside, to the culture shock of soaring rents. We're swapping stories from the days of DVD hustles to the quirks of rural living—complete with a month-long wait for internet—drawing on the humor and nostalgia that bond us.

Ever notice how the smallest moments can reveal the biggest truths about ourselves? It's amid the uproar of fatherhood, where  Jack dad to five, unpack the complexities of parenthood, contrasted with tales from my military life and street-smart survival. We're getting real about the challenges and triumphs, sharing wisdom on everything from old-school hygiene to the unwritten rules of street etiquette. Chance and Jack explore these narrative threads with a mix of heartfelt insights and laughter, underlining the values that sculpt our lives.

Remember the days when your school attire could make or break your social life? Those awkward years are back in the spotlight as we recall the pressure to conform to dress codes and the youthful bravado that often landed us in trouble. From fashion faux pas to childhood punishments, these are the stories that shape us, and we're just getting started. With a promise to dive deeper into a pivotal childhood memory involving my sister in our next session, this episode is a tapestry of the past, weaving together the experiences that have made us who we are today. Pull up a chair and join us for a journey through laughter, life lessons, and the camaraderie that makes it all worthwhile.


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Navigating the tumultuous waves of life's changes can feel like steering a ship through a storm, but it's the shared laughter and lessons that keep us afloat. Join me, Jack, and my good friend Chance, as we mark the fifth episode of our podcast series with candid reflections on everything from Jack’s recovery and moving to the Georgian countryside, to the culture shock of soaring rents. We're swapping stories from the days of DVD hustles to the quirks of rural living—complete with a month-long wait for internet—drawing on the humor and nostalgia that bond us.

Ever notice how the smallest moments can reveal the biggest truths about ourselves? It's amid the uproar of fatherhood, where  Jack dad to five, unpack the complexities of parenthood, contrasted with tales from my military life and street-smart survival. We're getting real about the challenges and triumphs, sharing wisdom on everything from old-school hygiene to the unwritten rules of street etiquette. Chance and Jack explore these narrative threads with a mix of heartfelt insights and laughter, underlining the values that sculpt our lives.

Remember the days when your school attire could make or break your social life? Those awkward years are back in the spotlight as we recall the pressure to conform to dress codes and the youthful bravado that often landed us in trouble. From fashion faux pas to childhood punishments, these are the stories that shape us, and we're just getting started. With a promise to dive deeper into a pivotal childhood memory involving my sister in our next session, this episode is a tapestry of the past, weaving together the experiences that have made us who we are today. Pull up a chair and join us for a journey through laughter, life lessons, and the camaraderie that makes it all worthwhile.


Speaker 1:

Sit down and watch a separate step. And now welcome to Four Steps. Only, I'm Jack, he's Chance Yo, and we packed with another one, with another installment. Man, hey, I know y'all been waiting. Man, it's been a little minute. Hey, chance, it's been a little it's been a week man.

Speaker 2:

It's been a week. We've been a little minute man. We're trying to go week to week.

Speaker 1:

Drop something on y'all so y'all get to do the work week. Hey, this is the marathon.

Speaker 2:

We five episodes in man, yeah we five, five episodes, man, that's, that's, that's a big milestone. Yeah, yeah. In fact, I ain't think we were Gonna, you know, get here like that.

Speaker 1:

But we here.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, we here, man, we doing our thing.

Speaker 1:

So Chance. How was your week, man man?

Speaker 2:

Man a week was straight man, you know went to the plantation Handle business.

Speaker 1:

You do that, don't change Shit. I did my first set session of PT the other day, so that's a big movement for me. Yeah.

Speaker 2:

But boy just had surgery, man he going through it.

Speaker 1:

What.

Speaker 2:

And you moved into the new spot. Man Got the best of the crib man.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, got the Shoot. It's nice man, I can't even lie.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, no, it's clean, it's clean.

Speaker 1:

It's a wonderful thing when you start realizing how much changes just by certain instances that change in life.

Speaker 2:

For sure.

Speaker 1:

Things that we can't control because, hey, like we say, the life be life it does probably. But some things happen for a reason.

Speaker 2:

God has his own plans for it For sure, we just hit man going through the motions.

Speaker 1:

Right.

Speaker 2:

But it's always good when you come out on top, though, for sure, because looking for a crib in Georgia.

Speaker 1:

But what Boy? They told me four times the rent.

Speaker 2:

But I wanted to cry.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, no.

Speaker 2:

That stuff is goofy. And then a knot being a hood Jack in the country man. Yeah, I had in the country.

Speaker 1:

Hey, look here, just because I might see some trooper car bros and some goats and stuff, some cows, you see an all type of shit out here, bro.

Speaker 2:

I don't know how you do it, man. I can't do the country for one man. He get too dark out here, man.

Speaker 1:

Oh no, we got three lights.

Speaker 2:

No, you don't.

Speaker 1:

Bro, yes, I do, we got the night. Look, we ain't got them. City street lights, we got them nice street lights, them, community street lights, them black poles. And the bad worst part about out here, they were telling me it's going to be a month for me to have internet.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, this is the nays man. You need Wi-Fi, bro. I don't know how you going to do it for that month, but but what you mean?

Speaker 1:

DVDs, Look hey.

Speaker 2:

That DVD era man. See the thing, bro, you came up in that DVD era man Go ahead.

Speaker 2:

I never had the opportunity to get the shelves movies, seasons of shows, all that shit on streaming service. That shit had to click on the button. But at the same time that's like to me growing up that was dope Seeing everybody different collections from my momma shit, my brother shit. Different family members had their own little collection. You know what I'm saying. But when I came in, when I came up, man, I ain't got no damn DVD. Nobody even got a DVD player in the mall.

Speaker 1:

Man who you know what my DVD players are? My PlayStation, yeah. My Xboxes, yeah, my God don't. Who that? Hey, the DVD collection comes in clutch. I mean clutch.

Speaker 2:

Right now, hey, who you telling.

Speaker 1:

Hey man, when they pull out that door on DVD with the writing on it the bootleg, but what's your?

Speaker 2:

problem. Let's, let's. Where is the bootleg man at now? What?

Speaker 1:

Shoot everybody in the bootleg's having it.

Speaker 2:

You gotta be selling dope man. That was, that was an era. When you come into the barbershop, you get a fresh fade. You get a fresh fade, a bootleg man, come in with new drops.

Speaker 1:

See. But the thing is, bro, you gotta understand, during that era I'm not going to tell you too much, because back in the day I used to sell DVDs hey, I ain't even gonna hold you, man, because it used to we used to go take trips to Atlanta, to the West End, and when I talk about the West 10, we're talking about the West End. If you don't know how to keep your head on the swivel and don't know that you need to fill up your gas tank before you get there, we got certain things that going on.

Speaker 2:

One of those areas where, if you don't know nobody over there, you don't go. You don't go over there. You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 1:

That's like shoot man. Hey man, I tell you the funniest story.

Speaker 1:

But um hey, since I've changed my life around this is a story that a lot of people don't know Back when I was a little bit younger this is this will tell y'all me versus me I used to sell purses. I used to go down to old national by purses and take them back to where I lived and sold purses Like Louis Vuitton that y'all be rocking. Those got no, um, just different things, but I remember going up there one day spending $800. Yeah, I'm not going to tell y'all which individuals that y'all have to deal with when y'all go there, but this is what I say.

Speaker 1:

Man I can't stand them. They try to fast talk you. They try to got to on swindle you, they try to get over on you. But you got to understand the lingo in the situation. But you also got to understand to keep your head on the swivel because the same way you over there buying stuff, there's Jack boys out there to watch you. Also them jokeers will watch you, take stuff to your car and will follow you to rob you.

Speaker 2:

For sure.

Speaker 1:

Um, so I went up there and spent like $800. You don't go there with no nice car, you go there with a book, like a on the blend in with right right, A little hound, a little hondo.

Speaker 2:

Yeah.

Speaker 1:

Um, because when my partners went up there one time, bro, he was taking stuff back to his car, boom, boom, boom, buying it, taking back to his car the most messed up part about it. They called a skid truck to come get his car and took the whole car. Remind you, he had an old school sitting on some 24s and they took the whole entire car.

Speaker 2:

Well, they got a tow truck to take your shit. Yes, man, the Jack boys done got a tow truck to take your whole whip. You come out the mall, your shit gone. Yes, and you want to other side of town.

Speaker 1:

Well, you're in the wrong side of town, but that but that's. That shows you how you got to move, because a lot of people come to the city. We can well, let me let it form y'all. We call the city Atlanta brown from. We just say amen, I'm going to the city. Um, because when you're up there you got to watch out for the water boys. If you downtown Atlanta, you got to watch out for them. Little young kids riding on around on school, because them little young jokers at 10 o'clock at night riding around on them got on them. Little birds the birds cool. Oh, they'll get you. If you don't have your head on the swivel. If you don't, you ain't packing.

Speaker 2:

Oh, they're going to get you this. This is uh, this is not the gentrified Atlanta that we know today.

Speaker 1:

Oh no, gentrified Atlanta will still get you, I don't care how gentrified it will. You take your butt over to the West end, or MLK?

Speaker 2:

Well, any MLK, come on man, any MLK you're going to get got. But but I'm just saying, like old Atlanta versus Atlanta, now no, it ain't. It's definitely gentrified Like, for you was down there playing, you was down there going to get stuff, like Jody. Yeah pretty much you was. You was baby boy, but you got to understand, but you understand what that's.

Speaker 1:

What by any means necessary? I mean, I've been paying child support for God knows how many years, but you got to understand when child support is broken down. You got 100% of your paycheck. Each case is able to take 27% up to 27% Right. So if they hit you the first time, you getting hit 100% of that 27%. So that means you down to 73%, right. So if you get another case put on you, what do you think they're going to gauge it off of? I don't know what to say. 73 you have 73% of your paycheck left man, what's 100 minus 27?

Speaker 1:

Bro 27, 73 am I not doing?

Speaker 2:

a memory yes, I am 27 minus 27 is 73.

Speaker 1:

Well, hey, if y'all don't know, chance of poor out is calculated.

Speaker 2:

Trying to check my math I already told y'all a little bad at math.

Speaker 1:

Bro, my math is on point. Right, my math is on point. My math, be mathin homie. Hey, remember triple being dreams. Remember that we don't listen to GZ for no reason, are you right? You're right so boom so so this is this is what you got to understand about child support.

Speaker 2:

Yeah.

Speaker 1:

So now you got 73% right.

Speaker 2:

Yeah.

Speaker 1:

You get another case thrown on you. What do you think they gonna hit you with?

Speaker 2:

Same. Thing.

Speaker 1:

Another 27%. What do you have left?

Speaker 2:

I told y'all about that 43%, 46%.

Speaker 1:

I'm sorry.

Speaker 2:

But you got like four kids bro.

Speaker 1:

Bro, I got five.

Speaker 2:

Now you got okay. I got back, back when you was on your baby boy shit, you was on your Jody shit. You had how many?

Speaker 1:

two or three, I mean it's like it's the marathon, bro, it's the marathon I mean you got to think about it how many you had. Two.

Speaker 2:

Two.

Speaker 1:

Okay. Then it got worse when I had. So, if y'all don't know, I got five kids. If y'all don't know, I'm a two of my oldest two boys. I'm a full-time dad. My oldest two boys live with me, 17 and 15. Then I have a daughter that's 10. Then I have Kennedy, which is four, and I have dude, which is four also. Yeah, I had those same year babies, so I was out. You, I'm dropping dick off.

Speaker 2:

I'm dropping dick off.

Speaker 1:

I do not condone. Yes, I was living reckless, I made some bad decisions when I was younger.

Speaker 2:

But you was on. You know what I mean. You were on your survival mode shit. Yeah, I was surviving, and like when we was talking about on the last episode, man is what you got to do?

Speaker 1:

to survive.

Speaker 2:

To survive and then like that's that's a story of your upbringing. You know what I mean.

Speaker 1:

Like but you got to understand. Even even when I was in survival mode, man, my biggest concern was taking care of my kid.

Speaker 2:

No, that's always a concern as a parent, for sure.

Speaker 1:

Because I mean you got other Jody's out here that don't take care of their responsibilities and go this way and that way. In the third, like mine, shoot man. Hey, they gonna know daddy, if daddy don't can't do it, daddy gonna find a way. If I got to work overtime now, it is what it is.

Speaker 2:

If you going to the Weston. I ain't never been over that, bro. I don't think I'm ever gonna have to go over that. I'm good over that Because I don't know, like I said, I'm from where I'm from. You don't know. Nobody over there. Don't go over that.

Speaker 1:

Bro, when I was going over that bro, if y'all didn't know, I'm also a military veteran, so when I was going to Augusta, there's a certain area that we used to hang out in, but the military would tell us we're not allowed to hang in those areas. It's called the bottom, so you had to earn your stripes down in the bottom, like where you would see dudes walking around with AK shotguns, stuff like that in the bottom. That's what a lot of people don't know about the bottom. You will get killed down in Atlanta. Females will jack you down in Atlanta.

Speaker 2:

Oh, speaking of that Bro.

Speaker 1:

I had a homeboy that I went to Atlanta with. He thought he was being asleep just at the third man with some girl Shoot on. I think it was something.

Speaker 2:

Bad page.

Speaker 1:

Nah, bro, I don't think it was a bad page. I think we were going to Harlem nights, harlem nights, and next thing you know, he said he was going to the hotel, whatever it was. You know what to do. And next thing, I know he called me from a pay phone. Bro, the dude is. You got Rob. The females are robbing Her and two of her home girls robbed him and stripped him down to his drawers.

Speaker 2:

That is crazy, bro, but I mean that's crazy, but that shit will happen to you, bro.

Speaker 1:

But I mean, how do you, how do you not slip in your pimping? I mean, you got to keep your head on the swivel, but that got, so goes back to trust out here.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, he had that box on his mind. What do you think?

Speaker 1:

I'm sorry, bro, it's more the life than just trying to get some box, because in my mind, yes, some people, that's all they're motivated by, that's all they move for. But sometimes you gotta take the time and slow up, because I ain't gonna hold you, bro, if you trying to give me shit too fast you gonna be suspicious, Bro.

Speaker 2:

I'm scared.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, something up, I'm scared. What you trying to give me? What you trying to give me, you either trying to get me raw, or you trying to give me the pack, or you trying to give me the ABCs.

Speaker 2:

What's the pack?

Speaker 1:

The Itch you Got you that Willie Long Long who that drip drip, I'm burning Mama. That's what. That's what, bro, what? That's tough man, that flame thrower. No, I'm good that bump in the blood.

Speaker 2:

I'm good off a hot box.

Speaker 1:

Bro, but that's what I'm saying. Like, I remember when I was growing up one of my he wasn't my blood uncle, but we used to call him but he talking about some black shit, y'all getting up there in age but just got them dip your finger in your ear and got them put that thing down. Now I said what's that doing? But, if she got them, that mean she burning Whoa. Wait a minute what?

Speaker 2:

you mean.

Speaker 1:

Like she got that thing. I was like man that can't be true, and the other thing he is like.

Speaker 2:

Hey, hold on, man. Oh, you gotta, you gotta, you gotta, you gotta check the facts when you talking to old niggas, man, cause they be seeing some shit like bro, what, hey, bro, but but but a lot of the things that I did learn from older cats.

Speaker 1:

It was fact, it's factual Because I mean you think about it if they covering up with too much perfume what that mean.

Speaker 2:

Hey, listen man, if a big guy, if a big guy, bad hygiene, you can't cover that up with no, no, bath and body works, Nah, if, if that box stank.

Speaker 1:

Bro, you know, when your box stank, it's gonna stank, bro, cause I ain't I ain't gonna hold you Period.

Speaker 2:

If you stank man Bro, let me tell you something.

Speaker 1:

Let me tell you something. This is a funny I used to. I used to work in a plant, also, bro. The plant used to get to like during the summertime. It used to get to 120, 130 degrees. Bro, when I man, who man? If I ain't use, secret the odor in between my thighs, bro, bro, I'm walking out of that mug like I'm in an old Western.

Speaker 2:

One, one one. You was at the plantation for real, bro.

Speaker 1:

Bro, bro, cause I used to work in a plastic plant. Oh, plantation, like, bro, like like this, go on my phone. That came from. That came from plastic. They used to come out at 300 or something degrees, bro, shit, and you up there drilling holes, catching it on your hand, it, popping you on the neck. But I mean they were paying decent. But I came out of there one day, bro, I sat down, bro, that heat might have swooped my face, bro, I said, oh my God. I said my nuts smell horrible. I'm small, bro, you know when your balls smell bad, like straight up, Nah you know, when you stank man, you can feel it.

Speaker 2:

Bro, what you talking about bro.

Speaker 1:

I remember times when, like, hey, I don't know how many of y'all did have done this and don't laugh at me. You know you musty, but you go to the bathroom and take the soap, dismiss the soap and rub it under your arms and try to wash yourself up.

Speaker 2:

Nah, that's just your shit. You took a whole bath at work. Now what no?

Speaker 1:

man, bro, bro, what To do, what you gotta do so nobody don't smell you Bro. Yes, I will go take a whole bath.

Speaker 2:

Amen, fuck it, man. You gotta do what you gotta do, bro. But you gotta do what you gotta do, man. That's crazy.

Speaker 1:

But that's one of the tactics, because you gotta think about it. I don't want nobody talking about me to my late.

Speaker 2:

Boy, you should think about it. Right right, niggas stank man. You know how to nigga jack. Niggas stank your fuck man what?

Speaker 1:

Because I know a couple man. I know some dudes I don't work with before. Bro, when they walk past you it's like boom, they hit you with a whole boom.

Speaker 2:

And that's my thing, man. Listen, I got some weight on me, man. I ain't no skinny dude, big dudes. If you are listening, please do your best not to be stank. I'm not one of them dudes. But I'll never forget I was in the sixth grade, bro. I say this shit all the time. It's why I take pride in my hygiene, especially when I have a female over a company period, because of this one incident in my life, I mean in sixth grade, this girl that I like had a crush on. We had lunch. I'm sitting close to them but not with them. I can hear that conversation and this girl just goes that up tucks. I hate when a nigga stank, but fat niggas always stank. I'm like damn, that's disrespectful.

Speaker 2:

That's disrespectful but at the same time you show. I'm never stank.

Speaker 1:

But that's like I try to tell my kids man Bro, don't be that kid, you will never live a damn.

Speaker 2:

You will go to your high school graduation. Stank stank man, you will go to your 20th year reunion.

Speaker 1:

You will never be stank. Stank, Ain't you the little boy used to stank?

Speaker 2:

in the classroom. Yeah, then you ought to be stank as hell back in the day. Man, what Hell no. Boy you the came up a long way from there. Huh, fuck that, that shit was not going down for me, bro. That shit, let me tell y'all a funny.

Speaker 1:

Let me tell you a funny thing. Let me tell y'all a funny story, though. I remember I was in the eighth grade and my momma, my momma, my momma went and bought me some Wranglers Right Jeans. Yes, bro, some Wrangler jeans, or was it from Route 66? I can't remember.

Speaker 2:

When was you in the eighth grade?

Speaker 1:

You remember the year man?

Speaker 2:

90s.

Speaker 1:

Late 90s.

Speaker 2:

Late 90s. Okay, yeah, and I was in April 18, out of the year 2011. Yeah, in the Schwaggster.

Speaker 1:

But the crazy part about it is bro. So they were all black jeans, they were. Every last pair of them were black. People want me like four pairs of black, same brand, same design, the whole thing. Jeans, bro. Them kids picking me so bad, tell my son, but you in the same jeans every day of the week? Nah, man, I got the same pair, bro. Man, I'd never live that down for like two years bro.

Speaker 2:

So I can sympathize with you on that, because I had to do that. When I tell you had me in the tenth grade, this is back when I was living in Miami, right? So I'm going to high school in Miami. The dress code there at my high school, south Racine High, I'm thinking you know it's not like Georgia where you can wear what you want. Right, you know they still got dress codes. You gotta be appropriate, but wear what you want.

Speaker 1:

Well, I got a story for you. I'm sorry to cut you off. I got a story for you about dress codes Go ahead.

Speaker 2:

So there you got. You have to wear a polo polo is polo shirt khaki. You can wear jeans. You can wear black, like you had to wear the school color, but the only other color was khaki. So the polos had to be red, gray, white or black. So that year, you know, school about to start, you go school shopping. My mom bought me some Isaac polos white, gray, black, red, right Kids at the school that I was, you know, I was on school with in my class, really really all grades man, they was wearing goddamn polo, they was fresh with it.

Speaker 2:

You know what I'm saying my dudes, they had a bread like that.

Speaker 1:

But hey, bruh, I saw a dope, dope bruh.

Speaker 2:

I thought I was straight. I thought it was straight, it was little eyes are in you know. My whole thing was I'm going to try to coordinate, you know, because I'm just leaving. I got back to Miami. I moved back down there when I was in the ninth grade. So for two years, the last two years of being in middle school I was in Maine man.

Speaker 1:

To me that was crucial.

Speaker 2:

My mom wanted to start a better breakfast. Man Shout out to mom man, she wanted to be an entrepreneur, but she had me living in Maine. Now, maine is nothing but white people right?

Speaker 1:

So my drip was not Was based off that.

Speaker 2:

It wasn't based off that, but I wasn't where I was supposed to be.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, you feel me.

Speaker 2:

Me as long as I got a Nike check on me. I'm swear, that's what I'm talking about, because what they wearing? They wearing American Eagle Air Apostles.

Speaker 1:

That's a Travis Porter years, wasn't it?

Speaker 2:

Yeah, it was a swag era, but up there there wasn't no swag era.

Speaker 1:

That's the white boy swag.

Speaker 2:

So I come down there with looking crazy man. I was looking crazy, bro, I can tell you right now I was, but what I slapped myself. For real, I was looking crazy. So now, 10th grade man, I'm trying to get into my drip era. Let me get the eyes on. Let me just coordinate, because I can't get the polo. You know what I mean? First semester tell me why this shit shrunk, bro, when they washed. I thought nobody would notice, bro, until I was in fucking art class and this nigga seen her like hey, james, why your shirt so tight? Tight ass shirt when they getting on me right.

Speaker 2:

But it's like man, I don't know, like just getting on me, find me a whole day, everybody was getting on me. You want to try that fuck boy? What the fuck Boy? You a tripp boy. You a tripp boy. What you shout out?

Speaker 2:

Man, I went home. What can I do? Hey, ma, I need to get some more shirts. This is the first semester. Anybody you know more shirts. You got those shirts going in, right? Hey, I know, I just bought you this. So now I'm like, fuck, what am I going to do? I'm like, cool, I might, I might have to just run back nice gray shirts. But for some reason, bro, like I don't know man it was, I know some people like, man, you just gained weight. Nah, man, them shit shrunk like a motherfucker, right. So I said, okay, I got these sweatshirts. We in Miami dog is hot and I got to walk the school. I'm going to have to run back these sweatshirts. It's either get roasted all the time for being the big dude who always wears some tight shit, or then I think it's just always wearing that sweatshirt.

Speaker 1:

You ready for this one?

Speaker 2:

I just had to. I just had to, bro. I wore the same sweatshirt, the same two couple sweatshirts, because I had the rock school colors. It was either black or gray. I had to do that for a whole year, bro. I said I'd rather be known for that than the tight. It's kind of like them. Either way, I'm getting it. You feel me? I could come back from wearing a sweatshirt, Ain't no coming back from being the nigga that all his shirts and shit tight.

Speaker 1:

Bro, I got one for you, ready for this. So I went to the middle school. They had a dress code but it was laxed. But the crazy part about it is my mama and her mind is like it's easier for you to wear the dress code than me going out and buying you clothes Okay, whatever. But I had like after school clothes or weekend clothes and stuff like that.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, you got your outside clothes.

Speaker 1:

Right, right, right, bro, tell me why. I was like man, I'm tired of what I don't wear in these dress codes. Man, I'm a fuck. So I had put on the uniform, but in my book bag I had put my weekend or outside clothes in the book bag. So I was going to go over my cousin's house. They live right around the corner. I went over there, changed clothes. I'm thinking I'm in the clear, I'm about to be fresh. I don't kill with nobody, so I'm gonna be clean today. So I was, cuz I'm riding a bus, for I get the guy doing school. I'm off the bus, first period homeroom. I'm in that more chilling I'm like everybody's.

Speaker 1:

Nah man shoot man.

Speaker 2:

Not. What was the uniform like?

Speaker 1:

like like a bright yellow shirt, black shirt and some khakis.

Speaker 2:

Oh, okay, I and.

Speaker 1:

I had on the Reebok classics I had soldiers on. Yeah, Bro Tim, my mom a part of the school to bring me something.

Speaker 2:

No fucking way, you was kid. I know you was kid.

Speaker 1:

Wow, was shaking.

Speaker 2:

You thought she from the beach or I said it's cool, but she took me in that bathroom warm.

Speaker 1:

Walk me out, bro. What wore me out then? Took me home? No, she took me to Walmart and Got me the most boogie oogie clothes that you could possibly well. And I was like I'm so embarrassed, it's over with, bro, I'm so much she ain't me out the classroom. It's sixth grade man, I'm small. Everybody in there like they just now getting to know I mean, we only been there like two, three, four, five months.

Speaker 1:

Yeah and next I know this is what my mama got going on. Man, do you think to this day, ajj, you remember? You remember your mama getting you out of class cuz you wore the wrong?

Speaker 2:

Hey, man that's that bullshit. Oh God, if I go back, bro, if I go back to my, screw you and a nigga tell me man, hey, man, cuz it was. I had two organ University of Oregon jackets. Yeah, one was gray, One was black, one had a big O on it, right, right. So I'm like I Could, I could finesse this one cuz my first, my first name, start with O, but the other one, what's the first thing? We ain't, come on, man, you are. Other one had organ dust on it and it was fresh, but, nigga, I was wearing them shits, cuz I'm not you, not, finna, get me bro right, you're not finna.

Speaker 2:

Get me like that, Bro. I'm finna, do that bro.

Speaker 1:

I remember somebody was um Clown and one dude that went to school with us. Hey, mama popped up there cuz the teacher had called them. They were picking on him because I'm some bro. Remember your mama pulled out that branch to whoop your brother at the school.

Speaker 1:

Bro, I said I know, I know I'm a type bro, I'll tell you his mama pulled out a branch leave still on it Like she ain't pull it out of purse. She literally walked by a tree, snapped it because we were out in the trailers snapped it off the tree and just started wearing them out.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, man, that's. That's Trump time. I, dad, has always been a fear of mine man to get my ass with this school. Oh my god, man, I already had my first name is crazy. I ain't gonna say it, but it's crazy. So I already had that in the negative for me. They already clowning off that.

Speaker 1:

Oh, you think that's bad. Sure, they use a pic on me because I'm short.

Speaker 2:

It ain't the same bro. Oh, it's not the same. I had to snap on the dude when I was in 11th grade Because you know, when you first first meet new teachers, they want to do they love. I want to say roll call, but attendance. Yeah everybody say here present. Whatever, bro, I've known you for two years now.

Speaker 2:

Why you gonna do me like that when oh Is so-and-so, here I'm like here, what the fuck? What's your name? But, but it's great, bro, you know me. Oh, you know me bro. What are you talking about? You know me, bro, I've known. I've had each and every English class I've had with you, nigga, two years bro. Stop playing me, man, hey man, you think that's bad. I'm gonna tell you a friend, you have nothing to talk about chance.

Speaker 1:

Oh, you want bet, check this out. So if, if y'all know me, my mouth is uncontrollable sometimes and I remember it was like early in the morning. So if y'all, if y'all know me, know me, y'all know I'm short, I'm like five, six, five, five. People clown me all the time. Tell me some for you. Five foot, don't even lie like that, read my license. But anyway, I remember this dude that was on a basketball team walked up to me and it's like early morning, we up in, we up in the middle of, like the middle of the common area, like this, where everybody walked through. We were in high school. So you tell you, trying like I think we were in the 11th or 12th grade. It's tall dude, I think. He about six foot, walks up to me, to my son, your name, jj, and say why. What's up depends on who's asking. He told me something, man, I heard you been going around, tom, awesome. Um, my girl gave you head.

Speaker 2:

Niggas, that be you off a rumor.

Speaker 1:

Yes, bro. So my, my, my dumb, ignorant ass says Well, she must not have been good at it, because I don't remember she didn't, she didn't do it.

Speaker 2:

But I said to say that shit right.

Speaker 1:

So next thing, I know that. So I told him. I said tell her, tell her I need a refresher, because if you come to me stepping me asking, shoot, I don't even know your girl here, bro, but since you brought it up, since you brought it up, Let me get a refresher, bro. I'm ignorant, ignorant, so so. So the crazy part about it did this dude towering over me. You got all his homeboys behind him laughing at him.

Speaker 1:

So but he didn't what he do. He's a waterway. He turned red in the face and walked away. I.

Speaker 2:

No man, I still.

Speaker 1:

My mind is like, bro, if you, if you so, if you so self-conscious about this, let me howl at him. I Was ignorant, but at that point in time, my life shoot, I wouldn't.

Speaker 2:

I wouldn't worry about nothing, cuz I was moved, I was school like you worry about that shit, bro, you just try man.

Speaker 1:

Brush you back then that's like. I am so glad and so blessed that my kids are nothing like me when I was Like so bad.

Speaker 2:

I wouldn't. I wasn't bad in school.

Speaker 1:

I was a miscreant.

Speaker 2:

I wouldn't a menace in school in it, man. I was just trying to keep my my head as low as possible. Cuz Niggles clowning, I ain't want to be bro I'm telling you, I ain't gonna be the topic of man.

Speaker 1:

I'm bro, she, we was sitting in home. Ech the teacher walks in talking some look class, I got, I got, I'm about to get married. She's showing off her wedding ring. My retarded butt gonna say you let him eat, you didn't you?

Speaker 2:

Man, you was wild.

Speaker 1:

But I mean I'm gonna get get out my class. You know doing where you let that man be after he got done, gave you that ring. So my, you and your grandma's house in the attic you let him hit it right there on top of the old newspapers.

Speaker 2:

Shoot I? I never I was too scared of my parents, but I'll be real with you. To be sick, you can't kick that a class mother. I think I got kicked out of class twice, but on those account it wasn't just me getting kicked out. What one time. This was sixth grade. My teacher came back from Vacation or whatever she did, came back and was I having announcement? I'm having a baby, right. She did like a little pregnancy announcement with us.

Speaker 1:

Oh, bro, he hold up, hold up, hold up pause. Did you see that article of the day where they were giving that little girl in school a baby shower in four period?

Speaker 2:

bro Hold on.

Speaker 1:

Y'all allowing kids to get baby showers in school.

Speaker 2:

Y'all condoning this she was in high school, yes, and she pregnant, yes, and I understand that I were at school.

Speaker 1:

Yes, bro, yes yes.

Speaker 2:

No, I went to school with some pregnant girls.

Speaker 1:

man, I Mean, I did too, but it was but for you to, for you to Act like that's okay, that's the norm.

Speaker 2:

That is not the norm. No, they should have. That's that, that's that, that's them.

Speaker 1:

That's they this that new generation, but that's that. That's that after.

Speaker 2:

Oh, yeah, right right after that's them oh five, oh six, oh seven. I Remember when I first I'm telling you, bro, man was different, that was a different society. To just go to Miami, bro, my first day of freshman year, humbled me Naked, was scared. Already I'm the new thing in town. I'm Marty dressing crazy, I'm talking. Crazy cuz Coming from me. Man, I'm talking bro yeah, what's up dude?

Speaker 2:

What's going on? Bro talking crazy. I get to the school man nigga was just shut bro, I don't know what the fuck I'm going. I got my schedule. I asked this nigga that look cool. Okay, he looked cool to approach hey man, where's this room? He like, oh, brah, got you. Yeah, you gonna go up in the staircase. He was like he looked at my schedule, my paper, like oh no, you were fresh on it. I'm like, yeah, nigga took my schedule, crumbled that big dude in the trash and walked off on me.

Speaker 1:

I See, they weren't on that type of time bro, they was on that type of time.

Speaker 2:

I'm telling you, bro, they was on, they was on some shit. Oh, I didn't even play football that year because when I went To go try out or figure out when tryouts was or whatever the fuck, I'll walk into the locker room and see this. This is how fucked up I cousin. I had two cousins that went to school with me, both females. One was in the grade with me, the other one was in 11 grade that year. She's supposed to show me what to do, but Hello, fast ass, seen the niggas and just left me stranded right with the talking somebody else. I'm like a where I'm supposed to go. She's like over there, just like by.

Speaker 2:

You know, I'm saying I shoot you away Like shoot me away so I walk into the locker room. It's the locker room. It's Miami, bro. You know, Florida breed nothing but football players, right?

Speaker 1:

So we in the ninth grade I'm looking- at you, hold up, wait a minute, hold up, wait a minute, hold up. You said what now? Florida breed football.

Speaker 2:

You sure about that? We not gonna have this hey hey, hey. Florida is one of the Top, I'll say the number one state football player you tripping huh.

Speaker 1:

So you tripping bro?

Speaker 2:

Hey, don't look, look you pro football players right now might be right from Miami alone.

Speaker 2:

Okay what you say you give me, you give me sidetracked.

Speaker 2:

We're gonna put a pin in that. Let me finish what I'm saying. I Walk into this locker room, man, when I tell you that was Some scary shit at that time it was nothing but pure niggatry. Tell you, bro, niggas, big ass, brawler gas football, dreaded ass niggas. And they looking at me, like me, who the fuck is this dude? I'm short like you, so Ah man, I ain't man, I was just looking crazy.

Speaker 2:

One dude stepped to me I'm a weather coach at. He like oh, they in their room, mind you. They having a meeting. You tell me that. Or they right in the walking up the school mascot on the ground for some reason. Hey, bro, don't, don't walk on the, don't walk on the mascot. Nigga, what wrong with you, man, I'm about to stick in, bro. That's what I'm hearing. I'm like, oh, my bad, my bad. All them niggas went to yelling brother. Fuck, wrong with you, boy. I'm like all my bad, my bad. I walk in the room. All the coaches that this goes over. The fuck are you doing? I Said, hey, I just wanted to talk to the coach. He like oh, you want to talk to the coach? Is the head coach at the time he go a step on the other side of that dough. I step on the other side of door that nigga say close it. Damn. Tell me, bro, that's what I was going through, man.

Speaker 1:

But they do do some goofy stuff like that now that should really go over the shadow.

Speaker 2:

Nigga sugar ain't gonna learn. Hey, it does it shakes you Shit at me, not want to go to school. What if I drop out right now? What could, what can I get?

Speaker 1:

man, I'm telling you hey, but you know what's crazy and I line of work now we looking like stuff like that. It happens to us every day.

Speaker 2:

No, that's that like when we were talking about Our upbringing and all that stuff. I I was thinking like man, I had to go through that because if I had spent those cuz to me, those are vital years, vital years right as a boy period. Black man, you know I'm saying if I had to spend those years up in man.

Speaker 1:

I'll be. I won't say I'll. You're being soft, soph, what? Hey, because, because. I look at him like this. Bro, if I wasn't pressed like, I'll tell you the this one little ass story. My sister, I Love my sister to death right, because if it wasn't for her, I wouldn't be the person I also am today. I remember, in her neighborhood, these boys while they're the playground and I didn't understand it. I went out there trying to play with them, bro, they swung on me, but guess what? That's a story for another time.

Speaker 2:

Haha, y'all gotta tune in next week. Man Got you. Hey look though man Little story time soon. In next week we out.

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