For Steppers Only: Raw, Uncut, and Unedited
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For Steppers Only: Raw, Uncut, and Unedited
50-50 is DeLULU ASF
What does it really mean to bring something to the table in a relationship? We challenge the conventional 50-50 partnership by diving into how true partnerships are about sharing more than just financial responsibilities. Through thoughtful discussions, we redefine the roles within relationships, emphasizing the importance of alleviating stress and supporting each other's personal and professional ambitions. It's about understanding and managing expectations and recognizing that the essence of a supportive partner goes beyond monetary contributions. Let's explore how collaboration can help achieve dreams and maintain a balanced life, shedding light on the often unrealistic expectations that can cloud our understanding of what partnership truly means.
This episode also journeys into the diverse paths people walk, often driven by necessity rather than choice. We candidly talk about the societal judgments that overshadow the real reasons behind these decisions, advocating for empathy and understanding. In an era where social media often showcases only the highlights, we discuss the importance of acknowledging both successes and failures to get a true sense of support and resilience. Join us as we reflect on the complex nature of life's wins and losses and how they shape our journeys, urging a balanced perspective on what it means to succeed and the sacrifices that come with it.
Your call has been forwarded to an automatic voice message system At the tone. Please record your message. When you have finished recording, you may hang up or press 1 for more options. You got to be on the front line. See, when I get you by myself, i'ma look into your soul and I'ma see what it is that you is, i'ma see what you is, and once I see what you is, i'ma turn you into something you ain't never been before man, that's a real stepper only. Shit. There I tell you, hey, welcome to four steppers only. Well, we gotta tell you.
Speaker 1:So you make sure it sticks in your head to sit down and watch a stepper step. That means sit back and watch real men step or watch a real woman step, because once we put this shit into your earlobe and make it infectious, you will never know what the hell hit you. But hey, I'm your host with the most, your hopeful host with the gift, the cab, the motherfucker that talk shit, whether it's in person or over a telephone, it don't matter. But hey, I. But hey, since it's real close to Valentine's Day and I'm so sick and tired of you motherfuckers saying this shit like hey, man, what you bring to the table, man, shit, I can't fuck with no bitch to bring. No, don't bring shit to the table. Or a female in sorts of saying girl, I need a man to do this, this and this and this and this, and you don't do half the shit that you want required out of this man. But you still, and y'all Y'all still, pushing this guy, knowing ideal, that everything Supposed to be 50-50. I don't know where y'all ignorance got the shit. That shit supposed to be 50-50. Someday that shit gonna be 720. Sometimes they gonna shit Gonna be 80-30. Someday the shit gonna be 720. Sometimes they they gonna shit gonna be 830. Some say some days the shit might be 2020. Both y'all goddamn lack the energy to put in the shit period.
Speaker 1:So where the fuck did y'all get 50? 50? Because in my mind, in my idea, the way this shit supposed to be painted out, the shit way this shit supposed to be drawn, is in a 50 50 situation. Shit is, you're supposed to take 50 of my stress off of me to make me 50 of a better person for for this situation ship, or this relationship, or this marriage or this engagement, but that's what 50, 50 is supposed to mean. So because y'all motherfuckers talking about shit.
Speaker 1:He gotta meet me halfway. He gotta. But halfway is never equivalent in any situation. Because if I meet you halfway, that means I'm only. I'm only walking you halfway on this journey and the rest of the journey is yours. Because if I, if I, only give you half of what's entitled me or half of what you expect, you'll always be wanting more, you'll always be desiring more, but you'll never understand the full length of the journey that we're supposed to be on.
Speaker 1:But on, in retrospect, a lot of y'all take, take that 50, 50 shit just a monetary value. But y'all put, y'all put y'all's dreams and hopes and shit out of reach and out of potential to where you can't even fathom to reach the stars. But you only land on the moon before you get to the stars With your 50% of energy, with your 50% of wants and your 50% of desires. But honestly and truthfully, 50% is supposed to make me better. 50% like, let's break this shit down. Let's use me as an example. If you take, like I got so much shit going on. We playing chess over here, never checkers. So if you take 50% of my situation and make 50% of my life easier, that makes me have 50 more percent of energy. If you take 50% of my situation and make 50% of my life easier, that makes me have 50 more percent of energy to do more shit other than what I was already doing. Or 50% more of me to put into a business to where I don't have to work a nine to five anymore. Or I can chase my dreams and chase my ambitions to be a better man for you and kids and our family. But or shit, let's go ahead and get nasty with that shit, shit.
Speaker 1:If I'm if I'm 50% less stressed, I have 50% more energy. That means I have 50% more energy to put in to slutting you the fuck out, to fucking you any type of wage way possible. So, because you got to understand, understand this thing if I'm stressed, the fuck out, I'm not going to want to have sex. If I'm worried about bills and finances, how I'm going to do this, do that, do this and the. I'm not going to want to fuck Because, honestly, to make sure my lights stay on, my water stay on my car, notice paid, I can get to work. I'm not worrying about the A's and B's and D's and C's. That creates stress.
Speaker 1:Because let me tell you something no person in this life is meant to do this shit by themselves and, honestly, a lot of times people get these, this, these things, looking for the same, looking for the wrong purpose and getting in these relationships, situationships and this, that and the third, because once they start doing stuff, they, they, they start, they start trying to figure out how to do shit on their own and they, they come, they become so set in their ways to where they only result on what makes them comfortable. They've been doing this shit by themselves so easily and nobody never wants to come and then help. I'm sorry, that's the wrong turn to use because I'm sorry to be honest with you, a lot of these goofy motherfuckers out here in this day and age are only seeking for help, not happiness. They only seeking for what can a person do for me? Not because I'm sorry.
Speaker 1:I operate on a two way street and most people should understand what a two way street is, and most people should understand what a two way street is. It's, it's called reciprocation, to reciprocate the actions that you give out, that you get in return. Like I tell people in a heartbeat day, it's what you expect. I'm sorry, you can't expect certain things out of people. You got to. You got to show what you got, to let them show who they are to you without the hand being forced. Because, to be honest, at a certain point in time, yeah, we do fuck up, yeah, we, we do make mistakes.
Speaker 1:But how do you bounce back from that mistake? How do you bounce back from that little scuff in the road? Do you stand up or do you sit in the corner and cry about your situation? Do you do you? Do you complain about everything? You got going on to the point where you got to complain, or any situation that you place yourself in versus. Do you put yourself in a winning position or do you say, ok, I took that L, I took that L. So now how do I stand up in the end of it to stand back on my two feet to win it?
Speaker 1:To stand back on my two feet to win, because, at the end of the day, it's all about how you grow as a human being, versus the losses you take, because the losses is what makes you, because you can't sit back and take losses after loss and think you ain't gonna learn from those losses or you're not gonna wear the bait weight of those losses to make yourself as a, as a human being, because a lot of times we, our losses, are what makes us you don't learn from. You don't learn from wins yeah, you might. You might celebrate wins, but the best losses in the world we call lessons, not losses, because you can. You learn from your struggles. Like who the fuck learned that the best part of the ox Was the tail? No, back in the day they used to think that the ox tail Was the shittiest part of the meat. Nowadays, them bitches cost more than a regular ox. They the highest form, they the most sick piece of meat on the meat, on the on the animal.
Speaker 1:That's like, if you look at certain situations, people like you, you got to understand this shit is give and take and a lot of people don't understand that because it a lot of times it's not what you want to do. To survive as a human being is what you got to do is a human being to survive. And a lot of times people don't can't wrap their minds around growth and expansion because there's they're so stuck in a box, because, like when I say you get put in a box, you get put in the dirt, but instead of them being open and welcoming the new ideas and growth. What? What do they? What do they depict that growth from their losses, their, their mistakes, their trials and tribulations. Sometimes the those losses make the best people ever, eventually, because once they make those losses and make those trials and tribulations, they make shit easier for them because they've learned from their mistakes. They've learned from their mistakes that will make them better, because once they start realizing, hey, I did this fucked up the last time, I did this fucked up the last time. Did this fucked up the last time? I did this fucked up the last time why? Why can't I move this around? Move this around and make shit better for me? Well, this this person said this works for them, but it don't work for me. You right, you fucking idiot.
Speaker 1:Because a lot of times the things that people do in their minds don't work for everybody. Every everybody's math, math don't math the right way for everybody else. Everybody's two plus two don't equal four. Maybe that motherfucker might equal six. Maybe that motherfucker might equal eight, but it's what works for them, is what works for them. It's not. Everybody's journey ain't the same. Everybody's footprint ain't the same. Everybody's got no words and experiences ain't the same. So only thing you got to do is take what somebody else's formula they give to you is what works for them, but you got to mold that bitch to work for you because a lot of times people got down. I think just because they do certain shit a certain way, it will work the same way for them that it works for everybody else. So in this, with that being said, don't think everybody's journey is supposed to be the same and everybody's layout is supposed to be the same from the next man's. That's like when a person says, oh, I do this and I do that, and oh, I move this way and I move that way and I'm making these moves to do this and do that. Sometimes we make those decisions based off of more belief instead of understanding. Sometimes we don't have a choice in the matter because, once our backs against the wall, sometimes we have to make those decisions to make risk in our own lives to make things still work. I mean that's, if you look at it, that's the. That's the same reason I ain't gonna hold you.
Speaker 1:Some people get out here, start selling drugs or start selling pussy. I mean shit. To be honest, selling pussy is just like selling dope. It's. It's on the same comparison, um, because I mean shit, let's be honest with you. Shit. It's easy to get out here and sell some ass. Let's just go ahead and be honest with it. Just like the same way it's easy to sell some dope For a man, it's easy to sell dope, but ain't nobody Gonna be out here really buying dick. You get what I'm saying. If they buying dick, hey, you got you. Better, you better start scratching. It's itchy and scratchy and you better start, goddumb, scratching your head and wondering why they buying dick. Because I mean sometimes shit, shit, don't shit, don't add up a plus b don't equal c.
Speaker 1:But that's my comparison on the matter, because some people do shit out of necessity. I mean it might go a certain way. Because I mean, to be honest, she might be fucking out here for 120, 120 dollars just to keep her lights bill paid, just to keep, just to feed her fit, feed her kids, not out of this, like she's doing that shit out of sure necessity, not because she, that's just a want. And sometimes people get trapped in that mold and get trapped in their mindset and that's what they have to base their things off of. But a lot of people fail to realize that's where things go because we say we won't do one thing, we say we won't do another. Well, sometimes it's like our hand is forced to jump into that water where we can't swim because we feel like we're drowning. It's like, man, shit, I gotta get these light bills paid. What can I do? Oh, my god, what the fuck can I do? Shit.
Speaker 1:It's either with a man, shit, we're gonna get out here and get it, no matter which way, like I mean because, to be honest, all money spends, it don't matter if it's dirty money, it don't matter if it's clean. Money is money, profit is profit, bills are bills. So to to what you have to do to make that money. It might be demeaning to others, but it is probably out of necessity for for others. Because I mean, you might have to, goddamn, go out here and flip a couple packs because your back is so far against the wall, you don't know which way to breathe, you don't know how, how it's coming. So you're influenced by others and others. Ideas like shit, hey, man, shit, try, make that quick run for me. And shit, you got. Or me later. Only thing y'all do is you know and shit, I give them quick 250.
Speaker 1:Sometimes you do that shit out of necessity, not out of want, because a lot of people thinking, oh they out here wanting to fuck for a goddamn rent. Oh, nah, shit, the way the economy so fucked up nowadays, motherfuckers might be out here fucking to keep they light bill paid or get they rent paid or do these things that. And the third, just to make ends meet. Because I'm sorry, I'm not no judgment mental person, because I don't want you to judge me, because, at the end of the day, the only person that can judge me myself and I is me myself and I and God. And once that, once I come to them tables, once I sit down at that table and he's in front of me, that's that's who I have to answer to, not no man.
Speaker 1:Because everybody ain't gonna tell you what they did in the dark To get to the light. Because some things need to go down With Jacques Cousteau. Some things need to goddamn be buried With the goddamn Mariana Trench. If y'all know what the fuck that is, maybe you need to go do your research. Sometimes that motherfucking need to get buried With the kings of Egypt, some of the shit you've done to get to make shit easier in life, because everything ain't glitz and glam and glory Because, like some people think, just because it's done means that everything is picture perfect. You get what I'm saying, that everything is picture perfect. You get what I'm saying Because a lot of times, people don't know where the fuck they going, or the fuck they coming to, or the journey they about to take. Some people just know they about to be on a journey and they don't know if it's going to be good or bad or bullshit, to be frank. So it's A lot of times you gotta you gotta play chess, not checkers. Sometimes you're going to get your hands dirty With shit you don't want to do, because I mean shit.
Speaker 1:To be honest, if walls could talk, a lot of people would be judging us, judging the decisions that we make, the things that we say, the way our brains work, because everybody's brain ain't measure the same and, to be honest, everybody's moral compass isn't the same. So you got to take that into account when, when you sit there with others and you being judgmental, so why are you judging? Would you want them to judge every decision that you make? Because I'm sorry, like I tell people all the time, if somebody tell you something about me, believe what the fuck they tell you I'm not answering for no, I'm not answering no questions for nobody, no more.
Speaker 1:Because I can really give a fuck, because, no matter what I say out my mouth, you're gonna believe what you want to believe. You're not gonna base it on my character or what you know me, for you just want to go, you just want to go off. The first thing somebody tells you about me without getting to actually know me. And, to be frank, I've gotten to the term and to this big age of 38. Yeah, I'm two years away from being followed, but you got to understand. I don't give a fuck, no more. So believe what you want to believe, I don't care. The decision that you want to have, believe that I don't care.
Speaker 1:So you got to think about it. Is it? Is it really where you want it to be? So you got to think about that goes back to our 50 50s the things that you got to do to make your spouse or your significant other and things of that nature happy and sleep peacefully at night. You might have to get your hands dirty, you might have to go out there and do some things that you ain't so proud to do, just to make sure y'all sleep peacefully at night or y'all got a roof still over your head.
Speaker 1:Because everybody, everybody's moral compass ain't the same. Everybody's hunger or necessities are, it aren't the same. Everybody's drive and ambitions aren't the same. So if that that motherfucker might say, hey, hey, babe, I got to go do X, y and Z, well, be careful. She knows that he doesn't want to do this. But push comes to shove. Since it's back so far against the wall, I'd rather risk my livelihood, my freedom, my due diligence, my moral compass. So you don't have to, and the only thing that she does Is behind him and support him and make sure shit. That's where the moral compass Comes behind, because, like at the very beginning, shit, everybody can't be a general, everybody can't. Sometimes you gotta push that moral compass to the wayside and be the leader that you need to be, because you got to do the shit that you don't want to do, or push the shit the way you want to push it. Because a lot of people don't understand that concept.
Speaker 1:Because when you out here, hungry, in these motherfucking streets, your back touching your ribs, your back pockets, touching what you gonna do, you gonna eat or you gonna starve, you gonna bitch up. You gonna man up. You gonna do what you gotta do or you gonna goddamn. Oh my god, I can't do this. Oh my god, this is so hard, man. Shut the fuck up and suck it the fuck up. Man, put your big girl panties on, put your goddamn waders on and get out of that bullshit, because you gotta understand Everybody's bullshit. Ain't your bullshit.
Speaker 1:Just because his grass is green, you don't know what the fuck he had to goddamn do To goddamn Get his grass that color, or To put it in layman's terms, which y'all people might understand, and to get it through your ear blows the ones that ain't stouples. You don't know what type of risk that man had to take To get where he sits at today. Only thing you're doing is sitting there, basing it off of your moral compass, of your Ide ideas, and saying, oh well, I would never do that. I would never take the stoop that low to do that. You don't know what the fuck you would do when you down on your luck and you ain't got nothing else to got on. Go no further, because sometimes you got to suck it the fuck up.
Speaker 1:Put your morals to the side and do shit that you're not too proud of doing just to make ends meet, just to make sure you got one more day of light, one more $20 in your gas tank just to get to work, because sometimes you got to go turn in that change that you've been saving up all year just to got. Don't make sure you got food to feed your family for the rest of the week, or ways to eat, or you got to be eating oodles and oodles while your kids eating mcdonald's just because you'll rather them Be productive and you just eating bullshit. Because a lot of people Don't understand the sacrifices that you have to make when it comes to that 50-50 bullshit that I deal, that y'all have put in these people's head. Thinking of what you bring to the table, because I mean, honestly, is everything equal that you bring to the table? Is everything 100? Oh, I got a hundred dollars, you got a hundred dollars. That's what we made for the week. Now you got change and sense and dollar bills added on to the back of it.
Speaker 1:That motherfucker might have 119, you might have 97. Shit ain't equal. But what's equal is the understanding we have for each other, understanding hey, I got you as long as you got me. I fuck with you as long as you fuck with me. If you look out for me, I look out for you. That's what it, that's what it boils down to, that's what it adds up to.
Speaker 1:Because, at the end of the day, do you really have my back the same way that you claim you do? Or you ready to fold on me At any point in time? Because if you ready to fold on me at any point in time or expose me for this, that and the third, or point out the flaw shit in me At any point in time, man, you truly don't fuck with me. Because that person on the flip side and that person that could Tell the world all your flaws chooses not to. Is it really? Do you really fuck with them? Do you really choose to make those losses with them or take those risks with them?
Speaker 1:Because, at the end of the day, what do we do as human beings? Are we guided or misguided? Are we guided by those actions, or do we make those trials and tribulations to where we can't make those decisions and can't make those Ideals happen, or we can't paint those pictures out to be, you know, glitz and glam. And oh, I made this shit shake Because people are only looking for the wins, thank you.
Speaker 1:Social media To where people only understand, only see the wins and never see the losses that you take. The only time they see the losses Is when somebody exposes you For the flaws that you done, did the mistakes that you done, did the mistakes that you done made instead of telling the good shit that we really need to tell, because I mean, I'm sorry to shit like a three-point scale. There's always wins and losses. There's always good and bad. Sometimes the good I went about it was a bad, but sometimes, sometimes the good is the bad, but sometimes people got done bringing the bad to the forefront. But that tells you truly who really fucks you and who don't. So I just want to let y'all know. Thank y'all for listening to FOAL. Step Us. Only we out Peace. We'll be right back. Outro Music.
