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Motivational Mondays : FWM how I FWU
Have you ever felt like you're constantly giving in your relationships without receiving the same support in return? On this special Motivational Monday, we celebrate the one-year anniversary of our podcast, Full Steps, by tackling this challenging question. Reflecting on my own journey through shoulder surgery and the complexities of friendships and relationships, this episode dives deep into the realm of reciprocity. It's about valuing those who uplift you and being cautious of those who consistently take. By sharing personal stories and insights, I encourage you to critically assess the dynamics of your connections and ensure that the energy you give is matched with genuine support and appreciation.
Moving beyond the surface, we also examine the importance of self-worth and authentic connections. In a world that often prioritizes superficial gains, I question societal values and urge you to hold firm to your identity. True growth comes from embracing our flaws and traumas, allowing us to shield ourselves from external judgments and remain true to our integrity. Let this episode be a catalyst for reevaluating instant gratification and transactional interactions, motivating you to seek relationships that are meaningful and lasting. Join us for an enlightening discussion aimed at fostering genuine connections and enhancing your self-awareness.
Hey, welcome to Motivational Monday with Full Steps. Only I'm Jack, you know, just trying something new, you know, just for the book he said right, start your Mondays off. I don't know where the hell this came from, but my partner told me we should start doing like little motivational pieces just to make you laugh a little bit, just to know how we kick it, just on a regular basis. So I'll leave it at the quality of the part. It usually is seeing it cluster clear. But we're taking some new mics out that I just got. I'm checking the quality out just to see if this is or this ain't. Y'all let me know what y'all think. I know this ain't like the studio that we usually have and we usually have it going. But yeah, how's y'all's Monday going this morning? Oh shit, it's actually 4.50 after. You know, valentine's Day. Happy one-year anniversary.
Speaker 1:The first step was only we started. We dropped our first episode last year. I mean, it's just amazing how shit transpires over the years and how things go. And I look back last year and I just take a contrast of what my life was like last year and it damn sure wasn't this at all. I don't even think I was in the same headspace. I was literally like five days away from having shoulder surgery. If y'all been with us the whole journey, it's been a goddamn crazy roller coaster Gained a few friends, lost a few friends, lost a few loved ones Life progresses. Back to this Monday.
Speaker 1:I was addressed with this question. This situation came up. Let me give y'all a little story time. This person told me hey, I'm tired as fuck, but I got a little date. I said oh cool, that's what's up. Shit, more power to you. Shout out to your new date yeah, I'm just tired as fuck. Shit, I got to go. You know, get all this done before I go see him.
Speaker 1:Okay, wait a minute. Wait a minute, let's rewind this story. So he ain't helping you move all this shit. He ain't helping you pack up all this shit. He ain't helping you move your furniture. So let me get this shit straight for you. You really fucking with a nigga that can help you move furniture, but can't help you move furniture.
Speaker 1:If that's too much over y'all's heads, let me break it down to you. You giving up dick or pussy, whichever way you want to, goddamn give it up to a motherfucker that can't help you when you need help. Make it make sense, because one plus one don't equal two. Because in my mind, shit, if I'm in a bond, if I'm doing X, y, z, if I'm fucking with you on any capacity, any level, you should be able to look out for me or fuck with me. The same way I fuck with you in my time of need or my time of help, or even volunteer your services, even if you can't be there. Help me in some type of way. Pay for the U-Haul, pay for two men in a truck, pay for the motherfuckers and help me. Come put this shit on the truck or come volunteer your time to help me move this shit around.
Speaker 1:Because I can't understand that whole concept, because I'm good enough for you to give me some dick or pussy, but I can't get you to help me in my time of need. That shit don't add up. I mean that breaks everything down. To fuck with people, how they fuck with you. Give them the same energy that you require for them to fuck with you, because if you don't that, you require for them to fuck with you. Because if you don't, that's how you know. If they don't give you that energy and sometimes they fuck with you in a different capacity, don't fuck with them in that same light. I mean, gauge how you fuck with people, and that's on all relationships, all situationships, even with family members. Fuck with them how they fuck with you. Give out the energy they're giving you in return.
Speaker 1:I know a lot of times I'm going to tell me all the time You're supposed to turn the other cheek. You keep turning the other cheek and that shit keeps going out the window. Are you still going to be sitting here blindsided by them not wanting to help you in your time of need it? Just to me, it just don't make sense to keep giving the energy to them because, at the end of the day, why am I still volunteering my energy, my time, my presence to those that don't value me? In that same light, retrospect, say you're on the other side of the scales If that person is giving, giving, giving, giving or taking, taking, taking, taking away from you but never trying to balance out. I'm not saying just monetary, I'm talking about time, effort, even looking out for you when you are having your down days, hey, but I'm going to tell you like this you better open your eyes and count your blessings, because a lot of people don't get that same energy back that they give out, even when they just try to do the little small shit.
Speaker 1:If you fucking shit on them, why the fuck would they keep giving their time, their effort, their presence to those that don't value it or to those that slap them in the face once it's got done. Everything's said and done. That shit don't add up. That shit ain't one plus one, because I mean shit. You keep taking and taking and taking. Usually you run out of gas. Usually you run out of gives and fucks. Usually you run out of you know what fuck this shit I'm out.
Speaker 1:Or, on another note, shit that person might got now choose to take their asses out their shit elsewhere, because next thing you know, another motherfucker might value their time and their efforts and their presence more than you did. So Nipsey Hussle said a valuable thing once upon a time A person that loves you today Can love somebody else tomorrow. In, in layman's terms, a $100 bill is going to be a $100 bill. That person at face value is going to be that person at face value. So don't shit on that person because they got a kind heart. Or you don't understand the way they move, or you're so blindsided by your ignorance Take that shit into a full account, because if you don't shit, what you going to do next? Keep using, keep taking advantage.
Speaker 1:Don't be no goofy motherfucker and just try to give your all into a motherfucker out here nowadays, because a lot of these goofy motherfuckers out here y'all are just here for help. They ain't here to make you feel whole. They ain't here to help you feel present. They ain't here to make you feel whole. They ain't here to help you feel present. They ain't here to make you feel good about yourself. They here to take Make be a Understand your blessings is your blessings at certain times, but don't confuse blessings with genuine people. You hear me? Don't confuse blessings with genuine people, because genuine people will continue to fuck with you the same way you fuck with them. They will reciprocate the energies that you fuck how you fuck with them.
Speaker 1:So, hey, like I have a partner. I told him like this hey, if I joke with you, I look out for you, I fuck with you, fuck with me. And guess what? He shows his support in different ways. Like any venture that I have, you're like shit, I like that shit. How much one cost? No, not how much it cost you. How much are you wanting for it. He ordered two phone cases for me, even though I felt like the price range was high. He still ordered them for me, he said, because he liked that shit.
Speaker 1:And at the same time time, when he was down, I told him hey man, what the fuck you down for? They want to see you down. Pick your motherfucking chin up. Don't let these motherfuckers see you, goddamn, at your low point. Pick your motherfucking chin up. I called him yesterday and told him hey man, man, how you doing? I sent you something on Instagram. He said what? I ain't been checking my Instagram. I said just check it. It told him people will dwell on your people. Let me think about the way it was. I mean, let me look it up. Ah, here it was. I mean, let me look it up. Ah, here it goes.
Speaker 1:I joke about my traumas so others can't down me for my traumas. Keep your head up, gangster. We joke about our traumas. We make light of our traumas. We make light of our flaws. We understand our flaws, we embrace our flaws. We embrace our flaws, so you goofy motherfuckers can't use them against us.
Speaker 1:Now let that sit there and marinate, because I know my flaws, I know my fucked up ways. But how can I embrace my fucked up ways to make me better To understand? Because if I don't understand my flaws and my fucked up ways, how can I tend to grow? Because anything broken can be fixed. Anything with tape on it can be mended, just like when you look at a goddamn wall that's supposed to hold back water, a dam. If it got a little crack in it, you can goddamn put cement over top of that motherfucker, and it will hold. Let that marinate, because people will keep chipping away at your flaws and tell every goofy motherfucker that will listen your flaws, but they ain't going to tell the real shit about you. They ain't going to tell you the good shit about you.
Speaker 1:So what is it that we sit here and do? Do I sit here and just dwell, dwell, dwell, dwell, dwell and feel sorry for myself? Nah, shit, I still walk over my head, I still I smile about my flaws, because nobody's perfect, nobody. There was only one perfect individual on this earth and he died for our sins. And a lot of people fail to realize that. Because I mean, like this day and age, unless Jesus was reincarnated, shit, ain't nobody on this motherfucker perfect. I mean shit.
Speaker 1:We got flaws, no matter which way you paint it, which way you draw that shit on a piece of paper, whatever. We all come with our bullshit. We all come with our flaws. We all come from our chinks and our own. But it's how you try to improve yourself and understand those flaws and grow on those flaws, to make them better, to embrace them, to understand that hey, yes, I have flaws but I'm not a bad person. Yes, I have flaws but I can do the job. Yes, I might fuck up but I can't fix it. So what are you going to do? You're going to sit there and let these motherfuckers tell you what you can and can't do, or you're going to stand in your two and grow? Are you going to stand up and let these motherfuckers know who the fuck you are?
Speaker 1:The reason why some of these things are true is because the way people move you have to understand. To understand people only fuck with you, sometimes to only benefit them, instead of a conglomerate to actually generally fuck with you. So a lot of times you have to gauge them off of being them, and it's ridiculous. That's not the way I was raised. I mean you generally fuck with somebody because you actually fuck with them, not because of the benefit that they provide.
Speaker 1:I was told something amazing this morning, which is crazy because, man, I see how people have. You know they chase what they want to chase. You know they chase what they want to chase. I found it hilarious because this person told me somebody asked if, for Valentine's Day, if they took somebody out they aren't even dating Take somebody out, they would give them head for taking them to Applebee's. Hilarious because that actually shows the person has no moral compass or no value in themselves.
Speaker 1:Just to even say that they'll suck your dick just to get, just to get a meal or just to feel special for 2.35 seconds, that's, that's, that's absolutely preposterous. It's absolutely ridiculous that somebody would, like you would, put somebody's penis in your mouth just for a fucking 20 dollar meal not even that. So I mean, what do you gauge it off of? Because I mean the day and age that we live in, shit. What is your value? The only thing you ought to do is get a nut? That's preposterous. I mean shit If that's all you value yourself is a $20 meal. Shit, I'm sorry, shit. I couldn't Because I want to put my.
Speaker 1:I mean I value my peace, my peace of mind and my mental fortitude Shit, not even that. I value my health Shit. I ain't got time to be goddamn having bumps and blisters and goddamn all this shit pussing out my lip just because I want a fucking hot meal and feel special out from somebody. Hell, I can make myself feel special, put myself on the pedestal. I mean, how do you value yourself? Do you value yourself and your importance that fucking low, just for a motherfucker to take you out for a two for 20? A sampler plate? What do you value yourself as? I mean? Shit, god damn. Put a couple hours in there working and you can take yourself out to make yourself feel special If it's that necessary.
Speaker 1:I'm sorry, shit, if you got to, I mean, but that's what you deal with when you deal with certain individuals that they do not value themselves. So you've got to understand. Sometimes, face value, a hundred dollars is a hundred dollars, but sometimes the scales may be weighed. Sometimes you've got to understand and pick somebody's brain to see what they value yourselves is. But pause, let's wake this shit up. Let's rewind this shit.
Speaker 1:Since this shit is Valentine's Day, don't get this shit misconstrued. You might treat somebody special, give them the world. You might give them roses, balloons, candies, chocolate covered strawberries, a goddamn bow cap from what's that place called, with the little fruit and the goddamn decorations and shit, just for them to go fuck somebody else in the back seat of a car. I mean, but that's that shows you. You can get somebody to whirl, but they can go fuck somebody in the back seat of the car just because they want a nut. Is that really how they value themselves? Is that really where they put themselves on that pedestal? Is that really their standard of life? Ask yourself that before you fuck with these goddamn random individuals, because a lot of people do not value themselves in this day and age.
Speaker 1:So, understanding this thing, how do you value yourself? Do you value yourself as a quick net or do you value yourself on a pedestal? I'm not talking about being snooty and all that shit. Do you value yourself as a quick nut or do you value yourself on a pedestal? I'm not talking about being snooty and all that shit. It's how do you value yourself and where do you hold yourself to a certain standard? Because if you're that ignorant to hold yourself for a quick nut man, we ain't in the same room, we ain't in the same category. We ain't even in the same boxing ring. It's not even about hustle and grind. It's how you view yourself.
Speaker 1:What do you place your value as a human being? You a $20 motherfucker. You a $20 nut, you a $10 nut. That's all you hold yourself to. I'm sorry to keep rewinding that shit. I just find that shit absolutely preposterous Because if I fought with you, I fought with you. Shit, I can go. I mean anybody can go out here and get a quick nut, even homeless folks out here getting a quick nut. I mean the folks that have no ambition, no drive, no anything can go out here and get a quick nut, but how do you value yourself?
Speaker 1:So ask yourself that throughout this day on this Motivational Monday, how do you value yourself? So ask yourself that throughout this day on this motivational Monday, how do you value yourself? What standard do you place yourself at? Or do you feel like that's all you have to offer? If that's all you have to offer, man, turn my shit off right now. I'm serious, man, because, shit, you have no value in yourself as a human being. I mean shit. I'm sorry. I mean sometimes you might need to take your ass back to that drawing board, sit back and do some self-reflection.
Speaker 1:If all you value yourself is and all you good for is a quick nut, just saying Because I mean shit, I'd rather not get no ass, not get no mouth, not get nothing, that is stooped so low just to fuck somebody for a quick meal, just saying, because that shit don't go hand in hand at all, man, that shit is demeaning. Because I mean, what do you have after you catch that quick nut? Do you have conversation? Or do you wait for that motherfucker to take you to Mickey D so he can get another quick nut in your throat? So now he can be your Oral B? Because in my mind, shit, that's all you are is a toothbrush.
Speaker 1:So what do you value yourself at? And shit, nah, let's go ahead and flip that side. On the other thing, that means on that man's part that man is a dirty dick bastard. That mean that motherfucker will go fuck anything any way, shape, form or fashion. If he'll just fuck you for $10 or a quick meal and that's all he values you at, that's all he'll ever see you with and, honestly, that's all he has to offer is a quick nut and $20. So where we at at this point, where are you at at this point on this Motivational Monday. So just understand, sit at the desk and ask yourself do you fuck with people that truly fuck with you? Or are you just a quick nut at Applebee's? So understand, I mean, what the fuck are you care for? Thank you for this Motivational Monday from Foe Steppas. Only we out Peace.
