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Motovational Mondays : Negative Fckin Nancy
Have you ever found yourself caught in the web of negativity, feeling weighed down by toxic relationships? On this episode of Motivational Mondays, I share my personal journey through such challenging times, revealing the power of resilience in maintaining a positive outlook. Discover how ignoring the allure of negativity, especially on social media, can fortify your mental health and help you navigate life with confidence. Through my own experiences, I highlight the importance of not retaliating against toxicity but instead allowing it to slide off, keeping your peace intact and your head held high.
We further explore how adversity, whether financial or personal, can be a catalyst for unexpected opportunities. By embracing the concept that haters can indeed become motivators, we learn that slow progress is still progress on the path to success. This episode underscores the strength found in acts of kindness and support, illustrating how paying it forward can bring positivity full circle. Tune in to learn how to walk with pride, understand your self-worth, and continue striving towards brighter days amidst life’s inevitable challenges.
hey, yeah, hey, welcome to motivational mondays with four staples only. I'm the host, jack. Yeah, we trying something new. This is our second episode and, yeah, I changed up the beat. I'm sorry, um, if y'all were feeling that, just let me know. Um. Yeah, this year too, for us it's 4 30 in the morning. I'm sorry, it's 3 56, let me get my time strike. So good morning to all and on this early monday morning, um. But we started this segment on because we're in year two of four-steppers only.
Speaker 1:Um and the, the motivation of mondays came from. Um. Sometimes you need a little motivation and you need somebody to tell you hey, lift your head up, stand tall. Um, because I know a couple times in my life where I've needed that. Lift my head up and some people don't understand that from a therapist because they don't know what the fuck they're going through, versus what the fuck we're going through in real life, thinking, oh, he just here to listen to me while I sit on this fucking couch and get paid. Um. Because I was seeing a therapist, no cap, um, because I was going through a dark time and I was paying like 75 a session, which is kind of low, but I had insurance. Um, just to tell him my problems, which wasn't beneficial to myself. Um, because I was at a. I was at a bad point in my life. Um, I still had shit going, but I was at a. Like we tell people all the time, hey, when you get to that dark place, it ain't fun, it ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a real, real dark place. And I know a lot of y'all understand where the fuck I'm coming from.
Speaker 1:But long story short, this Motivational Mondays is toxicity. The closest one to you can be the most toxic. The people that once cared about you, fought with you and were there for you can eventually turn the most toxic to you and to put you back in a dark place, because a lot of times they know what to say to you and which targets they can hit on you, because they've seen you at your low points, they've heard you vent to them, because they were a safe place for you at one point in time. And a lot of people do that. Um, I don't understand why don't get me, don't get me wrong. Um, because, um, a lot of people don't understand shit because that, just because they feel some type of way about you or anything, they'll go to your, to go to somebody else and tell them your dirt, so you can't trust everybody with everything um, I've had to learn that a couple of times in my life to where they're not beneficial to yourself or beneficial situation going on. Um so um. It's hard, but I know.
Speaker 1:For me it's like the constant toxicity and you constantly having to hear and people digging up your, your skeletons in your closet, that you have to battle with every day. That they know will hurt you, that they know will affect you, and that's that, that. That's that. That ain't cool, man. But this is what I want to tell y'all, all my listeners here on Motivational Mondays man, keep your head up, because even though they doing toxic shit to you don't mean you have to do toxic shit to them.
Speaker 1:Sometimes it helps just to let that shit just roll off. I know that's hard to say, but when they know they got you or they know they affect you, they want you to crash out, they want you to lash out. Sometimes it's best just to let it. Let it be read. Read whatever they sent you. Hang up that phone, ignore that phone call, delete those messages. Let them say whatever the fuck they want to say on the web because shit, as we all know, with the social media shit, people like negativity more than they do like positivity, which is fucking weird as fuck to me, but it's a true statement. You can get on there and say something positive and people don't fuck with it.
Speaker 1:As soon as you get onto a, a subject that they want to be toxic about, they got them thumbs up in that shit, they sharing that shit, they commenting, they, they and and it's, it's the negativity for me. To me it's like shit, if I don't want, I'm no longer fuck with you. I just don't fuck with you. I ain't, finna, got no selling your name. I ain't, finna, put all your business out there. I just don't. I just choose not to fuck with you, even if somebody ask me hey, y'all ain't talking, no more. Nah, shit, we just, you know, we just grew apart, we just went our separate ways.
Speaker 1:And sometimes people want to hear the dirt, they want to hear some shit about them, just so they can run back and tell the next motherfucker what they fucking hear from you and say they the word of mouth. But at the end of the day, hey, if this is happening to you or somebody spreading rumors about you. I know it's hard, but keep your motherfucking head up, because a lot of times people don't understand that you just coming in there with a smile and it will infuriate them even more because they said oh shit, I ain't. I said this, I did this and it still ain't affecting them. What else can I do to get to them? Only thing you got to do is walk in a room with a big fuck you.
Speaker 1:On your face and like shit man, it's a good day, the sun is out, my kids is at school, I'm making money Shit, my bills are getting paid Shit. Like I know, like a lot of y'all be saying shit, I'm taxed about to hit. Shit, I got this plan, I got that plan, I want to do this, I want to do that. Man, find joy in something. Don't, don't crash out on them, because that's what they want. They want to see you to at your lowest, they want to see you get, want to give up because to to be honest, that I guess they feed off that shit, but just don't feed into it, because it took me a long time to get to this point.
Speaker 1:It upsets people more for them to keep talking and keep saying negative shit about you and you approaching them and you saying something. That means they winning, because now they going to play victim. Oh my God, I don't know why they coming at me like this. Oh my God, oh my God, man, fuck them. Just walk in that room and look at them and just smile. You ain't got to say shit, just keep on your own pivot, keep on your own motion, keep on your own territory.
Speaker 1:Because a lot of these motherfuckers are miserable in real life. They can post whatever they want to post, they can say whatever they want to say, but deep down inside they really miserable Because they don't understand that all these negative, like what they putting out there in the world only makes them look worse, because it's going to make some people like damn, shout out, damn, damn me later. Why why you hate him so much? What did he do so much to you to make you hate him so much? Or damn bro, damn bro, shit you, you, you, you okay, you, you. You really hate this nigga and it's, it's saddening to say a lot of the shit comes from thinking that's okay, that's okay to do, because a lot of these people run to the internet and they will post anything about you.
Speaker 1:But you got to remember man, fuck them. That's when you I give y'all a funny, I give y'all a funny like genre y'all remember, goddamn the fighting peacock off Will Smith. We are the peacock. We're marching down the street. Peacock, man, lift your head up and strut, motherfucker, strut, strut, like you the biggest cock in the fucking yard in a room full of chickens. Because you got to understand shit. People are watching, people are motherfucking watching. To run back to that person that was talking shit about you and tell them that your head low, man. Or or saying man, shit, you were right. That nigga got down doing xyz, man, shit, 44, man, fuck them, man, just like that. That person that's talking shit about you at work, fuck them. To that person that's talking about shit on the internet about you, fuck them.
Speaker 1:Sometimes you gotta walk in that motherfucker with your head hell high. Yeah, you might only got two dollars left to your goddamn pocket, but guess what? Payday is friday, so fuck them. We gonna make them two dollars. Stretch like 200, like 2000, man them, motherfucking. Two dollars gonna be the goddamn longest running. Two hundred dollars in your pocket. I'm sorry. Two dollars in your pocket, but guess what? Them them your two dollars. So you got a stretch in that.
Speaker 1:Motherfucker. Like you. Like you got that motherfucking glow. You got that glow you're feeling. So when you got that glow, man, you gotta walk like you got that glow in your ass.
Speaker 1:Bro, pick up your motherfucking heads and fuck these folks. That's like you, mid lady man. Walk like you goddamn got that, that shit on. Like you got that best smelling shit that these bitches can't afford. Like shit. Walk like your pussy. Goddamn amazing man. Make your like. Make your shit like it's squirt. God damn it.
Speaker 1:Make this like saying like shit, these motherfuckers want this motherfucking pussy but can't have it. That bitch wish she can taste this motherfucking pussy, but she can't have it. Make hey, that nigga. That nigga keep you know, got down jumping in my inbox and wanting this pussy and he can't have it. Strut like that man, strut like that nigga. You might have gotten. You might have, though your car might have broke down.
Speaker 1:Man, strut because there are darker days, because it can't rain forever. It cannot rain forever. Remember that it might be dark today, it might be dark tomorrow, it might rain today, it might rain tomorrow, but it will never rain forever, because a lot of people fail to realize that shit man like man, shit, this sun gonna come out eventually. You know, hey, this is only temporary, this ain't permanent. It's only temporary because a lot of people will sit there and express and say, man, I got this going on, I got this going on, but look at the bright side of that shit, bro. That's two heads of a coin, man. Whether you got dark days, you got bright days. Shit.
Speaker 1:To be honest with you, shit, I had some shit pop off in my life. Man, to where I'm up here, like they're trying to figure, like like, damn, I can't even go on my motherfucking trip. Maybe there's a reason why I didn't go on my trip. Maybe there's a reason why I made that sacrifice, because sometimes you got to make those sacrifices for brighter days later on, because it, like I said, it don't rain forever, it don't stay dark forever. So because sometimes, no matter how deep of a hole that you feel, like you in shit, you can still see a little gleam of light at the top of that motherfucking hole. So because sometimes, no matter how deep of a hole that you feel, like you in shit, you can still see a little gleam of light at the top of that motherfucking hole. Shit, you can still climb, you can still goddamn move.
Speaker 1:You got your health. It might not be like you might see these motherfuckers, goddamn they body all chiseled up. Goddamn hey the chicks. Her ass might be fat, her titties might be perky, but guess what? You don't know what the fuck. Go on behind closed doors. Don't wish for somebody else's life and be like, damn, if I had this it'll be more perfect. We all go through that. Shit man. Chin up, motherfucker, chin up. Because when you look at shit man, don't look at the negativity side of shit, look at the positive. When you constantly look, feel that shit, feel that your day with negative vibes, only thing you're going to do is keep compiling on them negative vibes Instead of trying to find something positive've been like damn shit, it might have went on, but guess what, I'm still in there.
Speaker 1:Bit man, I might have had to goddamn turn in all the change that I've been collecting all year just to get to work, but I'm still in there. Bitch man, shit, I got a shitty ass fucking job, man. I don't want to be in there. Bitch man, shit, I got a shitty-ass fucking job, man. I don't want to be in there, bitch, but I still got a job I still can provide, because let me tell you something, the hardest thing that you will ever do like I was telling somebody one of the darkest times of my life man is doing that whole COVID bullshit.
Speaker 1:Man, when everything shut down, I'm talking about I'm working like a motherfucker, I'm doing this, I'm doing that, I'm butchering my ass at this motherfucking job, getting burnt by shit. I don't work 12 motherfucking hours. About to leave. I'm talking about 30 minutes before I'm about to leave, they they say hey, we need you to meet over there. We need you to meet over there. It's like damn, what the fuck we having a meeting about? I'm thinking about we about to get down and get and let know shit, we about to work some extra hours or some shit. But they said everybody that they called over there to their meeting, they laying off. Only thing I could do is damn near I wanted to bust out in tears no-transcript shit. They laid us off. I'm sitting there like bro.
Speaker 1:I went to making xyz a week. I can't even remember what I was making a week to. I'm bringing home nothing, nothing, absolutely nothing. And they're gonna tell us oh, you'll be able to collect goddamn unemployment. Baba man, I don't give a fuck about unemployment right now, shit I need I got. I gotta have that money. I gotta pay these bills, I gotta pay my cs.
Speaker 1:What the fuck am I gonna tell this girl at home where I'm not providing shit? What the fuck am I gonna do? I'm not providing shit. What the fuck am I going to do? I'm not worried about myself. I'm worried about being a father, being a spouse, being a husband at this time To provide for my household. I can't be no failure to my motherfucking kids.
Speaker 1:But next thing I know, the manager walks over to me and tell me hey, what's your cell phone number? Hey, this is only going to last a couple of weeks. Man, what's your cell phone number? Hey, this only gonna last a couple weeks. Man, what's your cell phone number? Because I want you to come back Right now. Shit, I wasn't even hearing that. Shit. I just gave him my number. I was like man, shit, whatever.
Speaker 1:Bro, I was at home for three fucking months, three Every Friday. I know I was bringing home, like they were paying me through unemployment. That's when they had that, that, that junk duty, shit. Um, I was bringing home six, um, every week. I was eight. I can't remember, but I know it was like, bro, I was at home cooking.
Speaker 1:Every day I was at home cleaning, making sure my house was clean. I ain't even gonna lie to you, boy, at home cleaning making sure my house was clean, I ain't gonna lie to you boy, I shit, I was a. I was, I was a house man. I was a at home dad at the time because she was still going to work and we were just starting to get back on our feet before I got laid off. But then, when I got laid off, like I'm like you ain't gotta pay for nobody being daycare, you ain't gotta do this, you ain't got to pay for nobody being daycare, you ain't got to do this, you ain't got to do that. So we were making this shit work. Man, like we were making this shit work. So, yeah, you might look at the negative shit. Now I'm laid off. Shit. I'm at home with my son every day. I can actually be a dad. He enjoy me being there.
Speaker 1:Every day I'm cleaning the house, house, I mean, she got no laundry, laundry done, but I'm still making this shit work. She came home to a hot meal every day like like I'm cooking. Every day I'm learning how to cook new shit doing pot roast, doing ribs, doing goddamn pork chops, doing the. The yellow jug, goddamn rice. Y'all know what I'm talking about? That yellow jug, goddamn rice. Y'all know what I'm talking about? That yellow jug, that already pre-seasoned rice. That broccoli, that string beans. Putting my goddamn you know my chicken broth and my shit. Yeah, I'm a fat nigga. I ain't going to lie to you. Shit, I like to cook, but I made the best out of it Instead of being like woe is me.
Speaker 1:At first, I was looking at the negative side, but then I had to keep my chin up, walk high and strut, motherfucker strut, because sometimes people want to see you at your lowest, but you can't show them, motherfuckers that shit, because the only thing they're gonna do is feed and make their own narrative about the shit. And we got there. I'm gonna be like, oh, they're laughing at you when you at your lowest, and they're laughing at you when you at your lowest and they gonna hate you when you at your highest, even to the room. You might not be at your highest, you might have some old clothes on, you might do this, do that. You might be barely making it, but motherfucker strut. That's what I'm trying to tell you motherfucking strut, strut your ass off. Because Because all I got to say is, hey, be that motherfucking fighting peacock. If y'all don't know what the fuck I'm talking about, look up Fresh Prince fighting peacock scene and that shit going to let you know.
Speaker 1:Peacock, I'm marching down the street. Peacock, hey, be that motherfucking Peacock man. I know y'all getting tired of me, goddamn doing that goofy shit. If y'all could actually see me over here dancing what time is it Four something in the morning now Y'all would laugh y'all ass off. But I'm just trying to make y'all understand. Just because you think you at your lowest, you're never at your lowest Because it can always be worse. It can always be worse. I'm so, hey, that's why. Hey, that's why a lot of times you hear them old cats talking about something.
Speaker 1:Hey, y'all fella how you doing today, man. Hey, slow motion better than no motion, because that's a that's, that's, that's a true statement. Because you got to understand your lane and the way you move, because, should you be stagnant is death. But if you got a little motion you still move. So be glad you got a little motion in your body. You can still make them steps. You can still make strive to be better. You can still get out here and got them hustle and grind and got them go for that next tier. Hey, I was doing good today, but I'm doing better tomorrow. I'm doing, I was doing better tomorrow but I'm doing amazing the next day. Boy, shit, and I'm talking about your build on that shit. Do better and better and better and better, better, better every day that you got them alive.
Speaker 1:Because, guess, let them motherfuckers see that shit Glow in these motherfucker faces to where they can't do nothing but hate on your motherfucking ass, to where they can look at you like, oh I hate that nigga, and they gonna talk about you, like you the motherfucking dirt of the motherfucking earth. But guess what, strut, motherfucker strut. Because, guess what, let the motherfuckers hate and let the motherfuckers goddamn suffocate on your goddamn glow. You feel me, because a lot of these motherfuckers goddamn will suffocate off your glow and they will hate and fill themselves up with that negativity and they will goddamn go to that dark place instead of you being in that dark place, because they don't know how else to tear you down, because at this point in time in their life, the only thing they want to do is wish death upon you Because they're going to be like man. I wish that motherfucker got down. Hey, man, show them motherfuckers, them glow man. Strut on them, motherfuckers, strut, motherfucker man. Walk like a mother with your chest held high, your chin in the air, your nose tooted up and a big ass motherfucking smile on your motherfucking face to where these motherfuckers hate your existence. So, motherfucking goddamn, keep your head up. Don't let them motherfuckers tear you down. You hear me don't hate, don't let them motherfuckers goddamn tear you down.
Speaker 1:I know I'm cussing a lot this early in the morning, but I gotta. I know a lot of y'all understand where the fuck I'm coming from. Let these motherfuckers hate because, guess what, there's somebody out here that's happy for you and there's probably a thousand out of them that hate your motherfucking existence. So let the motherfucking thousand people hate your existence because a like they used to say on goddamn v103.
Speaker 1:At one point in time in my life I used to hit here and not understand when I was a young jet, make your haters your motivators, your haters your motor motherfucking vaders. You hear me? Because you got to understand if you if they ain't hating on you you're doing something wrong. You need to do that shit 10 times over. Let them hate even more Because, at the end of the day, man, fuck these folks, fuck them, fuck their opinion.
Speaker 1:And you, motherfucking know, you on your grizzly, you on your grind, you on your stand up, guy or woman, shit, regardless of what you doing, just strive. Hey, you might be struggling, shit, regardless of what you're doing, just strive. Hey, you might be struggling, but shit, hey, you, struggling with emotion, you're going to make that shit work. Trust me, this is from somebody that didn't struggle, shit. I remember one point in time, shit, I had to borrow $2.50 from my partner because I couldn't even afford a bill and he told me don't worry about it, bro, shit, you're going to help me out one day when I'm low and lo and behold, shit, that nigga ain't have a car once upon a time. And shit, he needed rides to work. Shit. I went and picked this nigga up, dropped back off and told him hey, bro, you good on gas, you sure? You sure, bro, shit, say that shit.
Speaker 1:I'll give you another example shit, I was walking somebody out to their car at three o'clock in the fucking morning, walked out there, they got a motherfucking flat tire. This ain't in my job description, but me as a human being. At three in the morning, shit, this young lady got a fucking flat tire. I said hey, you got a jack. She said I don't know what a jack is. Hey, let's look in your car and let's see if we can find a jack. We found that jack. We put that jack on with that motherfucker to work um, tighten that motherfucking bolts up. Work um, tighten that motherfucking bolts up. Kept it pushing.
Speaker 1:She tried to pay. She tried to pay me 35 for changing her tie. I said nah, sweetie, I don't want your money. Pay it forward, do something nice for somebody else. She looked at me baffled I'm on like shit. You really going to turn down this money? I said yeah, I said because that's not why I did it. I wasn't doing it to get something out of you. I was doing it just to be nice and to be kind, which a lot of people fail to realize. They do shit to get something out of somebody. Sometimes you got to tell people I'm only here to help others and that's what my father used to tell me Shit, just because that motherfucker might got a million dollars, that man might not be no man, that motherfucker might be a motherfucking leech. You hear me, so I just want to tell y'all hey, I'm Jack. Thank you for listening to Motivational Mondays. See y'all next week. I'll see y'all later on this week. From 4 Steps Only we out peace.
