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Motovational Mondays: Circles
Join me in this enlightening episode as we dig deep into the dynamics of friendship and the significant existence of social circles. Relationships play a crucial role in shaping our personal and professional lives, impacting how we perceive ourselves and others. Not every person who enters our lives genuinely offers support. Discover how to identify true allies and the effects of surrounding ourselves with positivity. This episode features raw discussions about motivation, celebration of milestones, and how friends can either uplift or drain our energies.
Explore why blood isn't always thicker than water, and learn the beauty of chosen families. You'll hear thoughts on how real friends should act and the importance of reciprocation in relationships. This dynamic conversation encourages listeners to reconsider their inner circles and strive for connections that empower rather than hinder growth. Let every interaction foster a positive energy exchange, and remember—the right friends can help push you toward the life you've always envisioned. Tune in now, and don't forget to reflect on who belongs in your circle! Share your thoughts and subscribe for more engaging conversations!
okay, yeah, hey, welcome to four steppers. Only on motivational monday, what's happening? Hey, this is jack, your host with the most, or your host with the least, the shortest host, hey. But I would want to tell y'all good morning. Top of the morning, hey, grand risings on this motivational monday.
Speaker 1:Fucking circles, it's not a square, it's a circle. It's a circle. If y'all don't know the reference to that shit, y'all need to go back and do y'all's film history. But anyway, circles, it's real crazy how circles work. But on a side note, shit, I had to call my partner just a second ago, um, and tell him what we're, what, what? Um, the podcast is actually ranked right now, which is fucking crazy to be just in our second year with only 53 episodes out. I mean, I ain't no popular motherfucker, I'm just a motherfucker that talks shit. I just, I just don't know, been through a lot of shit, talk a lot of shit, and this is what we at ranked globally 10, 10 out of 3.5 million podcasters around the world top 10. Now, let that sit there and marinate.
Speaker 1:I had to call my partner and tell him hey, bro, shit, hey, I want to tell you, man, I just looked at my goddamn pie. I got my woot, woot, woot, woot, woot, but we ranked top 10. And this is where the circles aspects come into play. He said man, I salute you, we're going to keep going up, we're going to celebrate this weekend, we're going to do this shit. He said then we're going to chop it up.
Speaker 1:The reason why that resonates so hard with me is because of the conversations me and him have, and everything ain't glitz, glam and glory, everything ain't got no man. I'm complaining about this, I'm complaining about my job. It's the salutes that we give each other when we give you get a promotion, you get a new job. Or I tap in with you when you're going through some shit, you got a loss of loved one, and I tell you hey bro, shit, hit me up if you need some. Hey bro, you need to get out the house, let's go eat some. Hey bro, shit, shit. I'm coming through just to fuck with you. Or even on your business ventures. We pressure you to make yourself better.
Speaker 1:Um, and it's crazy how that shit works, because everybody in your circle ain't really in your circle, if you understand what that means. Um, like my circle and over the years have become like crazy. Um, because just because that you fuck with them don't mean they fuck with you. Um, my circle constantly is getting smaller to the point where it's damn near pinpoint. Because just because they fuck with you on a different, a certain level, don't mean you invited to every aspect of their lives, don't mean they honestly want to see you win in life, don't. It doesn't mean that they that like when you pick up the phone tomorrow hey bro, shit, I'm fucked up right now. Shit, can you let me hold 20 till we get paid.
Speaker 1:That's when true aspects come up. Come in, because if I only hear from you when you want something, you truly and truly don't fuck with me. You truly don't fuck with me. That just means I'm a convenience for you, that means I'm a, I'm an atm for you. Only go to the atm when you want money. But if you, if you there was, for this wildlife we call a roller coaster. Or should I say that the other way around? This life we call a rollercoaster because you have your ups, you have your downs, you have your bends, you have your breaks, you're gonna, you're gonna go fast, you're gonna go slow, you're gonna do that, all the the zip zaps and this thing. And third, but it's. How consistent do you stay on that ride? Because life is a bitch. It just depends on who you fuck within this lifestyle. Because my father just once, once upon a time, told me blood does not make you family, it's the bonds you make that make you family. So, like my partner, mo man me, mo me and mo um met a couple years back and it was on some videography type shit, like when I used to be a videographer, um, and shit, he was asking the ins and outs of this shit. Oh, this, that. And third, I told him hey, bro, and it was on some videography type shit, like when I used to be a videographer, and shit, he was asking the ins and outs of this shit. Oh, this, that. And the third. I told him hey bro, shit, just pull up on me and I'll throw you all the packs I got. It wasn't there. No, I'm going to charge you for it. I just want to see somebody else take this shit to the next level and win or utilize it to make themselves better.
Speaker 1:It's like my partner, glasswork fk, savage, shout out to you bro, we ain't talked, we ain't chopped it up in a minute, but shit, that's my a, that's my brother, for life, y'all. Um, like, I got a couple partners that I like my big bro bu, no matter how, how bumpy this road gets, no matter what the trials and tribulations we get, we always got a scheme to make some money. And it's crazy because if I see one of my partners post something, something they did something, they congratulate something, they push this, that. And the third, shit, that's like my partner, dj Chimney and King Blanco. That's like my other partner, my grade school partner, bishop yeah, y'all done heard him on a couple here on the episodes of here on the four steppers only podcast. Um, then he brought his son over and his crew and then we elevated that's Key Wealthy. Uh, jaquan, oh, that's Tony-O. Oh, I think that's Tony-O. Follow him on all those social media and shit.
Speaker 1:And it's like we grow each other because that's the family that we develop, that's the circle that we develop, because a lot of times it's not always what you can take away from something. It's how you build as a family, it's how you talk to individuals, how you build as a family, it's how you talk to individuals, how you build that circle, because a lot of people don't have the people in their families to go to about questions. They trust the people that they fuck with to answer those questions, to answer those difficult questions. Hey, am I doing the right thing? Am I making the right choice? Hey, bro, shit on your honest opinion, am I? Is this the right move or the best move for me?
Speaker 1:Because you got to realize, a lot of people don't grow up with father figures or mother figures that are beneficial to their lives or productive for their lives and their experiences. Um, because a lot of people will listen to the wrong individuals that give them the wrong advice. Because guess what, like I said before, everybody that fuck with you don't really fuck with you, everybody that fuck with you ain't your friend. There might be an enemy, because that person might give you some bad information, because they want to see you fall and stumble on your on your own face, on your own face. But sometimes, like we got to tell our partners who we truly fuck with, to lift your head up that's like I be on some of my partner's asses Like, bro, you can blow, bro, you can sing.
Speaker 1:Bro, sing your motherfucking ass off, bro, when you going to start doing something, when you going to start doing your acoustic renditions, bro, because I like live shit, bro. That's what I want to do. Not no hating type shit. It's a motivational type shit, because those people that truly fuck with you, those people that truly in your circle, will motivate you to be a better version of you every day. That's why you got to understand your spouse is also included in your circle. That's why you gotta understand your spouse is also included in your circle. Because if that motherfucker Is toxic at all Times of the day and only sees the bad, bad energy type shit, because, hey, energy is transferable and y'all don't understand that shit.
Speaker 1:Sometimes it takes somebody like the just got down you see somebody doing some shit. Hey, text your homie and tell him congratulations, tell him you proud of him, tell him you love him, because sometimes you need to hear that shit when you don't really think like you need to hear that shit, because I can't tell you how many times like my phone been dry as fuck and one of my partners got down and said hey, bro, shit, I just want to tap in with you and tell you I'm proud of the individual that you've become. I'm proud of it. Hey, that's like OK, I shit, I can't forget this person. This person all the time texts me, tell me something. I just want to tell you I love you, my handsome brother, and we rock until the wheels come off and I fought with you. That's a shout out to my sister life, shavita. Goddamn big v? Um.
Speaker 1:Because you got to understand, even through the bad shit, even through the good shit, even through bad relationships, my sister Vito would tell me fuck that bitch. That bitch was a leech. And that's sometimes what you gotta hear, because sometimes you get jaded and caught up in your own thoughts or get misconstrued because you thinking like, damn, she did do that for me. Damn, she did do that for me. Damn, she did do that for me, but damn, she did do that for me. So you teetering on a goddamn like a little what's that motherfucking shit called a goddamn seesaw, because you caught in the middle and you getting pulled both ways and you don't know how to translate that shit in your head. And sometimes they take an outside voice that truly fuck with you. They truly want to see you win in life.
Speaker 1:So you got to understand certain people that fuck with you don't really fuck with you. Them motherfuckers are goddamn uh, we call them transformers or decepticons, if you know me, you know me. If you don't, you don't if me. If you know what a fucking Decepticon is, hey, you know what the fuck I'm talking about. But anyway, a lot of them motherfuckers want to see you fail. But you got those genuine people, those Ah, my diamond in the rough. If you know what that rendition is from, it's from Goddamn Aladdin, because he was telling you Shit. That motherfucker might look rough, your relationship might look rough, but everything gleams from cold when the pressure is plied. That's when you really got down. Find out who really fought with you and who really don't.
Speaker 1:Because a lot of these motherfuckers, man, I'm telling you like I tell people all the time, man, I don't talk to too many people, no more, I don't kick it with nobody, I don't fake kick it. Because a lot of these motherfuckers out here faking the silicone titties and BBLs, or goddamn shit, them motherfuckers goddamn faking in the Viagra that they take to keep their dick up, or the blue shoes that they send on the thing, or that's. That's how they truly fuck with you in real life. Because I'm sorry shit, I ain't here to fake kick it. I ain't here to goddamn be fake shit. If I fought with you, I fought with you. If I got your best interest, I got your best interest in mind.
Speaker 1:Shit ain't no, ain't no misconstrued when it come from me. So are you misconstrued it when you come to that person? I know that's a goddamn word that y'all ain't never heard. I'm talking about shit. I'm a little bit country. I apologize about that. You ain't going to find that word in the dictionary, but that's misconstrued.
Speaker 1:In layman's terms, the definition of misconstrued is you got me fucked up. Because when people show you their true colors, man, that shit make you want to goddamn fuck them up. They make you want to put their hands on them. That means you want to choke them, motherfuckers. That means you want to goddamn box them out. That means you want to give them a fade. But what I'm also telling you at the same time just because you give them that fade, don't make them an enemy. Don't mean they poisonous to your emotion. Don't mean they goddamn they poisonous to your emotion. Don't mean they goddamn they toxic to your situation. Sometimes that's the.
Speaker 1:That's the best way we handle our frustration with people instead of we man, we might have to get a little dirty, we might have to scuff each other up, but at the end of the day, we might, hey, we might cuss each other out the shit. I don't fucking know. Oh you, hey. Or I might say you fuck you old piss-ass motherfucker, old bitch-ass motherfucker. But them fighting words, I ain't going to lie to you. You can say them shits to me. I might have to go out there and reach out and touch your motherfucking ass and we might not be friends after that. But you will know who truly fought with you and who truly not.
Speaker 1:Because us, as human beings, we confide certain situations with other individuals and a lot of people don't understand it. Because when you give people bullets and ammunition and you and they truly fuck with you, they ain't gonna use it to harm you. They ain't gonna use it to sell your name, hey. But if somebody don't fuck with you, they'll take whatever you feed them or take a person's ear that's easily subjected and tell them whatever they want you to want them to believe, to make them put a fire taste in their mouth about you so some people can be persuaded or turn into the enemy and turn into one of them. Foreign powers that you want to gotten on. You know, secular like they, they want to see your shit implode. They want to see your shit blow up.
Speaker 1:And it's crazy that it comes to that point, because when trust is involved in certain situations in your circle, it's what you determine, what you base it off of and what you grow off of. Because, like I've said before, just because they fuck with you don't mean they fuck with you and the and and the crazy part about that whole, that whole circle, that circle rendition, the, the relationship to the circle, is because, shit, a lot of times when you fuck with somebody with any capacity, in any light, any form, fashion or anything, it's supposed to be reciprocated. Ah, you motherfuckers, that's the, that's the key thing. Shit should never be feel, it should never feel like I'm being selfish or I should be one-sided. If I truly fought with you, I fought with you. If it's supposed to be reciprocated, it's supposed to be reciprocated. What I give out is it doesn't always come back in the same energy, because for every action is opposite, but equal reaction, but energy is not to be destroyed.
Speaker 1:Um, but, that being said, is, just because I fuck with you, I give you $25 Don't mean you ain't gonna have my back when it's time to move. Or, like I remember when I was growing up, shit. My cousin used to tell me man, shit, I'm broke right now, fuck dog, nigga, I ain't like to do laundry, and literally shit. I tell him hey, bro, shit, just do me a favor, shit, I don't like to do laundry. But hey, just come help me out at the house where I can straighten up and I'll straighten you out. It wasn't just because I was just going to throw him some cheese, it wasn't because I was paying him for his company. He was helping me out straighten up my house.
Speaker 1:But at the same time, I might have needed a company because I might have been lonely, I might have been in a bad headspace and I just needed somebody that's familiar to me, that I know is a comforting person in my life, that will tell me that they proud of me or they would talk that shit to me that I needed to hear that to infect my earlobes, to get that negative spirit off my back, because I don't want no fucking negative Nancy, I don't need no Karen beside me, I don't need no negative goddamn Barbara, goddamn Brenda in my motherfucking ear, all the fucking time on my back, telling myself I'm going to fuck up, I'm doing this wrong, I'm doing that wrong. That's somebody that you should not have in in your motherfucking circle because, like I said before, energy is transferable. Because when energy is transferable transferable to the next individual shit, that that shit is taken on to you, not pushed out to anybody else. That shit is taken into your spirit. So when they, when they constantly telling you negative shit, negative shit, negative shit, negative shit, what are you gonna become? You're gonna become negative. That's like my daddy used to tell me.
Speaker 1:If your partners are the, if the motherfuckers you hanging around, your partners, your homies, whatever you want to call them, or nothing, but like they sitting at home, they ain't got no job, they just want to smoke weed, drink, pop pills, do cocaine, whatever they fancy is talk about. Hey, well, boy, shit, I hit that new hole at night. Bro, is that the energy that you need to be around? Or like the ones I saw, the ones I have in my circle, the ones that tell you bro, shit, I'm applying for this new job, shit, what you think, man, shit, I'm going for this new position. Go for it, bro, go for that shit. How much that shit pay if it ain't? No, if, because I mean you don't want to be stagnant. Or, bro, shit, I think I'm, I think I need to quit drinking.
Speaker 1:And quit drinking, bro, shit, we get old man. Shit. You need to clean up your life, bro, shit. You want to go to the gym, man, not today, nigga, get your ass up. We going to the gym. Or your homegirl tell you bitch man, you want that fat ass, don't you? So we finna go to the gym. And shit, goddamn, we finna stunt on these hoes. Or you got that one friend like I'm gonna go ahead. Hey, this is no shot, no, nothing, no shade, no, nothing.
Speaker 1:So if you put on an outfit and that motherfucker ain't flamed up, or that motherfucker ain't, goddamn you know, percolating, or that motherfucker ain't where it's supposed to be, and your partner don't tell you, bro yeah, that shit ain't working, or that motherfucker ain't hit you with that beard, uh-uh, that ain't cute, do you truly fuck with that person? Because they about to send you out the door looking like a crash dummy? Because I tell you, I tell you like when I was in my um, my marriage there was. It was a wonderful incident that happened, um, at the time, my at the time, my ex-wife was about to go handle business with her grandfather and you know she had on some real skimpy short shorts. Her ass wasn't hanging out of nothing. But I told her hey, you need to go fix yourself before you go where your grandfather is.
Speaker 1:Because you did that out of, because, like I explained, the tool you don't want. I said the way conduct yourself. In a way you want people to view you, um, because if you don't, people will have that negative insight and put that every um outline of you, even though, even though they don't know you, that's what they were going, that's what they know you as. But a lot of times. But what that did was, once I explained it to her, she said, okay, I appreciate it because, like, even with my daughter oh my god, like they wanted me to buy tights for her. I don't buy tights for my daughter at all. I never will, because I don't want tights for my daughter at all. I never will, um, because I don't want nobody looking at my poopoo, um.
Speaker 1:And, with that being said, like I tell my sons, like I don't know what it is honestly about these y-eans, um, they be trying to rap. I ain't gonna hold you. So, instead of me being a negative dad, someone's on. Bro, you don't want to put your energy into something else. Bro, if you enjoy it, chase it, play with it, enjoy that shit. Or I involve you in my situation or I call with my partners. That is a rapper that has actually put out albums or do whatever, gone to studios and I let them hear what you're saying and I let them give you your insight.
Speaker 1:See, that's why we call it a circle, because, just because it's not beneficial to me but it might be beneficial to my kids, because if you fuck with me, truly, you fuck with my True, you only want to see the best out of every aspect of my life, not just one, and people fail to realize that. But hey, I'm a taste. Is everybody's not privy to being around your motherfucking kids. It's not privy, or, in English terms, privileged, to be around your kids, your family and those you truly fuck with, because you never know the, the, the how can I put it? The, the, the target that they have out there, or the mental renditions that they put in place, to where they say, oh shit, if I could like that.
Speaker 1:Some of the people are like plagues. They, they will share that bad juju or bad, and they'll. And and my partners are telling me hey bro, shit, I ain't feeling that motherfucker vibe or man. Hey bro, that shit weird. Or hey man, shit, I truly can't fuck with that person because they move weird, they move wonky, and a lot of times people don't fuck with you the way you think they fuck with you again because it's crazy on what they decide or what they choose to do, because they don't really fuck with you.
Speaker 1:And how do you gauge that? The only way you gauge it is by communication. The only way you learn about that is through experience. I mean, you can't go in just treating everybody like they're up or they toxic or they poisonous. So what do you treat them? As? You treat them like the unknown, you treat them like they're in the facade because you're learning them because once, hey, once they, once they get hit a couple check boxes or they're like uh-uh, uh-uh, like bro, shit. You, hey, flag on the play, flag on the file. Hey, you flagrant, bro, you violating. They start moving wonky, they start saying wonky shit, they start goddamn sneaking and geeking.
Speaker 1:Sometimes you can't take everybody to every function because, like we tell you, like I was joking with somebody the other day, I said that's why, in my culture and with the way I was raised if somebody throwing a kickback or somebody having a little chin dig over their house, first thing before I even get over there, hey man, who all over there that way is to see if I truly fuck with everybody that's over there, because I don't want to put myself in no bad situation. I don't want to be in the presence of you know toxicity, or a ex or somebody baby daddy or a motherfucker I don't just had a disagreement with because I don't want to ruin your shit, even though that's not my true intention. I just don't want the possibility of this shit doing. But, honestly and truly, a lot of people that fought with you that will put you in those positions. Sometimes them people really want you to do that shit and people fail to realize they be trying that. That's that they might be trying to play.
Speaker 1:Get back, boy. I say I'm paranoid in the motherfucker I ain't gonna hold you, but it's crazy how circles work. So just remember you got to. You got to be careful who you expose yourself to and bring in your circle, because everybody ain't for you or for your situation, hey. So remember that. Remember it's supposed to be reciprocated. It's not a square, it's a circle. It's a circle Now. Thank you for listening to Motivational Mondays with Jack here on Four Steps. Only we out.
