For Steppers Only: Raw, Uncut, and Unedited
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For Steppers Only: Raw, Uncut, and Unedited
Pussy don’t move me!!
Brotherhood, self-worth, and authentic relationships take center stage in this raw, unfiltered conversation that challenges conventional wisdom about what we should value in our connections with others.
When was the last time you examined what "50-50" really means in a relationship? As we discover, it's not about splitting the rent—it's about equally distributing life's stresses and supporting each other's growth. "If I take 50 of my stress off my significant other and help her grow 50 more, that's real partnership," we reflect, pushing back against the transactional view many people have adopted.
The discussion takes a powerful turn when we address the evolution of maturity, particularly for men. That moment in your early thirties when you realize juggling multiple relationships isn't the flex you once thought it was? We've been there. "That's like a third fucking job," we note, examining the exhaustion of maintaining separate lives and the peace that comes with authentic connection.
Perhaps most compelling is our chess analogy for life relationships—recognizing that not everyone deserves to be a key piece on your board. Some people are pawns, others are knights and rooks, and only a select few belong in your "fade five." As Tupac wisely observed, "The realest people have the least friends."
Whether you're questioning your worth in relationships, wondering how to build genuine brotherhood, or simply tired of giving more than you get, this episode offers unfiltered wisdom for navigating life's most important connections. Subscribe now and join the conversation—For Steppers Only.
Yo, Welcome to 4 Steps Only, where we tell you to sit down and watch a motherfuckin' step-a-step. I'm here with my motherfuckin' partner, Enchita Ant Goddamn played in the sandbox with the niggas. My partner's goddamn drink the motherfuckin' king, aka that nigga Bishop.
Speaker 2:What it do man, what it do man, what it do man. Shit, chilling man, chilling man, goddamn, just taking the day at a time, my boy.
Speaker 1:Shit. That's all we ever do.
Speaker 2:Yeah, man.
Speaker 1:What else can we do other than take it a day at a time?
Speaker 2:Shit, man. Shit got to take life as it comes, man. Just goddamn work. You got to take life as it comes, man, Just got down to work. Stay out of the way, man.
Speaker 1:I mean we lift each other up, support each other. I mean we talk business with each other. That's right. I mean that's what brothers, real brothers, do, because we all want to see each other win. That's right. I mean we see each other at our lowest point, we see each other at our highest point. But I mean shit. In this life, in this world, we're never in competition with each other definitely never in competition, man, it.
Speaker 2:It'll never be like that, like I ain't you my dog, you my partner, my brother, my family. I'm not finna, see you at competition, I'm a goddamn, you know. So, like they say, you sit back and you wait, your turn shit your. If your boy goddamn popping harder than you, shit, let that nigga goddamn pop and let him shine. Eventually your time gonna come. But shit, you shine. But at the same time he should be lifting you up like, hey bro, look, you can, you could do that too. God, now you feel me, but you know you got some niggas out here that they, they envy their homeboy. They see their homeboy up, goddamn he. He could have been in his lower point where he wanted to off himself. He done changed it around and went up, nigga hatingga, hating on that boy. But shit, he ain't never like that. What up man. We always got down and lift each other up. Shit, hey bro, what you got going. Hey, look Like the day we was talking like hey bro, let's do this being the move. Shit, absolutely, I'm all in, I'm with it.
Speaker 1:Because I mean shit with us, man shit. We, we see each other. I mean, we're closer than blood. You get what I'm saying? Because I mean shit If I'm down, shit, that nigga tell me tighten up. If he down, I tell that nigga straighten up. You get what I'm saying? Right, but shit. Hey, this is where I'm at right here, man Shit. I'm so tired of seeing this shit. I'm at a mental dilemma. Okay, what's up with these niggas, man? Because every time I see, every time I turn around, motherfuckers offering their box up like it's collateral you get what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:I'm sorry to cut you off Because I know you're ready to get this shit out, because the way I look at this shit, man Pussy, don't move me Definitely. Because I mean, I don't give a fuck how wet it is, how I got down that motherfucker squirt, how much of that motherfucker cream, how much of that motherfucker grip. All that shit, that shit lasts for so Brief of a period. So we looking at a 24-hour day, right, shit, that's 30 minutes out of that day, I sleep for eight hours. What else do we have? Right, you get what I'm saying. You ain't bringing it to the table. What pussy? Because, like, I'll give you a perfect example, I was talking to one of my partners, I was talking to one of my homegirls and she was saying hey, hey, john, you got a drip. I said wait a minute. I said you fucking somebody, right? She said yo. I said that nigga do construction work, right? I said why is that? I said you giving up the pussy, but that nigga can't put up a ring camera for you.
Speaker 2:This shit so easy to install, bro, you really don't need it. I mean, you bone into the door, you really don't need it.
Speaker 1:Or you bone into the side of the wall. But this is what I'm saying, though I fuck with you how you fuck with me.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that right.
Speaker 1:Because I understand we might not have ties, we might not have shit going on, we might not be committed. Even in this situation, I still fuck with you, I still have conversations with you, I still want you to win. But it's like, if you offering up the pussy, what is this motherfucker coming back with what? You just looking for a pocket? Or you just looking for company? You just looking for a rebound? I just can't fathom and wrap my head around this shit because in my mind, like with totalitarian circumstances, I got your back as long as you got mine Right. I mean shit, that shit just ain't fucked up what you think.
Speaker 2:I mean if you got a whole dude. I mean you, my dog, we cool or not, but if you got a whole dude, you should be asking him first, you feel me. And if he ain't good to do that, then what is he there for? Like, that's beyond me. Add baffle.
Speaker 1:Add baffle, because in my mind, like, okay, I give you certain circumstances, like with me, if I fought with you, I fought with you. You tell me you need something. You tell me you need your brakes done. You tell me you got this going on. You tell me you need something. You tell me you need your brakes done. You tell me you got this going on. You tell me you got this going on.
Speaker 1:It's for us to solve that problem together, right, not separate, but together. Because I mean in my what 38 years? Shit I done picked up a couple skills. I done picked up a couple trades. I mean shit, even with me, you know zig zagging through the traffic lanes or hanging in the hood, shit I might learn different hustles. That means if you come at me with a problem, hey, let's figure this out. I mean, if I can't help you figure it out, let's google this shit, let's learn this shit. Right, because I mean you're coming with me with a problem for can't help you figure it out, let's Google this shit, let's learn this shit. Right, because I mean you're coming with me with a problem for me to help you fix. But retrospect.
Speaker 2:If I present a problem to you or I ask you for help and you tell me you ain't got me. Therefore, let me know where I stand with you. They let me know where I stand with you. That let me know where I stand with you. Like you pretty much using me. You want me to help you when you in crisis, but when I'm in down in need, or I ain't got or, or you don't answer the phone, or oh, yeah, okay, or you yeah, that's crazy. Like help me, come up with a solution. But then because if it's you, you're going to want me to goddamn do what it do for you.
Speaker 2:If I'm coming through every time for you, come through for me. At least show me appreciation, show me like, show me you appreciate the shit that they do for you, big fat, especially like okay, the shit that they do for you, big fat, especially like okay, I might be like what you doing. I'm finna. Go to the barbershop. Oh, don't worry about your hair, cut it's on me today. I just want to show you how much I appreciate you. They don't think like that. They just think just because they got some good coochie, you're going to move and jump when they say it Shh, please.
Speaker 1:But, like I told somebody the other day, hey, that pussy might be biting, that pussy might be talking to you, but that doesn't solidify, that's just an add-on, right? That's like if you buy a package, you know what I'm saying. Like that's my insurance, that's my add-on, that's my sprinkles, my glitter, whatever you want to call it. Right, because I mean like that's, I mean shit, not to take anything away from it. I understand how that's an intimate moment, but me fucking with you on a regular basis, like I'll give you a perfect example. I had an ex way way back. I used to go to work and the motherfucker used to get all work and make me hamburger helpful. Or go get me a double cheeseburger or shit like that Double cheeseburger don't cost shit, yeah, nah, but she would do it just to make sure I was straight. Just to make sure I was straight. Or you ain't got to worry about spending your money tonight, I got you.
Speaker 2:That's showing appreciation Absolutely.
Speaker 1:Because, to me, if I'm showing that appreciation, if you showing me that type of appreciation, the nastier I'm going to be, the more solidified I'm going to be. The more freaking shit I'm going to do or not even in a bedroom type shit the more I'm going to fuck with you, even more on the simple minded fuck with you.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's right Even on a simple minded shit Like more people don't don't get that. Like a lot of women, they're narcissists. You feel me, they're like they do fuck the shit towards you and then try to play the victim but then let you realize or peep the shit that they doing and you fall back. Oh, you the bad guy. Oh, why you acting different? Oh, you ain't touch me and such, such, such, such. You might be fucking somebody up. No, why you figure that somebody's barely you. Why it gotta be somebody up. Like all niggas. Don't like all. I ain't gonna say niggas, all men. Men don't jump from pussy to pussy. Nah, because that shit of juggling with multiple women I learned that shit over the years that shit's a big-ass headache.
Speaker 1:Okay, so what you're saying? I got a good question Because we were talking about this shit at work the other night. When did you realize that shit was a headache? At what age did you learn that shit was a headache? I'd say like 33. That's crazy. That's crazy what you saying. That because I told them when I was like 32, 33, I said because I started valuing shit different, I started looking at shit different. I started looking at shit different, I started analyzing shit different. Right, and you know your value your worth.
Speaker 2:You're worth more than it.
Speaker 1:Because I was telling somebody that shit, a headache To juggle multiple women to have multiple conversations. That shit like another, that's like a third fucking job. Right, because a motherfucker don't realize, like the energy that I got to put in to remember conversations, to remember what you like, remember what you dislike, spend time with you, spend time with my kids, spend time over here maintaining my household, picking up extra hours at work, worry about my business, worry about going to school, all business. We're about to go to school. All this shit I've got going on. Who the fuck has?
Speaker 2:time for that. See, like I learned with the shit with the multiple women and shit. You feel me? You telling this one a lie, you telling this one a lie, but you got to keep up with this same lie. But whether this one want more time than you giving this one or she want the same time you giving this one, eventually it going to crash on you. You're giving this, or she want the same time you're giving this, Eventually it gonna crash on you. Yup, why do that when you can just deal with the one headache? Had one already a migraine? You did it with multiple. That's a headache, Bullshit. Go ahead. Then you fuck around and get caught. How can you explain it? You can't. You got caught. You got caught. You got caught up in your lie and your bullshit. I'd rather just deal with one than deal with multiple.
Speaker 1:And the crazy part about it is if your whole spot get blown up. Now you got to deal this shit two ways instead of just one. Now you got to put out fires on multiple fronts to the point where you're like you know what fuck all this shit? And a lot of men don't realize that until, like bro, I was telling them. I said when I started, when I had a daughter and the knowledge I kicked to her is what she's gonna do with coming from some of these men. Right, it's like know your worth, know your value.
Speaker 2:I say that I be telling them. I tell them, I told this girl I work with her like shit. Learn your worth, know your value, like, know your worth, know your value. Because if you don't know your worth and your value, people are going to take advantage of, especially dude, because they're gonna think, okay, oh she, good for the consent on the way. You know your version, your value, you know what you want out of like, you know what you want in the man. How can you sit there and be comfortable being somebody's side, okay?
Speaker 1:okay, like a dude.
Speaker 2:How can you become a being a motherfucker's side dude Like nigga? Know your value. Know your worth.
Speaker 1:So let me ask you a question Does worth always equal a dollar amount? No, what do you think worth means?
Speaker 2:Worth is like like you is, like it's a value, but you gotta know what, what you deserve out of life.
Speaker 1:Cause I mean like what you don't get me wrong, don't get it twisted, cause I was talking to this older lady at work about that whole 50-50 concept. Right, she was asking me what I feel about it. I said if a motherfucker turn off bills, they a goofy motherfucker, because bills come and go. Bills come every month, that's right. That's not 50-, 50, 50. It will never be 50, 50 because we all make different wages, that's right. All make different incomes, we all pivot money differently. I said 50, 50 to me. Now you tell me if I'm wrong.
Speaker 1:If I take 50 of my stress off my, of my significant other, of my spouse, of my situationship, and help her grow 50 more, whether it's school, business or whatever, or help her in that positive aspect and take some of that stress off of her. It's always not got to be money. Yeah, you're right, it could be damn. I got to go do this. I can take care of that for you. Oh, I got to go pick up my shirt. I can go do that for you, all right, shit what. You need them around your house, I can come over and help. Oh shit, we can just kick back, watch movies, whatever, whatever, whatever, all right, and I can cook tonight. That's one less thing they gotta worry about 50-50, you taking the stress off each other.
Speaker 2:It's not 50-50. I'm going half on this because, like I said, it's going to be times where you might lose your jaw, she might lose her jaw, somebody carrying the whole load by themselves Until that person get back on their feet. You might have time with 80 to 20. Shit, so I mean I mean that 50-50 shit. Like I mean, if you dealt both of y'all, got both of y'all, know y'all roll, y'all know what y'all supposed them beautiful, you know, and make sure the household and everything's straight. It ain't just with money. Get like, if I'm mentally going through it, take this stress off me. Help me, goddamn, control my emotion and my mental. Help me ease, ease the stress. Help me, help me, goddamn. You never know what a person thinking you might have. A person. Goddamn they. So mentally drained and mentally stressed they get to the point where they off on they self and all they need is somebody to talk to Take that load off on them.
Speaker 1:So even when talking about that, bro, because like me and you know, because if y'all don't know, like shit, when I say this is my brother, this is like literally my brother this nigga will text me, brother. The first thing he ain't got to say what's up with none and I respond what's up? Or I hit the nigga, just see what's happening with him. We have our highs and low points. We go through shit. Sometimes we got to vent. Sometimes we got to say, hey, nigga, tighten up.
Speaker 2:Yeah right. Well, leave that alone. I don't know about your being. You deserve better than that.
Speaker 1:But it also is like a vault. Right, you ain't got to worry about me telling nobody your shit, that's right. Likewise and a lot of people don't know about that. Like, you ain't got to worry about me. Got now Like you telling me some shit and I throw it back in your face and making your psyche even go even lower than what you already are.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, a lot of like. That's not a friend, that's not a brother, that's not a compadre, that's not a friend, that's not a brother, that's not a compadre, that's not a. That's my, that's my amigo, that's you know what I'm saying. Nigga, we ain't, we ain't in this bitch thick as thieves. So, but a lot of motherfuckers out here do that toxic shit and got them a stab you in the back, but got them trying to fit in with these motherfuckers over here. I just don't get it where some of these people get that misconception in their head, thinking, hey, this is a piece of pussy over here. Shit, I'm going to fuck my homeboy over just for that piece of pussy, my homeboy in need. But this is my piece of pussy over here. But don't get it twisted, don't get it wrong.
Speaker 1:I understand we got responsibilities to that significant other. You get what I'm saying Totally. If I'm saying Totally, if I'm in a whole relationship, this is my boop-boop, this is my little whatever. It's like shit. I understand when my responsibility lies, but it's a differentiating term. Like shit, this is my partner, but I don't understand you, my boo-boo. So I got to balance those relationships Right, but I know we get in relationships and we get misguided Because that pussy is powerful, that mouth is goddamn terrible, that motherfucker, like a goddamn, I mean shit, that shit like a horror movie. You see your whole soul, goddamn. Leave your body sometimes, goddamn millmore, I should shit motherfucker be in the corner sucking his thumb.
Speaker 1:You get what I'm saying. But yes, that's a, that's a feel-good moment, but you have to have. But I look at, I look at this shit like chess, a chessboard. I know my, yeah, we got pawns, we got peons out here, but then you got the king, the queen, you get the jack, the rook, all these things right the night. They have to move a certain way to get shit accomplished, to make our lives move more effectively, because if we don't have those certain pieces in play shit, we fall apart. But it's also also meant to say this everybody ain't meant to be one of those key players.
Speaker 1:Some people are just meant to be pawns, all right to be sacrificed, to go away when I don't need that piece. You can take that piece, but you got like shit. That's my night, I don't. I don't need my piece. You can take that piece, but you got like shit. That's my knight. I don't need my knight to go away Because you think about it on a chessboard. You got how many goddamn? You got a knight, a rook you got a knight a rook.
Speaker 2:Yeah, a knight a rook. Bishop, queen king.
Speaker 1:Right, you got five solids Fade five. Remember that from. Got None T-Mobile fade five. Remember that from got no t-mobile fade five. Yeah shit, everybody can't fit in that fade five. They're right. Everybody can't go on your journey where you gotta go. They're right, everybody can't go to the game when you want to play right, some people just gotta cut them off right people.
Speaker 2:Some people are seasoned like rocco said, something got cut off your hand like I had to tell a dude at work he was talking something.
Speaker 1:He was upset because this girl had got. Don't cut him off. I said, bro, let me tell you something. Yeah, I said you ever had a virgin. Would you ever have a virgin? Again he said no. I said understand this. Some people in your life are seasonal. They are meant to show you certain things and to make you a better person. Some people are there to be poisonous. Some people are there to be toxic. Some people are meant to show you certain things and to make you a better person. Some people are there to be poisonous. Some people are there to be toxic.
Speaker 2:Some people are meant to tear down your psyche yeah, like my grandma always used to tell me, some people come in your life and leave footprints on your heart, footprints on your soul. Leave they mark.
Speaker 1:Some people come in your life and make you want to leave footprints on they face you got damn right, cause I mean, like I had to tell my kids other than shit I have to control. I have to put my goddamn attitude in check a lot of times.
Speaker 2:Definitely Me. If I feel like I'm in a bad mood or my attitude, I like to be by myself, I don't like to talk. But you got some people that they know that you're in a bad mood or my attitude. I like to be by myself, I don't like to talk. But you got some people that they know that you're in a bad mood and they still try to force their hand, force your hand for you. You be like look man, I don't want to talk right now, but they try to force you to talk and then they cause you to get an attitude or get do some say some shit you don't want to say. Can you say that out of anger? Then they oh, you mean, you said so, so, so like I told you to leave me alone, let me cool off and get my attitude and check. Then we come back and talk. But you want to goddamn force my hand and I said sincere or made a decision out of anger.
Speaker 1:That's a decision we both gotta live with yo, absolutely, because I mean, I see it like that, bro, shit, because I'm the same way, because you've heard me even say it to you, say, hey, bro, shit, I ain't in that type of mood today. Shit, just give me a little bit, nah, shit, I'll get back with you. You're right, I understand that, because, like, even coming from you, it's like even coming from you, it's like sometimes we got to give ourselves breathing room. You right about that, because I isolate the fuck.
Speaker 2:How I been lately, like until I get to the point. I don't got to the point I peep a lot of shit and it's just to the point where I be like you know, we're better if I'm by myself. I only got like a handful of people that I deal with by myself. I only got like a handful of people that I deal with because, like Tupac said, the realest people have the least friend. Hell yeah, hell yeah. He said again y'all, the realest people have the least friend.
Speaker 1:I mean, I understand exactly where you're coming from, because I've realized over the years my circle keeps getting smaller and smaller and smaller and smaller, because I, I, I, I've gotten to the point where I don't want to deal with as many people. People aren't genuine, people aren't really solidified, people don't really fuck with you how you fuck with them that's right.
Speaker 2:I learned that shit. So what I learned? That the hard way, I mean shit. Go ahead, bro. You can go so hard for a person whether it's a girlfriend, a friend, family. You can go so hard for them, be there for them, but when they need you, when you need them what it is.
Speaker 1:Know well, do not disturb. Forge a voice Like.
Speaker 2:I saw that little thing on Facebook that said when you down, you struggling and your phone don't ring, don't pick that motherfucker up. When you up and shining, let that motherfucker ring.
Speaker 1:I mean shit. I mean yo, because I mean shit. I don't think there's a day that we don't talk. I mean we might go a day or two without talking about shit.
Speaker 2:We, we talk, we convert, whether through text or either on the phone, we talk yeah, because I mean, I mean you're always, always coming up with goddamn you always, bro, look I got it.
Speaker 2:Which thing about me? I got a little being in proposition for you. You always you feel me. I love a bunch of my guy because you're always like hey, bro, I'm trying to run this shit up, I want to include you in it. Most niggas ain't like that. These niggas see opportunity. They're going to run, they're going to take off for themselves. They ain't. They ain't seeing the bigger picture. For all that, they feel like the. If I part with that shit, everybody around me, the main people that I fuck with, I'm going to make sure they good and they straight, as I should. But you know people that only come around when they beneficial to them. Fuck you, hell yeah shit.
Speaker 1:I agree with that whole whole. Somebody asked me the question the other day if you had 80 mil, you hit on something you want 80 mil, 80 mil just fell on your bank account. How much would you keep and how much would you give away, like family wise.
Speaker 2:Well, eat one of my kids. That's going to be 50 million. Right now I get to eat one of them 10. Why they're my kid? That gonna be 50 million. Right now I get eat one of them 10. Why get my kid? Why I wanna make? Well, I ain't gonna say 10, I give them all 5 million. Why? So they never have to go ask nobody for shit? You already you. You you said but I have circumstances and rules to it. If you're not doing such and such, you can't get it.
Speaker 1:It's kind of like a trish one. So this is my dilemma to you. So somebody asked me that question.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:Because I got a partner that hit for half a million off a lawsuit. Six months it's gone, gone, gone.
Speaker 2:See, no, but listen to me. Six months, half a million gone, gone.
Speaker 1:Partying shoes cars.
Speaker 2:That's where he fucked up at. See me, I'm gonna do this. I'm going to do this. I'm going to make sure my kid and my mama Straight, I'm going to take some. Put this shit in investments, stock bond, all that shit, because the more you invest, if it's invested the correct way, the more you get back. I it's invested the correct way, the more you get back. Absolutely. I'm not finna. Go out here and just cause I got 80 million, go buy a 60 million dollar house or a 10 million dollar house. No, hell, no. I'm finna. Go get me a $300,000 house, not even that it can be a $100,000 house, because I don't want to. If I do some shit like I want to be on the outskirts of so away from people.
Speaker 1:So let me, so I understand where you come from. So let me tell you what I told him. I'll start llc's for every last one of anybody I am giving money to. I'm starting llc for all right that how. Or if I buy you a house, it falls under my LLC. All right, all right that way. If something happens me to go back to the corporation, all right. Um, the reason why I told you about that 500,000, how many people do you think will blow it? How many A?
Speaker 2:lot of people will blow it. Oh yeah, more definitely Because they're a little dumb shit. They're not grown.
Speaker 1:Their mind frame ain't right. They ain't never seen that type of money before.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and they ain't used to shit, but even though I ain't really I really had too much of, but I know I'm smart with I have hissed in this, investing, like you said, llc, like you have grown yeah, like you're educated, you're gonna learn. You're gonna play chess, not checkers yeah, right, like like my 22, my son, my older son, I saw he posted his first 100k, I know I saw that too.
Speaker 1:Hey, shout out to key wealthy man.
Speaker 2:Shout out to god, man, love you my boy, keep going, keep going, keep going. But just like that man I'm so proud of, he come a long way and you feel me like he's been heavily invested in his brain. Yeah, and that's what he Puttin it back into His brain. So I mean like he doin what he supposed to do.
Speaker 1:I mean he he's a smart, smart young man. We gotta give a shout out To Forever Global Cause they always On this motherfucker.
Speaker 2:Shout out to them, boys man. Shout out to them, boys man.
Speaker 1:Shit. I guess that's all for our damn shit today. That's it, my guy man.
Speaker 2:For Steppers Only, man. Thank y'all for having me on them. Motherfuckers like these. My boy say for Steppers Only. Now watch a motherfucking Stepper. Step we out, we out, peace, deuce. Thank you, peace.
