For Steppers Only: Raw, Uncut, and Unedited
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For Steppers Only: Raw, Uncut, and Unedited
Why Does my Baby have a dent in his Head???
Loyalty runs deeper than blood. In this raw, unfiltered conversation about trust and judgment, we pull back the curtain on what real friendship looks like in a world obsessed with oversharing.
Starting with a listener question about single parenthood and dating ethics, we navigate the complex territory of who has the right to judge others' personal choices. The truth is simple yet profound – the only judgment that matters comes from those who know your complete story, not just the pieces they've cherry-picked to form opinions.
Through hilarious and sometimes wild stories from military days in Augusta, Georgia, we illustrate a fundamental principle that seems increasingly rare: what happens in your circle stays in your circle. From unexpected adventures in unconventional strip clubs to the sobering reality of a friend's DUI arrest, these experiences demonstrate how true loyalty manifests when it matters most.
The most powerful moment comes when discussing that friend who, despite facing legal trouble, refused to implicate anyone else in his situation. This exemplifies the unwritten code that separates authentic relationships from superficial ones – protecting your people even when it's difficult, and handling your business within the boundaries of trust you've established.
For anyone struggling with betrayal or questioning where they stand with certain people in their life, this episode offers clarity: once someone proves they can't keep your business private, they've lost the privilege of being in your inner circle. In the words shared during the episode, "I can't rock with you no more, I can't trust you no more."
Ready to evaluate which relationships in your life are built on real loyalty? Listen now and consider: who would keep your secrets, stand by you in trouble, and live by the code that what happens in house stays in house?
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Speaker 2:Man, I can tell y'all my voice is a little bit fucked up today. I ain't even gonna hold you, man. Shit, I'm just waking up. Shit. I've been working like crazy shit. I mean I'm scoped to hit a you know a good chunk of hours but I'm trying to give y'all that same content to infect y'all's illo.
Speaker 2:So I was questioned with this magnificent question from one of our listeners Judgment. She said hey, jack, you got kids. I said yeah, would it consider me a hoe if I let another dude hit because my baby daddy ain't shit? I said, damn, that's a, that's a, that's a, that's a, that's a judgment's. Last question I said but the question is how much do you trust this individual? How much do you got to know this individual? Because I mean, in my eyes, who's a judge? Anybody off anything. And the way I look at it is, if you shut the fuck up and don't let everybody know your business, who is there to judge? Because I mean, you got some people moving, got down real wonky around this world but they quick as fuck to judge another individual situation or you know, chime in another, another individuals. You know whatever, whatever. Because I told I said shit, I ain't gonna hold you the baby, that ain't shit. He ain't there, he ain't present, he ain't, you know, helping you, um, with the doctor's appointments, checking up, tapping in with you about the child and the nigga, just ain't shit. Then I mean go do you boo, but retrospect. You can't just got down sneaking, geek on a dude if he's actually trying to be there as a father, you can't do that.
Speaker 2:I said because she asked me jack, why do you say, why do you look at it that way? I said because I have been on the receiving end of when my baby mama sneaking and geeking, while my mama, um, while she was pregnant with one of one of my kids hell, I think I was one of them, goddamn babies, because I got a big ass dent in the top of my head from shit, something jabbing in the womb. I think my mama was pregnant. Mama, I know you're gonna kill me if you ever hear that, but anyway. But but like we, what we say, shit, you got certain urges. You got certain desires. You got, if people step up and play that position, you got that. It's all about trust because, like I tell people all the time when you pregnant, shit, you can't get pregnant twice. Only thing the baby gonna get is a dent in the top of his head and some good health, um, because I mean, it's like fertilizer. You gotta, you gotta, you know, spread a little fertilizer on the seed to make it grow, so I mean shit, to make it a functioning uh, functioning individual in society. You gotta fertilize that, motherfucker, but anyway. But I mean back to judgment.
Speaker 2:People are so quick to judge everybody's situation without knowing the whole story, nothing but the story, and only hear what that one side of the party has to tell. Because, like I tell people now, in this big age of 38, I am, oh damn, I'm two years away from folding shit. Well, I ain't even two, I'm like one and a half. Um, that I don't. Even if you want to judge me, I don't give a fuck, no more. And the I the reason why I've come to that conclusion is you going to believe what you want to believe? If you know me, you know me. If you don't, you don't. If you want to believe what that person said about me, and you know, and you've dealt with me before, man, fuck you and fuck your opinion. I already know where you're staying, you will flow anyway. So you staying, you will flow anyway.
Speaker 2:So stand on the curb, watch and watch from the bleachers. You can't, you can't come play in the street with me, no more, because that tells me right now that your loyalty lies elsewhere. You ain't really loyal to me. You really just truly don't fuck with me. That or, in in retrospect, that you really truly don't know me um, and we don't need to be rocking together, we don't need to be talking nothing, because I mean, like like once I get burned or find out, find out your hand, like we're playing cards or I can be able to read your hand. Bro, I never trust you again once I hear you flaw.
Speaker 2:If y'all people don't know what flaw means, I mean we're gonna scroll to this urban dictionary right quick in my mind, in my mental, and tell you flaw means fucked up, faded, jaded, um, an individual that's not um, that don't really have your back in different shit, and that was our reading rainbow moment of the individual called flaw. But anyway, if your ass is motherfucking flaw with me, man, I cannot fuck with you. Nigga, you cannot ride in the car with me, we cannot go do dirt together, because in my mind you tell everybody and their mama whatever they want to hear or whatever we had going on, because I mean, we, like me and my buddies, used to run by a code. I mean, shit, that's my buddy Jern Ferrari Fresh, let's see Jern Ferrari Fresh, springer, and god damn, long live my buddy man. Shit, yeah, I lost a buddy in the military.
Speaker 2:Um, shit, I'm gonna tell y'all about a crazy night we had. So this is, this is to tell y'all what kind of individuals I like to have around me. We used to speak by a code because a lot of the shit people don't need to know. Like we used to say, if, if you weren't with us, you ain't going to know what we did. Only thing you won't know is what we, the basics, like yeah, we went out. Yeah, we kicked it. Yeah, we have fun. That's the basics. You ain't going to know the escapades we went on, but anyway, like, ok, I'm going to break this shit down to you. So I used to be stationed in Augusta, good old disgust of Georgia. I'm going to go ahead and tell you that right now. So you know, we used to go down there for drill.
Speaker 2:So we all text each other early in the day, find out when everybody pulling up. We'll either do this Friday or Saturday night most nights is Saturday. They used to pay for our meals. Oh, the Golden Corral, you know. You go get your goddamn good feeling before you start drinking. You know what I mean. We go get, you know, wings, steak, ribs, oh, if y'all didn't know, go to Corral, be bussing like that they do. Even you can tell them which way you can cut your steak to if y'all want to take somebody on a cheap date, you Tell them which way you can cut your steak to if y'all want to take somebody on a cheap date. You know what I mean. Or y'all just want to get out on the town, you and the fellas. We ain't got to do all that bougie shit that the females do. You know what I mean. But anyway, we got down and went there to get something to eat.
Speaker 2:Boom, all of us link up, we all laughing and joking. Everybody done put that shit on, everybody fresh. But you got to understand all of us do not look militant at all. Everybody got on their fits. They got the full beards, they rocking their shit, they jeweled out whatever. I don't do no jewelry, though. I might rock my Apple Watch, but that's it, but anyway.
Speaker 2:So when we leave there they said, jack, what we finna do, man, we finna go politic downtown, you know, get a couple drinks in, then we're gonna go, you know we're gonna, we're gonna go which way the ocean flows us. So, boom, we out, we having a good time. Um, we had this little dive bar, um, on washington street in augustine. So boom next. I know we over there taking shots, boom now. Now you got to understand.
Speaker 2:We some drinkers. Well, I used to be a drinker, I used to be a heavy drinker, like shit. They used to ask me, jack, what day is you drinking Shit? Every day ending? Why? And shit, honestly, why not drink Shit? I'm enjoying myself. As long as I can control my habits and control my vices, I don't let the alcohol do me and take control of me and make me make judgments that I don't need to make. We good, we cool, we steady, whatever, whatever.
Speaker 2:So boom next. I know we go from that spot to another spot. So then we go to this other spot. This other spot, it is a strip club. So we like shit. Hey, man, off our renditions of what we know about strip clubs. They drinks, be heavy, it's a good time, they play good music, whatever. So boom, we walk inside. Why ain't? Why they ain't got no poles in the strip club, they just got these damn little pedestals in this motherfucker. You get what I'm saying. So we like what kind of strip club we is. So we just bust out laughing. So jern, come back from the bar, mad as fuck I said, jern, what's wrong with you?
Speaker 2:man, these motherfuckers trying to charge me nine dollars for corona, nine dollars for corona.
Speaker 1:Oh my god, where the fuck are we at?
Speaker 2:I ain't no goddamn coronas before it because you usually, if y'all don't drink shit, coronas usually run you about 325, four dollars in a bar. They ain't gonna run you no high, unless you in cali. That's when they charge nine dollars. So shit, I'm like shit, fuck it, we'll just go in on a bucket. I said or I think this is the the mindset of the establishment if I charge you nine dollars for a brew, you will go and pay. You'll rather go buy liquor than beer, all right. So you know, we said fuck that shit. We've already been drinking liquor, shit. We were just trying to mellow and you know, die down and shit. We'll just slow pimp this goddamn this drink. So you know, we got a little cup of wine. We like shit man, these motherfuckers talking we, we up there getting our drinks and we getting our ones and shit, we got thems here.
Speaker 2:Coming to the next event a glitter party. What the fuck is a glitter party? This motherfucker comes out looking like the god now, like a little motherfucking orlando brown at a diddy party, covered in goddamn body oil. No, it was not a male strip club. The motherfucker just looked like a little boy with no titties, no ass, just covered in body oil. So it was like what the fuck is this shit here? So this motherfucker started throwing glitter on themselves. I said, oh no. I said I said so we just, you know, we sit back in a cut and laugh about this shit. We just like man. What the fuck man, when we get out this motherfucker, we're gonna we, you know, we're gonna go to another bar. Tell me why shit we. So we sitting there.
Speaker 2:They said the next next show coming up a dominatrix party. Okay, these females look kind of good. They're coming out in all leather and shit. I really didn't think it was really gonna be dominatrix type shit coming to this motherfucking shit. So Old girl done, bent the girl over Then strapped her to some shit. Man, it's the first time I seen one of them got down like the little strap down chairs and the gear that comes with being a dominatrix.
Speaker 2:Tell me why this motherfucker starts beating her ass. I'm talking about she turning fucking fiery. I ain't talking about no little baby pets. This motherfucker winding back and yeah, hey, yeah, hey, yeah. I'm like, oh my god, this is abuse. Oh, no, how did somebody enjoy this shit? I'm talking about she grabbing about her throat, grabbing about her jaw, grabbing about a hell. I'm talking like forceful. I'm like, oh, my god, she gonna beat her ass. So boom.
Speaker 2:And then the next one up was coming to the stage, a brothel party. What the fuck is a brothel party? Tell me why they don't got. Oh no, no, it wasn't a brothel party, it was a burlesque party. I ain't never seen no burlesque shit. So I was fascinated, I ain't gonna lie.
Speaker 2:She came out in that beat. I said, boy, shit, I think I should have been born in the goddamn 30s, 20s, whenever they had that shit going on, that bordello shit. I should have been there. That shit was sexy as fuck. I ain't gonna have you with the goddamn big flowing dresses and the goddamn motherfucker shaking that leg and winding it up in the air. I said, oh, she had a long stockings with the frilly frills on it. I said, boy, this is where we at right here. So my'm popping, so we. So we didn't watch about three shows. So we, you know. So next thing, I know after.
Speaker 2:But in between those shows they used to have like certain situations pop off. I mean, in certain situations that popped off were like you know, your normal strip club stuff. I guess they had to get ready in the back. Um, so you have the regular strippers, you know, going around, but they ain't do no pole work, they ain't have nothing to climb up, they ain't have to be Spider-Man, so you know, they just did the ground movement, shit, I guess it was. You know they couldn't have poles in there because of the insurance, whatever it's fucking called. I'm having a brain fart y'all.
Speaker 2:But you know, know they still had that they were playing the trap music. They're playing, they. You know what matter of fact, they were not playing trap music, they only played like low, like low, low quality trap music. They ain't pay no g's and no shit like that. They played the delicate music, I guess, because they didn't like, uh, certain environments being there, though, if y'all can understand that, um, but speaking on that shit, I'll do a story time for another time about my journey to west virginia, about day strip clubs, um, but anyway, so boom, you know.
Speaker 2:So we were cool on that, so we were like shit. So we, we good, we bought four drinks in on this situation, but after we came from the bar. So you know, I'm good, and I'm good and lubricated because I see, when my partners, he over there got, now I'm looking like he ready to go to sleep. So we're like whatever, whatever. So we got now I'm wondering to do so and so damn, they got a line outside of this. Let's go to there. Let's go check that shit out. So we go them one of the dudes so. And so damn, they got a line outside of theirs. Let's go to there, let's go check that shit out. So we go in this motherfucker. I kid you, motherfucking not.
Speaker 2:We walk in this motherfucking strip club. This shit looks like a goddamn gunshot house, if you don't know what a gunshot house is. Like this shit, like you see, wall, wall, straight to the back though. So we're like, oh shit, what kind of strip club is this? Like, literally, I shit you not. I don't even remember the name of the motherfucker they had. As soon as you walk in the ball right there to your left, you walk down like about 20, 30 feet, the stage right there to your right. So you ain't really got no breathing room in this motherfucker. You sneeze too hard, you might got down, your elbows might touch both of the walls.
Speaker 2:So you know, we find a little spot for all four of us and you know we sitting there chilling politicking next thing, you know. But we see this. We see this thick girl coming in so got in one of the partners I can't remember who it was they talking about something Boy like you know, he talking low and he talking about something Boy, shit, I like a motherfucker, like that boy I'm talking about, like she was thick but this day and age fit thick, like she had a fat ass, big titties and you know, she had a little waist. So I guess she thought we were talking about him, because when she got up in front of us she looked my homeboy dead in the face and said if you don't like it, you can get the fuck out. I said, oh, but I mean she did her thing on that motherfucker. I mean she was souped up. I ain't gonna, I ain't gonna lie to you. She would got down had that motherfucker goddamn punked up.
Speaker 2:And in this establishment they playing trap music, they playing, they playing my shit, they playing like we getting out of the mud, we got down. We ain't a bad boy in the kitchen whipping crack. You get what I'm saying, but it's funny that that happened. So boom, we get like, so we get. This is before Ubers and all that shit got to popping. So we leave this motherfucker, we thugging it. So we walk outside. So we asked everybody, everybody straight to dry, everybody straight dry. Yeah, all right. So, boom, we get it out. Cause this motherfucker, one of my buddies long god rest his soul I'm having a brain fart, I can't remember his name, shit. And I feel so embarrassed about it because, um, it's fucked up, um, but that's my dog for life.
Speaker 2:I don't give a fuck what happened, but anyway, so long story short, so I get in my car to drive back to my hotel. So our rule of thumb is whenever you get to your destination, no matter whether it's a female's house, no matter there's a female's hotel room, you get back to your own hotel room. You text a group and they're able to let everybody know. So in my mind, I'm like, fuck, let me go to speed limit, let me turn my music down, let me just stay in this one lane and focus on this one thing. And I'm I'm so focused on the road I'm driving, driving I said, damn, they go. My Fuck, I am not making this left turn. I am not making this left turn Because the motherfucker is still behind me when I look back.
Speaker 2:So I'm still. So I fuck it. I say I'm going to drive straight. I done drove straight. I know about a good 30 minutes. I look back no, it wasn't no 30 minutes, it was like 10, 15. I look back no, it wasn't 30 minutes, it was like 10 15. I look back up. This motherfucker ain't behind me, no more. So I look around like you know how. You so focused on something, you forget what if like everything else going on.
Speaker 2:I look around, I'm on the other side of the river, in augusta. I'm in north aug side of the river in Augusta. I'm in North Augusta. I'm almost in South Carolina. I do not need to be here, especially at 3, 4 o'clock in the morning when I got to be back at drill at 7 o'clock in the morning. So boom, I plug it into my goddamn Google Maps. I get my man. It's telling me I'm 45 minutes away from my goddamn hotel. Everybody else done shot me a text Letting me know that I made it, except for my partner. My partner ain't texted me yet. So I'm like shit, he might be just fucked up sleeping in the truck.
Speaker 2:So we get back to drill. I see all these motherfuckers and we talking about the shit. We said what man? We're our boy, we're our boy man. So we went to the with the admin because nigga working admin, he ain't show up for work.
Speaker 2:This morning we get a call about 11 o'clock. Tell him why this motherfucker been in jail. He got pulled over for a DUI. He's like, oh man, what the fuck? So then? So boom, they're gonna ask him who you were with. He said oh, I was by myself, my nigga, my nigga. And that shows you where certain people live by the code and other people don't.
Speaker 2:But that ties back into the situation that we were having before, because the only people that knew that we were with each other were us and whoever saw us out in town. But because people would pass judgment on us because we were like shit, hey bro, what we got to do to help you out, what we got to do to goddamn make sure you straight. Because at the same time, since he couldn't drive shit if we lived in augusta, shit, hey bro, we'll make sure you get to work. You need us to go do anything. You need us to go help you with the kids. We need us to do. We never judged about his situation. We were just there to help, even though we influenced, but we were there to help.
Speaker 2:We didn't tell nobody else what the hell he ain't going on. Well hell, we might even lie for him a little bit. Hey man, shit, the motherfucker had uh man he calling the shop so he can't drive right now. So I'm just giving him a ride to work. But we ain't gotta tell him that your license fucked up because you were out drinking and driving.
Speaker 2:Because, because that's not our story to tell, it's not my place to tell other motherfuckers that are outside our circle everything that goes on in our circle. You get what I'm saying. Everything that happens in our, in our situation is not everybody's business, what happens in our situation. So this and that's my point of view and that's my speculation on the shit because let me tell you something if I rock with you and we out here doing dirt or we got something going on, it ain't for the world to know, even if we arguing, we bitching, moaning this, that and the third, and it's in, it's in, it's in my relationship, it ain't for other motherfuckers outside to know what the fuck is going on in my household.
Speaker 2:Because once you start telling shit in my household, I can't fuck with you no more. I can't rock with you, no more, I can't trust you, no more. Then that means you want to be one of these outside motherfuckers that don't know shit, like straight up, because in my mind shit what happens in house stays in house. I can't tell. I can't tell on myself. That's why I ride by myself, because I mean by the head bangles had the best song. I smoke by myself, I drink by myself, I fuck these ho whole by my goddamn self, for real, by my goddamn self. The reason why that's just sick so hard with us is because, hey, I can't go fed on myself, so I wanted to let y'all know. Hey, keep letting niggas put them dancing. We out it's fold. Step is only Peace. Outro Music.
