For Steppers Only: Raw, Uncut, and Unedited
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For Steppers Only: Raw, Uncut, and Unedited
Ur Barber Sucking 4 TIPs
Trust, loyalty, and acceptance take center stage in this raw, unfiltered episode that begins with a viral barbershop scandal. What happens when your barber's private life becomes public knowledge through a shocking video? More importantly, what does your reaction say about you?
The sacred relationship between a man and his barber becomes the springboard for a deeper conversation about masculinity, homophobia, and arbitrary social boundaries. With characteristic candor, I break down why some men suddenly question their barber loyalty when sexuality enters the picture, while others maintain that quality service trumps everything else. "If that nigga product good and my lineup crispy, I'm looking like new money... What do I have to complain about?" The inconsistency in how we apply our comfort boundaries across different service industries reveals much about our lingering biases.
Beyond the barbershop drama, this episode weaves through personal stories that illuminate a philosophy of unconditional acceptance. From embracing LGBTQ+ family members in public to wild tales of drunken misadventures with friends, each story contributes to a larger message: judge people by how they treat you, not by who they love or how they live. Particularly moving is the realization that family support shouldn't come with conditions: "Regardless of what you like or how you dress... I still love you, I still rock with you."
The conversation culminates in a powerful reminder that in a world determined to tear us down, we shouldn't contribute to that negativity by rejecting others for their differences. "Let us live our lives and let us be happy the way we're gonna be happy." Whether you're getting your lineup tight or navigating complex relationships, authentic connections matter more than rigid social expectations. How deep is your acceptance?
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Yo, welcome to 4 Steppers Only, where we sit down and tell you to sit down and watch a stepper step. But I want to ask you something how deep is your love? How deep is your love? How deep is your love? How deep is your? Oh shit, boy, I think I'm going through puberty, good God, almighty. Now I want to sit down and welcome y'all to Four Staples Only. Good God, almighty, my fucking voice cracking and shit. Oh my God, I think my balls just dropped. But I want to welcome y all to this wonderful installment. Oh boy, I heard your bartender sucking dick for clips, for tips. Good God, almighty, what have these niggas come to? What have these niggas come to? Oh my God. I mean I'm gonna go ahead and tell y'all, but y'all gotta be understanding this shit is raw, uncut and unedited.
Speaker 1:I apologize if I offend anybody, but if you know me in real life, you know I really don't give a fuck, my mouth just loose. But this is where I'm about to come from. I done had barbers that were studs bull dag, goddamn goth white females, hell. I done even slipped up and went to grade clips, but I have never, ever, ever, ever, ever in my life have had to worry about my bartender hitting well, not my bartender, my barber hitting on me. It's like, how does that conversation even start? I'm just asking, shit, bro, how you going to straighten out the tilt this afternoon. Shit, I leave the little guy. Don't tighten up in the back room. What's up? Like, bro, how do you know? Like, how does that even transpire? But I'm going to go ahead and kick it to y'all how this, this situation even popped off.
Speaker 1:I went to go get my hair cut because my mama told me I looked like I was homeless the other day. I'm some hair all over my face. Goddamn. Looked like I had a minifro going on. Looked like I was one stage of like I was going through some shit, but really active, real actuality shit. I was just being a dad between working long hours, making sure I made my son's practices, working overtime, got on trying to get my son ready for graduation. You know I just had a lot of shit populating, but it's it's.
Speaker 1:I went to my barber and he said, bro, boom, bro, you won't believe this. I said what's happening, bro? What's up? I'm gonna talk to him, tell him what's up. He said, bro, you heard about such and such, but I ain't gonna disclose his name because we don't do no name dropping unless you really got them. Piss me the fuck off. Then I really name drop, but ain't like half y'all know who the fuck I'm talking about anyway. But anyway he told me something, bro.
Speaker 1:Bro the nigga wife done got down, popped in on. I said what you mean? Popped in on boy, boy, the how watch the video. I said boy. He done showed me the video. Bro, the house look like it's already been destroyed.
Speaker 1:Next thing, you know, the wife got on, pops open the door, bruh the nigga, butt naked I mean butt, booty hole naked, with nothing but a do-rag on and another individual laying in the bed. We don't know if it's a man, woman or whatever, but folks, I mean like the internet is talking, saying that this is another man laying in a bed, saying this man has snuck in in a wee early morning just to gotten on. You know, come over there and chill with the man. And it's a friday morning, bro, you're supposed to be at the barbershop cutting heads, but you at the house, laid up with another man Bro, oh my God bro, I hope this wasn't one of his goddamn clients making a home, goddamn, getting a home trim, if you know what I mean. Trim and paying him with a tip. You get what I'm saying. I don't know if it was the tip or the nut that he was panning with, but hey, whatever floats your boat and rocks your ship, hey, that's on you. Hey, I'm not judgmental here. I'm just saying, like, how does your client turn into your goddamn rendezvous, your rendezvous, your woot-a-woot, your duck-off, something like that? Because I'm trying to figure out how y'all's conversations go, because I know there's other men in the barbershop while he's cutting your head and I mean shit, I understand you cutting his head, but I wasn't expecting the nigga to be getting some head from you, but anyway.
Speaker 1:So I asked a bunch of my buddies, but much of my side of partners, a bunch of dudes I work with the the number one question if this is disclosed about your barber, do you go back and still fuck with your barber? In my Regulation about the situation I told him my barber ain't never Hit on me. So shit, if that nigga product good and my lineup crispy, I'm looking like new money, look like I'm about to go. You know, I'm casket sharp. What do I have to complain about? Because I mean, he's never hit on me. He's never tried to swoop in on me and my product is a one where I never have to question a product. Because if a lot of y'all don't know a lot of these barbers out here charging 50 and 60 dollars just to fuck up your lineup Because of social media, the social media is telling them they should charge this when they're not worth this.
Speaker 1:So where do we stand on this? Because, like one of my other partners pointed out, said shit if they questioned it about still going to their barber. Because I mean, it's a lot of trust between a man and his barber. I mean, straight up, there's a lot of trust between a man and his barber. I mean, straight up, there's a lot of trust between a man and his barber. Because I know sometimes you just go, you ain't got to see the mirror put up, like to check out what it look like. You just know he going to come through.
Speaker 1:But the thing I sit there and question because I've gone, I've had barbers. They be juked out. They be high as fuck on pills. Goddamn gotta take 35 smoke breaks. Goddamn trapping out a barbershop. I'm just saying I've had these type of barbers to where I get frustrated. Or I'm sitting in the barbershop for four hours for nothing, to wait to see, hey, bro, how many in front of me, tight shit, but why?
Speaker 1:The biggest question, like a lot of my partners asking if they questioning their barber, did they find their barber cute? You scared to see over there. You get seen over there to violate. What image of yours? What image are you violating, bro? Because I'd rather see a mother, a motherfucker, seeing me walk out of a great clips than a barber shop. You get me, because there's a difference between a great clips and a barber shop.
Speaker 1:Because the first time I went to a great clips, but that shit, I told Ashley do you know what she's doing? Hey, this is my last resort. I had to go there because I had a job interview the next day. I think I ain't get the job because my lineup was fucked up, but anyway, I asked the lady do you know how to cut hair? She said yeah, I know how to cut hair. The first thing she did was go backwards against the grain Boy. I about died. I about motherfucking died. I thought I was about to have a whole conniption. I literally think I died three times in that chair while she was cutting my hair. But anyway, go back to the story.
Speaker 1:A lot of these guys like what are you thinking? Is your barber cute? You thinking dirty thoughts about your barber? Or have you had, or somebody questioned, your masculinity, about being, you know, an alphabet diver or you know a sneaking geek? A line of frequent, they call them. A lot of folks call them just them download as motherfuckers. A lot of folks call them just them down low ass motherfuckers.
Speaker 1:I'm just curious about what you think, because me personally, as long as my barber ain't never hit on me, I would still go back. But I know a lot of men ain't confident in masculinity, where they can be seen in that light, to where they're like, oh shit, I ain't got shit to worry about. The nigga ain't never hit about me. My money, good shoot. I just know I'm going over there for a product, I'm just going to get a job done and boom, I'm out the door. That's it. Because I mean, men don't question when you go to a spa and there's a man there to give you a massage. So what are you questioning? What are you literally questioning?
Speaker 1:So now this story time, now off that subject with this story time. Um, because I had an ex-girlfriend one time. I mean she ain't shit anyway, but anyway, um, I had an ex-girlfriend, um, and a lot of my like my day, one day, ones that ain't never folded on me, were females and they're my solid partners even to this day. I mean we like 20, 30, 30 years deep, um, home girls and homeboys you know what I'm saying. And oh, by the way, long live Bubba Chuck, long live B-Chuck. Um, yeah, that's one of my partners that passed along, passed away not too long ago. So long live B-Chuck. But anyway.
Speaker 1:So the girl was got down telling me because I used to hang out with my, my homegirl, a lot, because they knew how to got down, you know they'll whip up some, um, some meatballs, some wings they cooking before we go out. So you know, I'm over there munching and crunching before I got known. You know, drink my liquor, cause, like back then, shit, we'll go through a bottle in the night and shoot, we be looking for more liquor, um, but anyway, she asked me oh, you hang with all these females, are you gay? Nah, I didn't, I'm just solid with. No, they just cool the fuck.
Speaker 1:But so one night I'm walking out of a bar like I used to drink liquid cocaines. If y'all never had a liquid cocaine, that shit is like death in a glass. It's in a little shot glass. What you do is you take 151, you take Golden Slugger and you take Jaeger, put it all in a shot. So I used to do those like 3-4 times a night and if you know me, you know me. It wasn't shit for me to bring up a new alcohol for us to try for us going out our our pre-game rituals, um, like I can't tell you how many of my home girls and homeboys, um I done made throw up outside of a club or in the club bathroom or on our way home, shit, I used to tell, to tell them, shit, we either calling Chewbacca or we calling the dinosaurs because they're going to sound like you know, all the way through.
Speaker 1:So I'm getting outside, I'm fucked up, drunk. So they asked me what I want to eat because I'm fucked up. Like you don't take friends to the ER, you take them to the Waffle House or the Crystals. So I told them hey, let's go get some Crystals, them little goddamn you know them little bite-sized sliders, or some wings, because that's the only place open at this time of night. Cool, no problem, as I'm waiting for them to go get my car and pull back up because I'm too fucked up to walk fast enough, a random joe schmo walks up to me. He said hey, bro, can you help me to the waff house? Shit, sure, bro, you just make that out of that. Some directions, I ain't. At first time I heard it was, hey, well, what you finna do. So me being drunk, I was like shit, well, me and my friend we're gonna go to crystals, yeah, but I know that, baby, you want to go too.
Speaker 1:My dumb ass is thinking the nigga from new orleans. So I'm thinking he just saying baby is like we say hey, what's up shawty or something. Hey, what's up partner, what's up bro, what's up twin shit out or something. Hey, what's up partner, what's up bro, what's up twin shit like that, like just lingo. So he says well, baby, I'll pay for yours if you just want to go with me. Why the fuck that nigga keep calling me baby.
Speaker 1:Immediately, immediately, get sober. And I get. I say hey, bro, what you doing? Bro, hey, what you doing. My friend walks, my homegirls walk up. Hey, jj, what's going on? Hey, man, I think this motherfucker trying to fuck me. They bust out laughing. I said, man, I know I'm short, I know I'm small, but these niggas, well, what the fuck, man, I ain't this, ain't that type of party. So, yeah, and then.
Speaker 1:But after that we would end up going to crystals and we ordered like 35 in food, then headed back to um Broadacres, but I, I think we pulled off without the food. I don't even know if I, because I don't remember eating, because I know my cousin Zay was with me, but I don't remember eating. Yeah, that, yeah, that was fucked up night. Yeah, fucked up night.
Speaker 1:I can't tell you how many nights I've had like that, to where it's just a blur, like, okay, man, um, nephew, nephew, drink, um, nikita Shaw, shawana, tawana, all of us done went to Harlem nights in Atlanta, remind you. We getting to it, we drinking, and it's about 45 minutes back home, 45 minutes to an hour back home. So I mean we getting to it, we having a ball. Next thing, I know we there there I done had a lot of drunk escapade nights. Y'all don't judge me. Whatever.
Speaker 1:I used to drink like a fish. Now I don't. I mean, y'all need to see these bottles here. But I got even more over there shit. I damn near got a bar but, um, so the club closes.
Speaker 1:So I done snuck a bottle, a half a bottle, of what was I drinking that night? I don't even know what I was drinking back then. I don't know it wasn't brown yet. I wouldn't establish it brown yet, I think, because I know I remember paying for a bottle and I was like shit, I ain't, finna, let that bottle go to waste. I'm finna, sneak that bitch out to the car. So I ended up sneaking it out to the car. Don't ask me how I got it to the car, because all I know, like my homegirls ain't had no bags, no, nothing like that. So I don't even remember how I got it to the car, because I know it's a half a bottle. So we get back in the car. Nikita, jimmy, half a bottle. So we get back in the car. Nikita, jimmy, all them took off, it's only me and tot in the car.
Speaker 1:So I'm driving. Bro, tell me how I get lost on a one-way street in atlanta. If you go down downtown atlanta, a lot of the streets are goddamn one way. So how the fuck did I get lost? I know I was fucked up, couldn't find 85, um, but I ain't even had a GPS, I ain't had Waze and these motherfuckers long gone. Tell me why I find 85. Boom, I said, oh shit, there you go. Yum Got on there. I done jumped in the HOV lane. I know I'm running like 90 to 95 miles an hour. This is not a good decision. Kids, do not take my shit as a way of life. I made a stupid decision. I drove while I was intoxicated. I don't do that shit, no more. But I ended up catching up to Nikita and Jimmy and I just blew past him. Next thing, I know Jimmy done jumped behind me. Boom, but Nikita calling both of our phones, cussing us the fuck out.
Speaker 1:At this time, y'all, I was in my little, my black Acura Boy. I love that motherfucker. That motherfucker used to go, but we done made it to McDonald's, went to McDonald's. I don't know what the fuck happened. I done got kicked to a McDonald's. Went to McDonald's. I don't know what the fuck happened. I done got kicked out of a McDonald's. Ask me how I got kicked out of a McDonald's. I wasn't trying to fight nobody, I was just being me.
Speaker 1:If you know me, I like to have fun, I like to joke, I like to crack jokes. But I was in McDonald's and I got kicked out. I stay super shit. That's like one time we went to Stroker's and I was with one of my exes. We went to Stroker's and I handed her some wines to go throw up at the club, throw up at the stripper. If you know, certain certain stages have those little ropes around it so you can't go in certain areas. But next I know I look up this girl and got down, went straight towards the rope and just went flat first and hit the flow in front of the stripper. The stripper came down off the stage to check on the girl. I said oh my god. I said oh my god, we too drunk for this. We too drunk for this. That's just type of. That's just type of nights we used to have, just to have fun and have a good time. But I mean shit. But back to back to the first topic that we bust this story out with.
Speaker 1:A lot of men are very homophobic and it's saddening because a lot of them don't know how to. You know, just fuck with people how they fuck with people. Because you got certain people that I'm real close with that people look at me like damn, why the fuck? He fuck. Like one of my cousins. I love him to death, love him to death, love him to death more. He is a makeup artist for the stars. He is a artist. He's a multi-talented individual. I mean top tier. Bye tux, but um, he, I'm sorry, I'm telling my dog to go away. He is a multi-talented individual.
Speaker 1:It's so crazy because one day my cousin is, he dresses up. He dresses up. I mean wigs. I mean that motherfucker be dressing to a T, makeup on point every time. That motherfucker be playing his fuck in his own way. You get what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:So one night I saw him out at a bar I'm talking about him. He in his full little get up. I mean like I mean nails on wig on, makeup on like eyeshadow, all that shit. I said what's up cuz? What's going on with you? I love you cuz. So I go up, dap him up and give him a hug. He says you don't, you're my only cousin that will hug me in public when I'm dressed like this. I said man, fuck them folks, if they got something to say, they're gonna say it to my face. I said if they're questioning me about my sexuality because I'm hugging my cousin, they can do that shit all day. I don't give no fucks, because, regardless of what you like or how you dress, whatever, whatever, whatever, I still love you, I still rock with you. I don't give a fuck. Who's the judge? They ain't God. That's just how I feel Because, like one of my uncles, my uncle's the same way.
Speaker 1:Shit, we make a joke all the time. Because he tells me I'm the black sheep of the family because at one point in time I was married to a white woman. That's my ex-wife, that's dude's mom, but that's dude's mama. But he, his new boyfriend, was white. So he tells me hey, john, we the black sheep of the family. I said, uh, uh, uh, uh, uh, uh. I said that's because you brought. I said, no, you got me beat. He said well, how you say I got you beat. I said because you brought a white man home. I brought a white man home. I brought a white woman home. You, you took mine up a tier. I can't beat that. I ain't trying to beat that you. Hey, yo, yo, drunker trump's mine. But we joke about that because. But, but as soon as I see him, I love him. Shit, I'll always. That's like.
Speaker 1:That's like one of my uncles I rock with. I got got shit. I got four uncles, top three, top tier, hands down my uncle, my uncle Carlos, my uncle William and my uncle Jew Top tier. I don't care what nobody say. They are my favorite uncles because no matter what I want to hear or I need to hear, they're going to tell it and keep it straight.
Speaker 1:That's like when I was going through all my bullshit about my divorce, my uncle and my aunt came down to take care of me when I was going through my surgery and he told me a lot and helped me learn a lot. And he was also helping me through those tough times and giving me those conversations that I needed to hear to pick myself up at that low point, because I was going through a shoulder surgery and a divorce at the same time. So at that time I ain't had nobody to have my back. I ain't had nobody to tell me it was going to be all right, except for my family, my blood, people that actually fought with me, my friends. But that's, that's just what it is.
Speaker 1:No matter what you look like, what you dress up like, whatever, whatever, if they rock with you, just that way. Treat them as such. Don't alienate them because of their choices. Because would you want somebody to alienate you because of your choices, your decisions, your hiccups, your misfalls? Because what makes them happy? Let them make them happy, because there's too much shit out there in this world that's here to tear us down when we don't need our families tearing us down or those we, those so-called ones we care about, to tear us down. So let us live our lives and let us be happy the way we're gonna be happy. Happy Because I mean shit. I get.
Speaker 1:I got told plenty of times oh, you want to know me, what the fuck you mean? One of them, what you fuck you mean by one of them? Because this, this individual, made me happy at this point in time in my life, because I don't see none black and white. I see shit like the crayon box, because everybody has their own potential and own good things about them to where you can love them for them and you ain't got to judge them off off of the bullshit you want to judge them off of. So I mean, if that's your opinion, fuck you and your opinion. And goddamn, just rock how you want to rock, because at the end of the day, shit steppers gonna step the regardless, regardless if you like us or you don't like us, we're gonna step for forever, for our life. So that's why I tell y'all, thank y'all for joining us here on four steppers, only we out. Peace. We'll see you next time. Outro Music.
