For Steppers Only: Raw, Uncut, and Unedited
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For Steppers Only: Raw, Uncut, and Unedited
No F*cks Given
Trust is sacred, but easily broken. This raw, unfiltered episode dives deep into the dangerous territory of oversharing and misplaced loyalty that can devastate your personal life.
Your host opens with a powerful message that sets the tone: certain things in life aren't meant for public consumption. Through painfully honest storytelling, he recounts his own experience of betrayal when a trusted friend became involved with someone he was seeing while deployed overseas in Japan. This gut-wrenching betrayal serves as the foundation for an important life lesson about guarding your privacy and being selective about your inner circle.
The conversation takes us through multiple real-world examples of how sharing intimate details can backfire spectacularly. From stolen belongings at house parties to friends turning on each other over romantic interests, each story reinforces the central theme: "Everything ain't everybody's fucking business." These experiences highlight how easily information transforms into weapons when relationships sour.
What makes this episode particularly valuable is the practical wisdom on identifying false friends and recognizing when to walk away from toxic situations. The host introduces the concept of "cutting someone's ward off" – withdrawing attention and care rather than engaging in confrontational endings – as a powerful response to betrayal. This approach forces the other person to sit with the consequences of their actions rather than providing them the comfort of explanation.
As you navigate your own relationships, remember that maintaining strong boundaries isn't selfish – it's self-preservation. Join us for this thought-provoking exploration of trust, privacy, and the courage to keep your circle small but meaningful. Listen now on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you get your podcasts.
Featured Song:
Caulfield - No Fucks Given
https://music.apple.com/us/album/no-f-s-given-anger/1353167887?i=1353168132
YouTube Official video for NO Fucks Given https://youtu.be/5h6MzuTpFSo?si=SMgvSSJ8MJ84cqT_
I just want to let y'all know how I feel. Fuck your feelings, fuck your feelings, bitch. No fucks giving. Fuck your feelings. Fuck your feelings. Fuck your feelings, fuck your feelings. No fucks giving. Ayy, I just want to welcome y'all to 4 Stamples. Only I'm Jack yeah, that little motherfucker, it's what we tell y'all in real life and on. This motherfucker, to sit down and watch a step for step here on Four Steps is only hey. I just want to let y'all know, y'all that who are tuning in right now. You can find us on Apple Podcasts, spotify, pandora, a lot of other of other places. Hey, you can even watch me here on got on youtube also, because I mean so many people always ask me all the time hey, man, can I, can I watch you on facebook? No, no, I'm not. I'm not on facebook. I'm just gonna let you know that I'm I'm 38 years old and this new technology be mind-fucking me sometime.
Speaker 1:But there's one thing that I gotta get off my chest. There's a reason that I let one of my good dudes I know, um, introduce me today. Um, with that song called no fucks, given by caulfield um. Like I personally know him, he did some fucked up shit to me one time offered me a shot and tequila and I was like shit, hell yeah, shit I was. I was always towards shit. If a motherfucker after you drink shit, you take it. But this motherfucker put a ghost pepper in his bottle of tequila and had me drink the shit. That shit got them through me. So, off guard, this damn tequila already burned, so why would you goddamn make this shit hotter than it already is? Then it was cold at the same time, so it burned and burned, so it was like a trifecta thing going on. But anyway, there's a reason why I introduced this episode with the song called no fucks giving.
Speaker 1:Hey, why y'all? Why y'all motherfucking men and women out here got a pillow. Talk about who y'all don't fuck, who y'all don't sleep with, who y'all didn't, who y'all talking to with this, that and the third sometimes you need to learn to shut the fuck up and let let you deal with who you deal with. It ain't everybody's information about who you deal with and who you sleep with, who you got to do this with. Why the fuck do they care? Why the fuck do I care? Hey, I'm not getting any gratification. I mean, my shaft is not getting wet, my dick is not getting satisfied. My soul and my intentions are not goddamn pleasured because you have slept with this person so honestly and truthfully. I don't give a fuck and and that's the way. You should keep your shit to yourself because, hey, the more people know, the more shit that they can use against you. I mean because a lot of people fail to realize why do you have to tell everything to everybody. Because everything ain't everybody's fucking business. Because a lot of these motherfuckers get out here and tell me something yeah, girl, I sucked Lil Larry's dick last night. Why? Why do they care so much? Why do they care so much to know what you did with Lil Larry last night? Do they care so much to know what you did with little larry last night? Because nine times out of ten, some people that you tell shit to are gonna be envious, are gonna be like man. I know that bitch can't fuck shit. She done told me she can't fuck. She told me she don't know how to suck dick. She told me she don't know how to ride dick. Talking about something, she up there ride dick like this man. Come on now, and when you tell somebody how much shit or how freaky the motherfucker get, they going to want to try that shit out. That's like if you tell a motherfucker Boy, shit, I was over there hitting little shawty. She was squirting like a motherfucker. I mean shit, my bed was covered, boy, I thought I was swimming in the Atlantic Ocean. Now, when you giving that motherfucker All that information no matter if he's your partner, your ace, boom coon, whatever that motherfucker might want to try your shit out you get what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:The reason why I say that I had to learn from my own experiences that everybody that you hang with, everybody that you work with, everybody that's around you in general Don't really fuck with you the way you think they fuck with you. The reason why I say that is because, like, I'll tell you a little story time. Um, it's like we call we call niggas jodies in the military. Um, y'all might call him the mailman, y'all might call him the plumber, the ditch digger. Oh, you gotta go see a man about a horse. You know just little shit here and there. So I'm going to tell you what happened to me. So I let my partner be around Shit, this is when I was younger, because I mean shit, you got to go through shit to learn shit.
Speaker 1:So this is when I was younger I started dealing with this female. So when I started dealing with her, shit, my partner would come around sometime because, you know, I was hanging with her uncles, her cousins and her brothers, shit like that, like just hanging with the fam. So I mean it was a good time, it was a good vibe, it was a good session. That's why I say everybody that hang with you ain't really your fucking friend. So boom, this, that.
Speaker 1:And the third happened blah, blah, blah. Next thing, you know, shit, I get shipped overseas me and this girl had never done anything yet. Oh, let me go ahead and retract it, whatever the fuck. How the fuck you say it, but we ain't, we ain't doing nothing yet. But next thing, you know, shit I done got shipped overseas to japan. Oh, yeah, I was in japan, um.
Speaker 1:And next thing, I know, you know, at that time, shit, you know, I'm scrolling through facebook because I really can't call, because we're 16 hours ahead. Um, I mean I could try to call, I could try, whatever. So one of my partners yeah, boy, I'm going over there to hang with, okay, shit, cool, whatever. Whatever I said, how's everything going? The motherfucker started to go. You know, shit started seeming a little weird with the motherfucker and every time I talked to him he was always saying he was leaving from over there. Now, I remind you, I'm like three quarters across the world, so I there's no way I can pop up.
Speaker 1:Next thing I know shit. I'm scrolling through Facebook. I see this motherfucker pregnant. It ain't mine pregnant, it ain't mine. She ain't told me shit. Remind you, it's only been 30 days since I've been gone.
Speaker 1:Next thing I know I come to find out she's pregnant by my homeboy. Fucked up, ain't it? She told my son oh, blah, blah, this, that and the third, la la, la, shit happened. So I can't, I can't blame you know. You know what. I'm gonna go ahead, keep it funky with you. I'm gonna go ahead and keep it a thow out with y'all. I was so pissed off I said fuck both of them. I'll tell my nigga I was seeing red.
Speaker 1:So when I got back to the States, within nine months, her brother, like I, touched down and her brother got down and told me Bro, come to Fort Wooders. I ain't seen you in a minute. So you know I'm going over there. They cooking on the grill and shit. I didn't know she was there. So I popped up over there. I wasn't going to say two words. She big and pregnant now, so I told her. The asshole in me Told her. I wish you the best Congratulations. What can I talk to you, man? What you got to talk to me, man? Talk to your baby dad. Whatever man come to find out, this nigga done jumped on him. But that ain't the worst thing you can do to a motherfucker.
Speaker 1:So it came to find out by two different STDs while pregnant with the dude's baby, not one time, but twice. So in my mind it's just like shit. Hey, karma did my justice. I ain't got to say nothing. I ain't got to do nothing. Shawty, you been got down pissing fire for the longest. Next thing, I know he walk up on me, try to shake my hand I'm a little short with the motherfucker at this time. So I mean I got a lot of built up frustration. Like bro, you violated Nigga. I can't trust you. Nigga, I don't even want to dap your hand. Nigga. You contagious nigga. You around here spreading love to each and everybody.
Speaker 1:I didn't think the teacher meant sharing is caring when you got out here giving STDs to motherfuckers Just like it's, like you giving out dollar bills, like you giving out free candy. So it's like, bro, shit, oh shit, I mean you grab your penis with your goddamn infected hand. No, bro, shit, that shit, nasty bro. That shit like, oh, you trying to pass, you trying to pass germs off to me, I don't want to't want to touch you, nigga. You contagious you a fuck nigga. So boom shit. So he, he tried to swell up. So shit, I told her, I told her some shakes on, do something. So um, but her brother ended up telling us ajj, not right here, not right here, my dude's gonna say something, she's gonna be pissed off, whatever. All right, cool, no problem. So to this day.
Speaker 1:Fourth, I don't fuck with him. So, but fast forward. So I'm 38, I had to learn some shit. I'm thinking motherfuckers, be on your corner. This and the third you'll be telling shit. You know they confide in shit in you and you don't tell shit. Just a stand up, motherfucker that you fuck with. You don't tell what the fuck. Your partner call you on the phone and tell you Two, three o'clock in the morning he going through shit With his old lady, goddamn. So next thing, you know you be like this shit. Hey, bro, if you need to pull up. Goddamn, get away from the house. It might be 2 o'clock, 3 o'clock, 4 o'clock in the morning. Come to find out.
Speaker 1:This nigga telling my business instead of telling his own. And it's like bro, why are you telling my shit? Why are you telling my story and you telling the motherfuckers that don't even know the whole story? What are you doing? They don't even know the whole story. What are you doing? You're telling this shit to motherfuckers that don't know the whole ins and outs and everything. You just want to tell select points and certain situations to where you just got some shit to talk about.
Speaker 1:I mean to me you're running your mouth like a hoe and that doesn't sit well with me because it's like how can I trust you from this day and a third? So then you start looking at everybody as the, the opposition opponents, as everybody's against you. So now it's like to be honest, it's fuck everybody. I don't talk about shit. I don't say shit. If it's private, it's private. I don't talk about shit. I don't say shit. If it's private, it's private. I don't tell who the fuck I'm fucking with. Nothing Like. If it's my business, it's my business, I don't even. I don't even. It ain't no more sharing, it's caring. Fuck that dumb shit. You can keep that shit. So now, shit.
Speaker 1:So I'm dealing with a lot of YNs. Now I'm starting to see two homeboys beef, which is weird to me. It's like I done seen these boys got down and talk about yeah, we went out the weekend, we went paintballing, we went this, that. And the third, we went got down, had drinks, we got fucked. Now these motherfuckers over here beefing about a wet spot, these boys out here beefing about a piece of pussy.
Speaker 1:Why couldn't you come to your homeboy and tell him what the fuck you had going on and remind y'all this, this, this, this the problem with your partner. Knew you were trying to holler at old girl first, but he backdoored your ass now. Now shawty got you looking crazy, bro, over here lying and it's like, bro, sometimes y'all need to goddamn learn how to shut the fuck up, do what the fuck y'all gonna do and just move how you move. Because you couldn't come up to your, your partner as a stand-up man and tell him what the fuck you want to do, or told him that shawty wasn't feeling them. He said what kind of partner are you, bro? Because that to me, that's fucked up. That showed me that where your loyalty lie, your lie, your loyalty lie between a pair of legs. Not with your partner, not through the motherfucker you got a goddamn might have to borrow a dollar from, might not who you might have to borrow a ride from, not for a motherfucker that got them help you through stressful situations, or goddamn who you might need for a reference. But that's why, like at the age of 38 now, I look back and see how big my circle is, how many motherfuckers I talk to, because I barely talk to anybody. I might see you as in passing, but them ain't the first phone calls I make to kick the bobo with. Or when I'm got down I got a flat tie, or I'm going through some shit, or even when I'm going through some good shit, or I got some congratulations yeah, bro, shit. When I'm excited about something, y'all ain't the first ones I go to. Now, because y'all don't fuck me over so bad. Why the fuck should I trust you? Because I'll give you another instant. So I would like.
Speaker 1:Um, a couple years back I was having a you know, a kickback, a shindig at my house, and you know I had. At that time I was drinking heavily. I was drinking heavily. Do say like two, three bottles at my, at my shindigs, like I had tequila, I had a whole bunch of shit. I had a full start bar, like I wanted to the point where you didn't have to go out and get no more shit. You, everything was solidified. We had wings, hey, partake, whatever.
Speaker 1:Tell me why I wake up the next morning. I know like shit, I will fuck, don't get me wrong. It was a wonderful thrown birthday shindig for me. But when everything was said and done, I wake up the next morning and I'm like damn, I ain't even bust up, I ain't even spank both bottles of d'use, I ain't, I ain't pop the, I ain't pop the cork on both bottles. What the fuck is my other bottle? Because I got the, the main bottle here that we started with, and I mean I got hen and I got all this other shit here. So what the fuck? What the fuck is my other bottle to do? Say, and it's like, why is it missing? So now I'm goddamn looking through my ring camera, scrolling through my ring camera, you know when everybody, believe me, tell me why I see two of my so-called partners leave with a bottle of my.
Speaker 1:Do say full bottle, y'all ain't, y'all can't empty-handed. So I know this ain't come with y'all and it wasn't a little small goddamn personal size. Do say bottle, it was the party size, it was the heavy size, it was the 1.75 motherfucker of duse. So my question is why did y'all feel like y'all were obligated or y'all had to take a souvenir or a gift from my for my situation? Because you ain't put in, I understand if I say oh shit, hell yeah, bro, you could take that. Motherfucker, I don't give a fuck. I wouldn't give you a full bottle Unless I came over to your house and that's what I brought with me and I left it there. So what made you obligated to feel like you could take that shit away with you? Because to me that shit flowed fuck. But that's where I'm going. But that's why this situation is this story time.
Speaker 1:It's because a lot of these motherfuckers don't understand. So many of y'all will talk yourself out some pussy or off a dick. It ain't even cool Because I mean, a lot of these people got down like their egos and their drama. They get so caught up in to this reality TV bullshit to where they think that that's the way the shit's supposed to work. That's the way the shit's supposed to run. That ain't right. Who told y'all that's the way the shit's supposed to work? Because the way shit's supposed to work is certain shit's supposed to be coveted, certain shit's supposed to be played close to the chest.
Speaker 1:My analogy that I give people all the time is this If you're playing spades, you're playing, god don't uno. Whatever the fuck you're playing, you know your hand and the other person know you're theirs. They share a little bit at a time with you, but they don't show their whole hand to you, because what's in their hand they don't want everybody else to know. So why the fuck you telling my business to everybody else for them to heal and for them to know? So, therefore, I might put something out, but I'm not gonna tell you everything. I might put this out, but I'm not gonna tell you everything. I might put this out, but I'm not gonna tell you everything.
Speaker 1:Same way, you might put out a little piece at a time. You might put a red, you might put a draw, for you might put a heart, a spade or whatever puppet toe, whatever the fuck you want to put it, but I don't know everything. You have going on but that, with that being said, us as individuals, we have to understand that we can't share everything to everybody, because everybody is not privy to knowing these things. It's not everybody's responsibility to know these things, because that's when they go and get the opportunities to go share your shit with everybody. So so I mean shit, so you can look at two sides of a coin, like both of y'all at fault you, you, at fault for letting this motherfucker know. This motherfucker was at fault for God damn running his dick sucker, or she was running her dick sucker.
Speaker 1:This shit ain't this shit. Ain't gender, gender bias. Both of y'all need to learn to shut the fuck up, because that's sometimes you got to sit back and watch the pot stew, because if you don't watch that pot stew, you don't know what the fuck is really going on. You don't know what everybody's exposing themselves to or putting out there for everybody to fucking know, because, like we say before, it ain't everybody's fucking business. So sometimes you gotta sit back and shut the fuck up straight up, because that's that's how we got to move through life. It's fucked up. It's crazy that we got a place, we got to play these secret games, but sometimes you can, you can you?
Speaker 1:You do shit in private because you hold that shit coveted. You hold that shit coveted because you see, like now, with the new shit, even NDAs don't make motherfuckers shut the fuck up. So what makes you think that your honest word is born? Your word means absolutely anything to some people, to sometimes half. These people don't even wipe their ass. So what makes you think and that's some covetous shit, because nobody really wants to let everybody see they got them doo-doo streaks in their drawers. You get what I'm saying. Like, if you see a big-ass turd and goddamn line in their shit, why the fuck are these motherfuckers like? They try to put that motherfucker at the bottom of the goddamn trash can, or they throw I'm sorry, sorry, not the trash can, the laundry basket, or they throw that bitch in the trash can because they, because they don't want everybody and their mama to know that's like shit.
Speaker 1:A lot of, a lot of some people don't want certain shit because I okay, I got another story for y'all, um, so I I was sitting back listening at work one day and, um, this girl comes out because her and her goddamn whatever situation they were in um was got them going back and forth and the first, next thing you know comes out of her mouth. Why don't you tell them how you like to be bent over? Everybody just looked at him. See certain shit like that, certain shit like that. I don't know if they were joking, I don't know if she was serious, but for you to just throw that shit out there for the world to know.
Speaker 1:Now they're gonna be looking at this motherfucking man like he a whole bitch, like he a whole hoe. Now he can't get his reputation back, like boy, that little boy there, but like to get his asshole played in. I mean, if that's your privy, that's your privy. Ain't no judgment here. But what happens behind closed doors, whether she got that guac guac 3000, whether she got that man hung like a goddamn horse, whether that motherfucker be laying in pipe for hours, that's y'all business. That's y'all business. Not nobody else Like whether he like to get bent over or not, that's y'all business. That's y'all business. Not, nobody else Like whether he like to get bent over or not, that's y'all business. I'm just saying that.
Speaker 1:But to me sometimes people be doing too much just to gain attention from others. That's like, ok, I get another perfect example from others. That's like, okay, I'll give you another perfect example. That's like nobody should know that, that your man can't get it up, that he doesn't satisfy you, because now, that's now this the one thing that goddamn pisses me the fuck off. You've been fucking with this man for years, but as soon as some shit go left, the first first thing females throw out there. They try to intimidate your manhood. That's why your dick small, that's why you can't get it up all the time, that's why you don't satisfy me. That's why shit I got to. You know why, why you got to insult somebody Instead of instead of shit. Like I told him the other day.
Speaker 1:They asked me what do you do if somebody piss you off? I cut their ward off. I know a lot of y'all don't understand that term, but this, this is why we use that term cut their ward off. I know it's a country, it's a country term. It sounds country's fault, but it but it will make sense once I explain it. It says if I've been treating you good, I've been treating you right, I've been looking out for you.
Speaker 1:This and the third I stopped fucking with you. I stopped fucking with you. I stopped showing you the treatment that you were getting before. I stopped showing you the attention that you were getting before and I just just back the fuck off, I disappear, because a lot of people don't, because that'll hurt people more, because they start questioning whether it was them, whether it was you, whether it was this person, whether it was this person or why you start fucking with them, because then they would say I just want closure.
Speaker 1:Sometimes you ain't privileged to closure. What makes you think you got them entitled to anything? That's what's wrong with y'all. Stop feeling like you're entitled to something. This shit just didn't work out. That's all that matters. You want your way, he went his, and I mean sometimes that's the way it has to be, instead of you thinking that you got to go back to closure. Man, we don't spend back. What's the point of spinning back? I learned my lesson with spinning back. They ended up me with another child in a bad situation was through some bullshit. So why am I obligated to spin back to a situation that was unhealthy, that was toxic, that was highly volatile, that was violent? I mean shit. Only thing you can do is either, when you go back to a situation like that, they only escalate. You get what I'm saying, because if y'all both don't grow y'all don't go get therapy or figure out some some type of positive way of communicating and transitioning these issues. You only got two options Dead or jail, or just to walk away.
Speaker 1:But thank y'all for listening to Four Steppers Only. Hey, be sure to tune in to us on YouTube, spotify, pandora, iheartradio, cause we having well, we in 49 countries and almost 500. God, no one sees. Well we in 49 countries and almost 500 guide-norn cities. Peace we out. Outro Music.
