For Steppers Only: Raw, Uncut, and Unedited
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For Steppers Only: Raw, Uncut, and Unedited
Sex, Toys, and Honesty
Ready for some raw, unfiltered talk about what's really happening in bedrooms across America? Buckle up, because this episode goes places most relationships podcasts are too afraid to venture.
The journey begins with a revealing contrast: while some men (like the host's cousin) feel threatened by their partner's sex toys, others see them as enhancements to keep relationships exciting and satisfying. This fundamental difference in mindset—insecurity versus confidence—sets the stage for our deep dive into modern intimacy. Through personal anecdotes that will have you laughing out loud (including a hilariously misguided adventure with performance-enhancing pills), we explore why prioritizing your partner's pleasure creates lasting connections while self-centered approaches lead nowhere.
Beyond the physical aspects, we tackle the increasingly transactional nature of modern dating. Why are so many people expecting financial investment before emotional connection? How did we create a culture where genuine interest takes a backseat to material expectations? The most powerful takeaway emerges from this honest examination: "Sexual gratification is the cherry on top. It's not the sustenance." The true foundation of meaningful relationships isn't found in physical intimacy but in genuine connection—the conversations, laughter, and emotional bonds that make everything else worthwhile.
Whether you're single, coupled up, or somewhere in between, this episode challenges you to rethink your approach to intimacy and connection. Share your thoughts or your own experiences in the comments—we want to hear from you! And if you found value in these unfiltered insights, subscribe to Four Steppers Only for more conversations that go where others won't.
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Speaker 2:So I had the Grind lips Hit the shine like this On them. Welcome to Four Stompers. Only hey man, I ain't get the full feeling of that. What you talking about to four step was only hey man, I ain't get the full feeling of that. What you talking about? Gangsters moving signs, nigga, and I don't talk a lot, I don't say a word.
Speaker 1:I don't say a word. I got what I deserve. Hold up, wait a minute. Y'all thought I was finished when I woo. I know y'all weren't expecting to hear me dreams and nightmares. I was finished when I Woo, woo.
Speaker 2:I know y'all weren't expecting to hear Meet Dreams and Nightmares when this motherfucking episode was started, but I had to make sure y'all know I wasn't done. Y'all don't want to pause Because I mean shit. I locked up a little bit. I ain't even gonna hold you. But welcome to Four Steps Only. I'm that little nigga, that tubby nigga, that short nigga, jack, the host with the least, the shortest host. But I want to talk to y'all about.
Speaker 2:I did a poll on my Instagram Four Steppers Only when I'm a lot, and people tell me all the time that I post them on sranchy as shit and they see it, they laugh at it and they be thinking that they want to share it, but they be scared too. I just don't give a fuck sometimes because I mean shit. People already know how reckless my mouth is sometimes when it comes to certain things, um, when it comes to certain things, um, but don't, don't get it twisted, don't get it misunderstood um, we respect people unless we respect people when respect is given. I mean, because respect is a two-way street. So I'm going to get get back to my, to the story today. We're gonna jump straight in it fucking bullshit, um.
Speaker 2:So me and my cousin were talking and he was telling me about him and his wife's situation. My cousin's older than me and his ideals are totally different from mine and sometimes we meet up at a certain tangent. Then we we have two view, different viewpoints or something. And we were talking about toys, um, and he was saying, oh shit, when we my wife, me and my wife started dating, I made her get rid of all her toys.
Speaker 1:I said, bro, why he told me some shit if she got me and she got the real thing, why the fuck she gotta hell that because, oh shit, I ain't finna goddamn getting to get in the bed, go to sleep, lay down, and all I hear is I'm like, bro, please are you serious, you're not competing with it?
Speaker 2:shit. If anything, tell that motherfucker to join in shit, tell that motherfucker to use it while you're doing the x, y and z? Um, because my views are different. I had an x. This is when I was stationed over in japan, um, and you know, I knew I was gonna be gone for a while. So, shit, when we would talk shit and we would text, I was like shit, I ordered you something, man.
Speaker 2:I was ordering this motherfucker sex toys while I was over there so she wouldn't get bored or she wouldn't digress and go find other things out there in the world, or, you know, go go find other sexual partners. I mean that doesn't stop somebody from doing that, but that you know that's like a distraction. And I mean like she would send me the shit back, like she was sending me videos and shit back. Like oh boy, nigga, I can't wait to get back on. You know what I'm saying? Because in my mind it's like shit, boy, I see that thing over there. It would. It would distract me from the otherworldly experiences that are out there, um, because she's keeping me entertained. Um, but like I was telling somebody shit, they were talking about some jack you do and I ain't never done it. Can't say I won't, but I've never done it. I just I'm scared to pull out and I see a piece of corn on the tip of my shit. I'm just saying, um, but I've been seeing females going crazy about these got no butt plugs and I'm just like shit. I wonder if they because I mean shit, it piques your curiosity, because I told somebody, I said shit, why don't we try, um, sensory deprivation? They said what the fuck is that? It's when you take away somebody's senses, uh, certain senses, and like your eyesight, your hearing, um, the way you can touch and feel certain things. Because what happens is it's the same thing with a blind individual. It enhances the, the touch and sensation of other things.
Speaker 2:Because people get this idea that, oh, if I'm with this person so long, um, shit gonna get boring and it will. Because nobody wants to watch the same show over and over again. Same way with y'all mens. Nobody wants to see the same porn star every fucking time. We want to say, oh damn, she got some big tits, oh damn, she got a big ass. I mean, you're going, you're going to want to a variety. That's why we go to buffets, um, but in my mind it's like why, why I try to, why I do the same shit? Because I was talking to somebody. Um, I was, I was listening to somebody and they were saying, shit, I was with this person for 13 years and sex was just normal. Wow, that shit born as fuck. 13 years.
Speaker 2:Motherfucking, y'all ain't switch up, y'all just doing the missionary, y'all just dripping sweat and just looking at the steering ceiling fan thinking about the grocery list. Nah, motherfucker, I want to be goddamn be having that ceiling fan going like this and you sitting up there looking at the motherfucker can't catch your breath. This motherfucker's in full retard mode and I just want to be up there like this god damn girl. What, what the fuck? I want to wake up there like this god damn girl, what the fuck? I want to wake up in a puddle. You know what I'm saying? I don't. I want to be like, goddamn, the old commercial splish, splash. I was taking a bath.
Speaker 2:You get what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:I mean because I told somebody before uh, if it don't make a mess, I don't want it. I'm just. I'm just gonna be blankly honest with you because it's like why the fuck am I here just to catch a nut man? Let me tell you something. Hey, man, just listen to me. Right, quick, and ladies, y'all digress. Right, quick, guys, stop worrying about y'all motherfucking sales. When it comes to a motherfucking nut, you hear me, stop worrying about your motherfucking sales, it shall come. That female is going to feel shitty as fuck if you don't come. You get what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:But if you worry about her orgasm, she will keep coming back. As long as you make her get, get it. You hear what I'm saying. As long as you make her come, the more she will come back. For you, y'all get it. It's like goddamn uh, tom hanks in the field of dreams. You build it, they will come. If you fuck it and you focused on that, she will come back.
Speaker 2:So why sit there and just be selfish as fucking? Worry about yourselves when it comes to these certain situations, because nobody wants to be selfish as fuck in the bedroom. That's like, bro, if you know she got toys, she know she got a rose, she know you got this, she got that toy, bro, tell her hey, baby, reaching that top drawer, get that motherfucker out, surprise her with a new toy. Bro, be adventurous, don't be no, goddamn l12 ass motherfucker, no, lame ass motherfucker, sitting up there trying to say, oh well, I don't want her to get. You know like that, better than me, man, fuck, that she will still like you.
Speaker 2:Because I'm gonna go ahead and be bluntly honest. I'm sorry to tell you this, but not always do they think about us when we penetrating. They might be thinking about that ex-motherfucker they used to fuck with, with the goddamn six foot fucking dick motherfucker used to goddamn hit her like a roto-rooter. I'm just gonna be honest with you, um, and you gotta I mean you gotta sit there and make it worth their while. So I mean I'm gonna go ahead and tell y'all a funny experience. Now don't judge me on this one, because, uh, because y'all know I'm I'm retarded a little bit. I ain't gonna lie to you, I'm a little bit slow.
Speaker 2:So, um, one day, shit, I got these little you know somebody was telling me about to trities, got doing you know these little pills. I'm thinking, shit, this shit gonna work like goddamn um, a tylenol and excedrin and some shit like that. So my little dirt to their ass. Then went to the bathroom, took a shower, took no, I. I took the pill, took a shower, brush my teeth. You know I'm gonna get putting my smell good on trying to get down. Feel all god now you know to be all magnificent when I walk back in that motherfucker.
Speaker 2:But tell me why this motherfucker was sweet. I'm trying to wake the motherfucker up. The motherfucker sleep. I don't know what the fuck to do. I'm sitting here looking like goddamn during it got like captain of motherfucker america. Like I'm about to what the fuck to do. I'm sitting here looking like goddamn dirt it got like Captain America. Like I'm about to blast the fuck off over here looking like Superman. Well, I'm about to tear some shit up and can't tear a motherfucking thing up, but my goddamn pillow, because this motherfucker knocked out drooling because we had been drinking before. What the fuck? What the fuck am I supposed to do with this now?
Speaker 2:And I'm thinking in my head boy, I'm finna, be these motherfuckers on the warning label. I'm finna, be that motherfucker that got them been up there, got them standing tall for the four hours and about to cry and panic. I said I don't want to be that motherfucker going to the hospital having to get blood extracted from my shit. Speaking on that, do y'all know how they got down, make an erection go down, they have to take you in and draw out the blood flow, like the blood out of the penis, so it can get on, go back and down soft. I just want to let y'all know that, before y'all keep taking these goddamn viagra and cialis. And also let me tell you there's a reverse effect. If you, if you can't get up them off and stay up, shit bro, you might need to go talk to a doctor because you might need to go, you know, take some testosterone or some shit, because if you keep using them, motherfucking pills I just want to let y'all know this if y'all keep using them motherfucking pills more than you're, more than you have to, you're gonna fuck around and be stuck with a limp noodle for the rest of your life.
Speaker 2:Your shit ain't gonna look like the oodles of noodles before you put it in the water. You get what I'm saying your shit gonna be looking like this. You get what I'm saying that motherfucker gonna be womp, womp. I'm just saying I'm just trying to help y'all out. Um, and females, I'm gonna go ahead. Tell y'all like this stop hyping your shit up, and it ain't what it ain't, because don't nobody want to be in there and you just in there shrugging shoulders, no back movement, no ass movement, no, no, no clapping, no wetness, that motherfucker spitting out like it's a hard desert, that just bitch, just dry. Don't? Nobody want to be there. Or you got them hole has an echo. I'm just, I'm just gonna let you know that. Um, because I ain't gonna hold you.
Speaker 2:I remember one time, oh my god, let me tell you something. Anybody knows this knows a thing for a fact everybody's shoe size don't fit the same shoe. Okay, I'm just gonna let you know that everybody's shoe size don't fit the same shoe. Um, one of my exes I used to do the strip. She had 38 piercings. She had three tongue rings. Boy, shit was magical. But that's the first person that made me laugh. During during sex, when I was fucked up, I was like blackout drunk. Um, she told me uh, come in my face and make my face pregnant, bro. I bust out laughing and stopped. I said can that really happen? Can you get pregnant in the face? But and next thing, you know that shit done threw off the whole vibe. My dumb ass was sitting there, drunk as fuck and took the shit literal.
Speaker 2:Another instance Like you got to make shit interesting. I had an ex that motherfucker was in a whole sling Like she had just had foot surgery and all I'm talking about. She in a cast Motherf. She had just had foot surgery and all I'm talking about she in a cast. Motherfucker had to be elevated. Motherfucker got horn and shit. Hold that motherfucker up. Don't let that motherfucker hit the floor because she had screws and and bolts and everything in her fucking foot. Just don't let that motherfucker fall.
Speaker 2:I mean shit boy, my 20s with some whole activities. I'll tell y'all that, some motherfucking whole activities. I'm glad I'm refrained now because let me tell you something Back then it was a different world that we lived in and a different environment. Oh Lord, I'm over here reminiscing, but anyway. But what you got to realize, realize is you gotta make shit interesting. Stop doing the boring shit, man, go watch you some porn. Go go goddamn google you some shit. Go take your goddamn drive over to say, uh, drive over to um starship, go on, adam and eve, go somewhere, get you some toys, enjoy life. I mean shit, don't go overboard, don't get that damn a sex machine. And the only thing you hear is like you drilling goddamn wood over there. I mean, shit makes shit interesting.
Speaker 2:Because I'm gonna go ahead and tell you, if a motherfucker, I see that shit in the motherfucker room, I'm gonna go ahead and feel intimidated. I'm gonna have to go in that motherfucker and stretch or do something. I'm gonna have to go take a trip to the one of arab gas station. Get me one of them. Tiger, tiger pills or something. Some ginseng ah, hot soldier, make your dick hot all night long. I'm gonna have to go get me some of that shit that they would that their main language over there talking about. Because, uh, this ain't that and that ain't this. Because I'm trying to goddamn, I'm trying to goddamn stand up to the quota and shit. Right now, shit, um, I met my adversary and I don't think I can meet the quota, but shit, we gonna try. I ain't gonna give up. Shit, shit. I'm tomorrow. I'm being that bitch like I had a title Shit, goddamn.
Speaker 1:You ready to give up Hell? No.
Speaker 2:Shit, I'm ready for goddamn round three, four, five. Shit, I got, I got, I got, I got, I got to beat the machine. I'm over here like John Henry trying to beat the steam engine. I know y'all over there Got them dying laughing, my bad y'all. I be going on a bullshit tangent sometime. I be on my bullshit. I ain't gonna lie to you. And no, this is not liquor, this is just juice. I'm not drinking today. I got shit to do later on. But it's just, don't be discouraged About what you're getting. If you ain't up to par, don't be talking about some girl shit. I'm going to knock your insides, girl, I'm going to stretch you the fuck out. And don't do it. Boy, you will be in the group chat tomorrow. I'm just going to let you know. I'm just going to let you know Because Don't just hey, if a motherfucker talking shit, let him talk shit. Let him dig that hole, because I ain don't just hey, just let hey. If a motherfucker talking shit, let him talk shit, let him, let him, let him dig that hole, because I ain't gonna hold you.
Speaker 2:I remember one time this girl was goddamn talking cash shit. Oh, you can't handle this, you can't do that, you can't do this. Okay, bro, that wasn't it. It wasn't it. It wasn't it, it was the. It was disappointing. Um, it was disappointing because, uh, the motherfucker it was disappointing, I ain't gonna hold you. Motherfucker didn't know what she was doing. She was throwing her back back. That shit hurt. Asked me to change position. Man, I wanted some. I told her I had to go change my cousin's goddamn four-wheeler tie and I didn't want to be there, no more. I was waiting for somebody to send up a smoke signal so I could goddamn escape. Um, and that it was just too much for the situation, because the way she hyped it up made me sit there like man.
Speaker 2:I know I ain't goddamn drive all this way for this bullshit and I want to. I want to know something. What's the furthest you done, drive, drove to get something? I just want to know, because I know shit. I know some motherfuckers that took goddamn flights and journeys just to get their first little piece. I mean shit, not just saying that's wrong, just I want. I want to know. I want to take a poll. Hey, leave me some comments, tell me some shit. I want to know how far you have driven to get you some tail or a piece of ass.
Speaker 2:I just want to know, have you even gone somewhere with your bonnet on just try to get you something? I'm just saying, have you ever pulled up? Have you ever pulled up somewhere with a pink bonnet on and been like just fuck it, shit, I'm here to heal. I mean sometimes, shit, you just show up to show up because I mean sometimes you just gotta go for the way you are, because if you wait too long that motherfucker gonna be sleep, because I mean I used to be that ignorant motherfucker and tell them folks, I mean drunk as a drunk, as a skunk man, you want some dick or what. You gonna come get me because I can't drive. I mean I done pulled up to some folks house. I am not condoning drinking and driving, I'm going. Let me put this out there. Another disclaimer I am not condoning drinking and driving.
Speaker 2:I got all the way to old girl's house and tell me why, shit. I texted before I got there and passed out in the driver's seat. She had to come outside and find me um sleep in the sleep in the car. I'm sorry, I'm distracted y'all just a little bit. My kids are leaving to go wherever. I don't know where the hell they going? Yes, I'm a single dad. Oh, y'all going to the movies, all right, have fun, be careful. Love y'all, um, sorry about that y'all. Sometimes you got to let people know you love them when you love them, because tomorrow's never promised to nobody, um, but you, you, you try to figure out the situation that you're in because sometimes, um, to be honest, tomorrow's not promising nobody, so you got I'm talking about, so you got to perform like you ain't got to perform. No more boy. I'll tell y'all a funny situation.
Speaker 2:How many of y'all, damn that, thought y'all gonna die because it's too hot, it's? You don't? You don't? You don't work up. You got your blood pressure pumping all the way through the ceiling and you don't try to go round two and three just to prove a point and you feel like your heart about to explode.
Speaker 2:I just want to know, have y'all been through that before? Because I mean, shit I done, did it a couple of times and felt like I was going to die. I had to tell a motherfucker wait a minute, I think. I think just don't touch me, don't touch me. I was trying to grab my heart and everything I thought I'm. I think just don't touch me, Don't touch me. I was trying to grab my heart and everything I thought I said oh God, I gotta get back on the treadmill, I gotta start working on my cardio, I gotta start taking my vitamins, boy, I started saying I gotta do something because I cannot go out this way. I can't go out like Willie Long Long.
Speaker 2:Speaking of Willie Long Long, don't hit everything that is thrown your way. I just want to say that don't hit everything that is thrown your way, because everything ain't meant to be hit, everything ain't meant to be fucked. Like I've said that on a previous episode. Um, because sometimes you gotta pass on certain shit, because certain people ain't all the way there upstairs you get what I'm saying because certain people be on some bullshit. They might be toxic, they might be a psych patient, they might be just crazy as fuck. So I'm gonna go ahead and tell y'all, if y'all get invited over somebody else, go to their medicine cabinet and they'll tell you a lot about them. I'm just gonna let you know because if you go in there and they got some shit called lithium or some shit like that you might need, you might need to goddamn edge the stage left, because that mean that motherfucker been through some things and that motherfucker might kill you in your sleep. I'm just saying, um, but what would you do if you, if you see these things? Excuse my retarded ass dog? Yes, I know he's kind of big. In fact he's kind of old too. Um, but yes, some, some things don't mean need to be touched in that manner, because a lot of times individuals will hype things up to where they that you think that you need to be there. You don't need to be there. Sometimes you just gotta say nah, I'll pass on that.
Speaker 2:And I had to explain to somebody the other day. I said I'm at this. I explained to my homeboy, said shit. I said, bro, this shit got this world, got me so turned off, man, and people's mindsets got me so turned off, thinking that before we even communicate or I, just to get your interest, I gotta fork up some cash Please. What the fuck? What the fuck kind of world do we live in? Y'all simp ass dudes done started this bullshit and these motherfuckers running away with it thinking they just that you were supposed to fork up cash and we have an endless supply of fucking money.
Speaker 2:I heard a female say the other day that she would hate to be a male in this age and era because of the, the stipulations that come on on males pockets. Every male ain't rich and every male ain't got no gotta like that. We have responsibility, the same way y'all do, and a lot of times people don't understand that and they just think that we're supposed to give, give, give and not worry about our own shit. Like what? Why are you pocket watching me?
Speaker 2:If you're thinking that you're supposed to be entitled to everything in my pocket, you ain't the one for me. I'm just gonna say it to you. You're not the one for me. Because why should I pay for your attention? Because if I, if that's the way I got you, you gonna leave when the well runs dry.
Speaker 2:Because why the fuck are you just sitting here and I'm entertaining somebody that don't want to get to know me for real? They're not even interested, they're just interested in what I can do for them. I mean for real, because I'm gonna go ahead and tell you all this, because I tell people like this all the sexual gratifications. Sexual gratification is the cherry on top. It's not the sustenance you get what I'm saying, it's the entire vibe that you get from being with that individual and you spending time, you laughing and joking and conversations and everything like that. But when y'all get to doing a whoop-de-whoop, it's just a cherry on top, it's just the sprinkles, it's not the whole item. But I want to thank y'all for listening to me on my bullshit here at foe stephens only and we out peace.
