For Steppers Only: Raw, Uncut, and Unedited
Welcome to For Steppers Only—the podcast where real ones from all walks of life pull up to chop it up about everything under the sun.
We dive into relationships, careers, education, sports, the supernatural, sexuality, personal growth, entrepreneurship, family vibes—you name it. This is the space for raw conversations, honest laughs, and deep reflections. It’s all about learning, leveling up, and spotlighting voices you don’t always hear.
Whether you're on the rise, finding your path, or just looking to connect, this podcast is your corner of the world to vibe, grow, and step into something real.
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For Steppers Only: Raw, Uncut, and Unedited
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Raw, unfiltered, and unapologetically real—this episode dives headfirst into the messy reality of modern dating culture after the host discovers he's trending on social media for being "too short to have an ego that big." What follows is a passionate exploration of why physical attributes should never dictate personality or confidence levels, and how society's judgments often miss what truly matters in human connection.
With brutal honesty, we confront the epidemic of gossip that plagues male friendships and dating circles. Why do people only share the negative aspects of past relationships while conveniently forgetting what attracted them in the first place? Why do so many seek partners who physically resemble their exes while claiming to want something completely different? These contradictions expose the fundamental dishonesty in how we process relationship experiences.
The conversation shifts to a profound relationship metaphor: relationships are sundaes, with mutual respect as the foundation, shared experiences as the ice cream and toppings, and sex merely as the cherry on top—visible but actually the smallest component. At 39, the host has learned that prioritizing physical connection over emotional depth leads to an exhausting cycle of casual encounters that ultimately feels empty and purposeless. What we should be seeking instead are partners who push us toward our goals, support our ambitions, and complement our weaknesses with their strengths.
Ready for some truth that might make you uncomfortable but could change how you approach relationships? Listen now, then share your thoughts with us on social media. This conversation is just beginning—and we want to hear your perspective.
Hey, welcome to Foam Stalpers. Only, man, we had to change up the beat a little bit Cause I got some shit to get off my chest. Hey, this shit wild. Hey. Well, welcome to the episode. Man, I'm on the TIP, the TIP, the motherfucking TIP.
Speaker 1:So I was at work the other night. One of my close partners. She tell me, hey, hey, hey, hey, jackson, let me holler at you for a second. I said what's up? You know, you on the motherfucking tf? I said I said did youling hoes done put me on the tl? I said wow, because I mean, like, we hear a lot of specializations, speculations, red flags, green flags, whatever the fuck y'all want to call them.
Speaker 1:I don't know the difference between a red flag and a green flag. I know what's stopping to go, I know what the fuck that means, but y'all be throwing red flags On the wrong shit. But she gonna tell me Well, they really ain't say nothing bad. Then they ain't even got you in your street clothes, they got you in your uniform and they talking about something. Oh he, too short to have an ego that big. Oh he, cocky as fuck. Okay, let's go ahead and get this shit straight.
Speaker 1:I tell folks all the time that, yes, I might be short, I might be, yay, tall to the end. You know what I'm saying, but that doesn't depict my personality. So why the fuck should I walk around like I'm small, I'm feeble, I'm fragile? That ain't, that ain't in me, that will never be in me to be small, because I mean, I was always taught to pop my shit regardless of who's in the room. So it's like, why should I walk around like, hey, how we all, how's everything going? I, I am not that individual Know where it's shaped, form or fashion. Because if I fuck with you, I fuck with you. If I don't, I don't, I just don't give a fuck. I mean, that's just how it is.
Speaker 1:And then this T app. It's real crazy how motherfuckers can throw shit out there so they can be high behind a veil of false illusions Because the other party won't be able to see it. But it was all fine and dandy Until we got ours. You're like oh, y'all niggas been gossiping and men gossip anyway. Let me tell you one thing for certain, two things for sure. Number one rule hey, we stick to the code right here. This is the number one code.
Speaker 1:We don't pillow talk. A lot of y'all niggas out there, be goddamn pillow talking on the cold side of pillow and just to get a piece of the wet spot which a lot of times y'all can't even fucking achieve just to throw another man under the bus. I mean, well, how the fuck does that make you look as a man or manly figure to pillow talk or tell this, tell that blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Number two if you weren't present during the exercise, during the, the, the time of comfort, during the time of need, during all this thing, this thing in the third, why the fuck are you goddamn commenting when you don't even know the whole story, because people are only going to tell you the side of the story that they want you to know, but anyway. So one of my partners told, I told one of my partners, they tell my son hey, hey, jay.
Speaker 1:I said what nigga, don't you go out there, goddamn, cracking jokes, because you know you're gonna hurt some folks feelings. What the fuck make you think little old me gonna hurt anybody's feelings? Because I mean shit. We all know every pussy ain't the same. Some of them dry, some of them echo. If y'all don't know what the fuck I mean when I say the pussy echo is, it means, like man, you done had too many niggas up in that motherfucker. To where, um, you jump up in that motherfucker, you sliding in and out. That motherfucker open up that motherfucker feel like a gaping hole. That motherfucker feel like it ain't got no edges, no walls. No, this, no that man. They feel like you can goddamn walk a mile that way and a mile that way and never still touch an edge.
Speaker 1:But hey, you want to comment on certain shit, because I mean I just don't get why people only tell the bad shit, because the only thing you're going to do is oh, shawty, you wouldn't have fucked with him that long if everything he did was bad. Oh, you wouldn't have been got comfortable or tried to find a replacement that looks like him if everything was that bad. Because I mean it's weak. I ain't gonna lie, I got a couple of exes. A couple of exes. When I look at they new mr Mr, man, that nigga look like me. Why, if you couldn't stand me so motherfucking much, why the fuck did you go find a Mr Mr that look like me? I'm just wondering because I mean it has.
Speaker 1:It baffles me, it catches me at shocking awe, because I mean, because I'm sorry, I'm going to tell you like this. Somebody asked me hey, jack, you ever dated a white woman? Yes, I have you ever dated a Hispanic woman? Yes, I have you ever dated a Cuban? Yes, I have. It never will go there again. That bitch lied all the fucking time. But I mean shit. They talk about something, about something. I mean they see my youngest sons and they be like oh oh, he look mixed. Yes, he is mixed. Oh, you one of them. One of what? Because I I'm sorry, a lot of times, if you don't know me, have never met me in real life, I show expression with my face or I might not even say shit at all to let you know that I don't fuck with you. So, whatever, whatever.
Speaker 1:So it's like I get stigmatized by my kids, not to the fact that I'm a good dad, a very damn good dad, that I post my kids, I share time with my kids, but I get scrutinized by the fact that I have kids. Now, what kind of bullshit is that? Explain that to me females. Explain it because I have a sense of responsibility to make sure I am present in my child's life, because my father wasn't present and I know how to fuck it felt for my father not to be there. I know how to fuck it felt. But hey, do I fuck with my father? Fuck no. Do I fuck with my kids? Fuck yes. Do my kids know their grandfather? Fuck no, because if you couldn't be present in your son's life I'd be damned. If you break my kids' hearts, you get what I'm saying, but anyway. So y'all decide that having kids is a red flag. Okay, retardedness is a red flag. And we still fuck with you, retarded ass female. Sometimes, even though we're like man, she say she ain't mean to, but we still give you the benefit of the doubt. But y'all say then we're gonna, we're gonna get.
Speaker 1:On another subject, I'll say okay, let's go back to this retarded asshole. I was dealing with this retarded motherfucker. Then I started realizing like after everything was said and done, I realized how many damn throat she done got, how many niggas have been in her throat. Oh my god, I didn't know this bitch was a goddamn like a gobbler. I mean, I didn't know this bitch was a goddamn like a gobbler. I mean, I didn't know this motherfucker goddamn got her face painted on a regular. I didn't know that you goddamn went to the soul circus and really caught souls on the face. I just didn't know this.
Speaker 1:And then you want to paint me out to be the bad guy. I don't get this. I don't get it. You want to lie and tell folks. I don't push you down the stairs, bitch. No, tell the truth. I kicked, because that's the one thing about me. Don't play. Don't play with me Because I won't play with you at all. But anyway, we're going to get off my bullshit. But then we got so many men out here that play the both sides. I mean one thing for certain, two things for sure I never lie on my dick. Well, well, we got a lot of males and females out here that will lie on their genitalia, and I don't get it, because it's like what the fuck do you gain on saying, oh, I fucked her, he fucked him, oh, his dick small, his pussy dry, da-da-da Nigga.
Speaker 1:First of all, silence speaks volumes a lot more than words, because someone say, oh, I thought you used to fuck with me, man, I don't fuck with her no more. Oh, why, man, shit, I just don't fuck with her no more. That leaves the option to curiosity, because if you didn't say anything bad, because I tell people all the time I wish that person the best of luck or I will say, man, shit, man, I hope that bitch, because I can't hope that bitch cuts to catch the bubonic plate. I almost couldn't get that shit out. It's like I bet, man, I hope that bitch goddamn get water pulled on her, because the bitch a witch. Um, it's like why what's the point of talking when there's no reason to talk? Because, regardless of the good times or bad times, nobody's going.
Speaker 1:A lot of people won't tell you oh shit, she did a magical thing for me. Well shit, why'd you pick this person over this person? Because a lot of people don't realize. People ask me all the time oh, what made you marry her? I say shit At the time. Shit, she was doing things that other motherfuckers didn't help me do.
Speaker 1:The motherfuckers was more interested in helping me build or me becoming a safe place for my kids, because she knew how much my kids meant to me or how much I wanted to be a father, for my kids to be there and I'd be there for them constantly and that and so for somebody to support a dream and an ambition that big, or a goal that big, puts you on a pedestal above almost others. Not how good you can suck a dick not good. How good you throw that motherfucker back and how good it looks and the recoil and that motherfucker just keep throwing back at you. How many times y'all going today. It's not like I tell people all the time this shit built like a sunday. You're gonna have the ice cream, you're gonna have the sprinkles, but you're gonna to have the sprinkles, but you're going to have the cherry on top.
Speaker 1:The way I break down a relationship is the foundation is how much you fuck with that person, how much that person fuck with you. Then you get to the scoops of the ice cream, like the bananas and shit, the add-ons, like oh, has that motherfucker ever had your back? Has that motherfucker been there when you needed him More than anybody else? Can you depend on this person? Can you laugh and joke with this person? Will this person got them? Throw some bullshit up in your face when certain things go by?
Speaker 1:Does the person Go off of your flaws Like Do they leech off your flaws? Because it's like oh, nigga, you da da, da, da, da man, who the fuck wants to hear that constantly? I don't. So you can shut the fuck up talking. Just they leech off your flaws because it's like oh nigga, you da, da, da, da da man, who the fuck wants to hear that constantly? I don't. So you can shut the fuck up talking to me because I will tell you shut the fuck up talking to me, because whatever you're saying is irrelevant. So back to the back to the nature of the hand. So, when you got started getting that, that's the, the ice cream, that's the toppings and shit.
Speaker 1:Now, once you get to the cherry, the cherry is the sex, because the cherry is at the very pinnacle, but it's the smallest key. Yes, it's above everything, because you have to have me satisfied, you have to have me intrigued, you have to have me wanting. Yes, but it's the smallest part of it. Because why the fuck should I put the sex over everything else? Because if you don't have everything else, if you don't have a good foundation, and that shit ain't gonna work, that shit ain't gonna add up, that shit ain't gonna do this out of the third, because I mean, like as a man, I mean we look at certain things, we look into certain aspects.
Speaker 1:I've been with motherfuckers that have cannot cook a lick, but guess what they try even with the smallest things like hamburger helper. Then they start trying to level up with each thing. They might not have to do certain things, but they're gonna try to make it better so certain things can work out. Or I put in the retrospect motherfucker might not like vacuuming, but they don't mind washing clothes. Hey, to take some of the pressure off of you, man, I take some of these chores off your hands because I know you don't like them. Hey, I don't like we're doing laundry, I don't like you know the whole aspect of you, know folding clothes and all that bullshit, but you take that off my hand. It's a quick pro quo. That means, like you do this for me, I do that for you.
Speaker 1:It's a. It's a, it's a team, it's a partnership. That's what the fuck is really about. If we just fucking, we just fucking. But I mean I'm like at this big age of shit. I just had a birthday. Y'all just turned 39, um, but it is the age of 39, sex is the bottom tier. It's honestly like fucking with mad, random bitches, fucking with like just fucking the fuck. That's pointless, that's absolutely fucking pointless. And it mind boggles me how many men be out here At my age and older and it's like Bro shit, I gotta hit some.
Speaker 1:I gotta hit some. I gotta Bro shit, I gotta get like Bro. What's the point? What are you gaining from that? Honestly, what are you gaining from just Fucking this motherfucker Just to get a wet dick For 15 minutes? 30 minutes An hour? I mean shit. If you got now feeling frisky, you get on that hen and you get that honey pack and you get that viagra all in your system all at once, or you pop a perk shit, you get that perky dick and you just go for hours and hours and hours.
Speaker 1:But it's mentally draining. It's socially draining because you're trying to keep up with this motherfucker, this motherfucker, this motherfucker and what she likes versus what she likes. Oh, I got to make time for her, I got to make time for her. It gets draining to the point where, like I tell people all the time, I sit back and I chill. If I have somebody to talk to, I have somebody to talk to. If I'm involved with somebody, I'm involved with somebody. If I'm don't, I don't. Because, guess what? My biggest supporters are my kids, because my kids look up to me and they suddenly like, hey, daddy, thank you for doing so much as you do To hear somebody appreciate you in everything that you do, not just trying to start an argument every two days.
Speaker 1:One day that shit gets toxic, that shit gets aggravating Because, like I tell people all the time, man, nobody wants a toxic motherfucker involved in their life. Nobody wants a bum. No money, no, nobody wants a band. No man wants a fan. Oh, I know y'all don't understand those terms. A band is a bitch-ass nigga or a fuck-ass nigga or bum-ass nigga or some shit like that. Nobody wants a mick, mic, mac Scallywag.
Speaker 1:You know what I'm saying? No, bottom feeding, leech ass motherfucker. A motherfucker that just won't go out there and get they own. A motherfucker that doesn't have dreams and ambitions. A motherfucker that don't have goals. And it's like what are you here for? Are you just a mouth breather because you have no drive? You're not putting one foot in front of the other. Are you just a mouth breather Because you have no drive? No, no, you're not putting one foot in front of the other. To where you're trying to make yourself better, to where you're not chasing a goal, to where you don't see the finish line coming Like OK, I did this race, what's next? Ok, I did this race, what's next, because I mean, I like I had somebody to tell me the other day that that's a big supporter of what I do, um, that I need to go back into my gun shit and I need to start pushing my privatized security and I didn't listen.
Speaker 1:Next thing, I know somebody asked me to work a gig and now I'm trying to get the ball rolling on that because I know once I start, they're going to keep coming, they're going to keep hiring, they're going to keep me there for gigs, they're going to keep me there for shows, they're going to keep me here. They're going to keep me there because I have my LLC, I have everything in place, I have my DUNs, I have everything in place and the training background and the background to do so. Because a lot of people don't have those goals and ambitions, don't have things that make them happy, don't have things that intrigue them, don't have things that pushes, that pushes them to become better. They don't have those drives and expectations out of life. Because they don't, they don't have the good support system behind them. Because a lot of people fail to realize having that partner is the person that's going to push you when you don't want, to push yourself when you don't want to try to achieve certain things.
Speaker 1:So I mean, what's the point? I'm just trying to figure this shit out. And I'm trying to figure out who the fuck put me on this motherfucking t-app. Because I mean shit, quit hiding behind smoking mirrors. Shoot, shoot me a message. I'm trying to figure this out. How many y'all motherfuckers out there on the t-app?
Speaker 1:I'm just trying to figure that out because, in my mind, where are we at nowadays? Because we gotta achieve these dreams, we gotta achieve these ambitions, we gotta achieve these goals and you gotta make sure you got somebody there that's just not there for the benefit. They there for the long haul, because everybody ain't meant for the long haul. Some people are seasonal, some people are bi-weekly, some people are just goddamn, a twinkle in your eye. Once it's there, it disappears.
Speaker 1:And that's where a lot of people fail to realize where we at in social um society, because a lot of people don't understand. Well, well, you know what Fuck that they understand? They just don't give a fuck and they just selfish. And it's like where are we at? Why are we doing this? Why are we so selfish? Why are we so self-centered about self instead of, you know, pushing to make each other better, because I mean, I understand everybody's not meant for everybody, but where are we at? Where are we going? What are you here for? You here to get down? Are you just here to get dicked down just for a little bit? Are you here for just dick appointments? You know what I mean? Let it be known, because guess what, if you just here for a dick appointment, shit, I'm pretty sure another nigga will give you that dick appointment, because that's not what I'm looking for. And so many people fail to realize that they think man, all men are saying they just want to fucking lay up on you. Nah, bitch, it's the ones you're looking for. And same thing for a nigga. You keep goddamn going trying to stick your dick in everything. That's how you gonna come out burning. God, thank, thank you god that I have made it 39 fucking years in my life and never been fucking burnt, because I know a lot of niggas didn't make it that far. Um, because I mean shit, a lot of motherfuckers didn't make it because you got some grimy ass people out here.
Speaker 1:I'll tell y'all a little situation that shit I laughed at when I found out about um back when I was younger. I mean you know me and my poem boys got down hanging around and we all got to talking. You know we sitting around running a guy, now campfire, or we sitting around the guy, now you know the grill and shit. You know eating and drinking, laughing, joking, whatever, whatever. And my and one of my partner's cousins comes up and he's telling us about a scenario, about what happened to him. He told me something yeah, man, I thought this dude was my homeboy. Shit, goddamn. We went out drinking me, my old lady, him blah, blah. I got too fucked up so he drove me back to my house.
Speaker 1:Bro, tell me why this nigga in there smashing my old lady bro, I said what you mean he smashed, bro, he smashed her in our bed. While I was fucked up drunk, bro, I'm talking about I was stretched out in the goddamn living room. Bro woke up with a hangover and I'm talking about woke up, she butt, booty, ass naked. This nigga ain't nowhere to be found. I said, god damn. I said, bro, how long you knew this dude Bro? Shit, only knew him about two, three weeks. There you go. That's a violation already off top. That's a violation off top.
Speaker 1:If you just met this motherfucker, why you bringing him to your house, why you bringing him somewhere sacred. Are you bringing him to your house? Why are you bringing him somewhere sacred? Why are you bringing him all on this thing and into your area and into your element that you comfortable in? Because I'm sorry, like I tell people all the time, your home is your peace, your home is your kingdom. So why the fuck am I bringing miscellaneous niggas Around my kingdom that I just met and then we trying to figure out why the fuck I'm fucking with you and then you do some shady ass shit. Then I know I can't trust you. Then it's like what the fuck? I mean, you got to understand. What was it. What was it, lady, sir King Arthur, sir lancelot fell out all about guinevere. I mean, when sir lancelot started fucking guinevere, king arthur ain't like it. You had him banished. So I mean, shit, you got to understand.
Speaker 1:Females have toppled fucking empires just based off of that motherfucking box. So what makes you think she won't break up a friendship that motherfucker might be trying to get? Get back. And a lot of people don't understand that, because people are just so self-centered and self-focused that they don't see certain things that have been displayed to them and portrayed to them and they just blind to the aspect. They just saying, oh, she'll never do that. She said she loved me. Damn dummy. Oh, hey, can't lie. I've been that motherfucking fool Because I remember shit. I was supposed to go over to this girl's house I've been talking to Whoop-de-whoop-de talking to. She told me come on out to the club. I was like shit. I was pulling up, goddamn drunk so I kept calling the phone. I had called the phone kind of phone like three, four, five times. I pull up to her house. There's a motherfucking car in the driveway At 3 am. Y'all know what happens at 3 am. Ain't nothing to believe. But thank y'all for listening to me. At Four Steps Only we out Peace.
