5 min for Sex is Diabolical

Five minutes isn’t intimacy—it’s a blur. We dig into the myth of “average sex time” and make a bold case for slowing down, listening with your hands, and building a rhythm that puts mutual pleasure first. The point isn’t stamina for its own sake; it’s presence. When you stop racing the clock, you start noticing breath, tension, and all the small signals that tell you when to press, when to pause, and when to circle back. That’s where real chemistry lives.

From there, we get candid about privacy and why discretion is a love language. Bragging about private moments, leaking screenshots, or letting the group chat into your bedroom feels like clout—but it costs trust. We talk boundaries that protect both your reputation and your peace, and we unpack how oversharing invites drama and bad decisions. Keeping it quiet isn’t secrecy; it’s respect for the person who trusted you and the moment you shared.

We also call out the difference between intensity and intimacy. Quick thrills can be fun, but connection is what makes sex meaningful—and better. When you care about each other, you slow down, you pay attention, and you learn the cues that make pleasure deeper and safer. That mindset also sharpens your standards: if someone breaks trust or chases attention with your name on it, you can step back without apology. Choose partners who value your energy, keep your business yours, and treat time in the bedroom like time worth savoring.

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Chapters

• 0:00 Welcome & Stage Shoutouts
• 1:39 How Long Should Sex Last?
• 4:30 Ratios, Foreplay, And Taking Time
• 8:50 Don’t Rush: Focus On Her Pleasure
• 12:30 Raw Talk, Boundaries, And Adult Space
• 16:40 Connection Over Quickies
• 20:35 Privacy, Discretion, And Gossip

Transcript

SPEAKER_02: 0:00

And I know we're gonna make a mama for dinner. Welcome to four steppers only. Hey, I'm that motherfucker. That's that motherfucker. I'm motherfucking Jack. That little nigga. That everybody got down wants to be the same height ass. But anyway, hey, I want to welcome y'all to four steppers only. Well, we tell y'all to sit down and watch a motherfucking step-a-step. So I know shit. The last time y'all saw me, I was on stage. Um, you know, doing what I do best. Hey, they said I shut the shit down, had everybody after me. God damn, wanna be like me. I wanna be, I wanna be like Mike. But hey, I wanna I wanna thank Athens and Athens IndyCon for having me on there and giving me the opportunity. But let's get down to the real shit today. So me and my my little woot-de-woot, you know what I'm saying? We were talking, you know, we were kicking shit back and forth, you know, we were talking. So tell me, so we were having a conversation about how long sex should last. Man, this motherfucker told me shit. That nigga lasts more than 15 minutes, shit. My my shit weak. I was like, damn, 15 minutes, 15 motherfucking minutes. Fifteen motherfucking minutes. Man, I ain't ate the box long enough for 15 minutes. Man, I ain't even warmed up the goddamn microwave for 15 minutes. What the fuck, nigga? Shit. I'm trying to break this shit down in ratio. So I'm trying, I'm talking about some okay five minutes for full play, five minutes for eating the box, five minutes for you give me top, five minutes, goddamn penetration, five minutes, goddamn switch positions. Shit, I'm already at 30 minutes. What the fuck y'all doing for 15 minutes? It makes me feel like y'all just in there shrugging shoulders, goddamn sweating. I ain't even got enough 15 minutes to goddamn build a sweat. Because, like, I tell motherfuckers off the top shit, hey, shit. If you want to do something, don't fuck with me. Shit, play in the street. It's safer to play in the street with cars coming but zooming back back and forth. But this motherfucker said 5.4 minutes. Like, I'm sorry, let me go ahead and rewind it. I read an article that said, sexual ass and the ideals of a woman, 5.4 minutes. I know a lot of y'all motherfuckers in the car, the females that do listen to me, come and say, shit, that nigga can't even blow my back out for five minutes and point five minutes, and and I'm satisfied. But I said, we gotta be realistic. I said, shit, if I if I bust that quick, shit, I'm gonna go ahead and tell you this straight up. I was I was nervous. I ain't even gonna let you. I'm gonna go ahead and tell you some real G shit. I ain't I'm not even gonna let you know I got them done, got them uh already. I'm gonna let you, I'm gonna let it, I'm gonna, I'm gonna sit there and kind of try to keep going. You won't you gonna ask me why I'm over there looking like I'm I got um I ain't gonna say that because I'm about I'm I was gonna about to get blocked like a motherfucker. I about to say some some goddamn some off-color shit like a motherfucker. But in my mind, it's supposed to say, like, if I'm sitting in there still stroking, it's like okay, a female still giving you head after the goddamn fact that you the nut. But you're gonna be yo yo you're gonna go damn near handicapped, you're gonna become a paraplegic. Both of them little legs gonna shrivel up and goddamn, you ain't gonna have no essence left in your body. But for five and five point found? Shit, I'm I'm gonna go ahead and tell y'all. If if I'm in that motherfucker and I just uh real fast, boy, I'm gonna feel the shame of myself because 5.4 minutes. Shit, to be honest with you, I ain't even at five minutes right now. But I mean shit, you're supposed to be in that. I'm gonna go ahead and tell y'all my analogy with you know the whole intercourse interactions. I mean, I gotta be in that motherfucker. I can laugh, I can joke, we can laugh, we can cut up, we can goddamn be, you know, I I gotta be had that little drip of sweat that got them action about the drip on your forehead. I mean, shit, like I told the motherfucker the other day, shit. You gotta be able to put your nose in it, goddamn have that shit all the way up to your goddamn bridge in your nose if you're doing something right, and you gotta goddamn literally wipe that shit the fuck off. It's like, okay, I be hearing motherfuckers sometimes. Oh shit, y'all have hit me with that guac walk 3000. Okay, you sucking, she's sucking dick longer than five minutes. So what the fuck are you doing for five minutes and including full play in that shit? Boy, y'all, y'all must be in there like Sonic. I'm talking about goddamn goddamn full-blown zero to sixty, like y'all in a fast lane in Atlanta, like y'all in a hellcat, like y'all just trying to run from the police or some shit. What y'all in a rush for? Because I mean, as you shit, you gotta learn, you gotta sit there and learn an individual. I hey, it's one thing if y'all are on the way, so like saying y'all gonna be late for work and you gotta get herb and get one in, or y'all about to go in for dinner and y'all and y'all and got them like hot and horny, or y'all wanna goddamn pull off to the side. Shit, I'm with all the fuck shit. But what you gotta realize is you gotta be in that motherfucker to enjoy it. Enjoy your time in it. Take your time with it. Because if you were just in a rush, you only worried about yourself. So take your time. What they say on the mutt? I gotta take my time. I'm a dog, I'm a mutt. Somebody slut or something, I don't know. I don't know. But you gotta take your time, don't rush. Because it's like that, I mean, that's the legitimate thing you gotta do when you up in that motherfucker. Take your time with it. I mean, shit. I ain't gonna go too much into detail because I believe in like this. Like, shit. If I'm in that motherfucker, I done ate it before. It's like you go back in the middle of the night for a snack. Shit, just in the middle of you sleeping, you wake up, you get thirsty, you gotta have a drink. So sometimes you gotta get out of that motherfucker, go back down there for a little sippy sip, come back up for a kiss, go back down there for a little sippy sip again, and goddamn, go back in that motherfucker. I mean, shit, that's the way I believe in it. I mean, shit, you gotta goddamn, you you you're sitting in there to enjoy the shit, not to rush through it. What's the point of you rushing through this shit? Because I want I want to hear some of y'all's responses to me talking about something. Take your time, Wester Rush. Do do do do do. I mean, shit, it's it's the asset, it's the full, it's the full. Oh god, I can't even talk right now. God damn. But I just believe that if you take your time on a person, you're gonna get a second go round. You can't just go in there all willy nil and think you just gonna go in that motherfucker zero to 60, catch yours, and now she's sitting over there looking stuck, and you over there snoring with your mouth wide open, drooling. I mean, shit, you gotta you you're sitting there worrying about her enjoyment, her pleasure, and everything else in between. Take your time on the motherfucking cool de cat. I mean, suck some nipples, goddamn, eat some pussy, do some shit, bro. Put your thumb in the ass. Goddamn, hit the motherfucker like a carburetor. Goddamn, put the thumb in the butt motherfucking ass, goddamn, put your dick in the other hole and keep stroking. I mean, oh god, I know y'all gonna be like that. Oh my god. Hey, look, I told y'all this shit is raw, uncut, and unedited. I do not sugarcoat shit in real life. I do not sugarcoat on this shit. I mean, what's the point of sugarcoating? I mean, shit, y'all don't sit here and listen to me for the sugar coats. I mean, we sit here and we have fun, we have adult conversations. Like I'm telling you, this ain't for your kids to be listening to. But in retrospect, you gotta sit there and take your time on it. If you're rushing, in my views, it's not worth it. It's like, what, you got a real redo? You gotta go three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine rounds. Nah, take your time on it. Cause that one round of goddamn hat, y'all both both sweating profusously and staring at the ceiling, like, goddamn, like high five a nigga talking about something good gang, cuz. Like, like y'all, y'all and I'm gonna I'm gonna say this shit, but don't get me wrong. I mean, y'all gonna be sitting there like drooling, like y'all got them in them special classes, like y'all wear a helmet. I'm just saying, but it's it's there for your enjoyment. I mean, but but but you look hold up, pump your brakes. It's everything else that is better for that. It's when you laugh with a motherfucker, it's when you talk to somebody, it's showing you that you care, some that somebody that is willing to support you, grow. That's what's also gonna make it so much better. Because I mean, I get asked all the time, have I ever had a one-night stand? No, I've never had one. I'm like, what's the point? Me just goddamn getting tipsy, getting drunk, or just wanting to fuck somebody. Man, I'd rather go to goddamn porn hook. Oh, we can't go there no more. Shit, you gotta have a goddamn driver's license and put in your driver's license the information on that shit.

SPEAKER_01: 9:50

I mean, shit, I'd rather go to X um we gonna we're gonna go to X video, y'all. X V-I-D-E-O-S. Period calm.

SPEAKER_02: 10:00

Or you go to Twitter. Shit, because like I tell people all the time, they be asking me, oh JJ. I said, Well, if we're gonna look up something and we see need to see some graphic, let me type this shit in before you look over this way on my Twitter, because my Twitter be goddamn on that, on that, whoop, on that nuclear shit. But in my mind, you got to have sustenance to deal with an individual because you never know what they like or dislike in those aspects of time that you're spending with them. Because in my mind, that's what makes everything so much better when you're doing it with somebody that you actually care about. You actually want to see them enjoy it, you're actually worrying about their well-being, you're actually worried about them because it makes things so much better because you're connected on a deeper level than just surface. Sometimes, yes, it's good to be as physically attracted to somebody, but to be deeply connected with them on a deeper level is so much more. Now, don't get this shit twisted, don't get this shit misconscrewed. Somebody, some people like they got that motherfucking voodoo shit between their legs, and that shit got down how you got them over there itching and scratching, had your motherfucking ass singing in the dark, goddamn talking about something. I want somewhere in shit, yeah. I mean, shit, it's gonna have you in there talking, let's get married. I know everybody's been there. I know everybody's been there. They have you got down. I like I told a motherfucker the other day, I ain't never had nobody sitting over had me over there sitting and sucking my thumb like shit, like I'm just addicted to the motherfucker. Shit, I cut a motherfucker off like goddamn uh like uh gang green, cut the bitch off. But you gotta understand. I mean, shit, with me shit, it it's it's deeper than that. If I mean, like I told somebody before, I said shit, we can sit there and deal with your bullshit for so long until we like this man. It ain't even worth it, man. Shit, I'd rather just jack my shit and goddamn be over with it. I might have to jack my shit three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten times in a day to get to get to where I need to go. But hey, don't y'all motherfuckers be out there judging and shit. Cause I know y'all motherfuckers over there laughing y'all ass off because y'all motherfuckers undead it too. So on some, well, I'm bored. Let me just I mean shit. It is what it is. It is, it ain't what it ain't. But I mean, shit, the way I look at certain things, certain aspects about life, this is where we have to go. This is the the things that we get exposed to because of the aspects of life that we deal with. Because I mean, certain things need to have a deeper connection. Because the same way you want somebody to go deep and you can't go deep, that means you're sitting surface level. That means that you're sitting over there bumping clips with a motherfucker. That means you ain't hitting it right. She ain't gonna be able to goddamn, she ain't gonna be able to wham-wammy or throw that shit in the circle on your shit. I'm gonna go ahead and tell you that right now. She ain't gonna be she gonna be up there goddamn doing show shoulder shrugs on your shit. But it has to be a deeper connection with the individual to make it worth doing, to make it more enjoyable, to make it more fun, to make it more like. I mean, shit, to get a nut off, yeah, that's cool. But what do y'all talk about Athel? I mean, I never heard of heaven and motherfucker again. Next thing I know, I'm over there pissing. I'm over there in the ER talking about something, yeah, I've been burning. I got a set random text message talking about I need to go get tested. Shh, I'm glad to God say it. That ain't never happened to me. I'm glad to motherfucking God. Because like I've never been a fan of lying on my dick. If I hit something, I never hit it. Y'all catch that? If I did something, the only way you're gonna prove that I did it is being there with a video camera or you seeing the evidence. But to say, like, I'm gonna go, I'm gonna go ahead and tell you like this. If I did some shit, I eat that shit. I own up to it. But if somebody, if some random comes up to me asking me, oh, I heard you fuck such and such, man. I don't know what the fuck you're talking about. That I ain't never been there. I ain't never did no shit like that. But that's me and that person's conversation. Now when I reach out to that person that got down that I was doing the woot-to-woot with Oh, we're gonna have we're gonna have some, we're gonna have some words. Because the way I view shit is if you weren't present during the the exchange, the session, the exercise, the intimate moment, why the fuck do you need to be included in what the fuck happened? I'm just saying. Because the way I view shit is if you if you gonna be involved in it, shit, next thing I know, shit, you're gonna be wanting to test the shit out. If you won't want to test the shit out, that's the that's the way it's gonna rock. Why the fuck do I need to have you involved into my bullshit? Because guess what? You ain't contributing to none of none none of the shit I got going on. I mind the business that pays me. Let me run that back for y'all. Because I know that a lot of y'all motherfuckers are media little slow. I mind the business that pays me. Because if I gotta tell all y'all peon motherfuckers that, yeah, I hit that, I should never be invited to hit it again. I should never be invited to sniff it, smell it, taste it, be even close in the vicinity of it. Because that was an intimate mail. That's a private moment. Shit, if it's meant to be goddamn be safe, shit, I'd invite you to watch it. I'd invite you to record it. Shit, we can goddamn start a goddamn look, you know, a private Snapchat, a fenster, or anything else. And so let me watch it, let you watch me slut this motherfucker out. But guess what? You weren't invited, so that means you weren't included. So why the fuck do I need to goddamn tell you every detail that goes on? Because you are not included. Everybody doesn't need to know everything that happens. So why the fuck should you be included? Because then you you're looking at your homegirls at home, boy. When you're talking about something, yeah, that motherfucker sucked my dick in the parking lot on my way home from bro. Now he's gonna be goddamn curious about how that motherfucker top feel, how that bottom feel, how the third hole feel. And that's not they're not privy to that information. Unless you just don't give a fuck about that motherfucker, then you shouldn't have been fucking them in the first place. And you deserve to be, you should you deserve to be born burned. I'm gonna go, I mean, that sounds harsh. You just should you deserve to be pissing fire. Because like I've said in previous episodes, every dick ain't meant to be sucked and every every pussy ain't meant to be fucked. I mean shit. That's like I was I was hearing about one dude. Um, shot up goddamn put him on blast real bad. Like, I mean, real bad. She was showing other niggas the text messages, letting the niggas see the screenshots, talking about some um uh shit. We was supposed to go to church together, but he just wanted to eat the box. What the fuck? What enjoyment you get out of that? Like, why why should you let another nigga know? Then, next thing I know, like let me I'm gonna give you a little perfect example. Next thing I know, the motherfucker tried to come at me. Man, what the fuck? You you you thought you were fucking with Buddy then? Shot, I'm gonna cuss you the fuck out for goddamn leaking the information because I mean shit to me, like I look at it like this. If you want to screen, say a uh share a screenshot, you might as well go look work for the feds. Because you a whole snitch. Because I mean you a rap. Because there's no reason that you should have you should have leaked that personal information, that personal conversation between you and I. With me saying, shoot, oh, let me come over there and da-da-da-da. Why the fuck you telling anybody? That ain't their place to know, that ain't your place to tell. So you look like a whole fucking goofy. Now shit, I know you, I know your information. Now you telling me, oh, let me fuck with you. I saw you would deal with Buddy then. I can't do it. Ain't no way, shape, form, or fashion. Go fuck yourself. That's safer to do. You can go trials with somebody else. Oh shit, I ain't gonna run my mouth and shit. He just pissed me off. Do I look like Boo Boo the motherfucking fool to you? Do I look like dirt the dirt to you? Shout out, do I look slow? Do I have retard across my forehead? I'm just saying. I mean, shit, whatever you telling me ain't gonna goddamn replace what you did to your actions because you already showed the true colors. We already seen that it's evident, and and and the motherfucker that you told it to is a mouth of the south. So why should I even fuck with you on any caliber, any even a blink of an eye, even a inkling, why should I mess with you? It sounds retarded to me, it sounds stupidly retarded to me. Because there's no way I can even waste my time even looking in your direction and saying, Oh, that might be cool. She just did it one time. Man, if that motherfucker did it one time, she'll do it too. If she did it two times, she'll do it three. But that's the idea is that because I'm gonna I'm gonna go ahead and tell you the way I was raised, we don't do shit like that. We don't talk about it. The only way you know I'm fucking with somebody is like, oh yeah, shit, I fuck with boot whoop. Oh, me and my little boot boot finna go out to eat. Oh yeah, I'm spending time my little boot boot. I ain't finna leak no other private information. I ain't finna tell you, boy, that motherfucker took me up through the. I ain't never gonna do that. Never, never. We don't leak viable information because, like I say, everybody ain't your friend, anybody ain't your associate. Even blood will screw you over, even your goddamn grandpa with the wrinkly balls might screw you over. So I mean shit, he might goddamn tell me something, hey, hey, what you doing, young lady? He might slip and slide all over there. Next thing I know you got them dirty uncle that you that you know pay for pussy, goddamn gonna be over there at your old lady at the goddamn Thanksgiving dinner, trying to stuff her turkey. You get what I'm saying? Trying to feel a trying to glaze her like a donut, and just trying to pay, let me pay a little bill or something, what's up? Show me some, some weird shit like that. So, how do you find that acceptable? How do you find that cool? How do you find that cohesive to your situation? It's just like shit, hey, that's why a lot of motherfuckers tell you, hey, I fucked on Tuesday and kicked the hoe right at the spot. Hey, because she be she decided to fuck with butt in them, niggas gonna be having a lot. Because like, like, like, I mean, you can't goddamn I like I tell people all the time, like this, just because the grass greener over there don't mean this shit better. It just means it's fertilized with more bullshit. I'm gonna go ahead and tell y'all a little secret. Like, since y'all been listening to this long, shit. I was dealing with this girl, she ended up cheating on me. She ended up getting over buddy house. The nigga only had a mattress on the floor and a PlayStation. That's all the nigga had in this house. But shit, I was catering to you. I made sure you have everything you had. I make sure you were up and proper. But you decided who do you want to fuck with on top of it? So you do what you do, you go over there and fuck with buddy on. Shit, I don't want it no more. Shit, he can take care of that bill. I don't want it no more. Shit, I rey, my peace is my peace. My presence is my presence. Once you lose, once I lose my peace and my presence with you, shit, we ain't got no usefulness on you no more. Can't fuck with you no more. Can't even give you a conversation because guess what? Shit, I know my slick ass mouth. I'ma throw some shit, slick ass shots at you. They're gonna have you looking at me like, damn, I know I nigga, I know you just ain't say that. Big facts, I did say that. Took that shot, it was personal, but that shit, it was meant to hit, and that shit was meant to hit like a bullet going through your vest. That shit was a green tip. If y'all know what green tip is, no, no, that's armor piercing. I want you to hit it right in a spot. This spot right here, your heart. I want you to remember that shit, I want you to feel it burn. Cause guess what? You won't be throwing that wham in a circle over this way. And I ain't catching shit. Only thing you catching from me is straight. I'm throwing straight flame at you. On here. No fuck yet. So, but I wanna let thank y'all for listening to four steppers on y'all.