Flat Tires And Consistency

Ever notice how the smallest habits tell the biggest truths? We take a hard look at consistency—what it means to stand on your word across love, friendship, and co‑parenting—and why reliability beats big speeches every time. If people can predict your effort and your honesty, they can relax, invest, and build with you. If they get silence and switch‑ups, anxiety fills the gap. We talk through real moments: showing up for kids’ games, answering late‑night calls, and the quiet check‑ins that prove you care. We also get into boundaries, because access has a price. If someone can reach you at 2 a.m., they should keep you informed. If they don’t, that’s not a small thing—it’s a signal.

We explore the difference between adjusting for the room and changing who you are. Values should travel, tone can adapt. That mindset keeps you respectful at work, present at home, and clear with partners when life gets messy. You’ll hear how long‑term loyalty reveals itself in years of steady action, not bursts of attention. You’ll also hear why stepping back from mixed energy protects your peace. Think chess, not checkers: you can plan around honest flaws, but you can’t plan around deceit. When people show you their pattern, believe it.

On the grind side, we share how daily reps beat hype. Progress in creative work, business, or parenting comes from showing up, refining, and refusing stagnation. Kids copy what we do, not what we preach, so let them see us push, reset, and push again. If you want practical wisdom on trust, communication, and holding the line without drama, this one’s for you. Tap play, subscribe for more real talk, and drop a comment: where do you draw your line on consistency?

Chapters

• 0:49 Setting The Tone: Keep It Real
• 1:04 Consistency As A Life Rule
• 3:10 Shoutouts And Defining Real Loyalty
• 4:40 Respect, Boundaries, And Co‑Parenting
• 8:45 Access, Dependability, And Red Flags
• 12:30 Silence, Switch‑Ups, And Expectations
• 16:36 Showing Up For Your Kids
• 20:52 Be Who You Are, Every Day

Transcript

SPEAKER_01: 0:49

Welcome to four samples only. Shit. Man, we up in this bitch shooter than booty. You hear me? Well, don't hey, don't get that shit twisted. This shit's some real shit over here. Hey, I'm Jack. Well, I got my Call of Duty gear on today. Cause I mean, shit, we here to talk about standing on shit. We're talking about consistency is key. Cause I mean, I feel like every in every aspect of life, you gotta be consistent. And if you aren't consistent, shh, what the fuck are you doing it for? I mean, you gotta be consistent with your kids, you gotta be consistent with your partner, you gotta be consistent with your homies, you gotta be consistent across the board, no chase just straight up and down. Because, but but don't get it twisted in different environments. You gotta tweak it and turn it just a little bit. Because next thing you know, you've been scared a whole bunch of people off. Because if I look like this every day I went to work, motherfuckers be like this shhh. Boy, he need that boy need to grip his south vacation. That boy needs to go sit his ass down somewhere. Because I mean, these young cats, goddamn, they just started wearing shisty shit. And you can tell this is not a shisty. This is what we used to wear when we used to go to the club and shit. Boy, this just ain't nothing but a goddamn black teeth that can breathe. But where I'm at is you gotta be consistent. Like you gotta you gotta show that you fuck with somebody consistently, you gotta show somebody that your true colors consistency. When you goddamn start showing you fake and flaw, shit, that's when motherfuckers start hemming and hawing about your ass. I mean shit like like I consistently tell my kids I love them. Because I know as a child, shit, I was always taught I gotta be hard, I gotta be this, that, and the third, I gotta be this, I gotta be that. But which I mean shit, it taught me valuable lessons in life. I mean, even from my partners, extra grandson, Big B, uh, the twins tower, Rico, goddamn um shit. My other cousin T-Main. Um, shit, I know I'm missing a lot of niggas, man. Um, but them my childhood goddamn partners. You gotta understand childhood. Oh shit, can't really can't forget my biggest supporter of them all is my cousin Kai. Shit, we might go years without talking. You know what? Fuck it. I'm gonna stop I let me let me goddamn rewind that shit. I gotta give a shout out to my homeboy Jurn. I gotta give a shout-out to my goddamn partner, Ferrari Fresh, who's over in Dubai. Because all these men have shown me consistency over the years. You get what I'm saying? No matter which stage in life that I met him in, we were always consistent. No matter if we fumble the ball this day, we haven't talked for a couple weeks. Once we pick back up, we back to square one. It's like we never missed a beat. And it's like, like I was about to say about my cousin Kai. Me and him are not blood related, but we've been so close to the point where consistency is key. No matter where I met, I fought with you the same. I still got them fought with you, I still answer your phone calls and everything. Because consistency matters so much with people. Because he called me one day and was and brought up a subject. And he knows how I stand on shit. Like, if it's fuck you, it's fuck you. And and he brought up the situation. And I said, nigga, I ain't know we had beef. He talking about something the way you said it. It's like, shit, this is new to me. This is this is uh late breaking news to me. I mean, because the way I look at things is, bro, if I fuck with you today, unless you do some flaw shit, I'm gonna still fuck with your ass tomorrow. And that's the way I run shit. Like, even when it comes to my kids and my kids' mothers, they know I don't tolerate no disrespect, period, no matter who it comes from. And I stand on that shit. And the same way I give you the utmost respect is the same way I dig it in return. Um, and they know, like, over the years, shit, we might trip, we might fall, we might, we might fumble, we might get into our spits and spats, but you stand on what you say, you stand on what you do. Like, like when I tell them, hey, if my if my child disrespects you in any form of uh any form or fashion, call me. If my child is going through something shit, call me. Because when you don't call me, that's when we got a problem. Because consistency is key. You want me to be consistent on my end as a father and be there in my child's life because I know they depend on me, then don't falter on your end. I mean, shit, we'll keep shit P. It don't mean we fucking, it just means we stand on business. The only thing that we have in common in this kit is this child and the welfare of this child and making sure they're productive in society and making sure they grow and nurtured and they get taught the valuable lessons that they get taught. Relationship-wise, let's go ahead and keep this shit P. Because I'm gonna go ahead and tell you, I'm a big ass Leo man shit. When I care, I care. When you start showing me that you don't care, you move and funny, this, that, and the third. Don't say shit when I start falling back. Because you started showing me some flaw shit. Cause like I tell people, I said, shit, I am the worst example, period. It's like, like, I tell them, like, if if we are intimate, if we fucking, if we doing the whoop-to-woop, we done a situation ship, I'ma keep shit the same throughout. You know what I mean? But I mean there's different levels of whatever, whatever. That's like I told him, I said, shit, if I I'm I'm big on this. If I call you for help, I really need it. Same way if you call me if you got a flat tie. Access is access. You get what I'm saying? If you call me at 2 o'clock in the morning and you tell me you got a flat tie, you expect me to get my ass about that motherfucking bed, which I am going to do and come and drop whatever the fuck I'm doing. I don't give a fuck how tired I am. I'm gonna be there. But now, this is where the shit gets funky. Now you tell me you got two flat ties, and you ain't called me. Who the fuck did you call? What nigga did you call? Oh, I just called a troll truck. But I ain't gonna talk, I ain't got no call, no notification, no nothing. To me, to we the way I look at it, and I'm I'm pretty sure a lot of y'all out there that listen to me, y'all steppers, not y'all imitation crab meat ass motherfuckers. Not the ones that got down stepped with me everywhere it'll go, and the way you got down over there nodding your head, you know I'm about to drop some shit. If you didn't call me, what nigga did you call? Cause I know damn well you ain't got them just, oh, I just handle it myself. I know you sleep, I know you're tired. Nah, but I ain't getting no notification about it. I ain't got them put on my cape and say, Dunter the dun, I'm on my way, I'm on your rescue. So who did you tell that you had a goddamn flat tire? Who did you tell that you had a bad day? I mean, stand on that shit. Because when I'm having a bad day, shit, you expect me to come to you because you're my my situation shit, because you're my event, you're my safe place, you're my shit, let's go ahead and say it. You're my keep it pee. Because the day that you don't call me and notify me, that means shit. I lost my position to another motherfucker. You ain't keep me updated. You ain't let me know you were safe. You ain't let me know you were home safe. Little shit. Because like like I tell people all the time, man, consistency is fucking motherfucking key. Because if you if I if I if I showed you I was tender from the beginning, then next thing I know I switch up. That ain't consistent. Nigga, you a fake and phallon, you a nigga, you an actor. To me. I stand on shit. If I talk to you, I fuck with you. If I don't, I don't fuck with you. I will treat, I will keep shit pushing and act like you don't fucking exist to me. Ain't gonna be no switch up. If you flaw, you flaw. Shit, stand on that shit. Don't be trying to fake and pretend like, oh, I'm just having a bad day. Shit, then say you're having a bad day. Don't just leave me out in a goddamn like I'm supposed to guess what the fuck is going on with you. Let me know what's up. Because let me tell you like this, it's only so much silence that I can take. It's not, it's it's lack of like notifications I can take. They go ahead and keep it pee because shit. It is what it is. Stand on that shit. Because like I like like I even told my ex-wife, if my I got an attitude one day that I didn't know my son had a game. She said, Well, John, I thought you were tired, I thought you were asleep. I don't care. Let me let me tell you that I'm tired. Because nine times out of ten, I won't tell you I'm tired. I'll suck it the fuck up and make sure my ass is there because I know my son depends on me being there or me even saying I called, I watched through FaceTime because I was on my way to work. Like you said, consistency because these kids see consistency. Like I tell my sons all the time, shit, hey man, tap in. If you got some shit going on, let's talk about it. Because people see the way you move, the way you the way you do shit. You know what I'm saying? And when you start tweaking and you start doing this, that, and the third, shit, they start saying, what the fuck going on? Shit, my antennas out, my little spidey sensors tingling. Because you done switched up on their ass. And nobody likes to be switched up on. Because most people like consistency. That's like I told a motherfucker, I said, yeah, I might got them go out and party, I might go out and drink, shit, but that's very rarely. But next thing you know, you see me going out every motherfucking night, we got a motherfucking problem. It means you out here searching, you on a hunt. If I talk to you every day, if I've been saying, hey, how you doing? What's going on, what's going on with your day, blah, blah, blah, blah. That's consistent. Next thing you know, you don't hear from me today. Shit, it's like, oh shit, my antennas out. Did I say something wrong? Did I do something wrong? Did I is this motherfucker not feeling me? Whatever. Consistency is key. Because that shit is some flaw shit. That shit is some fake ass shit. That shit is some imitation crab meat shit through and through. Because there's no way that you can switch up on me overnight. Because I'm gonna go ahead and keep it, I'm gonna keep it a bulk with you. If you fake as fault, stay fake as fault. Because that's your consistency. If you a sneaky bitch, stay consistent. If you're if you're a get money nigga, stay consistent. Because I mean, us as human beings, yes, we deal with life in different situations to where we migrate through life in different aspects. But consistency is key. Because I'm gonna go ahead and keep it a bug. I know y'all hate for me to make these sexual analogies, but consistency. If I'm hitting you with strong dick every fucking night, and you hitting me with goddamn aqua fino every fucking night, next thing you know, I ain't had it for a week. The fuck switched up. Like one of my homegirls called me about a dude she was dealing with. She talking about some shit, and this nigga used to ask me to hang out, kick it with him, parlay with him, politic with him. You know, we had our little guy now, you know, my little whoot the woot, ha da ha. Next thing you know, he going through some shit. You going through some shit. But when you were talking to her, you were going through some shit also. But now all of a sudden you can't talk to her because you're going through some shit. Normal life shit. So if you ain't telling her, who you telling? Like I said, motherfuckers be paying attention to the way you fucking move. Because, let me tell you something. I will walk through a room and act like certain individuals that don't exist. I am that asshole. I am the epitome of Leo. I am the epitome. Because, like, once you show me some fallout shit, it's fuck you. Hey, you cool, but you cool over there. Exit stage left. I'm sorry, that's right. My bad, because I don't that means you're right, I'm wrong. So that means you're going left. But I mean, like we say, stand on this shit. Respect your shit. Because when you're not consistent, nobody pays attention to what you bel what you say. They don't believe what you say. They they can't expect the the way you you're supposed to react to certain shit. So why should they fuck with you the way you want them to fuck with you? Why should they fuck with you on those type of terms and to that extent if every time you switching up every which way you move, because that's their comfort zone. That's like when you had to switch jobs. Nobody likes to switch up. It makes them uneasy, it makes them nervous, it makes them hang with anxiety. And nobody likes to be uncomfortable in situations that they already are used to. They know what to expect. They they might tweak this way or tweak that way, change up this way, change up that way, but they know what to expect because the expectation expectation is already there. The bargaining is already there. The explanations sometimes don't need to be explained, just need to be thoroughly examined. I mean, shit, like I it look it like I look at my life. I was consistent for so many years, I showed so many uh so many traits, but through certain situations and certain things and trials and tribulations that I've been through have had made me look to my tweaked and looked at my views on different things. But regardless of the way I care, the way I move, the way I cut motherfuckers off, I am consistent with it. There's no deviation because you know what to expect from me. Like I tell somebody, I said, I care until you force me not to care. I fuck with you until you start showing me why I shouldn't fuck with you. And that's the way I gotta look at things because it's what I've been taught to sit back and watch. It's chess never checkers. Because you know how which way a pawn's gonna move, you know which way a knight's gonna move, you know which way a rook's gonna move, you know which way a bishop's gonna move. The king is still gonna move the same way. Because we're all kings in our same light. Do just some of y'all act like fucking queens. I can't I can't take that away from you. But just because you you play the role of a king does not mean you're the absolutely a king. I mean shit. A lot of these, uh shit, I ain't even gonna hit on that shit. That shit gonna take me down a whole nother fucking tangent. Because, like, I mean, like we said in a uh previous episode, you got hustles and imitation crab meat. Shit, if I gotta get something done, I'm getting out there and grinding. I don't give a fuck how tired I am. What the fuck I got going on. Shit, but I gotta I gotta get this shit going. Because I mean, my my close partners tell me, shit, Jay, shit, if you call me and you tell me a plan shit, boy, we know that shit finna make some money. Anything you do, you put your full effort behind it because you you you believe in that shit. Because I started shooting videos not too long, like of shit, a while ago. And you can see my progression, my embeddement, because I wasn't satisfied. Just as I'm like, it's like I push myself to be better because I feel like if I become stagnant, there will be there will be no night life. Because how can I expect my kids to push for their goals and aim for the stars if I'm so happy being here on earth and ever and never try to chase my dreams, also? So if I'm consistently telling them push, push, push, and I'm not showing them the same signs, is that not, is that being consistent? If I'm saying, oh, you can do it, you can, and they see me push, push, push, then just give up, like, dad, you okay? You go, you alright, you good, blah blah blah. Some people you know some people's hands before they even play it. You get what I'm saying? But like I tell people all the time, shit, if I put, if I'm showing you I care, I'm hitting you up every day, I'm seeing how your day is going, that means I care. I'm being consistent. But when you throw a monkey wrench in my plans and you start shooting my little kite out of the sky, shit, you say you think I'm still gonna be consistent, or I'm gonna start slacking off. It's just like traffic, just like a bumping road. Shit. It's just like a boxing match. You're gonna knock the shit out of me. It's like, oh shit, I was winning all these other rounds, but now shit, you done dialed back. What happened? Who else has your attention? Who else has your interest? Because, like, I mean, Nipsey said it best. A person that loves you today can love someone else tomorrow. Right? But uh a hundred dollar bill is gonna be a hundred dollar bill tomorrow. It's consistent. Don't mean it's gonna spend the same, but it's consistently the same. And like my dad before, like my let's let's go ahead and get that clear. My my not my biological father, the individual I identify as my dad, used to tell me, blood don't make you family, and family don't make you blood. But it's the bonds that you make with people that make you family. Once they show you they're consistently there, they consistently have your back, that's what you consider family. Because when I was going through my life, he was consistently there. If I had trouble with my car, he was consistently there. If I needed somebody, if I needed a ride to work, he was consistently there. If I fucked up or I got out of pocket, he was consistently there to give me some straightening. Not saying that he had to, but he he was being consistent. When I was going through this shit and I spoke to my real father for the first fucking time in 23 years of my motherfucking life, I'm 39 now. He said, fuck that nigga. I'm your motherfucking daddy, I'm proud of you, I love you, and I will forever be your daddy to the day I die. He was showing me consistency as a man, as a father figure, as a role model that I had to learn from, that I needed to learn from. Flaws and all. Because we eat our shit. You take ownership with the fuck you fucked up. If you didn't, shoot nigga, you fucked up. Why the fuck are you here if you ain't being consistent? Nigga, you consistently breathe and you consistently take a shit every day. You consistently stand up when you pee. I mean, some of y'all got them sit down, but shit, that's a different story and a different notion. But it's consistency. It's consistency. So are you really being consistent? I mean, can you consistently get a paycheck, you consistently go to that job, you consistently depend on that job to make sure you got a check on Friday, but you can't be consistent, you can't be consistent on the way you move, the way you operate. To me, you a fan. But that's an abbreviation for a fuck ass nigga or a band, a bitch ass nigga. Because I mean, it's like I tell people all the way, if you ain't consistent, say the fuck from around me. Because I don't need no goddamn fake love, I don't need no imitation. I'm talking about no matter which caliber you stand on, no matter whether you goddamn blood, family, the motherfucking female I'm fucking with, a homeboy, homegirl, whatever. Be motherfucking consistent. If you ain't consistent, get the stay the fuck away from me. And I stand on that shit. Because my kids depend on me to be there every day, sitting there, no matter what the fuck we go through. Like I tell them shit, we can go through this shit together. Consistency. No matter what the fuck it is, consistency. Because you expect me to call at 7:30. You expect me to be there every fucking day. You expect me to be there, be like, hey man, stand the fuck up, tighten the fuck up. Hey, baby, I'm here. Like my daughter calls me all the time. My daughter says, if I if I ain't got no motherfucking daddy, what I need homegirls for, or what I need friends for when I got you. Because baby, I won't be here all the time. But while you here, I'll be that like you look to. I'll be cons I'll consistently be motherfucking here, standing 10 toes down for when you fall to tell you to stand the fuck back up. We can get through this. No matter what the fuck you go through. I tell my sons that shit too. Hey, tighten up, lock the fuck in. Because they expect me to tell them that shit. Because they know, hey, you might trip, you might fall, but you gonna consistently get back up. As long as you hear my voice in your ear, you will consistently stand back up. Because to this day, if I fuck up, I consistently hear my daddy, my words in my ear. Because thank y'all for listening to Fold Stepwood Only We out. Easy.