Your Thoughts Your Reality
Welcome to "Your Thoughts, Your Reality with Michael Cole," the podcast that shines a compassionate light on the journey of veterans battling through life's challenges. Michael Cole, a Certified Elite Neuroencoding Specialist, dedicated to guiding military veterans as they navigate the intricate pathways of post-deployment life. Join him as we delve into the profound realm of Neuroencoding science, empowering these brave individuals to conquer universal battles: procrastination, self-doubt, fear, and more. Together, let's uncover the strength within you to re-engage with families and society, forging a new path forward.
Your Thoughts Your Reality
Radical Forgiveness: Transform Your Pain into Power
The heaviest burden you'll ever carry isn't physical – it's emotional. Carolyn Ozuna returns to share how radical forgiveness transformed her from living in her sister's basement during a painful divorce to building a multimillion-dollar business and finding her soulmate.
"Forgiveness isn't condoning behavior," Carolyn explains, dispelling the most common misconception holding people back from healing. Instead, it's a powerful act of self-liberation. She reveals five core principles that form the foundation of radical forgiveness: nothing happens by accident, we are not victims, emotions should be fully felt (but only need 90 seconds to process), healing comes through acceptance not analysis, and forgiveness benefits you, not them.
The conversation takes a profound turn when addressing how to find gifts in seemingly unforgivable traumas. Carolyn doesn't shy away from difficult truths – that victim consciousness perpetuates more victimization, while conscious awareness creates new possibility. She shares the story of a client who discovered his mother had been raped, resulting in his birth. While never condoning the violence, he ultimately recognized that without that terrible event, he wouldn't exist to impact countless lives today.
Perhaps most practical is the pattern-interrupt technique Carolyn offers. By choosing a silly word (hers is "pineapple") to break negative thought spirals, we can create space between our thoughts. "I find God in the space between my thoughts," she reveals, explaining how this practice opens us to higher consciousness and new perspectives.
Ready to break free from the prison of pain you've been decorating for years? This episode provides actionable steps to release what no longer serves you. As Carolyn beautifully states, "My destination in life is no longer a place—it's a new way of seeing the world, because through new eyes, I live a new life."
When love turns toxic, this podcast helps you make sense of the chaos and start to heal.
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Welcome to your Thoughts, your Reality with Michael Cole, the podcast that shines a compassionate light on the journey of veterans battling through life's challenges. Michael is a dual elite certified neuro encoding specialist in coaching and keynote training presentations dedicated to guiding military veterans as they navigate the intricate pathways of post-deployment life. Join him as we delve into the profound realm of neuroencoding science, empowering these brave individuals to conquer universal battles procrastination, self-doubt, fear and more. Together, let's uncover the strength within you to re-engage with families and society, forging a new path forward.
Speaker 2:Hello, hello, hello everybody. So we have the amazing Carolyn Azuna back on today. She's a renowned coach, mentor and energy healer with over a decade of experience. Has worked alongside top transformational leaders such as Joseph McClellan III Dr Jason Azuna top transformational leaders such as Joseph McLennan III Dr Jason Azuna. She specializes in helping people release deep, deep emotions and forgiveness and all of the great things we're talking about today and as an expert in radical forgiveness, showing how unresolved pain can affect finances, relationships and especially, health. So we're going to jump on in, carolyn, why don't you tell us a little bit more about yourself before we get started?
Speaker 3:Yeah, I'd love to do that. I'd love for anyone watching live, or even anyone watching the recording, to post. Hi, susan, how you doing? Post one thing you're grateful for. I always just like to start it off, even the searching, and something to be grateful for is helping you in this whole show, that you have your thoughts. Your reality is that we can control our destiny, that we can truly heal, you know, and so I always like to start off every everything that I do with a little bit of gratitude. But, yes, I have been doing this for 11 years now, believe it or not.
Speaker 3:I started this work back in 2014 and you know where I was, was I was, you know, living in my sister's basement, going through a horrible divorce, and you know where I was, was I was, you know, living in my sister's basement, going through a horrible divorce, and you know where I am now is, you know, have created a multimillion dollar business. I have met my soulmate and we have a beautiful, passionate, loving marriage, hosting events, coaching people, impacting influence. You know, my life is barely recognizable from what it was, and I'm excited about this podcast because, on this podcast, I'm going to give these viewers exactly the tools that I used and really leave them with some lasting like actually step-by-step things, like not just talking. We're not just going to be talking, I'm actually. I have a list of tools that I want to give to them that they can start practicing right away. That will drastically change their thoughts and their reality.
Speaker 2:We're excited so and we're going to dive into those tools and you know it's, I'm just going to say it. So, Carolyn, don't listen for a minute. Carolyn is amazing, Okay. I mean, I've known her for a couple of years now. We're in different groups together and so on. She really does some of the most amazing, beautiful work with people. It just this is a treat for you guys, so, and she's doing a little bit different today we're going through actual steps and we're going to go through and dive in.
Speaker 2:So, before we really dive in, just want to get everybody lined up with. On the top right hand corner of the screen, there's a blue QR code. It takes you to empowerperformingstrategiescom Again, for people listening later on empowerperformingstrategiescom, we have free ebooks and trainings and Facebook groups for both veterans and their families. So please become part of our mission, become part of our family. So, with that said, Carolyn, let's just start off with. Many people think forgiveness is about letting someone else off the hook, which is so not the case, and I think that's why people struggle with it. They really struggle with. Oh no, that wasn't right. It's not about forgiving the act, right? Talk to us more about that. Let's start there.
Speaker 3:If we can Right. And so I think people really get confused with forgiveness because they think forgiveness means condoning or that they're okay with the behavior that was done to them or that they did to others, because forgiveness isn't just for other people. Say yes in the comments if you've also been hard on yourself or felt guilty about things or had trouble. Oh, I should have done that differently, or I wish I would have been different, or you did the best that you could. You know we should eliminate the word should from our vocabulary, because if you would have known better, you would have done better. And so I think people really have this skewed concept of what forgiveness can do in your life, skewed concept of what forgiveness can do in your life. And I know many of my teachers, including the ones in you know. Even I've traveled to India and worked with monks and one of the first, like, the traditional piece, is forgiveness. But I want to get you to a place and most people have trouble with this right Like there's certain steps to get to, but the step that I would like everyone to be at, michael, is that there's nothing to forgive, and then the step beyond that is grateful for what happened, and that's a huge leap for most people. Most people in their lives will never get there because they won't be able to see the gift or the wisdom that came from that challenging situations. I'm not saying what happened to you was right. I'm not condoning anyone's behavior. I'm not saying what happened to you was right. I'm not saying I'm not condoning anyone's behavior. I'm not saying there shouldn't be justice uh, you know or consequences when these things happen. Does that make sense? What I'm saying, and and and. I have these written down, cause I wanted to be really click crystal clear. Yes, thank you Susan. Yes, everyone watching, please put yes in the chat.
Speaker 3:The more you participate, the more you engage, the more you share this out, the more you're going to get off of this. And so the first core principle of this radical forgiveness that I'm talking about is nothing happens by accident. Okay, so everything, even the painful, unjust, traumatic events in our life, serves as a spiritual purpose. Until you no longer at that consciousness level anymore, there's some type of learning or lesson. If there's toxicity or drama within you, you are going to attract that. Does that make sense? Until you say, okay, enough of this. Where's my gift in this? How can I see this as my mirror. Oh, this person is controlling. Where am I controlling in my life? Oh, I'm judgmental on this person. I remember when I first met my husband I was like you're the most judgmental person I've ever met. And he's like that means you're the most judgmental person. And I had so much trouble with that concept until I started to put these things, these five things if I can give them to you and then we can ask another question.
Speaker 3:But the second principle is we're not victims. We are not victims, and when it does, look you, the radical forgiveness principle says look, go into your victimness for a little bit. You know, just tell the story, because that's going to validate it, that's going to tune in so you can actually feel it, let it flow and free it and release it, but don't stay stuck in that story. Listen to me now, guys. This is so true Any more than 90 seconds to five minutes in an emotion, a feeling, an emotion, you're not actually feeling an emotion, you're stuck in a story. Okay, and this is really powerful because we can take our power back If we know. You know what I'm not processing. When I say I'm processing this, that means I'm stuck. I'm stuck in a story, I'm in my mind and I'm in like a hell loop that keeps replaying, and so this is where we're at Right, exactly. And so people in experience that hurt us are often, you know, soul contracts or there's a spiritual reason behind it. I just I cannot believe that we will experience pain in our life for no reason, just just because there's something here, there's some gift in it. Even the most horrendous things there, there can be a gift behind it, like my divorce was horrible 11 years ago. I don't wish a divorce on anyone. It is, you know, it's like it's like dying, it's like losing a part of yourself because you lose who you were with that person, and and and, and. But I, so I don't wish that on anyone. But it brought me such gifts. It brought me to Jason. It brought me to um a life that I I didn't even know was possible. Um, you know, once I was finally able to see through my victimization, see through my own story. So the second things. So, number two we're not victims and everything that's happening in our outer reality is reflecting what we need to heal and grow.
Speaker 3:Number three feel it fully, don't bypass it. No more than 90 seconds to five minutes, and this takes practice, right? How often? Say yes in the comments if you guys have ever experienced a situation where you stay in it longer than five minutes. I did this this past week. I was in it for like three hours. I was totally stuck, my energy was drained and I was like replaying this scenario over and over and over again, the way I thought it should be versus the way it was, and all of these things, and it drains us. It drains us. Okay and um and I'm passionate about this because this works so, uh, radical forgiveness, or it's not about, you know, spiritually bypassing your pain, pain. It's about feeling it with awareness and then shifting the meaning you're attaching to what happened.
Speaker 3:Okay, step number three fully feel it, don't bypass it. You know what? What if I could just feel my anger without attaching the meaning or where it come from? You know, can't you experience magic or passion or life without needing to know how or why you're, when you're needing to know how or why, you're still in your mind? Just okay, I feel angry, I'm frustrated, or you know what? I feel joy. Let me fully feel it, without suppressing it. You know what? I don't want to feel too good, because if I feel too good, what if the other shoe drops right? It's energy both ways.
Speaker 3:And so number four is healing happens through acceptance, not analysis. Healing happens through acceptance, and I think people miss this and they overthink and they overattach and all of these things. You don't need to understand every detail mentally or figure it out. You just need to be willing to see it differently. That's it, you know, you just need to step outside just a little bit, because what happens is when you lock yourself into one perspective. I cannot even tell you the low energy that you are in. The person listening. Now, guys, the person with the most perspectives wins. If I can see from Michael's point of view, if I can see from my view, I can see from Susan's view and I can see from God's view, and then I have all these multiple perspectives. It's healing. And then life happens.
Speaker 3:And number five, the forget. This is like the most important one. I think the forgiveness is not for them, it is for you. You know, I I saw this thing online and I don't care if you guys agree with me or not, I don't believe this. I think I heard Taylor Swift or I think I heard a doctor saying don't forgive them, don't forgive them, you know, just just don't forget. And I was like this is like that is coming from a wounded place. Because here's the deal. Cindy, what's up? Beautiful, hello, yes, it's all about perspective, but there's an energetic thread between us and everyone that you've known, know now or will ever know. Trust me on this.
Speaker 3:And so every time you feel drained, that could literally be someone thinking about you. We are impacting people, you. We have more impact on this energetic field, on our lives, than we could ever measure or imagine truly. And so this one is very particular because it says it's not for them, it's for you. Claim that forgiveness, like you know what, I'm not going to stay in my hurt, because when you stay in your hurt, when you stay in your wounds, when you stay in that lack of forgiveness, I want you guys to imagine it would be like me walking around holding a suitcase all day long. No, this is my hurt, michael, I need to take this with me. Okay, this gives me uncertainty and a pattern and emotions that I'm super used to and conditioned to. Okay, so I just want to hold onto this. I know it hurts my arm. I know it hurts my arm. I know it hurts, I know it's heavy, but I'm going to carry it. Why are we doing this? Just because you can't see it doesn't mean it's not heavy, my friends.
Speaker 3:And so those are the five, just to get started on forgiveness. Those are five tools so that I would immediately start to apply to my own life, and five beliefs like, integrate these beliefs into your life. And when you change your thoughts and I know you believe this this whole podcast is change your thoughts, you change your reality. Tiny shifts in our thinking create mammoth shifts in our reality. So, if we truly believe, if everyone listening believes my thoughts create my reality, because my thoughts create my beliefs, and then my beliefs create my behavior and my behavior creates my destiny. Oh, I'm passionate about this because I know if those four things line up, you're going to change and your life is going to change drastically.
Speaker 2:Absolutely. And so, hey guys, we're done for the day, no wait. I have more stuff. I have two more questions. I think my dear friend has dropped enough bombs and golden nuggets. That it's enough.
Speaker 2:I don't think anybody could take more amazing thoughts right now. I joke, I joke. Obviously we're only halfway through, so I want to dive into a couple of things and I'm not even going questions. Let's just talk, because you know how this works. I ask a question, I'm done. It's organic conversation because that's what I believe in. So, with that said, and I got comments blowing up right now, I can't keep up with them, so I can't do everything. So listen, so I've always no, I shouldn't say that Since I was probably 30 years old, I have had a different perspective on forgiveness than most people.
Speaker 2:I believe that, and it's with myself and it's with other people, and I want to get your thoughts on this as well. Yeah, because everything you've already said hits totally home with me. So people are doing the best they can for who they are at the time where they are right and when you really think about that, it's so simple, because aren't we all at the time doing the best we can for who we are? I mean it doesn't mean I'm forgiving that person for doing something you know stupid. I mean there are things that are hard, and I want to get into the hard ones with you, carolyn, because I know you're going to be amazing at this, but how, how simplified assassinating complexity with forgiveness can that be? Because all we're doing is is you know, there's sayings out there, obviously, my wife says it all the time is you're drinking the poison, expecting someone else to die. And that's what forgiveness, to me, is really about. It's about, like you said, it's for you, it's for healing for you, because it is an energy sucker from hell.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 2:And when you're sitting there, judgmental or whatever the case may be like with somebody against somebody else, yeah, forgive, move on for yourself. And this is where I want to get into. You know, people talk about finding the gift, and I am the biggest believer in this. You know, find, find what you learn from so you grow and you move on and you're a better person and all the beautiful things that come from that alignment. There's rape, there's murder.
Speaker 2:People say how do you find a gift in that? How can you possibly find a gift or something to learn from that? I want you to talk about that because it's a tough one, because it's easier for people to say, oh well, they messed up my coffee. I can forgive them for that. But the ones that people hold on with the trauma and guys trauma, in my opinion, here trauma is generally a one-time event that just recycles because you haven't let it go, and that's why it builds and builds and builds and ruins people's lives. I coach people with this all the time, so give us thoughts on that, if you will.
Speaker 3:Absolutely. So I'm going to share two things and can your viewers or anyone's watching, can you guys, say yes in the chat if you're open to new perspectives, because I feel like I might trigger some people and I know that's okay. These, the things that we're sharing, um, are for very highly conscious people and people who are open to different perspectives. I can tell right away, um, if someone's open. So I would just what's new to know? Susan's open, okay, do we have anyone else that's open to new? Yes, okay, we got. We got a Cindy on board. Who else can we get on board here? Just say yes. And because this is really important in terms of um, where I'm going to take you guys, so, first, how do we, how would we even find the gift and rate? All right, denise is with us. Okay, we got a few. Okay, you guys are conscious enough to hear this. Then that I'm going to tell you Okay and um, here's, here's, two things.
Speaker 3:Uh, I had a client this was a really long time ago this is like 11 years ago or no, no, like 10, 10 years ago and, um, we were doing some deep trauma work together and he started to kind of ask his mom certain questions. He didn't feel ever right at home, certain things and he was he's actually a big speaker Like if I said his name you would probably know who he is. I'm not going to do that, um, but I I used to coach a lot, like I coached different people and different people in fields and um, you know, doctors and nurses and all movie stars, broadway stars like we have coached them all and um, uh, but he found out that, um, that he wasn't like. He was like his mom was actually raped and she decided to keep the baby and he couldn't understand why. He always just felt this, this feeling like he didn't belong or he wasn't wanted, and his mom and him did deep healing together. But what he got from that, like the gift he got from that, was he wouldn't exist, he wouldn't be alive without that rape and he loves his life and he impacts so many people.
Speaker 3:So I'm not saying rape is right. Listen to me now. I don't condone it. I think that there should be unbelievable justice for people who do that. But I'm also saying listen to me now. If we go back to the principles, we are not victims of our circumstances. So this means, if there's a term, and listen. I know not everyone's going to agree with me, but I'm just is it like I want to be my authentic self and you know what. If you don't agree, that's okay. I think that we're really quick.
Speaker 2:Yeah, here's the beauty of this show. Yeah, if you don't agree and don't want to listen, you can't tune off. Yeah, exactly. So basically what I'm saying is yeah.
Speaker 3:So I'm saying that if you have a tremendous amount of unprocessed victimization in your life, in your body, you are literally creating that victimization, meaning you're calling that energetic towards you. I know most people don't want to hear that. They want to say that's ridiculous. You know that's, you know. But if you look at the studies, the people who choose their victims of rape I'm not sure if you guys have looked at the studies on this, but here are three factors of rape they feel like the person's disconnected from their reality. They're not present. There's no flame within here. They're totally lost in their mind, totally victimized. They're slouching. They just feel like a victim. Right, they're in victim consciousness and victim consciousness will breed more victim scenarios and situations. I'm not saying it's right. I'm saying that we, that we can take control of our destiny and and so we can find a gift in that. Okay, we can find a gift. We, we can heal. I truly believe that we can heal anything in our lives. It's going to take practice. It's not easy, especially especially if you've been like we by age eight. Michael, we are programmed to believe what can and we can't do in our life. We are victim. Consciousness is not just chosen by us. It's programmed into us until we decide to choose differently.
Speaker 3:Most of the listeners listening to this have not chosen and carefully selected their beliefs that are driving their behavior and they wonder why they keep repeating the same thing over and over again. Why do I keep getting sick? I don't know. Why don't I have the energy? I don't know. Why don't I just start the business? I don't know. And why is it my keep? I, you know I end a relationship with um, you know, uh, jason, and then John shows up with the same issues Like what am I?
Speaker 3:What's going on here? You know? What am I not willing to look at? What am I not willing to see? If you, if everybody on this podcast, has the belief or listening, look, I'm in earth school. I'm not just here for my own happiness and fulfillment. Is that a huge part of it? Yes, but to say that there's no pain in life, to say that we won't struggle, to say that we won't suffer, is inauthentic. It's not truth. We will suffer, but we can program ourselves to believe differently and we can program new situations, and this way because, listen, if someone rapes and murders someone and in my mind I see it and I'm like they're horrible. Look at my face. They're horrible. I hate them. What am I adding to the field, michael?
Speaker 2:You're adding emotion to it.
Speaker 3:I'm not sure exactly what you're looking at Hate and judgment If I'm like, how dare they, they should not have done this, this shouldn't be happening. I'm literally doing what that person is doing. I'm saying this shouldn't be this way, I'm judging it. That shouldn't have happened Doesn't mean there shouldn't be justice, doesn't mean there shouldn't be action. I'm not condoning any action at all.
Speaker 3:What I'm saying is that your hate and your judgment is do it's harming the field, our love and compassion and our acceptance, not of the, not of that energy, but there is a hurt, little boy or little girl, and like a really hurt, unconscious person. You listen to me now. You cannot hurt another soul or human being. When you're conscious, you are deeply hurt and deeply unconscious If you're hurting another soul. We are designed to love one another. We are designed to care for others. There's no way that you can hurt a human being in that fashion or that way unless you are deeply hurt and disconnected. So I don't. I don't feel like more judgment, more hate is going to help heal us. I don't feel like carrying more hurt, more judgment, more hate on our. You know, it's like, like you said, that thing that you said is the truest thing. It's drinking poison and expecting the other person to get ill and then you're impacting.
Speaker 3:Remember there's invisible energetic threads. They, you know Wayne Dyer, one of my favorite quotes is when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. And that's not just in our energetic field, that's with anything. If I, if belief around money and I'm like you, know what avalanches of abundance are flowing to and through me. God's wealth flows through and to me and avalanches abundance. All my needs, wants and desires are met instantly by infinite intelligence. And then I start thinking these thoughts my reality is going to change pretty drastically, and so I'm just sharing this.
Speaker 3:Because, for those that are still holding guard or stubbornness or hurt in their heart, there is never a good reason to close your heart, because when you close your heart, you are locking the pain within you, you are locking it in you, and then you decorate your prison of pain as an. You decorate, decorate, like I'm going to hold onto this hurt and it's like. It's like oh, by the way, michael, I have this. I have this chalkboard where I write down every list of everything everybody's done to hurt me and everything I've done to hurt others, and then everything I judge in this world, and I'm holding up this list and I'm telling you it gets heavy and this is where physical illness, relationships drain. Uh, you know, it's the thing like because God's like let me turn up the heat because I love this person too much to hold on to all of these things. That's why sometimes things fall apart.
Speaker 2:Yeah, judgment is so exhausting it really it really is. I mean it is. Judgment is one of the most exhausting things, and holding on to the past is exhausting and when you get stuck there you don't live the life that you're meant for. I agree with everything you just said. You do not move forward. All of these things are meant to learn from.
Speaker 2:Look, I deal with people with PTSD. How do you get rid of PTSD? In other words, that just going and revolving and revolving the trauma, you break down the belief system and you give the gifts, if you will, or the things you can learn from it a new meaning, so you can move forward from it in a positive, amazing way, absolutely. They have the table. You break out the legs of the table, one at a time, and create a new belief system and you shine.
Speaker 2:Look, I could go back. You could go back, right, we could go back to what our child's got chills, go back to the call they're called God bums, right, yeah, you can go back and you could go back to you know every, every part of your childhood and blame, play the blame game and stay in victimhood. And what good is that doing you, except for you're going to feel connected to other people doing the same damn thing. So take some of these, take some of these skills, take some of these things that Carolyn is dropping right now and re-listen to this, make notes or take notes. Do what you need to do, but take an action today to move forward out of that victimhood for radical forgiveness. This is why this was so important to be on here. You know, earlier, carolyn, I got to tell you I was literally sitting there going man, we should Joe Rogan this thing and be on for three and a half hours, literally. I think both of us could talk about this for eternity, because it's the thing that holds people back, probably the most in life.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I agree, lack of forgiveness judgment you got to. You know, one of the things they teach in India is how to fall in love with this moment, right now, and so meaning like fall in love with your reality right now, it's like a springboard to where you want to go for your vision, for your future. If you're judging where you are now, you'll never get to where you want to go. You have to find the gift in right now, and I know that's hard because you might not like where you're at. You know in your relationships, your finances, in your health. You know or or or in your mindset or in your beliefs, and that's okay. You can go there. But there is a gift in where you are and once you get that gift, it's like it's like manifestation on steroids. It's like it's like there's like miracles that start to happen.
Speaker 3:So, if it's okay with you, michael, I want to give your people a book that I really recommend. It's Radical Forgiveness by Colin Tipping, and he talks so much more in detail and gives so many steps, but I'd like to give like a five. Just it's so simple these five steps to do to actually processing this emotion, processing the PSTD, you know, processing the things that are not serving them anymore, stopping like that loop that they keep going into. Hi, emily, good to see you, and so is that okay if I share it briefly, is that all right?
Speaker 2:Yeah, we're got about two and a half minutes left, but if we go over a little bit, it's okay. We do on the floor, so go for it.
Speaker 3:Okay, sounds good, all right. So one tell your story. Feel the anger, betrayal or grief. Be honest, don't skip this part. So so, so I'm not just telling you don't be a victim, screw your feelings. You know I'm saying the biggest victims can be the biggest gift bringers once that energy is transformed. So fully go into it. Number two feel the feelings. Okay, allow the emotions to move through you without judgment. Don't attach to it. Number three collapse the story.
Speaker 3:Realize that your perspective of the story isn't the whole story. Your mind deletes and distorts over time. So something that happened in your childhood might not have actually happened because your mind has deleted and distorted it. It disorganizes it over time. And so if you can understand, oh, maybe, hey, vanu, hey gorgeous. So maybe if we can understand that our mind is doing this, then oh, okay, well, maybe the way I'm seeing it isn't the whole truth, maybe it's not a hundred percent true.
Speaker 3:Number four reframe the story. This is really important. See the person or the event that happened as a part of your spiritual path. Okay, everything in your life is a spiritual path. I truly believe that. I believe we are souls. I don't believe I'm just Carolyn living this life. You know this 40 year old mom or wife, or however I see myself, or coach, I am a soul.
Speaker 3:I don't believe Michael. You're just this extraordinary podcast host, changing people's lives and sharing this with people and loving on people with your kind heart. There is a spirit and a soul driving you to help veterans not just veterans, but anyone who has the desire to upgrade their frequency, upgrade their thoughts, upgrade their life. And so, number five integrate and release. Accept with gratitude and release it Meaning okay, I accept this lesson. I don't have to relearn this lesson. I don't want this lesson to come twice in my life. Like I got the gift of it.
Speaker 3:Like how many times say yes in the chat? If you guys have ever been in a place where you're like oh I, this has happened before, I should have known better. Well, you didn't get the lesson. And that's where this yeah, right, me too. We've all been there, and so this is where self-reflection is really powerful.
Speaker 3:I, I, I know there's like a lot of coaches say yes in the comments. I know a lot of coaches and healers and are on here today and I just want to say I honor, I honor all of you and and Michael, you too, you're a coach as well, like I. I honor you guys. We are the, we are the like, we are the flame. There's a flame inside our chest and we get to bring that to people every day through our presence and through our love, through our compassion. And you know, they say that the kindest people are actually the most intelligent people, the strongest person is actually the most gentle person, and so in our lives, if you apply these principles that I just shared, it's powerful for transforming judgment, blame, anger and resentment into this clarity and peace and and just reverence for your life.
Speaker 2:Absolutely, absolutely, and thank you for sharing that. Um, you know I, we don't, okay, should we just go another 30 minutes? I'm totally joking. There's just so much to talk about with this and and we'll have you back on, obviously, and dive in even more with something else amazing. So you know, with that said, you know again, please listen to this again, take notes, you know, take the action steps and take it now, because that 2% shift today, not tomorrow, not starting on Monday. Start now, because Monday you'll be different, a year from now you'll be different. A year from now You'll be different. But if you just sit there and listen to it and move on, or don't move on, and or just move on and don't, don't take an action step, you're stuck. Yeah.
Speaker 3:Yeah, what he just said man, I hope they just took what you said. So Oprah says this and I, and I love this. I think it is so true in our lives. Tell me yes in the chat, if you agree with me. Awareness is one thing, action is another. You can have an awareness and not take action on it. Does that make sense? And we love you, we love you, cindy too. And so that ability just to say, ok, you know what, I'm going to take some action.
Speaker 3:So this would, it could be, after you listen to this, maybe you clean up a relationship that you and you don't even look. You don't need that person to apologize, you or see your perspective to forgive. In fact, guess what? I had this one, one person, uh, michael, who they they're? They didn't talk to their brother for 10 years and they did the process that I just told you guys to do their brother reached out to them and apologized to them out of the blue after 10 years. So I'm telling you, when you change this internal landscape, your outer landscape cannot stay the same. It's an energetic thread. So, yes, I get excited, I get passionate, because this work has changed my life and countless other lives. So, yes, thank you for having me on. Michael, you are such a joy to go back and forth with Absolutely, and you know what.
Speaker 2:I'm just going to share this real quick and we'll get out of here. My life changed because of this work. You know, a couple of years ago, when I joined the Neuron Coding Institute, I was going what do I want to do when I grow up? Because I've been in the same industry and still am for 37 years or something like that. Don't add up the dates, I'm old, but you know what this work and just helping people fills the cup. Every day it fills the cup.
Speaker 2:And here's the other thing about the energetic field I want to dive in real quick. When you start doing the right things and your integrity is in line with who you are, it comes to you. You don't have to go searching for it. Those people that are building energy, their lives, their, their, their stories, it, it, it comes to you. Look, I I didn't know, carolyn, before. Come on people. You know all these amazing people and what they've been saying on here. I didn't know most of these people and it's amazing how that energy brings back and again, the work fills your cup, man. So we're both so passionate about this. Thank you, carolyn, so much for being on here. We're so past time but we still need to do. How do people reach you?
Speaker 3:First of all, oh, yes, well, you can private message me on Facebook. Carolyn Ozino is my Facebook name. That's a great way I do. I'm doing a free healing session in about a month and a half. You can join that. Um, we have events coming up, uh. But, yeah, right on my Facebook page is the best way to reach me. Uh, through message and and I can get I can even get on a call with your uh, some of your people and really support them, um, and and share some programs and offerings that we have if they're interested in moving forward with it.
Speaker 3:Um, I, I already see some of my people on here, but there is one thing I wanted to say about what you just said, which is be the rose that blooms. A rose doesn't uproot and go chasing the bee. A rose stays rooted and just blooms, and then the bees come to it. So I loved what you're saying. It's really about getting into alignment and then blooming, and then the right people find you, just like today. So, thank you guys. I would love for you guys also to share this out.
Speaker 3:There are people out there that need that, that, like are hurting in their heart. I, I cannot even tell you how many people I've worked with you don't know the state that people are in. They need thank you so much. They they need this healing work in their hearts Like it's really they need it and and and so even just watching this can transform a heart, transform a life. Your energy, michael, and your, I will say this your passion for wanting to help people and your authenticity, your integrity. But I really feel like you, you, you really want to help people. I really feel that in your, in your soul and your heart. So thank you for having me on so much.
Speaker 2:Absolutely, and we're going to close out with three tips to get veterans and their families further faster. We're not done yet.
Speaker 3:Oh, we are. I get three more tips Wow.
Speaker 2:Three tips to get veterans further, faster, and their families of course.
Speaker 3:How to further faster in your family, I think, the tips that I shared in the beginning. You know, we might not understand why someone's acting the way they're acting like a husband or a wife or a friend or a family member but I would say, seeing your part in it when you're judging another person. What's my part in this? Yes, hi, debra, what's my part in this? Because we're set up to kind of look, oh, you know, sometimes what God will do is whatever we need to heal within us, he'll show us in another person and then we get to judge it on the outside and then we get to heal it on the inside, right. And so I would say the one thing is see how you play a role and a part in the drama and the challenges that you're facing in your life. Really believe, really get. Number two is really get rooted in the belief that you're facing in your life, really believe, really get. Number two is really get rooted in the belief that your thoughts create your reality. If you can root in that, especially with this podcast, literally the name is your Thoughts, your Reality Podcast, because your thoughts, you think a thought long enough and hard enough, it's gonna create a belief. That belief creates a behavior and that creates your destiny. So if you know that, get rooted in it. Then belief creates a behavior and that creates your destiny. So if you know that, get rooted in it, then you'll actually start to. Because if you don't practice your thoughts, your states of consciousness, how you want to be daily, that means there's some part of you that doesn't believe that your thoughts create your reality. So get rooted in that belief that your thoughts create reality. Number three appreciate and see what's working in your life right now. I cannot I think this is probably the most important thing appreciate and see what's working in your life right now as much as you possibly can. Your awareness is currency, your attention is currency and so, okay, I can. I can, I can focus on what's not working or what I didn't like or all these things, or I can practice and program myself to say, well, what do I appreciate about this? Doesn't mean I don't have to make changes, doesn't mean I can't set boundaries. But where was the gift? How can I change to a more optimistic point of view in my life? You know, cause a negative in a negative mindset, negative thoughts really do break down your body and and so and and I would say, for every interaction you have with someone in relationships, for every negative in your reaction, you should have five positive ones. Okay, my friends. And so, yeah, it is the biggest shift. Um and so take that and um, I I also have.
Speaker 3:I know this sounds so strange, but if you guys want to put it in the chat, I have a word that I say that breaks my pattern. If I'm in like a negative thought, this doesn't have to be your word, my word's pineapple. Whenever like, I'm like man, I am in like a like not a great place right now, like I feel like I'm looping, I'm in a hell loop. I'm seeing a situation I'm attaching a meaning, I'm judging myself or a person, or oh, you should have done this, you should have done better. Whatever it is, I'm like pineapple, you know it like snaps me out of it, it's like a pattern break, and pattern breaks work.
Speaker 3:So I would say choose a word and make it funny. I had someone today that said um, I want my word to be far from Nugent, or I want my word to be fudge, or it does, you know, make it silly, you know. Or I had one person was like I'm just going to meow and they were like whenever they're in that loop. I know that sounds crazy, but that humor is going to change your brain chemistry. It makes it a little bit lighter when we're so solid in our perspectives. Really, you're deadlocking the universe and God out from change, creating change in your life and and so, yeah, I totally agree with you and I'm so grateful for all of you. On yeah.
Speaker 2:And again, thank you for all the comments and everybody being on here today, so I just have to share. My word is going to be Jumanji.
Speaker 3:I love that Jumanji.
Speaker 2:You know, what's funny is when you do that and you do that counter-interrupt, and I do the same thing, and then I just think of something I'm grateful for, because you can't be upset and grateful at the same time. Right, and it can be. I brush my teeth today and be goofy about it, it doesn't matter. Just something to put in that eschatoma when you do that pattern, interrupt to lift and change your physiology and just lift you out of that place Because it's easy to jump right back into it. Right, to some extent. But when you're talking pineapple, I don't know that I could jump back into it. It's fantastic.
Speaker 3:I would love for everyone to put a word in the chat. Amy Jo Morris says I really need a pattern, and yeah, you ruminate a lot on that. So put a word in the chat right now. Choose it now, don't wait till later, you won't later, you won't later. Get a word right now and then try it for three times today. You know, and and it really does just take a little bit of practice, and everyone listened to me.
Speaker 3:Now, whatever you're practicing is growing stronger. Well, you know, if, if you get pushed, whatever's, whatever, if, if I'm holding this and there's coffee in the cup, you know whatever's in my cup is going to spell out if it's coffee, it's going to be coffee, it's tea, it's going to be water. I love it. Debra says abracadabra, that's a great one, and uh, but so if I, if I'm filling myself up with doubt, with hate, with judgment, with um, you know, should, and oh, I lost my chance, I mean and all these negative thoughts, once I get pushed by someone, all that's going to spill out, does that make sense? Because life is going to push you sometimes and then. So that's why these, these podcasts, listening to these podcasts or or finding these practices that you can do on a daily basis. I love these words. These are really funny words. I love it. And so our ability to be able to say you know, okay, I, I can practice this word, I can practice this pattern, break, I, I can. And here's where I'm going to tell you this I find God. I find God, my can. You can say if you don't believe in God, say universe, joy, love, whatever you believe in. I find God in the space in between my thoughts. I am not my thoughts, you are not your thoughts. And so when you can just get still, because there's so much stimulation, there's so much comparison. But I promise you, once you get the guy, once you get the girl, once you get the money, once you get the things you want, you're still going to be you. And guess what? After a brief celebration, you're going to be like what's next? I want more. And so it's so beautiful, because then we can enjoy the right now and and, and. So my destination in my life is no longer a place. It's a new way of seeing the world, because through new eyes, I live a new life, um, and I get to.
Speaker 3:I get to close my eyes each day and practice silent meditation and find God in the space in between my thoughts, and then I can carefully choose oh, that wasn't an aligned thought. What's another thought that would be relief for me. So if I'm like, oh, I'm so mad at this person, god, I can't believe they did that to me. I could be like, well, what could I see that I did to them, maybe. And then there's like a little bit of relief there, and then there's even more relief, and then can I be a hundred percent sure and assume that they're thinking of this is truth. This is going to be a hundred percent sure, you know.
Speaker 3:And so reach for relief, because sometimes going from fear to gratitude is a very huge leap. But I can tell you you can do it. I love what you said. I do believe gratitude is the antidote to fear. But some people might be in a place where they're like I can't get to gratitude, I'm so afraid right now. But you know what's a little bit more powerful than powerful? You know, powerlessness and fear is anger, and then, a little bit above that, would be feeling sadness, and then a little bit of that is, you know, peace or whatever, and so so now we're going up the scale, you know of frustration. Okay, now, now we're getting some energy and then you can get to that joy.
Speaker 3:So reach for relief today in your thoughts and then reach for that space in between the thoughts and find God, find what you believe in. It'll be there. I promise you're not. We get so wrapped up in that we are, you know, are what's happened to us, or what we're going to do, or what we've been. You are eternity. We are eternity living in this life. This is so precious, it's so sacred. I get so emotional thinking about my existence. I'm a spirit, I'm a soul living in this body. I have this body that I get to experience the gift of life. And I'm not always, I don't always feel like this, but I practice as much as I can, moving into a state of reverence for my life, because reverence is very close to God. Amen.
Speaker 2:Amen, and you know it's it's. It's okay to be passionate and emotional.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 2:You're telling me people that way. I always believe that when you show your true soul, that's when, that's when connections are made. My friend, so um with that said, you're almost at Joseph McClendon time With that said you're almost at Joseph McClendon time.
Speaker 3:I can't be my mentor. I don't want to do that to him.
Speaker 2:It is all good, hey, so everybody, thank you again for joining us. Carolyn, you're always an amazing light in this world. Thank you for shining so bright. I love having you on every time, so you know, with that said, though, we do need to go. So, um, okay, awesome, yeah, thank you everybody for joining and, uh, tell Jason we love him, please I will.
Speaker 3:Yeah, and you know what I would say to everyone post one takeaway you got. I don't care if it's one sentence or one. Joseph McLennan always says this, and so does Tony Robbins. They will say don't leave the site without writing down an anchor or what you learned from listening to something. I'm telling you. We wouldn't tell you this unless it worked. This is neuro encoding at its finest. Write down what you got from it, like even if it's just a comment in here. Oh, you know what I really resonated with um. You know, you know forgiveness isn't condoning. Or I really resonated with the space in between. Just write anything that is sticking in your mind, or any lesson or wisdom or something that you're going to apply to your life. Uh, because that that will help anchor in the lesson and the wisdom you just learned. So it doesn't just go in and out. Let it cultivate, let it sit. So, yes, see the world with new eyes. Beautiful, all right, great. Thank you, michael. I know we have to go.
Speaker 2:Last thing when you do that, celebrate it, shake your ass, pat yourself on the back and smile. Let's go. All right, everybody, we are out of here. Thank you, bye.
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