You know what your boundaries are. You've thought them through, named them, maybe even rehearsed what you'd say. But when the moment comes… your body takes over. You over-explain. You soften. You say yes when you mean no.

If that sounds familiar, this episode is for you.

Today I'm sharing why this happens—and it's not a willpower problem. It's a nervous system problem. I'll walk you through the 5-step framework I use to work with my nervous system instead of against it, so boundaries actually become possible in real moments.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why boundaries get harder when you're already overwhelmed
• What your nervous system is actually doing in boundary moments
• The 5 steps to hold boundaries without the guilt, spiraling, or over-explaining
• Simple body-based tools to stay present through discomfort
• How to help your nervous system update so new patterns stick

Key Takeaway: We don't force change. We train safety.

Download the Free Guide: 5 Steps for When You Know Your Boundaries—But Can't Hold Them

This isn't a read-once kind of guide. It's designed to be used in real moments—when a client asks for more, when a conversation gets hard, when you feel that familiar pull to over-explain or give in.

Download it free → jessicadowningcoaching.com/boundaryguide

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