"Saying No Is Self-Respect ( Here's Why You Struggle With It)"

In this solo episode, JR dives into “Saying No Is Self-Respect (Here’s Why You Struggle With It)” 🎙️🔥

If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed, distracted, or stuck… this episode will wake you up.

JR breaks down 5 powerful truths about saying NO and how constantly saying YES is costing you your time, focus, and future.

This isn’t just about boundaries…
 This is about discipline, growth, and becoming the person you’re called to be.

💯 In this episode, JR covers:

• Why every YES has a cost
• How fear keeps you stuck saying yes
• Why boundaries equal self-respect
• How high performers protect their time
• Why you must say no to the old you

If you apply this… your life WILL change. Period.

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It’s time to stop people-pleasing… and start self-respecting.

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Transcript

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Man, again, it's JR again. You know, back at it like I never left, man. I'm JR, your host, the real shitless talk podcast. Listen, thank y'all for tuning in. About to drop this fire episode again. And we're gonna just get right into it. Listen, let me tell you what today, what I'm gonna talk about on this episode. Are you ready? Uh say if you're ready, say I'm ready. You know, put a comment, click like, subscribe again. Listen, today, the topic I'm gonna go for is saying no. It's it is self-respect. Here's why you struggle with it. I'll say it again. Saying no, and it's is self-respect, and here's why. So let me hit you with this aspect in a little different way, right? The reason why like your life isn't changing is because you do say yes too much. You say, yes, I'll I'll I'll put off working out so that I can go and go to this party. Or yes, I'll I'll do that, but you still gotta cut the grass. Or yeah, I'll give you five dollars, but remember you saving up for a new crib, or you're saving up for a new pair of shoes, or you're saving up for that math book, or that book that you need to read. That that's where you are with it. You're you're too busy saying yes to every little aspect that has nothing to really give back to you. Yeah, I know. I said it. I understand. It might sting a little bit, but every time that you say yes to distractions, you're saying no to your future. Or no, or that your time is invaluable, really, or that you just willy-nilly let you the yes man or the yes woman or the yes person or whatever. And today we're talking about why saying no is one of the most powerful forms of self-respect that you can develop. And we're gonna go with it like this. You know, we're gonna do a little bit of a little one-two, one-two, you know what I'm saying? So I'm gonna say this there was a time where I couldn't say no. Like my homies, homeboys, homegirls, friends, families would hit me up, and I'm there. If the opportunity came, I was there. I'm saying yes because I really just wanted to hang out and be with them and was like, oh, they I I'll get back to what I'm doing. But I still entertained it. Even if it didn't align with where I was going and the momentum and the things that I was trying to accomplish or working to accomplish, I didn't do it. And I kept wondering, and why am I not growing, or why am I not getting in shape, or or why do I feel stuck in in the same position? And it was because I had no boundaries. I didn't learn how to set boundaries until like I knew I couldn't do that dumb stuff, that ignorant stuff. The I couldn't, I couldn't bullshit no more, really. To be honest with you, I had no structure at one point in time, and I didn't respect my own time, and which led to not having good time management skills. I'm human. It happened to me, but I changed and I started saying no. This is where you come in at, and this is where you can be able to say no. This is where it's it's okay. I had to learn that. And so, as you see, nobody tells you this growing up. Nobody pacifies you and saying, hey, it's okay to say no. Because, you know, you're supposed to be nice and positive. And I'm not saying you can't be nice and positive by saying no, but it's how you say it. You don't have to say no with an attitude. You can just say no, not interested. I'm not going. I gotta go to sleep, I gotta get up in the morning, I got drill in the morning. Hey, I got practice tomorrow. Hey, I got this exam tomorrow. Saying yes feels good in the moment, but it can cost you in the long run or long term. And saying no, it can feel uncomfortable too in the moment, but it can also pay off in the long term, meaning that you didn't go to that club uh because it got shot up, you didn't drink that one more beer because you knew that driving under the influence, you got a family to get back to. Or you knew, hey, I need to go to bed at a decent time because I need to get up and be active. I need to get up and do things. So let's break down why you struggle with it of saying no and how to fix it. We're gonna go with point number one. Every yes has a cost. When you're saying yes, you're saying yes to scrolling, when you're supposed to be asleep, you're saying yes to going out, which are distractions. And they don't align with where you're trying to go. You're trying to be that lawyer, that doctor, that pharmacist, that athlete, that public speaker, that MC. Come on now. You're saying no to your goals, but you're saying yes to the distractions. That's not cool. You're saying no to the growth. You're saying no to discipline. That's what you're saying. But let's say it like this: you don't have a time problem. You have a priority problem where you need to put your priorities in alignment with being who you really are by saying no and sticking to it and standing on business ten toes down. That's where this comes in. And that's why you're listening to this pod. So, point number two, you say yes because of fear sometimes. Sometimes you might be afraid because you don't want to disappoint nobody. But let's get a little bit deeper. The reason you've you struggle with saying no is the fear of missing out, which we call FOMO. The fear of disappointing people that really don't give a shit about you. Or the fear of not being liked by those that you're different. Screw that. Say no. You want to be accepted, but it's costing you your future. Real talk. Stop trying to be liked and start working on trying to be disciplined. Let's go to point number three. Let's go ahead and jump in there. Boundaries equal self-respect. If you don't set boundaries, people will always cross the line. You teach people how to treat you. You don't let people teach you how they want to treat you. If you're always available, they'll expect you to be available when they need you. If you always say yes, they'll never respect your no. Saying no is not disrespectful. It's self-respect and standing on it. And listen, that that just a lot right now. But let's get into point number four. High performers protect their time. Let me tell you something about high performers. They say no more than they say yes. They don't move off emotions, they move with intentions. So that means stop being too emotional about the thing of saying no. They protect their time like they protect their money. That is a gem right there. Because it's like this. Focused people are selective, distracted people are available to everything and all the nuances of bullshit. Let's get into point number five. You have to say no to the old you. This is that one right here that's going, ooh, sting just a little bit. But if you really want to grow and you are going to have to say no to who you used to be. That's old habits, old environments, old conversations, old excuses. These are things that separates growth. Like, come on. They say growth requires separation. This is what helps it. You can't become the new person while entertaining the old life of saying yes to everybody, not being a yes man, not being a yes woman, and not you shoot. Sometimes you gotta say no. Once you say no, is it is what it is. And you really, really, really, really can say no. I mean, it's okay. And I just want to stress to you that let's do like a little recap, right? Let's lock it in. Lock in. Remember every yes has cost you. You say yes because of fear. Boundaries equal self-respect. High performers protect their time. You must say no to the old you. If you master this, your life will change. It must change. Not because things got easier, but because you b you became discipline. And again, guys, it's 2026. We're heading into quarter number two. Quarter number two? Come on now. It's it's it's it's that one. They say you got what, like nine more months? Let's lock in. If you need help, or if you don't have anybody to turn to or mentor or coach, listen, I've got a few links down there at the bottom of this bio that can help you get you to the next you and help you say no. There's the driven program. You see what I'm pointing at? You see what I'm pointing at on my shirt? There's the 21-day accountability challenge workbook. There's all these things. There's a community, there's links at the bottom that can get you to the next level. I want you to lock in. I want you to, hey, if holding you accountable is what you need, or being consistent is what you need, I put some tools down there at the bottom for you. And I can say, like, hey, I had I failed too. I was that person that used to say yes all the time. I was that person that just go with the flow. I was that person that just at that one point in my life, like the younger me wanted to fit in. But once I realized that fitting in wasn't getting me trying to trying to fit in where I really didn't fit in or belong, man, I took off. I became the new me that you see sitting in front of the camera, doing his podcast, and loving everything about his podcast. I became him. When you became, when you become who you want to be, man, saying no becomes easy. Now, should you, you don't have to, again, you have to juggle or weigh out the situation and when you're saying no. You don't need to say no with an attitude, but you can say no with an authority. Not everything is for everybody, and not everybody is for everything. Remember, you are growing, you are beginning to be somebody different. And sometimes the most thing that's hated by people is by them changing, and you're evolving to a new you, a new her, a new him, a new boss, a new CEO, a new athlete, the star athlete. Remember, we're not going for likes. We're going to dominate, execute, we're going to do the thing that makes us different, makes us dream big, makes us on top of planet, Mars, Jupiter, whatever. But these are the things that like certain things you gotta just say no to. These are the things that it becomes difficult because you don't want to hurt nobody's feelings, but sometimes feelings, no, I'm gonna say not sometimes, feelings don't pay the bills, feelings don't make you money. Only execution and the call to action to be the change that you want to be, be the change that you see that needs to come forth and make it happen. We can't talk about it. We gotta be about it. These are the things that not only is it tough. Because sometimes you don't want to say no. Sometimes you gotta say no to your kids. Your boyfriend, your girlfriend, your husband, your wife, your neighbors, you gotta say no. Because you don't have time, and it's not aligned with where you're going. So, what I say and what I stress to you guys is that it's okay to say no. As I told myself with this podcast that I was not going to give up. And I have my pod peeps and peers around me that when I'm slacking and lacking, and I just say, no, I don't feel like it. Oh, so you're saying no to your future, you're saying no to your goals, you're saying no to being disciplined, you're saying no to being held accountable. Come on. How are you gonna say no to those things? And you, the number one accountability coach. Come on. And I had to be reminded, and this is time ago, and I have to be reminded that not everything comes easy, but not everything comes hard either. But when you're willing to do the work and these points that I laid out, these are transformational points, pinpoints that could help you level up to a better you. Is it going to be fun? No. But it's okay because guess what? No matter what you do, no matter where you go, no matter how you do the thing that you're working on doing, guess what? It's just you and space and opportunity to become the better you, to not fall in that gap. And I am so happy that I had that I learned this lesson. And I learned it the hard way, and it wasn't eating, but I learned it. And I just want to say, listen, as I sit here and give this pod, I had to say no to giving up. Because I won't. I am super excited about my podcast. I am elated to talk about it. I'm elated to talk about the growth, but I'm also alerted to the distractions that's gonna lead me astray and not do the thing that I want to do in the sense of growing my pod or the sense of coaching on accountability to other people or providing a community or program such as driven that keeps people in a positive state of mind and builds the discipline, builds the consistency, builds these things that people are afraid to talk about. But I am JR. I am your host of Real Shitless Talk Podcast. I am just super, super, super excited about what's further to come in this 2026 year. I am super excited about the next level that I'm coming, that I'm growing to. I'm super excited about the next level that you're growing to. I'm super excited for what's coming up next. And I'm gonna put God first. And my momentum behind it, my prayers and everything for higher being, whatever you serve, whoever you serve, know that you are doing the thing that nobody else is willing to do but you by saying no. And with that being said, listen, create the space that you want to be in, create the environment that you want to be in, and sometimes you have to remove yourself from the environment, from the distractions that keep you from saying no or keep you hanged up and hung up on foolishness. And so again, you might can't make it to that birthday party right now because you need to study. You might can't go to the club because you need to save that money. You can't go buy them shoes because you're saving for a down payment on a house or on a car, or you're saving for your kids' tuition, or you can't go eat McDonald's right now because you need to eat a salad. You're trying to lose weight, you're trying to get up there and make things happen. You ain't trying to sit there, eat snacks, and keep being fat. These are just small little things, guys. But saying no, setting boundaries, being disciplined, and being consistent in your discipline and saying no when the appropriate times or distractions are coming or headed your way or in front of you, it is perfectly fine. Again, I am your host, JR Real Shitless Talk Podcast. Like, click like, subscribe, listen, comment, start commenting, share this with a friend. Like, say, share it. Come on. I need it, I'm asking, and I appreciate you. So So again, until next time, we got another episode and another episode and some more to go because we ain't gonna stop until we get to the top. And even when we get to the top, the top is still there's still more room to grow. I'm always evolving, I'm always learning, and forever be a student in the game. So peace out. Love you guys. Thank y'all.