OVERTHINKERS ANONYMOUS
This podcast is for any and everyone who struggles with overthinking or “getting out of their own head” . It is a no judgement, anonymous, and open platform that we can collectively discuss what is causing us inner turmoil. It will also be a space of encouragement and positive affirmation that you can use to propel your life forward.
OVERTHINKERS ANONYMOUS
Navigating the Voyage of Self-Discovery and Affirmation
Have you ever felt like you're wading through an ocean of doubt, trying to stay afloat in the stormy seas of self-judgment? We've all been there, anchored down by the heavy chains of our past, our missteps, and the harsh narratives we tell ourselves. Let's set sail together on a voyage of self-discovery, charting a course through the waters of self-esteem and personal worth. This episode is an expedition to the heart of what makes us value ourselves, examining the treasure map of our life experiences and the X that marks the spot of self-affirmation.
Join us as we hoist the sails and navigate the importance of believing in yourself. We're not just talking about the superficial 'pat-on-the-back' kind of belief, but the deep-rooted conviction that your worth isn't tied to your accolades or the sum of your setbacks—it's about the essence of your very being. No guests on board this time, just an intimate heart-to-heart with your captain, guiding you through the fog of overthinking and into the clarity of intentional action. Whether you're an overthinker seeking reprieve or just someone looking to bolster your self-esteem, this journey is for you. Let's find our compass and embark on a quest not just for happiness, but for a life brimming with fulfillment.
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I've been up and down for so long. Crazy how right can become so wrong. The thoughts in my head Keep me on a constant rollercoaster and I just want some peace. Tonight Feels like my heart done, left me stranded, just floating away on a melody, leaving me to all my tears. I just hope somebody here's landed Sides to come and rescue me, cause I've been through so many and the only way to get past the pain Are the prayers that pray to keep my sanity.
Speaker 1:Tell me, have you ever been caught up in your mind, so unaware of time, cause you can't stop thinking, oh, and it feels like You're breaking down inside. You wanna let it ride, but you can't, cause you're overthinking it all. Am I really as good as I think I am, or am I starting in my mind like it's starting on the ground? Father, please tell me again, cause your voice is so felfed, but in Only days when I'm thinking with it, even after you said that I went. Tell me walk bold, cause you're queen and I'm loving how you dream and your representation. No, you ain't perfect, but, baby, you gon' make it. So stop overthinking. If you would do me the awesome honor of going and subscribing and following this podcast channel and then hitting the toggle button so that you can download each and every podcast that comes out. I would be so honored and so appreciative if you would do that for me, and so on.
Speaker 1:Today we're going to talk about self-esteem, self-esteem let's get into it. What is self-esteem? Self-esteem is the value that you place on yourself and how you perceive your self-worth. Do you think that you're worth anything? Do you feel that you have any value? Our esteem is created by our opinions and beliefs about ourselves. So what is it that you believe about yourself? What is your opinion of yourself? Do you have a high opinion of yourself, or do you have a low opinion of yourself? What is it that you believe about yourself? Esteem means to think of as valuable, valuable. Do you feel that you're valuable? If you think of yourself as valuable, then you will have a high or a healthy self-esteem. In contrast, if you do not consider yourself as valuable, then you're going to have a tendency to have a low self-esteem, a low self-esteem.
Speaker 1:Our opinions and beliefs about ourselves are most times shaped by our upbringing. In other words, our esteem is most times formed during our childhood. The things that you experience as a child initially form a foundation in the shaping of your self-esteem. If you had negative experiences, were not treated well by family members, teachers and authorities in your life, if you weren't treated well by friends, bullied in school, that will lend itself to developing a low self-esteem, a low self-esteem If you were criticized harshly, if you were yelled at, abused, not given the proper attention, or if you were made to feel like you had to be perfect to be accepted or loved. All of those things shape your esteem, all of those things. And so do you identify with any of those things that I just named? Do you identify with being harshly criticized, yelled at, even abused, not given attention, made to feel like you had to be perfect? If you identify with any of those things, then those things helped to shape your esteem. If you were routinely affirmed by your family, if you were made to feel loved and appreciated, if you were made to feel like you were valued, if you were listened to, if, when you spoke they listened to you, that also shapes your esteem and lends itself to a development of a healthy self-esteem. So maybe do you identify with any of that Were you listened to, were you valued, were you affirmed, affirmation goes a long way. Affirmation does wonders for a person's spirit, for their emotional health, for their mental health. Affirmation Did you receive affirmation? Did you receive enough affirmation so that you developed a healthy self-esteem?
Speaker 1:How you feel about yourself impacts how you live. It impacts how you think. It impacts how you respond, how you feel about yourself. So how is it that you feel about yourself? Listen, everyone is not gifted to have been able to be brought up in a home where their esteem was cultivated properly. Everyone was not gifted like that. So if you were not brought up in this type of atmosphere, guess what? That doesn't mean that you are in a less of a person. It doesn't mean that you are undeserving. It simply means that your esteem needs to be what cultivated. It simply means that it needs cultivation. It needs to be built up again. It needs to be rebuilt, reestablished, renovated. Maybe your self-esteem needs some renovation, it needs some work. But guess what? It can be rebuilt, it can be renovated. If you're operating and functioning with low self-esteem right now, there's still hope for you, because your self-esteem can be renovated, it can be renewed, it can be built up, rebuilt again. It can be cultivated into a place where you have faith in yourself once again and your confidence in yourself is renewed.
Speaker 1:Believe in yourself. It's gonna cause for you to believe in yourself. Listen, if nobody else believes in you, you have to believe in you. You have to believe in you. And so I say to you again today believe in yourself, believe that you can do it. Believe that you can accomplish anything that you set your mind and your heart to do.
Speaker 1:Believe in yourself. Your life has worth. You deserve to feel happy. You deserve to be feel fulfilled. You deserve to feel accomplished, accomplished. You deserve that. You deserve that. You deserve that, and so have faith in yourself and understand that your success or your failure doesn't define who you are as a person, mm-mm. It doesn't define who you are as a person, because who you are is more than guess what. It's more than what you do. Who you are is more than what you don't do. You're more than that. Stop yoking your worthiness to what you do and what you have accomplished. Stop tying it to that. Stop tying your worthiness, yoking your worthiness, to what you do and what you have accomplished, because you're more than that. It's deeper than that. It goes deeper than that. See, that's surface stuff. But who you are and what value you have. How valuable you are, is determined by what you have on the inside, what's in your heart, what's in your mind. Your successes and your failures combined, they make up the essence of who you are. So it's not just your successes that make up who you are, it's not just your failures that make up who you are, but it's your successes and your failures combined that make up the essence of who you are. In other words, they make up the total picture of who you are.
Speaker 1:See, you can't have the full picture without one or the other. You can't have the full picture, see, because if I only have the picture of your successes, that I don't have a full picture of who you are. I don't know who you are when you failed. I don't know who you are when the chips are down. Do you turn into a totally different person when the chips are down? And vice versa. If I've only been able to know you through your failures and I haven't been able to see who you are when you're succeeding, are you a totally different person when you're succeeding? Do you turn into some arrogant and hearty person when you're succeeding, when you feel like you're successful, but when you feel that you're a failure, then you're humble. So it doesn't give us the full picture of who you are when we're just looking at one or the other. But we've got to have both. We've got to be able to see the successes and the failures to be able to see the total picture of who you are.
Speaker 1:So don't be afraid of failure. Don't be afraid of failure. Recognize it, that it's just all a part of life. Failure is simply a part of life. We all fail at certain things. At certain times Some of us have bigger failures than others, but it's all failure. And so guess what? After failure, your life still goes on. Life still goes on after failure, and so it's all a part of life. You're going to have some highs in life and you're going to have some lows, but you've got to know how to ride out the lows until you get to the highs. And then you've got to know how to ride out the highs until when the next low comes around. So you got to recognize that and not be afraid of failure. You can't be afraid of failure. Failure will teach you some of your greatest lessons. Failure will lend itself to some of the most awesome wisdom that you could have ever experienced, ever attained, you would have never known it. You would have never been able to partake of that wisdom had you not failed and been able to see the downside and the upside. See, once you've failed at something, you know what not to do for the next time. And so guess what? Don't be afraid of failure, but what really speaks to the person that you are is how you go on, how you move after failure. That's what really speaks to the type of person that you are. That's what really speaks to the person that you are. That's what speaks to the value that you have, is how you're able to go on after failure, my, how you're able to move on after failure, but that's a topic for another day. We're going to discuss that, though. We're going to hit that Today.
Speaker 1:I want to stick to a failure in relates to our self-esteem. Today, what I want you to do is I want you to take a step back and evaluate your relationship with yourself. How is your relationship with yourself? I want you to take an honest look at how you treat yourself, how you talk to yourself, what you think about yourself. Think about those things. Take an honest look at those things.
Speaker 1:How do you treat yourself? Do you beat yourself up all the time? Are you more harshly on yourself than you are on others? How do you talk to yourself? Do you speak down and negative to yourself? You know, it's one thing for somebody else to speak negatively to you, but it's a whole other thing when you are speaking negative to yourself. Imagine what kind of damage that does when you're speaking negative and you're speaking down to yourself.
Speaker 1:What do I mean by speaking down and negative to you? This is what I mean. You know you're not going to ever do it. You know that you're nothing. You know that you're not going to never make it. You know that you're not going to ever be successful. Look at you. You don't look good, you don't look right. Why, why do you speak like that to yourself? Why do you talk like that to yourself? Why do you believe that about yourself? Why?
Speaker 1:It all goes back to your esteem, your self-esteem. Your self-esteem is based upon what you believe about yourself, what you think about yourself, and if those are the types of things that you're believing about yourself, if the type of things that you believe about yourself are all negative, then you've got to trace that back to what has taken place in your life, throughout your childhood and throughout your former life before today. And then you've got to recognize that, even though those things may have happened to me, even though I may have experienced those things in my life and they were negative I didn't have anybody to listen to me, I didn't have anybody to affirm me Guess what, even though I didn't have all of that, even though I experienced abuse, even though I experienced all of those terrible things, I am still valuable. I am still worth something. You are still worth something. You are still valuable.
Speaker 1:And so this week, I want you to sit back and take an honest look at yourself, take an evaluate your relationship with yourself and remember to believe in yourself, believe in yourself. If nobody else believes in you, you believe in you. You believe in you. What else do you have to lose? You believe in you. There's one thing for other people to believe in you, but you've got to first believe in you. You've got to believe in you. You've got to believe that inside of you there's something good. Inside of you there's something valuable. Inside of you there's something worthwhile. Yes, there's something worthwhile in you. Believe in yourself. Believe in yourself, have faith in yourself, have confidence in yourself. So that's what I want you to do on this week, and then next week we're gonna pick this up again and then I wanna describe for you and talk about how your self-esteem relates to your overthinking, how one can fuel the other. But that's gonna be for next week. But this week, do your homework and evaluate your relationship with yourself, take a step back and just take a look at how you feel about yourself and if you're finding some deficits, if you're finding some areas that are lacking, begin to rebuild them, begin to build them up again, begin to build on your self-esteem. Next week I'm gonna give you some keys and some tips on building your self-esteem. Until then, join me back here on next week and you guys have a wonderful rest of the week.
Speaker 1:I'm Pam Gonsolin and you've been tuned into the Overthinkers Anonymous podcast. Bye-bye. Still. Stop over thinking. Had you ever been caught up in your mind?