OVERTHINKERS ANONYMOUS
This podcast is for any and everyone who struggles with overthinking or “getting out of their own head” . It is a no judgement, anonymous, and open platform that we can collectively discuss what is causing us inner turmoil. It will also be a space of encouragement and positive affirmation that you can use to propel your life forward.
OVERTHINKERS ANONYMOUS
Navigating Self-Worth: Embrace the Powerful Truth That You Are Enough
Ever found yourself trapped in a loop of self-doubt, feeling like you're perpetually on the back foot? My personal saga mirrors that of so many listeners – the struggle to navigate the murky waters of self-worth, particularly in the aftermath of life's harder knocks. Today's episode is a deep and meaningful exploration of the often complex journey towards accepting that fundamental truth: You are enough. Together, we dissect the destructive patterns of overthinking, peel back the layers of our past traumas, and learn to distinguish our true selves from the experiences that have shaped us.
Joining me is life coach Pam Gonsoulin, an expert in cultivating positive mental landscapes, who illuminates our discussion with her wisdom on the power of positive affirmations. We immerse ourselves in "You Are Enough Affirmations," designed not just for a moment of feel-good listening, but as a practice to carry into your daily life. The episode wraps up with an opportunity that might just be the guiding light you've been searching for. If my words have resonated with you, and you're ready to change the dialogue in your head, my coaching could be the next step in your journey to a self-assured future.
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I've been up and down for so long. Crazy how right can become so wrong. The thoughts in my head Keep me on a constant rollercoaster and I just want some peace. Tonight Feels like my heart done, left me stranded, just floating away on a melody, leaving me to all my tears. I just hope somebody hears and decides to come and rescue me, cause I've been through some pain and the only way to get past the pain Are the prayers that pray to keep my sanity. Tell me, have you ever Been caught up in your mind, so unaware of time, cause you can't stop thinking, oh, and it feels like You're breaking down inside. You wanna let it ride, ride, but you can't, cause you're overthinking it all. Am I really as good as I think I am, or am I stunting in my mind like they stunting on the ground? Father, please tell me again. Tell me again, cause your voice is so comforting On the days when I'm thinking with it, even after you said that I win. Told me walk bold, cause you're queen and I'm loving how you dream and your representation. No, you ain't perfect, but baby, you gon' make it. Yeah, yeah, baby girl, you gon' make it. So stop overthinking.
Speaker 1:Welcome to the Overthinkers Anonymous podcast. I'm so glad that you are joining me today. I've been out for the last two weeks due to illness, but I am feeling so much better and I am so happy to be back with you all today. If you're not subscribed to this podcast, please hit the subscribe link found in the description box. Also, make sure that you download the podcast, because the number of downloads we receive helps to boost the podcast. So let's dive in today, guys. Are you ready? I'm ready, I'm ready to dive in today. So I have a question. I'm ready, I'm ready to dive in today. So I have a question. You know, I always come with questions and they're designed to make you think, and my question for you today is have you ever felt like you just don't measure up, like you're not enough? Have you ever felt like that, like you're just not enough?
Speaker 1:I think that a lot of people who overthink struggle with these thoughts that then turn around and fuel their overthinking. Sometimes they will not admit that they feel this way, but deep down, the reason that they keep second guessing themselves, they keep going over and over uh, you know the situation in their minds is because they feel inadequate in making decisions and they don't think that their opinions have any value. They don't think their opinions have any value because they feel invaluable, they feel like they're unvaluable and so, because of these feelings of inadequacy, feeling like they're not enough, feeling like you're not enough, it will cause you to begin to second guess yourself and it will cause you to begin to overthink situations in your life that you are faced with. If you're listening to me today, I want you to know that you are enough. That's right, you are enough, and I know I know. I know, I know that it may be hard for you to believe it right now, but let me assure you that you can believe it, because it's the truth.
Speaker 1:Sometimes, because of the things that we have gone through negative life experiences we find it hard to believe that we are enough for anybody or anything. See, when you've gone through some hard times, some hard struggles, when you've been faced with and have to deal with hurt, betrayal, disappointment, whether it comes from abuse and that's all forms of abuse whether mentally, emotionally, physically, financially, whatever type of abuse that you've had to suffer through Whether it's from when we deal with rejection, when we're rejected, when we have to deal with infidelity, that's a big one. When we have to deal with infidelity, where a spouse or a significant other has been unfaithful. It will cause you to wonder am I good enough? Am I enough? Why wasn't I enough for them to stay? Why wasn't I enough for them not to venture out and find other relationships? Those kinds of things, experiences will cause you to begin to question your experience could be just being treated unfairly or unkindly. Those types of experiences will produce a feeling of inadequacy, like it'll make you feel like you couldn't possibly be valuable, you couldn't possibly be worth anything, you couldn't possibly be enough, because look what has happened to you, look what situation you're facing, look where you're finding yourself, you're finding your life at right now. So all of those things that we deal with, all of those negative things that we deal with, produce feelings of inadequacy that cause you to question whether or not you are enough.
Speaker 1:It's important to remember, though, that you're not your experiences I think I talked about this before that you're not your experiences. I think I talked about this before that you're not your experiences, and your experiences they don't define you if you don't let it. So your experiences don't have to define you if you don't let them, because you can rise above them. You can let your experiences be a driving force to power you forward in a positive way, instead of allowing your negative experiences to bring you down. You can allow those negative experiences to power you forward, to push you and propel you forward, mm-hmm. They can inspire a positive reaction in your life, because you are not your experiences.
Speaker 1:You have to separate yourself from your experiences. You may have experienced it, but just because I have experienced that doesn't make that who I am. I have experienced that doesn't make that who I am. Just because I've experienced abuse doesn't mean that I am a victim, Mm-hmm, and so I don't have to. I may have been victimized, but I don't have to take on the victim mentality. If you can understand what I'm talking about, I don't have to take on that victim mentality.
Speaker 1:Just because I've been rejected by one person doesn't mean that everybody rejects me. Doesn't mean that everybody rejects me. Just because I've experienced rejection in one area doesn't mean that I'll experience rejection in other areas. Just because one person let me down doesn't mean that everybody's going to let me down, doesn't mean that everybody's going to let me down. So you are not your experiences.
Speaker 1:Just because you've been betrayed by a person. That doesn't mean that everybody's out to betray you, everybody's out to stab you in the back. That's not what that means. Everybody's not out to hurt you. You may have experienced some hurt, you may have experienced some betrayal, some disappointment, but everybody that you encounter is not like that, and all of your life experiences won't be like that. And so you have to remember that. You're not your experiences.
Speaker 1:But first you have to truly believe that you are enough. You've got to believe that you're enough Just as you are, without adding anything to yourself, without subtracting anything from yourself, without doing anything else to yourself. Right now, just as you are, you are enough. You are worthy of love, you are worthy of affection, you are worthy of attention. You're worthy. You are worthy, and you've got to begin to believe that about yourself. You've got to begin to believe in yourself. You've got to believe that there's value in you. You're valuable.
Speaker 1:Sure, somebody maybe one person, you know, somebody that you're in relationship with or what have you maybe they can't see your value, but just because they can't see your value doesn't mean that you're not valuable, doesn't mean that there's not value found within you. It's just that they can't see it. They can't see it. They can't see it. And so you know what? If they can't see your value, it's their loss, not yours, it's you are. They're missing out on the great addition to their lives, benefit to their lives, that you can be. They're missing out. That's not on you, that's on them, that's not on you, that's on them, that's not on you. Just because they don't recognize it, that doesn't mean that it's not who you are, because that is exactly who you are. You are valuable, you are worthy and you are enough. You are enough, are enough, you are enough.
Speaker 1:When we start to consider whether or not we are enough, we have to realize that the word enough has no meaning listen at this unless you make a comparison to something else. Think about that. I'm going to say it again when we start to consider whether or not we are enough, we have to realize that the word enough, that word enough, has absolutely no meaning to it unless you make a comparison to something else. So when you make that statement to yourself that you are not enough, who or what are you comparing yourself to? Who are you comparing yourself to? Who are you comparing yourself to? What are you comparing yourself to? What are you comparing yourself to when you make that statement about yourself, that you are not enough, when you accept the statement that you are not enough, when you accept the statement that you are not enough in comparison to who, in comparison to what?
Speaker 1:That's something to think about, because right here it's important to remember that there are no two people on the face of the earth that are exactly alike. There's no people, two people, that's exactly alike. We weren't created like that. We were all created different. Sure, we may have some of the same commonalities, but no two people are exactly alike. There's no way we may share some things in common, but then there's a whole other bunch of different things that we are different about. Each of us is different from the other.
Speaker 1:So comparing us to each other is unfair. It's unfair when I compare myself to somebody else. It's unfair Because when we compare, we miss the individuality of another, of each other, we miss the uniqueness of each other. We miss, when we compare, we miss the genuineness of each other. We miss that Because, sure, I may have A, b and C going on and you may not, but you got X, y and Z going on for you and I don't See how that's an unfair comparison Just because I have A, b and C going on doesn't make me better than you because you got X, b and C going on, doesn't make me better than you because you got X, y, z going on. No, it just makes us different. It just makes us different. We're different.
Speaker 1:And who's to say what's better than the other? Your positive points may be my negative points, but then my positive points may be your negative points. See how that balances out. All of this stuff has a way of balancing out what I'm missing. You have what you have, what you missing I have. Sure, we may have some of the same things, but we're not going to have all of the same things, because no two people are alike. No two people on the face of God's green earth are exactly alike.
Speaker 1:You are unique. You are a unique divine masterpiece. There is nobody like you. So stop comparing yourself to others. Stop comparing yourself to others. There is no comparison. There is no comparison. Somebody might have. They might, you know, be handsome, they might be pretty, they might have the body going on, but their personality is trash, their character is garbage. And you, your character is outstanding. Your personality is wonderful. You light up a room when you enter in, but you may not have all the looks, you may not have all the frills. Does that make you less of a person? No, not at all. Does it make them less of a person? No, it's just who they are. It's just who they are, and so no two people are alike. You're a unique, divine masterpiece. So stop comparing yourself to others. You don't have anything to prove to anyone.
Speaker 1:See, when we feel like we're not enough, then we start on this adventure of trying to prove our worthiness. You have nothing to prove to anyone. You have nothing to prove to anyone else. So stop working so hard to try to prove that you're just as good as. Stop working so hard to try to prove that you're just as good as. Stop working so hard to try to prove that you're worthy of, and just know that you're worthy. Just know of a surety, that you're just as good as.
Speaker 1:Trying to prove who you are can be exhausting. It can be exhausting, it can wear you out. And you're so much trying to prove who you are, trying to do the right things and say the right things and be the right kind of person. It's causing you to second guess all of your decisions. It's causing you to overthink each and every aspect of your life. That's why you're overthinking it, because you're trying to prove to somebody that you're enough. You're trying to prove to somebody that you're worthy. Stop trying to prove it. You don't have anything to prove to anyone.
Speaker 1:So why bring this topic up in relation to overthinking? So why bring this topic up in relation to overthinking? Because, as I said earlier, this type of thinking and mindset fuels overthinking. On the surface, all we see is the overthinking at work, but behind the scene is the faulty mindset that says we are not enough. The faulty mindset is lurking in the background, and so what we do is we try and pretend that it's not there, but all the while, its effects on our lives tell a whole different story. It tells a whole different story because, even though you may not be acknowledging that you're feeling inadequate and feel like you're not enough, we can see the effects of those feelings. We can witness the overthinking, we can witness the feelings, we can witness the overthinking, we can witness the second guessing, we can witness the low self-esteem, we can witness the feelings of inadequacy, we can witness the fear that you have. We can see it, and so your thinking precedes your actions. So if you're seeing unhealthy or wrong actions, check out your thinking. Check out your thinking, and if you can correct the thinking, then you can correct the action. If you can correct the thinking, then you can correct the overthinking. And so that's what we're doing here today. That's what this whole podcast is about Correcting the thinking, correcting the mindset that causes us to overthink. If we can correct the thinking, then we can correct the overthinking.
Speaker 1:You just need a little course correction. You just need a little course correction. Every one of us need a little course correction Every now and then. If we want to continue to grow and evolve, we all need a little course correction Every now and then. So that's nothing to feel bad about, but it's something to feel bad about, but it's something to feel good about that you even recognize that you even have the opportunity to correct your course, see, because if you can correct your course now, your future can be better. If you can correct your course now, you can straighten some things out for your future. You can be in a much better, much happier, much brighter place in your future If you can course correct now, your future, if you can course correct now. So, as we go today, as I get ready to leave.
Speaker 1:Today, I want to give you some affirmations. You might want to take the time to write them down, or you might want to take the time to replay this every day so that you can hear them and then you can repeat them also. So we're going to do some. I entitled them. You Are Enough Affirmations. You Are Enough Affirmations. You all ready. I want you to say them with me. Okay, we on this journey together, we doing this together. So say them with me, repeat after me.
Speaker 1:I am worthy of success and all the abundance life has to offer. See, the more you say these, the more you're going to believe them and then the more there's going to be a different outcome for your life. I am worthy of unconditional love and acceptance, just as I am. I am worthy of respect from myself and others. I am worthy of love from both within and those around me. I am worthy Of taking a deep breath and finding inner peace. Take a deep breath, find inner peace.
Speaker 1:I am worthy Of overcoming negative thoughts and self-talk. I am worthy of happiness in every area of my life. That's a big one right there. I believe in my abilities, in my abilities. I recognize and appreciate my best qualities. I am confident in navigating life's challenges with grace and resilience. I celebrate my uniqueness and embrace my true self. I am in control of my reactions. I choose love self-love over self-judgment every day. I'm going to say that one again I choose self-love over self-judgment every day. And finally, I love and accept myself unconditionally. I love and accept myself unconditionally.
Speaker 1:I want you to repeat those affirmations every day until you start believing that you are enough. Until you start believing that you are enough If you've got to replay this podcast, if you've got to take a moment to write down the affirmations and post them somewhere where you can see them each day but I want you to make sure that you begin to repeat these every day, every day, until you start believing that you are enough. You are enough. You've been fearfully and wonderfully made Bask in the glow that is you. Breathe it all in as you breathe out and let go of all the toxic thinking that has kept you bound. Come on, breathe in right now, breathe it all in, breathe all that you are your fearfully, beautifully and wonderfully made self. Bask in the glow that is you and then breathe out. Let go of all the toxic thinking that has kept you bound. Determine in your heart and mind that it's only up from here. You're going up from here. We're not going back, we're not going down, we're going up. It's up from here. Determine that in your heart and in your mind. Make a commitment to yourself that you're going up from here, you're going up.
Speaker 1:I want to thank you for listening to me today. Thank you for listening to the Overthinkers Anonymous podcast, where we are changing and transforming lives, one thought at a time. One thought at a time. One thought at a time. If you would like to receive personal coaching, you can contact me through my email address, which is simply Pamela Gonsolin, at attnet. Reach out, let me know if you'd like to be personally coached. You'd like to have someone come in as a life coach and bring you through some steps, bring you through a process to get you to a brighter day. Thank you for joining me, and I'm Pam Gonsolin, and this has been the Overthink up in your mind, so unaware of time, cause you can't stop thinking.