Navigating the Maze of Overthinking: A Journey Toward Healing and Wholeness

Ever found yourself trapped in the labyrinth of your own thoughts? That's where we venture in today's episode, discussing the raw reality of overthinking and the profound impact it has on our lives. It's a candid reflection on those unseen conversations we have in the deepest parts of ourselves, which shape our emotions and actions more than we might realize. We take an unflinching look at the need to confront unhealed wounds as a prerequisite for authentic change, and I share my own experiences with the cyclical torment of painful memories, emphasizing the importance of rewriting our internal narratives.

Embarking on the journey to healing requires courage, a truth we dissect in the heart of this episode. I challenge you to face the daunting yet rewarding path to inner peace, asserting that the wholeness of being outshines a fragmented existence. As we prepare to greet the summer with open hearts, I urge you to join me in making a pledge towards personal growth and healing. The conversation extends an invitation to reflect on your own readiness to heal, assuring you that, while the process may be gradual, the destination is a life renewed.

Chapters

• 0:02 Healing Begins
• 12:17 Let the Healing Begin

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:02

I've been up and down for so long. Crazy how right can become so wrong. The thoughts in my head Keep me on a constant rollercoaster and I just want some peace. Tonight Feels like my heart done, left me stranded, just floating away on a melody, leaving me to all my tears. I just hope somebody hears and decides to come and rescue me, cause I've been through some pain and the only way to get past the pain are the prayers that pray to keep my sanity. Tell me, have you ever been caught up in your mind, so unaware of time, cause you can't stop thinking, oh, and it feels like You're breaking down inside. You wanna let it ride, ride, but you can't, cause you're overthinking it all. Am I really as good as I think I am, or am I stunting in my mind like it's stunting on the ground? Father, please tell me again. Tell me again, cause your voice is so comforting on the days when I'm thinking with it, even after you said that I win. Told me walk bold, cause you're queen and I'm loving how you dream in your representation. No, you ain't perfect, but baby, you gon' make it. Yeah, yeah, baby girl, you gon' make it. So stop overthinking. Hello and welcome to Overthinkers Anonymous. I'm so glad that you are joining me today. Share this podcast with others, tell your friends, tell your family and if you would like to subscribe to the Overthinkers Anonymous podcast, hit the subscribe link that is in the description box.

Speaker 1: 2:25

On last week we talked about basement conversations. Do you guys remember that Basement conversations? We said that there are basement conversations taking place in the basement of your mind. There are penthouse conversations and there are basement conversations. Both Penthouse conversations are those conversations happening in your mind that you are fully aware of. You know the dialogue happening in your mind about certain subjects, events, issues, etc. And you actively engage in those conversations. You know that they're happening, you're actively engaging in them, you're fully aware of them. Those are called penthouse conversations. For instance, what am I going to wear today? Well, I might wear this. What am I going to eat today? What am I going to do today? Well, I might wear this. What am I going to eat today? What am I going to do today? That's penthouse conversation, those conversations you are fully aware of in your mind and you're contemplating them in your mind. You're fully aware that they're happening.

Speaker 1: 3:37

But then there are basement conversations, where those conversations are taking place in the basement or the recesses of your mind. You may not even be aware that the conversations are going on, but you could see and feel the effects of the conversations in your life. One of the effects is overthinking. One of the effects of a basement conversation that's taking place in your mind is overthinking. Overthinking can be a byproduct of a basement conversation going on in your mind, a basement conversation going on in your mind. Other byproducts include, but they're not limited to, anxiety, depression, procrastination, fear, anger, bitterness, etc. Those are some other byproducts of basement conversations, but they're not limited to just those. They're not limited to just those things.

Speaker 1: 4:54

So the only way now that the basement conversation can stop, the only way that the basement conversation stops or changes, is if you change. It Is if you change it. We've talked about in the past that about you making a decision to do something different, making a decision to do something different, making a decision to change. But sometimes that change will only happen when a healing takes place, because you can decide that you know you want to do something different. You can decide that you want to, you know, have a different outcome. But sometimes, unless healing takes place in your psyche, in your emotions, in your heart. Sometimes, unless healing takes place, you're going to be trying to make change in vain. The unhealed and broken parts of your life must be attended to in order for the shift in the conversation in the basement. So we've got to begin to attend now to the unhealed parts, the broken parts of our lives. We've got to attend to those. There comes a time and a place a day, an hour where you've now got to begin to attend to the unhealed and the broken parts of your life If you want change to take place, if you want change to take place, if you want change to take place, because those unhealed and those broken parts will impede your healing. In other words, they'll stop your healing, they'll hinder your healing, they'll hinder your change, mm-hmm. They'll hinder your change, they'll impede your endeavor to be changed, they'll stop your endeavor to shift the conversation taking place in the basement of your mind, mm-hmm. It'll put a whole stop to it Because you're unhealed. So how can a change take place without healing first? You've got to heal first. You've got to heal first. It's some work that has to get done.

Speaker 1: 7:44

I know that you may have put it off because you don't want to deal with what has caused you to be broken. You don't want to deal with it, you don't want to face it. I get that. I get that Sometimes we just, you know, we don't want to deal with things. Sometimes we just, you know, we don't want to deal with things. Sometimes it's painful, I get that. It's uncomfortable, I get that. It dredges up old memories that you would just like to forget. It dredges up old memories but in actuality, you haven't forgotten Because you haven't healed, and those unpleasant memories are playing on a loop recorder in the basement of your mind. My goodness, isn't that something? Those unhealed memories, hurts, are replaying on a loop recorder in the basement of your mind, so they're just going on. You're not even aware that it's happening, but you can see the effects of it taking place. It's coming out in different areas, it's coming out in different ways, all because of a basement conversation of unhealed memories, unhealed emotions, unhealed hurts. That's taking place, and so I understand when we don't want to deal with it.

Speaker 1: 9:43

Who wants to deal with pain? Who wants to deal with disappointment? You'd rather just move on, pretend like it never happened. Sometimes, with some things, you may be able to get away with doing that Maybe, but most of the time, in order to be able to move on. You've got to deal with them, no matter how uncomfortable it gets, no matter how much it hurts, no matter how painful it is. You've got to deal with it and the only way that you will be free is to be healed. The only way that you're going to be free from that hurt, that pain, that disappointment, whatever it was, the only way that you're going to be free is to be healed. Way that you're going to be free is to be healed. There's freedom in healing, so let the healing begin. Repeat after me. I want you to say it out loud Let the healing begin, let the healing begin.

Speaker 1: 11:26

It's time for the healing to begin. It's time for you to start walking around broken, banged up, bruised up on the inside. Nobody can see your bruises because they're on the inside. Nobody can see that you're banged up because you hide it pretty well, because it's on the inside. But if we were to look behind that mask, what would we see? What would we see? If we were to peep behind the curtain of your life? What would we see? What would we see? Let the healing begin. Say it again Let the healing begin.

Speaker 1: 12:17

I know some of you when you said you're going to get apprehensive, you're going to start getting anxious and you're going to want to turn around and say no, forget it. But I dare you to keep going forward. I dare you to let the healing begin. Why am I daring you? Because I know that once the healing begins and is completed in your life, you're going to feel better, You're going to look better, you're going to sound better, your life is going to be in a totally better place than what you are right now. That's why. So let the healing begin. Are you ready? Are you ready to let the healing begin? Are you ready?

Speaker 1: 13:25

This week, I want you to come to the conclusion that your healing must begin. That's your first step. Your first step is coming to the conclusion that your healing must begin. It must, it has to happen. It must, it has to happen. It's got to happen. It's imperative that it happens. It must begin. You can't keep staying in this same place. You can't go any further like this. But a healing must begin. It's got to Decide within your heart that you are ready to walk in healing and wholeness and that you're no longer willing to walk around broken.

Speaker 1: 14:26

Some of us have settled for walking around broken. We've settled for that when we didn't have to. Why settle for being walking around broken when you can walk around healed, when you can walk around whole, why settle for that? Who told you you had to settle for being broken? Who told you that your life had to be like this? Your life doesn't have to be like this. Your life doesn't have to be sad. Your life doesn't have to be dreary. Your life doesn't have to be sad. Your life doesn't have to be dreary. Your life doesn't have to be down all the time. But you can walk in healing and wholeness. You can walk around and not be broken anymore. Stop settling for walking in brokenness. Stop settling for that.

Speaker 1: 15:37

You might have seen somebody else, you know, when you came up maybe you saw a parent walking in brokenness and you felt that you figured that that's how life had to be, because that was the example that you had. But I'm here to tell you that that is not how your life has to be. They walked around broken. They walked around bruised up and battered on the inside. That was their choice. Maybe they didn't know better, just like you didn't know better that there was a choice in the matter. You've got a choice in the matter. You've got a choice in the matter. You've got a choice. God gave all of us a free will to be able to choose and decide what we want and how we want our lives to be. So you've got a choice in the matter. Just like they had a choice, they maybe didn't understand or didn't know that, or maybe they felt like they didn't have a choice. But today I've come to let you know that you have a choice. You have a choice in the matter.

Speaker 1: 17:04

You don't have to stay broken, you don't have to stay in that state, but you can move to the state of healing and wholeness. So I need you to come to that resolve today. I need you to come to that resolve Because unless you come to that resolve, your healing will not take place and you will not be committed to the process. So I need you to come to that resolve today. I'm worthy of healing. I'm worthy of walking in wholeness and healing and health in my emotions, in my inner man, in the part that nobody sees, because you might be the picture of health on the outside, but the inside is tore up. They used to have a saying that said tore up from the floor up. The inside is tore up from the floor up. That's your secret, but it's time for you to come to the resolve today that I need to be healed and it's time for the healing to begin. And once you can have that resolve in place, then healing can take place. You'll be committed to the process, because healing is a process.

Speaker 1: 18:53

It doesn't always happen overnight, it's not always a one-time thing, but it's a series of steps or actions that you can take to achieve a particular goal, which is healing. So healing is not always a one-time thing, but healing takes place over time and there's a series of steps, there's some things that you can do, some actions that you can take to hasten that healing, to bring about healing in your life. And that's what we're going to do over the next couple of weeks. That's what we're going to do over the next couple of weeks. That's what we're going to do as we get ready to head into the summer months. We're going to head into the summer healed. That's our goal. That's our goal To head into, to not have to go through another summer unhealed, to not have to go through the rest of our lives unhealed. But we're going to endeavor to precipitate healing and facilitate healing into our lives. Mm-hmm, that's what we're going to do Over these next couple of weeks.

Speaker 1: 20:40

And I know you're saying this is an Overthinkers Anonymous, but I'm telling you a lot of your overthinking is coming from that unhealed portion of your life, because it causes you to second guess every single thing about yourself. It causes you to overthink and stress about and have anxiety about each and every decision that you find yourself having to make. It's coming from that unhealed portion of your life. So I want you to take this journey with me. I want you to take this healing journey With me, and the first step In that healing journey Is to come to the resolve that the healing must begin. The healing must begin.

Speaker 1: 21:44

So this week, I want you to sit with that thought that it's time for the healing to begin. Sit with it, think about it. Sit with it means think about it, ponder on it. Think about it. Sit with it means think about it, ponder on it, sit with that that the healing must begin. Let the healing begin, let the healing begin, let the healing begin. I'm speaking to your heart right now. I'm speaking to your mind right now and I'm saying to them let the healing begin, because the only way that it will begin is if you let it, because the only way that it will begin is if you let it. Let the healing begin, let it start. Make up in your mind that you're ready to let it start. Sit with that and then next week, we'll take our next step on our healing and wholeness journey. Listen, I'm excited. I am excited for you because I see healing in your horizon. I see wholeness in your horizon. I'm excited for you. I'm excited for your future. Your future is looking brighter and brighter every day. So let the healing begin and sit with that this week. So let the healing begin. Sit with that this week.

Speaker 1: 23:42

And, as I go, I want to remind you to not forget to share this podcast with someone. Share it with somebody that you know needs healing. They need healing. Tell them come on the journey with you, the healing journey. Bring them on the journey. Make sure that you download this podcast, hit the subscribe button and join me next week as we go deeper. I'm Pam Gonsolin, and this has been Overthinker's Anonymous podcast. Thank you for joining me. Bye-bye. So stop overthinking. Have you ever been caught up in your mind so unaware of time? Cause you can't stop thinking.