Hustle & Flow
Join us for the wisdom, humor and insight from a married couple of 33 years on the hustle and flow of life.
We have worked so many types of jobs over 33 years. We have worked in the service industry, retail, corporate and blue collar work. We have been Realtors for 18 years, managing property, flipping houses and owning short term rentals. We have worked staff work which includes everything from Pastoring to Youth Pastoring to Children’s ministry.
We have been involved in CrossFit for over 11 years, owning a gym, coaching and actively working out. We are involved in Spartan races and travel the nation competing.
We own a Dessert Cafe called Crave in Downtown Tupelo that has been open since 2014. We currently have three locations.
We have raised four children and currently have two grandchildren. Family is of utmost importance to us.
We have a life full of stories that we can’t wait to share with you.
Hustle & Flow
Seize the Day: Living Fully and Embracing Joy
Ever wondered if you're truly living or just existing? Join us for a lively episode of Hustle Flow as we kick things off with a spirited discussion about football season. Brad, a die-hard Ole Miss fan, humorously navigates the all-consuming nature of watching multiple games in one day, much to Tiffany's amusement. This sets the stage for a deeper conversation inspired by a Matthew McConaughey quote, focusing on the urgency of living life to the fullest rather than postponing our dreams.
We dive into emotionally charged stories that highlight life's unpredictability, including the untimely passing of elite CrossFit athlete Lazar Dukic and a beloved aunt diagnosed with terminal cancer shortly after retirement. These narratives serve as a powerful reminder to seize the day and create a life rich with stories and adventures. We emphasize the importance of pursuing passions now, and not merely going through the motions.
As the episode unfolds, we explore how joy and routine interplay in our daily lives. Discover how maintaining a mindset of joy can bring deeper satisfaction, irrespective of external circumstances. We also touch on the value of meaningful connections and hobbies, stressing the significance of surrounding ourselves with people who challenge and inspire us. Wrapping up, we encourage listeners to align with like-minded individuals, maintain a resilient mindset, and embrace a new era of positivity and growth. Join us for an enriching discussion filled with heartfelt stories and actionable insights.
Good morning. Good morning. This is Brad and I'm with my wife, tiffany. Good morning, tiffany. Good morning. We are the host of the Hustle Flow podcast. We have been having a great morning and we just finished a really powerful podcast on the Emotional Cup, so I hope you were able to listen to it last week and kind of get some things going. This morning we're going to be talking about living versus existing and I think that's a good subject, especially with maybe where you are in life, and we're going to jump in there in just a few minutes and talk about that stuff. But if you're listening to this podcast, guys, hold on. Football is coming this weekend and I know my wife's like, oh, you love football season, don't you?
Speaker 2:I don't mind it, um, it's just that you, I guess, and I guess a lot of guys do this, um, and there's probably some women, but it's you don't. Just watch the one game it's, and I'll ask you hey, what about? What is it the?
Speaker 1:game, one game. What's that like? What about after the game? What does that mean?
Speaker 2:I'll ask you like, what about after the Ole Miss game is off? And you're like, okay, well then, texas is playing. And they're like, okay, well, what about that? Well then, florida's playing, like okay, so it's an all-day thing, oh yeah.
Speaker 1:Saturdays Saturdays in the fall.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and you're somewhere, yeah.
Speaker 1:It is God's gift to us. No, it's not, it is God's gift to us. And so, yeah, football's coming, man. And again, I really have to temper myself on Saturdays. I've seen that. I saw this morning somebody posted I'm not even going to attend my own wedding on October the 12th, and like LSU's playing Ole Miss in, like this huge four or five big games that day potentially, and like everybody's like I'm not going anywhere the day. Don't ask me, I'm not going anywhere, and so I'm just.
Speaker 2:Which is funny Is that the weekend you're. Are you doing a Spartan in Nashville that weekend?
Speaker 1:No, that's the weekend before.
Speaker 1:So October the 12th, just pretend I don't exist, because I'm going to veg out on the couch and watch football all day long, because that's just my thing. Man, I love football and so we're excited about that. I'm an Ole Miss guy. Ole Miss is that's what I was telling my buddies the other day is that I don't really understand why they're playing this year. Basically all the press coming out of Oxford, mississippi, just pretty much says that Ole Miss is going to be the national champion. So if they would just go ahead and give us the trophy, we don't even have to play the games, because you know prognosticators, they have it right. And one thing I know is I've been an Ole Miss fan my whole life and it is just as well that we could go make the playoffs, lose in the playoffs. We could win the playoffs. Or we could stumble our toe and go eight and four and lose to Mississippi State at the end, and boy, that would be the kicker that we all want.
Speaker 1:But anyway, I'm just making a little jab. Pastor Mike over here has got his Mississippi State shirt on. I asked him did he do that? To antagonize me? But he swears up and down, he didn't. They're good Mississippi State fans. I just want you to know that Pastor Mike's one of them. But anyway, I digress, just joking. Football season's coming, wives. I'm sorry. Maybe that's your time to shine and go shopping. Your husband probably won't notice the charges because he'll be busy watching football, but anyway. So we're going to talk this morning about living versus existing, and this comes to mind if you've seen Tiffany's favorite. One of Tiffany's favorite people is Matthew McConaughey.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'll tell you, though Glenn Powell's pushing him out. He's a. I think he is Twister boy. I think he is the next Matthew and I think he may be giving him a run for his money.
Speaker 1:But you know why.
Speaker 2:They're both from Texas.
Speaker 1:Well, that's one reason but you know another reason.
Speaker 2:No.
Speaker 1:Matthew's kind of aging out. Nah, I don't know about that. All right, all right, all right, he's, he is aging out. So they got to bring in that the new blood, and glenn powell is the new texas blood and, uh, you know I, eventually what's going to happen is there will be a um, matthew mcconaughey will play Glenn Powell's father. That's kind of how that'll be. So they'll put those two together and that's what that'll be. But I go back to, if you've heard him say it, you've got to start living man L-I-V-I-N. And I hear that voice in my head all the time when I think about Matthew McConaughey.
Speaker 2:What movie was that?
Speaker 1:I don't remember what movie that was, but it's just a clip. That's all over reels and social media. You got to start living, man, L-I-V-I-N. And that's such a true statement. Because I was telling you we drove to South Carolina, oh, that was a long trip, but anyway, we went to, we bought a truck and so we left and drove to South Carolina and back and I was exhausted when we got back. I know you were, but, but we we've sitting at lunch and I told you. I said this is just.
Speaker 1:This topic has been on my heart lately about living versus existing. Because at 52, I'm living man, Like when I wake up, I am living, I am, I am, I am determined to take life and grab it and go. And do I, do I like live every day? No, there's probably days I can wake up and exist, but I am doing everything I can at 52 to live. And I think it comes back to where and we can just we're going to hop in there and talk about maybe some signs of you existing versus living. It comes back to this life is short, yeah, and I don't know like I want to live. I'd love to live, to be a hundred years old and be able to watch my, my kids grow and watch my grandkids and great grandkids and dance with them at their weddings and you know all the things and be able to see all that and but? But I don't know, I don't know.
Speaker 1:You know, last week, if you're, if you're a CrossFit person, if you're not, this is, this is of no value to you. But if you're a CrossFit guy or CrossFit girl, they had the CrossFit games last week. That's where they have four days of competition. It was in Fort Worth, Texas, and they crowned the fittest in the world. They're all over the world, the fittest people in the world. And the first event out of the gate was a three-and-a-half-mile run as fast as you can run and then an 800-meter swim in the lake at Fort Worth. Now to elite athletes and people who swim or people who have you know the caliber of people that were there are top of the line. It's not like me, like I'd be, like trying to figure out how to dive, not, not because I mean I'm, I can't swim very well, uh, you know I'm saying but um, first event, Lazar Dukic drowned. A lead athlete in his 20s drowned 100 meters from the finish and his brother was part of that competition and it was a gut punch to the CrossFit community and the CrossFit games.
Speaker 1:But I go back to. So what I say is they showed a video of him getting ready to run at zero minutes 37 and some change. Minutes later he was dead and, yes, he was doing something he loved. But I go back to you do not know what your last minute is going to be. You don't know your last day, and so when you live your life and all you are doing is waking up day after day after day and just existing, there's no life in you, there's no energy, there's nothing that you look forward to. It's a miserable existence, and I want to encourage you you got to start living. You can't wait till you retire. You can't wait till the kids get out of the house. You can't wait till this is right or that's right. You've got to wake up and grab life by the horns and start living.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you know what you just said about you can't wait until you retire. And this is we're going to make the turn here. We're going to not be as, it's not going to be as sad, but you know, I immediately thought about my aunt. Oh man, my aunt, who was like a mother to me. She was waiting until she retired to start living. She did nothing but work, probably 60 hours a week, and she retired in the spring, I think, was well the summer, early summer, and by October she was in the hospital with terminal cancer. And that's just a few short months.
Speaker 2:There was, you know, and that's, and that's what she would tell me every day in the hospital was I had plans, I was going to start vacation, I was going to start traveling and antiquing, I was going to. She would tell me all the things that she had waited, that she was going to do. She would tell me all the things that she had waited that she was going to do. And so you know, I'm sure you know, yes, that I'm sure she wishes had she wished that she would have spent taking more days off and not had those same like I'm just existing right now. But I'm waiting. I'm waiting till till I retire.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and she was such a great lady, you know, and that was a sad thing, but that's a great example, because that was it. She wanted to go antiquing and she wanted to be able to see her nieces and nephews because she had become like a grandmother to them as well and loved them and provided for them and provided for you, and so it was insane, it was sad to see that, and so that's what I'm talking about. That's a great example. You can't wait, like you've got to decide, like I'm going to go after something and like I'm passionate about this, like I, you know, I am passionate. You've got to go after something. It you just wake up and you go to work and you come home and you eat dinner and you watch TV and you cut it off and you go. You do it again. That's no life, man, and it's exhausting. It's exhausting and emotionally draining and it's no fun and it's just easy to want to check out. But you can't do that because I'm telling you, living your life to the fullest. And I've said this I don't know if I've said this on this podcast before, but the book I read late, two or three or four months ago. It said that the idea about getting to heaven.
Speaker 1:For those who are Christian people listening to this podcast, the idea to getting to heaven isn't to arrive safely at the door. It's to come in on two wheels, spinning tires, saying oh my gosh, what a ride that was. That was crazy let's. I wish we could do it again, because you can't go back and push the rewind button. Because you can't go back and push the rewind button. You know you can't go back and say you know you can't live life with regrets, and I think that's what I'm talking about.
Speaker 2:So you don't mean getting into heaven. There's a different concept than getting into heaven by the skin of your teeth. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm not saying that I'm saying just a life, well, well lived, well lived. When you get there coming in on two wheels.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I mean, you think about some of the best people that you can think of. Their life is full of stories. Yeah, you know.
Speaker 2:Just they're full of stories and it's hard to create stories and interesting things from the same things every day.
Speaker 1:Yeah, what did you do? What did you do with your life? Well, I went to work. What else? I came home. What else I ate dinner, what else I watched CSI? What else I petted the cat. Okay, and I'm going to tell you, like at the end of your life you're going to look around and think, man, I missed some things. Because I don't know like this may sound whatever and you can hop in here because I'm not trying to dominate this, but it's passionate to me the world don't love you back. Sometimes it's not going to give you the love that you want. Your company may not give you the love they want back. They, they may say you know what we're downsizing and I appreciate your 30 years you put here. But I can tell you, take the day off. If you got PTO, take it. I've seen people with I got. I got six months PTO. Why?
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:You know, when I worked at Cisco food sales and so I'm always that guy Like, I read the rules, I read the books, I read the manuals, I know the stuff. You know what I mean Church minutes, I know this stuff. And so I'd been working there about a year and I noticed on my check there was this thing called a Cisco day. I said what is that? It had eight hours beside it. A cisco day. I said what is this? And uh, I asked my boss. He said what that's just they.
Speaker 1:They give you a day if you want to take it and they'll pay you for it. You know, he said nobody's ever taken it. I said really. I said okay. I said well, I want to take mine. He said you want to do what? I said I want to take my day off. He said ain't nobody ever done it. I said okay, so well, tell me what day monday through friday which day would be good next week so I can take off? And so we decided on like wednesday, because that was one of my lighter days and so. So what's funny is no joke. When I did mine, every person in our district took theirs and I thought I don't want to be paid eight hours. I want my day off. That's the day I can spend with my wife. That's the day we can eat some breakfast together. That's the day I can carry my kids to school. That's the day that you know, because I want to live.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And so does that make sense? Do you get where I'm coming from? Yeah, like that's, I want to live versus exist, and so here's some things. It's in Texas Metro News, it's online. If you want to pull it up and look at it, you can do that. But here are some signs that you may just be existing in your life and not living. Number one time passes quickly. Everybody's got a busy life, you know. I've told you I think it was two days ago I said, oh my God, it's the 12th already that we've almost burned through August. You know how quickly that has started. But you know, if you discover that your days are flying by without important moments or experiences, it's a warning sign, you know. Do you have any significant events?
Speaker 2:Well, it goes back to what we just said. If, every day, if you had to recap your last week, but everything was I went to work and I went home and watched TV, then that is a sign that the time is passing quickly, but you don't have any memorable experiences, or?
Speaker 1:moments, yeah, and that's one thing I think that we have really tried to do. You know, maybe we were younger we didn't do such a great job at that, but the older we get, we really do try to celebrate moments and make memories and make moments. You know, we did a podcast on memories and moments, but time passing quickly. I want to remember my grandson being born.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:You know, I want to remember my daughters graduating from college or my son. I want to remember those things. I want to remember last week my dad had a procedure. You know, I don't know how long he lives, but I want to remember the fact that I was there when he woke up and he gave me that fist bump. You know what I'm saying. My brother, he hugged my brother but gave me a fist bump. You know what I'm saying. He probably would have. He probably would have hugged me too. You know, you understand, our demeanors are a lot alike. We're. We're a little gruff, tough sometimes, and so it was the fist bump and I want to be there and remember that, you know.
Speaker 1:And so there are defining moments in life, and if you've ever read Dr Phil's book, like I can't imitate Dr Phil, but Dr Phil says you have 10 defining moments in your life. There's 10 defining moments who make you who you are, make you what you are. And when you get into just letting time pass quickly, there's times you may miss that defining moment and you may not realize that it was a defining moment in your life and you miss it. So another thing, and I'm going to say sometimes one of us has a little more issue with this one than the other. We're not calling people out today, we're just talking Negative self-talk. You may be existing if you have a bunch of negative self-talk. Everybody criticizes himself sometimes, right?
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:But what's the difference in criticizing yourself and then being negative about yourself? What's your thought there? Because I yell when I'm in the woods and I'm running, people probably think I'm crazy, because I'm like suck it up, man, you suck, keep running, keep going, keep going. You can do this, you know.
Speaker 2:Well, I think that the difference is, you know, not letting it become a habit, right, if you're a perfectionist, you can probably really get in a loop, a constant loop of negative self-talk and self-criticism. And I believe that we should be, to an extent, being self-critical as far as always wanting to be better and changing and not being stuck with the same traits or behaviors or bad habits. However, if it's, if you're talking to yourself so ugly all the time that it's affecting your self-esteem and your self-worth, then it's, you know, then it's a problem.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's it, that's it right. There is that if you look in the mirror and think you're hideous, you are ugly, not good enough, you're not good enough, you're not going, you're not. That's. That's the different concept versus saying hey, you could do better. Yeah, you know, because we're all there Right, and you know there are people who. Another sign is you have a boring routine. You tell me all the time that I could be boring.
Speaker 2:That's not, I didn't, I've not said it quite like that. Well, maybe not quite that mean I've said that without me. Okay, you would be boring you. I didn't say, I don't even say boy, obviously you would get into the. You would do the same boring routine and have very boring days if you did not have me Semantics, okay, but, but you know.
Speaker 2:Because, would you not do you? You, you would have that propensity to wake up at the same time. Go do the exact same workout, whether it's a run or CrossFit workout. Eat the same thing. You were mad this morning because you were out of the only protein that you will drink to make your shakes. You would not touch any other protein I had in the house. You know, because it's your routine. And you would go do the exact same things if enter me, me, yeah because you bring the energy.
Speaker 1:You know boring routines, you know do you repeat the same thing, but the difference is I would repeat the same thing because I'm a routine person but I have energy about my routine. But a lot of people, if you're existing, not living, you do it without energy. And the word there that you and I talked about is joy. You do things without joy.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Now let's talk about joy for a minute. Joy, happiness. You know, I've heard people say I'm just not happy. Who cares? Who cares? If you want to be happy, then you may be happy today, but you may not be happy tomorrow. Happiness is fleeting.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:You know, I mean, we're biblical people. My Bible don't say something about being happy, but it does say something about having joy.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:What's the difference between happiness and joy? What are your thoughts? I mean, joy is intrinsic joy is intrinsic.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I think joy is a deeper seeded emotion that comes from, you know, other other values and things that are going on in your life and happiness is sometimes just dependent upon the situation and it can fleet. I was happy this morning and now I'm not happy this afternoon. You know, I think on Facebook isn't there even a Tiffany is feeling unhappy, or Tiffany, because it's a smaller, I believe, emotion that can change rapidly. But joy, I think, is deeper seated.
Speaker 1:Yeah, would you, would you say that that maybe joy is satisfaction, that you can be satisfied no matter what you are and where you are and what's going on? Yeah, and you know, that's one thing that I that I have always admired about you is that you do have a sense of joy and you can uh, if I've got $10 or $10,000, you can still be joyful. Whereas I've had to work on that, I've had to work on the joy part of my life and realize that the small things I can have joy in the small things too, and I can do it with energy and joy and happiness and there's that satisfaction that comes. And so if you fall into a boring routine, there's nothing wrong with routine. I think routine is great, I think routine, especially for people who have addictive personalities, is good.
Speaker 1:But you can't do it without energy. That's where there becomes a problem. You just exist. You get up, you go work home, tv, sleep, work home, tv, sleep or monotonous habit, and you're not living. Another thing is another way you can tell if maybe you're existing instead of living is avoiding social interactions.
Speaker 2:You know I was thinking about this. We are now glorifying staying home and not going and connecting with people. There's so many reels and tick tocks and all the things about you know, um, I don't know where y'all are at. You know seven o'clock on a saturday night. I'm not. You know I'm not coming. I'm, I'm gonna be home.
Speaker 2:I like myself, I like, I like to be in my bedroom with the the? Um, the curtains pulled and the tv on or whatever, not around people or, and people say it's too people-y, um, all those things. We and I I don't know if covid is the blame or not, but I know that we are becoming a less and less social? Um society as far as wanting to be around people and wanting that interaction with people that we once you know that I think that we once had. So I think we're celebrating the fact now of being by ourselves and not wanting to be in places where it's people-y and hang out and seek that it's a lot more comfortable now to be on TikTok or even to be texting somebody than to actually be in their presence.
Speaker 1:Right, but you said it though. They still want a connection, but they want likes and comments, not the connection, because avoiding social interaction listen, I get it, sometimes I'll be one of those.
Speaker 2:Sometimes it's too people-y for me, like I'm good in crowds, like I'm good with people, but sometimes I just don't really want to, you know good with people, but sometimes I just don't really want to, you know, you know, and bouncing off that there's times sometimes and I am a peopley person I I don't mind crowds, I don't mind groups, but sometimes there are things that I just don't want to go do. But I always feel energized and better when I when I actually did it and went oh yeah, there's nothing worse than making plans.
Speaker 1:And then, when it's time to go, do the plans? You're like, oh, do I have to go? And you're like, yeah, you're going to go, you're going to have a good time when you get there. And I'm like, no, I will not. And you're like, yes, you will. I'm like I'm not going to have a good time. And then I come home and I've had a good time, you know.
Speaker 1:So, uh, but I think, I think, though, you, you, you said it if you, it's easier to text somebody than it is to be in front of them. But human, human contact, uh, avoiding social interaction, human contact grounds you emotionally. You know, you, you nobody might. When you send that text, they might not even see your face, but if I'm sitting in front of you, I can see when your eyes get big when I ask you a question like oh, what are you asking? Or you can see the emotion behind something you know, and that's why I hate texting email, because there's no emotion behind that. And so sometimes, the way it's read or the way it's seen, but you know, human interaction, man, it grounds you emotionally. You cannot bond with a screen, right, you cannot, and so when it's hard to create those like we're talking about.
Speaker 2:It's hard to create moments when you're not who. Are you creating the moment with cat right now? Um, it's hard to create those moments and memories if you're isolating.
Speaker 1:Right? I think so too. Another sign that you may be existing versus living is that you don't have any hobby or interests, and that's one thing. That I've got plenty of hobbies. I have hobbies, and that's one thing you and I've talked about before. Is you trying to find a hobby? But sometimes as a married couple, it's hard to have opposite and separate hobbies and you feel obligated Well, this is their hobby, so I need to go do this versus you finding something yourself.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:You know, if you don't have any hobbies or interest in hobbies like for me, they relieve stress. Like my hobbies working out and running it relieves stress. It hurts my body, I'm tired, but for me when I go out there I can clear the mechanism, I can clear my mind and I can get out there and just put junk behind. You know, I've got a hobby, but I think, I think, if you don't have some kind of hobby, I believe that it really does not allow you to live Feeling empty or depressed. You know, feeling empty, I think, sometimes, like you got to fill it with something and that goes back to, you know, just finding that thing that makes you tick, Uh and and again, I think that that matters. You know, lack of meaningful relationships Um, we just talked about that.
Speaker 1:I think that you need to find people who will make you better. You need to find people who will make you better and challenge you. Um, if, if you're, if you and that's the sometimes that's a challenge for me, cause I'm a, I'm a creature of comfort and I like comfort and I don't like to be around people that are not like me sometimes, because then it challenges me to think differently. But I think that's a good thing. I think I think you need to to be around people from different ethnicities, socioeconomic backgrounds. I think that you need to find different cultures because that helps you, as a person, realize that there's somebody else besides you and that the world's not about you.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:You know Constant boredom. We've talked about that. What do you think about this? You're not living if you have little physical activity.
Speaker 2:Yeah, of course that's big in our world. But endorphins make you happy and we just said you're not going to be happy necessarily all the time. You're not going to be happy necessarily all the time, but it is. It is very critical to your emotional well-being and all of those things to find something whether it's walk, whatever, just getting outside't have any circles anywhere. Find something you think you would like to do. Find you a walking group kickboxing, crossfit, I don't know where else they have strong like gyms, they have strong communities at. But find you a community of people to go and live life with and to do those things with. But yeah, physical activity too will get you out of that rut so that you can live.
Speaker 1:I think that's it. I think finding you said it finding some kind of community, whether it's a hobby, whether it's exercise group or something. Finding some kind of community Pickleball disc golf, tennis golf. Crocheting anything, Finding some kind of community.
Speaker 2:It's not really a physical activity.
Speaker 1:I mean, it might be if your hands are working real fast, but you understand what I'm saying. I think it goes back to finding a community to hang out in, because you can get better and you can live when you find something and you never know what you really like. You know? I think procrastination laziness is another one. You prioritize satisfaction above doing critical tasks and lazy people and procrastinators want to just let life happen to them. But sometimes you've got to grab a hold and you got to go neglecting responsibilities. You just wander aimlessly without a purpose. You know, I'll say this you neglect obligations. There's major consequences that come from that. Major consequences but I like this one I want to talk about this one for a minute is escapism.
Speaker 1:Escapism People escape into so many things and so when you start to escape into life uh, things other than than just living real life it's a problem. It's a real problem. You know, I told you before I'm an ncaa football guy. I love it. New uh 2025 just came out. But, like, I'm in this group and it's fun to watch. But I followed this one guy and he spent, I think I told you, 259 hours on the game and talking about all the national championships he won. And the truth is, when he cuts that game off, he has absolutely accomplished zero, Absolutely accomplished zero. He is escaped versus getting up killing something and dragging it home.
Speaker 2:Yeah, because it sounds like that's moved past just being a hobby or interest and that has become a form of escapism. Yeah, instead of living and doing the things that we going back to what we just said, making the moments and making the memories that's turned into something besides just a fun hobby.
Speaker 1:Well, you know, do a work. People do it with their kids. They escape, they just get into something else, and so you know, I think that that just really really gets into a problem. Excessive time spent on screens is one way you can tell if you're existing, not living. Um, and we've all done it. Look, we've all done it. You're sitting with somebody who's flesh and blood and you're scrolling the screen, looking at other people's lives and and and just mindlessly scrolling. It's a habit. You hop on there and you're like just flipping, you just flipping, just flipping're just flipping, you're just flipping, you're just flipping, you're just flipping. But I can tell you that moving from existing to living is flipping a switch, saying you know what? I'm not going to be the same person next week. I'm going to do something different today, and I think it comes back to maybe having no goals and no ambition well, I think.
Speaker 2:I think that that's a good, a good point to probably wrap up with is that one way to live and and to not just exist is to set, set some goals, set some ambitious goals, some very lofty goals. You rekindle some passions and some, you know, desires and ambitions and spend some time like working towards something and kind of renewing purpose, cause that's what that can do Sometimes it's having goals can renew purpose and you, when you've lost your drive and your purpose and you are just living and existing Right.
Speaker 1:What kind of goals you got, you got, you got anything, really, I mean? I mean, mean, what's the goal of yours? What do you want to do?
Speaker 2:well, I'm behind I'm behind, but I'm still still working towards towards books um. One of our goals was podcast, and here we are. I don't even know what episode we're at and I don't know and it seemed 30, 29 yeah, I mean it's, it's that's this year in 20, you know 2024.
Speaker 2:that was a goal and so that has got us out of our our routine that we would have normally been in, and it's been fun to um to, to see this unfold. And so you know some of my other goals my, my filming, food, you know, cooking videos. I can't wait to see that unfold and what that'll bring, because it's just been something like going back to the whole thing of not just we could have easily just done the same thing we always do, but this is one of those things that's gotten us out of that routine of just existing.
Speaker 1:Yeah, Because we and then I think that's it is that you really never know what your thing is until you get out there and find something you know. If it don't work, shut it down, try something else, do something different. You know, I've I've committed myself to learning how to speak Spanish and it's not easy, like you know. Everybody and I thought about this the other day everybody wants to laugh at somebody who has broken English, but they know two languages. You don't shut up. Yeah, shut up. And so I'm. I'm diligently trying to learn that and I'm going to tell you it's not easy. It's not easy, but I'm not going to quit. Like that's a goal of mine.
Speaker 1:I don't know what that serves in my life other than being able to communicate with a different set of people. It opens up a different world. But have a goal, set some goals, have some ambition. And the old saying is that if you don't have a goal, you'll hit it every time. Yeah, and the shooter for the sun. You may land among the stars. You know those sayings. But you've got to have a goal, you've got to set up. But there's something. Listen, if you're listening to me right now as we get ready to finish, there is absolutely something in your life that energizes you. There is something you get pumped up about, there is something that just stokes your fire, but you've got to go out and actually get after it. You can't don't live your life and wake up at 75 and think this sucks.
Speaker 1:Wake up tomorrow thinking I'm going to get something. Today. I'm going to do something different. Today I am not going to be the same as I was yesterday. I am not going to go home and click on the TV and binge watching each potato chips all afternoon and I'm not going to work on my dream. I TV and binge watching each potato chips all afternoon and I'm not going to work on my dream. I wished I had a business. Well, get off of the work you're doing at four or five o'clock and go home and work on your business. Go home and work on your family. Go home and work on how you treat your kids. Go home and work on how you help at your church. Go home and how and volunteer at the civic center. Go, go, do something. Live life and quit existing and I promise you you'll be a better person for it. The world will be a better person for it, because they're waiting on you Any final words?
Speaker 1:Nope, sounds good, all right. Well, that is it this morning. Thank you so much for listening. Hey, listen, if you see a direction you want to go, hop in the flow with people who are headed that way and you will get there. We encourage you to just be a positive influence in this world and you'll see good results. Have a good morning. Thank you so much for listening. Yeah, let's see how you do under pressure. I've been wanting this forever. I've been in the field with whatever they throw at me Brush it off, pick myself up, moving on to the better. Ain't no errors, baby, it's a new era. I wake up early, feeling rich, like I'm Kesha.
