Hustle & Flow
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We have worked so many types of jobs over 33 years. We have worked in the service industry, retail, corporate and blue collar work. We have been Realtors for 18 years, managing property, flipping houses and owning short term rentals. We have worked staff work which includes everything from Pastoring to Youth Pastoring to Children’s ministry.
We have been involved in CrossFit for over 11 years, owning a gym, coaching and actively working out. We are involved in Spartan races and travel the nation competing.
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Hustle & Flow
Why Discipline, Not Motivation, Turns Dreams into Reality
Today’s discussion breaks down the often confusing relationship between motivation, discipline, and consistency. We dive into why motivation can feel fleeting, the importance of establishing discipline, and the power of setting clear goals to create lasting habits.
• Morning greetings and a light introduction
• Exploring the significance of motivation, discipline, and consistency
• Personal stories reflecting the balance between motivation and hard work
• Understanding how motivation doesn't always last, emphasizing discipline's role
• Discussing practical methods to tackle distractions and challenges in daily routines
• Final thoughts on embracing discipline and consistency in our lives
Good morning, good morning. This is Brad. I'm with my wife, tiffany. Good morning, tiffany. Good morning. How are you this morning? I'm really good, good, it's a great day, just excited about our topics. Today We've got some good information I feel like we're going to talk about this morning. We're going to talk about motivation, discipline and consistency, and, man, I can tell you that is one of my favorite topics. It's one that, at almost 53, I've had to work on, and I think at this age, I'm finally becoming more disciplined and more consistent in lots of areas of my life, but not every area. So I think there's always room for improvement.
Speaker 2:It's not necessarily a fun topic. No, now, sometimes different things we'll probably talk about. The result is fun of having motivation for something in particular, something specified. But motivation and discipline, discipline is not a fun word at all. No, no, no, I don't think of fun when I think of discipline. No, no, no I don't think of fun when I think of discipline. I think I'm not going to get to eat something or I'm going to have to exercise restraint in my life somewhere where I don't want restraint. So it's nothing fun necessarily.
Speaker 1:No, it's not. It's not. And Nick Barr and I've showed you who Nick Barr is you know, he's that muscular hybrid athlete where he's cut up and his muscles have muscles, but he's a fast runner, he's a strong guy and I screenshotted a picture of him the other day. That said basically discipline sucks until you see the results.
Speaker 2:Okay, well, yeah, that's it.
Speaker 1:And it is, and that's true. So, anyway, we're going to talk this morning about motivation, discipline and consistency, but let's talk about Colorado for a minute. We went to Colorado back the 1st of February to Vail, First time we'd been to.
Speaker 2:Vail.
Speaker 1:And Vail is beautiful. If you've never been. It's an incredible looking place, plenty of things to see and I guess, to be honest with you, you know the America, the Beautiful song. I really never understood what Purple Mountain Majesty was, and I was. You know, you sing that Purple Mountain Majesty. And we were headed down the interstate, I think I-70 there, headed toward Vail, and I said whoa, check this out. And we looked and there was purple behind the mountains there and it was incredible. The views were. But what was your favorite thing about Vail?
Speaker 2:My favorite thing about Vail. Well, I wanted to see a moose. I did not get to see a moose, so that ended up not being my favorite thing, since it didn't happen.
Speaker 2:Besides not seeing a moose, what my other favorite thing is when you were terrifying me on the snowmobile and I got off and was able to watch you. That was great too. Yeah, but no, I'm. Yeah, it's just like, um, the things in the water the sea do's. Yes, like I don't enjoy being your passenger. Never have I don't enjoy being your passenger in a vehicle, so I don't enjoy you.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so I, I it was just, I think just it was. It was so pretty and just being somewhere different in you the the train ride. We, we booked the train ride and that was great because we did an open, like the window, open view car where the ceiling was glass and we could see everything that you know, we were going through the gorge and we could see all of that and then being able to walk out to the back in an open air car and see all of that and experience some of that so close, we did actually see some wildlife of that and experience some of that so close, we did actually see some wildlife. There were some mountain goats or whatever those things are that are a little different than our mississippi goats that were on the mountains there as we were going through.
Speaker 2:But that was all really really neat. So it was just it's. It's neat to go somewhere. We need to get one of those maps and put it in somewhere, like in one of our closets, and put some push pins on it and see where we've got left to go. That's right.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that would be good, so I'll task you with that, because I'm probably not Well being the one that is the best at geography. I really should be the one that does that.
Speaker 1:Yeah, let's just go ahead before we dive into our topic. Whoever gave her the Geography Award in high school?
Speaker 2:I did get it and it's a real thing.
Speaker 1:Please come find me, because this is the same.
Speaker 1:He was my favorite teacher who called me coming home from oxford one day and said I don't know how to get home and I'm like you, just take the, the natchez trace there and get off on mccullough and hit lakeshire in your home. I feel like that's made up and she's like I don't know how to do that and I'm my God. It's just the big brown sign that says Natchez Trace, but then it would be like her to head to Jackson instead of the Nashville side. That is tricky.
Speaker 2:When you come out. Anybody that lives in this area will agree that when you come out, sometimes on the trace, it's real tricky. It's tricky trying to figure out exactly where you are in proximity, because the sign only says Jackson or Nashville, that's your two choices. It doesn't say McCullough's up that way or Cliff Goodkin's down that way, and this is where you are in proximity to that. So I think they make that intentionally confusing.
Speaker 1:But anyway, I digress. Listen, north and south is really confusing. I get it North and south.
Speaker 2:Who uses a compass in 2025? I do Well, okay, whatever.
Speaker 1:So anyway, yeah, we had a great time. It was fun. I don't enjoy her riding Sea-Doos or, in this case, riding a snowmobile. She's like Granny. I mean she's like you're going too fast. You're going too fast, you're going too fast, and I mean pretty much rabbits are passing us on the trail there and I'm thinking, well, I can't go much slower, we'll just walk this thing. And so the guide said you know, if you want to get off and you can each drive it and go real fast. That's cool and that was the best time. Like I'm just going as fast as I can go.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I'm glad you enjoyed it and the guy said you know it's not a race with the people around you and of course it is a race because I'm trying to catch the guy in front of me and I did, but anyway. So I had a great time and Colorado was beautiful. I got to stop by the University of Colorado and see the Buffalo Stadium I'm a huge Dion fan, scobuffs so it was a good time and I'm glad to be home and back in the grind. So today, motivation, discipline and consistency Now let's talk about that, because those are three separate ideas. And let's talk about motivation.
Speaker 1:I read this book. It at the end of last year. It was called Motivation is a Myth. And you know, as far as the book itself, I've read a ton of books and I don't really give like high marks to books unless they really impact my life. You know, and that was one of those books that it was just mediocre, just mediocre. But the idea behind it is is that motivation being a myth, that he painted the picture that motivation is not something that you can live off of, that it is a starter pack, if you will, that it's kind of the kindling for the fire or it's the spark that gives you something that you can move on.
Speaker 1:And I think of it this way and you hate this movie. I guess you hate it. I don't know if you hate it or not, but my boy, james Bowens, I'm going to give you a shout out here. James and I are 80s guys. We grew up in the 80s and when we connected over this, one movie like it has revolutionized our life. We talk about it all the time. Which movie I'm talking about? Rad. Yeah, if you've never seen rad, you probably ain't really missing much, because you, you, I showed it to my kids and my kids was like dad, this is lame. Oh my god, this is terrible, but it's about a, it's in the 80s and if you remember, uh, if you've seen the movie, we love it. So the BMX guys come in and they're putting on this big race called Hell Track and there's a local boy that you can qualify, and so this local boy, cruz Jones man, he's the paper delivery boy and he races the cops every day and races time. Anyway, he makes it into Hell Track and it's really really good. And so, like he does these flips and all this crazy stuff and he gets his own team, rad Racing. And when I watched that movie in the 80s. Man, I'm like you know, I'm 14 years old and I'm thinking, man, this is awesome, I'm going to go out here and I'm motivated to be a good BMX guy. I'm motivated to be a good freestyle guy.
Speaker 1:I had a red line bike with some white spokes. It was beautiful. My mom didn't throw it away. I asked him about a year ago, said hey, where's my bike? They said we threw that thing away a long time ago. We asked you if you wanted it and I'm thinking, oh my God, this time you know like they're worth $1,100. Now, that's how much they're worth, and and and so anyway, I tried to surf one day on my bicycle.
Speaker 1:If you don't know what that is, that's going down the road and putting one foot under the seat and one foot on the handlebars and I hit a bump. I didn't want to hit a bump. I went over the handlebars yeah, of course you did and I got road rash all over my face and all over my hands and my arms and after that the motivation kind of died, so I wasn't disciplined enough. After that the motivation kind of died, so I wasn't disciplined enough. And here I am at 53. I'm not a BMX guy, right? So motivation being a myth, it's not necessarily a true statement. But motivation, let's talk about motivation for you. What motivates you? I mean just in general. Is there anything like, say, you're watching a cooking show or you're watching this. What motivates you? What inspires you Success? Okay, what does that look like? I mean anybody specific that you think of. It can be somebody, even local, that you admire or just you know overall. Is there anybody that just comes to mind?
Speaker 2:Off the cuff. That would take me longer than I need to stop and pause to think about and that's fine.
Speaker 1:So success motivates you. What motivates you about success?
Speaker 2:I think that you get motivated and then, just like you said, there are certain things that you look at as successes, that you know, if you will put the consistency and the discipline behind it, you can achieve it. I try to be a person that thinks of something and thinks I can probably do that Now. Then you have the decisions to make. Do I want to put in what it takes, that's right, to get there. That's right. We talk about abs all the time because we work out abs abs, not, yeah, a b s abs. We talk about abs all the time. And and with what we do running half the week, crossfit half the week you'd have to do something different, especially, you know, being a little older and genetics not playing a part. Neither of us are really the.
Speaker 1:We're not genetic freaks.
Speaker 2:Genetically. Yeah, we're not genetically inclined to eat Doritos and do much of nothing and just have incredible abs. But what does it take to get those? We've talked about it. A lot of it's the kitchen and that's the. You know, we'd both rather go work out for two hours instead of one and then be able to, you know, go by Crave, shout out to our business, go by Crave and then pick up whatever our favorite dessert is instead. That's right, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:You're right, you know, but for me, I mean, I think motivation is you can. Motivation can come from anywhere, you know, like you see little clips, or you see little things anywhere, or just people, or just words, or whatever can motivate you to do something and become better. And for me, though, it's short lived, because motivation, it can only bring you to the doorstep of change. Motivation will not make you change. You cannot get motivated enough to change. You can only get motivated enough to get to the doorstep of change. And then you have to do something different to move from motivation to discipline.
Speaker 1:And I've always said, you know, motivation is not going to sustain you. Like man, you can get fired up. Man, me and you and Mike, we can be slapping five today about something, we're like boom, and then we wake up tomorrow like, oh, ok, you know, now we got to do something else different today. But I've always said this is that that desire, motivation. Desire is the road, but discipline is the only thing that's going to keep you on the road. And you know discipline is what's going to set you on a different course.
Speaker 1:You know, motivation may get you motivated. Hey, tomorrow we're going to get up and we're going to go grind at the gym. She motivated hey, tomorrow we're going to get up and we're going to go grind at the gym, but when the alarm goes off at 4 am, it's like I may go at 7. I may go at 12. I may not go at all, but I got motivated last night and I set the alarm. So there's something in me that wants to change. There's something in me that gets ignited and motivated by wanting to change. But the actual change is a whole different thing. It's a whole different thing.
Speaker 2:So I guess what we're really talking about is motivation. It's easy to get motivated, but then what's the follow-up? That's right, because whatever it is you're motivated to do, how do you get there and that's it. It just the motivation will not, will not sustain you. And to see results in whatever it is, whether it's finishing a degree, you know, applying for a promotion, physical, related to either lose weight or to to get abs, or then just things like running a race. We were talking to pastor mike about his friend that wants to do an iron man let's go, baby, let's go that's a lot of that again.
Speaker 2:You can be motivated to do it, but he's got a lot of work ahead of him. Yeah, yeah, because neither of us even do. Yeah, we do a lot. But work ahead of him? Yeah, yeah, he do, because neither of us even do. Yeah, we do a lot, but we don't. That's probably something we have not set our sights on.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's a lot of work.
Speaker 2:So, whatever it is, you know even I think about parents You're motivated to get your kids on a sleep schedule or to get them, you know, in a routine of reading their Bible and praying for themselves. Whatever it is, you're motivated to do it because you know what the results will be. But you got to, got to hang in there, you got to stick, stick with it, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:Well, I mean, you think about it so. So we're all Christian in this room here and you go to church and you know the spirit of God will quicken you and sometimes the pastor's words can even motivate you and inspire you. But tomorrow is where you have to make the decision to move from inspiration and motivation. So you know, how do you become disciplined and consistent? Now here's the one thing. I asked you this yesterday or day before we were talking, and I asked you, I said do you feel like I'm a pretty consistent person?
Speaker 2:And your answer was you are ridiculously consistent, to the extreme that it drives me crazy. Why does it drive you?
Speaker 1:crazy that I'm consistent.
Speaker 2:Because I do not tend to desire to be consistent.
Speaker 1:Well, that is true, and so, while I may drive you crazy that I'm consistent, it drives me a little crazy that you don't want to be as consistent. But I would say this I think when you're obligated to something, you are consistent. But I would say this when you are, I think when you're obligated to something, you are consistent Left to your own demise, not so much.
Speaker 2:No, if I'm left, to my own demise and I'm not consistent, then I'm out planting a garden and I don't know how to garden. I've actually done that before, you've done that I remember that summer.
Speaker 2:That was terrible. That was a one and done. You grew some beautiful weeds, I did, and fertilized them, because I didn't know the difference between what was actually supposed to be tomato plants and weeds when they grew. Tomato plants and weeds when they grew, um so yeah, I mean, if I'm left to my own demise, I'm not naturally gonna be consistent for for sure.
Speaker 1:yeah, okay, so so then, all right, let me ask you this now, and I know you're like you always put me on the spot. But why? Why do you feel like though left? Because because there are people and you you could agree with this. There are people who are naturally, uh, consistent. They're naturally routine, they naturally have a knack for just sameness. I saw Grace post about wheel last night, something about your husband's not going to leave you. He's ordered the same sandwich at the restaurant for nine years. And why is it that there are people who are just naturally consistent, but then there are people like you, which there's not good or bad? I'm just asking the question why is it, though, left? To your own demise, you're not naturally consistent, that you're ch-ch-ch-ch, but when you get engaged in something, you become very consistent.
Speaker 2:Well, I think, for me personally two things. One is time management.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:And sometimes being consistent with something. If I'm consistent to do this thing, whatever it is, every day, to get the result that I'm trying to achieve from my original motivation, then I've got to allow time for that and um. The second thing is is I like to constantly be doing something new. So when I start filling up my schedule with too many new things, even if I may have tried to allow time for something, eventually something has got to go. So I think, trying to stay for me, staying on track with at least a small handful of the things I was motivated about and manage my time well for those, and not continually taking on everything I get motivated about and manage my time well for those, and not continually taking on everything I get motivated about, because I motivation and excitement are a little different, but I can get excited about a lot yes, that's just true.
Speaker 2:Yes, yes, absolutely and I don't, I don't know, are those I mean, they're, they're sisters, maybe your cousins. Excitement and motivation, kissing cousins, probably. What did you say? Kissing cousins? Oh, that was not clear for me. So yeah, so I think for me that's what mine is Okay.
Speaker 1:Yeah, well, and I know that one of your struggles, especially when you were having some business coaching, was time management blocking off time for specific things and then not only blocking off time actually using that time to what you blocked off, right. And so you're results-oriented person, right, and I understand that. Discipline, consistency, brings results, okay. But then there are people who are naturally acclimated to just be consistent and routine, and it's not always about results, it's just how their personality is wired.
Speaker 2:And do you think that, just knowing you, I think I know the is wired. And do you think that, just knowing you, I think I know the answer. But do you think that you're just a naturally wired, consistent person? Yes, yeah, I do too I don't think it takes much work for you to be. No, we're not talking about discipline, consistency right I don't think it takes takes much work at all for you to be consistent, because that's your comfort level by nature.
Speaker 1:It it is. Yeah, I'm a routine sameness type person, right, because it's just that's how I'm wired, right. And you know, god has a sense of humor because he puts us together, right. So you know, but there's that.
Speaker 1:So I think you know one of the things that, in order to become disciplined and consistent, is that you do have to know your strengths and weaknesses, which we're talking about here. You know your strengths, you know your weaknesses, and we talked last time, I think, about being self-aware. That's one of the highest forms of self-discipline is self-awareness. You know, socrates said you've got to know thyself, and I think that's important because I know where I need to be more consistent or more disciplined.
Speaker 1:And when I know myself and I know my strengths and weaknesses, it's not hard for me to wake up every day. It's not hard for me to wake up every day and do the same thing, but there are places to where I struggle with discipline, and that's where it's at. I think for me, the hardest thing when it comes to discipline is you have to remove distractions, and this is where you and I disagree. Some and it's not like fighting disagree, but I'll explain it For me. I'm a snacker, I love snacks, I love sugar. I'm the kind of guy that's going to be like way deep in a reese's tree, reese's easter egg bag, with my my finger in my belly and stuff all in my beard, because like I go deep when I go snack is that like a movie reference?
Speaker 2:you said that a few times before. Is it the um?
Speaker 1:it's a reference, yeah, okay, but anyway, so I'm, I have, I have a problem with that. So when I am on something strict or disciplined or I've got to dial my stuff in because I've got something big coming up which Saturday I'm running 50 miles it's the first time I've ever run a 50-mile race and I've had to dial my stuff in I can't just be crazy and so I tell you look, I can't have this stuff in the house, you've got to remove temptation. And your response is what normally you you're like you're just going to have to.
Speaker 2:I mean, you need to learn to walk by it and and and be fine, but but it doesn't bother me, right, there's, there's, there's things that I have hid now from you, that I've not even opened. Or, yes, I've got a whole bag of those christmas cookies that I put up from you that you can open?
Speaker 1:no, no, I know those are there. You don't remember. That's on my when I finish my, it's on my day. After that they're up there.
Speaker 2:Well then, I did yeah well then, then you've been, I've really worked while now looking through the pantries. But yeah, I mean I can walk by it over and over. It can be laid on the counter. So I don't because we're different with discipline. Even I probably can be more disciplined in a lot of areas, especially food.
Speaker 1:But yeah, you have to remove the distraction from you and have it out of your purview. So we disagree because you're the type of person who can put a candy bar in their nightstand and eat it for a week.
Speaker 2:Or longer.
Speaker 1:I'm the type of person who can put a candy bar on my nightstand and, as we're talking, getting ready to watch something on TV, you're like, where's your candy bar going? I'm like, bro, it's gone, I ate it. It is gone, and so I have to remove distractions.
Speaker 2:That's us at the movies when we would go Like you would get a box of Reese's Pieces and I may get a box of something, and then I ask you for Reese's Pieces when the movie starts and they're gone and then, whatever it is that I bought a box of, it's still there for two or three, you know two or three weeks in my purse, yes.
Speaker 1:And what you may not know is when you go to the bathroom, you eat some of your candy mine too.
Speaker 2:No, I don't doubt that. But okay, so, talking about other things that are not just food related, you know, distractions. I've heard of people taking apps off their phone and you absolutely have to do that. Sometimes, um, you may need to delete apps off of your tv. If there's stuff that you know that you don't need to be watching, you may need to, you know, do whatever it is. This is so simple, but we just don't, as as a society now do it. Sometimes we don't turn our phone on, do not disturb, or airplane mode or power it off. I'll be honest, I don't know the last time I've powered my phone off, and very rarely do I ever completely cut it off to avoid distraction. We just don't do that. I mean even in church.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:We don't. It's not uncommon to look around and I'm sure that we are all texting about how good the sermon is. I'm sure we're saying man, I mean he that right there that was, it didn't leave no crumbs like yeah, I'm sure that's what it is it's not like what.
Speaker 1:Do you want to go eat after right? No, and so bro, he's taking a long time. We.
Speaker 2:We just we're not good sometimes at eliminating the distractions that may help us to be disciplined, and that's a good point.
Speaker 1:It's a good point, eliminating distractions, no matter what it is. It's not just about food. We're making that about, you know, because we're making it a joke. But whatever it is, you know, if you're one of those people and I'm just using this example if you're one of those people and I'm just using this as an example if you're one of those people who you've got to have the TV on at night to go to sleep, you might have to remove that, because you know there's a whole other thing about sleep hygiene, and you know I'm a big sleep hygiene guy yeah, I know you are.
Speaker 1:And if you text me late at night Mike texted me last night. I'm out, bro, like I'm gone, just who I am. I cut my screens off. I try to read those type of things, so removing temptations. I think the other thing is maybe setting clear goals, have an execution plan. Here's the thing. How do you know if you don't set a goal, if you don't have some kind of goal out there? How do you know if you're successful or not? What does that look like? I don't know. Where are you headed? I don't know. You know. What does that look like? Well, I I don't know. I don't where you headed. I don't know. It's just like getting in the car and saying where you want to go. I don't know.
Speaker 2:Let's just go you know, I think this time and we talked about this, for we're doing 75 medium, I think this time for me I had no goal, just being honest, um, and so it's been really, really hard for me. I've struggled because there there wasn't any. I didn't. I don't have a huge race coming up that I couldn't do if I didn't buckle down and do 75 medium. That's right.
Speaker 2:I don't. I didn't have a huge weight loss goal like I did before when I did 75 hard, and so I have said again and again I, I, I, you know, I don't care it's and I don't really consider it a failure, because I know that I really already failed when I didn't have a goal in mind when I started. But I have not been 100% compliant on 75 medium. The one thing I've done every day is to work out and do something for at least 30 minutes, but being 100% gluten-free and sugar-free. There's been days that I said, okay, I'm going to be at this place when we were in Colorado. I'm never gonna be here again anytime soon, so I am gonna go to this restaurant and I'm gonna eat, um, those kind of things because I didn't have goals.
Speaker 2:75 hard was the hardest thing I've ever done in my life and I've talked about before all the thing. You can look that up because it changed my life, and I say it all the time. You you would think I'm a paid ambassador, but I am not. But it's still to this point two years later has still. You can look at my life and see how much it's changed if you know me. But I was 100% compliant with 75 hard as hard as it was because I had a goal. So I think, having a goal and measurements with that, I took my picture every day, I weighed every day, I did everything every day so I could keep tracking my progress and my successes. Even in the gym I was doing new things I'd never done before. This time I'm just checking the box because I said I would do it with no goal in sight.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and obligation is probably the enemy. It's the enemy. Obligation is probably the enemy of discipline, yeah.
Speaker 2:I can see that.
Speaker 1:Because if you're obligated to do something, it's like you know. So I think that you're right Having something in front of you, a goal, a marker, a milestone, something you know. At the first year I set my goal to keep my weight at 190 or below, and you know that's what I'm at. I've shed about 12 pounds, I'm somewhere in that neighborhood, and I'm trying to get to a good running weight. You know to feel good, and so you've got to have something out there, and if you don't have something out there, it's going to be hard to stay disciplined. I think you also have to practice daily disciplines of just consistency, and you've got to force yourself to do what does not come easy. That's hard.
Speaker 2:You know people are reading the Bible through in a year. If that's your goal, you've got to get through Leviticus and you've got to get through Numbers and some of those things. Because you've got a goal and the daily discipline to do whatever it is. If you're trying to work on a degree and you're an online student, the daily discipline to learn that stuff and to stay with it and that's it a daily discipline. Because you know you can't read the Bible through in a year likely and have good success If you go four days without reading some of those awful chapters and you got to do it all on Saturday afternoon. You know, whatever it is, it does require a daily that's right A daily.
Speaker 1:And you know, for me I've said it, I'm trying to learn Spanish and I've been 80% disciplined. I'd like to say I was 100% disciplined every day, but I'm not. But even over the daily disciplines, I told you the other day and I know you didn't really care because you were doing something else I said, oh my God, I read that whole sentence in Spanish.
Speaker 2:I did read it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I said I read the whole thing. I knew exactly what it said and it was exciting for me because I began to see okay, this is paying off.
Speaker 2:And you're going to have to stay disciplined to do that because we have a new friend in our life and you're going to have to stay disciplined to do that because we have a new friend in our life and we are having to communicate back and forth on the app and we had some crazy communication the other day. We did and I said I have no clue what's going on here anymore, so you're going to have to be disciplined, since I'm way behind to learn the Spanish. I know, but I don't want to sound like that guy.
Speaker 1:That's like when it's tardies and I'm using all these terms like I'm pretending to know stuff. I want to be able to actually converse with people, because there's those people when you go to the Mexican restaurant, all of a sudden the dad of the group turns into a Spanish major Gracias. I mean, he's never said gracias a day in his life, but all of a sudden now the chips come and it's gracias. I don't want to sound like that guy, so I'm trying to temper that. But I think, just being consistent, doing what doesn't come easy, every day, every day, you've got to create new habits, schedules, routine, whatever it looks like. You're not going to change everything all at once, and I think that's the problem. People say when they write these lofty goals, man, I'm going to. They put 15 things out there. That's not happening. You're not going to change 15 things. What is one thing that if you had to change in the next three months? What is one thing you could change in three months? Could it be having a discipline of getting up at a certain time and whether it is you know if you're a Christian, if it's reading the Word or if you're not a Christian getting up and you do something else. What is that? One thing that you could change in three months? Then change that. And then what happens is called the power of habit stacking. And you stack one habit on top of the other, and the power of atomic habits.
Speaker 1:One of my favorite books and he talked about habit stacking. And all of a sudden, this one discipline takes over in your life, to where it becomes second nature. And you don't think about, now, I have to do this every day. Now, just this is who I am. And then, all of a sudden, that habit becomes ingrained in you and it becomes something natural. And then the next time, you stack another habit on top of that. Before you know it, you're four habits deep of something that just now is who you are and it changes your life. It's powerful, it changes your life. It's powerful, it changes your life like I'm trying to get like.
Speaker 2:One of the things now is you hanging up your clothes every day. That's something that I'm better because we're trying to keep that you are, because you're. I've noticed, though, that you're becoming in the habit of it now. You're finally, all this time, settling into the habit of it, and so you don't take, take them off and lay them down to put them up after a couple of days or until they accumulate, and for a lot of people, that's a big deal.
Speaker 2:You hear of treadmills being where everybody throws their clothes, or an extra chair, or just keeping them in the laundry basket, and so you know, because we became disciplined years ago, we fold the laundry immediately, try to get it put up. We didn't do that when we ago. We we fold the laundry immediately, try to get it put up, right. We didn't do that when we were raising kids. We probably sometimes did live out of laundry baskets. I don't know how raising four kids that close together is a bit of a blur for me sometimes. I don't remember what happened, I just know we're trying to survive, but just that's. That may seem so small, but like for me, especially being married, like that's great. Yeah, I get it that you've made that become a habit.
Speaker 1:But that's it, and it's sometimes things that now I don't even think about. When we come home from a trip, I unpack a suitcase before you do now.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And like your stuff still and like normally you drive.
Speaker 2:Well, I mean not for a week, but like yeah, you do it immediately, I do it immediately.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but I've changed that idea about myself and I think you know. Another thing that I like to think about is having a backup or contingency plan. You know we talked about this and again, I'm going to run 50 miles. It'll be the longest race I've ever done in one single distance and there's cutoffs. Okay, you have to be at a certain place at a certain time or they cut you off and you don't get to continue. Well, for instance, I've got to be at, I've got to have 43.5 miles done in 10 hours or I don't get to finish. Now, you know, for runners who are listening at this, they're like bro, you know. But for like power lifters and crossfitters, like man, I can't ever run. That you know. Here's the thing. Let's just say for kicks and giggles that I get cut off at 43.5 miles and they say you're done, bro, you didn't meet the time or whatever.
Speaker 1:I could leave there and I could say what an accomplishment and it is, so I'm not belittling that. Okay, I could say what an accomplishment, that's the longest I've ever ran. I can't go in though, for me, my personality, I can't go into Saturday thinking, well, that'll be the longest I've ever ran, even if I get cut off. I have to go in with the mindset that I'm absolutely going to lay everything out on that trail and I'm going to finish and I'm going to get my buckle or my gold medal or whatever it is and I'm going to hurt on Sunday from that. That I'm going to that. I can't go in with the mindset of if this don't work, this will be okay, because that's not good, that's not good for my discipline and that's not good for my mindset. And I think that I've got to change my perception about willpower. You know you have way more willpower than you think you do. You have way more in you than you think you do. It's just that when and I've said this before and I use it that when it hurts, when things start to hurt no matter if it's working out or if it's marriage or if it's kids or if it's church or if it's life when things start to hurt, that's where you have to lean in, that's where you have to lean into things. You don't quit there. You have to lean in when it hurts.
Speaker 1:And a buddy of mine, like I, like to watch people hurt and I like to watch people hurt and I like to know can I hurt you when I'm working out. If we're the same age, mike, don't count, mike's way younger than I am, but like if you're the same age, I want to know are you willing to hurt as much as I am in this particular area? And when I see you're hurting, I'm going to hurt a little bit more to see if you want to hurt some more. And if you don't, then I'm going to, I'm just I'm, then I'm going to keep hurting. But if you want to hurt, then I'm going to say how much you want to hurt. Then I'm going to hurt more and we're going to see who will hurt more.
Speaker 1:A buddy of mine says, you know, he says let's drag him out to the deep end and drown him, and so that's kind of his adage. When he sees me grinding he's like that's what he'll tell me. And so you've got way more willpower than you think you do and you've got to have that mindset. I mean, for me it's a killer mindset. You've got to go out there with that mindset that I'm going to accomplish this, because that's where discipline really kicks in, and I think that's just kind of for me. So how about you Anything there with any of that?
Speaker 2:I think one of the most important things we've said, though, is that you know making sure you have a plan. If it truly motivates you and it's something that you just can't get away from, have a plan and and set yourself down and have a meeting with yourself to know, to assess what it's going to take, what it's going to take to get to your goal, and then think about the reward right once you get there. I've heard people with weight loss you know that Photoshop themselves on bikini pictures and put it on the refrigerator. I did that. People that put it on the refrigerator are like there's nothing in my refrigerator I need. That's not where I would be putting pictures of myself in a bikini. Mine would be over on that cabinet, to the left of the refrigerator, to the stove that has candy in it, but whatever it is that that you're, you know, put yourself in a cap and gown.
Speaker 2:If you're doing the hard work of after you finish your nine to five, going to school at night, put yourself in a picture of a cap and gown, I love. There's a commercial out right now. I don't know which of the online colleges it is, but he's literally studying man. I wish I could think about it so that whoever's listening could go look it up. He's literally studying, but he's picturing himself on graduation day. He's picturing somebody like at a hotel loading his bags and his nice car and all these things, and so that's what you got to do. Sometimes, think about the reward and keep that in front of you when the motivation has worn off a little bit and you're settling in to the discipline and the consistency part.
Speaker 1:And that's powerful Visualization of seeing what you do, because I want to encourage you, tiff, and I do. You absolutely can go conquer it. I don't know what it is you're facing, but you can absolutely go conquer it and just having that actualization of thinking, man, when I get there Not if I think you've got to change your vocabulary, it's not if it's when, when I get there this is what it's going to be the reward. And I think just finishing here you're never going to be 100% perfect. It's never going to go 100% like you think it's going to go. You're going to have days that are bad. You may even have a bad hour, bad day, bad week.
Speaker 1:You can choose to quit or you can get right back up the next day and say you know what? Yesterday was sucked, but today I'm going to get back on and I'm going again because there's something greater out there, and that's what discipline does. Discipline will allow you to get up and dust yourself off and go get it again. Bible says that I fall seven times and I rise eight. Listen, I don't care, man, you may be on number six, get up, get up. And discipline will allow you to do that. And I tell you, discipline and consistency will absolutely change your life. It'll change your marriage, it'll change your family, it'll change your church, it'll change your job. It'll change your whole life, everything around you, if you just decide to quit being motivated and the next day not be disciplined, because those are different.
Speaker 1:So any final words, nope, that's good. I think that's a good place to stop. Hey, thank you so much for listening and we appreciate you. If you find people that are going your direction, hop in the flow with them and hustle with them. Thanks for listening. Hey, yeah, let's see how you doing the pressure. I've been wanting this forever. Yeah, let's see how you do under pressure.
