What You Avoid, Controls You!

The episode discusses the concept of avoidance, explaining how avoiding issues and emotions transfers power to them, leading to negative impacts on behavior, decisions, and relationships. The episode emphasizes that avoidance creates a false sense of peace and leads to emotional and spiritual stagnation. It encourages facing and processing pain and unresolved emotions as a pathway to growth, healing, and true freedom. Confrontation is presented as necessary for personal growth, clarity, and empowerment, promoting intentional living over reactive behavior.

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Introduction: The Power of Avoidance

What you avoid does not disappear. It gains influence. Avoidance does not remove power from an issue. It transfers power to it. The things left unaddressed quietly shape behavior, decisions, emotions and patterns. Avoidance feels like relief in the moment, but over time it becomes a form of bondage. Whatever a person refuses to face will eventually govern how they live. 

The Illusion of Peace Through Avoidance

Avoidance often disguises itself as peace. Silence feels safer than confrontation. Distraction feels easier than reflection. Delay feels wiser than decision, but unresolved issues do not remain neutral. They operate beneath the surface, influencing reactions, relationships, and choices. What is avoided internally always expresses itself externally. 

The Hidden Authority of Pain

Many people avoid pain. They avoid memories, conversations, emotions, or truths that feel uncomfortable. Instead of processing pain, they suppress it, but suppress pain does not heal. It festers. It leaks into tone, defensiveness, impatience, mistrust, and emotional volatility.

When pain is avoided, it begins to dictate how close someone allows others to get, how safe they feel, and how they interpret situations. The pain becomes a hidden authority. 

Fear and Anxiety: The Unseen Controllers

Avoidance also controls through fear. Fear thrives in the unknown when issues are never examined. They grow larger in the imagination.

Anxiety increases assumptions. Replace clarity. Fear becomes the decision maker. People begin to shape their lives around what they are trying not to feel, not to remember, or not to confront. That is not freedom. 

Emotional Suppression and Its Consequences

It is quiet Captivity, unaddressed emotions are another powerful controller. Anger that is never acknowledged turns into bitterness.

Grief that is never processed, turns into numbness. Shame that is never confronted, turns into hiding. Emotions do not vanish because they are ignored. They settle into the subconscious and influence behavior from behind the scenes. Avoided emotions often resurface in unhealthy ways and at inappropriate times.

Avoidance and Stagnation in Personal Growth

Avoidance also affects growth. Growth requires confrontation. It requires honesty, self-examination, and willingness to change. When someone avoids responsibility, correction or truth, stagnation sets in comfort, replaces progress. Patterns, repeat lessons, return in different forms. What is avoided will keep reappearing until it is addressed. Life has a way of revisiting unfinished business. 

The Fragile Peace in Relationships

Relationships are often controlled by avoidance. Difficult conversations are postponed. Boundaries are not set. Issues are ignored in the name of keeping peace. But peace built on avoidance is fragile over time. Resentment builds misunderstandings, deepen distance grows.

Avoidance does not protect relationships. It slowly erodes them. Clarity strengthens connection even when it is uncomfortable. 

Distorted Identity Through Denial

Avoidance can also distort identity. When someone avoids looking honestly at themselves, they build a version of identity based on denial. Weaknesses are hidden. Patterns are justified.

Accountability is deflected, but denial keeps people from becoming who they are meant to be. Identity matures through truth, not avoidance. What someone refuses to acknowledge about themselves will quietly influence how they show up in the world. 

Spiritual Consequences of Avoidance

Spiritually. Avoidance, dulls, discernment, conviction, ignored, becomes quieter over time.

Sensitivity fades. Once felt heavy, begins to feel normal. Avoiding truth does not remove responsibility. It hardens perception. Alignment requires attention. Growth requires response. Avoidance interrupts that process and replaces obedience with justification. 

The Path to Liberation: Facing Avoidance

Facing what has been avoided is rarely comfortable, but it is always liberating.
Clarity brings relief. Truth brings stability. Confrontation brings authority. When an issue is named, it loses mystery. When a wound is acknowledged, healing can begin. When fear is faced, its grip, weakens, power shifts back to the one who was avoiding. Avoidance thrives on delay, but freedom begins with decision.

Decision to feel. Decision to reflect. Decision to speak. Decision to heal. Avoidance keeps people reactive. Confrontation makes them intentional. It moves life from survival to stewardship. 

Conclusion: Reclaiming Control Through Confrontation

What you face loses power. What you avoid gains it. Avoidance allows issues to sit in the driver's seat while pretending they are not there.

Facing reality puts the individual back in control. Growth is not found in running from discomfort. It is found in walking through it with wisdom. What you avoid controls you until you confront it, and once confronted it, no longer governs your choices, your peace, or your future.

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