The C.H.O.D.E.S. Podcast
Two cousins, Maria and Leslie, discussing wild personal experiences in relationships, current events, and just life. We are sharing our experiences for relatability and entertainment. There will be laughs with a lot of gasps and we will also get down to the very intimate and raw details of the dating world and life lessons at every turning point.
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The C.H.O.D.E.S. Podcast
Q & A episode with the Chodes!
The expectations placed on women are as contradictory as they are exhausting. Why is it that our candidness is met with skepticism about our relationship prospects? In this episode, we face listener feedback head-on, dissecting reactions to our outspoken nature and the double standards we encounter. We dive into the societal norms that box women in and discuss how public figures like Drew Afualo and Andrew Tate both challenge and reinforce these stereotypes, revealing the strength it takes to stay true to oneself amidst criticism.
As we navigate the tricky terrain of gender roles and trust issues, we explore the often frustrating '50/50' mentality in relationships and the pervasive influence of toxic masculinity. We also tackle complex topics like consent, personal boundaries, and even a listener's shocking confession about a stepdad crush. With humor and personal anecdotes, we keep the conversation real and relatable, emphasizing the importance of confidence, authenticity, and confronting societal expectations with unwavering honesty.
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Welcome to the Chodes mini episode so dramatic. I know Okay. So for this mini, tiny baby episode, we thought we might bring you kind of like a little Q&A, right, Because I did the Not Gonna Lie link on my profile and I got some interesting questions so okay. I'm gonna well comments and questions, so I'm gonna read you what they said and you can give me your response yes, my roast, go for it okay.
Speaker 1:So I said, right, ask me anything anonymously, whatever. Be brutally honest, have you listened to the podcast or whatever? The very first thing I got, girl, somebody said I listened to the podcast and I just never knew you were like this Kind of bummed. Do you think is the norm? First of all, what?
Speaker 2:the fuck are they referring to?
Speaker 1:Right, so what would be your response to that? I know who are they referring to. It was on my page, so I'm guessing me.
Speaker 2:Damn. I don't know what they meant by the norm, because like are they saying? Like is that the normality? Like is that the feedback we're getting from everyone? No, I mean the people who knew us or who know us. They're like, they know.
Speaker 1:I don't know. I have a feeling that, because of the way that they said, I just never knew you were like that. I'm guessing they're referring to the promiscuity right, or no?
Speaker 2:no, yeah, it's definitely referring to that. It's kind of like oh, I didn't know you rolled like that kind of bummed. Oh I didn't know you rolled like that Kind of bummed. Kind of bummed. So to me that kind of sounds like a male response, as messed up as that is, but it sounds like a guy who and see, and this is why it can't be animated, because someone's going to get disappointed, because these boys think that they're the only ones. No bitch, you weren't the only one, oh my god parentheses girl.
Speaker 1:I saw this story of a man who wrote on ready. Read it. They have these things that it's called. Am I the asshole? So this guy's like am I the asshole for divorcing my wife after she continuously breastfed our baby, even though I asked her not to? And I was like, what the fuck like, why would you ask your wife not to breastfeed your child? You know his whole reasoning, girl was because he could not play with his wife's tits if another man no, if another man meaning his was sucking on them Like what that makes no sense.
Speaker 1:Men are in another fucking level. Girl Retarded.
Speaker 2:Sorry, I know that that word is not political.
Speaker 1:Bring back bullying. You know what my generation was all about bullying, then that's why we are traumatized with good okay.
Speaker 1:So my response to to that was obviously like that. I was like what, and why are you bummed in the what is the norm? I was just like what the fuck are you referring to? They didn't have the balls to come again to the link to say anything else, so, anyway, the next one I got was you're never gonna find a man talking the way you do on your podcast that that could be salty from a woman or a man, so I don't know.
Speaker 2:Right, I can come from anyone, but first of all, I have a man and Maria has found several men and the fact that Thank you, I mean like you're out there dating girl, but I mean that we can find a man. We can find a man and you know what? There's something for everyone out there and you never know, Someone might like the way we are and we haven't talked about men in a way that other women haven't. I mean, the way we speak is like based on our experiences and what we have witnessed and the gentlemen we've encountered and gentlemen, how nice of you I'm being see.
Speaker 2:See, this is me being nice and respectful. See, I'm talking about men respectfully and I'm not gonna find a man by talking respectfully.
Speaker 1:And I disrespectfully disagree.
Speaker 2:The useless men. Useless, I cannot. So because, okay, my response to them was the useless man.
Speaker 1:Useless. I cannot so because, okay, my response to them was I said what a scary thought. A woman alone. Ooh, I'm trembling with fear. And then I read honestly, I believe that a confident man won't care about what I say or what I've done. You're judging me because I speak about my life freely and openly. Say or what I've done. You're judging me because I speak about my life freely and openly, but the fact that you use the anonymous link to tell me that only tells me you don't have the guts to do what I do, right? Because tell me to my face, why are you hiding? Why are you hiding? And to me it's like I don't know.
Speaker 1:There's this girl I follow. Her name is Drew Afualo I'm sorry if I'm mispronouncing that and she's like she talks so much shit about men, dude, and men hate on her so much. But she has a man, dude, and she's like the biggest she's not the biggest man hater, she just like puts them in their place. But all men hate her because of the way she talks about them, right, but her man is her biggest supporter, like like you go to his page, it's all about her and he's like always cheering her on. So I think like it can only be a strong man that's going to handle me.
Speaker 2:What's that douchebag's name that all the girls hate? How he talks to the guys about girls.
Speaker 1:Oh, Andrew Tate.
Speaker 2:That fool. Yeah, see Like everybody hates him. I mean the female population. So there always has to be a shit talker on the opposite side.
Speaker 1:So yeah, and he has bitches fucking apparently in love with him, right.
Speaker 2:Because apparently, according to him, some bitches are just gold diggers and like we're just there for their pleasure, but guys just have to focus on their money.
Speaker 1:If that was the case, oh, my God, Did you hear about the commencement speech by that guy from the chiefs that he openly talked about in the commencement speech about how women are being lied to diabolically? He used that word diabolically telling us that the career path or whatever is like the way to go. I I do not remember the speech word for word, but he said that basically the job of a woman is to pleasure their man, to be in the house, to be housewives. That he wants to go back to the 40s and 50s or 60s, I can't remember Basically to the time where women were oppressed, which is wild to me, because his mom is a physicist, yeah, or something in the sciences, and his whole speech to me just screams like I have mommy issues, my mom wasn't around enough when I was a kid and I just hate on women because of that. Like.
Speaker 2:I don't know if you've heard it. No, but let's just say that we support this fool and we say like, yeah, by all means, let me be that woman Very supportive, I'll stay at home. Well, give me a fucking man that's gonna want me to stay home, that's gonna put bread on the table and keep me at home, keep me with my mouth shut you know, that's the word, girl, because he's like.
Speaker 1:He's like, let's go back to a time where men were men and women were women. Okay, well then, show me those men show me those men right.
Speaker 2:What did my friend say?
Speaker 1:I can be submissive to your masculinity if you're masculine, but don't expect me to be submissive when I'm the dominant and that's the problem right now that most of us are in our dominant, we cannot be in like our like little feminine era because these guys act like fucking boys, mama's boys, like they want to be taken care of, they want to be like catered to, like their mama did no bitch, like you're not, because they're not, because the same men that's that want those things are the same men that talk about the 50 50. You can't have it both ways. You can't have a woman that's gonna like give you 50 of like her salary or whatever to support the house but also take care of you, take care of the house, take care of the kids, take care of this, take care of that.
Speaker 2:No, it doesn't work that way but I also like like how, when we were talking about your episode of you and your homeboy, I was gonna say that men like things 50 50 and they feel emasculated when we are you, you know providing and we're the breadwinners right, and we can handle all that. But they take it personally when a divorce comes up or a breakup comes up and we expect money, right. So just how they feel like their money is important, why do they feel like they can screw us over with our time? And so like that whole 50 50 like pisses me off because I'm like okay, so you want me to pay for my food when we go out, that you don't always have to pay, but yet you want me to commit to you, be loyal to you and depend on my food, get being provided from you, but when we go out I have to pay yeah make it make sense.
Speaker 2:The math ain't math doesn't make sense.
Speaker 1:It's not. It's not and and that's what these boys don't fucking understand in it. Like I think it stems from like the podcast of like fresh and fit in, like the andrew t and like all of these motherfuckers that just like talk down on women and they're like, no, they're not talking down on women. And they're like, no, they're not talking down on women, they worship women. No, they don't. Andrew Tate was in jail for what was it Like? He had like a prostitution ring or something like that. He spoke about it on his podcast openly. It was so much easier to do it in Transylvania. Was that where he was at? Is that even a real city? I forgot? I think so. Somewhere over, is that even a real city? I forgot? I think so somewhere over there.
Speaker 2:I'm pretty sure romania, romania, yeah yeah, that is transylvania.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so he talked about it on his podcast. Like, oh, like here, you just, you just give money to the cops and they don't bat an eye. It's like dude, really, and guys worship this guy. Like literally, there's a bunch of incels. No, I can't. I can deal with that. Anyway, for our next question we have do you have trust issues?
Speaker 2:Hell yeah, If you have, clearly you haven't listened to the podcast, but if you hear my episode, like yeah, of course I have trust issues Insane Right Now.
Speaker 1:If you listen to mine now you know like, yeah, who the fuck doesn't? Because I trusted my man, my ex-man, like blindly, and in the end I got fucked over, you know. So now count yourself lucky if you don't have trust issues.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I think everyone has trust issues. I have it with my money. I have it with my relationships. I have trust issues everywhere. My relationships I mean like my relationships with my money. I have it with my relationships. I have trust issues everywhere. My relationships I mean like my relationships with my friends. I have trust issues with my family relationships, like all the relationships guys, all of them.
Speaker 1:And the next one was just more of a comment than a question. It says I thought you were different because you never gave me a chance. How do I tell you?
Speaker 2:This could have been so many people right. And you know consent is a thing and if I didn't give you consent I was not interested. Like how, how do you want to hear it?
Speaker 1:I was just like I was having fun with the people that I was actually interested in I know what I, what I, what I had to respond to was like most times, I don't give chances to spare your feelings, not mine. It's not that I keep them hanging Like it's just for what I already know. It's not going to go anywhere. So why waste our time? Because, even if what they're referring to is just fucking still, why waste your time? Like I don't want to do that with you, otherwise I would have you know. So it's like get a grip, man. The other one we get this comment and I'm like yo. It says I want to sleep with my stepdad. I don't know you should see my face.
Speaker 2:I'm like what?
Speaker 1:I know they did not send a follow upup but what do you think about that? What do you think that stems from?
Speaker 2:what I'm still like, what I know, is your stepdad hot? Like I mean, I don't know. Like, is that? Is that where you're going? Like, is he interested in you? Is he leading you on? Do you want to do that to your mama? Like, like, you got to let your mama know? I know who are you, chiquis Rivera? Like what's going on? Like, let me throw the shade at that bitch. I've been wanting to, yeah.
Speaker 1:I don't, I don't know, girl, that's what I, that's what I put. I was like better send a picture of your stepdad, because what the fuck?
Speaker 2:I need more context, I know, but you know what I mean. Like he was not my stepdad, because obviously I don't have one. But when, once upon a time, I was eyeing someone for my mom because I know my mom's taste and she likes them older and he wasn't that much older, he just looked older. But listen, I was not looking for me, I was just like, oh, that guy could be my stepdad.
Speaker 2:Like I literally in my head, like every time I was here I'm like oh, my stepdad, my stepdad, and he knew it too, but I didn't know that he liked me. So that's when I was like, oh, I can't do that to my mama, like if I set her up with this guy, and then this guy's checking me out like, oh, I can't do that to my mama, like if I set her up with this guy, and then this guy's checking me out like no, I can't do that.
Speaker 2:You should have been like well sugar daddy no so he became my step daddy, but he was not my step anything, he was just daddy, but yeah that was a long time ago.
Speaker 1:Long, long time ago. I didn't know that. See, this is news to me. We're getting to know each other. Nice to meet you.
Speaker 2:Nice to meet you, my name is Leslie, me llamo Maria.
Speaker 1:I don't discriminate, oh shit he was literally my dad's age.
Speaker 2:You know how I joke. If I ever had a chance to Johnny Depp, I was like for sure, I know I would I would definitely have a chance to johnny, I think anyone?
Speaker 1:I think anyone would just jump at that train I would.
Speaker 2:My man knows, this is my main man, so he's your like.
Speaker 1:What did? What do they call it? The pass card?
Speaker 2:the like your one my whole pass yeah, that, this is jennifer anderson, so I I'm like I respect she.
Speaker 1:She apparently has bad breath. People say I don't know kind of takes away from her beauty. But hey, it is what it is I don't know.
Speaker 2:You see me with johnny depp, so.
Speaker 1:I did tie you with him.
Speaker 2:You're my witness. You're my witness that.
Speaker 1:I've been. You grabbed the very tip of his fucking fingernail when he was walking away.
Speaker 2:No, I grabbed his hand. He was holding my hand.
Speaker 1:I know he was holding your hand, but then he wouldn't let go and you wouldn't let go and it was like the very tip of the fingers. And it was like his security guard was like okay yeah, yeah, yeah yeah calmate, let's go, I know, if I could, I would have gone with him to the end of the world you, I know fantasies, fantasies, girl anyway.
Speaker 1:So, like what I responded to the to the person who wanted to sleep with their stepdad, I was like, honestly, because to me personally right. I was like if you watch porn, maybe stop because that's not reality. Let's not reality, let's not normalize that, because I like the girl.
Speaker 2:Hey, it's a reality. I'm telling you, I was trying to set my mom up and I got it.
Speaker 1:No, bitch, but like you, kind of stop yourself. But imagine, like you know, like for research purposes one sometimes watches stuff, um, but like those videos that it's like. It's like oh, the mom goes to work and like the dad stays, or like the stepdad stays and, like you know, they're fucking in the mom is like in the other room, sometimes even on the same bed. They're fucking in the same bed and the mom is asleep. Like this is the type of thing that is unhealthy for people that's important yeah yeah, well, I don't know, cheekies, how was it?
Speaker 2:let's go back to her I don't know I would like to know how she screwed her mama, come on the podcast, tell us your story.
Speaker 1:Right, I think I have an idea what you're talking about, but like I don't know the full story, so we're gonna have to talk about that off, about what the chick is right.
Speaker 2:Our story yeah, she slept with her mama's man. Oh shit, yeah, this was when her mama was alive, too, too, so that's fucked up.
Speaker 1:Rest in peace, my Jenny RIP, my Jenny Damn. Okay. Well, just to wrap it up, this is not a comment. Well, this is a comment and a question. But one of our favorite people said every week she listens to the podcast Love you, girls, you don't know it yet, but you're part of my nightly routine.
Speaker 2:Shout out.
Speaker 1:Sanchita, I love you.
Speaker 2:That's probably what she remembers, that I would talk about Just like blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. No, when she imitates you, she's like and I was like what she's like? That's all I remember your cousin saying to me. But yeah, no, I got a lot Some people message me and they don't work with me anymore, well, for the time being. But yeah, they messaged me and they reached out. They said that they listen to us and that they like listening to us, that they have a good time and it's always nice hearing that you guys like, that we entertain you guys, whether you guys hate us or have a different view on us, judge us like. At the end of the day, we knew what we were getting ourselves into and we just appreciate any feedback, brutal or not, but it just shows that I mean, at least you guys are giving us the shot. It's like play us in the background, who cares? But if we make you laugh, funny too like.
Speaker 2:I also got feedback from my friend in guatemala. She said that we should do our podcast in spanish, and I think you got that feedback from your friends in guatemala too, and it's like, unfortunately, most of our listeners speak english, but she said that it was funny when she would listen to us because she's like all I hear you guys is ha ha, ha. And she's like I would laugh like too, like ha, ha, like I don't even know what they're saying. But then she's like I would hear fuck and shit. And she was like oh shit. I was like yeah, girl, like learn your English. You know like you'll get it.
Speaker 1:I was looking at our analytics and we have people from India, the Philippines, like three listeners from Guatemala, which is probably your friend, my brother and I don't know, my sister in law, I don't know, and then all of the rest are in the US. So it would be nice to have a Spanish podcast, but we don't have the demographic for it and so it just wouldn't.
Speaker 2:Jayshik Krishna to all our people in India. And what is it? Como esta Ates? And cuyas and punsos Shout out there you go, we're going to go. Worldwide, guys, there you go, we're going to go worldwide, guys.
Speaker 1:Okay, Pitbull Chill.
Speaker 2:Oh, my God. Let's bring out all the celebrities on this episode. Let's get it.
Speaker 1:Well, this is what a minisode is about, A mini episode. When this is out, I'm going to be on a trip, so I'm going to be posting pictures from my trip. If you guys want to keep up, I'm not Kardashian oh hell, no shot, no, the shots fired. I'm never gonna forgive you that one. I am offended, extremely offended, and not in the good way yeah, exactly, hell no fuck them, bitches oh, you said keep up with me.
Speaker 2:You set yourself up.
Speaker 1:I know, keep up with the trip. I mean just you know. So you guys we talk about I talk about Guatemala a lot, so like I'll be posting so you guys can see what the fuck my likings are about. But yeah, we love you guys. Thank you for listening and we'll see you, hear you talk to you. You'll hear us on Monday, next Monday.
Speaker 2:Bye guys.
Speaker 1:Have a good day or night, bye.
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