The C.H.O.D.E.S. Podcast
Two cousins, Maria and Leslie, discussing wild personal experiences in relationships, current events, and just life. We are sharing our experiences for relatability and entertainment. There will be laughs with a lot of gasps and we will also get down to the very intimate and raw details of the dating world and life lessons at every turning point.
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The C.H.O.D.E.S. Podcast
Whose kids are these anyways?
Ever wondered how sweltering heat can throw your podcast plans into chaos? On this episode we recount our recent struggles with recording amidst a heatwave. We are sorry about our little hiatus.
Prepare for a lively discussion on the dramatic shifts between millennial and Gen Z fashion and parenting styles. We critique the evolution of club attire, the impact of digital upbringing on behavior, and the differences in workplace etiquette across generations. Reflecting on our own childhoods, we explore how varying parenting styles have shaped our lives and the wider societal norms. From strict upbringings to lenient modern approaches, we examine how these differences influence behavior, responsibility, and respect in today’s world.
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Hi, welcome to Cousins Honestly, openly Discussing Everything Spicy.
Speaker 2:Welcome to the chokes.
Speaker 1:Oh great, she forgot already how to do this.
Speaker 2:No, I did not. Oh, my god. I saw the pigeon the other day and I was like. You know the little chirp that we do. That's technically in your honor.
Speaker 1:He was just like, oh baby, the homage to her Sin querer. Queriendo, all right gang, we have been MIA again, as per usual. You guys expected this.
Speaker 2:Dude, one day we'll get it, but I think we should go into why.
Speaker 1:It was fucking hot.
Speaker 2:Let's start with that.
Speaker 1:It was hot and Mariah and I we have to do this in confined spaces so it doesn't attract any sound and that means no fans, no AC, no nothing, because the damn audio will catch that, and that's why we've been like this. And then right now, thankfully, today has been a cooler day, but I don't know if it's the anxiety of doing this and feeling like it's gonna get hot again that I'm already hot I'm not, I was my fan girl.
Speaker 2:I was gonna have a beer and then I was like, no, mejor, no, never mind, because.
Speaker 1:No, I already know I'm gonna get hot did I talk to you on the phone yesterday?
Speaker 2:uh, yes, we did for a little bit in the afternoon okay, it was.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, I was still doing laundry, okay, so I wasn't on a good one, okay. So when I got home I drank this thing I don't know if you've seen them at the liquor stores that they're like guetitas, like little buckets, and they're filled with like things to put in like you. Basically, you mix that into that little thing and has a little spigot, and you pour it and you drink it.
Speaker 2:I don't know what their names are but mine had a buzz ball oh it had yeah, it had an energy drink.
Speaker 1:The man, the bing, what is it? Yeah, I know yeah and yeah that. And then it had a bottle of Malibu and so your girl was on a damn good one. I put some ice cubes in that shit and then I mixed it with the little gummies in.
Speaker 2:There I was she's like what is time? What is the middle of the week?
Speaker 1:no, a girl I knocked out. I don't even know how I knocked out, but I knocked out. It gives you a dance with an energy rush. Yeah, it gives you this little heat rush and the next thing you know, you're like for me I could show you.
Speaker 2:my watch says that I slept three hours and 55 minutes, but not really, because I only had 29 minutes of deep sleep and then the rest is two hours and 42 minutes of light sleep, and I couldn't sleep. I went to, I went to bed early, but I stayed awake until like three something in the morning and I had to wake up early for work and I was like fuck my life and I couldn't. It's not like I could be late, because last week I had my 90 day review and I passed. So hey, hey, but they did you had me sweating more.
Speaker 2:No, my boss did tell me. She's like you know what I like you, I like how you work, I like that you understand, like our process, whatever. But it's kind of concerning because I'm going to eternally fucking be late girl. She's like it's kind of concerning how many times you've been late in the span of three months and I was like my bad right, like I'm sorry, it's not my fault. And then I told her. I told her like my whole situation about not driving and stuff. And she's like maria, she's like no, how come you don't have a car? She's like I'll teach you in the parking lot. And I was like, well, yeah, I'm gonna go, I'm gonna go on wednesday to get my permit, meaning this past wednesday and you got it.
Speaker 2:I got it, girl, after seven tries yeah, y'all better be wearing the streets.
Speaker 1:Oh, I going to be a menace. Maya, I'm going to get you a booster seat so you can feel your titties, no dude.
Speaker 2:My friend took me practicing the other day.
Speaker 1:Those things are a hot. No, you come with your own airbags, huh.
Speaker 2:Mm-hmm. According to Dude, according, so like look, listen. In order for me to reach the pedals, my seat has to be all the way to the front and, according to the DMV handbook, your airbags are supposed to be a little over 10 inches away from you. Do you know how close my boobs are to the steering wheel?
Speaker 1:So you know how physics work, right? That's not possible. Yeah, exactly Like I can't reach the pedals. That's not possible. Yeah, exactly like like fanny blimstone dude.
Speaker 2:When I read that I was like, um, yeah, that's not possible for me, but thanks for caring you were moving your legs, moving your arms, like how is this gonna work? I know, but yeah so hopefully, hopefully, soon enough, I'll have my own car and then I'll be out in the streets like it's Tokyo Drift.
Speaker 1:Oh God, so you think?
Speaker 2:No, pues a ver que dice Dios. I'm like I already spent 31 years without a car, without driving. I'm not going to stress anymore about wanting to get, wanting to get it like right now, because you know.
Speaker 1:That's true. No rush, no rush.
Speaker 2:But yeah, babe. So yeah, you guys, we're sorry, we also. It just life happens, we know that. But it was really really hot for like two weeks and then when it finally cooled down, it like for me last weekend you were busy and then I was busy the next day, so we couldn't do anything about that and because you know it had been so hot, I had done literally nothing in my house because the days that was like 111 dude, you would fucking move your leg and, yeah, sweating. So I took advantage last weekend and I cleaned my house and I did everything other than that.
Speaker 1:what else have you been up to in the past three weeks when it was hot girl. Yeah, no, I had to do that. Because why was I supposed to? Oh, because my mans came over and I had to make sure it looked like a decent habitat, you know she was like I, I can't let you see my mess right, even though I see his messes.
Speaker 1:But I'm like you know what? I need you to see me put together, not disheveled, but here, here we are. So I, I did some cleaning and, and I've been telling you, I've been eager to whip out the fall clothes and the sweaters and all that and just put away the summer stuff. But it's been so damn hot that it's still summer. I just want to do it, to get it done, you know.
Speaker 2:Not have to go through the hassle of finding everything last minute but.
Speaker 1:I did that, and then you and I went to the Dodgers game for Guatemala night.
Speaker 2:We did hey Guatemalans in the house, girl, I don't know no Guatemalans here, like it's so hard to find them. But then at the stadium, and then all of a sudden they were all there. I was like damn, it's like the hub.
Speaker 1:It's like the hub, it's like la justo for real.
Speaker 2:That's how it feels. There was a lot of fake ones. There was a lot of fake ones because your dad, including my mans dude there was a lot of asians too, all because of Tani. My friend said that the reason that the reason that there was so many japanese people was because both of the pictures were japanese, so it was like japanese, I guess japanese, and I was like, oh, I didn't know that. See, that's when I know that I'm a big fan.
Speaker 1:I just thought it was because they were watemalan too. You know how we have, like, the malls over there. They're all inhabited by the. I don't know if it's Well, yeah, that's true, that's true.
Speaker 2:I have a friend who looks super Asian. Well, I don't have a friend. I know a guy who looks super Asian and when you hear him talk he sounds more Guatemalan than me. Girl, I'm like dude, I'm saying, but yeah, that was fun, we had a lot of um, a lot of fun. I think, towards the end, when we all yeah, yeah, compared to last year, yes, I'm like over here shading. You know, she cannot stay quiet I know.
Speaker 1:No, that's why I was like I'll do it myself, let me. Let me throw myself into this. It was successful this time we got to go in, and I mean the previous years me and you have had a blast, and then it's been growing right. Our little group has grown Because first it was like me and you, and then it was me and the little cousin, and then it grew.
Speaker 2:I think our little cousin has gone with us, like each time that it's happened. But, yeah, our little group is growing and this time we got to go with the dads. Well, you guys' dad, yeah, and my mama couldn't go because she was sick.
Speaker 1:Which in fact?
Speaker 2:I didn't tell you, but that week I had to take her to the ER. Girl. I missed work. No, you didn't tell me. No, I didn't tell you because we hadn't talked um.
Speaker 2:I missed work three days but this is probably because she wasn't feeling good and she had gotten a procedure done. Uh-huh, she had gotten a procedure done and for some godforsaken reason, she got an intestinal infection and so anything that she would eat would give her like major cramps. And I was like ma, like like that day that we got back from the game, like I was ready to take her to the er dude, but she was like no, you know how, you know how moms are, they're like me, aguanto. So. But yeah, thankfully she's fine now I'm sorry to hear that.
Speaker 1:Hopefully she's better.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but yeah, babe, other than that, I don't think I haven't done anything outside of the ordinary. What about you? Have you done anything else?
Speaker 1:Oh, so my friend is getting married, and so we went to her bridal shower last weekend, and that's why I was busy. And then this weekend we're going to our bachelorette party, which is a wine tasting, so that should be fun.
Speaker 2:I mean congratulations. I know I'm excited for her to the chumpkin.
Speaker 1:I was already celebrating without me right now ah, these damn planes.
Speaker 2:It's like I live by the airport, but not really well. Yeah, so that's our updates. For the past three weeks, nothing. Oh, I went dancing, actually, with our little cousin and her friend. That was really fun too I saw that. I saw that, yeah, we had a, we had a really good time. Her friend had never been to la cita you know how I'm always plugging La Cita and he was like oh, I've heard, this place is ghetto. And I was like, well, it depends on your perception of places.
Speaker 1:Remember La Boom girl. Remember La Boom. Yeah, I do For those that know Well no. You know that that was. Those were the days.
Speaker 2:Oh, but you know what that brings me into a perfect segue for our topic today, actually. So last time that we did the episode we talked about, we said that we were going to talk about what kids are wearing these days and you know what they be judging us are wearing these days and you know what they be judging us, so I'm gonna judge them too, because there is so many tiktoks going around from fucking gen c.
Speaker 2:No, yeah, whatever generation is after us that they're always talking shit about the millennials. And they're like. I saw one today in the morning and this guy's talking how he went through trauma looking at our outfits from our clubbing days, I know, and I was like bitch and he was like it looks like y'all got out of the office and just went clubbing. Like why are you wearing a blazer to the club? Like why you look like business attire with the high heels that are uh and let me adjust myself.
Speaker 1:I know as the elder, as the elder of this, there were restrictions. You couldn't get into the club looking like you know, with your baggy, cargo pants and you had to look like you had money. You had to look like you had money, you had to look sophisticated. There was a certain look and those clubs did that on purpose, so that you know it would be the image of the club. It represented what comes in. You know, nice classy, not trashy.
Speaker 2:I mean, there was the trashy people, but then you would just look at them like you know. But yeah, he was talking about that and I'm like, well, I've gone to, I haven't been clubbing, but the bar scene is the same thing nowadays, like kids don't give a shit about what they're wearing, like, yeah, they're all about comfort and wearing their tennis shoes and supposedly now, if you wear heels anywhere, it's like you're giving away your age because no one is going to wear heels out and it's like man, y'all don't even know what it was to club.
Speaker 2:Okay, wasn't there a thing that you had to wear heels.
Speaker 1:Yeah right, there was a thing that you had to wear heels. Like we didn't want to wear heels, like we didn't pick that, like I fell on my ass wearing heels in la, but we did it because if you didn't wear them you couldn't get in, are you?
Speaker 2:kidding me that's I'm, I'm triggered, I'm traumatized, right and I mean telling us, girl, it was like motivation for all of us to dress to like our best, you know, because nowadays you're like, okay, I'm gonna go out, what am I gonna wear? What the fuck do they wear? They wear those stupid like one-piece outfits with tennis shoes and high socks and like a beige fucking sweater and that's like, oh my God, look at my outfit of the day, yeah, the beige people.
Speaker 2:That's what I call them, the beige people. They look sad, they all look like. You know that episode in the fairy odd parents when Timmy wishes that everybody looks the same. That's how I see that fucking generation, because they all dress the same.
Speaker 1:They all know we talk about this at work. We literally see them in herds like coming in.
Speaker 1:We literally see them in herds like coming in, like it would be a group of girls wearing the same damn one piece fucking black spandex, shit, mm, hmm, with the freaking oversized light blue or white fucking shirt and then the hat and they all look the same and I'm like I mean as friends I don't know if this is an age thing or whatever, but we would call each other like what are you going to wear, so we don't look like twins, and these bitches be coming in like fucking quintuplets.
Speaker 2:Like, yes, like they were all born at the same time, dude, yeah, with the same lip fillers and everything, dude. I was also looking at a thing today on that and they're saying that. So now, all of a sudden, people are realizing that lip fillers don't dissolve and that's why everybody looks like they have you know how, like crazy tegan and kylie jenner and all of them like have the same face, like the super plump, like, uh, cheeks and the lips, the face that we would make for the pictures back in the day.
Speaker 2:Our generation, the duck face, but they literally can't get rid of it because of so much filler that they've gotten in their faces. The fillers don't dissolve and so, like they just absorb the, the water or whatever that is in your face and that's why they look like all fucking hinchadas, dude, swolled up like, yes, like, but yeah. So I was triggered today in the morning because that's the first video that I saw in the morning when I was on my way to work and I was like, ooh, these kids don't know what the fuck they missed, because the clubbing scene is not the same girl Like they don't dance anymore. Like now, if you go out, all you see is them doing the same TikTok dances. Like they don't know how to dance. Like for real, real. They think they know how to dance because they can do choreography. But choreography, dancing and actual dancing not the same thing.
Speaker 1:No.
Speaker 2:I'm like, I'm so disappointed.
Speaker 1:I'm so disappointed. I know we would study these music videos. We would fucking try to be. I don't know.
Speaker 2:But we would try Girl me dancing La Gasolina in front of our entire family. Yeah right, Like no. The good old days of reggaeton, no, dude they they wanted judges, but shake that yeah. Yeah, see, not no pieces, because then I'm gonna say they don't know I I saw a video of um a dad talk.
Speaker 1:Well, the daughter was singing one of the songs to the dad and the dad was like do you even know what they're what you're saying? And she was like yeah, it's a drug. And he's like no, those are rims. What song was it? Oh, I can't even remember it but um yeah it was, it was funny. And he's just like looking so disappointed. Oh, oh my gosh, let me see.
Speaker 2:Oh my God, yeah, you know what? I was just having this conversation with one of my friends on Instagram because she was saying I sent her a video about like our generation and stuff. And she was like, dude, like I hate these little kids and their attitudes, like they think that they know better, because I guess she said something about how she was gonna wear chucks what the fuck are chucks, leslie, and their converse, right. And the kid corrected her saying like you mean converse? And she was like, yeah, chuck taylor's like what the fuck? And she's like I just hate their attitudes. And I was like, oh girl, trust me, like I know, but I'd be putting all the kids I know on check like you're not gonna come at me with that stupidity Because they act like they know more than us.
Speaker 1:It's like no bitch. You weren't even there, when you're going for the milk.
Speaker 2:I already went and came back with cream and cheese bitch.
Speaker 1:We were going over this with my boyfriend um that the millennials were the in-betweeners, so we were there before cell phones and we were.
Speaker 1:We're here after the cell phones and the computers and the internet and all that. So we know both sides, like we know what life was like before that and we know what it's like after it. These kids, they only know the after. They don't even know like cassettes, they don't even know of vhs, they don't know of what to do like if the power was to go down. Like they don't know that shit.
Speaker 2:They're like, oh, they don't know how to be bored, girl. That is the problem with these fucking kids they don't know how to be bored because they are constantly so overstimulated by everything they see on social media, and not even just social media, but like all these streaming services. We didn't have none of that. Like girl, we had to wait a week to see the new episode of a show, or, like you know, like for us, for those of us who grew up in hispanic households, with the novelas, it was like a thing where the family would get together every fucking night, like at seven or eight, and you would see the novela and then they kissed, and that's when the novela would end, and you, and if it was a Friday, you had to wait till Monday to know what the fuck happened. Right, and they don't know none of this.
Speaker 2:No they don't you think? That's how our parents feel about us.
Speaker 1:Well, yeah, I mean, every generation is going to go through this, like where we're, like, oh, these kids don't know, they don't know what life was back then, but these, oh, I don't know. I'm not a parent so I can't say. But what I can say is you know, I know what I'm gonna instill in my children, because these kids they're, they're on another level.
Speaker 1:First of all, they're disrespectful as fuck yeah, and I mean our parents thought we were disrespectful and their parents thought they were disrespectful, but disrespectful in like, ok, I brought a boyfriend to the house or I'm seeing a guy, but we're not married. Right, that was the disrespect. The disrespect now is like they talk to your to their moms or whatever. Now is like they talk to your to their moms or whatever bruh, can I get that?
Speaker 2:or text you I want dinner, like the fact that the please and thank you, or like saying hello when they go into a house they do not have any of the, and I think, like for us, like you know how grandma was. Like grandma would see you doing something and she was like hey, and that was it. That's all she had to do for us to know that we fucked up, right right like bitch, check yourself.
Speaker 1:And it wasn't even like hey, you did something wrong, it was just like she's like be like hey, rewind, rewind, rewind and fix yourself, because you know where you fucked up, just know. Yeah, no, these kids do not say please, they don't say thank you. I swear a kid that was like seven years old, can I get this? And I'm like looking at him and I just said it like nice, and I'm like please. And he looked at me. He was like huh, yeah, I was like but again girl, like, again we're not parents.
Speaker 1:Right, my parents would have. But I see some parents I'm like I know that tradition is not done. I see some parents like still put their kids in line, but it's very few and the ones that do they're like in their 40s no disrespect but the ones in their 30s and their 20s, they're kind of more like they let the kids just I don't know whatever.
Speaker 2:I think like I just, yeah, honestly, from the, from the standpoint of traumas and therapy and whatever, I think like I don't think we're traumatized by how we were raised, because maybe a little bit, but I think, like a lot of people, they had traumas on how they were corrected when they were younger and now they don't know how to be parents, they want to be friends and so because they didn't have I don't know, like, like for me, you know, like growing up with my grandma, like I didn't have that thing of like, oh, I could just ask for permission to go out and she'll let me, like I had to escape, basically, you know. And so now, like parents want to be so cool with with their kids that they're not parenting, they're just being super cool about everything and in turn, they're making these kids fucking disrespectful as hell and they're leaving the rest of us to deal with them yes, that part I don't know.
Speaker 1:Okay, so like I'll give an example my brother feels the need to give my niece rewards for everything. Oh, she didn't feel like eating dinner, oh, okay. Well then you're not gonna go to disneyland tomorrow. Oh, you don't want to eat your lunch. You're not gonna go to knott's berry farm today. And I'm like, why does that have to be a thing first? Of all first of all, those kind of things for us were like if it's your birthday or if it's Christmas, like that's what you're going to get Pick one pick one, but it's not like, oh, you're going to get it, that was like a freaking luxury.
Speaker 1:And now these parents. I feel like they just like oh well, if you don't do the basics, like if you don't shower, we're not going to go buy you a toy. Why do you have to bribe your child? Our thing was like, if you don't shower, I'm going to fucking hose you down. See, if you like that, those were your choices. I don't know. I see it a lot with, I guess I guess the millennials, if you want to call them that our generation they, I get it because, like you said, some of us grew up with traumas of how we were disciplined like the way we, in the manners that we were disciplined and we don't want to put our children through that.
Speaker 1:I totally get that and respect that. But that doesn't mean because I don't want them to suffer or do all this, I'm going to reward them with everything that I couldn't have. You have those things because you worked for it, because you were like I'm never going to go through that struggle that my parents went through. We all go through that. Every generation goes to that. I'm not going to put my children through the struggle that my parents put me through. It wasn't by choice, I mean, it wasn't unintentional, but that's why you work hard or whatever. That doesn't mean that you're going to have to give everything on a silver platter to your kids, to your family, because that's what you didn't have before. You can still do that, but there are ways of doing it, not all at once and not for not doing the basic things like eating your your food, or because eating your food, eating food was even a blessing back then.
Speaker 2:Like you didn't, our parents had to work hard for food and then it wasn't even like, too, no, and it wasn't even like, uh, what do you want to eat? It's like, this is what we have to eat. It wasn't like it was. We weren't given a choice.
Speaker 2:Maybe sometimes, like my mom I remember when I was little she would, because in Guatemala they don't give you lunch at school, you have to bring your own food.
Speaker 2:So she would make me, you know, the normal sandwiches or whatever, but then one day a week, if I behaved all week, she would give me a special lunch, for example, and it wasn't like every week, it was like maybe once a month, and it was like, you know, she would give me like my chicken legs from Pollo Campero and like a grape soda, which is my favorite. And now I see, like my friend, I see her asking her kid all the time like, oh well, what do you want to eat? And I'm like why you ask her dude, like you're the mom, you know, because then the kid says something she's like I don't want to eat that. But then okay, let's go. It's like, but you have the power to say no, because you have the authority as a parent to say no, but they just don't. They don't know how to put boundaries on these kids. They don't know how to put boundaries on these kids.
Speaker 1:They don't know how to say no, yes, and I'm like when did that come? A thing like why are you so scared?
Speaker 1:I don't know I never will understand that. I don't get that again. I know that the parents are gonna shoot me in the face saying like well, you're not a mom, so shut the fuck up. Well, I'm taking several seats, but I'm letting you know like you're fucking it. Yeah, like plain and simple. Like you don't have to be a therapist or freaking I don't know a teacher to figure that one out. You have to put some discipline. Like you are the parent I mean, that's what your parents raised you to they would tell you like I'm your mom, you know, so shut the fuck up.
Speaker 2:Like the same way.
Speaker 1:There's ways of doing it and I feel like a lot, I don't know, I just see it a lot. I see it with my friends that have kids. I see it and one of my good friends, I'm like her daughter girl. Like you know, just because you see me with certain things, that doesn't mean I have money, because that's the impression that you know kids just see what they see.
Speaker 1:Right, they see black and white. And I thought I'm like yeah, I have a car, yeah, I have the phone and I can go out and I take you out to places and all that, but your mom doesn't do that. Now let's do the compare and contrast. Your mom can't because she has two other kids OK, so that's an expense in itself. She can't because she has to work while at the same time taking care of your, your, your siblings. So therefore she can't take you out to these places. And the money that she gets from her work, she uses it to pay your food and your siblings food. Therefore, she cannot buy a car like this.
Speaker 1:I don't have kids, I have a job and I don't have, you know, responsibilities. To where I have to, like, struggle like that, I do have to pay. Though I was like this is why I'm able to do certain things. I'm like I have the time because I'm not taking care of someone else. I have the money because I'm working and I don't have to pay for someone else's food. I just pay for my food, you know. So I explained the differences. So that cause I see my friends struggling to give this girl, who's a teenager, everything right, cause she wants her to live a better life than what she had, which is fair and it's understandable.
Speaker 1:But I told her you have to let your kids see you struggle for them to appreciate what you're doing for them, because if they don't see a little bit of struggle, they think it's okay. Well, if you got me this, if you got me this cell phone, then you can get me the laptop, and if you got me the laptop, then you can get me this and you can give me that. No, no, honey, you're just setting your bar higher and, as parents like you're always, never going to catch up to your own standards that you're setting up right, leave them.
Speaker 2:Leave them wanting a little right. The other day I went to t-mobile because I don't know like there's this great, this green dot on my phone and in my experience, when that happens, you know like your phone starts messing up and so like I try to go in and exchange it and they're like, oh, um, would you like to add a tablet for I don't know 25 a month or some shit like that. And I was like no, thank you. And they, they were trying to get me with oh, do you have kids? And I was like no, I don't. And even if I did, they don't need that shit. And like you know, you know how I am.
Speaker 2:And the guys at Timo were just like, oh, okay, and the girl that was doing my stuff, she just made a face and I'm like, well, it's true, we didn't grow up with none of that. You know like I understand that times are different right now and they might need it for school and stuff, but the reality of the situation is that they're not. They're using it for social media, and social media is fucking them up even more. Because, without going too far, girl, like let's talk about what's going on right now in the world, in the news, in like schools and stuff. There was a school shooting the other day, right, but there's been. How many weeks do we have of kids starting school and how many school shootings?
Speaker 1:do we have?
Speaker 2:already right and I saw this. Um, yeah, I saw this news. Um, it was like a video of the sheriff in florida and he was fucking pissed girl. He was like if you guys are not raising your children, I'm gonna do it, because I guess they've gotten like a lot of fake threats. And he was talking about how it's already cost the state like $21,000 or something like that to investigate the tips that are coming in. And he's saying these kids are making these threats thinking that it's fun and it's because parents are not parenting right. And he said if you're not gonna parent your kids, I'm gonna do it for you.
Speaker 2:And if your kid ends up being like, if they find them guilty of posting something online that is like remotely a threat, and that he somehow finds out that the parents knew about the attitude to the kid and stuff, that they were gonna do a perp walk of the kid and the parents. And I was like hell, yeah, because I think parents are so detached also from what their kids are seeing in social media and like, like, why is a? Why does a 10 year old have t have TikTok, instagram, facebook, dude, like for what? Yeah, especially with so many freaking pedos online, you know, like you know for a fact, that there's always been sickos in the internet and now they have more access to children and the parents are like, oh yeah, but it's because my kid likes to do videos. Okay, but are you checking what your kid's doing? Are you checking who they're talking to online? Are you checking what they're talking about? Are they romanticizing the school shootings? No, they don't know.
Speaker 1:Right, like the documentary that came out Quiet on the Set. Like when the parents spoke up about her daughter having contact with one of the guys, like through the Internet. Right, it was like AOL or something online. Right, yeah, she was like well, they're friends or whatever, and she never paid attention and then she was beating herself up because she's like I should have, I should have known more, I should have been there monitoring the conversations, like yeah Too late girl and it's not victim blaming either.
Speaker 2:It Like, yeah, no shit, and it's not victim blaming either. It's just being a little more strict, like your kid is not going to die for not having social media dude. But again we go back to the parents being scared of kids and like not letting them do things and maybe they're going to go behind their back or whatever. But then okay, if you're going to let them pay attention to what they're doing.
Speaker 1:Because, for example, like, like or if you can't do it, find someone that will get them therapy. Find someone to do the schools. Do assessments on them and figure it out. Get the proper help if you feel like there's something that's beyond your control, figure it out, right, oh?
Speaker 2:these kids. I know I don't know where we're heading with society as a whole, but it's looking dire girl, right, like. I don't know if that's how they felt about us growing up, but for us it's like they instilled in us this thing of um, not getting pregnant, right, for example, like don't get pregnant as a teen. But we had shows like 16 and pregnant or what teen mom, teen mom, right, like that, or teen mom and I don't know. For me, seeing those shows was like oh shit, yeah, I don't want to go through that it glamorized it.
Speaker 2:It glamorized it too for some people yeah, because some people were like, oh, but you know, like now there's shows about that, so maybe I can get a show on it. It's like, yeah, no, that's not how it works For me. It worked in the sense that I was like, yeah, fuck, no, I was very aware that I wasn't going to have, like oh, my mom and dad, because you know, I didn't grow up with a mom or a dad like my mom was there, but she wasn't really there there. So to me was like, okay, but also my grandma was always checking what the fuck I was watching on tv and I had a time to watch tv too and see and that's a different generation.
Speaker 1:You grew up basically how, basically how our parents grew up, because you were mostly raised by grandma, but that's, and I mean so you can see the difference in the parenting, but I feel like your mom has the same style, maybe a little more lenient yeah, yeah, my mom was, but also, okay, I think, my mom.
Speaker 2:When my mom lived in guatemala, she was very fucking strict with me and my brother and she had us by the balls and it was my grandma who would be like, okay, relax, it's not that big of a deal, you know, because my mom was, she would beat us up for everything.
Speaker 2:I remember one time I spent 10 bucks that Tio Checha had given me and she got to school and she saw that I had like a stain on my vest because I had to wear a uniform. And she's like where did you get money and what? Got to school, and she saw that I had like a stain on my vest because I had to wear a uniform. And she's like where did you get money and what did you spend it on? And I was like, oh my god, I invited my friends to like mango conchilla and she fucking dragged me a whole ass block dude and I remember that and if I tell her about it she's like I don't remember.
Speaker 2:But then when I came here because she hadn't had me for so long and I don't know, I don't know what, like I don't know but her parenting style changed because I think she was more like oh, I'm gonna let her do whatever she wants, because I don't want her to to go back to ottawa or whatever you know. Again we go back to being scared of the kids. But also it wasn't like she found me one time kissing a guy and I was already 18 and she pulled my hair in front of him and I was like I'm embarrassed. But I think those embarrassments are like what made you?
Speaker 2:but you're like keep pulling it well now I'm like, if you do that to me no, I'm just kidding, but but those embarrass it. Those embarrassments are like the the same thing that makes you like, oh shit, I can't be fucking up like this because I don't want to feel like that again right.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like I, I personally don't have. I I don't know, I don't have resentment on the way I was brought up, like not going to say that there wasn't any trauma. There was trauma, but I don't have any resentment on it. I feel like if it weren't for those experiences, I wouldn't have been on the path that I'm in. But I mean, like it helps because I never wanted to know what would happen. You know when they're like Vas a ver, you didn't find out.
Speaker 1:I didn't want to find out. I did not want to find out. I never had to find out, thankfully. So that's all I was like, because I never wanted to find out. I'm just that kind of person. I'm like I don't know.
Speaker 2:I don't want to find out, I don't want to get in trouble.
Speaker 1:Yeah, Right. So I just never. I never did anything to like get myself in a situation where I would have to find out.
Speaker 2:So Dude, you were super calm compared to me, like I I was raised super strict but like I was still out here doing my shit. But I talked to grandma now and I'm like, dude, like thank you. One time I told her like thank you for raising me the way you did, because if you wouldn't have, I would have like probably four kids now For real.
Speaker 1:No, yeah, I told my dad that too. My thank you for being the way you are, because if it weren't for that, yeah, who knows where we'd be end up, you know, with the fucking 20, the love of my life's on Facebook, but not shade at all. Not shade at all. Permit me. Not shade at all, not shade at all Permit me.
Speaker 1:Not shade at all, oh shit, I know. But yeah, but that's where I'm at. I've been. Yeah, I'm grateful to the way the parents raised me and also because, like you said, you weren't, you were strict, but like mine wasn't strict and I've told my dad I'm like thank you for always trusting that we would make the right choice, because it's not just me. Look at my brother too.
Speaker 1:We didn't have like a bedtime. I can literally tell you that my parents neither my mom or dad asked me let me see your homework, did you do it? They never did. Asked me let me see your homework, did you do it? They never did. And if they did, I can assure you there were a good like chunk of times that we would be doing it on the school bus or we would doing we would do it at the day of on the first class. Because we never did it.
Speaker 1:My brother and I, we were. That's why, like people um are my, like, you know our, our family friends. They would make fun of us like, oh, the schoolies or the you know the, the people who don't mess up the goody two-shoes. But we weren't. We knew we weren't. That's why we thought it was funny, cause we're like, we're not nerds and we're not like goody two-shoes, we're far from it.
Speaker 1:My brother and I, we would stay up till watching TV shows and cartoons and the most we got is hey, it's 10 o'clock, when are you guys going to go to bed? And then we would be like, oh, yeah, yeah, right now, five minutes. And they would be passed out before us. So they never knew and it's because we were like, you know, if they never, we wanted to keep it that way, because we knew that the minute we messed up they're going to be like like, hey, now I need to see your homework or now I have to sign this for school. So we just they always we weren't strict and I think because they weren't strict on us, we made the right choices. Because we were like, hey, let's not disappoint them and we don't want to find out.
Speaker 1:We don't want to find out what the disappointment is going to be. Like my friend that I was mentioning earlier, like her dad was very strict, like you can't go out and no boys or whatever. And what happened? At 15 she ran away. She ran away with a guy you know and god knows her experiences. But I can say that I didn't do. I sure didn't do that and I'm sure that must have been scary at that time, but that wasn't for me and I didn't do that. But again, my dad never was like, oh, no boys and don't go out. Yeah, because like the parent, again the parenting style, no, but also the parenting style.
Speaker 2:Because he trusted you, you know, but like he was your dad. Because he trusted you, you know, but like he was your dad and he would discipline you and in a way that made you understand, without having to hit you, without having to yell or call names but he was still being a parent. You know, you knew that he was the authority and you were not going to question his authority.
Speaker 2:So the parenting styles that we, that we grew up with, I grew up with like three different parenting style, because my brother wasn't my dad but he acted like my dad, but he wasn't really a dad so he was just doing whatever he thought was best you know, brother stuff uh-huh and, and my grandma was, my grandma was trying to raise me the same way that she raised my mom, and I think a lot of the things that my grandma did for me was because she knew how my mom was growing up and she didn't want me to turn the same.
Speaker 1:I like the pause because at the end, you're the same. At the end, you're the same.
Speaker 2:But I know that they had to be stricter with me because I was a fucking menace dude. I still am, you know, but now I'm my own person, I'm an adult and I also know that a lot of choices that I've made throughout my life maybe I would have gone a different way had they given me freedom from the beginning. Right, Like you, for example, because I think having freedom but having freedom the way you did is not the same thing as letting your kids do whatever the fuck they want right.
Speaker 1:It was like it wasn't like we had a choice to do whatever we wanted. It's like we had the freedom to be like you can either mess up and find out or do good and just be rewarded for it. So, and that's why I never had issues like going out and staying out late, because they trusted that I was not going to do anything stupid, right? So that's why I was able to do that. Obviously, you saw, like when I'm, when I was like 16, 17, I started dressing more, you know, I guess provocative I was. Like I 17, I started dressing more, you know, I guess provocative I was like I don't know the words, but before that I wasn't.
Speaker 1:I was very tomboyish, very just in sweats and oversized clothes and it wasn't an insecurity for my weight, it was more of an insecurity of the male attention.
Speaker 2:That's why.
Speaker 1:I never was like one of those like when I was young, like yeah, I would have crushes, but it wasn't like I was seeking to get validation that I was pretty or anything from the you know the opposite sex, because I'm like that wasn't my thing. I would see my friends and they're beautiful girls and I would just see how the older men, like our uncles and you know family friends, and the older men and regular stranger men that were just you know, it was very I was like I don't want that attention from me, I'm okay with being this, yes, and I'm like, and I'm okay with being the like, the frumpy, like not.
Speaker 1:So you know, out there girl it wasn't until later, like I was getting older, and I was like okay, yeah, you know what fuck this. Like you know, I know what I am and I can defend myself and yeah, I was.
Speaker 2:I always liked attention. I would, I would, I would put a shirt in my backpack when I would go to like school parties and I would come out of the house dressed one way and then at the school party you would see me titties out, you know, but I was in it and I wouldn't do it or maybe I don't know like if I was seeking male validation, you know, because of not having a dad or whatnot. But but I always like dressing a certain way you got mad at me.
Speaker 1:You got mad that one time I was wearing shorts and to me they were just regular shorts and you know, oh, how come she gets to wear short shorts? And grandma was like telling you, well, because she that's what they wear over there, like that's just regular clothes for them. Like to her she's not seeing it like how you're gonna see it, like that's for you a call of attention, for for her it's just regular shorts and it's true for me. I wasn't doing it to like. For me they were just shorts, yeah for me.
Speaker 2:For me, I like. I like the attention when I was younger no not so much. I've noticed a lot like I still post pictures where, like my, my boobs are out, but you know how before like I would literally find poses to like show everything Right, like that you could see my coach, yeah.
Speaker 2:But now I notice that I take pictures and I'm like, however it looks, it looks. It's not like I'm the same person, that I was trying to get that attention, Because, girl, I see pictures on Facebook where it's literally like the angle is so freaking awkward that all you can see is my forehead and my boobs and a little bit of my legs, and it's like why was I taking pictures like this? That's embarrassing.
Speaker 2:The angles, the angles, I know, like this that's embarrassing, but the angles, the angles I know. But anyway, off topic, girl, off topic. We went from these kids to to how we were raised. But I mean it's just to give context on like why we think the way we think, you know, and like what we're seeing with the new generations. Like I work with a lot of younger kids that are coming into the workforce and girl you see them with. Like I wear my headphones all the time at work because it's it's you know, it's allowed, it's encouraged, actually. So you pay attention but they tell you put one on and take the other one off.
Speaker 1:These kids are walking around the office with their AirPods.
Speaker 2:They're always on their phone looking down Like they don't say hi to nobody. They don't say good morning, like you can see the ages at work because, like all of us that are older, we come in and we're like good morning, good morning, good morning. And these kids just walk in straight to their desks and they don't say hi to nobody. They don't even hold the doors open Like they just they're in their own Damn right.
Speaker 1:rude and disrespectful.
Speaker 2:Yeah, they have no manners. I think that's the main issue. Like the manners are just non-existent now.
Speaker 1:Damn shame. How do we fix?
Speaker 2:it? How do we?
Speaker 1:fix. It Starts with the parents, starts with the parents. I mean going back to what we were saying like oh kids, these 10 year olds, they don't need social media. You know what I admire that or maybe I haven't noticed it like that but that people who are famous, they don't allow their kids to have social media like that, obviously for safety reasons, right, but that's how you don't hear anything about them. Reasons right, but that's how you don't hear anything about them even though they're older. You don't hear about them like oh, this person's getting trashed.
Speaker 2:And yeah, no, uh, the only person you know. I don't follow the kardashians or anything like that. I think that's the trashiest thing you can do, but whatever. But there was a time on tiktok where her daughter, kim, kim kardashian's daughter, what's her name? North, right, yeah, she, she has a tiktok right. And for some godforsaken reason, the kid, who is, however, fucking years old, was doing a live, and people on the internet, they kept asking her like north baby, like north honey, what's your mom's credit card number? Like, just give it to her. Like people are so unserious too, but like them, all their kids are, like, hungry for attention. You don't hear nothing about Beyonce's daughter.
Speaker 1:Right, but then again it's.
Speaker 2:Miss Bay, you know.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm, no, that's what I'm saying. Like all these actors, actresses, singers, whatever they have their kids but you don't hear about their kids, or their kids are not grabbing that attention because their parents have protected them for you know, for other obvious reasons, that they don't want anything to happen to them. But on top of that, like then you don't hear about them going off to college, getting messed up or whatever. Like that's what I'm saying. Like then you don't hear about them going off to college, getting messed up or whatever. Like that's what I'm saying. Like you don't hear dirt on them because they've learned how to conduct themselves, because they haven't been exposed to social media or like what people are saying about them.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so I feel like we should care, like as advice to the parents, like we should do that, like just learn it's again not because you're trying to deprive your child from entertainment, but to keep them safe, just in general. Yeah, you're not famous or whatever, and people are not going to kidnap your kid for for ransom money, but they can do other harmful things online. So, dude, for my friend's daughter she has my friend's daughter For ransom money, but they can do other harmful things online.
Speaker 2:So, dude, for my friend's daughter she has my friend's daughter. She has TikTok. She doesn't have Instagram, she only has TikTok and she has a YouTube channel. But I'm always looking at her analytics. I'm like, let me see your phone, I want to see, like, I want to see who is watching your content, because you can see the ages. And if I see that there is like, because it tells you like the range, the age range, and it tells you like if it's male or female, and if I see like it's, it's male and it's a certain age, I'm like why, why, what are you posting that you're getting this type of viewership, you know. And I'm like, don't post your face or like, try not to be posting anything because también, like, I don't want to make her feel a certain way about her body.
Speaker 2:Yeah, uh-huh, but you, you do have to be conscious of what's happening around the world, like, and especially with kids. I't there's there's so many fucking psychos with kids.
Speaker 1:It's, it's, it's baffling honestly I'm glad you brought that up, okay. So same thing with my goddaughter. I took her out shopping and of course I took her to victoria's secret, right, I know, I know, but again, this is, this is testing the waters and to give the kid freedom, right, because that's what she wanted. I'm not gonna tell her why do you want to go there. You know, I don't want her to think it's a bad thing because it's not right, but let's see what she does. So I'm seeing her looking around and, mind you, a teenager wearing all black, because that's their thing. You know, wearing black it's a thing. And we're in there and she's again, her body is looking like she's 19, but she's 13. And she's looking at the corsets and stuff and she's like, oh, my God, look, this would be so cute. And I'm like, yeah, yeah, that would be cute. I'm not gonna tell her why are you wearing that or why would you want to wear that.
Speaker 1:I'm not gonna make her think it's a bad thing again and and at the right age, it's gonna be the right thing, right? So I was like, oh, okay, yeah, you should. Um, like do you want to try it on? And she was like, no, do you think so? And I was like, well, it's okay, yeah, like do you want to try it on? And she was like, no, do you think so? And I was like, well, it's up to you if you feel comfortable wearing that. And then she was like um, and she's like thinking about it. So I let her be. I'm like, oh okay, I'm going to go look over here. I gave her her space. I still see her looking at the lingerie and stuff. 13. I still see her looking at the lingerie and stuff 13, okay.
Speaker 1:And I guess a lady approached her and I watched. And a lady approached her and asked her for help and she like she's a shy girl, she smiles, she has braces, and the girl was like, oh my gosh, I'm so sorry, I thought you worked here. She's like no. And then she comes to me. She's like oh, oh my gosh. The lady thought I worked here and I was like, oh, that's funny. I saw that.
Speaker 1:And then later on I was like so do you want to try that corset on or are you just gonna? Do you not want it? And she was like um, I don't think I'm going to feel comfortable. And then I'm like well, why not? Why do you think you're not going to feel comfortable? And she was like because she was like I don't know. And I was like can I be honest with you? And she was like, yeah, and I was like you would look so good in that Trust and believe you would, believe you would, but you're 13. The lady right there thought that you worked here and you look so confused because you're like I'm just 13, so you wearing that, imagine what men outside or other people outside are going to think how old you are. I was like it will look good on you, but maybe this is not the right time and maybe that's not the attention that you want and she was like, yeah, you're right, but see everything without making it seem bad.
Speaker 1:So I believe that there's ways to parent basically advise kids. You can be their friend without being like their enemy, like that. You just have to give them a little bit of you know the good and the bad yeah, because that that's just how they learn with.
Speaker 2:With my friend's daughter, my thing right now is that she feels bullied, and you know that. Do you know that? I've never let myself, and so so I told her. I was like, because I told her to wear space buns to school, and she's like Maria, you haven't been to school in forever, you don't know how it is, huh, and I was like what's wrong with space buns?
Speaker 1:And she's like you don't know how much they were bullying me. I wear them all the time, I know.
Speaker 2:I was like what's wrong with space? Like I was literally confused. And she's like no, it's because kids are bullies. And I was like and you know how to deal with bullies? And she's like no, like no, because I rather not. You know, she's non-confrontational, she's shy, she's still a little kid, you know. And I was like well, when a bully tells you something, I was like you tell them, like what was that? And if they keep saying it, you keep asking them what do you mean? Until it doesn't even sound funny to them anymore. It just makes them feel stupid. And she was like but they're saying it behind my back. And I was like okay, well, one day that you're close to them and you hear them laughing at you or something, you go up to them and you're like I heard you were saying such and such thing, like why? And she was just like no excuse, like I'm scared. And then her mom was like don't be telling my daughter to fight. And I was like I'm not telling her to fight, I'm telling her to defend herself.
Speaker 2:It's different right, and you said it with words not even like violent I didn't say go beat them up, I mean because I know she can't.
Speaker 1:No right, you said it with words, like ask them why.
Speaker 2:Mm-hmm. And then a situation happened she was wearing we went to a Dodgers game and she's obviously not watermelon, but she wore the watermelon jersey that we got and her you could say her uncle he told her, like, why are you wearing that? You're not even Guatemalan. But he had gotten a hat that was. He thought it was a zarape. You know what a zarape is? Like the Mexican, it's like a sweater, but like with the typical colors of Mexico or whatever, and it was the pride flag, dude. And so when he told her, he was like, why are you wearing that? You're not even Guatemalan? And I was like so You're not gay and you're wearing that hat. And then everybody was like, oh, like Maria. And then he was just like, oh, like Maria. And then he was just like, okay, like yeah, like he.
Speaker 2:I can't even remember what he said, but it was just like that type of exchange that for me it was just like a quick comeback, you know. And so I told her like see, baby, that's how you deal with bullies. You make them feel stupid with their own words. And she was like oh, my God, I can't believe you said that. You said that to him and I was like well, there you go, you were trying to make you feel bad and then what happened? And then she's like okay, but it was like a real time. You know example of what I was telling her the other day. So I just hope that you know. Sometimes also like maybe the parents can't be influenced. So if you have a friend that has kids and their kids trust you to talk to you, try to help them. You know, I guess that's my take on that. But in conclusion, what's our conclusion, babe?
Speaker 1:In conclusion, parents, just don't spoil your kids, don't give them everything. No, that's not our conclusion, girl. You have me stuttering over here.
Speaker 2:Our conclusion is don't give them everything You're always trying not to get us canceled, and I'm always saying stupid shit.
Speaker 1:I'm trying to be the PC over here.
Speaker 2:No, I know I'm just kidding, but yeah, carry on. I'm sorry for interrupting you.
Speaker 1:Don't give them everything all at once. Give them what you want to give them, but with proper time management, like, don't give it to them all at once. Make them work for it. You're working to give them that, so make them work for it a little bit. And you're not like like we've talked about in relationships, you're just asking give them that, so make them work for it a little bit. And you're not like like we've talked about in relationships, you're just asking for the bare minimum, so make them work for it. I mean, that's that's my conclusion and teach them. Teach them to be good people like, have some kind of manners and I'm not saying they have to like everybody, but give respect when it's deserved, be courteous to others, mm-hmm. Treat others how you want to be treated. What happened to that? Oh, it's gone.
Speaker 2:It's long gone, mm-hmm. And yeah, another thing I will say is teaching your kids manners is also not forcing them like, especially the little ones, the little baby ones. Don't force your kids to oh, go, hug your deal. Go go, kiss whoever go. You know you can say hi from afar. You don't have to be kissing and hugging everybody because you don't know the intention of the people around your kids. But do teach them to say hi and bye. You know like bodily autonomy is important, yes, but also manners are important. So teach them to have boundaries.
Speaker 1:I'm glad you mentioned that, because that's what I wanted to talk about, that too, but that you basically said it all like yeah, don't force your kids to say hi to everybody. And just like, have the proper respect of just. If you're going into someone else's home, just a general hi and look at everybody while you're saying that and that's it.
Speaker 2:You don't have to go to every single person, say hi, just yeah, like you don't have to hug and kiss, like don't force them to hug and kiss everybody, because you know, from personal experience I can tell you that older men, you can't trust anyone in your family or like um people who go to your house like you you don't know what the fuck they're into. So just don't force the kids. You know, like for me, like when I was little, it was like, oh, go hug so and so, go kiss so and so, and you know, then shit happened. So, like I said just, teach them that I did.
Speaker 1:I would tell my dad I'm like hey, if I don't say hi to certain people, I know why. And he never questioned me, which I liked, and he never forced me. But you know the adults as per oh, your daughter didn't say hi to me, oh you're. And I would tell them like I did.
Speaker 1:I said hi like this and then they're like, oh well, you hugged everybody else. So I was like, yeah, I didn't want to touch you, A wave is enough, Right. And then they get all like, ooh, and I would tell my friends too. I'm like, don't hug that guy like that.
Speaker 2:I'm like you don't know his intention.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's just, it's just sad dude.
Speaker 2:But I saw, I saw, this case of a little girl right now in mexico that basically her mom took her to school and and I'm only saying this because again it goes back to like teacher kids bodily autonomy and that not everybody can go near your privates, right but this mom took her daughter to her school.
Speaker 2:She was like in kindergarten, and one time she was bathing her, her daughter, after school and she saw that she had like like bruises around her areas, right, and she started questioning the baby and the baby didn't want to say nothing and, as it turns out, she was being abused at school by a female teacher and a male teacher girl. And so I'm like I know, like fuck, like poor baby. She was like four years old man. But it's the importance of like and again telling your kids like if something like that happens, like, fucking, tell me right away, of like and again telling your kids like if something like that happens, like, fucking, tell me right away, and having that openness with them and explaining them to and explaining to them why, in a matter that they will understand at their age you know, like um, remember we were talking about when your mom showered me.
Speaker 2:Um, when I was little I was used to already kind of showering by myself, but there was sometimes where my mom or my grandma would give me a shower and like I didn't think it was anything weird that obviously they were bathing me the way that parents do when you're a baby, right? But your mom told me like oh, wash yourself here. And I was like, okay, she didn't make you feel like it was something like taboo, you know, like it was just like an explanation of like, oh, you have to, you have to clean yourself like everywhere. So like that, you know, in that way it's it's important to just talk to kids in a way that they will understand when she would give me a bath.
Speaker 1:I remember don't let anyone touch you here. I'm touching you right here because I'm giving you a bath and don't let anyone touch you here. I'm touching you right here because I'm giving you a bath and don't let anyone touch you here because. But she would just tell me like, don't let them, don't let them. So when the time happened that someone did right, I was like, oh shit, I didn't let them, they just did. And but somehow it's going to be like I let them and it's going to be my fault so that's a lot of things that happen with kids getting molested, right?
Speaker 1:they're afraid to speak up because of the way that we're told, like don't let anyone.
Speaker 2:It's better to just say like you know, this is something that you have to do on your own, as opposed to saying like okay don't, or it's going to be like your fault, kind of thing yeah, yeah, yeah, that's like that's that's what I was trying to say Like explain to them in a way that they kind of understand that it's bad but they're not going to be in trouble if it happens. Like for them to have the confidence that you will help them if it happens, not that they're going to be scared to come to you and tell you.
Speaker 1:Right, yeah, so that's basically what we're trying to conclude with everything. Figure out how to talk to your children.
Speaker 2:Dude, and there's parenting books. Like I know that no one can teach you to be a parent. You're never going to be ready to be a parent. I've heard it all Like. I've heard, like Maria, you don't understand because you're not a mom. But there are books on psychology, on how to like, how to parent, you know like, and there's different ways of parenting. Find one that works for you. And if you're gonna have kids, if you're gonna make that choice to bring another person into this world, at least be responsible enough to educate yourself on how to try to be a good parent. Not because, oh, I'm just going to have kids and I'm going to fucking take pictures of them and post them on Instagram because it's cute, you know like. No, try to educate yourself too. Because they didn't choose to come into this world. Y'all are responsible bringing kids into this world without being ready. Mm, hmm, side eye Well.
Speaker 1:I know, yeah, into this world. Y'all are responsible bringing kids into this world without being ready side eye.
Speaker 2:well, I know, yeah literally, I was doing it to the microphone and I was like wait, the microphone didn't do shit to me anyways. Thank you for being patient with us and this episode is three hours because we missed three episodes.
Speaker 1:No, I'm just kidding there's a part that I know just kidding. We're done with this, but if you guys liked it and if you guys have your two cents to say because I know we have baby mamas out there and maybe some daddies out there Feel free to chime in on the page and tell us your two cents. Dm us. We'll love to hear your input. What really grinds your gears?
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah. Tell us Like OK, if you don't agree with what we're saying or you think that we're being too harsh on y'all parents, tell us why you think we're wrong, or like why is it that you think things are the way they are now right? It's a conversation.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:So email us, DM us, tell us, text us, call us.
Speaker 1:We're open to listening.
Speaker 2:We actually see them, we actually we do know how to read, despite popular contrary to popular belief that we are illiterate all right, babe well uh for our next episode it's already, it's to be the end of the month, so we're going to start with.
Speaker 1:Things to do in the fall. Oh hey, things to do right now for spooky season, since we're, by the time the next episode airs, it's going to be October. So we're going to give you guys, like, what's out there for you guys to do, obviously pumpkin patches. But you know, we'll give you guys other things that maybe you didn't know, or maybe you do know, and let us know what you think and if you have any recommendations, send it to us.
Speaker 1:We'll post it on our stories so we can help people go out right and have fun or spend time with the damn kids. No, I'm just kidding.
Speaker 2:I was gonna say it again. Fuck, no, I'm just kidding. I was going to say it again.
Speaker 1:I'm just kidding, I'm just kidding All right, babe, you're going to get us canceled, all right.
Speaker 2:I know.
Speaker 1:Not that we were already not canceled because we haven't been posting Girl we canceled ourselves. Right, this is for fun anyways.
Speaker 2:All right, y'allall have a good day or night. Bye.
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