Spiritual Awakening: The Ground of Love

3 Qualities of Spiritual Mastery. (2/2, EP4)

• OLIVIA FRAZAO

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What is spiritual mastery? What are the top qualities of spiritual mastery and what is the most important quality that takes us through the spiritual journey? This episode brings clarity through our cultural noise, to spiritual truths and what matters: the maturity of the dedicated spiritual practitioner. 

(This episode can be heard as a standalone without Part 1. Listen to Part 1 (EP3) to hear the 3 pitfalls on the spiritual path, and their healing).

This episode - and entire podcast series - is for people dedicated to spiritual awakening, spiritual practice, psychology and healing work. We are here to jump off the deep end together and explore what it means to live a life of devotion, multidimensional awareness, and truly embodied spirituality. We give ourselves, to be taken ever-deeper into true nature, connection with the Divine, and the truth of Love. 

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1:28 - Qualities of Spiritual Mastery

3:17 - Grownups apologize and forgive

4:18 - Grownups sacrifice

5:59 - Grownups ask for help and persevere

9:17 - Facing Pain

10:47 - the Root of Spiritual Mastery

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Meditation, consciousness, esoteric wisdom, nonduality, spiritual awakening, spiritual practice, mindfulness, psychology, ego-death, meditation, new age, bhakti, buddhism, christianity, hinduism, indigenous wisdom, energy healing work, ancient wisdom, sangha

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What does it mean to be a spiritual person? What is a quality? Or let's say, what are the top three qualities of a spiritual person? If you see someone, if you interact with someone, how do you know to say, wow, that's a spiritual person. Welcome to the Ground of Love. I'm your host, Olivia Frazao This is a podcast for people who are deeply dedicated to the spiritual journey. You are here for self-growth care, for others, and being of service to the world. This podcast is in service to you to help you remember who you are and why you are here, you will receive inspiration, clarity, and no BS Love. We are walking each other home. Let's begin. in this episode we are doing spiritual mastery part two. I wanna remind you really quickly what our map is that we're looking at. We have three pillars. the three traps we fall into. As well as what happens when that stuff is healed. Who is revealed? What is the spiritual life that is there? What are the qualities of someone who is in what I'm calling spiritual mastery? And we look at how all those three qualities. Come together under an umbrella topic that's gonna tie the bow that says, this one word is what defines spiritual mastery. So that's where we will end up. Okay. So let's begin. Qualities of spiritual mastery. Let's review, and let's now take all three positive qualities and look at them together and see what they're all revealing. Now remember, this is about the qualities of someone who is willing to be in their authority. Who has taken responsibility even while they are not yet enlightened and no longer totally ignorant of personal growth and desire for healing and awakening and all that, right? We're in the in-between land, which is many lifetimes long. So what is being in our spiritual mastery as we are on the spiritual path? Number one, taking accountability and ownership. Being a grownup. There are not that many grownups out there independent of people's age, right? Being a grownup, what can this look like? What does it mean to be in our self-sufficiency, our groundedness, in our knowing of our deserving of ourselves? What's possible relationally from that place? Well, let's look at where we started, and you might need to look at part one, for this. If you don't remember the way that I defined victimization, there are a lot of different ways we can define this. The way that I defined it was dependence. You're being dependent on the outer world in order for you to feel okay, so the opposite of victimization is feeling our own inner authority, feeling our own inner mastery, feeling our own inner connection with the divine. And again, a non-religious, quote unquote, not spiritual person who doesn't believe in whatever the word divine is. can still be in my book, a really spiritual person just using different language and a different cosmology still doing all of these things. What are we capable of relationally? Apologizing, saying, yes, I did make a mistake. I apologized. I did it. I did the thing. I'm sorry, I effed up. What is another way to be responsible, to be empowered, to take ownership of our own power, to not be victimized, to not allow ourselves to be in that victim identity. We're capable of forgiving other people. We're capable of being like, I see where this came from. It's not cool. I'm still holding a boundary in the places that are needed. I know what I deserve and it's not this. And I see with compassion and I understand. We can see other people as humans who are suffering just like us. So we are capable of making amends both ways, owning our apology and seeing others for where they're at. Through the eyes of compassionate understanding, which some people might call forgiveness. What's another thing that's possible? When we were a grownup, how do you know you're a grownup? This is my definition. You know how to sacrifice your personal desire for the wellbeing of the whole group in a way that is of greatest respect and care to yourself and everyone involved.'cause remember, the whole group includes you too. So it's not about throwing yourself under the bus, but it is about letting go of self-focus and of what we call selfishness. It's doing things that you don't wanna do. When you know that it's the right thing to do, that's what being a grownup is. So you can't be in your spiritual mastery if you're not a grownup and how many people are on a spiritual path, but they're still acting like children. Selfish, self-focused. Me, me, me. And then I'm also the victim. I'm not taking responsibility, right? We're not doing any of that. This is all about the healing of the first pillar. victimization. What is another aspect of empowerment? So we're not victims anymore. We are what? We are creators. What does that mean? It means that we are looking at what's possible rather than looking at what happened. We're looking into the future rather than looking into the past. Now, this does not mean that we're denying that we are, not facing our trauma or throwing away our need for healing or acting like everything's okay when it's not. I don't mean we're just surprise, magically disappearing with the stuff we don't like or that's been hurting. That's not what I'm saying. It is actually, kind of the opposite. It's the capacity to get up and to persevere. It's the capacity to fight. And I don't mean some dirty kind of fighting or fighting as violence. No, I mean fighting in the sense of bravery. I mean fighting in the sense of. Getting out there and doing what needs to be done, not against other people, but behavior that is for the highest and best of all beings. That is the quote, unquote, the good fight. Fighting. The good fight, getting up. We've fallen down, we get up, we've fallen down, we get up, we reach out for help. Hey, can anybody help me get up? I really need help. Why? Because I'm owning my vulnerability. I'm not ashamed of it. I know that I need to reach out right now, so I am because I know that I deserve help and I know that there is nothing wrong with me for needing it. I know that there is nothing wrong with me for being down in the dumps the way that I currently am because this is simply what it's like to be a human being, including this is what it looks like to be a spiritual human. Even more so because of the fact that I'm asking for help, because I am actually acting out of compassion and generosity for myself. That is a spiritual act. Asking for help is a spiritual act. What else is a spiritual act? Getting yourself up if there's no one to help, why? Because you're persevering, because you're choosing life. You're choosing to show up. You're choosing to show up for yourself. You're choosing self loyalty and you're choosing to show up for other people because when you get up, are able to show up for other people you're able to go out there and give what you've got. You're able to be the emanation that you are. You're able to be the family member, the friend, the community member that this world needs, that your loved ones need and that strangers need. So this is why we get up. We get up because we deserve. A fighting chance at life and at wellbeing, and at fulfillment and at connection. And because it is our responsibility, it is our sacred duty. It is our responsibility to care, to be of service, to give, to show up, to support others. Not in like a heavy way, in a beautiful way that is the meaning of our lives. So this is what all of that means. This first piece, taking ownership and accountability, being in our power. That's the opposite of vulnerability. Being in our power, real power. Not all of this BS power over stuff. We have another category for that. That's not what I'm talking about here. I'm talking about real power. Embodiment takes a lot of courage and as we know, it takes owning what we are responsible for. That's the opposite of victimization. What are we responsible for? What do we not wanna be responsible for? Let's become responsible for it. If it's ours, let's become responsible for it. Then we'll be on our power. Awesome. Quality. Number two, remember this one? Compassion and generous. We talked about that a lot. We can keep going. Awesome quality number three, accepting our vulnerability with love, not shame or repression. What do number two and number three require? Facing pain and step one to facing pain. Accepting our messiness and our vulnerability. What is that? That's a compassionate act. That's a generous act right there. Hey, I'm messy. Hey, I'm vulnerable. So are you. Let's be, let's, all of a sudden we're in our humility. We're like, oh my God, we, wow. Yeah. Life is really hard. Wow. Now I can actually just be really authentic and really here and grounded and there's no magical fix. It's just sitting in togetherness, acknowledging that we're alive together and we're doing our best and we're supporting ourselves in each other as best we can. What is that humility? There can be, you know, some big, esoteric version of it, right? You're humble in the, in the face of God. That would be the, let's say the quote unquote spiritual version, but I'm calling all of it spiritual. Even if you're an atheist, I don't care. Humility is spiritual, period. Compassion and generosity are spiritual, period. That's what spirituality is. Why? Because they're of spirit. What is spirit? True nature. What is that? It's that inner light in us. What is that inner light? It's love, love. So what does all this have in common? Now we're gonna find our one big special word of what is it to be in our spiritual mastery. We've said goodbye to victimization, to being quote unquote the perpetrator, right in that arrogant stance. And we've said goodbye to pretending that we're perfect, that we're neither of the two that were. Instead, were this perfect spiritual being and we're just kind of faking it. We're saying goodbye to all three of those things, and instead we have landed in being responsible and accountable, being compassionate and generous, and being accepting of our vulnerability. We're taking ownership. We're doing the hard thing, not the easy thing. You know what the easy thing is? Complaining about other people all the time. Complaining about life all the time and doing nothing about it. That's the easy part of victimization. You know what the other easy thing is, is acting like you're a know-it-all and like you are the boss of the whole universe. That's the easy part of being arrogant. Right, and you get to completely deny all aspects of your vulnerability. What's the easy part of being kind of like in the spiritual ego and performative about your spirituality is that you get to enjoy all the fun stuff about the spiritual path. Like going to all these beautiful events and hugging people and eye gazing and going to your beautiful yoga class and to that cool festival, and you don't have to deal with the pain of the spiritual path, which is healing is hard. Releasing the ego is really hard. Living life in real presence and showing up for what life calls us to is really hard. So what is this final word? Integrity. Integrity. Integrity is doing the hard thing because it's the right thing. Integrity is taking ownership. Integrity is being in the truth. Integrity is showing up. Integrity is owning our own mistakes. Integrity is acknowledging that we have light and dark within us and doing something to heal it and doing something to minimize the negative impact on others that it has caused. And on ourselves. That's integrity. Integrity is being a responsible, honest person. That to me, E is a spiritual person, is someone who is in spiritual mastery. Why? Why am I choosing this word? Integrity. Let's take a look. Wouldn't I say the word loving? Isn't that a word that I could say I even if I asked myself, this is weird, but let's say I'm like, Hey, Olivia. Yes, Olivia. What word do you think is the number one word of a spiritual person? Oh, love. Right? Totally. Same. That is what my own inner dialogue would say. Why did I pick integrity? First of all, love is a very complicated word because real love, unconditional love is made of so many things, including to be honest, integrity. So I would say integrity is an aspect of love, is an aspect of unconditional love. It's like one of the versions of love. Why am I choosing one of the versions rather than love in general? Because imagine you have love, but you don't have that aspect. Okay, so let's look at, let's imagine you have another aspect of love. Let's say you are someone who really knows how to feel warm and fuzzy. I love that kind of love. Who doesn't, right? Actually, probably some people don't. Why? Because there's some kind of a wounding or threat or feeling of lack of safety or whatever. Let's just say that you love warm and fuzzy type of love, okay? Imagine that it's in a very safe environment from someone that you trust, et cetera. So there's very, there's, there's really nice warm and fuzzy love happening, right? So let's say this person is really capable of that, that's so great. Not everybody is, is that a really spiritual person based on the definition that I'm espousing here? Well, I would say, I'm so happy that in this moment you're snuggling with your friend or your dog or your partner or whatever. Wow. What an amazing transmission you have. Wow. Oh my God. You have this beautiful transmission of intimacy and love and connection and interconnectedness, right? All of the buzzwords of like, wow. Yeah. However. If this person two seconds later cannot take accountability, cannot take responsibility, cannot tell the truth, cannot own something, but instead they're denying it. They're deflecting, they're projecting, they go into all these parts without taking accountability. Now we have a huge problem. I don't care how multidimensional someone is, it has zero correlation with being a spiritual person. Let's just do that one really quick, even though that could be for another episode. Let's say you're, you know, flying around the universe. You have these spiritual powers. You have all this telepathy and on your, you know, your, this star being, I literally don't care at all because those are not qualities to me that relate to being a spiritual person. If. That person, this archetypal person that we're talking about right now, who has all these multidimensional qualities. If that person does not have compassion and generosity, then so what about all the other stuff you could do? You could even do negative things with it. Why is that? Spiritual, their capacities? But let's get back to what spirituality actually is. Spirituality is being, quote unquote, a good person. What's being a good person? It's being a loving person. What does it mean to be a loving person? It means to be someone with integrity. Someone with integrity. Why? Because one day we are gonna be so beautifully enlightened. We're gonna be so stabilized and unconditional love that we're not even gonna need integrity because there's no deviation from it anyway. There's no violation of union and. Loving everythingness all the time, right? But for now, when we are sometimes in our parts and sometimes in our beautiful emanation, we need something that wakes up to that. That's like, oops, I'm out of my center. Let me, let me take responsibility for that. Let me clean it up. Let me do what I need to do to get up out of whatever spiral this ended up being. Let me have the courage to face the pain that this is really about. And in that way, I can come back to the warm and fuzzy love. What were all of those steps? Integrity. That's what I'm calling integrity. thank you for being with me in The Ground of Love. You can follow this podcast to receive the next episodes, and who is it that comes to mind to share this episode with? Who Could Benefit? Is it a family member? Is it a friend, a client, a colleague who would be inspired, reminded of what matters to them by being in our energy that we've shared here today. 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