Spiritual Awakening: The Ground of Love

Holistic Health Checklist: Emotions, Relationships, Energy Body, Spirituality. (2/2, EP6)

• OLIVIA FRAZAO

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Holistic health and wellness, healing fundamentals, and daily life hacks, in a quick summary + plug-and-play checklist. Emotional release tips, relational audit, info for empaths, energetic boundaries, meditation tips, and questions for you to reflect on what's working and what you could change in your routine, relationships, spiritual practice, and more, to optimize your health, healing, and well-being.

This is Part 2 of the "Holistic Health Checklist". Today we cover emotions (part 2), relationships, energetic body / energy field, and spiritual practice and spiritual "big life questions". (See Part 1 for physical, mental, and emotional categories).

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This podcast series is for people dedicated to spiritual awakening, spiritual practice, psychology and healing work. This episode, and the last one, cover the fundamentals: reminders that we could all use, AND, they're great for people new to this kind of work. Who could you share this with for a pick-me-up? Please send them a link!

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TIP: Let this be an active, participatory experience. Let yourself ponder the questions I ask you in the moment (rather than just saving them for later) - just play, let the first intuitive thing come - we'll move fast. You can pause or take notes to give yourself time to go deeper if you wish.

00:46 - Intro 

1:51 - Sadness (Continuing the Emotions category from last episode) 

2:37 - Fear

3:51 - Anger

4:40 - Pick-me-ups

5:20 - INTRO RELATIONSHIPS

5:24 - Your inner circle

6:49 - Relational energetic boundaries

7:54 - Receiving support

8:36 - Victim/Perpetrator 

9:27 - Deserving

9:49 - INTRO ENERGY BODY / ENERGY FIELD

10:22 - Energetic alignment

10:47 - Energetic grounding

11:49 - Heart center

12:44 - Energetic boundaries

14:45 - INTRO SPIRITUAL LIFE

15:01 - Meditation / Prayer

16:02 - Surrounding yourself with spirituality

17:38 - Spiritual Meaning: The Big Life Qs

20:00 - To conclude

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Life hacks, routine, energetic boundaries, energy body, energy field, empath, optimizing, checklist, meditation practice, health and wellness, well-being.

Meditation, consciousness, esoteric wisdom, nonduality, spiritual awakening, spiritual practice, mindfulness, psychology, ego-death, meditation, new age, bhakti, buddhism, christianity, hinduism, indigenous wisdom, energy healing work, ancient wisdom, sangha.

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Where are you being, quote unquote, an empath Which really means someone who doesn't have energetic boundaries. You can be psychically, perceptive and sensitive to energy and still have really great energetic boundaries. Welcome to the Ground of Love. I'm your host, Olivia Frazao. This is a podcast for people who are deeply dedicated to the spiritual journey. You are here for self-growth care, for others, and being of service to the world. This podcast is in service to you to help you remember who you are and why you are here, you will receive inspiration, clarity, and no BS Love. We are walking each other home. Let's begin. So this is a continuation that we started in part one in the last episode of things that we can do to increase our holistic health and wellbeing, happiness, all the good stuff, very tangibly. It's what I like to call a holistic health checkup. It's a checklist where we are going through categories of things that we can do or bring into our life or focus on more that will give us greater health and wellbeing and a greater sense of empowerment, joy, resilience, strength, on every level of self, physical, mental, emotional, relational energetic and spiritual. If you want theory about how healing happens, please go back to part one, which begins with the theory of what healing is and how it works in the first place. So let's continue. Here we go. Emotions. The main three difficult emotions- we can do a quick drive by here- are sadness, fear, and anger. So what are you doing when you're sad? How can you increase the feeling that you have of feeling held? Is there someone that you can reach to, whether a friend a therapist or maybe someone non physically, your grandma who crossed over, an angel that you have a connection with. Where you can imagine that they're hugging you, for example, where you can remember. A good time with them or where you can feel your relationship so that you can feel that togetherness. So you can feel held. In attachment theory, there's something called the ideal parent figure. Anyone interested can Google that for more fear. Fear is going to hijack you physiologically on a pretty high level. So the best is to regulate the nervous system through long, slow, deep breaths and to become aware of the fact that when we are afraid, we have a dire need to grasp, grip, and control. The issue with fear, the reason we're having it is because there's nothing for us to grasp, grip, or control, or at least not enough so that we can feel like there's stability. So we need to find and quickly something that is actually realistically something that we can hold onto for stability. Sometimes there is something in our inner psyche or in our circumstances or in our relationships where we actually do have something or someone where we say, yep, I can rely on that stability. And sometimes we don't. And this is where we must go to the divine and to being held by God and God in all of its forms. The great mother Our guru, our masters, our ancestors, our angels, whatever our thing is to feel being held on that level. Anger, Anger means that there is a level of energy in your body that is bigger than what your body is able to contain, which is why it needs to come out. It is only okay to let out our anger in healthy ways that don't hurt anyone. What are healthy ways to move your anger rather than push it down? My favorite is to push on a wall as we exhale with sound. So you get the feeling that's in the solar plexus and you let it come out through your hands. Imagine like you're gonna literally push the wall down and you exhale so that you don't clench your jaw or close your teeth.'cause that'll keep the anger looping within your body. You want it to come out of your body and you allow it to come out through the exhale and through the sound. Another thing with regards to emotion, my invitation to you is to think right now about what are some free and easy things that you can do that bring you joy and a sense of peace or wellbeing that give you a little pick me up. For example, listening to your favorite playlist of nineties music. Or maybe journaling or going on a bike ride. Some of these things you can literally do on your commute. Some of these things you might need to prioritize taking some time for, rather than binge watching Netflix over the weekend, maybe you could go to the beach. Next category, relationships. First thing, who are you surrounding yourself with? There's a saying that says that we are the combination of the top five people we spend our time with. Who are you spending most of your time with now? Who makes you feel the best? Perhaps one of your family members or hopefully multiple. Perhaps you have a spiritual teacher or mentor that you feel really great with, perhaps a spiritual friend or your Sangha, and are you giving yourself to the most important relationships in your life? Are you prioritizing your children if you have, especially young children, where can you be in the relationships that nourish you the best and that you know are the most meaningful to you? Are you prioritizing them over other relationships or over other activities or even work. Who might not be good for you anymore, who you're still hanging out with and you don't really know why? Or because you feel guilty or because it's routine, but actually it might be pulling you down? Where are there relationships realistically that you might need to let softly float more to the background Next, where are you picking up other people's emotional energy that's not yours? Where are you being, quote unquote, an empath Which really means someone who doesn't have energetic boundaries. Being an empath also includes being psychically perceptive or more sensitive to energy. Those things do not have to go together. You can be psychically, perceptive and sensitive to energy and still have really great energetic boundaries. You can keep the name empath if you want to as someone who is aware of things that most people might not be picking up on. But being aware of those things and taking them on into your own body are two very different things. We should not be taking on stuff that is not ours. If you are,, there is a skill that you need to learn that you have not yet learned, which is the skill of energetic boundary. We can talk about boundary on another day, but that's something that you can also take more seriously with spiritual books or teachings or classes. Another one asking for help. Is there shame around asking for help for certain things that you actually could really use help on? What is it that you might be carrying inside? Maybe it's an addiction, maybe it's a past trauma. Maybe it's something related to sexuality Or money. Or something else that's usually intimate and difficult to talk about. Where is it that you could actually honestly really use some support, but you have not been revealing out of fear of judgment that you have a difficulty or a certain need? And how can you go to a safe person or a safe place to get help? Next, this is still within the relationship category. Where are you victimizing yourself and how can you find empowerment instead? And where are you hanging out with people who are constantly victimizing themselves? And how is that putting you in a perpetrator position or also making you look at the world through a negative lens? And how can you. Choose to be around people who feel empowerment and who trust your empowerment and who celebrate you, and your strengths and your successes. How can you be around people who mirror to you, who you really are and your highest and best, and who truly want for you your highest healing? Next, what do you deserve? What do you deserve to ask for? And what do you deserve to say no to? Again, this is another way to talk about boundaries. Next category, the human energy, body, and energetic health. We wanna look at four categories here now. First i'm gonna remind all of us of the shape of the energy body so that we have a visual representation so it can be easier to remember. Now, imagine you are within a big egg of light, okay? A big sphere all around you. That's your energy field, and within it is this beam of light, which is your central channel. At the center of all of it Is your heart, okay? Number one, are we centered and aligned? Meaning, can we feel our central channel? Can we breathe up and down the spine? Can we feel our back body? Can we imagine a beam of light going through our entire body? Those are some exercises to help us feel centered and aligned. Number two, by the way, this is in no particular order. Number two, are we feeling rooted and grounded? Can we do meditation where we breathe up and down from our body to Mother Earth and back multiple times? Can we visualize that we have roots, like the roots of a tree, or can we visualize, like our central channel is this long tube of light that goes all the way down to the center of Mother Earth? Are we feeling our feet? Are we feeling the bottoms of our feet open and breathing up the chi, the energy, the prana of mother earth, up into our feet, up our legs, up into our pelvis, into our belly, all the way up into our heart. And can we visualize that the heart of Mother Earth is breathing up all the way to our heart? Those are some ways that we can do visualization, breath practice, feeling energy in our meditative practices, where we can feel rooted and grounded. Three heart centeredness. How often during the day are you literally taking your awareness into your heart center? I don't mean the physical heart, I mean the center of the chest behind the sternum. Sometimes it's further back than you might think. Feel around for yourself. Where does your heart center feel to you? Where does it feel good? Where do you feel in your spiritual sovereignty? Where do you feel in the power of love? Where do you feel in your own radiance and where do you feel in warmth and compassion? We can practice feeling our heart center anywhere, anytime. You can be doing your spreadsheet at work and you can be feeling your heart center. Everything that I'm naming here is simply putting our awareness on these areas of our energy body, because the more we put our awareness on a certain place, the more it grows and the more it becomes a natural habit. It. So we're simply putting our awareness. We can do this at any time of day, anywhere. Number four, boundary. Are you feeling your energy field filled with your energy only? And are you aware that your embodiment is a requirement for you to have the capacity for boundary in the first place? So there's two ways of having boundary. One is feeling right now, do this, feel this right now that you have this bubble of light all around you, and at the edge of your sphere, kind of like an eggshell of blue light, and then the whole sphere on the inside is just bright white light. This is you. This is you with your home energetically that is only yours. And with the boundary around it with, let's say, the equivalent of a white picket fence, it is your eggshell of your energy body. That's one way that you can just visualize it before you leave the house or whatever. The strongest boundary that you could have is you being in your own body, you being in your own deservingness, and you being in trust and loving connection with the divine. That is the strongest boundary that you have. So boundary comes from being in your body and taking up your own space. And that way nobody else is gonna take up your space'cause you're in it. What is that? That's your deservingness, that's your empowerment, that's your sense of home and that's your understanding that you are fully supported and protected by all of your highest angels and masters and guides and deities and ancestors and all the heaven beings who are here with you. And your highest boundary also includes knowing that they're with you all the time and calling upon whoever it is for you can be Christ, can be Archangel Michael, can be Kali, can be Durga, whatever, Manjushri, whatever lineage you have, you call upon, who helps you feel strong, protected, centered, and empowered. Okay, next category, spirituality. Spirituality, realistically is not a category because spirituality is all of existence. So better way to say it is spiritual practice. How is your meditation practice going? Is it something that you wanna do but you haven't been doing? How can you sneak in two minutes here and there? Rather than tell yourself that you wanna meditate for an hour every day and not do it because you're being a perfectionist and you're procrastinating and you don't have time in your schedule, what is the low hanging fruit that you can do where you basically can't say no to yourself because it's so easy? Can you meditate every single time you have your 30 second elevator ride to and from work in the morning and in the evening, or to your apartment? Can you meditate every time you have put your kids to bed and instead of getting up right after they fall asleep, maybe you can just sit there with them for 10 minutes, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera. It depends on everyone's schedule, but you get the point. Prayer. What is prayer? What does it mean to you and how can you make it more of a simple, chill, easy, no big preparation needed, part of your life? Where can you be more involved with spiritual sangha? With spiritual community, spiritual teachers, spiritual friends, events, places where you feel really reflect how you feel yourself to be when you're in your highest, when you're feeling the most connected to your own true nature and your own divinity. What is content that you can listen to, such as this podcast series, other podcast series, music, spiritual music, books that you could be reading, documentaries about spiritual leaders. I personally have a membership that I'm creating where we learn about the spiritual masters. You could be part of that. There are so many places that you can go where you are surrounded by content that is uplifting for you and community that is uplifting for you, that connects you with your divine emanation, and that helps you feel held and protected and guided and embedded within all beingness. What are places that you can go to that are free, that will provide you with spiritual community and spiritual teachings and energies? For example, church, temple, synagogue, et cetera. Where in your community can you go just to get a good vibe? You don't have to believe everything that they talk about in there. You don't have to be all gung-ho about the entire dogma of the entire religion or lineage, but it can be a safe, joyful, peaceful place to have a good time. And usually all of those things are free, which is awesome. Another aspect of this spiritual category, perhaps for those who have less of a spiritual practice directly, but who still care about this level of depth is to answer the following questions. And I actually recommend this to absolutely everyone because a lot of people who have a spiritual practice or even are a part of spiritual community for a long time, don't actually necessarily know the answers to these questions. This is the basics on the level of spirituality. If you are not, if you have not answered the questions of the basics, then what are you really doing? What is everything for? Okay, so what are these questions? Here they are. What is most important to you? What is most true for you? What are you most loyal to? What can you always count on? So maybe something popped up right now. I made a little bit of a pause between them so we can see if something comes up. Some people are like, oh, these are really big and philosophical. You know, I'll do it this weekend, and then you're not gonna end up getting to it. So I'm gonna do it one more time. You can feel into it. Don't be a perfectionist. Don't delay. Just see if something comes into your heart right now. Okay. This is the one exercise we'll do on this episode, and then we're almost done. Okay? We're gonna do it one more time, and you can also write this down. What is most important to you? Feel in your heart? What's the fastest thing that comes up? What is most important to you? What is most true? What are you most loyal to? What can you always count on? So I will leave you with these to contemplate. Now you have your whole checklist. So what is one thing, even just one that you remember from this episode that you wanna take with you to work on today and over this next week? One thing could be from the category of physical health, mind and thoughts, how you're handling your emotions, what's going on in your relationships, what is going on with your energy body and how you are handling your energy field, or your spiritual practice and your spiritual philosophy. Just pick one and you can take that forward with you. And this episode is always here for you to go back to as a reference. So that in times when you're feeling under-resourced, when you're feeling like you could use a pick me up, you can come back here, do your checklist again and make sure that you keep filling out as much as you can, all of these fantastic things that can help you. And by the way, almost every single thing I said here is free. I do recommend a practitioner, a healer, someone professionally, who can support you if that is possible for you financially. But besides that, everything here is free. So you have empowerment, you have capacity, and you have choice. You can strengthen yourself, you can gain greater resilience, you can gain greater health, greater emotional wellbeing, more joy, more centeredness, more capacity to be aware of your inner experience and how to shift it, and thus, more capacity to be in friendship with your outer experience and how to alchemize with it, metabolize it, integrate it, and embrace it. This is strength. This is your capacity for healing on a holistic level. This is your capacity for highest and best wellbeing so that you can be big and strong and happy and so that you can help everybody else. You share this wealth with everybody. You share this, all these tips and tricks with everybody, and the stronger you are, the more you'll be able to help others blessings. thank you for being with me in The Ground of Love. You can follow this podcast to receive the next episodes, and who is it that comes to mind to share this episode with? Who Could Benefit? Is it a family member? A friend, a client, a colleague who would be inspired, reminded of what matters to them by being in our energy that we've shared here today. So please go ahead and pass this along to them and go ahead and leave a review or a rating if you wish. I thank you for that. For other offerings that I provide, you can go to the ground of love.com I also provide one-on-one healing sessions and I will also be offering a group membership. All of that is on the website, the ground of love.com. Blessings to you. May you be protected, held, regenerated centered. And taken forward with all light, love, truth and highest and best health and wellbeing on all levels and taken forward to make the greatest, most beautiful impact doing exactly what you're here to do. God bless you. Protection, grace, protection, grace. So it is.