8 Core Tenets of Healing: Step by Step Healing and Awakening Process (2/2, EP18)

8 foundational principles about the egoic self, egoic parts, projection, ego death, trauma healing, and healing and awakening. We'll look at IFS (internal family systems), what is trauma, what is the ego, what is projection, how ego death happens, etc, in order for you to have a foundational map of the healing and awakening process. For personal healing or healership for others, these are the basic building blocks. (See last week for part 1)

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1:46 - The Healing Process

7:32 - 3 Qualities for Transformation

9:50 - Healing as Integration

15:08 - What is spiritual awakening?

22:16 - Experience and Trust

23:15 - life as the Path

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It's beyond our greatest bounds of where we think we are and where we think we're going. It's truly into the mystery. But it's with the greatest level of trust and openness and yearning to be shown. That which is unconditional love that which is ultimate peace. And allow these frequencies to reveal themselves. Through our spiritual practice, through our yearning, through our prayer, through our visualization, through our deep inner calling in our heart, and allow these great frequencies to come into our system naturally reconfiguring us, without us even realizing what's happening. Welcome to the Ground of Love. I'm your host, Olivia Frazao. This is a podcast for people who are deeply dedicated to the spiritual journey. You are here for self-growth care, for others, and being of service to the world. This podcast is in service to you to help you remember who you are and why you are here, you will receive inspiration, clarity, and no BS Love. We are walking each other home. Let's begin. Welcome to part two of this two part episode series about healing and awakening. In this episode, we're looking at what is the healing process. We're gonna be looking at the healing process through the phases of transformation and integration, and we're also looking at how does the healing process relate with spiritual awakening? And how Spiritual Awakening reveals itself through our daily life. If you haven't looked at last week, take a look at part one where We define what are egoic parts, what is projection and what is trauma and ego death. Okay, let's start. So number five, What is the healing process? For this in much greater detail, please see episode number two, which is called Spiritual Surrender, ego Death, and Transformation. Okay, So You are basically circumscribed inside of this bubble that's your ego and you're stuck in it, and the goal is to get out of it. So you are circumscribed and you're exiting this circumscription. Okay? So you could call this process transformation. You could call it breaking through the veils. That is what I'm calling transformation. It basically has three stages, you could say. The first is when you're inside of the bubble and you're just experiencing some kind of a comfort zone, but you're also in illusion. Okay. You could also be experiencing this as a blind spot. You could be in total denial and numbness to this because there's no witnessing self online for it. So you could be living in this bubble for your whole life or for multiple lifetimes, but something happens where all of a sudden you can actually feel the outlines of the bubble. What is that? Those are the veils. What are the veils? That's content. From our egoic parts and the projections of those parts. It's emotional content, mental content, energetic and somatic. So when we come out of our comfort zone and we are about to exit this limited world that we have been living within, that we think is our true self and we think is all of reality, but we start realizing is not, we are moving through a veil. Imagine you're literally in a bubble like a soap bubble. But you're a tiny molecule, okay? So in order for you to go through that film of soap, it's actually quite the, intense territory, picture it as it's mysterious, it's thick, you can't really see past it. Everything's warpy and wobbly on the other side. You have no idea what's even there. And the moment you get close to it, it's painful. And so you run, you wanna run away from it. So that's why we tend to turn away from healing because healing requires us to face something that we haven't faced yet. Why haven't we faced it yet? Because it's painful. So that's why it's there in the first place, because trauma occurred because there was a painful event that we couldn't fully handle. So what's left for us to handle? Pain. That's what we're gonna move through on some level. Sometimes it's not that bad. Sometimes it's excruciatingly painful when we move through the veils. Now to make it easier, we need to know that that's what's happening. Oh, I'm in a healing process. Then we don't take everything so literally and freak out about it and believe it all, right? As we move through limiting beliefs, as we move through painful emotion, as we move through pain in the body, as we move through energetic, discombobulated, incoherence, we are aware of why this is happening and we know that it's for our highest and best because we have that context. We are not taking it literally. We're not believing in the thoughts, as I said, and we're also not afraid of what's happening and thinking that something bad is happening. We actually know that it feels worse before it feels better when we're in this process. The other thing that we need is faith and trust that there's actually something on the other side to get to. If we think that this is all there is, why are we gonna move through it? Or why are we gonna be able to see it as empty? Why are we gonna be able to understand that it's actually not the greatest reality, even when it really looks like it. We need to have both faith and trust. That there is more awaiting us on the other side that we currently cannot see. How do we have that faith and trust? Previous experience. This is not the first time that we are going through this. This is not the first time that we are going to have an aha moment soon. We have had other aha moments in our lives. We have had other moments where we have come out of limited thinking or limited seeing, and this is one more. So we're gonna take the proof that life has given us that this is simply how the process works and we're gonna do it again. And as I said, remember I said the witnessing self gets bigger and bigger, like 60%, and then if I'm shy on stage, that's only 40%. Now, similarly, as we go through this process, the true self, the God nature, the connection with God, the integration, the unity with divinity that we experience every time we come out of this circumscribed. Identity and limited view of reality and out of the bubble into a greater nature, the more we are that. So next time it's a little easier, take the image right now of matrushka dolls. So it's actually a bubble inside. A bubble. Inside a bubble, inside a bubble. And every time we come outta the veil, now we're in a bigger bubble, and then we do it again. Now we're in a bigger bubble every time we can see more. Okay. Another thing we need in order to be able to get through the veils is we need a certain amount of momentum. We need a certain level of momentum to move through the incoherence, and the gravitational pull of the veils as we're moving through them. So we need a capacity to reach for what's on the other side and the momentum that allows us move through to what's on the other side is the desire for it and the trust in it, and the faith in it. So let's summarize what qualities or themes allow this movement to happen? I'm gonna say that again in the correct order. We need to have an understanding of how the healing process happens, so that when we're in it, we are not surprised by it, and we know what direction to go in. That's number one. Number two, we need to have faith and trust in order to reach for where we are going, even when we cannot see it yet, which is greater reality on the other side of our limited view. And number three, we need to have a momentum that actually takes us through that texture and that gravitational pull and that incoherence of the veils when we're mo moving through it so that we don't get stuck in it. What is that momentum? Let's say there's an arrow going out of the bubble. That Arrow is saying, I am ready to move away from where I have been. The momentum is we're kicking off of the, the wall of the pool in order to swim. We're saying, I'm ready to let this go. I don't want this anymore. I want something greater. That gives us urgency towards growth. It's, I'm done with this. That's the first type of momentum I'm done with what has been take me forward. The next, the other version of momentum. Is that that arrow, it's not only going away from something, that arrow is also going towards something. So we're also saying, I want what's on the other side. Not only, I don't want what's here, but I want what's on the other side. I want to know more. I want the truth. I want forgiveness. I want to open my heart. I want greater peace. I want greater groundedness. I want greater health. I want greater spiritual liberation. That inner urgency, that inner momentum. It keeps us reaching for the greater reality that we trust, and as we reach for it, we start having a foot in each place. There's a part of us that's still in the past and there's a part of us that's coming out into liberation. And that brings us to the next step, which is, or the next point here in this episode, which is the healing process with regards to integration. So now we have one foot in each place. Yes, there is a part of us that's experiencing pain, that's experiencing literally that part of our psyche that's experiencing whatever projection, meaning whatever experience of identity and reality. We're still stuck within and there is something happening where we are experiencing groundedness, centeredness, heart opening, union with the divine on some level. They're both simultaneously here, and because they're both simultaneously here, now we have the ability for alchemy. Now we have the opportunity for integration, meaning the incoherence of that egoic nature and the coherence, the new. Coherent frequencies of our true nature are simultaneously existing within our conscious awareness, which means they are meeting and they are integrating, they're alchemizing. These two waves are coming together, and the incoherent wave is a learning from the coherent wave. And there is a. Natural healing process that occurs without us needing to do it, without us needing to understand it. The way that it will feel is we're gonna have greater turbulence. The airplane is going through the clouds. Okay, I'm gonna mix metaphors. We're leaving the bubble now. We're like a little airplane that's going through the bubble. Okay. And the veils, the layer of the bubble that we're going through, that's the cloud cover. So it's going boom, boom, boom, boom, boom. We're, it's bouncing. Right. It's uncomfortable. We keep reaching, we keep looking for the sun on the other side of the clouds, and that's where we end up. So how can we help ourselves as we're going through this turbulence? We keep focusing on what feels good. We keep focusing on. God our angels, our higher true self truth and peace and love, and the feeling of centeredness in our body, or the feeling of safety or the length and calmness of our breath, or we feel our feet, or we feel a mantra or we feel a prayer or we feel a positive self-talk that we are repeating to ourselves. Something that keeps us connected to where we're going. It can be an image, a thought, a feeling, something that anchors us towards that greater reality. And as we go through this turbulence of the ego death of these parts that are releasing themselves. Percentage wise of what's in our conscious experience, it's gonna get bigger and bigger. The experience that we are heading towards is going to become a greater and greater presence in our experience of ourselves in reality, until we're fully. On the other side of that veil, on the other side of that cloud cover, then there's gonna be some kind of a release or some kind of a feeling of peace centeredness, open-heartedness, and presence. As we're going through the process, we keep coming back to the body. We don't take the pain, literally, we let the emotions pass through. We don't ride them and take them as fully real, and we don't repress them. We just let flow through whatever needs to flow through. And we keep our thoughts not on whatever negative thoughts might be coming up, and we start spiraling and all these worries and fears and and blame and no, we're not gonna do that. Those things are gonna come up. We're not gonna focus on them. We're gonna allow our thought layer to be a tool for our healing process. We're gonna allow our thoughts to be from our witnessing self to guide us through. So our thoughts are, okay, I'm in a healing process right now. Wow. That's a lot of emotion. Oh my God. It's somaticizing as a lot of physical discomfort. There's a lot of energy moving through. I'm here. I'm a witnessing self. I'm focusing on. My sense of centeredness. I'm focusing on my breath, I'm focusing on my angels. I'm focusing on the fact that I know I'm walking towards love right now. And my full focus is, is there, and as my full focus is there, the love comes in. The love naturally meets, touches, and alchemizes with the parts within me that were unintegrated from it, that we're feeling separate from it, and there can be an integration that happens. There's another way, as I had said in the previous episode that's a little bit more thought based or imagery based, where we can have more of a, let's say, quote unquote, person to person relationship healing process with our parts. That through IFS would be the more typical level. I'm talking here a little bit more on an energetic or somatic, or spiritual level. It's all great. It's all the same thing. It just depends on what layer of reality you're looking at. The alchemy through. So now we finally get to the question of what is spiritual awakening and you might have guessed through my description of the healing process that it is the same thing. It is what is on the other side of the healing process. So the healing process that we just discussed naturally brings us into spiritual awakening- if over time we are constantly reaching with faith and trust for that which is beyond us. With a true beginner's mind. And true humility and openness and receptivity. so the path of personal healing, the path of psychological therapy that will not take us to spiritual awakening if all we're doing is basically going from one identity to another identity, right? It is fantastic. It's necessary, absolutely necessary. As I said in my first point in the last episode, it's necessary to have a healthy ego in order to go through ego death and spiritual awakening. But I just wanna be clear that doing personal healing work in and of itself on a psychological level, will not necessarily bring us to a path of spiritual awakening. Okay? The process of healing, when it is on the level of identity at the greatest level and reality at the greatest level, that's what's gonna open us into spiritual awakening. So let me compare the two. The psychological level version is, oh, I was somehow a 5-year-old. Now I realize I'm a mature 45-year-old. Oops. Sorry I acted that way. Awkward. Now I'm here. Let me apologize and figure out how to have more of a witnessing self next time. Okay, that's great. That's growth. We have now gone from an identity of having a blind spot and acting as if we're five, without realizing we're doing it to now being more mature and either catching it when it happens, or we've integrated it so much that it doesn't even happen anymore. That is psychological growth. That's not spiritual awakening. It's simply from a younger identity to an older identity. Age wise. Spiritual awakening is when we're going from a human identity to a non-human identity. So human identity meaning a circumscribed idea of what self is, meaning I, me and mine, is actually made up. And reality is union. Reality is, you are me, I am you. We are all one. When we heal our parts. When we heal our parts at such a deep level, when we are so open and so deeply yearning for the truth. And so willing to let go. We can actually either spontaneously in a big way or over time, little by little begin to unravel the density or the solidity of the I am of who I thought I was to start getting more and more curious of the actor behind all of the characters we've been playing. Then we are on a path and in a direct experience of spiritual awakening where identity itself. As a concept itself is dissolving and because, as I said, egoic parts come with projection. When our identity is dissolving, our projection of reality, our experience of what reality is, is also dissolving because we think reality is made of all these billiard balls of separate identities, and the projection of that is dissolving. So we're starting to see things as more interconnected, more fluid, and open more. Transparent with more compassion, with more wisdom, with more peace, with more acceptance, with more trust, with more togetherness. We're starting to see through the eyes of union, we're starting to know ourselves as union, and we're starting to see through the eyes of Union as a. Step-by-step process as a life and lifetimes process each time a little bit more. So this process, that is the spiritual awakening process. This is not about us controlling or creating where we end up. That's still in the psychological healing.. The spiritual awakening process is beyond moving from one egoic creation to the next. It's moving out of egoic creation, and that's why it is a total leap of faith. It's beyond our greatest bounds of where we think we are and where we think we're going. It's truly into the mystery. It's the same process as everything that I just described, but it's with the greatest level of trust and openness and yearning to be shown. Is letting go of control and allowing ourselves to aim our deepest desire and our deepest openness towards, and allowing ourselves to be receptive to. That which is unconditional love that which is ultimate peace. That which is all beingness and open to this and open as this, and allow these frequencies to reveal themselves. Through our spiritual practice, through our yearning, through our prayer, through our visualization, through our deep inner calling in our heart, and allow these great frequencies to come into our system and naturally alchemize all of these locations within ourselves. All of these ways that we hold, our energy field, all these ways that we hold our mental constructs and our constructs of identity, and naturally just like water coming through and washing us through, naturally reconfiguring us, without us even realizing what's happening. But then we get off the meditation cushion and we look around and everything looks more technicolor, or we realize we're more peaceful towards our family members that day, or whatever it is. And day by day, by day by day, we start actually living within a greater, more coherent frequency of reality Every time. More every time. We're going through those matrushka dolls, right? Bubble coming out of one bubble, then it coming outta the next bubble. Coming outta the next bubble. Coming outta the next bubble. And the veils, as I said, they can be thick. It can be really, that really bumpy turbulence. It can be a really obvious, tough situation, but it can also be really slight and really light like a silk veil that's really thin and it can be really small. So spiritual awakening is the process of repeated ego deaths into greater and more frequent direct spiritual experience. Greater and more frequent direct spiritual experience sp what is direct spiritual experience. It's the ineffable and the undeniable that's beyond thought, beyond conjecture, beyond cultural delineations, beyond expectation. It's direct experience of love, peace. Centeredness, equanimity, union, compassion, et cetera. So this path of awakening is many, many experiences of popping outta the veils and into greater truth. So this model is iterative, meaning the more you do it, the more it happens. The more you can do it, the easier it becomes. The more capable you are, the more you can do it. The easier it is, the more it happens, right? What keeps us going through this path of continuous ego death and greater and greater spiritual awakening through the path of awakening is each direct undeniable experience will bring us more trust. That first of all, this process works and we can trust it, and we purposely go towards it and we know how to handle it, and we now have undeniable trust and faith that there truly is something beyond. Whatever our current assumption or whatever our current experience is, so there's desire, there's yearning, there's curiosity, there's urgency towards what is awaiting us. Number eight. Living our life as the healing and awakening path. This is not just healing sessions, therapy sessions, meditation sessions. This means that we can remember that we are in this process. We are in this process of healing. We are in this spiritual path all the time. So all the time we're noticing egoic parts and projections with our witnessing self, and we're not getting caught in believing our parts and projections. We're reaching beyond them. And we're having the trust and thus the courage to move through all of the discomforts of facing and integrating all the painful emotions and beliefs as we're allowing for something greater, greater meaning, more true, more loving to emerge and to change us viscerally from the inside out. So in this way, all of life becomes our teacher. And each day we walk this path. And some days it's gonna be heavy, big things. It's gonna be really tough moments. That we need to put a lot of effort into and a lot of faith into, and patience and presence, and some moments is throughout the day we notice all these little places where we're getting stuck in our egoic parts. Maybe we wanna cut someone in line, or maybe we want the bigger slice of cake, or maybe we get irritated with someone rather than being patient. All these little moments and all the little moments and all the big moments within our daily life. Become teachers to us where we have more opportunity for self contemplation. We have more opportunity to reach for something beyond what we're currently experiencing, and we are being our own healer. We're receiving help from everyone professionally, personally, et cetera. And we are in the driver's seat of our own healing path and our own awakening path. And everything in life is an opportunity for it. And we're saying yes. thank you for being with me in The Ground of Love. 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