How to Connect With Your Guides: 4 Mistakes People Make & What to Do Instead (EP30)

How to connect with your spiritual guides? How to connect with your angels? With the great beings who guide you on the heaven planes? First of all, what mistakes might you be making when attempting this, and what is the greater discernment, alignment, and outcome you could be focusing on instead? 

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An interview of me explaining how to connect with your guides (including safety information) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Um0cbI5QQEw&t=1879s

The book excerpt was from Journey of Souls by Michael Newton.

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3:09 - What are guides and how are they relevant to my life?

7:18 - Mistake #1 - Safety Risks

11:10 - Mistake #2 - Creating vs Receiving

20:26 - Journey of Souls excerpt

25:57 - Mistake #3 - Information vs Transmission

28:15 - Mistake #4 - Using Your Guides

35:08 - How to Connect With Your Guides

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2.6.26 how to connect with your guides

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You don't have to go out there and find your guides because they're with you. So how do you accept the fact that you're not alone? What if you are the one who needs to become quiet enough to go into the heart and to be a space that's actually empty enough to receive. Welcome to the Ground of Love. I'm your host, Olivia Frazao. This is a podcast for people who are deeply dedicated to the spiritual journey. You are here for self-growth care, for others, and being of service to the world. This podcast is in service to you to help you remember who you are and why you are here, you will receive inspiration, clarity, and no BS Love. We are walking each other home. Let's begin. Today we're talking about how to connect with our guides, and a lot of people are interested in this topic and a lot of people either don't know how to do this, or at least they think they don't, or they think they do know how to do this, but might actually be making some mistakes. So we're going to go through four points today. Of mistakes that people make, and we're gonna correct those four points so that we can deeply understand what connecting with our guides in a deep, safe and direct way can really be and feel like. I also want to briefly mention that we have a healing school where connecting with our guides, our gurus, our saints, our spiritual teachers in the heaven plains, our highest angels it's the center focus of what we do. So if you're interested in learning more about that, you can go to thegroundoflove.com/healingschool. You can also see the link in the show notes. So let's begin with an introduction. Of two things. First, how is this even relevant or important to our daily life or to the physical world? And second, what even are guides? So that's the intro, and then we'll get into the four mistakes and the four corrections so that we can learn what this truly is. So disclaimer, this is all from my level of perception. This is from my personal experience. This is from how I have been trained. Please work with whoever you feel you most deeply trust to help you with things that might be beyond your personal perception. Okay, so here we go. Daily life and the physical world are inundating us with illusion and ultimately what? Our guides. I'll just call them our guides for now, and then we'll extrapolate. Ultimately, what our guides are here for is to help us get out of that illusion, so it's very relevant to daily life and to the physical world. It's not a bypass type of thing unless you misuse it. It's actually, I would say, honestly, a necessity to be able to get through. Daily life in the physical world with more support, more alignment, more clarity, and more love. So the more that we are actually in connection with those who help us connect to our true self, the role of guides, the more that we are in connection with them, the more they can play their role with us, the more we actually are emanations of our true nature. And the more that emanation is able to truly be a blessing to the world, the more we are able to show up with deep presence and with a transmission that comes from a more true place, rather than believing ourselves to be the isolated, solid, separate self that is reacting to. Daily life occurrences in the physical world. So, long story short, this apparently very esoteric topic is actually extremely relevant towards how to be a good person and how to help others and how to help the world. So let's get a little deeper into what are guides, when I say guides, I'm saying that we're connecting with our great deities. We're connecting with the great masters we're connecting with. In indigenous traditions, we're connecting with our animal spirits and our ancestors and Mother Earth in particular, lineages such as Christianity. We're connecting with our saints our angels or particular offshoots of Christianity or new age thinking. We're connected with ascended masters. If we are looking at traditions such as Buddhism and Hinduism, we're connecting with deities and gurus, and you and the traditions that you are in might have even other names that I haven't mentioned here. Right now, I'm just using the word guides to keep it simple so I don't have to say all of those things in every sentence. as I was saying, guides, their role with us is to protect us through all of the, the Lila, the Maya, the Samsara, the karmic stuff that we're going through. Pick your language for the worlds of illusion. So they are here guiding us and protecting us. Literally guides guiding us, and as I said, they have a role. As we focus ourselves beyond our day-to-day happenings and roles as human beings, they have a role to help us come out of that illusion of self and reality as what the egoic self thinks self in reality is, and they actually help us awaken. So that's what this episode is mainly focused on. It's our guides helping us awaken into who we truly are, because I believe that that is our highest path, and thus that's the highest thing that they can help us with. So now let's go into the mistakes. To me, safety is always the most important. So we're gonna start there. People who start dabbling in esoteric things without a teacher or a lineage that has a structure of safety that is holding them can delve into risky territory. If that's the case for you, I would rather you not delve into this territory until you actually have someone you're working with who is well trained or who is very deep spiritually at a level where they have a very high level of perception and discernment, because that's what this requires. When people start dabbling and they don't have that support or they don't have that background personally, oftentimes what I've noticed is people think that they are just kind of palpating around in something that may or may not be true, or that is very simplified, and the truth is this stuff is very real. The universe or multiverse, you could say is infinite and thus infinitely multidimensional. And thus there are, you could say, an infinite amount of beings. And thus there is a lot to get lost inside of. And so it's very important for us to know who we are actually connecting with and. It. It can be very difficult to discern that because we can be fooled. There can be beings who are trying to fool us on purpose, and so my advice would be twofold. One, I already said, either find a teacher or a lineage that can hold you while you're doing this, or even if you're on your own choose within a lineage that calls to you a deity or a saint or a master that is already a part of that lineage and find how people connect with that being and connect with that being in that way or simply in your heart. Actually, there's one more thing I need to say'cause that's still not enough. When you're alone, if you're doing this. You need a stopgap measure that helps you even when you don't have your own capacity for perception and discernment. So you can ask them three times to reveal themselves in the name of God, in the highest. Reveal yourself in the name of God, in the highest. Reveal yourself, in the name of God, in the highest Reveal yourself and. If there is a being who is actually not who you think they are, they will likely disappear. So that's kind of a bandaid that you can do to be safe. So mainly with safety, the best I can say is to just keep you aware that there's a lot out there and to not simply palpate in the dark as entertainment It's important for you to know what you're doing or to be with someone who does. Okay, let's go to the next piece. The number two mistake. The second mistake is creating rather than receiving. So people have the question of how do I know if I'm really feeling my guides or if I'm just making it up? This is what I'm talking about here, creating with the mind. Creating with the imagination is projecting an image of what we expect or what we want, what we desire, and then experiencing it because we've put it there for ourselves. And then thinking that it was placed there. Ex externally to us. Now, the language that I'm using right now is very complicated because I'm using a binary language of like inside and outside and us and them, and later I'm gonna totally get us beyond the level of mind that thinks and dualities. But just bear with me right now. We're in this level of mind right now as I'm talking about creating versus receiving, because that's how the egoic mind experiences things is through duality. So when we are in that space, we are going to be questioning ourselves. We are going to be potentially trying to kind of force things. We are going to be thinking that we are the ones achieving something or going out to look for someone truly instead, what we are doing is making ourselves available for what already is. So someone said to me the other day, oh, I don't have guides. That's literally not possible. Or they say. My guides aren't with me, or they don't connect with me, or something like that. So what's happening here is, and I said this in, I believe it was episode two, this concept of aloneness that we feel, and I know this is a strong word, but I'm saying it because there's a piece here that's relevant. It's actually narcissistic. The egoic self is self-focused. Because it's not capable of seeing beyond its own confines. So what happens when we're stuck within the egoic self is we have a, a very, very hard time perceiving basically anything else. And so the world out there, or let's say in this case, the universe out there, it feels very empty and quiet, or it feels like no one is connecting with us. We feel alone. We feel unmet. It's like, it's like walking into a room and not seeing anyone and thinking that we're alone in that room, but actually our eyes are closed. And if we were to open our eyes, we would see that the room is full. So our perception is behind the veils of the egoic limitations. So the soul's eyes are closed and only what's left is the egoic projection. And so because there's such a sense of void, we either think that there's nothing there and we feel like, oh, there's nobody with me, or some kind of conclusion of aloneness or lack of connection. That's actually not true. We mistake our own lack of capacity of perception for actual reality. Like we think rather than our perception being faulty. We think that reality itself is faulty. So then what we do is we try to force perception, and that's when we start creating rather than receiving. That's when we start actually projecting like, oh, I think maybe I saw something, or I think maybe I heard something, or I think maybe I got some information. But it can easily just be the mind receiving what it expects or what it wants through a mental projection. So what is receiving? Rather than going out there and being, this is kind of a weird word, but penetrative, rather than going out and penetrating being yang, we are gonna be yielding, we are gonna be receptive, we are gonna be yin, going to available to be accessed. We're gonna be in, let's say, the feminine aspect of ourselves. So this takes trust and patience, and this takes trust because the ego itself sees reality as blank, as blank space where you feel like nothing is happening, but it's not actually blank. It only seems blank because that's the limit of our perception. That's the perception that happens behind the veil. So can we withstand the discomfort? Of sitting in the unknown when we're stuck behind the veils. This is tolerance for ambiguity. That's the psychological term. Can we increase our tolerance for ambiguity? Can we not try to define or understand, but actually stay in the unknown and sit through this apparent blank space rather than thinking we have to fill it with something. Because the truth is you don't have to go out there and find your guides because they're with you. So how do you accept the fact that you're not alone? Let's start there. You're not alone. What if you are the one who needs to become quiet enough of your own mental chatter and emotional intensity to go into the heart and to open and to be a space that's actually empty enough to receive. I'm gonna say one more thing about creating rather than receiving. And it might sound like I'm going opposite here, but just stay with me. There is a situation where creating rather than receiving is I would actually advise towards it, which is when you are wanting to connect with a particular being. And you feel like you don't know if anything is working because you have no perception at that point. It's important to remember that they can feel you even when you can't feel them. So it's okay to speak out into what feels like the void. It's like being on the phone where. You can speak and they can hear you, but the volume is all the way down on your phone where when they respond to you, you can't hear it. It's not that they're not there, it's not that they're not connecting with you, it's that there is something faulty in your receiving device. So when that happens, it doesn't mean to stop trying to communicate. What you can do is you can simply have your side of the conversation, and if you wish to, you can actually focus your topic on asking them to help you with your receiving device. You can literally simply talk about what's going on. I wanna connect with you, but I don't know how can you help me? I wanna feel you, but I can't feel you. Please help me feel you. Please cleanse my mind so that I can be empty enough to hear you. Please cleanse my mind so that I can be empty enough to not think that I have to hear you in a literal way. Please open me beyond my five senses to help me understand that I can receive you in a way that's beyond what I might expect. Please help me feel you right now. And think of it from their point of view. You are the one that's trapped inside of the egoic limitation. They're not, you are the one who has trouble perceiving. They don't. They're totally fine. They can see and hear and feel you, no problem. But they're aware that you're stuck under this ceiling, let's say, that's blocking you from perceiving them. That's filled with a lot of thought forms and thoughts and emotions. I wanna read to you an excerpt from a book that I love. It is called Journey of Souls, and I don't actually know what page it's on because I, this is on Kindle, but it's at 65% if that helps. So here we go. Basically Journey of Souls is a book where there's this guy who does. Past life regressions with people, but he actually, it's not past life regressions. It's between life regressions. So it's a hypnosis, and he is hypnotized someone, and they are now remembering what it's like to be between lifetimes and they are answering his questions. Okay, so there's the interviewer and then there's the person answering. The person answering right now is answering from an identity of being a spirit guide. So in between lifetimes, this person actually also within Lifetimes, this person is a spirit guide for other incarnated humans. Okay. So this is their conversation. I'm just, I'm gonna skip a little bit, but I'm gonna read some of it here in pieces. So the interviewer is asking this spirit guide, how a human can send a signal to him to get his attention. He says, first they have to calm their minds and focus attention away from their immediate surroundings. How would they do this? The interviewer asks. And he answers, by silence reaching inward to fasten on their inner voice. Is this how one calls for spiritual help? Yes. At least to me, they must expand upon their inner consciousness to engage me on a central thought. On you or the specific problem that is bothering them? Asks the interviewer, and the answer is, they must reach. They must reach out beyond what is troubling them in order to be receptive to me. That is difficult when they don't remain calm. For me, getting the signal is easy. It's harder for people on earth. The energy of directed thought must override human emotion. So check this out. So I'm fast forwarding a little bit to the next page or so. The interviewer asks, when the situation does call for spiritual guidance, what do you do? Because sometimes they talk about how the guide just witnesses, but this is a point where the guide would need to intervene. And so he says, as watchers in the stillness, we recognize the amount of turbulence from the wake of troubled thought. Then we carefully merge with it. And gently touch the mind. One must enter with subtlety to wait for the best receptivity. If one of my company, meaning one of the people that he is a guide for is in crisis, physically hurt, sad, anxious, resentful, they send out great amounts of uncontrolled negative energy, which alerts me, but exhausts them. This is the challenge of a watcher. He's calling himself a watcher to know when and how to communicate. When people want immediate relief, they may not be in the proper mode for reflection. You don't get through to them when they have intense grief, for example, you are shut out of a cluttered mind when attentions are distracted and thought energy is scattered all about. So he has a particular role that he's calling being a watcher. So one more piece here. He says, Watchers are not supposed to intrude. It's more of a soft coupling. I implant ideas, which they assume is inspiration to try and give them peace. Okay, so that was a whole excerpt there. So this is where we need to clear ourselves in order to, it's like, it's like we're an airport and the airplane needs to land at our airport, but if there's a lot of cloud cover or if there's a thunderstorm, the airplane, it might not be able to go through to land. So we can clear that cloud, cover that storm in order to be receptive. How. We can actually send out a signal to ask to be cleared out so that we can receive a signal back. How about that? It's pretty meta. That's what I would recommend. Okay. Let's go to mistakes three and four. Mistake number three, thinking that you are connecting with your guides to get information. What is it in reality? What is the deeper, so, okay, first of all, let me just, honestly, yes, you can get information, but I would argue that that is a, it's like using a Ferrari to drive 25 miles per hour in a school zone. And so don't use your guides as a Google search query. I mean, you can, I'm sorry, I don't want this to be either or. Go ahead and, and ask for help with whatever you want, right? A, a lot of very high beings say. No request is too small. So I redact what I said, but actually I keep my point. My point is is that there's more, so what is the more? Allow yourself, instead of assuming that you're gonna get information, which comes in as a direct knowing. You're going to be receiving transmission. The most important place to receive transmission is for you to be in your heart. Otherwise you can get wonky. And then we're back in number one, around safety and having to worry about safety. If you're doing third eye stuff or stuff in your head centers, there could be some potential risks there. So. It is a misnomer to think that you need to use your third eye for this stuff. If you're in your heart, your whole field is naturally gonna be open and you're gonna be centered in safety. So, for example, when I am receptive to this type of connection, I am in my heart. Okay, so you are actually receiving transmission. What is transmission? I would say the, the best perception of experiencing transmission is that you're experiencing, uh, a state change. That is probably the best metric that I could use to describe this. Maybe we'll go back to that later, but let's move on. Mistake number four, using your guides, using them. Like you use an object. Your guides are not something that you use. Your guides are sacred beings who know more than you. They are not a tool that you use for your own devices. You are God's marionette, as is everybody, and they can see way more in the great cosmic dance that you're going through than you can. And so what I'm pointing to here is respect and reverence and an understanding of what this is truly about. So if we're not here to use our guides like cosmic encyclopedias or. divinators of our future or anything like that to get information, which is really often we do this to dispel fear or meet our anxieties or get something from a egoic desire level. What is this actually about? When it's not that, what, why does this matter and what are we actually doing? Or better yet, the more accurate way to say this is what are they doing with us if we allow them to? Now we're starting to get towards what connecting with our guides is all about. They are waiting for us. They're waiting for us to stop thinking we're alone to stop using them as a commodity to stop objectifying them and to stop thinking that all we really care about and what we really want are egoic desires. They're waiting for us to want, God, whatever you call that, that doesn't have to be your word for it. They're waiting for us to truly want realization. Yes, they're here to help us in the physical world, in our all of our samsara, and they're here to help us get out of it. So how about we start focusing on liberation rather than simply wanting help within the matrix? How about instead the matrix can become a reminder of the fact that every moment is an invitation towards liberation. So rather than quote unquote, using spirituality to help you in your egoic life, it's actually the opposite where you allow your egoic life to point you time and time again through its pleasures and pains towards reaching for spirituality. And your guides are here to help you reach deeper into the true you. This is why this is transmission based. Because the true you is transmission based, the true you is beyond thought. The true you is beyond information. The true you is beyond concept. The true you is beyond needing to have any goal fulfilled. The true you is beyond any particular lifetime that you're living. And so here we are in the place of dissolution. Here we are in the place of understanding that those who we are in connection with, these great beings can be a channel for us towards what they truly are, emanations of, which is the great one, absolute beingness that has no name and no form, and no distinct qualities. So we can become aware for a moment of our guides as bridges for us towards absolute beingness. Bridges that help us know ourselves as absolute beingness. Because they know themselves as absolute beingness and they take form either in the subtle plains or even they incarnate. They take form in order to bring absolute beingness into where we are to be able to touch us. So they're cleansing us out of who we think we are and out of who we even think that they are. To the one, the great one. That everything is just like a living guru does. A true enlightened master, not the false ones, the real ones. What is a guru? Gu means darkness or ignorance. Ru means remover a dispeller of darkness, someone who brings in the light. So our guides can help us heal and awaken so that that ignorance is dispelled so that that ignorance is removed. So that we can know ourselves and reality as what truly is that has always been here. So this comes back to our idea of being in the feminine, being receptive, because ultimately we're not creating anything. This is all about dissolution and unlearning and removing veils, and removing rigidities and separation that comes from trauma. And so as we open to what is available to us, which is emanations of God, beingness, through those that we reach to, those that we reach to simply by opening our hearts and allowing through giving our consent for them to touch us for healing, for awakening. And to teach us how to be in greater communion with them. Through our direct perception, we are focusing our spiritual path towards ultimately our own enlightenment. And this is the highest role that our great saints and masters and gurus and deities in the phrase that I'm using our guides can help us with. So how do we connect with our guides? Ultimately? Let's keep it really simple. We go in the heart, we reach to someone in a lineage that we are a part of spiritually who who is trusted? Why? Because of all the safety stuff that I said before. And also because they are a, a pathway that has been well worn, let's say it's like a path in the woods that a lot of people have walked. So the prayers to this being themselves simply the prayers, simply the mantra or the prayer or the name of this being itself is a portal. Is the presence is transmission and, and emanation. Not only, but also because this path has been walked by so many. It also has the safety and the legitimacy of lineage. So we're in our heart. We are in lineage. We are with a teacher or a guide who is highly trained or extremely perceptive with a high level of discernment. And we are in our receptivity. We are allowing our heart to be soft. We are consenting to be contacted and moreso we are consenting to being contacted in a way that we can perceive if that's something that's important to us and we're not forming conclusions. We're not needing for it to feel a certain way or even needing proof of outcome. We are allowing ourselves to trust that simply through our intention, contact has been made. Even if we don't have proof, that's called faith and trust, and we're allowing ourselves to be authentic with exactly where we're at. Yes, we can ask for help. Yes, we can celebrate and give thanks. Yes, we can simply ask for union to be in shared emanation together. Yes, we can ask for their emanation within us so that we can share their emanation with the world. Yes, we can open and offer ourselves to be cleansed and purified and healed and brought forward into our greatest alignment and greatest open-heartedness so that we can have our greatest awakening. And ultimately enlightenment. So this is way beyond getting information. This is sitting in the transmissions, allowing ourselves to be bathed in these transmissions. And as we are bathed in their transmissions, stuff is gonna come up. Emotions and thoughts are gonna come up, body sensations are gonna come up, energetic movement is gonna come up. And oftentimes it's gonna be stuff that's tough. Why? Because we have just allowed ourselves to open to transmissions of a lot of light, a lot of coherence, and that is going to naturally magnetize whatever has been siphoned off, siloed, fragmented out. It's going to come back to be integrated, to be embraced, to be alchemized back into its true form of, of its true coherence. So it's normal that when we are sitting in these transmission fields, what's actually happening is we're experiencing healing, we're being regenerated. Sometimes depending on the level of perception or the level of depth of what's happening, we're not gonna feel anything at all. It doesn't mean that nothing is happening. It can actually mean that the deepest things are happening because the changes are happening on levels that are so subtle that we can't actually feel them with our mental emotion or physical bodies. And sometimes we do experience it on the level of mind, emotion, and sensation. And when that happens, as I mentioned, it might be old stuff that comes up. We don't need to grasp onto it, we just let it cycle out. And we keep focusing our attention, not on whatever came up, but on the potency of the centeredness and alignment and groundedness and heart openness that we feel, because that's what actually allows us the coherence to be able to handle whatever incoherence might come up as a result of heightened coherence until there is an integration and then there is a sense of peace. Fully without the waves coming through. And last point, just to summarize again, this isn't about fulfilling our egoic desires, but actually allowing ourselves to open into what I personally consider to be the most sacred relationship with our guides, which is not simply using them as, hey guides, can you help me with this and that. But instead turning towards these beacons of God nature to ask to be entrained into the God nature that they are emanations of. So that we can ultimately be in our own awakening and enlightenment journey until we know ourselves as One, until we actually are emanations of this great One. I want to briefly mention that we have a healing school where connecting with our guides, our gurus, our saints, our spiritual teachers in the heaven plains, our highest angels it's the center focus of what we do. So if you're interested in learning more about that, you can go to thegroundoflove.com/healingschool. You can also see the link in the show notes. 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