How to Get Unstuck: Uncover Your Self-Sabotage and Shift Your Mindset (EP44, 1/2)

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Feeling stuck in a rut? Trapped in a situation that no longer serves you? In this episode, we dive deep into how you're sabotaging yourself and what's really holding you back from making the big life changes you know you need to make.

If you're stuck on making a big decision—whether it's ending a relationship, changing careers, or moving to a new city—this episode is for you. We explore the most common ways you're keeping yourself paralyzed: ignoring your intuition, overthinking instead of feeling, waiting for perfect conditions, hoping for a savior, or secretly wishing for a crisis to force your hand.

You'll discover the root causes of your paralysis, not just the surface-level excuses. We'll dive into your actual fears—the existential, survival-level fears that are really running the show. And we'll do the work to shift your mindset so you can finally move forward with authenticity and integrity.

Learn how to stop ruminating in your mind and start listening to your heart. Become aware of the difference between a fear-based reactive place and an intuition-based aligned place. Explore what mindset you need to develop to overcome your self-sabotage and take responsibility for your own life and agency.

This is part one of a two-part series on getting unstuck. In this episode, we focus on awareness, clarity, and the mindset shifts you need. Part two dives into how change actually happens and what actions you can take to move forward.

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When you are in hyperdrive with your thoughts, you are going to be coming from a reactive place. You're gonna be coming from a place of trying to analyze probably from a fear place or an anxiety place. All of that is disconnected from your emotional body and your physical body, from your intuition and your energetic self. What we want is integration. And you're coming from your heart you're coming from your intuition, from a deeper place. Welcome to the Ground of Love. I'm your host, Olivia Frazao. This is a podcast for people who are deeply dedicated to the spiritual journey. You are here for self-growth care, for others, and being of service to the world. This podcast is in service to you to help you remember who you are and why you are here, you will receive inspiration, clarity, and no BS Love. We are walking each other home. Let's begin. Today we are talking about how to get unstuck if you feel like you're in a rut, or how to move forward if you feel like you're in a situation where maybe you need a big life change. Maybe you're stuck on making a big decision. Maybe you're feeling kind of paralyzed in a situation that is no longer serving you, but you can't really find your way out of it. Maybe you're keeping yourself from moving forward by not making any changes or decisions, or not knowing what's right for you. You have fears. There are certain external conditions keeping you stuck. An example of this might be, for example, maybe you're in a relationship or a marriage even, and you're considering if you need to end the relationship. Or it might be the same with a job. Maybe you're needing to change your job or your career. It could be anything. It's... we're talking about a situation where something needs to end, realistically, so that a new, often unknown, next step in your life can happen. You might know what that next step is. You might be thinking,"Okay, should I move or not to a new city?" for example. Well, oftentimes, what we're talking about here is you're in a situation right now that's not serving you. It's different from being kind of in neutrality and wondering what could be a positive next step. This is about you're in a situation where you're not at your best and your life is not at its best, and you might actually need to be the person to get yourself out of that state, out of that reality, and into something that serves you more, into something where you feel more alive, where you feel more connected to yourself, where you feel like life is more fulfilling. Whatever it is that feels like it will be more in alignment with who you are or who you know that you're becoming. Maybe, for example, you entered into a relationship when you were actually a very different person a long time ago when that relationship started, and now you're feeling different and you might be needing different things, for example. There could be a lot of different reasons. So you might find yourself Trying to convince yourself that things are okay the way that they are, even when part of you knows that that's actually not true. Basically, you're settling. You might be giving yourself excuses or trying to make yourself feel better, or tell yourself that this is just how life is, or I've got it good enough. Something like that, where you're kind of rationalizing to yourself why continuing in your situation should somehow feel okay. But part of you isn't buying it, if you're gonna be honest with yourself. Another thing you might be doing is you might be looking for the external world to change and kind of create the change for you or do the work for you as some kind of easy way out from the situation. You're basically letting go of your agency and putting it in someone else's hands or in the hands of circumstance. So some ways that this might happen, you might be waiting or hoping for the situation to magically resolve itself. So for example, let's say you're hoping that your husband will become magically loving or your job will magically become fulfilling. It's some kind of a magical thinking that things will just magically get better. Which things always can, but we are basically just not doing anything, and realistically, the conditions in the outer world are not actually changing, but somehow we expect... some part of us is expecting or hoping that it will magically improve without actually anything realistically pointing in that direction. The other thing we might be waiting for is kind of hoping that some kind of a savior is gonna come along and make that change happen for you. For example, maybe you are afraid of ending a relationship because you're afraid of being alone. So part of you is kind of waiting for some kind of a lover or some kind of affair or someone that you're attracted to or is-- who's attracted to you presents themselves to you,'cause then now you have an easy way out. Now you know what your next step would be, and you just go from one relationship to the other. Or maybe if, let's say, it's about changing your job, you kind of hope that somehow a new perfect job is gonna land in your lap while you're still in your old one. Again, there could be many other examples. I'm just, I'm just using kind of the relationship and the job examples'cause they're very typical. Here's one that's even worse. Part of you might secretly be hoping for a crisis that will force you out of your situation. For example, a health crisis or some other kind of, like, really good excuse, quote-unquote, for you to have to change your life. This is very dangerous. We need to be very careful with this Because we need to be careful what we might actually be attracting if we're leaning on the need for something that is actually painful in order to feel like we can finally liberate ourselves. Let's liberate ourselves through more pleasureful or easeful or at least neutral means. Yes? Okay. Another thing that might be happening is you might be in what I would call a dangerous comfort zone. And this is where things are kind of meh or kind of bad, but they're not too bad. They're not horrible. So you are in the comfort zone of quote-unquote good enough or quote-unquote not that bad. Not that bad is not good. But it's not bad enough to actually motivate you to create change. So you could hang out in the not that bad version of your life for potentially ever if you're not careful. And that's okay if that's what you want. But we need to be honest about why you're at where you're at and why you might be telling yourself or saying to your friends that you're not happy, something's off, you just need a change. Maybe you don't really know what that is or you have this dream, but you feel like it's not really accessible. We need to get real with where you're at so that you don't kind of coast through your life accepting and settling in something where you never actually have the motivation for change, even though this is secretly or not so secretly really not what you want. So we are going to look at first how we need awareness and clarity of what is happening. So we're going to go through that. We're going to find awareness and clarity on your situation, looking at what the mechanics are of what your excuses are, how you're sabotaging yourself. What are your actual fears behind what you say that isn't working for you or that you might be apprehensive about if you created a change? What's the linchpin here that's really holding you in some kind of a self-sabotage? What kind of mindset do you need? What mindset do you have now, but what do you actually need in order to be able to move forward? So we're going to be looking at that in part one, which is this episode. Basically awareness and clarity, as I said, mindset. What's really going on? Let's get real. In the next episode, part two, we're going to look at how change happens and how we can support ourselves towards positive change. Okay? What are actually the mechanics of change, and what can you do to get yourself going through the transition that might be where you really need to go next? Okay, so let's dive into part one. Here we go. What are your excuses and/or how are you sabotaging yourself? Let's get into this. Are you ignoring your intuition or fighting with it? In this case, you would be overly focused on your mind, analyzing, ruminating, or you would be basically putting... externalizing authority, putting the authority in somebody else's hands, meaning your, your therapist or your tarot reader or your mom's opinions, somebody, somebody external to you, someone who's not you, being the one who somehow is gonna know what you need to do or what's right for you. And so you're actually not listening to how you actually feel. Basically, you are foregoing agency and responsibility. You get to be the child, and someone else is the adult telling you what they think and what you should do. Let's get back to what I said around being overly focused on the mind. That's the other one. This is very important, very, very important. Thinking about it can keep you trapped outside of yourself while thinking that you're being productive. Thinking about it can actually be an excuse because you can actually be running in place. Ruminating is not helping you. You are on a loop. You are running on a circular track around and around yourself. It is not going to actually get you anywhere, and we need to be careful. And I understand that some people are very structured thinkers. They need their pros and cons list. And I want to invite everyone, whether this is natural for you or feels like a stretch, to listen to your intuition, to literally breathe in your chest, meaning feel your heart, get to a place of calm, and from that place, getting honest with yourself. When you are in hyperdrive with your thoughts, you are going to be coming from a reactive place. You're gonna be coming from a place of projection, a place of probably repeating the past in ways that might not necessarily be good for you, a place of trying to analyze probably from a fear place or an anxiety place. All of that is disconnected from your emotional body and your physical body, from your intuition and your energetic self. What we want is integration. Meaning all parts of you are actually active and alive and in relation with each other, and you're coming from your heart, as I said. You're coming from your intuition, from a deeper place. That is the ideal. Let's look at how you might be sabotaging yourself in other ways. Perfect conditions, that's what you want. You want the perfect conditions to finally end the relationship. You want the perfect conditions to finally start the new career. You want the perfect conditions to finally start whatever it is that you wanna start or finally end whatever it is that you wanna end. Those perfect conditions haven't happened yet, so you can sit in basically an excuse that you don't have to do anything, you don't have to act because the perfect conditions have not yet arrived, so you're off the hook. This is an excuse for action. Similarly, you might want conditions that are so perfect that opportunities are actually coming to you, but they're not good enough, and you're ignoring them. There might actually be moments where the door opens and says,"Hey, do you wanna walk through right now?" But you actually don't. Maybe you want the conditions to be even more perfect. Maybe you make another excuse as to why you're not ready. Maybe you make another excuse as to why you need to try again in the status quo. Let's look at another self-sabotage. The other thing you might be doing is wanting a quick solution in the sense of like a quick fix, in the sense of working with the symptoms of the problem and not the root of the problem. So we need to look at where are we trying to kind of create a Band-Aid solution rather than accept the fact that there is something much deeper that keeps... that is persistent or keeps recreating itself, where it doesn't really matter- How much you prune, that thing is gonna keep growing. For example, there's a possibility that you are simply incompatible with your partner, but you keep trying to shape each other to meet in the middle, and it's not realistically happening. You're trying to make each other what you are not and what you can't and won't be. You're working with the symptoms rather than the root of the issue, which is life is actually taking us in different directions, or we have always been incompatible or something like that. That's just an example. So last one in the list of how you might be sabotaging yourself. You don't wanna face what you don't wanna face. You do not want to acknowledge the truth. You're in denial. You're turning away. You are hiding part of the problem, complaining about some of it, but not actually wanting to own how bad it is, and thus you're not owning your agency on what to do about it. This is similar to simply not wanting to put in the effort or the work. But when I say it that way, it sounds like laziness. That's not what I mean. There's actually an avoidance here because the avoidance is an avoidance of a pain or a reality that feels too painful to acknowledge. So it's not about blaming yourself for it. It's about creating more safety so that you can actually have the capacity or the support to face what has been very difficult to face, to acknowledge feelings, thoughts, circumstances, needs that might be very difficult to name them as they are. So what's the linchpin here? This is what we're looking for. This is the opposite of not being able to face it. Let's face it now. The question here is: What are your actual fears? As I had said, we don't want to go for the symptom level. We wanna go for the root level. In this case, we don't want to go for derivative fears or surface level fears. We want to go to the root fear. For example Let's say the fear is upsetting the other person. Let's say the fear is money. Ultimately, when... We're gonna keep asking ourselves,"What's behind that? What's-- What else am I fearing? Why am I fearing that? What's the fear behind that?" Ultimately, when we feel the real fear, it's gonna be an existential fear. It's gonna be a survival-level fear. For example, I'm not gonna belong anymore. I'm gonna be exiled. I'm gonna be alone. Very typical one. Or I'm not gonna be able to handle it. I'm not gonna be able to make ends meet. I'm not gonna be able to survive on my own. Another very typical one. We're looking at survival on a human bonding level, and we're looking at survival on a material level with both of those examples. There could be other fears that I'm not naming right now that are more personal to you or to the... or specific to the situation. You know when you have hit that fear because it's gonna rattle you to your core. You're gonna feel it in your body. And it might feel paralyzing. It might feel very contracting. And all we can do is give it love and tenderness and patience and acceptance. So we can put soft, loving hands on our chest or our solar plexus or our belly, for example. We can take long, slow, deep breaths and let that fear basically vibrate its way through our body. What we don't wanna do ever is make decisions from a fear place. We want to f- we want to find out what the true fear is, so that we can be honest with ourselves of what it is that's truly holding us back. When we experience the fear, we are always gentle with ourselves, as I said, and we are working on regulating our nervous system. We are presencing ourselves somatically with gentleness. When we are in fear, the worst thing to do is to try to think about our life or what we should do or, heaven forbid, act from that place in that moment Anything that our brain is gonna come up with when we're afraid is gonna be limiting beliefs. Any way that we act when we're afraid is gonna be reactive from a survival impulse, basically. So we don't act from that place. We do not draw conclusions from that place. We simply feel it in our body. We acknowledge that it's there, and we acknowledge what is actually running the show of our daily life as we're having judgments, and opinions, and dreams, and frustrations, or what- where- wherever else we're at, however else we're feeling, and however else we are thinking and acting. We wanna be honest with ourselves to actually know where it's all coming from. That is empowering. Feeling that out of control, feeling that weakness on purpose because we're searching for honesty within ourselves is strengthening and empowering. We just wanna have a container of a witnessing self, a mindful witness as it's happening, and a loving, caring, compassionate witness and presence to ourselves as it's happening. That's the difference between healing and creating a disaster for yourself. The difference is mindful witness and presence. There are basically two of you. There's the you that's paying attention and presencing yourself with love, and there's the you that's freaking out. There's two of you. That is health and healing. The dangerous side is when there's only one of you, the one that's afraid. Nobody watching. Nobody babysitting it. Nobody tending to it. That's where we need to be careful. Sometimes we'll do crazy things from that place, but the most typical way to know if you're stuck there is because you will be ruminating. So ask your friends if you've been on the phone with them for an hour complaining about something. That is a sign that you have basically jumped from your fear on the somatic level into the mind level, and now your mind is spinning. You're not getting anywhere. Need... We need to go back to the body level. And I'm asking what is your actual fear simply for clarity, simply for self-honesty because now we can't be in denial. We don't need to give ourselves excuses. We don't need to try to convince ourselves to settle. We're simply owning what's true without judgment towards ourselves or anybody else. This is simply the circumstance. This is simply where I'm at. This is simply how it lands for me. It is crucial in all of these situations that we do not fall into the victim-perpetrator dynamic with- within ourselves or with others This is not about blaming yourself or anybody else. Wherever you're at with this situation, that's not good for you. When we continuously blame the other person, we're victimizing ourselves and taking away our own agency. We're forgetting to ask ourselves,"What do I want and need? And how do I need to honor myself and support myself in order to actually get there?" Rather than waiting for somebody else to be perfect for us, and getting really frustrated and resentful when they don't, and feeling really powerless when they don't. So in that case, they are the perpetrator, and we are the victim. What we also don't wanna do is make ourselves our own perpetrator, like basically getting down on ourselves, shaming ourselves, blaming and judging ourselves."I should have done this. I should be better about this. I should be more competent about this. Oh my God, how did I get myself into this situation? Oh, I'm not good enough to get out of it." All these negative limiting beliefs that actually corrode our own sense of self and self-esteem. So no shame and blame here. Positive mindset. Creator mindset. So let's look now... I'm already getting into it. Let's look now at what mindset do you need to help yourself become strong and become capable of whatever change is likely next when you say yes to it, when you say yes to yourself? So let's review. One, where are you sourcing your inner information from? Your intuition or your ruminating mind? We already went through this one. How can you begin to trust, prioritize, and access your intuition? How? Do you need someone else's support? Do you need to simply take the time to close your eyes and breathe? Do you need to maybe practice mindfulness meditation, let's say, every morning? Do you need to get honest with where you override yourself and don't respect and listen to yourself? Do you need to get honest with the fact that your intuition has already been telling you something for a very long time, and you've been denying it, simply really, really not wanting it to be true? But you need to own the fact that it is true, and that it has been telling you the same message for quite a while now. It doesn't mean it's easy news, but we need to honor ourselves by listening to that inner voice inside of ourselves that is coming from a place of truth, not convenience, not people-pleasing, not fear-based negotiation of,"Let me make all these sacrifices in order to feel like I can survive," but actually from a place of greater inner strength and inner self-love. This is what we're looking for, and this is what we're listening to. Number two, remember we're talking about the conditions? What are the conditions that you need for change? We need to go towards the mindset that accepts that you cannot wait for the perfect conditions. Or you can, but you need to understand that they might never happen. And you gotta get real with yourself and asking yourself,"Am I endlessly pushing this forward to have to deal with it tomorrow rather than today in all those endless tomorrows using conditions as an excuse, avoiding yourself?" So instead, is it right for you if you are listening to your intuition, is it honest and correct for you to simply act in all of the messiness that's currently happening? It is what it is. I need to act. These are my circumstances. They're not ideal. I need to start making moves. It's important for us to understand that there will be a transition period between wherever you're at now and whatever the new equilibrium will be. Transition periods are messy. They can be scary because they are disorganized, they are unknown, they are sometimes fly by the seat of your pants kind of vibe. Sometimes you can feel like you have a foot in each place, or sometimes you can feel like you're floating and you don't know where, where ground is. The conditions will show up in time when we start creating them ourselves. Number three, begin to accept and trust that you will not see the future from where you are currently standing. It's like wanting to sail across a big ocean and wanting to see what's on the other side of the horizon already. There's gonna be more horizon, and then more horizon, and then more horizon. All you're gonna see and all you need to see is the next step. There is a poem by David Whyte that I love. By the way, that's spelled David W-H-Y-T-E. Highly recommend him. The poem is called Start Close In, and it starts like this. Start close in, don't take the second step, or the third. Start with the first thing, close in, the step you don't want to take. Oftentimes we know what that step is, but we don't want to take it because we're waiting to find out all the other steps that it would lead to, and then we can decide if it's okay. But that's not what we are capable of seeing from where we are currently standing. We need to accept that one step will lead to the other once we take it. Number three, what level, what layer of this situation are you addressing, the symptom or the root? And how can you keep digging to the root of the problem? Number four, do you have a sense of deservingness and trust? Let's look into each one. Deservingness, worthiness, a sense of self-dignity, self-love, empowerment. Dare I say, a healthy level of entitlement. A healthy level. An entitlement that says,"Yes, I deserve this." It doesn't mean you're gonna throw anybody else under the bus. That would be the unhealthy level of entitlement. So we need to look at where am I disappearing myself? Where am I assuming that I'm unworthy of something? Where am I assuming that I am incapable of something? Where am I listening to maybe negative things other people have said about me in the past, and I'm focusing on that? Or where have I told myself that I don't deserve to be happy or fulfilled, and I must sacrifice myself because let's say that's what my family has always done, or my culture says that I should do. For example, let's say women have to sacrifice themselves for men and the family or something like that. Where is it that, you know, in some cultures it's like,"Oh, well, if I choose what's truly true for me, then I'm dishonoring my family," right? Sometimes these are cultural level and familial level belief systems that disappear our own sovereignty from ourselves. Sometimes it's from maybe a childhood of being bullied, or maybe not receiving affection from parents growing up or whatever. And so we're kind of living with this lack of knowing what we truly deserve. What we deserve is what is healthy, honest, and authentic for ourselves. We deserve what is fulfilling and true for ourselves. This is obviously assuming that we're not causing harm to other people as a result. But again, if you are stuck in the people pleaser role, if you are stuck in sacrificing yourself, you need to consider,"Am I actually harming other people, or am I... have I gone to the other extreme, where because I don't wanna harm other people, I'm not being honest with myself or them. I'm not being authentic. I'm not being who I truly am." So I had said having a sense of deservingness and trust. Let's go to trust now. Do you trust that a good life is possible? Do you trust that it's simply possible? Do you trust that more could be out there for you than you have allowed yourself to dream of? Have you stopped dreaming? And what would it be like to simply begin to dream again? Because dreaming starts giving us new realities to include within our cachet of what we think reality is. We're expanding reality through simply our dreaming, through simply our fantasy, through simply our desire. Nobody's gonna get in trouble for thinking about beautiful things. Can you start practicing the part of your brain that thinks about exciting things, that thinks about fulfilling things, that thinks about images, people, experiences, relationships, careers Routines, ways of living, ways of feeling your own self, ways of expressing yourself that feel fulfilling and enlivening to you. And through that imagination, we can start to expand maybe even our expectation for what life can truly be, and we can begin to learn to trust that life can truly hold any future if we are bold enough to offer ourselves to its possibility. Number five, about what mindset do we need to move forward. This is similar to the trust piece that I was just talking about. Make friends with the unknown. Change is not the enemy. Yes, change can be scary. As I said before, we need to accept that there is a transition period that will come if we are ending something that has been stable, even in its potential dysfunction, it has become somehow the status quo. When we let go of that, we will be entering into a transition period of a lot of question marks because, as we talked about, we only see the one next step. All the other steps are question marks. People want to go from the known to the next known, and for the next known to be good, right? That's where we get the devil you know is better than the devil you don't know. People would rather be in a S-H-I-T-T-Y situation because at least they know what it is versus not knowing whether something better or something worse might come along if we jump out of that. The transition period is simply a period of open possibility towards what is to come. And what is our relationship with open possibility? What is our relationship with the unknown? What is our relationship with what I will call divine will? What is our relationship with what you could call your life path? What do you believe about how things happen or why they happen? What is your belief system around personal will and divine will? What is your belief system around the great order of things? What is your belief system around healing and development and evolution? You can start wondering and feeling and inquiring inside of yourself. Is the way that I am looking at how change happens or how development happens serving me? What could be potentially a more empowering or a more trusting view where I can make friends with what life may have to offer me through the unknown? When we're talking about transition and change and moving through that transition time, you may like episode thirty-eight. It's called The Spiritual Meaning and Esoteric Symbolism of Easter: Ego Death, Spiritual Rebirth, and the Transformation Process. Doesn't matter if you're not Christian. This is a very symbolic and relevant way of explaining Easter that I did in this episode thirty-eight, where it will be relevant to anyone going through change. That was my goal. It's not a specifically religious episode. It's an episode that really can be relevant to all of us. Okay. So if you are being authentic with yourself, if you are being honest with yourself, and if you are being in integrity with your highest values, you are on the right path, and you can trust yourself, and you can trust the inner messages that you're getting in your heart. It doesn't mean that the transition that you may need to go towards is easy. It doesn't mean that you are not gonna be upset. It doesn't mean that you're not gonna upset other people. But what it does mean is there is a feeling of feeling an integrity with yourself, of being whole inside, and saying as difficult as the impact of accepting these realities may be, and as difficult as the impact of how my life needs to change and maybe other people's lives need to change as a result of me owning what is true, I can feel a sense of relief inside of myself for having a match between who I am and what I'm doing, between what my heart is feeling and what my mind is thinking, between what I'm thinking and what I'm saying, between who I am and how I'm living. There is a coherence. We are at home within ourselves, and we can be at peace with ourselves. I would say the biggest sign of not being where you need to be in life is that you're not at peace with yourself. Part of you is betraying yourself in some way, or part of you is abandoning yourself in some way. So where are you betraying yourself if you're gonna be really honest? Where are you abandoning yourself if you're gonna be really honest? And if you're gonna be really honest right now, you're the only one listening to your own thoughts in this moment, do this right now, what is authentically true for you around this topic? If you're gonna be really honest, what is an honest no for you around whatever topic it is that you're dealing with? What is a, what is an honest no? What do you actually just not want? Even if you feel like you should, what do you actually just not want? And what is an authentic yes for you? What do you actually want, even if you're afraid of acknowledging it? Just in this moment, just in the privacy of your own mind, what do you secretly, and actually if you're really being honest with yourself, just truly want? And what would it take? What do you need to accept that comes up as like an,"Oh, but uh-oh," when you name those things, what is that in-between thing, that thing that gets in between you and yourself, the thing that blocks you from your authenticity? What is that, that you need to handle, that you need to accept, that you need to name, that you need to be accountable for, that you need to own? that you need to act on or heal so that you can be in integrity with yourself, in coherence within yourself. That's the path forward. Acknowledging the true authenticity, paying attention to what comes up as a, as an attempt to get you out of your authenticity, owning that, healing that, and coming back into your authenticity as an act of integrity with yourself and honesty with yourself, and thus with everybody else too. When you are in that authenticity and integrity, as I said, you're on the right path. You can trust that. It might be hard, as I said, but there is a settling inside of yourself. Very different from when I said settling with whatever the outer circumstance is, when people say,"Oh, I'm just gonna settle." Right? That's what you were doing before. Now there's a true settling, meaning you can finally rest. You can finally come home and exhale. There is a ground that you are arriving to. Even though it's gonna take a transition period, it's gonna take really difficult conversations, it's gonna take a lot of unknown, it's gonna take maybe being rejected by other people, it's gonna take maybe having to survive on a material level in a way that before you had a safety net and now you don't, it's gonna take all that stuff. So the outer world through this transition admittedly might get harder, at least for a while. But inside, there's finally a new sense of peace, and that's when you know you're truly on the right path. So stay tuned for the next episode where we are going to do part two, and we will discuss how change happens, looking at the mechanics of change, and how we can support ourselves towards positive change. What actions can you take to get the ball rolling? thank you for being with me in The Ground of Love. You can follow this podcast to receive the next episodes, and who is it that comes to mind to share this episode with? Please go ahead and pass this along to them and go ahead and leave a review or a rating if you wish. I thank you for that. For one-on-one healing sessions and a group membership. you can go to www.thegroundoflove.com Blessings to you. May you be protected, held, regenerated centered. And taken forward with all light, love, truth and highest and best health and wellbeing on all levels and taken forward to make the greatest, most beautiful impact doing exactly what you're here to do. God bless you. Protection, grace, protection, grace. So it is.