How to Get Unstuck: How Change Happens and How You Can Take Action (EP45, 2/2)

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This is part 2 of our 2 part episode series on getting unstuck, where we explore how change actually happens and why you might be sabotaging yourself from moving forward.

We dive into the physics of change—how getting unstuck requires building kinetic energy and momentum. You'll learn about the energetic relationship between your inner world and outer world: how your internal frequency must shift before external circumstances can change. We talk about frequency alignment, divine timing versus personal will, and the balance between surrender and agency.

The practical side covers how to break paralysis through small steps, introducing movement, and taking action instead of being reactive. We discuss visualization as a tool for exploring different possibilities, and why becoming a different person internally is what allows your life to calibrate externally.

A big part of this conversation is about support—what it actually means to get help without someone pushing their agenda or reinforcing your fears.

Part 2 of a two-part series. You can start here or go back to Episode 44 for Part 1.

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We explore what it means to get unstuck and break free from self-sabotage and life stagnation. We dig into decision-making when you feel stuck, personal transformation, and how to build momentum through energy and action. There's a lot about frequency alignment and inner work—why your internal shifts matter more than external circumstances. We talk about visualization as a tool for exploring possibilities, and how manifesting real change requires balancing divine timing with personal agency. We look at the difference between taking action and just reacting, how limiting beliefs keep us stuck, and why authentic relationships and genuine support are crucial. Throughout, we're really focused on breaking paralysis and overcoming the obstacles that feel like they're holding you back—and understanding what those obstacles actually are.

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Transcript

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Welcome to the Ground of Love. I'm your host, Olivia Frazao. This is a podcast for people who are deeply dedicated to the spiritual journey. You are here for self-growth care, for others, and being of service to the world. This podcast is in service to you to help you remember who you are and why you are here, you will receive inspiration, clarity, and no BS Love. We are walking each other home. Let's begin. Today we're talking about how to get unstuck from a situation where you feel like you're in a rut or you need to make a big decision that you're stuck on. There's something in your life that needs to change. Maybe you've been feeling stagnant. You don't really know how to get out of whatever life phase you've been in that's not working for you, and you are somehow sabotaging yourself from moving forward. This is part two. In episode 44, the episode right before this one, we did part one. You are welcome to start here if you wish, or you can go back to that one and then come back to this one. We are looking here at a situation where you have fears. There may be external conditions that might be keeping you stuck, but ultimately you feel like you need to move forward, but you don't really know how. In the last episode, we talked about finding awareness and clarity of what is happening. No excuses, no blind spots, getting clear on what the mechanics are of how you've been seeing things and how you actually need to see things in order to get clarity, in order to have authenticity with yourself, and in order to actually create a mindset that will help you move forward. In this episode, we're gonna talk about how change happens and how we can support ourselves towards positive change. So let's get going with that. How does change happen? First of all, this is the million-dollar question. You can say that God has its mysterious ways, and ultimately, most importantly, life is a huge mystery that we will never be able to pin down. So I'm gonna start with that disclaimer. Specifically, when I talk about how change happens right now, we're talking about how transition happens. We're talking about how to get from A to B through a gap. There is some kind of a status quo that you are Kind of continuing. There is a momentum, even if the momentum is of stagnation itself. There is a, let's say, magnetism that you are constantly kind of sucked within, into whatever feels normal to you, whatever you are calibrated to in your nervous system. For some people, calm is normal. For some people, agitation is normal. Either way, that's what feels familiar to them. We are magnetized towards the familiar. Logistically, it is annoying, to be v- very colloquial about it, it's annoying to create change. Let's say you're moving. It's really annoying to move from one house to another house. You have to pack up the boxes, you have to paint the new house, you have to unpack, you have to buy new furniture, et cetera. All... It is... There is an investment in creating change. There is less energy expenditure in maintaining the status quo. So why does this matter? We need to understand that this is simply a math equation. It's physics. How is a ball going to roll up a hill? You need to give it kinetic energy. It needs to have enough momentum to overcome gravity. Another example would be, how does something move across friction? A, a space that's not smooth, but that has friction, right? It needs to have kinetic energy. It needs to have a push. How do we give a push that is bigger than whatever units of force are keeping you in your status quo? You either need to move past a friction zone, or you might even need to go uphill. Just like when you're driving a car, a manual car, you need to put the car in first gear to go up the hill. It needs to have enough, whatever that's called, horsepower or whatever, I'm not a car person, enough energy and force to be able to combat gravity and create movement. Eventually, you can get to second, third, fourth, fifth, sixth gears when you're coasting more, when you have that momentum that's already taking you through, both in terms of the speed of the car and in terms of the fact that now you're at a... you're in a territory where you might actually be going downhill now. So how is this a metaphor for what we're going through? We need to give ourselves, quote-unquote, "the car"- First gear inside of ourselves to, as I said, either go through what you wanna envision as a friction or what you wanna envision as maybe an uphill battle right now. Inside us, we gotta find first gear. Once we have movement, it will be easier to continue moving. And because we have been moving, the territory that we are going to end up in can eventually become downhill territory where we can coast, where the car can even be in neutral if it wants to, and it's gonna go down with gravity, right? So we are looking at simply two, let's say, units, two numbers. First one, what is the number of units there are of whatever kind of difficulty you're gonna need to surmount? Whatever the roadblocks are, whatever the obstacles are, whatever that force that seems to be keeping you in place is. Give that a number. And then what is the number right now of how much you are revving up your energy internally to be able to overcome that? So let's say the obstacles feel like a fifty. Okay, this is just random. You can pick any number you want. It's just about how they relate relative to each other, Let's say the roadblocks feel like a fifty. What is the amount of potential energy that you are starting to create inside of yourself and the amount of kinetic energy that can then come out of you in action to be able to overcome those roadblocks? You need to get to at least a fifty-one. But let's say right now you're at a ten. You're gonna be feeling fatigued. You're gonna be feeling weighted down. You might be feeling depleted. Your energy might be leaky. You might have no gas in your gas tank. You might be carrying a heavy load and not actually knowing that you are or what exactly is in it. So in order to overcome the barrier in this physics equation, in order to overcome the friction, or in order to go up the hill, in order to handle the obstacle, we need to up your level of energy. We need to get you forward momentum. Taking action requires chutzpah. You gotta be alive for it. You need qi, prana, life force energy. You need strength. You need willpower. You need stamina. You need momentum. Change will happen in your outer world and your capacity to take action in your outer world when you have first filled your own cup energetically within literally your body and your body mind, emotional and mental bodies also. So in order to create movement in your life, you can start with creating movement in your own body, literally. Like literally taking more walks, for example, or going to the gym. What you're doing is you're finding your inn-innate and inner energy again. So here I talked a little bit about how change happens, and I also started touching on the next theme, which is what actions can you take? Okay? Change happens through this physics equation of needing enough energy to overcome whatever the stagnation force is. So in order for us to actually take action on that framework We gotta find our own inner energy in order to be able to handle our life circumstances. Okay, let's go to another view on how change happens. How do we actually shift from one type of life to another type of life? How do we actually shift from one way of relating with people to another? How do we actually shift from one way of, let's say, relating with money, or from how we tend to experience who is coming into our life, like new people that we're meeting. Maybe they're a new type of person, right? We're not just constantly repeating the same maybe relational dynamics that don't serve us, right? Always dating the same person even though you've dated 10 different people kind of thing. Let's look at this. Your inner life is going to be a match to your outer life. So let's say your inner life is... And there's no good or bad about any of this, I'm just being totally random. Let's say your inner life is green, then your outer life is gonna be green too. So let's say today you are green inside, okay? That's just where you're at in this phase of your life, in these past few months or years. You're like the green vibe of yourself. The people that you are going to attract, let's say you're single and you're dating, the people you're going to attract are green people too, because that's who you are going to have resonance with. People who have a similar vibe, let's say. Even if a similar vibe, in this case, when I'm talking about, let's say, dating, might even be a polarity to you, I'm still saying similar vibe in the sense where there's, there's a magnetism to each other through a particular energetic signature, okay? So I don't care, in this example, if you really want to, you can be like, "Oh, but if I'm green, I'm gonna be attracting pink, and pink attracts me." Fine, but then that's just gonna make my metaphor a little more complicated, but it would still work. So let's keep going. So let's say you start... You're green, and you start dating this green person, okay? And great, we're so compatible, and you get married, and then you actually become more blue, okay? Your inner life has shifted. Your deeper values have shifted. Maybe your spirituality has shifted. Something pretty core. And maybe you're doing personal growth and they're not, or vice versa. Maybe, I don't know what, but there is some... There is a way that you feel about yourself, about life, about reality, really core things, the way that you wanna show up, the activities that you wanna do, the types of people you wanna hang out with, the things that you're interested in, that has shifted from the green world of things to, let's say, blue now. Okay? So inside, you now resonate with blue more than you resonate with green. But who are you with? You're with someone who's still green. Now there's gonna be a conflict because your inner world and your outer world are no longer a match, and there's gonna be some kind of an irritation there. Now, you gotta be careful because in order to keep matching your environment, you might be like, "Oh, but I guess I should keep trying to be green." That would not be authentic to yourself. That's not where you're at anymore. So again, if people really wanted the polarity thing, in this case, I could simply say that now that you're blue, rather than wanting a pink person, you would feel connected with, like, a yellow person, okay? For whoever wants those nuances. So let's say... Let's give another example. Oh, sorry, let me finish what I was just saying. So let's say in that relationship, realistically, there is a possibility that you might actually no longer be compatible with that person. Now, you might not be compatible with them right now, but maybe what you don't know is they are, are growing too, and shifting too, and changing too, and it might just so happen that you guys were both green, and now you guys are both gonna be blue, but you ended up at blue before they did, and now you have to be patient, and it's a little awkward while they kind of, you know, have a different timeline of where they're at and what's important to them and how they're changing. But eventually, you might both end up at blue together and then, great, you're still compatible, even though there was this awkward in-between time, right? Maybe not. Maybe they actually just really wanna stay green. Again, I'm not saying neither one is good or bad or whatever. There's no... I'm not... There's no actual definition to what green and blue mean. It's simply the fact that we are, let's say, running at different frequency levels in comparison to how we were before or in comparison to each other. So let's consider a situation where we want change, but we actually are still in agreement to our outer circumstance. Okay, this is different because in the relational example that I just gave, you actually did change internally, and then you look around and you're like, "Oh, my God, I'm not a match to my life anymore," right? Let's give a new example where, let's say you are in your job that you don't like. It's boring or it's overly taxing, it's not fulfilling, and you want out. But you don't know what other job to go to. You don't even know if you're into this career, but even if that's the question, you don't even know what other career you would want. Or yeah, realistically, you would know what the other jobs are, but maybe you're afraid of getting into the job market, or you're afraid of not getting a good enough salary, whatever, whatever. In this case... Let's use n- different colors this time. Let's say you are red and the job is red. And what you're hoping for is... What's a color I haven't used yet? Purple. What you're hoping for is a purple type of job or a purple type of routine, right? A different type of work life. What would that look like? Let's say you would need to be more proactive. Let's say you would need to feel more confident about money. Let's say you would need to put yourself out there more and risk being rejected. Let's say those are inner qualities in yourself that would match a new purple job life, but you don't have those qualities yet. You are not purple on the inside yet. So the outside purple, let's say, would be, I don't know, more... um, let's say a more entrepreneurial career, right? It would require a different inner stance within yourself. It would require basically aspects of your personality that might still need to be developed. So in this case, you're a red person in a red job wanting a purple job. In order to get a purple job, first you need to become a purple person. So you gotta do the inner work first to shift your internal world first. You're gonna shift your frequency. Your current frequency is hooked in to whatever you're matching in your outer world. If you wanna stop being hooked in to whatever you're matching to in the outer world, you gotta shift who you are in your inner world, and then you're no longer gonna be a dimensional match. You're no longer gonna be what I would call in dimensional relevance. You're gonna be irrelevant to each other. There's not gonna be any meeting place anymore. And so literally, life will make that thing fall off of you. You're, or you're gonna fall off of that thing. There's no hook anymore. The thing... Y- you're just gonna fall off of each other, right? If you wanna go back to the relational example, this is where you were green, now you're blue, your partner's still green, and you look at them and you're like, "Oh my God, I, I just... We're just not meeting eye to eye anymore. We're just falling off of each other." Right? And maybe we're trying to salvage it. We're trying to, like, act like maybe we can still make this work. But realistically, there's just nothing there anymore. And it can be shocking because there was such dimensional relevance before, and now all of a sudden, it's just not a match. There's n- there's not enough holding The glue. The dimensions have... You're, you're now operating in different dimensions from each other. So sometimes, as I said in the relational example, it's like, "Oh my God, that has already happened." And sometimes, as I said in the job example, we want it to happen, but we need to actually heal ourselves, heal our limiting beliefs, look at our fears, be with them, find our empowerment, find our motivation, our inner movement, find our desires and our values, all of that stuff, to help ourselves switch from whatever frequency range we're currently in that's matching to what we don't want to a new inner frequency that can match to what we do want, and that takes work, but we can do it. Okay. How does change happen? We need to look at a whole other piece here, which is divine timing. It is very important for us to acknowledge that ultimately, there is a balance here between personal willpower and what you could call God's will or divine timing. There is a natural timing to things. One of the things that I do is facilitating constellation work. In constellation work, which some people know as family constellation work, I do both family constellation work and another type of constellation work called spiritual constellations. What we learn in... And if you don't know what this modality is, don't worry about it. I'm not gonna get into it right now. I'm just gonna get you to the end point of, of why I'm bringing this up. What we see in constellation work undeniably is that certain steps need to happen before other steps. Certain pieces of the puzzle need to shift before other pieces of the puzzle can shift. We cannot skip steps. What puzzle am I naming here? Ultimately, and this can get very vast, ultimately, we're talking about the conglomeration of all of us together. Basically, the co-arising, as you would say in Buddhism. We are all interconnected. All of these threads of happenings, of moment upon moment, event to event, are affecting each other in this huge web of these infinite causes and effects. That are all interlaced with each other in this amazing synchrony, like God's choreography. And so we need to, yes, put ourselves out there. Yes, do our own work. Yes, not make excuses. Yes, own our agency. And everything has its natural timing. Sometimes it is simply not time yet for change. Sometimes we are going to be pregnant with the idea of change, gestating this idea of change in our inner life for a long time, and then all of a sudden, boom, it's the day for change, and the birth of that change happens in an instant. Right? When we think about the birth of, of a baby, the arrival of a baby on Earth, the baby has been arriving on Earth for nine months already in physical form. We just see the baby with our eyes because we don't have X-ray vision, most of us, through somebody's womb to see the baby's right there, right? Except for an ultrasound, obviously. We see the baby like, "Oh, the baby arrived on their birthday." They didn't arrive on their birthday. They were there the day before too. They were just inside of something, so you couldn't see them. Right? It's like a present in a box. Like, the present is still in there. Probably don't need that metaphor. It's really obvious about the baby. So we can be gestating a new reality for a very long time, and that's totally fine. That's fantastic because it's growing. There actually is movement even when we can't see it, and that is also why there's this crazy and amazing thing that can happen where when it's finally time for that change, it feels like, "Oh my God, how did that happen that quickly?" Well, it's been gestating. It's been gestating in the non-physical worlds, and now all of a sudden it has materialized because all it had to do was just traverse a tiny veil between non-physical and physical, and here it is. Another less esoteric way of saying that is it has been gestating maybe in our inner world, maybe in our thoughts, maybe in our desires, maybe in learning to allow ourselves to potentially accept something, and then all of a sudden, when we have finally potentially accepted something, right? When we have finally shifted from one color to the other inside of ourselves, boom, the thing can now materialize. One reason I want to talk about natural timing is so that we don't force ourselves or blame and shame ourselves. We talked already in the last episode, part one- About the danger of either settling or giving away our agency to kind of waiting for a savior to come or waiting for someone else's opinion, or maybe even waiting for a crisis because we're not taking action, okay? That is some kind of a stagnation and a world of excuses and self-sabotage. That requires, as a solution, or let's say a countermeasure, it requires chutzpah, personal will, revving our engine, making choice, taking accountability, grabbing our agency, and going for it, right? That would be the opposite of the sabotage and the excuses and whatever. So we covered that. Natural timing or divine timing. This is as a reminder to people who might have gone the other extreme, okay? Rather than the whole holding themselves back thing, maybe now, if this is you, I'm talking to the people who have been trying and trying and trying and not getting anywhere and been like, "But I'm trying, I'm trying, I'm trying. Why am I not getting anywhere?" Right? I have been putting in my personal will. Well, in this case, first of all, there could be a blind spot around what's the hook that you haven't unhooked yet that's keeping you in dimensional relevance to the thing you're trying to run from but feel like you can't. And/or, and this is not necessarily, um, a separate argument, there is simply a natural timing, there is simply a divine timing, where the thing hasn't arrived yet. It's not time yet. Something needs to gestate further. And accepting that and yielding to that, surrendering to divine timing, can remove that over-efforting that can burn ourselves out, both in terms of literally expending energy that is too much for us to expend 'cause we can't replace it as quickly as we're expending it, or psychologically, we start blaming and shaming ourselves as if something was wrong with us. We get down on ourselves. We can be violent to ourselves through our thoughts, judging ourselves. So we remember, oh, yes, I need to show up with my energy and agency and choice and discipline and effort. Yes, I do. Yes, I do. And ultimately, I am surrendered to the great river of life that has its natural timing, no matter what I think about it, no matter what I want or don't want. The natural river of life is going to take me forward to my next step in its own way. So it's both. We are balancing the understanding Of agency and surrender. Okay. So now we're gonna fully go to the category of what can I do, okay? What can you do? What actions can you take? We've already been talking about this stuff. I'm just gonna move fully into that category right now. We need to take action rather than being reactive. One way that you can consider this is, first of all, being reactive can be responding to the past. Taking action can be responding to the future. That's one way you can look at it, okay? Being reactive is, "Well, they did this, so now I have to do that," or, "Well, these are their circumstances, so now I have to respond to circumstances like this," versus what's actually possible. What would I do if I had a blank slate, and how could I create that? That's taking action in the sense of responding to the future, or better said, creating the future, responding to the fact that the future can be blank and there can be something actually completely new there. So that's one way we can look at take action rather than being reactive is, are we relating with the past as we're trying to walk forward, or are we relating to the future as we're trying to walk forward, as we are walking forward? There's a book by David Towel called Leading From The Emerging Future. So that's the phrase, emerging future, that I'm thinking about right now. Are you in relationship with the emerging future, or are you reacting to the past? Another way of saying this is, are you running from or are you running towards? Maybe in the beginning we're running from, then we can start considering what might w- we be running towards. It can be a lot easier to take forward movement when we know what we are running towards, or when we at least... It, it, it doesn't need to be tangible. It can be a feeling. I'm running towards self-respect. I'm running towards authenticity. I'm running towards trust. I'm running towards more fulfillment. It doesn't have to be, oh, I'm running towards, you know, this particular job or this particular relationship or this new place that I wanna live or whatever, right? That's more tangible. You don't have to be there yet. But it's very different from saying, "Oh, I don't want to feel depressed. I don't want to feel abused. I don't want to feel unfulfilled." Right? That's the don't, don't, don't. We're gonna take the no, and we're gonna turn it into a yes. Okay, so you don't want that stuff. What's the positive version? What do you want? I wanna feel happy. I wanna feel respected. I wanna feel fulfilled, right? So we can start there, and then eventually we can also have a vision for what that might be, and in that way, we're taking action rather than being reactive. Another way of talking about taking action rather than being reactive is about what part of ourselves are we coming from when we are relating with the world or even ourselves. So this goes... connects more with internal family systems theory, and here we're talking about when I'm reactive in the way that I'm now talking about it, when I'm reactive, what that word now means is that a part of me that is unhealed or unintegrated is running the show in my behavior versus when I'm taking action, my true self, or at least the mature adult aspect of me, is the one taking action, is the one doing the behaviors. Okay? So now we're talking about where inside of myself am I coming from to relate with the world? Am I coming from a wound-based pattern, or am I coming from the part of me that can actually see clearly and act with respect and maturity and discernment and good choices for everybody? This actually correlates with what I said before around listening to your intuition rather than ruminating in your thoughts. Your thoughts are going to be reactive. Your intuition is going to have the clarity for you to take authentic action. Okay. Next piece. I feel like we've talked about this quite a bit in this episode and the last one, so I'm gonna go through it a little more quickly here. Stop waiting for others or for external circumstances. You do it. You break the paralysis. Introduce movement. Remember I said you only need to do the next step? Take small steps. Forget about ten steps down the line. Do something small that you can do literally today. Break your routine. If you want something in your life to change but it feels too big to tackle, consider shifting something else in your life first. For example, start a new workout routine. This is very different from do I divorce my husband or not? I don't know. We're not there yet, but right now we're just working on creating small steps of change. We're working on breaking paralysis. We're working on getting out of whatever funk we're in. We're gonna start creating movement. We're gonna simply start creating change, new behaviors, new experiences, new ways of relating with ourselves, so we're gonna start a new workout routine. Why? It's low-hanging fruit. It's low risk. It's simple. We're not freaking ourselves out, and we're starting to realize, oh, change can feel good. Oh, I'm starting to actually re-energize myself. Remember we talked about how change takes aliveness and chutzpah? So what are things... Doesn't obviously have to be a new workout routine, but what are things that can start filling your cup? Small steps. Maybe it's talking to your friends more. Maybe you've become kind of isolated, raising the kids and not having time for social life. Maybe that's where you start, and you start filling your cup in that way. We want to simply get moving. Say yes to invitations rather than, "Oh, I'm too tired, I'm gonna stay home," or like, "Oh, I can't go out on a weekday. Who does that?" You can do that. What will truly energize you? You can start small. You don't have to know where you are going, but you need to start walking. When you're walking, you got the momentum to end up walking in the direction that's right for you. I'm gonna make this even easier. Okay? The example that I just gave for introducing movement is on the physical level, right? It's literally do things is what I'm saying. I'm gonna even give you a more subtle level version of this. Visualize things. Visualize what you might want to do. Walk yourself through it in a thought experiment. Walk yourself through it in a little fantasy of how amazing it would be for you to be making more money in some dream job. Visualize it. Visualize what it would be like to be with a loving partner that you wanna be with, whether it's your current partner or maybe you're single, someone that you might wanna meet. What is it like to let yourself begin creating, begin gestating through visualization in the privacy of your own mind? This can be very important when you actually aren't totally sure what you want. Put yourself through three different scenarios. Oh, I don't want... I don't know if I wanna marry this person and have kids with them, or maybe I want to break up with them and start over and see who I might wanna marry and have kids with. Okay. Visualize the timelines. Timeline number one, I'm visualizing what it's like to marry and have kids with this person. Timeline number two, I'm visualizing what it's like to do it with some other person that doesn't exist. Could be my dream person or whatever. You get the point. Whatever scenarios you might be unsure about, you can visualize them. I would recommend moving to a different part of the room or a different chair around a table or something like that as you do this if you're visualizing different timelines or different scenarios. Move your physical body to a different location when you do it. Okay. We already talked about this. Start becoming a different person inside, and then your life outside will calibrate to it. I already talked about that before, so we'll leave it at that. Here's my last point. Save the best for last. Get support. Get support. Get support. Who can you be authentic with? Who can call out your blind spots? Who can you admit things to that you might be ashamed of, whether things you've done or desires you have? And here's a really important one. Who can you talk to and share yourself with and your situation with and all of your maybes with, who is here to support your authentic strength and whatever path is best for you, even if you guys don't know what it is yet, without them having an agenda for you, without them having judgment or opinion towards these paths? It can be very hard to try to get from support from people who are like, "Oh, but, you know, it could be really scary for you to quit your job. It's a really tough market out there." Well, there goes your empowerment. Or, "Oh my God, you could, you could never end your relationship. I mean, that person would just be so lost without you." Well, okay, now these people are just mirroring back your fears to yourself. That's not helpful. How can you have people who actually can just hold space for you? Who can be like, "I'm here to receive you. I wanna hear what's true for you. I'm not gonna judge you. I'm not here to tell you what's right or wrong. I wanna be a sounding board for you. I'm gonna try to name when I feel like there might be inauthenticities or you might be coming from a limiting belief. I can reflect you back to yourself, and I really just want to feel you feeling yourself and who you truly are, and I will support whatever life path is a match to that." That's who you're looking for. Friends, family members, whoever This is obviously a good time to say that it is worth getting support from a professional because professionals are trained in doing the things that I just said, and most people who are not professionals in, let's say, therapeutic work, counseling, healing work, et cetera, coaching, may not have the skills that I just mentioned are important for you to receive. So you want to get support from people who are actually supporting you, not people pushing their agenda, keeping you stuck, or reinforcing your fears. So you can support yourself, you can get other people supporting you, and you can know that you are always supported by the divine. You're putting in your own personal effort. You know that also divine timing is taking you forward. You're allowing yourself to take small steps, to introduce movement, to stop waiting for others or external circumstances, to take action rather than being reactive, to look for aliveness and build up your chi, your strength, your willpower, your stamina, your momentum. You're allowing yourself to visualize. You're allowing yourself to dream. And in all of this, you're building up the energy internally, the potential energy until it reveals itself externally, the kinetic energy, to truly move past whatever it is that right now may be feeling like an obstacle, but it doesn't have to. The obstacle might seem like it's in the outer world, but ultimately we always want to look, as I said in the last episode, at what our true fears are, because that's ultimately our real obstacle. Yes, it's a conglomeration of things. Of course. We want to be responsible. If we have kids, we want to make sure that we're able to make the money to put the food on the table. We want to make sure that they're safe and that they have a good attachment bond with their caregivers, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera. Real life circumstances need to happen. We need to be responsible to survival, caring for other people, honoring ourselves, avoiding violence in all directions, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera. Self-protection, important. Discernment, important. But we're going beyond excuses here. We're getting authentic. We're getting real. We're owning things. We're owning the authentic yes. We're owning the authentic no. And we're taking action in alignment and in coherence with ourselves for fullness and wholeness so that we can actually live a life that is true to us, as difficult as the transition period may be What we're going for is a yes to who we are and to the fulfillment that life can be when we do say yes to who we are and when we live in alignment with that. Yes, it can be hard. Yes, it can be daunting, but you can do it. thank you for being with me in The Ground of Love. You can follow this podcast to receive the next episodes, and who is it that comes to mind to share this episode with? Please go ahead and pass this along to them and go ahead and leave a review or a rating if you wish. I thank you for that. For one-on-one healing sessions and a group membership. you can go to www.thegroundoflove.com Blessings to you. May you be protected, held, regenerated centered. And taken forward with all light, love, truth and highest and best health and wellbeing on all levels and taken forward to make the greatest, most beautiful impact doing exactly what you're here to do. God bless you. Protection, grace, protection, grace. So it is.