How I'm Triggering Myself Into Success

Ever find yourself brushing off your wins while owning every little mistake? You’re not alone. In this episode, we’re diving deep into something I call deferred success—a self-sabotaging pattern where we downplay our accomplishments and hand the credit to everyone (and everything) but ourselves.

I’ll share the exact moment I realized I’d been doing this for years—on set, in auditions, and even while coaching. From climbing the production ladder to hitting acting milestones, I noticed a theme: I could celebrate others, but not myself. And when I traced it back, it made total sense—growing up, success often came with a side of criticism. No wonder it feels hard to hold the win.

But we’re not here to stay stuck. I’ll walk you through my personal 30-day Celebration Challenge—a practice I’m doing right now to retrain my brain and finally feel safe celebrating my own growth. From mini wins to major milestones, I’ll show you how I’m building new neural pathways with intentional rituals and small, daily moments of joy.

If imposter syndrome or downplaying your success has been holding you back, this episode is your permission slip to own your brilliance—and start showing up like it.

🎧 Tune in, celebrate yourself, and if this hits home, share it with a fellow creative who needs this reminder too.

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P.S. Your journey doesn't end here; it's just taking flight (with a sprinkle of magic✨). Let's forge this beautifully bold path together. 💫

Your Self-Help Sidekick (KA-POW!!!),
Megan

Transcript

Welcome to Your Journey to You

Speaker 1 0:00

Could you play that song for me ? It's my favorite song . Hey , I'm Meg , and welcome to your Journey to you . This is a podcast for actors and film and TV who want to build a thriving career without burning out in the process . We're diving into the mindset shifts , strategies and the real talk you need to navigate this industry with confidence , from imposter syndrome to self-care and setting healthy boundaries . We're covering it all . Whether you're just getting started or stepping into your next level , this space is here to support you . Let's dive in .

Are You Deferring Your Success?

Speaker 1 0:39

So today , y'all , I want to talk about something that I am currently struggling with and something that I know I can reframe my brain . I know I can create new neural pathways , but this is something that I just realized that I have been doing forever . That is a new level , a new mindset shift , a new thing for me to work through and work on , and that is deferred success . So I got the question the other day do you ever defer your success ? Initially , my reaction right away was like no , that's my success . Why would I defer it ? No , well , then I started thinking about it . I

How I Was Deferring My Success...

Speaker 1 1:18

started giving myself specific examples , and I'll give you my specific examples just so you can relate and connect . The first question I asked myself was do I defer my success in my behind the scenes crew job ? And let me give you some background information . I started off as a PA , worked up to a production manager , which is what I'm currently doing right now , and now I'm working towards producing the show . I've grown from the bottom man of the totem pole up to a higher level within this film crew .

Speaker 1 1:54

When I asked myself , would I defer that success , the first thing that came into my head was well , if my boss hadn't been willing to mentor me and help me along the way , I don't know if I'd be here . And I was like , oh shit , oh shit , I , yeah , I just deferred my success there . And then I thought about okay , what about my business ? That's something I built all myself . Would I defer my success in my business ? And then my brain went well , you use chat , gpt to write that one email , and your clients they all do all of the hard work to help themselves . And I was like , oh darn it , yeah , I think I think I defer my success . And then I thought , okay , well , would I defer ? Like , if I booked an acting role , would I defer that success ? And my brain said well , if I didn't have that specific connection , or if I didn't have my agent , there's no way I'd be at the place .

Speaker 1 2:59

I am now , and I realized in that moment I have always , and only ever , deferred my success to others . I've never taken responsibility for my success , Yet I am so quick to take ownership for the things that go wrong in my life . What that is so deeply , deeply unfair that I am willing to take responsibility for the shitty things but not for the good things . What the heck ? What's that balance ? And so I realized right away okay , I've got something I need to work on . This is the next step towards building a better mindset , building a better life . I have to start taking responsibility for my success . I want to talk you guys through how

How I'm Triggering Myself Into Success

Speaker 1 3:44

I am actually doing that , because it's one thing to say , hey , I need to work on this mindset , but then it's another thing if I don't actually tell you how I'm working through the mindset . How does that actually help you , Besides me just telling you that I'm going to do it ? And so this is how I am going to change the mindset . Okay , I am going to purposely trigger myself into rewiring my brain . Let me break that down for you . Okay , let's give you this example of celebrations With deferred success .

Speaker 1 4:20

I also struggle with celebrating myself . How can you celebrate yourself if you can't recognize your success right ? So to do this , my current state is that my brain perceives celebration with something negative , and let me give you the backstory on this . I really sat down and I thought about when in my childhood did I ever feel celebrated ? Was there ever any authentic moment that I really felt celebrated ? And it was amazing .

Speaker 1 4:50

And I realized that every time I was celebrated as a kid , I was also pulled down a little bit for that celebration . And so , for example , I had a solo in a concert and I thought I killed it . I thought I did amazing . And then the next day , a kid came in and showed me a video of me singing and it did not sound amazing . So I was celebrated and then my brain said , okay , well , that also correlates with this negative experience . So if I'm celebrated , something negative is going to come . Something negative is going to come . And I'll give you another example . I would have a birthday party , right . I would listen to my parents argue while they set up the entire party and then , when it's time to sing happy birthday . I'm like am I supposed to be happy here ? Am I supposed to be not happy ? Because I was being celebrated , but I was also getting this negative consequence over here . So my brain has decided that celebration means that something negative is also going to come with it . And so , of course , I've never celebrated right , I've never truly celebrated .

Speaker 1 5:47

So what I am going to do is I'm going to purposely trigger my brain by celebrating , because my brain right now doesn't feel like it's safe to do that and therefore it's going to cause me to self-sabotage . It's going to cause me to want to do the complete opposite , because that's where I'm comfortable and that's where my brain thinks I'm the safest , because it can't tell between real and perceived threats . And this is a perceived threat . And so what I'm going to do is every day is every day purposely celebrate myself , and that is going to instantly trigger my brain . And then I'm going to tell my brain during that trigger it's okay , I'm safe , this is what we're supposed to do , this is fun , this is awesome , and eventually I will retrain that neural pathway so that celebration can just be celebration and there's no negative result attached to it . And I wonder is there something in your life that you could purposely trigger yourself into having a better mindset , a better habit , a new neural pathway .

Speaker 1 6:53

And while we're on the subject , let's talk about

My Celebration

Speaker 1 6:56

what my celebrations were for yesterday . Why not right ? Why not celebrate here with you all right now ? So these were my celebrations for yesterday . Why not right ? Why not celebrate here with you all right now ? So these were my celebrations for yesterday and these are my ground rules . I'm doing right now a 30-day celebration challenge to rewire my brain , and this challenge is nothing special , it's literally just . I decided every day that I'm going to write something down and I'm going to find a physical way to celebrate , and it doesn't have to be more than one thing , it can just literally be one thing , but if I want to , I can write more than one . And so for yesterday , I submitted to some agencies . I submitted to three and I heard back from three agencies . Heck , yeah , I heard back from all three . Three for three baby , that's fantastic . So I'm celebrating that .

Speaker 1 7:40

I outlined my free default access plan for my six-week challenge so that people can try out some free material and see what they like and see if it resonates with them before they decide they want to do a full six weeks and invest some time and money into a full six-week program . I also edited a casting tape for my other job as well , as I officially had my last client complete my first beta round of my six-week challenge , yahoo . So I've officially completed my first round of it . That's amazing . And then , lastly , I found a social media accountability buddy . This is something I really need . I do struggle with social media and putting myself out there , and I really needed an accountability partner , and one popped up just when I really need . I do struggle with social media and putting myself out there , and I really needed an accountability partner , and one popped up just when I needed it . So those were my celebrations for yesterday , and to actually physically celebrate . This is what I did .

Speaker 1 8:32

I listened to the song . Suddenly I See you know that song . Suddenly , I see this is what I want to be . You know that song , and I visualized that I was the girl in the song , and this is some of the lyrics of what she says about the girl in the song Her face is a map of the world . You can see that she's a beautiful girl and everything around her is a silver pool of light . People who surround her feel the benefit of it . It makes you calm . She holds you captivated in her palm . Suddenly , I see this is what I want to be . Suddenly , I see why the hell this means so much to me . And so I listened to the song and I visualized that I am that girl who holds people captivated in her palm , and I had such a fun three minute visualization .

Speaker 1 9:23

These are the ways that I'm retraining my brain , and I want to give you guys the tools in my real time experience as well , so that you can do the same . So , to wrap it up , try to find some way that you can purposely trigger yourself in order to create a new result within you . How can you create something new ? Being triggered doesn't have to be this negative thing . It could be something that you use , a tool that you use to completely flip your life around .

Until Next Time

Speaker 1 9:53

And that's a wrap on today's episode of your Journey to you . I hope this conversation sparked some insights and gave you something that you can take with you on your journey . If you loved this episode , don't forget to subscribe , leave a review and share it with a fellow creative who could use some encouragement , and let's stay connected . Follow me on social media for more mindset tips and industry guidance . Keep going , keep growing and remember your success . It isn't just about the work you do . It's about how you show up for yourself along the way you got this .