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My Karma Story – How the universe took care of things for me.

• Maureen McGrath

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I'm Maureen McGrath. I'm a registered nurse, nurse, continence advisor and a sexual health educator. I have a clinical practice in Vancouver, british Columbia. I also do online work as well. I see patients with all sorts of health issues, in large part perimenopause, menopause, postmenopause, sexual health issues. You can email me nursetalk at hotmailcom if you would ever like to have an online appointment to talk about any of your health issues. Because you know I'm all about health, but not just physical health, mental health as well, and I do a lot of contract work. I don't just work in the clinic, you know. I do a lot of presentations. I pick up contracts here and there and have done so for a number of years, worked for a variety of organizations and one year ago today to the day I faced a tough situation at one of these contract work places. I was bullied by somebody who went out of their way to push me out. I had a great run and I enjoyed every minute of it, except for the last year where I was bullied through text, phone calls and emails. Instead of fighting back or dwelling in negativity, I chose to walk away with my dignity, with grace and trusting that the universe would take care of the rest. Fast forward to today. Well, things are so much better and I'm so glad I no longer do that contract, but at the time it felt like a loss. But in looking back, it was the best thing that could ever have happened to me and I wanted to share this story with you Because I know many of you who listen to this podcast have gone through or going through difficult times, and I'm somebody that believes in karma and karma trusts in the universe.

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That you know karma never forgets an address, as Oprah Winfrey once said. You know that difficult situation for me pushed me towards something so much better and in fact, I asked why didn't I do this four years ago? Because it is so much better I have. You know it became very stressful. If you've ever been bullied, you you know it's something that and I'm quite a busy person. So it was really only the time that I was dealing with the bully or that the bully was targeting me, and I was not the only person that this person bullied. There were a number of other people this person had bullied and in fact, this person had been investigated for workplace bullying and racial discrimination and you know, at that workplace I found that out after I left.

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But that difficult situation pushed me towards something so much better, and I mean that and I believe that for you as well. You know I have much less stress around this type of work. That was related to that much more time for myself and an aspect of my career that is not only more fulfilling but significantly more rewarding, and that's both personally and financially, and it's not just about money. But I'm happy to say that you know I'm kind of proud of myself. I actually did something in the last year, built something up, and you know I've created it and I figured out a way to monetize it and things are going well, I have to say, and you know I realized it could change in a minute, but I don't have that sort of negative attitude, I'm much more of an optimist, you know.

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But I can't say I would be lying if I said I didn't feel badly because I at the time I felt terrible. I mean, nobody wants to be let go and but you know, I had some satisfaction because I did say to the bully you know I'm not, you know who was expecting me to be, you know demonstrate, you know, negative emotion and be so upset and then was pretending to be empathetic toward me. I did say to them you bullied me for the last year. That's why I'm, you know, on some level I'm not upset, I'm actually relieved, I'm actually quite happy. And they bullied me right to the bitter end. And you know, and it was extremely difficult, you know that person. I haven't really thought about that person since then.

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Life goes on. I'm very fortunate, I try to look on the bright side of things. But today I found out that my bully was let go from the same company and honestly, I don't take joy in someone else's misfortune, but I do believe in karma, as I said, and my purpose is not here to say to have sought revenge. I never did. I left without saying a word, although a lot of people did contact me after I left to suggest that I speak to other people who were targets of the same person as well, who were targets of the same person as well.

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You know, I fully believe that the energy we put out into the world, good or bad, always finds its way back. You know I had a patient recently was talking about morals and values, and you know it's very important that you understand your own morals and values and you have a good moral compass, because you know it's a soft pillow at night and that good that you do in the world always finds its way back to you. When we operate with integrity, the universe clears the path for us, and when others act with malice, that same universe corrects the balance in ways we may never expect. So often I have said to my patients a year from now, you will look back and you will be so glad this happened. And one year later, after that which happened to me and I don't want to sound like a victim I am so glad it happened.

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There have been a number of times that that has happened for me. I had another bullying experience, like 10 or 12 years ago, and you know that person bullied a lot of people in the company and also was sexually harassing the women of the company and a few people actually took him, you know, filed claims against him and got workplace bullying awards. And you know, a few years later, of course you know, when the company grew a bit, half the company and I think it had about 100 employees by that time half of the company penned a letter saying how that person was treating everybody in the company and the other half, they said, was too afraid of the bully who was the head of the organization. They were too afraid of the bully to say anything. That bully actually got removed from their position as well. Of course. They spun it and made it sound like it was something that they wanted, but it wasn't. It was actually an ousting.

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Honestly, the universe corrects the balance in ways that we never expect. This experience and other experiences in my life has reaffirmed something I always have believed you don't need to seek revenge, you don't need to expose anyone, you don't need to carry resentment or negativity, because that makes you unhealthy unhealthy of mind and I often say success is peace of mind. If you can step away with dignity, you are stepping away with grace and with yourself intact. Just keep moving forward. I promise you trust the process and know that life has a way of making things right. If you're going through something similar, try and hold your head high. What's meant for you will always find you and what's not will eventually fall away. And those old sayings like what goes around comes around is so true. Integrity wins every single time. It might take a year, it might take a decade, it might be in the next life honestly, if you believe in next lives but it will happen and you will actually be a better person for it. I feel like I'm so much better today than I was a year ago. And you know what happened at the very end was I? I I mean I.

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I hesitate to even say I made a mistake, because it was a. It wasn't a mistake. It happened all the time at this company. It was routine practice, but this person made it out to me that it was a mistake and because of that, two days later I was ousted. I and I believe they talked the powers to be into letting me go and and you know, when I was leaving, I'd heard a story of somebody else who was working there and they said whenever they made a mistake, my bully called them and berated them on the phone for 30 minutes and you know, my only gift really to that workplace was to tell that person that's not normal. Nobody should be treating you that way. You need to stand up for yourself.

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But people are afraid to stand up for themselves, especially when somebody is taking advantage of them or somebody is bullying them or somebody is being nasty or mean. I don't understand mean people. I don't understand nastiness. I can only think that they're miserable and they're unhappy on the inside and you can only have pity upon them and really they are to be pitied and not scorned. Pity upon them and really they are to be pitied and not scorned. But one year later I'm happy to say that the advice that I've given to many of my patients who have been heartbroken in relationships or who've lost a job or who have had another tragedy or trauma in their life, one year from now you will be glad that this has happened, and I'm talking about things that have been inflicted upon them like job loss, or like losing a friend, or, um, which I've experienced as well, losing a friendship of friend. You know, blamed me for something.

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Women can be so nasty, by the way. Um, you know, somehow I was responsible for some wealthy guy never calling her anyway, because she had her her sight set on him, um, that he was going to marry her, but, you know, because they were drinking together at a party. Anyway, somehow it was my fault that the guy never called her. But anyway, I think if he wanted to call her he would have called her. But as a result, she had to end the friendship with me because she lost it on me and was screaming in front of other people and I think, really, at the end of the day, she was just so embarrassed at her behavior while she was drunk that she just could never really look at me again because perhaps I reminded her of her behavior, which was common for her. You know, she that was, and you know, after not being her friend, it was a relief.

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Other friends said to me she's not your friend, she treats you terribly and you know what? I'm an easygoing personality and I realized she would treat me terribly. She was nasty to me, she would be mean, she would be sarcastic, she would make awful jokes and laugh at me. And you know what? It's such a relief not to have her as a friend anymore because she is such a nasty person. And you know, again, I wasn't the only one. There's a list of women she has done this to and people she actually did it to, somebody that she worked for. You know, during the time she worked for them, she was planning her divorce and she was also, you know, she took some contracts from that company and, you know, set up her own company. You know. So she's, you know her integrity was questionable and you know I had referred her for that. I gave her a reference for that job and you know I may never get over that guilt.

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But my point is, we all face difficult situations in life, we all face tough times and you know it's sometimes you have to change yourself. Sometimes you have to look within and say what was it about me that I was a target for that bully? What was it about me? What did I do? How am I responsible here for, you know, carrying on with that friendship for much longer than it ever should have carried on for carrying on with that friendship for much longer than it ever should have carried on. For you know, what did I do to lose that job? Or what did I do to lose that relationship? Whatever it is, you know, take a look at it, take your responsibility, because you know we all have ownership in this.

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But try not to be negative and understand that karma never forgets an address and the universe will sort this out for you and you can have peace of mind knowing that and just even saying that, repeating that to yourself, because I know that it's traumatic at the beginning. And you know, when you lose something, or you know, lose a lover or a friend, or a job, uh, or an opportunity, and you think, oh, nothing good will ever happen, we can automatically go to those negative thoughts. You know we all do it, it's so common. But I'm suggesting perhaps you try a different route. In a year I will be better. In a year, I will look back on this and be glad this happened.

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And whenever I've had an experience like that, I can certainly look back and say you know, maybe times during that year it was tough, you're ostracized from people or you're unemployed or whatever. But you know, about a year later you can honestly look back and think I'm so glad that happened. I've grown as a result of it, I'm a better person, I'm a better human. You know you can come across as a better mother or father or sibling or parent or daughter or son, or whatever your relationship is to other people. But you know, maybe there are some things that you can and I'm not saying that you're to blame or you're, you know, bad in any way. It's just that sometimes we contribute when we really don't realize we want to blame the other person entirely, but sometimes you don't speak up. You know I was busy. I documented everything that this person did, but I never reported it to anybody and that was my mistake and you know I'll never do that again. And you know I still have the documentation in case I ever need it. You never know, but I would suggest that document as well. But you know what? Honestly, if you can walk away, hold your head high, do not have, try not to have those feelings of resentment, because when you put out negativity, it finds its way back to you as well. But when you choose to rise above, life will reward you. I promise you Trust the process. The universe always balances the scales.

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I'm Maureen McGrath. You're listening to Nurse Maureen's Health Show Podcast. Thanks so much for tuning in. I'm Maureen McGrath and you have been listening to the Sunday Night Health Show Podcast. If you want to hear this podcast or any other segment again, feel free to go to iTunes, spotify or Google Play or wherever you listen to your favorite podcasts. You can always email me nursetalk at hotmailcom or text the show 604-765-9287. That's 604-765-9287. Or head on over to my website for more information. Maureenmcgrathcom. It's been my pleasure to spend this time with you.