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Battling COVID to Cuffing Season and more... LEX is now here!
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Picture this: Ace Boogie battling COVID like a warrior and coming out with a story that makes you laugh and think. We kick off this episode by comparing the OG COVID strains to the newer, seemingly gentler ones, and discussing how the fall season might bring a surge in cases as we retreat indoors. From vaccinations to the importance of a healthy lifestyle, we share laughs and practical tips to keep you fit and fighting during these times.
As the weather cools, the conversation heats up around cuffing season. Imagine finding a winter partner as strategic as drafting a sports team, transitioning from a carefree “hot boy summer” to a cozy, committed winter. We explore the seasonal rhythm of relationships, from spring breakups to the thrill of new prospects with sundresses. It's a playful yet insightful chat about how love and attraction evolve with each season.
Then, we dive deep into the nitty-gritty of relationships and finances. What happens after the honeymoon phase? We highlight the importance of continuous effort, romance, and personal growth, especially in those crucial first six months. The debate gets fiery as we tackle whether leading with money builds a solid foundation or sets shaky expectations. We wrap up with a spirited discussion on financial responsibilities, balancing modern self-sufficiency with traditional roles. Tune in for a blend of humor, real-talk, and advice that’s as practical as it is entertaining.
D&V. Welcome everybody to another episode of the Absolute D&V Podcast. It's your man, ace Boogie, and I am here with a few good guys and Lex. What's going on?
Speaker 2guys how?
Speaker 1y'all doing today.
Speaker 2Happy Friday.
Speaker 1My man Mark Can't complain. My man Mark Can't complain, my man Ego.
Speaker 3On the board.
Speaker 1And our girl Lex. What's going on, baby Auntie?
Speaker 3Lex Aunt, lex Lex in the city, however you want to call it.
Speaker 2How you going to take over my little.
Speaker 3I'm just saying I want to introduce you, though for real. Why do we always have a problem with that? Keep going.
Speaker 1Lex, you always have a problem with that. Keep going.
Speaker 4Relax, Introduce yourself please Can I get my time? Yes, she's reclaiming her time. I'm reclaiming my time.
Speaker 1What a dude does.
Speaker 2What's going?
Speaker 1on how you doing Chilling, chilling.
Speaker 3Oh my God, how you doing All right. So, ace, what's up yo? It's been a long week for me, though. How about?
Speaker 1you, bro, I'm going to keep it a buck. Your boys survived the bout with COVID, oh yeah, I didn't even know I had it.
Speaker 3Spreading germs and shit.
Speaker 1Bro, it's crazy, I didn't know I had it. Luckily, I'm one of those people who decide when I'm sick I'm going to actually stay home Nice.
Speaker 2Good call.
Speaker 1Respect Just because, and especially nowadays, you don't know if it's COVID or cold or whatever it is.
Speaker 4That's why you over there.
Speaker 1That's the reason why I'm on the boards. I can spread shit.
Speaker 3I got that old COVID.
Speaker 1The way I see it, is any reason to take off from work.
Speaker 4All that yeah I'm gonna take it, so that's a good call. A little, a little, I'm taking off well, you earn it, I'm taking off, better use it so you know it is gonna be crazy this fall because all the kids the first week of school they're all spreading that again for the first time.
Speaker 3But isn't there a new strain?
Speaker 4There is a new strain. Yeah, I'm going to be honest, it's weak.
Speaker 1It's weak, you got weak, although it does spread easily. You call it some millennial COVID. I'm going to tell you right now that JZ COVID that.
Speaker 3JZ. Covid that JZ.
Speaker 1Hey, the first COVID, the first one, that was a GX, that was a silent generation.
Speaker 3That thing whooped my ass.
Speaker 1That first COVID whooped my ass.
Speaker 2That was straight out of World War III. Did you tell anybody?
Speaker 1No, no, no, I was in the crib.
Speaker 2When it first came out it was kind of scary. It was bad.
Speaker 3It was crazy scary. I wasn't scared.
Speaker 1It was bad. The worst part about it was you were sick and silent.
Speaker 2Still no, no, no.
Speaker 1This is why I'm so mad, because for the longest I went without getting vaccinated and I literally got vaccinated. Within six weeks of me getting vaccinated, I caught COVID. I was so mad bro, I was like yo, what the point? But whatever, I took the vaccine. You did a few rounds. I did the vaccine and the second one I just put some crack on it. That was it. You know what I'm saying, bro.
Speaker 3You was only going to be able to shoot me up twice bro, I couldn't do it no more, I just put bleach on it.
Speaker 4You did the Trump thing you put bleach on my body are you drinking the Clorox though?
Speaker 3no, I couldn't afford Clorox. I went to. I went to big. I went to big locks.
Speaker 1I went to big locks don't take any COVID advice from me, I'm just saying this new one was weak.
Speaker 3I think it was different. I think it was different, I think it was different for everybody. You ain't miss no work, huh nah.
Speaker 1I miss work. Like I said, I took off work just cause I had to, but that's all it was.
Speaker 3It was just a little cause they didn't play any vice. Oh, you ain't miss no money. Oh, I ain't miss no money you ain't miss no money.
Speaker 2Yeah, that PTO is working.
Speaker 4The thing that I worry about, though, because it is I heard that for a lot of ways that this one is it gets. It's less and less like it's more diluted but it spreads easier. So it's like you're going to catch it but you won't feel that bad. But then I guess there's a lot of studies which is still like very unknown, which is, I guess, a scary part of like stuff that can happen later in life when you've had COVID more than once, multiple times.
Speaker 3I think your body is adjusting.
Speaker 2I think so too.
Speaker 3I hope so I honestly think it's a different form of a flu. It's a different form of a flu.
Speaker 4Sure, I'm not saying the vaccine, but the illness itself.
Speaker 1If you want to get vaccinated, get vaccinated. If you don't take your vitamin C's, eat your vegetables, get your nutrients up, do what you got to do A shot of bleach.
Speaker 2You know what?
Speaker 4Don't do it.
Speaker 1Hey, whatever you feel like you need to do to be healthy, do that Okay win that Exercise, hit the gym run.
Speaker 3I mean even the thing about it that's the only thing that's crazy about this, because he's the most healthiest person we pretty much have of COVID yeah no, anybody can get it. A flu happens, right. But then I heard people like healthy as hell who ran marathons died because of COVID. But we that's here or there, Fuck this shit.
Speaker 2No, but we have to think about this. We're going into fall, it's going I think the fall season don't get scared of it the fall
Speaker 1season people coming inside. I mean get togethers, cause it's football season, it's a bar season, it is. That's how I'm gonna get it.
Speaker 3I said that we're talking about the four months is September, october, november and December. That's the only bar.
Speaker 1Can everybody see the bar? No facts, Because I can't wait. I can't wait. Thank God it's football season.
Speaker 3Long sleeves.
Speaker 1Oh, I love fall, I love fall fashion.
Speaker 3Check out Ace's fit. Right now he's pre-season. Right now, he's pre-season.
Speaker 1Hey, y'all already see me. You know what I'm saying. I will show y'all the kicks.
Speaker 2Not the leg up. You know what I'm saying? I will show y'all the kicks.
Speaker 1Little accent here and there. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3This is how we do it in the DMV.
Speaker 1You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3He got to get up and turn around now, and this is old nigga style.
Speaker 1This ain't even a young boy style. This is old nigga style.
Speaker 2So you know what I'm saying? Old ass nigga, he's not even 40.
Speaker 1I'm not 40, but you ask the young boys 38 is.
Speaker 3All right, all right, you old ass motherfucker hey.
Speaker 4Mark you mark, like I know you, you had some starting this week, whatever shit. Yeah, I just started school again, uh, getting my uh occupational therapy degree uh, which has been uh big up yourself appreciate that.
Speaker 4Thank you, you know, for working the therapy center and everything, but it's been, uh, it's been a big adjustment. This is the first semester, you know, with, with covid, and everything was doing online learning. Now I'm at the point where I'm getting into the classes and classrooms are open again, so I'm having to go in person and that is kind of troublesome because it's in Catonsville, which is like all the way. Yeah.
Speaker 1Right, I need to buy a lunchbox. Legit, yo Legit.
Speaker 4No because it's far.
Speaker 3Are they separating the seats though, like you know how like? No, no, it's pretty much like Back to normal. There's no more COVID restrictions.
Speaker 4It's basically yeah, like if you can mask, if you want, if you're vaccinated. Yeah, they're just kind of assuming everyone's gotten their shots, everyone's cool with it. You know, if you want a mask, you can mask. If you don't want a mask, you can't mask.
Speaker 3I got a question. You don't have to. I got a question for all y when you cough, do you feel some type of way when you cough now?
Speaker 2Absolutely not.
Speaker 3Do you know how, back in the day, when motherfuckers coughed, you're like shit, I shouldn't cough.
Speaker 4I will say this though that hurts, to hold it in a cough, I feel some type of way. If it's a lot, though, for instance, I was on a plane back from Armenia and on my way back I had to put on a mask for myself, just because the lady a row away from me was for like an hour and a half was coughing nonstop and she had no mask on, and she was like I'm talking, like she had the airplane, the complimentary pillow, like dying into it, and I felt bad. The people next to her were just ignoring, like phasing her out, and I'm like yo, like, are you good? I mean, it was a long flight. It was like from Armenia, I think it was like eight or nine hours. We did a layover in gosh, I don't even remember where, and then we did that.
Speaker 3That's where the COVID came from.
Speaker 4I would have been like why isn't the stewardess bringing a mask for this lady, like at that point?
Speaker 1No, I would have been like angry, angry, angry, like you said. I mean, I don't really care about a cough here and there, but if you are coughing repeatedly to the point where you really seem sick and we are in a little tube like come on, bro, that's insensitive to a certain extent and I think planes are the most germ infested places anyways, like I mean, it's a bunch of people and uh yeah, different germs, different things, or whatever it's other than that.
Speaker 3I'm sorry to cut you off because oh, no, no, no let's keep it.
Speaker 2Eric, always cutting people off? No, like we said it's what I do that's a DMV thing, the 495.
Speaker 4You cut the name one off.
Speaker 3Hey, guess what it's? Because I have a tight ass and they're pressing brakes Because my collar is up right now.
Speaker 2Yeah, fuck that.
Speaker 1It's not just the collar, it's the button Button all the way up to the top. So you got a short sleeve button, so I'll make it work.
Speaker 3No, but yeah, I got my new band on, though it's that time.
Speaker 1It's that time the seasons have changed and it's that time in the DMV, not just football season, I think.
Speaker 3So let's talk about okay. So quick question who's into football in this industry? Yeah, I did, I did, I did. Damn he was almost done.
Speaker 2I did, I did Damn. He was almost done. I was literally on it. It was at the tip.
Cuffing Season and Dating Dynamics
Speaker 3Take it to the fucking log, motherfucker. Take it to the fucking log. Okay, he started on that. I'm antsy, I'm antsy as shit, nigga. All right, so my bad Ace, go ahead and go. My bad, hey, guess what? Now you got to tell you to go. I'm going to go meet my mic.
Speaker 4I'm sorry. He said you're taking too long. I'm going to make this take even longer no. Now I'm going to pass the mic back to you and you're incapacitated. You can't even talk.
Speaker 3This is what I'm talking about.
Speaker 4Hey eyes Now bro, somebody start the conversation, somebody. Somebody Take the wheel, somebody the word was literally coming off my tongue.
Speaker 2I was thinking. I was like nah, fuck it, okay, speaking of coming. Oh shit, we were talking about Pause.
Speaker 1Pause. Palsy pause, pause.
Speaker 2It's also cuffing season officially, because fall is what? September 20th?
Speaker 4I guess, according to the school system, fall is like mid August. I guess is when school starts.
Speaker 3No, it's still summer. It's still summer, school started. School started on August, I guess is when school starts again.
Speaker 4No, it's still summer. It's still summer. I think it's School started. I'm just saying school started on 20th of August or whatever.
Speaker 2It's like the third week of September.
Speaker 4I'm going to use Google real quick because I don't know when fall the season starts, but I just know it's.
Speaker 1I be professional, I don't got my phone on me.
Speaker 3Guess what.
Speaker 2It's still still hot it's the dmp, yeah, yeah. So I mean it's not right now. Season is pre to cuddle season, so I mean let's talk about that, it's no cuddle season.
Speaker 3I'm fucking up everybody. Look at this, motherfucker, it's all fucked up. I fucked ace up big time. Nigga, it's not teflon, don't All right? So okay, so all right. Cuffing season.
Speaker 1Go ahead bro. No, go ahead, bro, go ahead, Keep going. You got it. You got it, go ahead. I'm sorry, I'm sorry.
Speaker 3Cuffing season, you got it. So cuffing season is, I guess, are you cuffing shit?
Speaker 4Well, it's essentially like if you're dating and you're single, you're not in a relationship. But winter comes and it's like you don't want to be going out to bars and dating and everything when the weather is hostile, so it's kind of like.
Speaker 1the theory is when the weather's cold, you want something warm to cuddle up to. I feel you. Is that true?
Speaker 3So is it more of a dating term or is it more of like again, is it a wide?
Speaker 2term for everything. I think it's situational, like during football season. I want to watch football with you soon You're cuffing.
Speaker 3Are you cuffing or you're partaking? I?
Speaker 2think that's a cuff.
Speaker 1No, it's definitely a cuff If you want to do it with one person that's the whole thing, it's definitely a cuff that that around this time is the time when people want to do that, because nobody want to be in the wintertime snowed in by themselves.
Speaker 3So aka draft season, so you're drafting your it's combine yeah, yeah, yeah, it's combine season.
Speaker 1There you go. You know what I'm saying? Everybody is.
Speaker 3They're putting their picks in.
Speaker 1They got to make sure who the draft pick is going to be, who the top picks are going to be who the top picks are going to be. Trying to put together a roster, trying to trim down the roster yeah, but your options. No, but you're trying to trim down the roster.
Speaker 3You got a team.
Speaker 1You know what I'm saying Because there's hot stakes.
Speaker 2You know I'm not single, but I can imagine if someone's single and they're trying to figure out who they're want to make a bad choice.
Speaker 1It was hot boy, summer it was hot boy summer so you probably had a good, maybe three, hopefully four that you had, you know what I'm saying?
Speaker 3Are you playing space? You know what I'm saying? Three in the possible, three in the possible.
Speaker 1Hopefully you had three in the possible to choose from you know what I'm saying?
Speaker 4All you need is two.
Speaker 1When it so when they come around football cuffing season, you know what?
Speaker 3I'm saying you start trimming that roster down. Yeah, definitely.
Speaker 1You be like you know what she cool, but I can't be around her for too long, so that's the whole season.
Speaker 4then Hot boy, summer, cuffing season, cuddling season.
Speaker 1No, hot boy. Summer is definitely the combine and then break up. You just finding everything.
Speaker 4Yeah, spring is the break up.
Speaker 1Oh yeah, combine, and then break up, you just finding everything. Yeah, spring is a breakup.
Speaker 3Oh yeah, spring is definitely the breakup, because that's when the sundress is starting to come back on. Yeah, that's when you're like I need options back. I gotta get back on the roster. And the cycle continues. Oh yeah, you get your free agency.
Speaker 2Yeah, free agency, but you wouldn't be a free agent if somebody kept you now, would you no?
Speaker 3but the thing about it is when the weather changes, people's feelings start to change. You start looking at other contracts.
Speaker 1Yeah, you start seeing other prospects Because when the weather changes and sundresses come out, you be like hold on, she been working out this whole winter we back to different right.
Speaker 2Men with self-control know how to go to work without looking at asses. Who?
Speaker 1Why can't, why can you not look, mark? You don't look at asses, do you? Yeah, no, he don't yeah.
Speaker 3What's the problem with looking? Yeah, no, his eyes. We have eyes you can't.
Speaker 1You can't appreciate the work that you put in.
Speaker 2Yeah, see it goes against the rules of cuffing.
Speaker 3No it what I can't.
Speaker 2I have eyes. No, we about to spend the rest of the evening together. Give me your Netflix password, okay.
Speaker 3Yes, I'm going to be on the couch already. That's cuddling, that's cuddling. I appreciate you for all that. Don't look up the self-proclaimed chefs on.
Speaker 1Instagram you pass, you pass. Don't follow somebody's recipe and make it together. But Keisha from HR got a fat ass and I do know that.
Speaker 2But she missing.
Speaker 1Her side too, she might be she might be, but that ass is fat and I like to look at it. I ain't doing nothing, but I just like to look at it.
Speaker 2So what keeps you going home?
Speaker 3You ain't going home with these shit. So are we done with the cuffing season. Now we're going into like the academy shit, like yo, y'all jumping around timelines and shit, just fucking me up.
Speaker 1If you would just let it happen.
Speaker 2Okay, it would happen. I'm confused. I'm confused, if you would just let it.
Speaker 1It's literally happening organically right now. If you would just let it happen, it would happen, I promise. Call the police.
Speaker 4Hello, 911?. Hold on, what were you saying? The name for a black Karen was before Keisha.
Speaker 3Keisha.
Speaker 1Oh shit, man, Nah, nah, but yes. So with. With that being said, what was he talking about? No, no, with that. With that being said, after you have cut down your roster and it's a two it gotta be two.
Speaker 2No, no no, no.
Speaker 1After you cut down your roster and you made your pick, you've cuffed. Okay, what do you? What are you going to do to keep that partner? What are you going to do to keep that man Ego? What are you going to do to keep that woman?
Speaker 3I was about to say you better say nothing.
Speaker 2Yeah, ask him first so he can get it all out.
Speaker 1I don't need to do shit.
Speaker 3I already did enough the whole year to fucking keep, so I don't need to do anything else, you just cuffed her.
Speaker 1I just cuffed her, so y'all are within six months.
Speaker 4Like it's very new in the relationship. You guys are still getting to know each other. What?
Speaker 1are you doing to keep this woman I?
Speaker 3am that type of person that already did all the work in the beginning, so it is what it is.
Speaker 2That sounds crazy. Yep, it's already done.
Speaker 1He said within six months, you should know what this is.
Speaker 3Yeah, because again I should already after six months is too damn long. Three months cause.
Speaker 2I already put it. That's not long. You talking about lifetimes with someone. Think about it cause.
Speaker 3Think about it when you're doing cuffing, you're doing a lot of work to prove yourself like dating what's a lot of work. Break that down money, time, uh, effort of actually proving you, you're pretty much putting picking up bitches, they. Oh. This is one person you're cuffing. You're trying to put your your, you're giving your resume and you're trying to prove yourself right, but six months, if you're still doing the same shit in six months, you're fucking wasting your fucking time.
Speaker 2That's what I'm trying to say so I've already anger you go. Yes, hold on hold on, hold on, on hold, on hold on. It ain't felt like that, right, mark?
Speaker 1Hold on, hold, on, hold on Ego. After you get drafted, you still got to go out there and perform. Hello, you got, and the hopes is to have a long career. So what are you talking about?
Speaker 2Why are you saying everything that I did in college enough? Yep, that's wild. I'm Al Bunny. I live off that my four touchdowns at Polk High in one game is all I need.
Speaker 3You still do what you do for the person. You can still go out, you still hang out, but if y'all are already clicking and y'all are good, oh you're talking about the chase, like I'm not going to keep chasing if it's not. You know what I'm saying. Keep chasing for cuffing all year round.
Speaker 2So y'all talking about two different things. He's talking about how to establish. He said after the six months. And you're saying the relationship is established.
Speaker 1Because what I'm saying is if you've met that woman, if you met that woman and you guys decided to cuff. Excuse me If you met that woman and you decided to cuff her, and now y'all are in for Wait, tell me who's deciding Whoever.
Speaker 3I mean, y'all have both decided. Y'all have mutual, it has to be mutual right. Yeah, even though most times.
Speaker 1it's not, it's just a woman telling you one day that, hey, we together.
Speaker 3Yeah.
Speaker 1Because her draws is now in your draw, your draw.
Speaker 3She pissed all over that shit. You know what I'm saying. So, like I was thinking, like you said, that after six months I'm thinking timeline, I'm thinking like I already did the work for like the cuffing season for six months.
Speaker 2It's not work, but it's almost like in a relationship almost I'm sorry.
Speaker 1That's just to get her Mark.
Speaker 2Mark has some good advice.
Speaker 1Within six months you haven't moved in with her, so it's not like you are paying her bills. So I'm not saying nothing like that. I'm saying what type of romantic gestures are you doing to keep the relationship fresh, the spark Yay.
Speaker 4And not even like romantic gestures. It could be romantic gestures, but like what you know is it like the functionality of it?
Speaker 2The functionality Like what you know? Is it like the functionality of it?
Speaker 3Keeping in touch with her, talking to her like this being.
Speaker 2Getting this money. Do you know what I'm saying?
Speaker 3Do you know what I'm saying? That effort is already been doing, like she's already know that's happening or whatever.
Speaker 1Again, that's what I'm saying, that's assumed.
Speaker 2If you're interested in that one person, you relationship, you really have to be a dope individual within your own right. You better still be making this money. You better be taking care of yourself. You better be, you know, a righteous person overall, because I mean, honestly, if you meddling in some bullshit, you're going to be, you know, full of shit.
Speaker 1Look, I'm going to tell you, young man, I'm going to tell everybody if you lead with your money, that's what they're going to follow.
Speaker 2Well, listen, we didn't make the game. No, no, no, no, no, no, we're just playing the game no.
Speaker 1I'm not saying don't get money. I'm not saying don't get money I'm. If you are the type that you lead with money, that is what they're going to follow. So the moment that that money is no longer there or you're no longer doing what you did with that money, they're no longer going to be there.
Speaker 2Well, think of it as someone that's like a financial expert, you know, that knows how to make money work and how to, you know, save and all that stuff Either way.
Speaker 1If you realize, hey, I had this much money in the beginning, I splurged a lot, so now I'm tightening up. She could leave you because now you're not splurging the way you used to. I think that is a real thing and that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 4So it's not like you broke, you're just tightening up because you're trying to make that money last, but it sounds like that's where the difference of like what else you would bring in the relationship. Like obviously a connection or gestures doesn't always have to be money based to add value For most time when you were a man.
Speaker 1you're going to have to have that money. Okay, that's just what it's coming down to.
Speaker 2Why would you entertain a relationship if you're not going to be?
Speaker 1with money. You shouldn't date if you don't have money gonna be so with money, because the idea, if you know, if you don't have money, because the idea behind that is, as a human being, as a adult, you are gonna have to pay 100 of your bills if you are single. So now, if you've combined with somebody and y'all are able to do the 50 50 thing, I mean I'm not a 50 50 yeah, I don't know what that is.
Speaker 1I'm not a 50-50 nigga. Yeah, I don't know what that is. I'm not a 50-50 nigga. I believe in paying all the bills as a man. Just because I— Because you want the power.
Speaker 3No, not even just the pride, the idea behind it is— you want the power.
Speaker 1No, it's the functionality If you leave—.
Speaker 2That was my $50 word.
Speaker 1No, if you leave if you leave now, I have to figure out where that money comes from. So if you leave?
Speaker 2Why are you dependent on it?
Speaker 1Yeah, I'm no longer. I'm not dependent, so I know that my money that's so dependent.
Speaker 2That's what I said.
Speaker 3That's true, so you can leave scot-free so it's not showing power, because then now she has to worry about because she hasn't paid any bills and she was relying on you.
Speaker 2No, it's powerful to lay down your power and let someone else lead.
Speaker 3She has to stay with you because you.
Speaker 1Because, more than likely, she's a woman in the 21st century. She's working yes, and that's what I was saying. So she has her money, it's powerful.
Speaker 2For me to allow you to lead, I'm going to take a backseat to you and I'm going to allow you to lead. That means that I'm going to allow you to be who you are, but you have to be a self-standing man for me to allow you to do that. To take care of me is really a privilege, because I'm trusting in you that you're going to do that. But don't get it twisted, because I do it for myself. But don't get it twisted.
Speaker 1I understand the 50-50 niggas also Because, like I said, if you had to pay 100% and now I can instantly bring that down to 50.
Speaker 3I can instantly bring that down to 50.
Speaker 1I can instantly bring that down to 50. You can save, you can save. Why would you not fuck with me? Yeah, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3I think that's a nice starter kick If you look at it. No, it's not a starter kick.
Speaker 1It's a starter kick because don't get it twisted Every man You're working together as a business.
Speaker 2No, every man wants to and at some point he will be. At some point when he does, he will do it. You know how much honor and respect and power comes with that, but that's You're not just paying the bills, you're the man. Yes, you understand, you're honored, you're praised, you're trusted in.
Speaker 1Yeah, but most men You're not just paying bills, but most men aren't, because the idea of taking out the trash, mowing the lawn, being the protector, just being a man, isn't respected anymore Is that your expectation of what a man is.
Speaker 2What's your expectation of what a man is?
Speaker 1No, the expectation of being a man is leading his family, is providing for his family, is protecting his family. That is the expectations of a man.
Speaker 2And you intend on having a family.
Speaker 1And also teaching his family Right. So those four things are what a man and you intend on having, and also teaching his family right. So those four things are what a man is supposed to do, and the thing about it is most women are choosing money over the rest of them?
Speaker 2are you doing that without checking under the hood? What do you mean? Are you being all those four things for someone that you didn't check under the hood? That works for you? Are you looking at how the ins and out of this person is that you're about to do this for?
Speaker 1Oh no, and that's the thing. But that's the thing Most people don't realize that, the freedom to be anybody, for you. No, because by the time you People wear a mask for a long time.
Speaker 2How long and I think that's what he was saying? So, is it more than six months for someone to have a mask to show you who they are as a person, for you to keep doing what you're doing?
Speaker 1That's a valid point.
Speaker 2Some people can keep that mask on for years. So six months is more than enough, like he's saying.
Speaker 1Six months is long enough to know if I'm going to be functioning with you. And I'm trying to tell you, within six months you could be duped. I say it's two weeks.
Speaker 3You could be duped in years years, it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter, but I'm just saying like for me. You asked me like what I'm doing, to pretty much keep upkeep right If I already know this person's worth enough me upkeeping. I already did what I did.
Speaker 2There's honor in there, she recognizes it, I recognize it, but I only need one pay period. Okay, give me two weeks, give me two weekends, give me two Fridays to come around.
Speaker 1I give me two Fridays to come around. I'm gonna be like, oh, I know what to do. You understand? I think you taxing that man, that guy's great Mark what you gotta say.
Speaker 2I just need one, I need two no, I'm gonna know who you are as a man in one paper. I think that.
Speaker 4I see both sides to it, though, cause I think that the 50-50 thing, well, that has it's pros, obviously if you're still the sole provider.
Speaker 2That's struggle right there 50-50.
Speaker 4Help me out.
Speaker 2That's like Chris Rock give me one, can I get one?
Speaker 4If you're a family unit, though it's not like you're single and you're paying it for yourself.
Speaker 1If you're a family unit, you could be paying 100%.
Speaker 4But if you're a single person paying 100% versus a family paying 100%, the bill increases by at least double, maybe quadruple with a kid and you become a steward of money because you are doing that and it flows to you.
Speaker 2Your money will come through you because you're the vessel to that family that you are a provider for I guess, but then also, like you might have, like a situation where your wife is working.
Speaker 4That's a heavy burden.
Speaker 2You won't have it. You won't be able to sustain it, so that's not even a problem for you If you can't sustain it. That's not your worry.
Speaker 1I've literally had a homeboy go crazy because of the burden that was put on him that he should have let go. No, not that he should have let go. If he would have let go, he'd let his family go, but he wasn't trying to let his family go and the pressure of having a newborn child, freshly being married, being young and at the time he lost his job.
Speaker 3I couldn't be with him you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1His woman now was the sole provider. She was kind of talking to him crazy, you know what I'm saying. And due to his probably family history, all that was enough to make him snap. He literally lost his mind.
Speaker 3Yeah so— and that's what.
Speaker 1I'm saying Men—that's the type of pressure men are under.
Speaker 2So when you— I think it's not a man thing, I think it's a capitalist society thing. You got bills on your back, no, but that's what.
Speaker 1I'm saying, but the idea behind it is a man has to now take on not only his bills, but your bills. I have to take on your hair, your nails, oh I know I really honestly, I just had this conversation.
Speaker 2I enjoy taking care of myself. My grooming is no one else's responsibility.
Speaker 4So you take all care of that so me taking.
Speaker 1I don't require that and I don't size you up on how much you take care of me, but I think I think most women do.
Speaker 2I should say in this, and that's a way to have a benchmark on how someone loves you, but that's because I do that for myself.
Speaker 4That's like that's how mark what you're gonna say, but I think also there's a lot of times where, like having a situation where, like sure, the man is working, but then also his wife is working or the other spouse is working, wherever the situation is, and that can be something where there's two incomes. So I think having a 50-50 thing can sometimes be like you were saying. It's like a business, the family because you are going to have to make decisions together buying a place, buying cars.
Speaker 2And you're more together.
Speaker 1Yeah, it works Exactly. It's very beneficial because excuse me, covid, alright, it's very beneficial because, as a man, if, like they say, the average man in this country makes actually like 39,000- yeah, right, like that's the.
Speaker 2I don't believe that no, it's true.
Speaker 3No, it's true we live in a high.
Speaker 2It's how you get them.
Speaker 3Sneakers, then I don't make 39,000 no, but thank god we live in a high. It's how you get them. Sneakers, then I don't make $39,000. No, but Thank God. The average of the United States, the average is they not talking about me? No, I'm not, You're living in a D&D. We're living on the.
Speaker 4East Coast in an affluent area. People in the you know the sort of the Midwestern sort of pockets. Cost of living is low there too, but that's what.
Speaker 1I'm saying it's the average. Don't put me in that bucket. You above average.
Speaker 2And I'm not talking to people like 39,000. No disrespect, that's just not where my walk is.
Speaker 1No, but the idea behind it is there's a lot of people that make less than that. That's the average. What that got to do with me, though? Either way, I'm just saying that's the pool that's out there, so you might not be choosing from that pool. You might be choosing from a pool that's a lot higher, but the idea behind it is the pool out there is. The average man makes $39,000. So for you to expect the average man.
Speaker 2You cannot apply that rule to everything. Come on, let's keep it real. If you take that on, let's keep this where we are.
Speaker 1No, the idea about that is, if you take that into consideration and you think about it, that if I spun in a circle and pointed at any man, he'd probably make $39,000. But that's everybody too, Would your expectations of that man still be that high, absolutely.
Speaker 2Someone that makes $39,000 will give their entire check towards the household and that will be his sole purpose to make sure the house is good and they will find fulfillment in it, and y'all will fail.
Speaker 1And there's no failure. There's no failure when you have choices. 39,000 is not enough to keep the house going. It's just. 39,000 is not enough. It's a finite amount of money.
Speaker 3But again, that's, again, that's dependent.
Speaker 2But you shouldn't be dating if you can't afford that Like if you live in Texas, Waco Texas, that's actually Florida.
Speaker 1I can't get no pussy because I'm broke. It's crazy, yo Ace where does my house?
Speaker 4go Certain parts of Texas.
Speaker 2Wait, wait, wait Ace nobody should be getting no pootie tang if they ain't got more than $39,000. That's crazy. Yeah, yo, that's all I got.
Speaker 3We could go geographic. We can go geographic. Fucking pootie time, fucking weather time, that's all I got.
Speaker 2I'm playing, I'm playing.
Speaker 3But anything else y'all think about. We could have another segment on Ball Spread.
Speaker 2This shit is going fucking too long it's going to be another segment. Hey, we done been any hoot.
Speaker 1Hey, we'll do better next time.
Speaker 2And his mic is going to be. I'm sniping the mic.
Speaker 1Hey, we'll do better next time. We'll do better next time yo welcome.
Speaker 3Hey, lex, thank you for being here. Oh, I can get my own intro now.
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