55: Boy Mom In A House of Boys

Ever feel like the only adult voice in a room that’s become a stadium? Tajuana pulls back the curtain on life as the only woman in a house of boys and explains how she navigates nonstop motion, surprise sass, and the tender moments that make it all worth it. This candid solo story blends humor and hard-won tactics, showing how overstimulation, mood swings, and the three-versus-one energy shape daily life—and how small, steady habits can calm the storm.

We talk about the reality of boy energy colliding with a mom’s nervous system, the way premenstrual lows can tilt the day, and the relief and reset that follow. Tajuana gets practical about tracking cycles, naming feelings out loud, and using simple tools—quiet corners, short breaks, and predictable routines—to keep patience intact. She also dives into those unexpected lessons: boys can be wildly affectionate and wildly sassy; boundaries around privacy and bodies shift fast; and honest answers build trust when curiosity kicks in. From library parking lot reflections to post-school chaos, this is parenting up close and unfiltered.

You’ll hear about sports days, swim sessions, piano practice, and the logistics of being the only girl who still needs her own space. Family threads run through the story—big babies, tall genes, and the warmth of boys who adore their mom even on the loud days. 

If you’re juggling big feelings, bigger volumes, and the pressure to keep it together, you’ll find comfort and strategies here: structure over shouting, repair over perfection, and identity that grows with your kids. If this resonated, tap follow, share it with a friend who’s outnumbered at home, and leave a review to help more parents find us.

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Chapters

• 0:00 Welcome And Show Vibe
• 0:49 Why A Solo Episode
• 1:05 Life As A Boy Mom
• 2:38 Overstimulation And The “Three Vs. One” Dynamic
• 4:30 Hormones, PMDD Feelings, And Mood Swings
• 6:23 Surprise Sass And Attitude From Boys
• 7:25 Privacy, Bodies, And Growing Boundaries
• 9:00 Owning The Boy Mom Identity
• 10:20 Hair, Routines, And Learning As We Go
• 12:00 Closeness, Height Genes, And Family Traits
• 14:05 Big Babies, Birth Stories, And Wrap-Up
• 15:24 Closing And Listener Support

Transcript

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Welcome to Turn the Page Podcast. Sisters, best friends, and friendship.

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With relatable episodes that feel like you're chatting with two of your closest friends or sisters. Join us as we turn the page on different topics about motherhood, adulthood, and anyhood.

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And finding yourself again through meaningful friendships, endless piles of unread library books, and endless Amazon package deliveries. Real, honest, and a little bit. Talk about it all.

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So grab your favorite drink, put the kids to bed, lace up your seats, or whatever you need to do, and join us. We can't wait to connect with you. Hi guys, welcome to Turn the Page Podcast. This is one of your co-hosts, Tawana Page. This is actually another solo episode on the podcast. This reason is because of the topic. And Sissy doesn't have experience with this. So this is essentially even essentially. This is my perspective on being a boy mom. So not sure if you guys know, which I'm sure a lot of listeners know. I have two kids, both boys, six and three, and I'm done, done having kids. So those are my two. And I've wanted kids like since forever, like my whole life and everything, but I never fully thought about like if I wanted a boy or a girl, I just wanted kids. So when I was pregnant with my first, I swore up and down I was having a girl. I don't know why, because I had never been pregnant before. So I was like, How did I just like know? If it was intuition, it was wrong because he was a boy or he is a boy. And with my second, I don't know what I thought with my second before we found out, but obviously found out he's a boy and he's a boy. So it's just wild. Like I can describe it as being a boy mom, currently now to a six and three-year-old, is like the closest thing to joining a circus without actually joining a circus. It's just constant like stepping over things on the floor, constantly repeating things, which I think is like just a parent of young kids anyway. But it's just it's it literally is like the circus. Just constantly just like wrestling and screaming at each other, and then one minute they're like best friends again, the next minute they're like pinning each other on the ground or like hitting and kicking and biting and scratching each other. All of this in a ma in a matter of like 10 minutes. So, as you can probably imagine, or other boy moms out there who already know that it's extremely overstimulating when I tell you that my nervous system has never been this out of whack before. Like, this is why. My nervous system is so out of whack. Um, these children are just they're boys. It's absolutely insane. I just, yeah. And dad, he's great, but he's also a boy. Oh, that also just like adds to their like to the craziness, which is fine because it's like, you know, every boy needs their dad. But it's like constantly just like throwing balls around the house, or just like adding to like the already craziness of like little boys. Now we have like an adult, and it's just like they all three just like it's literally three of them against me. One little girl, queen, that I call myself in the house. It's literally three against one, two boys and two kids and one adult, and then there's little old me. Um, I always tell them that I need to wear a sign that says fragile, handle with care, because I it's just it's wild. And you know, ladies out there, you know, we go through like all of our emotions, like almost or on a daily basis throughout the day. I can experience like every emotion under the sun. I'm not saying boys don't either because they do, obviously, because they're people, but they just express it differently, you know. Women, we get our periods monthly if like your cycle is quote unquote normal. And you want to say normal because you know, you're a woman, you bleed when like whenever that is for you. Nothing's ever perfect. So it's either out of whack or it's it is what it is. Regardless, if you're a woman and you still bleed, you know that like one time a month or however often you get it, you are just not yourself, you're a whole nother person. And then let's not even talk about like perimenopause, like the years leading up to actual menopause. So you're still bleeding, but you're going through all of these other changes in your body on top of the changes that occur when you are actually bleeding on your period, and then there's weeks leading up to your period, like the week before for me, over the past like couple months, it's just been like worse than it ever has been. And this is just like after kids. Um, so full disclosure, like the week before my period, I'm like super depressed, and just like everything is just awful, and I can just feel like my hormones just like unregulating in my body. Um, it's just it's awful. And then like the day I get my period, the week after the day I get my period, all of those depression feelings like magically disappear, and now I'm just bloated, miserable in my period. So it almost is like two weeks out of the month, it just like never ends. Um, this is not a period piece, but I just had to add that in there as a little tidbit to being a boy mom because they don't understand, and they never will, obviously, because they're not women, like they're they're they're boys, they're always will be boys, so it's just like they will never understand like the children or the their father, the adult. But so that can get frustrating a lot of the time is because especially those two weeks out of the month, my mood changes at the at the drop of a dime, and I am learning about that more, and we've done a few episodes about that on the pod, but that's just wild too, and me even like learning about that with myself, and then yeah, I mean, they're lovely boys, they're absolutely lovely, but they're wild and they're crazy, and then like the sass. Oh my god, the sass and the attitudes. I literally thought that I had like missed the mark with that. Like, I had dodged a bullet when I gave birth to two boys. I was like, I don't have to deal with sass or attitudes or anything that my parents had to deal with. My sister and I were growing up because teenage girls and like middle school girls are like the actual worst, like you're actually in a living hell for the person and the people that are raising them. It's literally, it's all hormone rage filled. You hate everything and everybody, but girls, it's just a whole other level. So I was like, yes, like I don't have to deal with the deal with periods, which I don't have to, but I have to deal with just the emotional side of it, the sass and the attitude and the tone. And sometimes I just have to flip my head around and just look at them like, what did you just say to me? So I really thought that I dodged a bullet with that, but apparently I did not. It's just in the form of boys, and it's just blows my mind every day. And just like talking about that, like periods, and then also just like full disclosure, just like taking a shower and like getting dressed. It's like I have to be super mindful, obviously. So it's like I can't be in the same room with them. It's kind of weird. Now they're getting older, like when they were babies, it didn't matter. But like my three-year-old, not really right now, but the six-year-old, it's just like he, you know, he's six. Um, like he goes to school, so it's like there have been questions that have been asked, which is fine, like you answer them honestly. But it's like I need to be mindful of that because I can't just get dressed in front of him anymore because he's six, and like my three-year-old, I'm starting to not be able to either. But it's just like it's wild because obviously growing up, I have a sister and a mom, but like um our dad too, but he would just get dressed in the room, like he would close the door, but like we would have like full range of getting dressed in our room and stuff. So that was like never a problem. But for me, like as a parent, now I'm just like, oh my gosh, I have to like go to a fully go to another room and like close the door, but like I'm the only girl in the house, so it's like I have to like make like special accommodations like for myself, as opposed to like being the other way around, where it's like I guess it was the my same way with my dad too. Like he was the only boy in the house, so we had to make special accommodations for himself, like you know, closing the door when he was like getting dressed. So it was like this, it's the same for me now, which is like which is obviously good, but it's just like an extra layer that you have to think about. It would be different if we had a mix, but it's two boys, so and also big ups to the moms who have are moms of both, which I think is pretty cool because it's like like a duality that like you don't get anywhere in life. I think that's really cool. Like a boy mom and a girl mom, but like all in one, but it's just like you get it from every angle, so that's amazing. Um, and also I never after having my first, I was like, oh, I definitely do not want a girl. Um, and I still don't, and I'm not going to have one because I'm not getting pregnant again. But I cannot now I cannot see myself as a girl mom. I was born to be a boy mom. It's funny because my mom is a girl mom, she is me, and she has my sister, and my sister is a girl mom. Um, but it's just like what are the odds? Like, I'm a full boy mom, like it's soccer practice on Saturday morning. We do swim on Sunday. My son, my oldest has piano on Thursdays. Not saying obviously girls do that too. But hopefully we'll get into baseball soon. And it's just like I'm a full boy mom, and like some days I love it, some days it's like really tough because I'm like, I have no one here to that understands me, literally no one. Um, and just like the meltdowns and the tantrums, and just like I will say that it's harder to shop for boys. They have cuter clothes for girls, obviously, because girls, you know, obviously love getting dressed up. So, but when I do find cute outfits, I just like swoon over and I just love it. And they're like, they're just handsome and just precious and adorable. But it's just something, you know? Being a boy mom is something that I never thought I would be saying, but it's something that I can't imagine not being. I don't even know what I would do with a girl. Like, we cut both of their hair because they had they came out with a head full of curly, thick, curly hair, like my sister and I both did. We get it from our grandmom, our dad's mom. So I like didn't know what to do with her hair, so we just like cut their hair. And like I'm learning to do stuff with my hair now. But I mean their hair looks great now. It's cut, but it also looked great. They had a lot of hair, but like I just didn't know what to do. And I'm like, I don't have a girl, so I don't know like what to do with this hair. Um, my sister does my niece's hair every Sunday. It's like a ritual, which I think is so precious because she's almost three, and like she like it's part of her routine now, and I think is so cute. But so that's I don't have to worry about the hair. Like, dad brushes their hair and stuff, and like I wash their hair and I put like really cute smelling products on there. I say cute because they're mine, but it's in the bathroom, so I use it. But yeah, and even for me, I'm just like learning stuff about like boys and like being a boy. Like, obviously, I know like what bo the boy parts are, but it's just so much because like I bathe them, and it's just like it's just funny because I'm so used to like changing boys. So, like whenever I change my niece, I'm like, oh right, like you're a girl. Um, it's I'm just I mean, from a jump, I was changing boys, bathing boys, like we both bathe them, but dad and me. But it's like I just from the jump I come out changing boys, so it's like I don't really know like all the time what to look for, so dad would like point stuff out to me sometimes. I'm like, oh, I didn't even like realize that, or like whatever. But it's just a whole different world over here on this side of the universe in this club, the boy mom club. Um, I mean they're precious and adorable, like they are obsessed with me when they're not like sassing me and yelling at me and having an attitude with me. Like, I know behind that is like their brain developing, but like they're obsessed with me. Boy moms, but you know, raising them to be like independent, but like still also like asking questions when they need things or whatever. But their dad's really close with his mom, their other grandmom. So I love that. And also, let me say, dad is like six foot, six one. My children are already tall for their age, and they're gonna be taller than me, probably like in middle school, if not before probably in middle school. So I'm looking forward to that being like the shortest one in the house. My mom was the shortest one in the house when we were growing up, and she's not even short, she's like five five. But I am five six, and like they are gonna like probably be as tall as dad, if not like an inch or two taller. But we have height in my family. My dad's tall, my sister's tall, my sister's like five seven. Um, my dad's like six one, so they get that from there, and then um my sister's husband is like how tall is he? He's probably like six four, six five. So my niece is gonna be super tall. So we just have like height all up and down our family, which is good for boys because I feel like that's like I don't know. It's like if you're a girl, like not that height doesn't matter to you as a girl, but I feel like as a boy, um, it kind of matters, just from what I've seen, like growing up and stuff like that. But don't have any height problems in this family. We are tall, average to tall, and my children are have been like off the charts with height since they came out, and with weight too, but like they're tall, so it like stretches out. But they both left the hospital in three-month clothing. My children never wore a slice of newborn clothing. Um my first was nine pounds five ounces, five ounces, my second was eight pounds eight ounces, I think. Yeah, and it was both C-section. Uh they have been off the chart since they entered this world. Oh I forgot how I want to say how tall they were at birth, how long they were. I don't remember. I haven't written down their books somewhere, but they've been off the chart since the day they were born. But yeah, I just wanted to come on here and talk to you about my experience as being a boy mom. Um, I just thought about this. I might be doing segments with this, like when my sister's not available, or when it's like from my perspective. We still obviously do episodes together. We had one come out the other day and we have more coming out. But this is just like a one-off for me. I just thought about it, and I just wanted to record it in the car on my phone. Yeah. So I'm about to go finish up some work on the podcast stuff and the website. But yeah, I just want to get in here and share. And it sounds like the kids are getting out of school. Not my kids, but I am at the library in the library parking lot. There's a school right across the street, and I'm hearing chatter. And sounds like school has been let out. I'm sorry, I'm just laughing. Just laughing at the kids today versus like when I was a kid. It's just funny. Now I'm like the adult and I'm like not understanding the language they're speaking. But yeah, so I'm gonna get off here now. So like, listen, subscribe, and review. And I'll talk to you soon, guys. Bye.

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