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April 16: Episode 1- The Daily Recharge Podcast Hosted By Jovie J. Sumner The Myth Of The Male Ego

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When is the last time you spent some time understanding your ego?  For most men the word ego brings up many labels society chooses to put on men such as 'ego maniac' or men have ego problems. The reality is that ego is not gender specific. The ego is as much a part of both men as it is for women. The challenge for most men is that  we  often unaware of or fail to embrace our ego as a part of who we are. Denying the ego in fact causes us to remain oblivious to our ego and how it functions. In todays episode we dive right into the ego to understand the mysterious force that can help us and yet often hurts us as well as others in our lives. Today we begin to breakthrough the taboo topic of the ego and learn what it is and how we can not only embrace, but use it for our good as well!





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Speaker 1:

How is your ego getting in the way and what has to happen for you to overcome that? Alright, alright, alright, it's yours truly JJ Sumner coming at you with today's live episode of the breakthrough boss, the daily recharge podcast, and I'm truly, truly energized and excited to be doing this. Uh, it's been in the works for a while and, um, you know, as with all good things, things take time, but it's here now we are rocking and rolling and we are in motion and, 2024, we're knocking it out of the fucking ballpark. So sit back, relax and buckle up tight because you are in for the ride of your life. So, without any further ado, we're going to jump right into today's topic. So today's topic really is about ego.

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Um, you know, I've been experiencing some ego from myself, and the funny thing about it is I remember reading or listening somewhere where Oprah Winfrey said ego is the thing that we see in others and not in ourselves. And I had an interesting experience today. As a matter of fact, you know, I sent my family some stuff from Tony Robbins and my sister she loves, uh, reverend Michael, uh, the famed, uh, spiritual teacher. He has some great content. And when my sister sent it immediately, you know, I replied back, uh, with something kind of snazzy, you know, um it's. I just felt like she was trying to compete with me, to be real. I just felt like she was trying to compete with me to be real. And, you know, I asked my wife's friend for some enlightenment. He gave me some different perspectives and helped me to realize that, you know, it's important for us to accept our ego. And it took me back to what Oprah Winfrey had said in terms of being able to see ego in others but not in ourselves. And I thought about what my wife's friend was saying to me, and, and what he told me to do was something that I think is important for all of us to do is to learn that ego is a part of who we are and ego wants to be separate from others, and ego does serve a purpose. However, we have to keep that purpose in alignment and center, or else ego will run out of control. And when I thought about some of the perspectives that my wife's friends shared with me, I realized I could have easily been doing the same thing and someone could have seen.

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You know, my comment, or what I might have to say, is being egotistical as well. So you know I wanted to talk about that. You know ego. You know what is it and how do we keep it in check. You know we've heard of people being egomaniacs. They're out of control. You know we hear so many damaging and negative things about the ego.

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However, I want to look at it from multiple perspectives, and one of the most profound books I think I've read about ego is Eckhart Tolle's the Power of Now, and he's always striving to separate. You know individuality, and so one of the things I've become more conscious of doing is how can I bring ego into oneness with others and how can I see ego as not necessarily a negative or a positive, but, just as my wife's friend suggested to me, just another part of who I am. To me, that is what it actually takes in order to really get to the place where we are aware of ego and we know how to embrace ego. And we'll get a little boom on that. One Just wanted to do that anyway. But we have to realize that this is a part of who we are and we do have to embrace it, and at the same time, we have to become observant of when it's at play, because I do think it's easy to see it in others and not in ourselves. And it definitely serves a purpose, excuse me, it serves a purpose and we don't want to lose connection with that, because part of that is for it to protect us, for it to help us, for it to enlighten us, you know, and help us to do the things that are necessary.

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And I think the other part of it sometimes is just as my wife's friend was suggesting to me today and sharing with me today is that there are also times when we're tired and when we're not at our best and we have to realize when ego will crop up then or when it will pop his head up then, because those are the times when you know you may be on the job or you may say, and somebody says something to you, snap back or, just like I did today, you know you act without thinking and we have to give ourselves permission to be imperfect, I think, and at the same time we have to also give that same allowance and permission to others to be imperfect, because none of us are perfect. We're all doing the best we can and I think that the more conscious we become of ego and when it's at play and when we're also maybe not at our best, because I think a lot of times that's actually when when ego tends to get the best of us is when we're not at our best. You know, tends to get the best of us is when we're not at our best, you know. And so, with that being said, for me it's about the consciousness. You know, are you able to observe why you're behaving or feeling or thinking, the way that you're able to behave, the way that you're thinking, or the way that you're behaving, you know, or feeling? You know? Tapping into how am I feeling right now? What's going on within me? Why am I feeling this way? It was one of the questions my wife's friend asked me today. Where's this coming from? I think it's another great question. And also being able to come back into a present moment, as Eckhart Tolle talks about in his book the Power of Now. Coming back into a place of present momentness, because oftentimes it's the mind that's running when we're not in those best spaces.

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And when we're not in the best space, what ends up happening is we do things we're not proud of and we end up feeling, and we end up having to go back and apologize, ask for forgiveness, and then we have to forgive ourselves, and then we have to take the time to figure out what was really going on in that moment with me. What happened, why did I allow myself to act this way, act out of control or lose control? This is really really an important space for us to raise our consciousness and for us to become masters of, and I love what my wife's friend said to me today. He said to me we have to embrace it. And I said, oh, and when we were talking, he said you know, you're speaking about ego as if it's separate from you and not a part of who you are. And when he said that, I was really, really, really like whoa. This is why I talk to this guy sometimes. This is why I talk to this guy sometimes because he was absolutely right.

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A lot of times we don't want to accept the ego as a part of who we are. We use it almost in a second and third party commentary of someone else. You know, this person is a super ego. They have a super ego. The egomaniac is out there, it's the other, it's in someone else, but not in me. And I love what he was saying to me today is that we have to embrace the ego within us. Oh, that was good, that was good. Maybe he should write a book.

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However, let's just really briefly discuss a few things that can be done for us to keep ego in check, and I want to start with what he said first. I think first, we have to all acknowledge that we all have an ego, and not only do we all have an ego, we all want to accept that we have an ego. Not to do so is denial, and I think we'll allow ego to get the best of us, because what will ultimately happen is when ego feels like it's not a part of us in an integrated manner. It's the way we accept all of the wonderful parts of us and then the parts that we want to be a part of us. The ego will do something or say something, and then we feel the self-sabotage because we didn't give it attention, we didn't embrace it, we didn't integrate it, we made it feel like it was the stepchild instead of oneness and wholeness with us. And I think that's the next thing.

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I think the second thing is we have to unify it into who we are by acknowledging and by accepting it. So, if we acknowledge it and we accept it. We say I'm a whole individual and this also is a part of who I am. This is not the stepchild, this is not the other, this is not someone else's part, or this is not just others who have that. I also have an ego as well and I think doing that it brings us into a place of surrendering where now we feel more empowered because we're not denying who we are, we're not denying another part of us. You know, as my coach, carolyn my life coach, carolyn Rim often talks about, is the key is to not resist these parts of ourselves, because the more we resist them, the more they are going to misbe what you want.

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Or when you do something to get accolades or positive attention, or even negative attention, whatever it may be, you give yourself praise, you celebrate yourself. Well, the deal is we have to do the same thing with ego. We have to acknowledge and say, hey, you know what I want to say. Thank you for taking care of those responsibilities, thank you for paying those bills on time, thank you for working your ass off to get that new certification or, you know, to get that promotion at work or to spend time with your family. We have to acknowledge the ego, because when we don't and the ego goes too long and it feels that it has been denied, it has been ignored, it has been avoided, it will show up and it will remind us that, hey, I too am a part of who you are and it's nothing wrong with ego. It's the unchecked ego that we have so many different stories and frames around in our society. You know so. To me, those are just a few things that we can do.

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Something else that came out of the conversation that my wife's friend his name's Andre and I had is that I think too, when we're not at our best because he brought up a very valid point about that when we're not at our best, then a lot of times ego can get the best of us if we don't observe. Hey, you know, this is an ego moment for me. I had an ego moment last night. I was at work and I switched into a different mode. I got tired at the end of the shift I was working in. I noticed my entire mood changed and as soon as I did, I checked myself and my ego versus projecting and sometimes it's so easy to project onto other people. And, as Andre said to me today. We have to realize we're those other people. We have the same moments where we're tired, we're hangry, we don't feel like being bothered, we want you know, we're just not at our best selves. And when we do that and we can extend that same empathy and tolerance to others, that same patience that you know to others as well as ourselves.

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I think that this creates a space of being observant. And when you become observant from that standpoint, what happens is that you're no longer just a passive writer with ego. Now you are active co-creator with ego and you can make an active, enlightened choice. And that enlightened choice can be I choose to do this or I choose to not do this. I choose to be aware of what's going on and where I'm at from a mental, physical, spiritual or even physical space right now. I think that's deeply empowering. And I think it's deeply empowering because you now are an enlightened warrior. You now are an enlightened being. You're no longer in the dark about how you're showing up and what you're putting out into the universe.

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And so often I know for myself, so often it's been so many times where I thought it was someone else. I thought it was this person. I thought it was this person or another person or that person, and then it came to when my emotions were not involved in it, my feelings were not involved in it. I saw I played a role in it as well. Whoa, and if you want to talk about a humbling experience is when you come into acknowledgement that you played an active role in whatever you co-created in your life as well, that you played an active role in whatever you co-created in your life as well. Nothing more enlightening than that. So those are just a few things I think we all can do do to learn about our ego, to accept our ego and to manage our ego, as well as embrace it as well.

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If you get a chance, I highly recommend you read some of Eckhart Tolle's work. Visit his website. To me, he's probably one of the most brilliant people when it comes to the topic of ego and mind and those types of things, and I have several of his books and may revisit reading them. It's been several years since I've read them, but they were deeply enlightening and I think that he said something I will never forget. He said we are human beings, we're not human doings, and I think that the life we live in this society we live is such a fast paced society. Even post-COVID is still a very fast paced society. It was even faster before COVID, so imagine how much we were on the go then.

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But he said we have to remember we don't always have to be doing. We're human beings. We're meant to be, not just do. And he talked about if you can sometimes just come into a quiet, centered place and just observe your mind, the thoughts, without judgment. Don't look at it as positive or negative, whatever it's saying, and just allow it to be, and after a while you will notice that it will come back into a place of centeredness and a place of stillness and wholeness, and to me this is the essence of ego at its best.

Speaker 1:

That's all I got for you guys today. I want to thank everybody for tuning in to today's first official episode of the Breakthrough Boss podcast, the Daily Recharge is truly, truly an honor for you all to be here with me and for me to be able to share some of the value that I have and what it is that I have for my listeners and my audience, and I look forward excuse me, I look forward to serving you and adding even more value to you and the people who you love and care about in the upcoming days, weeks, months and years to come. Thank you, guys, so much, sending you love, sending you light, much prosperity, success and abundance. That's all I got Over and out. God bless guys.