The Daily Recharge Podcast Hosted By Jovie J. Sumner

April 18: Episode 3- The Daily Recharge Podcast Hosted By Jovie J. Sumner The Price Of Living For Tomorrow?

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Jovie takes listeners down the path of understanding why most men live their lives for tomorrow, instead of for today. The future can seduce us in many ways. There is always tomorrow is a common motivational phrase often used to keep men looking forward to better times. However according to statistics saving for a rainy day or waiting until retirement to really live life and enjoy oneself may be one of the most destructive narratives that men can buy into. Jovie talks about the importance of men learning to live and enjoy the here and now, while taking the road less traveled to the 'someday' postponement type of living that for many men is nothing more than a form of fantasizing. Jovie influences men to start waking up and breaking through these age old frames that keep men hoping, wishing and living for a someday that may never come. Men can overcome these outdated conditioned ways of thinking by  living everyday to the max, while creating the lifestyle of their wildest dreams along the way as well!



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Why do you keep fantasizing about the future when today is all that's promised? Alright, alright, alright. I want to welcome everyone to another episode of the Breakthrough Boss Podcast, the Daily Recharge. I'm your host, joby J Sumner, and today we're going to be talking about why do men fantasize about someday instead of creating and living the life that we desire to have today. So this topic, it hits home for me. It hits home on so many different levels, because I've done this and in some ways, I still do do this. That didn't sound right. Do do so, we'll jump right in.

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I think one of the biggest reasons that most men we fantasize about someday is because it's a part of the societal belief that there is a later on, what I like to call the myth of later, and the reality is that today is the moment that we have. This is the present moment, this is the time we've been blessed and given to have to create and to do. This is the moment we've been given dominion over, and scripture says choose you this day. So if we look at that, it's saying this day. It didn't say tomorrow, it didn't say yesterday, it said today. And so I think we live in these myths that we're unaware of and we don't even really realize it.

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You know, and don't get me wrong, there are processes to life, you know. There are processes to building a home, there are processes to getting a job, there are processes that you have to go through to build a business. There are processes for everything. You know. The four seasons of life, if you will, in some ways is a process if you think about it. The four seasons of life, if you will, in some ways is a process if you think about it. The four seasons of life In winter, everything dies off, and then in spring there's a rebirth. In summer things die again, and then in the fall time you have a harvest. So, if you look at it, there are ebbs and flows in life.

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However, I think that as human beings, and as men in particular, we get caught up in this myth of later, later on, I'll do it later, I'll do it tomorrow, it can wait until later on, all of these bullshit phrases and excuses and myths which really just rob and take the time and the present moment that we have today away from us, because nothing good normally comes out of later, unless you're being patient. Now. There is a process of time and that process of time is being patient, and we know we are taught to be patient. That is a virtue for sure. However, there's a difference between patience and waiting, and waiting is one of my. I literally despise the word waiting, and there's a reason why, because to me, the word waiting is about putting something off until later on Again, the word later. So for me there's a difference between being patient which means, you know, I'm anticipating the harvest, I'm anticipating the time when the work that I've done, the seeds that I've sown, are harvested because they are now in due season, versus I'm just going to keep fucking procrastinating and keep putting things off until later, until I'm fucking completely out of time or life passes me by, and in some ways, that may be what some of you all are doing, and I know there have probably been times in my own life where I have done the same thing. Really, it's procrastination, it's a frame of I can do it later and the reality is none of us know if we have later. So we have to attack that frame of later, we have to attack that story of later and we have to tackle it. We have to change it, because if not, then what can easily happen is.

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What happens for so many guys is that they put off things for later. They put off things that they really desire to do until later, and then here's what happens. You know what happens. One day you wake up and you're too old. And I never forget I heard T Harv Eker say when you're young, you have the excuse that I'm too young. And then when you get old, you have the excuse that I'm too old. And if you don't start doing the things that you want to do now, eventually you will be too old because nothing is promised. Let me tell you, a lot of guys I know that put off things until later on. You know what happens For the myth of later, the myth of later becomes. I don't feel like it because my health is bad. The myth of later can I'm not saying always the myth of later can become. You know, something else happens. So I don't want to put negativity out there into the universe, but I'm just being real. Things in life happen and nothing is promised. So my suggestion is start evaluating where you're utilizing or relying on the myth of later. And again, this is not about just thinking you're going to build a kingdom of Rome and an empire in one day. It's not about that, but it is about living from the frame of today in the presence of now. So the myth of later is definitely something that you want to begin to evaluate where in your life you're living by this myth of later?

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The second myth that I know for a fact that has its effect on how men live and why men fantasize about the future instead of living in the present moment and creating what they desire to have in this present moment is the myth of the afterlife. I know part of the narrative or part of the framework for myself in growing up was you know, I'm going to wait until I get to heaven. Again, notice that key word wait. It didn't say I'm going to be patient until I get to heaven. The storyline said I'm going to wait and see. This is the issue. I'm not. I don't want to trigger anyone from saying you know there's no afterlife. I believe there is a heaven. I believe you know in the afterlife and the next life for sure.

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However, I think a lot of times, human beings, we use, we use these biblical texts and we use faith. We'll use anything as a fucking excuse to be truthful with you. Why? Because we're afraid. I'll just say it we're afraid, I'm afraid, you're afraid. Every last fucking human being on the planet Earth is afraid, and that is prime on my friends, and it won't go away. However, the narrative or the storylines that we put around why we're afraid can be changed, or the beliefs around why we're afraid can be changed, and I think that starts with telling the truth.

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You'll probably hear me quote a lot of people doing my podcast, because I have so many different people who I just deeply admire and respect, but none other than Tony Robbins. You'll hear me reference him so much. He talks about the two primal fears of human beings, and the one primal fear being the fear of not being enough and the fear of not being loved, and so, if you look at it, if you look at these primal fears, we can alleviate. If you look at society, we can alleviate in some way some of these fears by coming up with these myths of well you know, in the afterlife everything will be just peachy, keen and roses. And again, I'm not coming against anyone's faith-based beliefs or anything like that, so please hear me out. What I'm coming against, though, is another frame of reference that says I can wait until later on, because then you know, there's this myth that everything will be perfect.

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But it's like, how do you really know that You've been given a gift? And the gift is the gift of life. The gift is the gift of today, you know, which is truly a blessing, to be able to wake up and get out of your bed. Or even if you're not able to get out of your bed right now, even if you're just able to listen and hear my voice on this podcast, you are still blessed, because that means you have an opportunity to make some changes and to create what you desire to create and to have in life and to be and to do what you desire to have in life, which is really one of the greatest gifts. I don't think any other species has this gift to say you know what I'm going to? Just, I mean just evolution, just to evolve and to consciously make these choices.

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Only man has been given that, and I think we take it for granted by using the myth of the afterlife, and I think that is another very edgy myth that, if not examined, can really take a lot of time away from what one's life could be, and even to the point of allowing life to pass one by and never really fully experiencing and living and enjoying the life that one may desire to create or to have. And, like I said before, even myself, there have been parts of me that I think I'm still examining from the perspective of how do you know that this is not the gift that you've been given? That is like what you would consider your afterlife. We don't know, we don't know. So examine if you have myths of waiting until the afterlife to do the things you really want to do or to really enjoy your life.

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And again, I know a lot of times in religion there can be certain ideologies and belief systems that are taught. I personally think it's bullshit. I don't think the belief of the afterlife is necessarily bullshit, I just think the framework of waiting until the afterlife is bullshit. That's just my personal opinion. Why? Because today is the day that you've been blessed with, that I've been blessed with, and today is the day that we get to make new choices, new decisions about what we desire to create and produce and have in our lives. So I would highly recommend anyone who, if you know you, come from a religious background, like I grew up in me and anyone who, if you know you come from a religious background, like I grew up in, or you've heard yourself saying things like that, I would highly suggest that you begin to examine some of those stories and those frameworks and beliefs so that you can change them and really begin to dive into the life that you desire to have now and get to work on creating it and making it happen.

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I truly believe that one of the greatest gifts we've been given by the Creator is the ability to create and to build and to consciously produce what we desire to have, and I love that old story I used to hear Jim Rohn tell it about the guy who said one man said to another man he said you know, man, that's some beautiful garden you have. And he said you know God has really blessed you. And the man said well, if you think he blessed me, you should have saw it before really blessed you. And the man said well, if you think you blessed me, you should have saw it before. Because what the guy was saying was you should have saw it before I did the work. So what I'm saying is that when we co-create with God the universe, however you want to put it, magic happens, but it won't happen on its own.

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And there again lie some of the other myths. A lot of people who call themselves believers. They love to think that everything is going to happen on its own. The universal God is just going to put it in your lap. Life doesn't work like that. That is not reality. So you have to wake up and realize you are a co-creator, you are a producer in your life and you can create and produce anything you desire to have in your life. You desire to have in your life. You just have to be willing to put in the effort and do the work.

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The third myth we'll talk about is the myth of retirement. I think that the myth of retirement has evolved some and I think it's still evolving. And at the same time I still think that the myth of retirement plagues many of us because for many of us, especially those of us who are not from the millennial generation you may be from Generation X or another generation. You know the baby boomers. The myth is that one day, when you retire, then you can really live life. I mean, it'll be good then, baby. You know like you'll be 65. You'll be financially independent or free. You know you'll have plenty of time and money to do whatever the fuck you want, no boss telling you what to do, no co-workers getting on your last nerves you could just live la vida loca.

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I don't think that's really the case a lot of times, at least not in my observation. Sometimes it is for some people who have planned properly and who keep their health in a great space. Here's the thing, though, that I've noticed for most men. For most men, our work gives us such a deep sense of purpose and meaning that often times, retirement is not even what we have envisioned or thought of it to be. It's not Because, then, a lot of guys the white know they feel that something is missing.

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Unless they go out and start another career, or perhaps follow their passion of a business or a mission, they now feel something is missing. They no longer have the social interaction they once had when they were employed or when they were running their business. They no longer have that same sense of mission they once had when they were, you know, out and productively contributing to society in terms of value in the business market. And so, for a lot of guys, I've realized the myth of retirement is actually the opposite of what most men have fantasized it to be. It can be extremely lonely. A lot of guys. Their health declines around that time and I think a lot of that matter of fact. Statistics have shown that a lot of that does come from no longer being employed and being in the workforce.

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So you have all of these things that we don't talk about in society that affect men, especially in retirement. That because most men have been wired to get things done on their own and to put up or shut up, and men are not as vocally expressive as our counterparts are, a lot of men just suffer in silence, and so what ends up happening is retirement ends up becoming the very opposite of what we so long for and what we fantasized about for years. So we have to be careful to not postpone our enjoyment of every day, every week, every month, every year for the myth of retirement. And don't get me wrong, let me be very clear. I want to be brutally honest. Every day and every week and every month of every year is not going to be just peachy keen either. We know that Life has its ups and downs, but I love what the gentleman who wrote the four-hour work we talked about. He talked about something that he considered rules of the new rich, and he said in his book that the new rich don't wait until they retire. They periodically take many retirements every several years, you know, several months off from work, and he even talked about how they noticed they got more just better results from when they returned to their work. They had new perspectives, they were reinvigorated, they felt renewed and it closed this gap between waiting until you're 65 or used to be 63 or 65 or 70 years old to retire, and so I would highly recommend you get that book and read it if you get the opportunity before our work week.

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An incredible book that I really have enjoyed reading, and another book that I would suggest is when Then Play by Garrett Gunderson. I love Garrett Gunderson and I love his approach to life. I learned about him from my personal coach and mentor, jay White. They happen to be friends and both of them have some brilliant ideas and have just tremendously done a great job of helping people to wake up to different concepts and frameworks surrounding your life. But Gary Gunderson talks a lot of times about creating a life that you don't want to retire from, and I love that concept because my heroes, the guys who I looked up to guys like Hugh Hefner, guys like you know.

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You take Stan Lee, the creator of Marvel Comics, and I could go on and on and on. Guys like Bill Russell, these guys, they stayed involved with their passion until they passed away. They did not resign to a quiet life of desperation, you know, and so many men do this, because of the myth of retirement. Once you hit that age, oh well, you're done, you're, it's over, you know? No, we have to reexamine that frame, we have to reexamine that storyline from the myth of retirement.

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My intention for myself is to do just as Garrett Gunderson has said and create a life I never want to retire from and to be here and to grow and expand and create and produce and contribute up until my very last day, to give it all you know, because we can't take any of it with us. So why postpone again for some mythical fantasy that may never come at all? We don't know. You don't know how, what your health will be like at that age. You don't know how life will have changed, maybe for the better, maybe for the worse, maybe a little bit of both. But my thought form, or what I'm saying, is that it comes down to making and cherishing the most of life as it is now and planning for a great future. Yes, plan for it. However, I do agree with Garrett Gunderson Create a life you never want to retire from, and I think that's what the today part is.

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Start working on creating a life you never want to retire from. Start getting involved with your passions and the things that you love to do and stop allowing anything to hold you back that has been holding you back and I know you have some things that are holding you back, because I still have things that are holding me back and part of the journey is uncovering those things and learning who we really are, so that we can grow and evolve into the greatest version of ourselves and really create the life that we desire to have. Because, again, my friends, it will not happen on its own. However, you can make it happen. The last thing I'll talk about today is the reality of life, and again, we just briefly touched on that, but the reality of life is this Time waits for no man, none of us.

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You know, if you look back to when you graduated high school, maybe you went to college, maybe you went out, got into the military forces or began your first job. You know, and you may be around my age Right now I'm 44 years old. You look back you say, wow, man, where did all the time go? It flew by, literally. It literally flew by, like almost like it had wings. So we have to be practical and we have to realize life is impermanent and my desire and my wish and my prayer for every last single soul, including myself who's listening to this, is that you live to be a ripe old age, full of and filled with happiness, and full of joy and abundance and good health and vitality.

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However, none of us control all of those things. We can do our part to make sure that we eat healthy, we live an active lifestyle, we stay involved, we pursue our path, we keep our faith and we keep our mind and body strong and our relationships in a good space. We can do all of those things, but there are no guarantees and we know that Life definitely is a roll of dice sometimes. Sometimes life is a gamble sometimes, because there are certain things we just don't know, and how long anyone will be here is as good a guess as anyone's. We can do things to put the odds in our favor, however. So, with that being said, we have to do everything possible from you know, faith, family fitness and finances, as my dear friend and brother, mike Pepler often quotes to put the odds in our favor to play, to win today. You know to win and play today, and so I want you to deeply consider where in your life are you putting off something for tomorrow or for a later, or for one of these myths that if you begin to work on it today, it could become your reality in just a few short years?

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You often hear of guys talking about when you get involved in entrepreneurship. On the front end, it's a lot of work, a lot of commitment, a lot of sacrifice, even sometimes. But in a few years, some guys, some men, some women, they're able to go from absolutely having nothing to making millions, sometimes even more than that. That's just an analogy of what happens when we just start, when we just begin creating and designing a life that we can be proud to call our own, when we can take charge of our lives, because no one will do it for you and this is the reality of life and even no one would do it for you, and this is the reality of life, and even if someone could do it for you, I personally, as a man my pride I wouldn't want anyone to do it for me. Why? Because then they would get the muscle and not me. They would get the juice and not me. So my suggestion, my friends, is begin to evaluate and look at your life and see where you are living into a later instead of a today, and begin to do whatever is necessary for you to change that. That's all I got for you, guys.

Speaker 1:

As always, I want to thank everyone for tuning in to another episode of the Breakthrough Boss podcast, the Daily Recharge. I'm your host, jovi J Sumner, reminding you to stay focused, stay disciplined, stay dedicated and stay hungry, because lines are always hungry for more. Sending you love, light, abundance, peace and prosperity. God bless, guys. I'm out, thank you.