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April 17: Episode 2- The Daily Recharge Podcast Hosted By Jovie J. Sumner Why Men Overwork Themselves?

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Jovie explores the topic of why men constantly overwork themselves into burnout, even when it doesn't work. Today's episode explore's why men often work themselves into sheer exhaustion, and discusses solutions that today's modern day man can use to overcome this challenging pattern of overworking themselves into burnout and rediscover balance in their lives. Tune in to shift out of this painful cycle and reclaim your personal power now!




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Speaker 1:

Why do you keep overworking yourself and what has to happen for you to rebalance your life? Today's topic why do men keep overworking themselves, even when it leads to burnout? I want to thank everyone for tuning in to another episode of the Breakthrough Boss podcast, the Daily Recharge. I'm your host, joby J Sumner, and today we're going to be diving right on in to the conversation of today is this why do men overwork themselves?

Speaker 1:

This is something that I have definitely experienced in my life and it never really feels good. It's one of those things where I think we do it and we don't even realize that we do it. It's just something we've been wired to do. You know, I think sometimes and I can definitely attest to this I think, men, we are wired to believe we're supposed to be like the fucking Terminator, like we're supposed to just go, go, go and go, go. Go does not necessarily mean you're going to produce the results and outcomes that you want. Go, go, go can just mean you work yourself into an early grave. Some guys do. It can really lead to a plethora of negative things and outcomes in your life and a lot of times it's so unconscious for a lot of guys that it's just again, you're taught to be like an energizer bunny, like you don't have to rest and recharge, and that's one of the things I tell people all the time on the weekends I like to rest, recharge, recenter and replenish myself. Um, or we, you know, because the thing of it is this if you live an active life and you're someone who considers yourself an overachiever, or you're a high performer either, or it can be really challenging sometimes to turn the off button off. And I'm realizing that it's really important to get into the habit of monitoring where you're at every single day emotionally, mentally, spiritually, physically, you know, financially obviously, because if not, we can get into a habit of staying on the go or always working. That used to be one of my favorite quotes I'm always doing something, you know, to accomplish what I want. I'm always working, and you just wear yourself out and it doesn't feel good. As a matter of fact, it may feel good for a little while, but then, when you run low on fuel and you're tired, you're emotional, you're mentally fatigued, spiritually fatigued, emotionally fatigued, emotional, mentally fatigued, spiritually fatigued, emotionally fatigued, then you begin to realize the cost of always staying on the go or always working or overworking yourself. And again, my biggest issue with this is that overworking oneself does not necessarily mean you produce results. In many cases, it may mean that your results actually decline Because, over a period of time, the level of performance is no longer sustainable.

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And my thing with this is you always want to have a standard that's sustainable. You always want to set a pace that's sustainable. Why? Because if it's not, you'll do like what I used to do and what I've done for so long in my life. You start off great. It's almost like you go to one of those motivational pump-ups and you come out and you're going to take over the world and then life's bitch slaps you in the face and you realize like oh crap, like oh shit, this is really not sustainable. Like oh crap, like oh shit, this is really not sustainable. You know, it worked for a week or two and then it wore out. It wore off, and the thing with that is that you want to set a pace that's sustainable. You want to set yourself up to win.

Speaker 1:

So we're going to look at what is the cost of burnout and what is the outcome we're really after, and why we have to stop working into burnout now, because now that we've looked at why we do this to ourselves again, conditioning, upbringing society. Oftentimes, I think also it's the need to feel like we're the man, it's the need to feel like I got this I. It's the need to feel like I got this, I'm unstoppable, I'm fucking Superman, nothing can stop me. And the reality is, you may be unstoppable, but what if it's you who's stopping you? What if it's you who's getting in your way? And when we're talking about working ourselves to the point of burnout, oftentimes that is the case it's us, it's not the other, it's not external, it's us. Or if we take on more than we can handle, as my mom often would tell me, don't take on more than you can handle, and I would still want to do it. My mom often would tell me don't take on more than you can handle, and I would still want to do it. And so learning this art and this science of balance, of work as much as necessary but to not overwork oneself or ourselves, is a new concept and a new ballgame for most of us as men.

Speaker 1:

So if we look at what the cost of burnout is for me, burnout has often cost me money, it's cost me time, it's cost me peace of mind. It has strained relationships Because if you look at it when you're burnt out or when you've worked yourself to exhaustion or to the point where you just don't have anything else in the tank, you're no longer able to show up at your best or as your best self, you're no longer able to pour into others. And I realized this over just over the weekend. I was just exhausted and both my wife and I we slept most of the day on Saturday and then I worked again on Sunday.

Speaker 1:

And then I came, I got off work, I came home and I wanted to have a good conversation with my family, connect with my family. I didn't even have enough energy mentally or spiritually to FaceTime my mom. I mean, how much energy does that fucking take, right? And so I called her and we talked and after about 15 minutes I said you know what, mom, I'm really tired. And of course she was understanding, and then we ended the conversation.

Speaker 1:

We caught up for a bit, but the point that I'm making is that I thought to myself, like where do I need to rebalance? Where do I need to rebalance and recenter and replenish myself so that I can recover? Because I don't like this pace. I don't like the pace of where I'm feeling, like I'm low on fuel and when I say fuel, obviously I mean mentally, spiritually, emotionally, you know, so on. I don't like this feeling of not being able to show up for me the way I need to show up for me, and I definitely don't like this feeling of not being able to show up for them, the people who I love and care for, or even the people who I work with and be my best self, and so for me, the cost is not feeling my best, the cost is not being able to give my best, and the cost is also feeling like I'm lethargic and feeling like I have nothing else to give. And ultimately, that can turn into the case if you don't rebalance, if you don't recover, if you don't replenish or take some time to do what you need to do to pour into yourself or to be poured into.

Speaker 1:

In many cases and sometimes it could be both Sometimes you need to set aside time to pour into yourself and also to allow yourself to be poured into as well, because sometimes, as men, society doesn't talk about this, but sometimes, as men, we're also givers, we're also caretakers, you know, in the sense of wanting to take care of those who we love and doing for those who we love, and so it's important that we understand that we need to be nourished and we need to be poured into as well. You know, whatever that may be, I just intentionally took my dog out for a walk and I did that to get some of Mother Nature, to connect with Mother Nature. I watched and listened to a couple of my favorite podcasts or watched some YouTube videos this morning. One was for my spirit. I'm a big Joel Osteen fan, so I watched some of his YouTube video and just allowed myself to be poured into spiritually, because the cost of burnout really is not worth the short-term gratification that we get for it or even, a lot of times, the short-term payout that we may get from it, because, again, it just is not sustainable.

Speaker 1:

Many times when guys set this ridiculously high standard, that's not reasonable, you know, or practical, it just doesn't work. And oftentimes, the recovery period from when you do burn out and you sabotage or, you know, kamikaze, as they used to say in the wars it's not worth it. It's just not worth it, and so it's better to catch yourself before you get to that point and make the necessary pivots and adjustments so that you don't burn out. You know, if we look at it, we're going to move right along. If we look at it and we take the time to say, well, what is my outcome really?

Speaker 1:

I would be willing to bet there is very few guys who would say my outcome is to burn out, that my outcome is to feel worn out, or that my outcome is to feel exhausted, or that my outcome is to not have enough time or energy to even enjoy the money that I'm making or to even enjoy myself or my life. That's not the outcome. So we have to take the time to say what's the outcome that I'm after For myself personally this week, my outcome is to rebalance myself and my personal life and my professional life and to get them both back into balance before it gets too far off course. And then I start showing up on a daily basis, the way that I showed up yesterday, which was Sunday, with my family, and also so that I don't show up in business the way that I know I'll show up if I don't replenish myself. So my outcome for me is to recenter and replenish and recover and restore how I feel.

Speaker 1:

And I say that because often we're so busy going that if we don't intentionally carve out that space and that time, we'll just keep going. It can become like a loop that can become cyclical. So we have to intentionally stop and pause and make that time to say what is my outcome. And one of my favorite ways to do that is to say what do I want, why do I want it, how can I get it, which is a methodology that I learned from RPM, which is Tony Robbins system, which is extremely effective because it clarifies what you're actually after, what your outcome is, why you want it and what you must do to get it. The thing that I've learned by using that system and there are many different systems out there, I have several that I use, that's just probably one of my favorite ones is that a lot of times in our minds, what we think we have to do and in actuality what we have to do is two totally different things. Oftentimes in the mind we have a million different things we have to do and in actuality you may only have to do one or two or maybe three or four or five or six of those things to get your outcome, and if you look at it, you can see how that simplifies, even from a mental perspective, how many things are necessary for you to accomplish your outcomes. And that is a totally different psychology, but it's a psychology that works.

Speaker 1:

Because if you don't have the right psychology towards pursuing your outcomes, it is so easy in our modern day society to feel mentally overloaded, which will cause you to feel spiritually and physically and maybe even financially or professionally overloaded just from mental exertion, just from the thought of thinking, of taking on another thing. And I played this game before. You know so much to the point where you keep adding on more stuff, adding on more stuff, adding on more stuff. And here's what happens If you add on more and more, what actually happens is, after a while, your brain or your central nervous system will shut down and say fuck you, I'm not doing anything else, because I'm doing everything that I can do to help you accomplish what you want already. So you have to simplify your game and you have to clarify what your outcomes are. And when you clarify what your outcomes are, it makes the game so much more easier to win and so much more simpler to play and it actually becomes fun again.

Speaker 1:

But when we get to the point where it's just another to-do to add to our list, just to check off, make ourselves feel good. And we add up too many of those to-dos. We start feeling overloaded. When we start feeling overloaded, you start feeling under pressure. When you start feeling under pressure, you start feeling exhausted. When we start feeling overloaded, we start feeling under pressure. We start feeling under pressure. We start feeling exhausted. When you start feeling exhausted, you're now leading to burnout and you may not even realize it.

Speaker 1:

This is why it's so important to nip it in the bud as soon as possible and you can just do a few simple things, such as just checking in with yourself, or maybe an accountability partner, maybe even your wife, whoever you feel comfortable with having that accountability with. You know, I have several different people in my life. I have my buddy, tyler. I have my buddy, mike Pepler. I have several different people who I can check in with. I have accountability groups and I also have myself, because it's a habit I've gotten into doing every day and now it's gotten to the point where I do it the first half of the day, the morning, and I'll do it in the second half of the day, typically after lunch or maybe around the time when I'm beginning my work in the afternoon just so I can know where I'm at mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically, because it is important to do those regular check-ins just as much as it's important to go to the medical doctor or to go to your therapist or to go to your dentist annually and have those check-ins.

Speaker 1:

You know everything starts with you and your world. How you can accomplish your outcomes. It really can take so much pressure off of you and bring you back into a place of just feeling restored and recentered and just replenished and recovered. And when you feel that way now you are back in the game. Now you are ready to step up and win and play to win again, because you're going to show up as the best version of yourself.

Speaker 1:

The last thing I want to talk about today is this why you have got to stop working yourself into burnout now. And for me, my reason why is because, one, it just does not work. It's not worth it. The short-term gratification is not worth it. And two, the short-term gratification is not worth it. And two, it is another form of behavior or habit or pattern that can so easily go on and on and on if you don't catch it. I mean, how many guys have we seen that they work all the time and they're making great money and they're still not fucking happy Because now you're making a lot of money but you're overworked or you're burnt out and you're not even able to enjoy it.

Speaker 1:

And really the outcome and everyone's outcome is different, but the outcome really should be to live a great quality of life, or the quality of life you desire to have on your terms. That should be the outcome. The outcome is not to feel tired all the time or to feel lethargic all the time or to just not have the energy or the time or the money to do the things you want to do, you know. So you want to stop overworking yourself, so you can be the best version of yourself, for yourself first and foremost, and also for the people who you love and care for, and so you can also show up and show out in the business world and dominate and get things done and still have plenty of time and money to enjoy the rest of your life as well. If you don't eliminate the patterns of overworking yourself or being a workaholic or working until you're burnt out, I guarantee you it's going to cost you and the thing about it is, it's better to catch it on the front end than the back end, because it's almost like this is what I've learned A lot of times when you don't pay the small price up front, you pay a bigger price on the back end.

Speaker 1:

So, in my personal opinion, it is better to make the time, check in with yourself or whoever you have as an accountability partner, to see where you're at in the different areas of your life. To see where you're at, to see how you feel mentally, to see how you feel emotionally, to see how you feel and where you are spiritually and physically and financially by the facts and to gauge them on a day-to-day basis, because some days I'm at a 10 or 9, and other days I may be at a 7 or 8. And sometimes you can even begin to identify patterns. You know that will let you know. You know, but measure it, use metrics to measure it. And if you look at the metrics over a weekly period or a period of a month, or maybe even several months, you may even begin to notice that there are some patterns that you've been unaware of and you've just been running them, and running them unconsciously, without even being aware of them.

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I've always been a high producer on Mondays and I started to notice I would be a top producer on Mondays and then Tuesdays and Wednesdays I would feel like ugh, I'd be like out of it, right, because I'd be recovering because I gave too much on my Mondays and then I would have to recover on Tuesdays and Wednesdays. And so I'm not saying that that's unacceptable, but for me what I had to do was monitor it so that I wouldn't give too much on Mondays and then not have anything for my Tuesdays and Wednesdays, because to me it was almost like it was balancing out the fact that I overperformed on Mondays, because then there was a dip on Tuesdays and Wednesdays, which again, that's okay. There are rhythms to how we perform and patterns. We just don't want to overdo it. And then we have this huge gap where we have to recover because we have no choice, because we're burnt out. And now we've got the same time that if we just would have balanced it out or set a pace that was sustainable from the beginning, we're spent sitting on the sidelines playing catch-up, because that's just like a neutralizer. That's all we did. We just neutralized the extra effort we gave in the beginning, that super burst.

Speaker 1:

So my thing is know why you have to stop overworking yourself, and that could be your family, it could be your own personal mental, you know and spiritual peace or empowerment, or just so you, you want to feel good, you want to feel liberated and empowered, and that's your best every single day when you wake up and go out and do the things you have to do, because to me, that's one of the best and the greatest feelings in the world is waking up, feeling alive and just feeling on fire every single day.

Speaker 1:

And again, that doesn't mean every day is a 10, but just feeling like I got this, I can handle whatever comes my way, to me, bar none.

Speaker 1:

That's one of the greatest feelings in the world and that's where we want you to be at and that's where we want you to live, because ultimately, that's where we all want to live, and as men, we have to stop working ourselves until we burn out. We have nothing left in the tank to give. So I pray that you will take this into consideration, do whatever is necessary to take care of your mental, spiritual, physical, as well as your financial well-being and get your life in order so that you can show up every day for yourself and the people who you love and care for. That's all I have for you, guys today. I want to thank everybody for tuning in to another episode of the Breakthrough Boss podcast, the Daily Recharge. I'm your host, joby J Sumner, reminding you to stay focused, stay disciplined, stay dedicated and stay hungry, because lines are always hungry for more, sending you love, light, peace and prosperity. God bless, guys, you.