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June 22 Episode 20 The Daily Recharge Podcast Hosted By Jovie J. Sumner What Every Men Secretly Wish Women Knew

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Ever wondered what men truly need in relationships beyond the stereotypical expectations? In this episode of the Daily Recharge Breakthrough Boss Podcast, we uncover the emotional dimensions often hidden beneath the surface. Inspired by a heartfelt conversation with my wife, we delve into the world of unspoken relationship needs of men, challenging societal norms that frequently overlook their emotional experiences. By understanding the male perspective, women can build stronger, more supportive connections, fostering mutual respect and open communication. 

Picture this: even Superman needs to recharge as Clark Kent. We explore this powerful metaphor to highlight that every man, no matter how strong, needs a sanctuary of emotional support at home. We tackle the profound impact of men being objectified, especially regarding financial expectations, and emphasize their multifaceted contributions beyond just being providers. Join us as we advocate for harmony between masculine and feminine energies, aiming to create balanced relationships where both partners can thrive. Tune in and empower yourself to grow together, ensuring harmony and mutual respect in your relationships.


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What's the secret that every man wishes women knew about men that women don't know? Hey, hey, what's up? Everyone? This is yours truly, joby J Sumner, and I want to welcome you to another great episode of the Daily Recharge Breakthrough Boss Podcast. Today is a very special episode for me, as today I'm celebrating the 20th episode release of the Breakthrough Boss Podcast, the Daily Recharge. So thank you and thank everyone who has taken the time out of their schedules to download the podcast, to listen to the podcast, and I want to continue to encourage you to make sure that you share this podcast. If you enjoy it, if you like it, love it, continue to support it, share it with your friends, share it with anyone who you think or could get value out of this podcast or who might benefit from it. So thank you, guys, and we're looking forward to many, many, many, many, many more episodes of the Breakthrough Boss podcast, the daily recharge. So again, thank you all.

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Now, today's episode is going to be a bit different, because today is about something that I feel that every woman needs to know, but very, very few women know about men, and this is where we're going to go into the unknown. Today's daily protocol is what every man wishes women knew about men, and I titled it that way because I recently had I don't want to say an argument, but I had a conversation with my wife and really it wasn't an argument, the truth be told, it was. It was a conversation, and the conversation was about how I felt in my marriage with my wife. The conversation was about how we interact with one another, and let's be clear from the gate this is not about coming at women or coming for women. That's not what Breakthrough Boss is about on any level. Women or coming for women that's not what Breakthrough Boss is about on any level. And, at the same time, breakthrough Boss is about masculinity, empowering masculinity. It's about empowering both men and women. Let's be clear about that. However, we have to start with relationship issues in terms of there are a lot of things women have no idea about men in terms of how they interact with men, especially the men in their lives, when they are in relationships with them, and so the outcome of today's episode really is to enlighten women and welcome women into a man's model of the world and how men feel about how women interact with us.

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Sometimes I don't think, by and large, society supports women in giving a fuck about men or men's feelings. I don't think that is a knock against women. I think that it's a knock against society, at least from my standpoint, because I could be wrong. I think a it's a knock against society, at least from my standpoint, because I could be wrong. I think a lot of men feel society doesn't give a fuck about them, sometimes possibly even that women don't give a fuck about them. And when I say don't give a fuck, what I'm saying is not don't care. Don't care to the level of intimately understanding the experience of what a man is going through in his life at certain points. So we're going to talk about that today, we're going to shed some light on that and we're going to go down that road, that road of I want to guide you down the path of understanding.

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If you're a lady, especially what it is men want you to know that you may not know and no one may have ever told you, and I'm going to encourage you to be open-minded to receiving this from a man's point of view, as I am a man, obviously, and if you're a woman, you know sometimes things can be misperceived. However, let me assure you, the outcome of today's episode is to clearly help you become better in how you interact with the person who you may or may not be involved with or who you will eventually be involved with, if that is a man. And if you are a man, then you will already know some of the material that I'm sharing today and hopefully it will help you to communicate it to whoever you're involved with the lady that you're involved with even better, which is another outcome, because we want to help relationships to improve and how men and women interact with one another and support one another so that their relationships evolve and flourish for both parties involved, so that everyone feels that they're getting their needs met in the relationship. So, without further ado, let's go ahead and dive into that. So the first thing here's, here's the deal, and the reality is that that every woman must know about their man In order for your relationship to continue to grow, in order for your man or your partner to feel supported. The first thing I'm going to start with is this I'm not Superman all the damn time.

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Men are magnificent creatures. Let me be clear Men are powerful, men are dominant, men are intelligent, men are ambitious, men are driven, but men are not supermen all the time. Oftentimes, a lot of men feel that women don't understand that they are not Superman all the time. And I use that metaphor of Superman because, if you, if you remember, in the movie Superman, it was Lois Lane who was the love of his life, you know the apple of his eye, and that had his interest. And Superman would come save the world, save the girl, save, save everybody.

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Right, the bus is falling out the sky. Superman, he, he swoops in. He saves the bus from crashing. Lois Lane is about to get hit by a train on the subway. He swoops in, saves her, takes her back to the high tower, the high-rise building, gets a kiss and then flies off. You know, um, there's a villain that's about to overtake the city. He goes and battles him for a while hours and then finally dominates him, overthrows him victoriously.

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My point being is that by the time Superman does all of that shit, superman is fucking tired, because, yes, even Superman has to rest and recharge. So, ladies, we love you all, but we are not Superman all the time. I'm Clark Kent too. Your boyfriend, your fiance, your husband is Clark Kent too, and he has to rest and recharge sometimes too. And what that really means to you is that men want women to understand that we are not always on. There are times when we like to rest, there are times when we like to rest, there are times when we like to relax, there are times when we want to be humanized in terms of not always having to feel like we're Superman. We know we have to be Superman in the business world when we go out and do things to produce for ourselves and for our families and to better ourselves, to take care of ourselves and to take care of our families and our responsibilities. We know these things. We just want you to know and understand that we're not always going to be supermen.

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We have to go back to Kryptonia at certain points of time to recharge and oftentimes Kryptonia for a man is his home or the sacred space that he spends with his lady or his woman, because there is a certain strength and softness that his woman provides to him. That makes him feel loved, that makes him feel nurtured him. That makes him feel loved, that makes him feel nurtured, that makes him feel supported, that makes him feel safe in his castle and that is a very sacred space for a man. So men want women to understand. It is very important for us to have peace in the castle, in the kingdom, because that is Kryptonian for Superman and that is where Superman must recharge and regain his powers back before he goes back out to battle with the world and to save the world and to do all of the things that Superman can do again. So we want you to understand this, because that is so valuable for men.

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And let me be clear this is not about blaming women, for if there is disharmony in the household, that can go on either end. This is just merely saying to men home and the home front and the relationship that the man is in is such a sacred space that she must, as a woman, you must understand, excuse me, that this is the space where I have to nurture and support this man. This is the sacred space he comes to because you, in essence, are his Kryptonian. You are a part of the kingdom that rebalances him. Kingdom that rebalances him, that helps him figure things out, even when he may not be vocal about those things, that replenishes him mentally, spiritually, emotionally, so that he can continue to do the things that he has to do. And this is something that every man wishes his woman or women knew about men. So it is very important for women to understand that and to nurture that and to show up in the way that he needs you to show up in that environment as your best feminine self. And that does not mean or require for you to be perfect. It just means for you to bring that understanding of who you are and the role you play in our lives as our queen in the kingdom it is king and queen in the kingdom so that the kingdom can flourish and prosper.

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And this is what we, as men, wish all women knew. That is the first thing. The next thing that every man wishes his woman knew is that men have feelings too. Yes, men can be barbaric at times. Men are warriors. Men are powerful. Men are strong. Men are powerful. Men are strong. Men like battle. Men do a lot of things. Men like having fun. You know, men are just big kids at heart, and I don't have to tell women that, because I think most women already think men are just big kids and grown men's bodies anyway, but that's another topic for another time.

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However, ladies, we want you to know that men, as men, we have feelings too. And again, hear me clearly, I'm not suggesting you don't know this intellectually. What I'm suggesting is we need you to empathize with us and put just put yourselves into our shoes at some points of time to understand what the masculine experience must be like for a man. What that means is to understand the pressures that a man has on his shoulders to take care of his responsibilities, to rise to new levels professionally, to produce more money and cash flow for himself and those who he loves, to go out and to have to navigate in a world where not everyone is for him, and to have to navigate in a world where not everyone is for him. Those types of things, in continuance with taking care of his responsibilities, perhaps as a father, as a husband, as a business owner or an employee they can wear on a man, especially when a man may feel like he's not at his peak or when he may be in a season where things are not going his way, and it's during those times that really is an opportunity for you, as his woman, to step up and show him the queen in you, and you do this by offering him compassion, love, nurturing and empathy of his experience. You do this by being present with him when he is expressing what he's experiencing.

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Most men don't want to be coached. As a matter of fact, men hate being told what to do, because most men, even if we don't, we feel like we already know what to do. It's just a part of masculinity. However, however, if you will acknowledge that man and if you will connect with him emotionally and come into his world empathetically, that man will feel seen. That man will feel that you are in it with him, and when he feels that you understand what his experience is, when he feels that you are in it with him, when he feels that you are willing to go to bat with him because, see, he can know it but not feel it, then there's nothing that that man won't do for you. He will go to the ends of the earth for you. He will feel empowered and reinvigorated because he knows that his lady gets it.

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Oftentimes, as men, when we talk amongst ourselves, we will say I feel like she just doesn't get it. I have said this, other men have said this to me and men say this to one another Ladies, we want you to get it, and how you get it is emotionally, when you emotionally connect with us. I understand that sometimes the way the masculine energy can express itself with passion and fury and anger. It can be a big dawn into the feminine energy. I understand this, know this, that that energy is not really often directed towards you. It's just being channeled outwardly for expression, because masculinity is about freedom and finding a channel to express that energy so that it can be free. So this is what we want you to know Understand us, do not be afraid of my feelings, empathize with them and empathize with my experience and come into my world and see and know and feel what it is like in my experience. And when you do this, we will trust you, we will respect you, we will love you and we will know that you fucking get it.

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The last thing I'm going to talk about today is this Men wish women knew that we are not just money objects. Often times we have heard and we have been told that sometimes men can treat women like sexual objects. This is very true. This is very true. I will not deny this. And now, nor am I glorifying that, because no human wants to be objectified, and let me start with this as well. No woman nor man wants to be objectified. And when I say objectified, typically speaking, when I say objectified from a man's perspective.

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Men typically get objectified to being money makers. We all know there are plenty of women out there who out earn men. Right, my woman out earns me. However, men pride themselves on their ability to produce income and to be producers for themselves and those who they love and care for. And yet, men, we do not want to be objectified as only being money-making machines. We may be a money-making machine, we just don't want to be objectified as a money-making machine. Because the minute that you objectify your man as someone who is just this in your world or someone who is just that, you objectify that person. You're making them just an object.

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And men can feel that men are not foolish. Men are not unaware. Oftentimes I know that there is a narrative that men don't know what's going on, or men are not aware. Men are very keen and men may not often even say what they see or what they feel, but men are very aware. They're very, very, very in tune I'll use that word, not in touch in tune with who they are and what they feel. And so men want women to know that we are not just money objects. We're not just here to only make money, to be a security blanket as one of my friends said so eloquently for you. We will do that because we love you and we want to do that because we love you. We just don't want to be objectified into. That is my only role in your life. That is his only role in your life, because no person wants to be objectified.

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Because when a person is objectified and especially as a man, when a man is objectified, it makes it feel like he's there for one thing and one thing only, and that does not make any man feel valued. As a matter of fact, it can probably be very demoralizing to the majority of men If a man was to only think or feel that he is there to give you money or produce more money for you and for your benefit, even if it's only for the benefit of his family. If he's made to feel that way, or if he does feel that way, it is demoralizing to him. So men want women to know that we don't want to be objectified either and we're not just money machines. We are producers of money, but we are not just here to produce money or to be a money machine for you or in the relationship. We are more than that and we want to be seen as more than that, and it's okay if that is a part of the role that we play or one of the roles that we play. We just don't want to be seen as that's the only role that we play or the only reason why you want to be with us or why we are a part of your life or in the relationship with you be with us or while we are a part of your life or in the relationship with you.

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So I hope that in today's daily protocol, we have covered some of the topics that will help women to understand how they can really enter into the masculine world as the feminine energy that complements the yin to the yang, because that's really what it's all about. It's all about bringing the masculine and the feminine energies together in harmony Together, because there's such great power when there's harmony between the masculine and the feminine. And the one thing that I love seeing is I love seeing the rise of the masculine energy right now, and I want to be clear for any man listening to this Toxic masculinity is as bad and as negative to me and detrimental to the progression of humanity as is toxic femininity, and we've seen our fair share of both of those in the past. The two must coexist and they must begin to understand one another. The feminine energy must begin to understand the masculine energy in order for the feminine energy to truly thrive, and the same for the masculine. The masculine energy must begin to understand and have a healthy respect for the power, the beauty, the essence and the nature of the feminine energy in order for the masculine energy to truly rise.

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It's not about one gender dominating another. It has nothing to do with that. And if you are a female listening to that and your narrative is not in alignment with that, I challenge you, because the reality is this what difference does it make to me as a man if you are empowered as a woman or not? I could give a fuck less about that. What does matter to me as a man, as a man excuse me is being empowered as a man and being liberated as a man and knowing who I am and being able to do what's necessary for me and minds, and I would think as a female, it would be the same thing for you. So we have to be very, we have to be careful not to make it about. It's about gender wars, or I don't even like that word. But it's about genders. It's not about that. It's about understanding and respecting and, at the end of the day, the masculine must respect the feminine and the feminine must respect the masculine. We all have both of those parts and energies in us anyway anyway. So my intention for today's episode has been to invite women into the masculine world, to invite women into the unknown of what perhaps no one ever taught you or told you, be it a woman or a man. But this is what every man wishes his woman knew about him.

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I want to thank you for tuning in to today's episode. Today, I want to encourage you to share today's episode if you think someone else could get some value out of it. And, as always, I want to remind you to stay focused, stay disciplined, stay dedicated and stay hungry, because lines are always hungry for more. Sending you love, light, peace and prosperity. I'm your host, jovi J Sumner. God bless, guys. Thank you. Outro Music.