Dear Mama

In this heartfelt episode, the hosts celebrate the significance of mothers in their lives, sharing personal stories and fond memories that highlight the sacrifices and love that shape their experiences. They reflect on the lessons learned from their mothers, the impact of generational changes in parenting, and the importance of appreciating the journey of motherhood. The conversation culminates in a tribute to mothers everywhere, emphasizing the need to recognize and value their contributions.

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Transcript

Celebrating Mothers

Speaker 1 0:13

What's up, what's up, what's up. It's Uncle Shannon coming to you live from our Legacy Studios. With me I have my boys, as usual. Uncle Stuart, what's up? And Uncle Mark Yo yo, and we're coming to you with a special episode this week. It's all about the mamas. Yo, mama, yo, mama, mama, yo, mama, mama mama.

Speaker 3 0:36

And forever ever.

Speaker 1 0:37

And forever ever All about the mamas. Today All about the mamas. So we're going to dive in, tell a few stories, remembrances. Can't forget about the wives. Got to talk about them too, because they mamas and our babies having babies. So we're going to talk about all of that. But welcome to another episode. Grab your favorite beverage, strap in and we talk about Mommy.

Speaker 1 1:05

Dearest. What up fellas? What's going on, man? Man, I don't know it. So this episode is going to be a little different. We're going to give, give, give some love to the most loved, the mamas of the family you know I I hark it back to one of our previous episodes, when you were talking about your mom and talk about the difference between the mom and the dad.

Speaker 3 1:27

That's right.

Speaker 1 1:28

The mom got that special place, so we're going to try and honor that this week.

Speaker 3 1:32

Yes, sir.

Speaker 1 1:33

So, mark, as you think back, man, about your fondest memory, you know I love me some Gil, love me some Gil. What stood out, what was one of your fondest memories of your mom?

Speaker 2 1:47

You know, man love my mom. So, being a single mom, you know we was growing up playing little league sports, particularly football. You know I had started doing my thing running that ball. Well, man, there would be times I'd be running down that sideline and I'd look over and my mama beating me to the end zone.

Speaker 3 2:11

I mean, yeah, you wasn't that fast. I'm just saying, that wasn't hard.

Speaker 2 2:15

I'm sure you know it was a beautiful thing. As I got older I really appreciated that because you know I would see fathers doing that thing, you know. But my mom was right there, man. She was always my biggest cheerleader, no matter what, you know, whatever I decided to do. So that is always one of my fondest memories. And a couple of times I got hurt and I'd be like why is she on the field? Why she beat the coach to the field? You know she had to come see about her baby.

Speaker 2 2:42

Come see about her baby. You know, you let my sister tell it, I'm the prince, prince of King, but anyway, that sounds familiar.

Speaker 1 2:58

You got to be the special boy.

Speaker 3 3:04

All right, stu, what about you? Well, it's jeez, I don't know. It's really hard to point to one particular incident. I think it's more of a series of the same thing. My mom made a commitment to always talk to us, always have conversations, meaningful conversations, whatever came to her mind, she wanted to make sure she poured that to us. Always have conversations, meaningful conversations, whatever came to her mind, she wanted to make sure she poured that into us. I know I sat on her bed many a day and we just talking about any and everything. That continues to this day. It's hard for me to put a particular situation out there. It's just those series of situations that always have taken place.

Speaker 1 3:52

Yeah, and it's funny how similar our situation is because with my mom, literally we could talk about anything Right. There was nothing off limits it wasn't nothing awkward about it. From talking about girls and everything else, everything in between.

Speaker 3 4:14

She gave me the cheat code, man, I mean really. So it's her fault.

Speaker 2 4:19

That's right.

Speaker 3 4:21

That's right. Say it like it is Wait a minute, stay on task. It is not her fault, that's right. Say it like it is Wait a minute, stay on task. It is not her fault. It's enlightened me so it allowed me to maneuver in situations that you know I ordinarily probably would have failed or made huge mistakes. But no, I mean we did have those kind of conversations we talked about to your point. There was nothing off limits. You talk about sex. Her main thing was don't have it. That's right.

Speaker 2 4:53

But you know, but if you do you know what you need to do? Don't bring no grandchildren in here, all that. Don't bring no babies in here.

Speaker 3 5:02

I'll tell you another thing about this is another one of those not specific memories, but series memories, cause my mom, my grandma, they big in church, right, so she made us sing on the choir, which I absolutely hated. I mean, like taking me to choir rehearsal on a Saturday. What you gonna take a young boy to choir rehearsal on a Saturday? What You're going to take a young boy to choir rehearsal on a Saturday, so? But I will give her this man, you know, because she was in the choir too. This is one of the things I do remember. Like she would have choir rehearsal on Thursday, I think it was.

Speaker 3 5:42

And we'd go to my grandma's house and then we'd walk to the center where they would have rehearsal, and she'd bring us food. You know all the other kids would be there and playing, doing whatever we're doing, but every time we saw our mom she came with two plates of food for me and my younger brother. So those are the things that I really cling to and remember the most Hot dogs and French fries I already had a ketchup on it.

Speaker 3 6:11

She put it in four. It'll still be hot when we get there. So yeah, man.

Speaker 1 6:16

It don't take much. No, it don't take much, small things in life Don't take much at all. Man, yeah, and it's funny how it's those little moments that are so impactful. It ain't the big thing.

Fond Memories & Life Lessons

Speaker 1 6:30

Yeah, you buy me stuff you do all that's not what you remember you know, one of my fondest, fondest memories of my mom is when we were living in west Virginia and she played softball. My mom had a cannon. She was a pitcher, she had a cannon. But just being out there and seeing her playing sports and doing something, that's not right. Quote, unquote, mom activities. But it helped me understand that you don't have to be just one thing, you've got to be you. You've got to do something for yourself. Yeah, you take care of your family, you go to work, you take care of your kids.

Speaker 1 7:17

But if you're not taking care of you, how can you be there for them? And that wasn't a conversation we had. That was just observing the way she was going through the world.

Speaker 2 7:30

Yeah, and for me, just watching my mom, and again the way we, when it was just us, my sister and her, we watched my mom and two jobs sometime just making it happen. You know we never won it for anything. You know what I mean. Like I can look back now and be like man, boy, we was just getting by but you wouldn't have known that. You know what I mean. And just a beautiful thing Anytime. You know I can remember thinking about now had a special event, a Gray Prawn. You know she was like you got to have a suit and I mean she found a way to make it happen. You know it's small, it's just a small thing, but back then, man, just little things like that I just so appreciate. Now, yeah, as an adult, as an adult, you know what?

Speaker 2 8:26

it takes to do those things when you ain't got it Right yeah.

Speaker 3 8:30

Man, the one thing that really hits home in what you're saying is the sacrifice. What did she not do, or what did she sacrifice for herself to make sure that you could get?

Speaker 2 8:49

a suit yeah.

Speaker 3 8:51

Or you know, sometimes, man, I don't even, and I'll be honest just thinking back every time we ate, I can't say I remember my mom even eating. Thinking back, every time we ate, I can't say I remember my mom even eating, and I'm not saying she starved herself, but I think she might have just not ate so that we could At times. I'm not saying it was often, but all my memories of us eating is me and my brother and my daddy All of us eating, but she's just making sure that everybody else was good.

Speaker 3 9:23

She made enough, yeah. So, and to your point, I wouldn't have known at the time, but you know, just thinking back, and when I went to school, my sister and I in school at the same time I mean I know how that is now having two in school, not on scholarship I can only imagine what she was dealing with, making that sacrifice for me to be in a position to even be here with you guys.

Speaker 2 9:52

Yeah, you just took me down a road. You know Smithwood. It's outrageous now but it was not cheap.

Speaker 3 9:59

Yeah it was a private school, yeah, you know, and just thinking about those times when, if it wasn't, it's outrageous now. But it was not cheap, it was a private school, yeah.

Speaker 2 10:01

You know, and just thinking about those times when because you know, I worked the whole time but I'd be like, she'd be like son, you know you need something. Didn't really want to say it, but when I said it she'd be like all right, call you back in a little bit. You know she'd make it happen, make it happen, make it happen, just make it happen. Appreciate that man Sacrifices boy.

Speaker 1 10:23

Yeah yeah, now do y'all remember, or can y'all remember, when your mom was young?

Speaker 2 10:32

Absolutely.

Speaker 3 10:33

Yes, you know, and this is the beauty of especially what you guys do in terms of your passion is photography, right, so those pictures help facilitate memories. You know what I'm saying. So it's like I see an old photo. I remember seeing one not too long ago. My mom was thin as a rail with an afro. Me and my brother got on matching outfits like two little girls.

Speaker 2 11:07

The photos were so old it looked pink, no it wasn't Easter, it looked pink.

Speaker 3 11:13

But yeah, I remember my mom didn't like to let us go places. We wasn't spending the night a lot of places when we were little. Mom wasn't hearing it, so we was always with mom. Pops worked all the time so you know I got that, but we was always with her. So yeah, I remember being young. I remember her. I remember going to my grandmother's house and she always saying y'all better behave my aunties and my other cousins, they get over there and run wild.

Speaker 3 11:51

But my grandma always made sure that she said to us or to my mom she's happy to see us, because we didn't ever give her any problems, that kind of thing.

Speaker 2 12:02

So when you said that immediately my mom was the life of the party, I mean always had a good time, never a dull moment. And just taking it back to being young, seeing her always dancing, she got to have her music playing and it was on Earth went in fire. Yeah, it was going down.

Speaker 3 12:29

So that's, right.

Speaker 2 12:31

But then I just think about when I got 18, had my mom be like you know, we're going to the dog track, we're going to do these things. And you know she was just like I'm going to the dog track, we're going to do these things. She was just like I'm going to get you your first drink Now with my mom. Let's make that clear, just chill.

Speaker 1 12:51

Your first drink was with your mom. Sure was that's right, it was. Thank you, it was, it was my first drink. Absolutely my first drink. I had nothing to do with, not at all nothing not at all.

Speaker 2 13:06

Anyway, I don't know, but it was just such a chill moment you know, and I, and I'm thinking my mom in her 40s, and I'm like you know, back then you'd be like man, that's old, you know, and man far from, far from, far from.

Speaker 1 13:25

And even when we were younger and first started hanging out, you know, we found out that your mom knew my family already yeah, and the reason she knew them was from the night, from the club. That's right, Because she loved to dance. Mama Chip and all of them stayed on the dance floor, so it's funny how that came full circle.

Speaker 3 13:49

But you know why did y'all let them meet, Lord?

Speaker 1 13:51

And the rest is history, history.

Speaker 3 13:53

I'm grateful for it and the rest is history.

Speaker 1 13:57

I'm grateful for it. But, man, you think back. I think back on some of those old photo albums and all of that too, man, and those memories. I remember seeing a picture of my mom and my aunt Pat. They got on their all-denim outfit, bell-bottoms, all that. They on the back of motorcycles with some random dudes. I think they were going to an Earth, Wind, Fire concert or Orange Age concert, or something I'm like who is these dudes? I don't know dudes, just some random, really.

Speaker 3 14:30

Really. But yeah, and you know, it ain't no big deal when you think about anybody else, but it's your mom when you think about your mom, that's your mom Exactly, I'm throwing that back up to Randall's bike Woman Right, it's like I mean, but for real talk, though, it's like. You know, your mom was human and she made mistakes and did but to you as that little boy growing up, she's like perfect.

Speaker 3 14:58

Yeah, she is like perfect she never talked to anybody else except you know your dad. You just don't see, they was really good at hiding. Oh yes, well, I'm telling you, man them, parents are something else it's a beautiful day.

Speaker 2 15:15

Love my mama though as we all do.

Speaker 1 15:19

But, man, you know, and I love my mama, though, as we all do. As we all do, I love my mama, but, man, you know, and when I think about it's funny how even your wife, you know, when they started having your kids, you do look at them a little differently.

Speaker 3 15:37

Oh yeah, oh yeah, for sure Right.

Speaker 1 15:38

That's still your wife. Y'all still in love, whatever. But yeah, you know you're not number one to her. Yeah.

Speaker 3 15:49

You know, I guess you kind of accept that.

Speaker 2 15:53

Yeah.

Speaker 3 15:54

At least I do.

Speaker 2 15:55

Yeah, I'm sure we all do. I'm sure we all do.

The Impact of Sacrifice

Speaker 3 15:56

It's like this little thing came out of you and y'all been bonding for nine months. Yeah, I tried to read occasionally, or, you know, do whatever, rub the belly, talk to it, yada, yada, yada. But I'm not vestigated Right and I still have to wait my turn, while you guys got almost a year's head start of nurturing on, you know one another. So, yeah, you do look at them differently than I. Just accept my place that, yeah, I am being demoted.

Speaker 1 16:35

Yeah, yep, and that's how it should be. Yeah, right, but yeah, it's all.

Speaker 3 16:42

But by the same token, you know, not to cut you off, you promote both of them, right? Yeah, you know what I'm saying Now, this, now they both on the Exactly yeah. They both elevate. So now it's like now y'all just went higher than myself, so I have to die to myself to make sure that I can take care of you guys. Yeah.

Speaker 2 17:05

Yeah for sure, and to watch them become the greatest thing to your kids. They're the greatest thing, like what you were accustomed to seeing, and it's like, oh my God, ain't nothing they can't do. You know what I mean? And you're like, yeah, I mean, it was like Tammy, is she making stuff or is she creating stuff? And they would just be like, oh my God, she's making it happen, it's a beautiful thing, and you can see that in them now. Yeah.

Speaker 1 17:33

Yeah, exactly, it carries on. But yeah, man.

Speaker 3 17:41

Because I talk to my kids. I talk to them, but they talk all the time, all the time, all the time, like three, four times a day, all the time, like I love them. But what are?

Speaker 2 17:54

y'all talking about God, look, that's funny, candace was that way. I mean it would be like clockwork. That's funny, candace was that way. I mean it would be like clockwork 9, 30, 10 o'clock, every single day, yeah.

Speaker 1 18:07

Bruh Every day when Nya leaves the hospital because she finishes up her clinicals and all that she leave the hospital her and. Gina on the phone until Nya get home. Nya at the hospital in Burlington 45 minutes. She on the phone till she get the greens, wow well, what 30 minutes 30 minutes, it don't matter. Every day, every day, nia go to practice. She coach you in Tri-City. She leave practice they on the phone they got to talk every day.

Speaker 3 18:42

Every day. Yeah, it's like I don't need to call hey, baby, I love you.

Speaker 1 18:50

What you doing, what you need you good. But now it's like, yeah, hey.

Speaker 3 18:57

What you doing, daddy. That's it. Yeah, you need anything, you good.

Speaker 1 18:58

Okay, that's right. Yeah, what you doing, daddy?

Speaker 3 19:00

That's it.

Speaker 1 19:00

Yeah, you need anything, that's it. You good, okay, that's right Simple.

Speaker 2 19:06

Great talk yeah, that's all.

Speaker 1 19:09

And when you think back to and you know our grandmas were just as big in our lives. Right, it used to be. Her and my granddad were so funny together and little stuff. Right, it's like my granddad one time said my grandmother's name is Willie Mae. Hey, willie, can you let me loan, borrow me some money? He had to go to the store or something. Right, borrow. I'm like Hoss, you give grandma money all the time. He's like yeah that's my job.

Speaker 1 19:42

What are we talking about? She ain't giving me nothing, I give it back to her, that's right. I'm like so when you were talking about you set them apart on that pedestal. Even that was. It's a different ballgame when you talk about the mom. Yeah, it is.

Speaker 2 19:57

Great I love that.

Speaker 1 20:00

Yeah, yeah, it is Great, I love that. Yeah, it is hilarious. One thing I did want to mention, because we do have a new addition to the family Mr Hayes, our newest community grandbaby.

Speaker 3 20:11

That's right. Community yeah, why he got to be community.

Speaker 2 20:14

He is.

Speaker 3 20:15

Community grandbaby, because he's community.

Speaker 2 20:18

That's right. He got 17 parents.

Speaker 1 20:20

Hayes ain't going to be no good, he's community, that's right. He got 17 parents. He ain't gonna be no good. He is not, but what changes have you seen in Mariah?

Speaker 2 20:30

now that she's a mother, so funny. So to know a little history of my daughter, she is very introverted. Until you know her she ain't gonna be doing a whole lot of talking to you and she say what she got to say. You ask her how's it going? She going to tell you and that's it. You don't get no answers. I mean you don't get no elaborating on it. So this child right here would not allow me to hug her when she got a certain age. I would have to chase her around to get a hug from her. But to watch her with her son and to watch the way she loved on that baby, that boy yeah, what is it?

Speaker 3 21:12

I don't say that baby, baby boy, yeah, okay, okay.

Speaker 2 21:20

But to watch her and the way she love on him is so beautiful.

Speaker 3 21:24

You know, I'm just watching her come into her own as you know an amazing mom, so yeah, it's awesome, yeah, so let's back up a little bit, because this ain't the first rodeo. It isn't because this ain't the first rodeo.

Speaker 2 21:38

It isn't.

Speaker 3 21:39

So take us to the senior, the senior mother of our children.

Speaker 2 21:47

Candice. That one right there. Okay, so a little history on this one as well. She don't take no jump. She don't take no jump. She say what she feel Be ready for what comes out, guess what it ain't changed. No, she say what she feel Be ready for what comes out, guess what it ain't changed. She stay what she want. But she is an amazing mom. I mean she will. She's just like Tammy she's going to move mountains to make it happen. Make it happen for her, and her way of showing it is a little different.

Speaker 3 22:20

But at the end of the day, she is tough love.

Speaker 2 22:22

Yeah, she gives real tough love. She's tough love, but at the end of the day she's like a little marshmallow.

Speaker 3 22:30

But when she loves yes.

Speaker 2 22:34

But I love it, you know. Watching them, just watching them become wonderful mothers, bro you up next right, that's right. Well, is he?

Speaker 1 22:45

Shannon Up next. For what Is he? Oh my bad.

Speaker 2 22:47

Did I say something wrong? Oh, that's right.

Speaker 1 22:50

You getting ready?

Speaker 2 22:50

for it. Papa of the year.

Speaker 3 22:52

Am I going to be Papa of the year?

Speaker 1 22:53

Yeah.

Speaker 2 22:57

I'm so long Not to deviate. Can we talk about that? You're excited about nuptials coming up, huh your daughter getting married are you excited about the nuptials coming?

Speaker 3 23:12

up. I'm not getting married.

Speaker 2 23:14

You're not, you just know it's happening so. I'm happy for her if you know but am I so?

Speaker 3 23:22

I'm happy for her, but am I excited? I'm not kidding man. It's not that I don't care, I'm just not excited. That's your first.

Speaker 2 23:29

That's your baby, yeah.

Speaker 3 23:31

Well, she's not the baby anymore.

Speaker 2 23:33

She's not, she's my oldest, she's the first.

Speaker 3 23:35

She is my first child yes. I mean I'm happy that they're happy, but no, I mean it's too far away. I don't even have to feel any kind of way right now. I got you. Okay, it's just too early for me to have an emotion. I was excited for them. I was excited they found each other. Yes, but right now.

Speaker 2 23:56

I'm just like I always am your old dad.

Speaker 3 23:58

Yeah, Probably be the same way when the time come.

Speaker 2 24:07

But oh, that's nice. I'm going to cry. Hey, bro.

Speaker 3 24:08

You know what I'm going to give you a hanky yeah.

Speaker 2 24:11

I appreciate it. Yeah, Because.

Speaker 3 24:12

I mean, you know, I'll feel different about all my children. I'll feel different about all your children. I feel different about all your children. Circumstances is what dictate how I feel about them. You know, if everything is, you know, status quo, which is kind of what this is for me then Okay, yeah.

Speaker 1 24:35

So how is mother the bride dealing?

Speaker 3 24:37

with it. Well seeing, then, that's to understand her background, not her upbringing, but, like you know, she's an event planner, right, so she immediately goes into.

Speaker 2 24:51

It's home.

Speaker 3 24:51

Yeah, it's different for her. So you know they go out, they scour the countryside to find events. You know, no stone unturned, no place unlooked. I don't hey, you just gotta find it exactly exactly so no, I'm not in a hurry, cause then I'm, you know, I'll be glad when it's all said and done don't get me wrong so I can get past that and prepare for the next one. But yeah, I'm just happy for them, but I don't really have an emotion right now.

Speaker 3 25:28

Okay, I hear you but that day I might be right there with you like, yeah, give me that, thank you back.

Speaker 1 25:36

I don't know. I mean you got in the same boat just a few months behind. I am not, You're right.

Speaker 2 25:41

I'm right there and I have to agree with him. I'm really happy for him and you know he's turned out to be a great young man. I give him his props and I know how he feel about my daughter.

Speaker 1 25:55

And it don't hurt that he gave you haze.

Speaker 2 25:57

I mean.

Speaker 3 26:01

Or does it hurt that he's been hazing? You See Right Cut.

Speaker 2 26:11

Right there, oh, okay. So although we're talking about vows, I just do need to deviate one more time, sir, as you prepare for graduation, how you feel?

Speaker 1 26:27

yeah, bro, um, um. So my daughter is graduating from nursing school in a couple of weeks and, um, I'm happy about it. I'm happy for her. They get into this next chapter of her life. I'm certainly happier to get her out of my pocket.

Speaker 2 26:46

Is she going to be out of your?

Speaker 1 26:47

pocket. Come on. No, she never will be Right. That's my baby, I don't care how old? She is. But for her to start her life and all that, and it is an emotional time. We took her graduation pictures the other day and, yeah, I kept it together. I was proud of myself. We all kept it together. It's those milestones in life and as they're going through them, it also makes you reminisce about when you went through the same things. Right, and although times are different, situations are different now it brings back those fond memories you know I was telling her.

Speaker 1 27:26

As we were walking in the nursing building and taking pictures, I was like man. I remember the day I took my last final at A&T and I walked out of the math building. I ain't know whether to scream, yell, cry, jump up and down. I just walked to my car and drove off campus. Right, and the fact that she's going to have a similar experience to that right here. What?

Speaker 1 27:55

in a week and a half she'll take her last final so reliving those moments with them and getting to see it through her eyes has been pretty cool. Now what's going to happen to graduation, who knows? But I've been keeping it together pretty good so far.

Speaker 3 28:12

I don't know. If we want to, I'm going to anchor this real quick. Y'all do know Trump is the president of the United States right now. Oh, jesus Christ, here we go, oh.

Speaker 1 28:22

Jesus Christ On a crocker. Yes, we do On a crocker.

Speaker 3 28:29

Yes, we do. When we look at this episode, millions, hundreds and thousands of years from now, I need everybody to know that Trump has been elected president. He just barely over his 100 days of madness.

Speaker 1 28:49

I don't know. He's trying to light the whole country on fire.

Speaker 3 28:54

Yeah, I just needed to anchor and we are roughly what about? Two weeks out from Mother's Day, which is what spurned this episode. So I really want to you know, if my mom ever gets the opportunity to look at it to say to my mom I so appreciate you for everything. Life's journey, as I've learned, is hard enough, but to have a guy like you has been an amazing way to get to this point in life, and I just know I wouldn't be the person that I am without you. Absolutely, absolutely.

Speaker 2 29:33

Same here. And yes, Mom, I'm sure my sister will find a way to make sure you get this. I appreciate and love you more than anything and without you like you said, I wouldn't be the person who I am.

Speaker 1 29:48

Yeah, and I echo all of those sentiments. Ma, I love you, I appreciate you, I've learned so much from you. You are a wise soul that will still knock a nigga out, my baby Marilyn, that's right, which I appreciate, my baby Marilyn that's right Now.

Speaker 3 30:09

this is going to lead me to my question.

Speaker 1 30:12

Okay, here's Stu's question of the week.

Speaker 3 30:16

I got to ask this one. Now, tell me about a time when you thought that death would become you at the hands of your mother, this woman that we've given all this love and praise to.

Speaker 1 30:32

Yeah, so I have two, but I'm going to stick with one. When we were kids, we were still living in West Virginia, okay, and you know our generation. We were latchkey kids.

Speaker 3 30:47

We stayed at home by ourselves all the time.

Speaker 1 30:49

No doubt that's where it worked, so my sister Tawana was pissing me off. I don't know what we were arguing about. I know I was mad as hell.

Speaker 2 31:00

Right.

Speaker 1 31:01

She was pissing me off, so I'm cussing her out. I was probably eight, nine, something like that. Next thing I know one minute I'm cussing her out. I was probably eight, nine, something like that. Next thing I know one minute I'm cussing Snoop out. The next minute I'm staring up at the ceiling and it's a dent in the refrigerator. My mom just smacked the hell out of me. I spun around, hit my head into the fridge and I'm on the floor and she ain't saying a word. She looked at me and walked out the room.

Speaker 3 31:38

Enough said, enough said.

Speaker 2 31:45

For me. We used to have this thing where staying again, I had the one key. I lost my key to our apartment and we had a football game. It was a little league football game. It's raining, cats and dogs out there and we are, you know, we still playing, or whatever. We get ready to leave and in the middle of that game, for some reason, I put the key in my pants. I don't know why. I did that, or whatever doing that game. When I realized that I downhill, the coach was yelling at me Because you was gay, because I knew what was coming after that gay.

Speaker 2 32:35

Couldn't get it together. So of course after that game I had to tell my mama that Y'all we sitting in the car. You know how it's raining and the fog. All of a sudden this fog is all over the windows and she just in there beating. I'm so glad I had some kind of pants on. She was beating.

Speaker 1 32:56

You got in the car with the helmet on.

Speaker 2 32:59

I didn't have my helmet, but I got verbally abused and abused, oh my God. And you know. And again, being a kid, you don't know how to process, how we're going to get in the house, but staying in apartments, you know, you got an emergency. You just call the maintenance people to come, but there's a fee Again. We just make it.

Speaker 3 33:22

You know what I mean. And insult to injury.

Speaker 2 33:23

Oh my goodness, that's compound injury.

Speaker 3 33:25

Yes, On a butt whooping. Oh my goodness, that's compound interest.

Speaker 2 33:28

Yes, on a butt whooping. Never forgot that. Never forget that I had another one, but that one sticks out.

Speaker 3 33:33

Oh my God, I got my butt whooping. I'll tell you what it's. The time I thought I was going to literally die, but it ended up being probably the most pleasant conversation. But I have to put myself out there to even tell this story. So I was 17. No, I was 16. I was one of my boys. Y'all should remember this.

Reflections on Motherhood

Speaker 3 33:58

One of my boys had just got a brand-new Honda Civic and he had the Euro. So it was all white. It was so sweet little hatchback, it sweetest little car. So me and a friend of mine hopped in the car and I I promise you I don't drink like two beers, I buy them 16 years old, so let me. So take off. And I just got this need for speed. I always have, just ever since I learned how to drive take off down this road, hendersonville Highway, and I get pulled over Right. Cops talking to him he smelled the beer. I just finished one, the last of the two, but I wasn't drunk, but I had the beer. So fast forward, get a ticket, have to go to court. I told my pop. My pop know about it. That's my dude, my pop. Go to court, notice? I said I told my pop.

Speaker 3 34:56

So about a month later they said your court date, you go to court, pop's coming to meet me at the courthouse, because I, of course, drove to school. Leave the courthouse. They don't take my license. Now, they should have, but they didn didn't. They didn't ask me for him specifically. So why am I gonna surrender, right, I'm 16? Right, I'm gonna give you my license, right, if you ain't asked for him? So my dad was like son ain't asked for him. So classic, hey, if we have to deal with it. Lo, and my mom come home from work early that day, or she just got home in time to catch the phone call Buncombe County Sheriff's Department call asking for me because I didn't surrender my license. So she was bewildered.

Speaker 3 35:45

What does he got to surrender his license, for they said he was in court today. Yada, yada, yada yada. She ain't know none of this stuff, man. I pulled up to the career for school and I parked up behind the house. My dad came to the back door. He was like ain't take a whole lot of lip reading to understand what that man just told me. Man, I sat in that car. No context needed, ain't none? I sat in the car, I cranked up the music. I said this is probably the last time I sit behind the wheel of the car, so let me just go ahead and get this full experience. I sat there for like two songs. I know I got myself together. I said let me go in here and face this music. This is why I'm here to kill me. And it turned out that she was very, very hurt. I mean, she was crushed, but she was more mad, ended up being more mad at my dad for not sharing and me for not telling her.

Speaker 3 36:41

And you know, she actually sat me down and was like son. I'm not even going to yell at you, I am hurt and was like, son, I'm not even going to yell at you, I am hurt. That hurt me more than her yelling. To be honest, to know that I hurt her. And then she explained that she was even more hurt by my dad not trying to throw you out there pops, oh my God.

Speaker 2 37:04

We know the story.

Speaker 3 37:05

Right, so yeah it was horrible. It was horrible you know, by any means, but it was still one of the best lessons I ever got.

Speaker 1 37:15

Yeah. So even in a bad situation, yeah, she still showed love.

Speaker 3 37:21

But that wasn't always the case Because there was some blows. I have suffered chest pains and I thought my ribs was cracked one time, mama.

Speaker 1 37:34

And mom, I'm going to leave the hatchet out of this. We're going to leave that one on the sidelines the yellow belt with the red.

Speaker 2 37:42

Oh, it wasn't for me.

Speaker 1 37:45

The hatchet wasn't for me.

Speaker 2 37:47

It was you, leave your mama alone.

Speaker 3 37:49

It was you. Leave your mom alone.

Speaker 1 37:50

Yeah, you leave that one.

Appreciating the Journey

Speaker 1 37:52

You leave it alone on that one the world don't need to know about that leave my baby Marilyn alone watch it watch it, but yeah man so, as we bring the episode to a close again, we just want to reiterate to all the moms out there we know you have a hell of a job to do and we appreciate you all. The sacrifice, the late nights, the early mornings, driving all the way across town for something you don't want to go to, all of those things that you do to earn that title of mom.

Speaker 2 38:30

We appreciate you and we love you and I wanted to just for my little part, just share for those who just understand. Again, we only get one life to do this. You know, appreciate or value. You know your mom, talk to your mom, learn about her, you know know your mom.

Speaker 3 38:48

Talk to your mom, learn about her.

Speaker 2 38:50

You know, even meet your parents, because you never know what you'll learn. You know what I mean, what their sacrifices was. So those things that we talked about earlier. It's important You'll learn a lot about yourself. You know what I mean. So just take time and appreciate your parents, appreciate your siblings.

Speaker 3 39:09

appreciate your siblings, just appreciate life you know, yeah, get one, no doubt. Shout out to my mom and my brothers, you know, for raising me and my brothers and sisters and it's taken on more than I'm going to say, more than she had to. You know, when you sign up to be a part of a blend, that's just what it is. And on the blend, man, she was seamless. Nobody can say they felt different. You know, because mom trooped it like that, my baby's mama. I got to shout her out, man, because she's an amazing mom man. I mean the homework, even in college, being up late, going through papers, doing all that background work just to make sure that they're getting the things that they need. Sacrificing our own sleep, our own money, just being a superhero parent and it's, I know. Sometimes I know she feels like it's a thankless job, but I so appreciate what you've done for the girls, man. They would not be where they are without you, that's for sure, for sure for sure.

Speaker 1 40:24

and two other shout outs to gina I love baby. Thank you for being a mediator and keeping me and Nya from flying off the rails. I can't tell you how much I appreciate that and love you for that. And to Mrs Willie Mae Grace, my grandmother. You were the heart and soul of our family and I appreciate you. I can't even express how much I appreciate you and how many hundreds and hundreds, if not thousands, of lives that you touched during your lifetime. You are still loved, you are still missed and we appreciate you every day.

Speaker 2 41:08

Yes, and to my beautiful wife in heaven I appreciate everything you did for our kids. Um, just the way you sacrificed, the way you, those lessons that was taught even to all the kids that we got all the bonus kids, that we got all the bonus kids that we got. You were such an inspiration and to this day, you know, there are still people who are still learning from you, you know. And to my mom and grandma, my wonderful grandma, who was a UNC fan yes, she was Die hard Tar Heel Tar Heel fan. Call it what it is. Yes, she was diehard Tar Heel Tar Heel fan. Call it what it is. Yes, she was amazing and just the way she loved and I so appreciate her, my mom, and again, just giving it all to you, thank you for everything you've done.

Speaker 3 42:04

One thing. Let me fix this, because I said baby's mama, which you know I'm always joking around, but that is my wife of 23 years and I do it.

Speaker 2 42:13

Yeah, let's clean that up.

Speaker 3 42:16

That's my dog. Let's clean that up right now. That is my dog.

Speaker 2 42:19

She is a ride or die man she is.

Speaker 3 42:21

Yes.

Speaker 1 42:23

We so appreciate it. So, to all the moms out there, we love you. Take care, reach out to us on social media, at HeyUncPodcast, on Instagram, youtube, facebook. Drop your questions, drop your comments. We'd love to hear from you. Tell us about your mom, what do you love about your mom, your mama, and we'll be back with another episode in the future. This one is going to be called Daddy Issues. Oh so that's going to be an interesting conversation, so please join us for that one. We'll talk to you later, peace.

Speaker 2 43:16

Peace. I like that one.