Talking Taboo with Tara: The Unfiltered Truth
Talking Taboo with Tara: The Unfiltered Truth Join Tara as she breaks down the barriers of today's taboo topics and discover the unfiltered truths that can help you thrive today! This captivating podcast dives deep into the often-overlooked aspects of living your best life. Hosted by Tara (aka Miss J), each episode features intimate interviews with guests who bravely share their secret stories, shedding light on their challenges and their transformative journeys. Through these candid conversations, Tara aims to inspire listeners to embrace their truths and empower them to live unapologetically.
Talking Taboo with Tara: The Unfiltered Truth
FWB, Monogomy or LTR? Part One
In this episode of 'The Talking Taboo with Tara' podcast, Tara and her guest engage in a raw and unfiltered discussion about relationships and personal goals. The guest expresses a determination to avoid relationships until achieving his personal bucket list, which includes working for himself and traveling extensively. They delve into the challenges and rewards of self-employment, the importance of valuing one's time, and the impact of associating with successful people. The conversation shifts to relationships, touching on past heartbreaks, the complexities of love, and the unrealistic idea of soulmates. Both share their views on dating dynamics, the difficulties of finding genuine connections, and the notion that life experiences shape one's outlook on love and companionship. They conclude with reflections on the aspiration of traveling and living life on the road, emphasizing the joy in exploring new places and seeking deeper experiences.
Welcome to The Talking Taboo with Tara podcast, where Tara presents the unfiltered interviews with guests about today's taboo topics. And now here's your host, Ms. Tara.
Tara:Relationship thing really fucked you up, huh? Because that's why you scream. I'd rather pull my dick out than my heart out. I am quoting you on that one. Yeah. Who can blame me? Who, what Human can blame you. A person that hadn't experienced shit in their life, maybe or don't know about. What did she do to you or don't know about that life? I just, I don't think it's solely her. It's just where it started.
Sean:You know,
Tara:when you invest something's hardcore into somebody and you spend years and it's just, somebody just decides they don't wanna fuck much anymore. You're just last priority. It's when you go to hold somebody to the same standards they hold to you, that's when it becomes a problem.
Sean:Right. You know?
Tara:I feel like there's so many deflective ways of reasons
Sean:to why it is just not worth getting into. I don't think I'm meant to be agamous.
Tara:You do want that. So what's your reason for wanting that? I crave it. What, what do you crave the other half? Why? Of me. I don't know. I wish I knew. I wish I could make it go away. I have been there before For sure. You've craved your other half? It just never happened. Yeah. So I'm craving something that don't exist, so I just let it go. And now I don't, it does exist. I don't know how to reverse what I've healed. I've healed myself to not, it's not that I'm blocking it. I just, I basically dismantle what would allow me to do it by default. So now I just don't want to do it.
Sean:That's,
Tara:that's it makes it so easy. I just don't want it. So you wanna be alone for the rest of your life? Possibly. Possibly. See, I don't, it's lonely. I just want somebody to hang out with. I want that too. I want somebody to be fun, so on and so on. But the minute you put a label on it, the problems start.
Sean:It's just,
Tara:it's just been, it's been like that my whole life. It really has. I see where you're coming from. I do. So it's just, is it worth it?
Sean:You know,
Tara:it's harder to get out than it was getting in. You can argue until the cows come home. That's the truth. Wow. You're so stubborn. No, I'm telling you the truth. It's hard. That's to get out than it is getting in. It's your way of thinking. It shouldn't, you can't help the truth.
You,
Tara:you either speak the truth or you can live in a dream world. It's easy for a female to sit there and say they want to live the fantasy. It's not a fantasy. You all think I crave a reality. You crave a fantasy. No. Because I'm gonna make it a reality. See, that's the difference between me and you. I know it's reality because my body craves it, my mind craves it, my heart craves it. I know it's out there. I think everybody wants love. That's natural. Everybody wants love. It's a trade off is, I guess is what I'm getting at. I don't feel like the trade off is worth it. If you invest your emotions, what are you trading off?
Well,
Tara:your emotions, your feelings. You lose
your,
Tara:your heart.
Like,
Tara:I like to be able to do what I want.
You know?
Tara:That's just me. I get that. Me too.
You know?
Tara:And that, that does suck because you do have to pick one way or the other. If you're,
you know,
Tara:compromised. You gotta spend time with the person, you gotta be around.
And, and that's, uh, expected. That's what I would expect too. Uh, if I'm taking somebody to that level, uh,
Tara:if I'm into somebody, I feel like maybe I get attached a little too hard and that pushes people away ultimately. That's why you stay so standoffish? I don't wanna be a creeper. I don't wanna be accused of just wanting one thing all the fucking time. Maybe I am, maybe I'm not. But it's just all these assumptions comes up front and it's
Sean:like, well,
Tara:guess what? You're not getting any of it. So you see what you want.'cause if somebody else is not willing to do something, somebody else is, there's always that other person who is okay. But is that person as good as the other person is that person is gonna make you laugh, make you, sometimes I've had more fun with somebody who doesn't love me. They're honest. There's no hiding, nothing. If they're still talking to their ex, they just, have you ever had friendship before? You had relationship with a female, you mean? Yeah. That's what I'm referring to. Yeah. You've had friendship. Before relationship. Like you've been friends with that person for a period of and had a relationship Yes. And then had a relationship. Yeah. How did that work? And those are people I would still talk to today. I've had a lot of good breakups and then That's crazy.'cause I haven't had a bunch of bad ones. It's just circumstantial. And I feel like, that's funny.'cause I still talk to all my exes too. Yeah. I, none of my exes have anything bad to say about me neither. Compatibility a lot of times. I know that I can't have my cake and eat it too.'cause you're either gonna be single, be free, be lonely a little bit,
deal
Tara:with deal without. What's your heart's asking you to do? Like yourself? Your heart's hungry for it. Okay. Craving it. I have been there, I have been there and
Sean:I ran,
Tara:I ran out of that mode where those nights laying in bed. Borderline crying or just borderline fucking lost. Like lonely. Nobody wants me,
Sean:you know,
Tara:you go through those states. I have, I go through the states where I'm like, nobody decent wants me. It's always some shit bag who has a bad attitude? Who can't get off their ex or they can't do this, can't do that. It's always something if I happen to like'em and the ones that like me are particularly the ones I just don't like. That's really to sum it up, it just don't work out. And if I get lucky enough and it's too good to be true, it probably is too good to be true. Really? You think that See you, you don't understand your way of thinking. Just bogles my mind. No, you haven't been where I been. How do you, how would you know? I've been a lot of places, babe. I've been around more than you. I guarantee it. You think I guarantee it? No. No. You've had long relationships before. My longest was three years. Of girlfriends, a lot of fuck buddies. Me too. A lot of one night stands. Me too. Just telling you. Me too. I'm a retired player. Me too. I enjoy the buzz. I enjoy
not,
Tara:not giving a fuck. I enjoy not having, I did not anymore. I'm giving a woman the power to hurt me and they can't do it. I like when they can't do it and they're pissed about it. And that's why you're 47 and single.'cause you're scared I changed that way and
I'm not,
Tara:I'm not
even
Tara:even 46 yet, by the way. Oh God. You keep correcting me. I keep,'cause I'm 47. Okay. 46. Yeah.
It's not,
Tara:it's not a bitter thing. It's just, I enjoy it. I enjoy being single too, but my body still craves that person. I crave the first three months of relationship. Oh, you craved the honeymoon stage. Yeah. And that's good. Then they start doing this to me and
you know,
Tara:telling their friends,
uh, you're,
Tara:you're hovering me. You're hovering me. Then it's time to ghost. Wait a minute. That's where the ghosting comes in. Who tells
you
Tara:you're hovering me when I took backseat. That's when I start ghosting. Wait a minute. When who says
who's,
Tara:who's hovering?
I'm,
Tara:I'm lost.
Well,
Tara:I was
kind of
Tara:role playing that one, but I know that's why I was like, who's who. Yeah. But it gets to the point where, and I'm not putting the, timeline on it, but it does have a average ish timeline.
Let's say,
Tara:let's say two to six months is really gonna test out if it's gonna go a distance of some kind, whether it just be a few years, whether it be longer than that. The first two to six months will decide that. Because if you can get past that, you guys still getting along, you're very compatible. You love them nights on Netflix and you like the nights going out too. When those two things can work out, and let's say they stay working out and there's no interruption from the family, there's no interruption from your girlfriend that you're taking advice from and she's single for a fucking reason. You shouldn't be taking her advice. Because that bitch is single and lonely and pissed off and can't get what you're getting. And she's trying to sabotage it. Lemme tell you something ladies, if, if this fucking thing is still recording right now, quit listening to your fucking friends that're miserable. And they want you to stay miserable with them. They don't wanna be miserable alone. But if you got ones that are dictating your thought process or what you wanna do, right? They're not your true friends. No. And girls are, and fellas, don't take advice from a woman on relationships. Don't take advice from a woman on anything. Sex at all, really to heart. Fuck you, you fed us. How ended that with Yeah, after you, after I tilted my head and looked at you like, you're fucking crazy. Not, maybe not the sex part. Maybe you could take their message, because I know what the fuck I'm talking about. But relationship advice and like how to attract a woman and do all that stuff. If a girl's giving a guy advice, they're gonna tell you everything you shouldn't do. They're gonna tell you to do those things, to be nice, to be too gentlemen like,'cause then you're gonna become too nice. You're gonna look desperate. You're gonna look ish and insecure, controlling and all the other fucking things that you're coming up with. You are just so in your head. You think, I'm just making this up.
Sean:Kind of. I mean,
Tara:do you get out much? Let anything fate? Why is it so unheard of that somebody just wants to be single? Why is that so odd? It's not odd. There's plenty of women like that. I'm strong and independent. I don't need no, man. Why don't you go ask them that. Ask them why they're being so selfish and they don't need a man around.
Tara (2):Well,
Tara:I can answer that, huh? Because most of'em are bums and they just wanna live. I'd rather be single. I don't need no fucking, I can answer that for you, right? Because they're bums and they wanna live off of a woman that is independent and has something a lot of them do. I've had a lot of them do it to me. Why the fuck is a woman even messing with a guy like that in the first place? Attention. She's a blame. Yep. Attention. She's a blame. If she can't fucking raise her shit. Lemme tell you about a woman who's doing something like that. She don't know our worth either. Why? Why?'cause she ain't, don't have no worth. Because if she can't mention one thing other than sex what she has to offer, then she ain't worth no more than that. Anybody listening to this right now? Answer the question. What do you have to bring to the table other than sex and don't mention sex? What are you gonna say? I'll support my man. What do you say to that question? You don't your support if you're attracted to him in the first place. What do you say to that question? If somebody asks you what's your worth? What do you say? I don't even know why that's a saying to a human worth. Are we talking about financial? Are we talking about That's what I, what's the worth?
Well,
Tara:you just sat there and said, if they don't know what you bring to the table,
well,
Tara:that's what I insinuate what worth is. That's what I'm saying. What is it I'm asking you? I'm asking. A man could bring a lot of things to the table, but a woman can't explain that the same way a man can.'cause a man has to accomplish a fuck ton more than a woman does to attract a woman than it does a man to attract to a woman. I'll sum that up in a very small phrase. A man has no problem falling in love with a girl who has no experience, has ant accomplished shit in her life, but she's very humble and sweet versus a boss lady with a fucking narcissist attitude all day long. That's the secret. Ladies, if you're listening, nobody gives a fuck if you're a boss lady. Nobody gives a shit about any of that. You know why this guy's
like, well,
Tara:that's just the way of life for us. It's not impressing me at all.'cause number one, I don't need you either. You know what I mean? That's the truth. I know.
You know,
Tara:there's a lot of Ben out there too. They don't fucking care about that unless he's a beta male. He wants you to be the one that leads, and when the door gets kicked in, you go grab the gun and go downstairs. You know what I mean? So you could say that. I'm just thinking this stuff in my head. This is all real.
I,
Tara:I'm just wondering if you're sexist or what.
No,
Tara:no, I'm just, I'm secure with who I am and I'm not going to give somebody power to bring me down and I just want what I want and I don't want what I don't want. Well, that's good. Very well said. Yeah, that's a good way to sum it up. Very good way. And you know what I'm saying, it's not just,
it, it,
Tara:it sounds like I'm being negative or something like that, but I have my reasons. And I just think that you're so closed off to the, to any possibilities though with,'cause you're so set in your ways, you lose your identity in a relationship. I was once told that by my old, my ex boss. She was a female. I had a small crush on her. Just visually, I didn't like her attitude. She's right in way. I just saw she was attracted. She's
like,
Tara:I don't wanna date. She told me that.
Like,
Tara:and I, she's right in a way though. She is. She's
like,
Tara:I don't wanna lose my identity. And I'm like, what do you mean by that? And I didn't know. I didn't know what she meant because you lose a piece of yourself when you give your piece of self yourself to someone else.
Well
Tara:that, and plus when you have a significant other, especially the older we get,
you know,
Tara:you're gonna spend 90% of your time with that person. So there's less going out with the girls. There's less going out with the guys. There's less this, that and the other.
So,
Tara:and then
that,
Tara:that comes with compromise obviously, unless both don't mind beating up each other's ass sometimes. I used to like that. I liked being up my girl's ass and I liked her up my ass. What changed? Being single patterns? Just patterns. Being single. Yeah. Just much greater. I'm just so used to flaky people and people that are bullshitters. Nobody's serious no more. I mean, that's not everybody. I just think most people are just not serious. They don't take it serious. So I pity the world that you're in looking for what you're looking for. And I pity you for being so close-minded. You shouldn't. I do. You shouldn't. I do. She pitted me if I'm stuck with some girl I fucking ate and I can't get off her.'cause I love her, but she treats me like dog shit. And she won't stop. I've her exes.
I've been,
Tara:I've been there. I've been there. Love is blind. So you still talk to your exes, right? No, I do not talk to that ex anymore. No. That one I do not talk to anymore. If you're in a relationship with some guy, he's not gonna want you doing that. So you have to say goodbye to every X you read? No, I do not talk to them now.
Like
Tara:if I see them out, I'm cordial with them.
Like
Tara:there's no bad blood. No. And,
you know,
Tara:no negativity. Yeah. Stuff like that. That's what I mean. I don't physically talk to them now. No. Yeah. But what I'm saying is we left on good terms. I could still walk up to them and say, hi, how are you? And we could be cordial with each other. Yeah.
Well,
Tara:no bad luck. We would rather have that than,
you know,
Tara:high school. We would've handled that different,
you know? Right.
Tara:But as an adult now, I don't talk to any of my exes. I don't want anything to do with my exes. They're an expert reason. That's how I see it. I don't know, I just wish I didn't have such the bad juju and relationships that I did. I wish that you wasn't so negative. Torture relationships too, though. Like you, the way you talk about a relationship is like, you never wanna be in one ever again. You, you never, ever, you're just so closed off to It is the best way I can put it. I'm open to it because that's what my body's craving. And you said your body did at one time. Yeah, I did it one time. Yeah. I can't start myself off from running that. I know I'm gonna find it. If you ever find it, you'll, I know. I'm gonna
find,
Tara:find it. Quit swinging at it. I'll be, I'm not even looking for it. That's the thing. And usually it'll find me when it's ready. Consensus, it's backwards. Usually this is whole, this whole thing is backwards. What do you mean? And general consensus. Most women these days, once again going by, I'm independent, don't need a man. I wanna be single. I love my single life shit. No, I
don't,
Tara:don't I got a fucking deal to at home. I got my own car and apartment shit. Nope. What do I need? A man for? What? Because I need one. But why do women fucking up for themselves? Some many women, men, self sabotage to don't sit there and say just women not as clear as much as women. Dude, bullshit. Come on. There's a big margin on that. Bullshit. Men are very simple creatures. If a woman can't satisfy a man that, that woman's fucking retarded. Look how much a guy has to do to keep a woman or attract a woman from the start. Let's start there. What do you have to do? What do you have to do to impress the guy? Sit there, be able to talk. Some bitches can't even hold up. We gotta halfway decent conversation. We have a job, but we don't have no X around. We make five to six figures a year. So you're just, look, I'm driving. I'm she out. Money foot tall. I'm 10. I'm big Dick. I'm smart. I'm handsome. This all has to be fed out to get that perfect man. Okay. You just gotta exist. Oh, I, and it's been that way your whole life. Oh my God. You got dick pics from your way this way. Don't have no pussy pics coming my way. I guess if he wasn't so close puy, he could get some, huh? If he wasn't so closed off. Maybe you could get some, I can get some closed off or not. I get more pussy closed off than I do on Do you really? Fuck yeah. I get more. I can get more ass. You get more pussy being a dick than you did. I can't. I can get more sex. You get more Dick. I'm sorry. You get more pussy being a dickhead than you do. Being nice, don't you? I'm saying I can get No,'cause that's you saying that. I'm just asking it. Just see we're we don't see eye to eye. I'm trying to figure this out. We,'cause you said you was a player. Yeah. So therefore you're not in the, you are not into relationships whatsoever. Except for fucking, and you're like,
well,
Tara:you're just, that's why you're single at 46, 47. Yeah.'cause because you're close minded choice. Yeah. But you're also close-minded. I
don't,
Tara:I, you, I don't wanna,
don't,
Tara:don't. I've already been open-minded most of my life. Before I got close-minded. It's not like I was always close-minded. I gave it a chance. I gave the single life going, trying to get a relationship, a chance
over and
Tara:over and over. People lie. Yeah. I've always had a liar. Me too. I've always had one
that
Tara:that, puts their best foot forward. In the beginning, remember we were talking about the honeymoon stage When you first get the other fall in low? That's the best part. But we all know a hundred percent it's not gonna stay that way because that's the beginning. That's the best part. What I'm gonna fall in love with in the end is after that six months to a year, are you still gonna be that way? Are you still gonna be fucking trustable? Are you still gonna fuck me as much or am I just gonna be a chore or somebody to go run the garbage for you? I don't wanna fucking be that guy. Guess what? Now I'm stuck with all these bills. I gotta split and I gotta do this, this and this. That wasn't my obligation before, but now it is. Do you understand what I'm saying? Yes. I understand the man sacrifice. What you're saying is much more, you all upgrade in a relationship. We have to downgrade as negative as it sounds, as the truth. Are you fucking kidding me right now? You wanna go pound for pound? Tell me what you're sacrificing and I'll tell you what I'm sacrificing if I get into one. What, okay, what
if I,
Tara:if I choose to get in a relationship with someone, women up upgrade, I have to, excuse me, I have to uproot my kids. How are you gonna uproot your kids if I have to move? They're not going anywhere. Are you moving in with the guy or is he moving in with you? We're doing something'cause we're in a relationship. So you're upgrading. Finally got a piece of the pie, right? How
so?
Tara:Now you're moving up into his place? No, we would be getting our own place together. Yeah. So is it an upgrade? How's. I've been living in a house he's living in with two women typically don't date.
So,
Tara:so
Right,
Tara:right now I'm living in a house. You're living with two roommates. Yes. So you would be upgrading just, how do you know that? Because you said you're living in a,
you're,
Tara:you're renting.
Women don't,
Tara:women don't date men who make less than them by tradition. So getting a house probably would be more on my income than yours. You're upgrading sweetheart. Oh my God. You're getting the guy to play the part and everything. I can't go out no more. I can't spend the money on myself. I can't leave cars in the driveway and work on'em if I want. But guess what? You're getting a better home now. You got somebody playing the part and you got someone cooking and cleaning and fucking you doing all that.
Like,
Tara:I need all that. Like I need any of it. I've been cooking and cleaning my fucking self my whole life and fucking yourself. And not being lonely
and,
Tara:and fucking myself and not being lonely and having someone to confide in. Fucking have someone to talk to. No, you can have sign, find someone to fuck. That's it. Hard. You don't have someone to confide in and it's not hard to do. Share
your
Tara:your secrets with and Yeah. And that's the very tools you give someone to destroy you. Secrets you. It frustrates you. I know.'cause no guy's able to. No, you're right. That's why it frustrates me. I know. It makes me so fucking, fucking mad. Because you're right. I'm telling. I know. But as I'm telling you this, none of this is to piss you off. But you're right. That's why it makes me mad. I don't want you to be mad at me though. I'm not mad at you. You, I want you to know
that,
Tara:that I'm mad at the fucking point that you're, I'm able to word.
Right.
Tara:Because other men don't know how to fucking say it.
Right.
Tara:The, it makes you mad because you're right. It sucks. There's nothing cool about it. There's nothing cool that I, but then again, I think you're wrong. I think the way I think. But it's, it sucks the way you think. I don't like the way you think I'm gonna put that out there right now. I don't. It's not an attention thing either. It really is. I don't like the way you think. It sucks. It don't suck. But it sucks. It sucks'cause I know too much. I wish I didn't know too much. You don't have, sometimes knowledge is power, faith, or hope either like where.
Where's,
Tara:where's the hope? Women? Listen. Women and men, let's stop categorizing.
Say,
Tara:say, women, men and women. Men, fuck it up too. People are telling on themselves every day through reels, social media, videos, live videos, podcasts, whatever. People are fucked up. Men and women. Everybody's fucked up. No one's perfect. Nobody's to be trusted these days for long term. I feel like, I don't know,
Sean:how am I, how am I gonna word this? I feel like once again, it love's temporary, and then that's why marriage doesn't work In the modern day. People change. I don't believe that they change. I don't believe that. What if you got a got with a guy? We already, we all are. Your kids don't even want you date. And first and foremost, fuck you. You already got a fucking hurdle to go through. So start there. I think that my kids don't want me to date because they know I'm doing so well by myself. They know I'm not having someone hurt my feelings. They don't see me cry, stuff like that. But if you find the right one, you upgrade. Why do you keep calling it a fucking upgrade? I know you don't. Why the fuck do you think it's a fucking upgrade? You don't think you're gonna upgrade when you meet somebody else. You think you're gonna downgrade. I'm not gonna have somebody tell me how to spend my money. I'm not gonna say, have somebody say, when you coming back, what are you gonna do? Who's you with? Why? Guess if you wasn't trust, you fuck me once a week. What do you care if you're trustworthy? They wouldn't be asking you that. If you built trust in that person, they wouldn't be asking you those questions. That's if, once again, not everybody trust either. I don't wanna act like you've never heard of an insecure person before, or somebody don't trust you. Yeah, I've, what do you call him?
Tara:Somebody that's,
well,
Tara:I guess like my father, I'm a son of somebody who wouldn't let my mom use the bathroom by her fucking self. Nearly the only like controlling freak. Controlling freak. Yeah. And I don't have that. I've never controlled a female in my life. I've had a couple of them and they're not something I want to be with. And I'm, I go my own way. When you start controlling me, I don't have nothing for you. I don't like to be controlled.
Well,
Tara:that's if you let someone control you, don't let somebody control you. That's what I'm saying. They tried, they tried to control me. I hate they don't work like that.
Hate women has ever,
Tara:if I like women sometimes have popped off outta their neck and say something,
well, you're,
Tara:you're being controlling or you're being insecure. I what? Why do women just throw that around so easily? Insecure, controlling creeper. I've never used the word creeper. You use it a lot, I tell you, but I'm saying you use it a lot. Like you don't want to be a creeper. What's a creeper? Women invented this fucking word. What's a creeper?, A creeper, just a guy on. That's what a creeper is.
I mean,
Tara:I have Kelly,
you know
Tara:Tammy, who's outta state? This is, this might be the taboo show, but what I'm saying is not taboo. Okay. Guys are going to do some real shit
in,
Tara:in these days, trying to approach a woman without looking like that. Everybody's a fucking creeper these days. I think women are using that word too loosely. Too much. Yes. Too much, too loosely. Or, and it's younger girls mainly. You're weird or you're being weird or you're Ooh, stalkerish. Ooh, okay. The new Snow White movie. That's
young,
Tara:young bitches. That's all young bitches. Girls are age acted that way too. I've never seen no one act that a that way. No one my age. Sure. Literally go to Johanna Pub. They're all over. Wow. That's where they all fucking, apparently you need to stay out of there. Then. That's where they have their sight on. That's just the one spot I used to play darts there. It's a, yeah. That place has went downhill. Snow White. The new movie. What's that stupid bitch they put on there? She's not all that great looking new Snow White.
Well,
Tara:she's
like,
Tara:we're gonna change
the,
Tara:the storyline up a little bit. Yeah. It was a snow White's just gonna be doing her own thing now. She just, she's not gonna be waiting for her love. Weird, weird.
You know,
Tara:he's weird stalker. Yeah. I saw it all over the fucking, the reels and Tok and shit. Yeah. I don't know what rock you're under, but have you ever heard of Woke? I fucking hate that. Okay. I hate fuck woke. Whoever's listening to this, if you're woke, change of fucking channel. Yeah. You,
if you're, if you're,
Tara:if you're agreeing with what I'm saying, then you're gonna
like
Tara:this podcast. Yeah.
The whole woke bullshit is just bullshit. So,
Tara:and it, this is just the, this portion of the rope that I'm speaking of is how the narrative towards men shaming men are creeper or not because they've always, they've made it sound like no matter what happens, this guy's a potential creeper. Now if the guy's at the street corner and he looks over at a female at the intersection, you see that, oh, oh God, I got a creeper looking at me.
Well,
Tara:maybe just fucking checking you out for God damn sakes.
You know? Right.
Sean:Men don't want to approach women no more. We just don't want to, and this is another thing. This is a growing trend. This ain't something I created wanting to be single. This is something that's being, the narrative is starting to go across the board because women are on TikTok bitching now. Why don't men want to commit anymore? They just don't want to commit. Maybe start listening to what we gotta say a little more. We'll tell you, but you don't wanna listen because women think on emotion. We think on. Logic and it's two different things. That's why sometimes if you're thinking about on, on, on the basis of a emotion, it can be blurring out what's important besides logic like marriage, it's the worst contract you can sign. And men think logic like business, it's the worst contract you can sign. What motherfucking paperwork should I sign saying if this don't work out, which most likely it probably won't, this is 2025, then I'm gonna put everything I work for my whole life on the line so someone I can fucking hate can take it all from me.
You know,
Tara:they make prenups, right? That bitch I was with would've done the same thing if I would've let her have the keys.'cause I bought her a ring and I never proposed to her, but I bought her the ring. That's how far she made it. A white gold with natural diamonds in this kind of shit that I sell in my store. Now she got it and she refused to give it back. When we broke up, it was a gift to her. And legal, consensus. No, it's true. No, you can't Indian give,
uh,
Tara:no engagement Rings are to give, be given back if you say no.
Well,
Tara:she refused to give it back to me. You can take it to court and get it. It's been 13 years too late. Statute of limitations. I'm sure there's some stupid fucking blanket law that you can't do it civilly. It's a civil case, not a criminal case. So, and I do know the difference of that since I worked in a law firm and collections and they gave me a little bit of knowledge. But anyway, that, that's, I guess that trade helped me understand a few things too. So anyway, marriage is a business. It's supposed to be the eyes of God. You guys commit to each other, take a thin sticker, sickness to health, you guys stick it out. There's nobody doing that no more. And it's bad contract and more and more
so, and you can. Deflect me what you want. It's worse for the guy. It always is. That's why they make prenups. Well,
Tara:whatever you guys gain together. Yeah. What's so wrong with gaining together? That's what a couple is supposed to do. I don't see problem with it, but like most women seem to have a problem with the prenup. When they hear that, they're like, oh. Oh, what? You don't trust me? Well, no, as soon as you said that, no. No.'cause I expect the person I'm getting with to sign a prenup because what I have before the marriage is mine and it's gonna stay mine.
Right.
Tara:You would want
to
Tara:to protect your home in two acres, right? Correct. So why does a woman freak out when a guy says that?'cause he wants to protect this because they want what they want, what they have. And I don't want what they have. I want to build with somebody. That's the difference. I don't want what somebody else has. I want to build with somebody. I want our own stuff together. That's the difference between me and somebody else. Building with somebody else. That's hard to find.
Sean:Well,
Tara:hopefully you find that I will. I know I will. I still have things I wanna do in my life that's gonna keep me from wanting to be in one, even if I wanted to be in one, because I still wanted to live a little bit of a nomad life for a little while. Why? I'm not, dude, you're almost 50. That's the perfect time. That's the perfect time. You kill me. I'm confused. You're almost 50. Never been married. You realize that most people who are nomads are fucking senior citizens. I don't even know what nomads is. I'm just thinking. See, you haven't, there's a lot. Don't. In my mind, I'm just thinking
like,
Tara:you just give up. You just gave up.
Right.
Tara:Point blank. I'm living my life. You've been living your life. I'm not looking at a time clock no more. I own my vehicles. I owe nobody nothing but the fucking rent I pay.
Right.
Tara:And my phone bill and my insurance and the shit that I have to pay.
You know,
Tara:the shit that I
have to
Tara:have to pay every month bills. I get that. That keeps me enjoying my life. I gotta pay that stuff so
Right. Uh, you know,
Tara:and have a place to keep myself clean, cut and do my thing. But in the end, i'm not too old to be a nomad and travel the country before I get too old. This is the point why I wanna do it now is because someday I'm gonna be too old to do it and I don't want to be with hell. Katie slippers on and humping the trying to hump the nurse's leg.
Like,
Tara:you know what? I wish I would've fucking traveled. I didn't listen to myself. Now I'm too fucking old to do anything and I married some fucking winch. Who's out there fucking the young pool boy?
Well,
Tara:I can't feed myself. That's how it is. Why couldn't you find someone that likes to travel too? Why couldn't you find someone that you can make money together? Why can't I? I don't know. Why can't I? Where are they at? You're Most women wanna homestead. They don't wanna do that. There's not a lot of women who wanna live like that and it's not permanent. Anyway, I told you, I said I want to do it for a few years, right? I wanted to live where I'm
at
Tara:at the time, and my camper work in my online auctions and shit and hit different parts of the country to find collectibles and selling'em where I'm at. Hitting the post office and pinching'em out and going to the beach and getting that margarita. I like the life to me not, oh, it's been a dream of mine. God, I'm not gonna lie. Where are you at? You fucking some other bitch at 10 minutes, God late. I got dinner. It's getting cold. You're pissing the kids off. You told them you were gonna watch Pokemon with them. You're not having any kids. You're done. It's an example. I know, but that, that, that's over and done with the shit, the kids thing. Thank God. Now you're just, because I didn't want that either. I didn't want that either. I never had kids. I know that one was,
I would,
Tara:I would rather risk marriage than have a kid. But if I would've had a kid, I wish I would've done it years ago with your kid's age? Yeah. You know they're teenagers. That's a good time. You know they're turning into adults soon and right now you feel like you can talk to'em on a level and not I do. Come on, honey. You're not doing that no more. No, it's,
you know.
Tara:I talked to them like adults. 16. You got one that's 14. And yes. Young adults, I talk to them like they're young adults and yeah. As well. You should as well. You should because I'm teaching them lessons. Prepare them to understand humor.
Mm-hmm.
Tara:Adult humors
and,
Tara:and adult gestures and what, how to respect people. Give them mutual respect up front.
Mm-hmm.
Tara:I feel like that's highly important. If I was a parent, and I'll tell you one thing, and this ain't a subject changer, it's
kind of
Tara:off to the side, but like every girl I was with that did have kids said it was great with them. That's nice. All of them. My kids are so good. I've never really had to discipline them, be mean to them, spank them. My kids are very well behaved. They've never thrown titter tantrums, they've never acted out in public. They're perfect. Like I got blessed. I'm not gonna fucking lie. I got fucking,
I mean, you know,
Tara:you did and you was being a mom. That's what you did apparently.'cause you wasn't, they'd be out there fucking stealing your car in the middle of the night. I did something.
Right.
Tara:I gotta say that I did something right. Yeah. Because my kids are very good. Same with my mother. She'd say the same about me. I was hard to raise. I was
kind of
Tara:a hoodlum.
Mm-hmm.
Tara:Hell at the time. But my mom would be so confused by that.'cause I was kind of the bad boy somewhat, but I was a good kid. I wasn't getting a serious trouble. They'd say, your son's so nice. He comes over and ask to use the bathroom. Ask politely if he needs something to drink. Just like when I asked you, do you have a soda? This is all embedded into me getting raised. Ask. It's not me just doing. Yeah. You ask for if you, before you grab or you get Yeah. When I'm in your spot that way, private space, this is your safe place. This building right here on this land,
you know,
Tara:this is what you consider your home. You're going to be selective who you let pass the door clearly. Yeah. So when I've been blessed to do in somebody's home and they trust me to come in, I gotta show them that. I don't just go in your refrigerator and go, you're gonna be respectful. I'm gonna be respectful until the day you say, quit fucking asking me and just go get something to drink, then I'll do it. Yeah. But that's it. But it is just, I think that most people get a good impression from me from being that way no matter where I go.'cause that's how I was raised, that's how my mom raised me. And I have to say, I've raised mine the same way. That's right. Obey respect when you're in someone else's fucking house.
Right.
Tara:So you know why I'm here. I'm in your country, right? This is your state. I'm just a guest here. I just flew in to visit your wonderful country and your family and your people. And I'm glad that you do. Thank you for coming.
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