Talking Taboo with Tara: The Unfiltered Truth

FWB, Monogomy & LTR Part two

• Miss J • Season 2 • Episode 20

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In this episode of The Talking Taboo with Tara podcast, Tara delves into a candid conversation about relationships, personal goals, and life experiences. The discussion explores the guest's decision to prioritize his bucket list and personal freedom over entering new relationships. Topics include working for oneself, the challenges of engaging in sales, and the influence of successful role models. The conversation also touches on the pain of past relationships, dealing with rejection, and the complexities of dating in modern times. Personal beliefs about love, companionship, and independence are explored, revealing contrasting perspectives on life's ultimate purpose and the desire for meaningful connections while maintaining personal growth and aspirations.

0:00 Introduction to The Talking Taboo with Tara

00:36 Bucket List and Working for Yourself

03:35 Travel Dreams and Snowbird Lifestyle

05:29 Relationship Woes and Personal Stories

17:37 Dating Disappointments and Communication Issues

25:09 Lies and Relationships

25:59 Compulsive Liars

27:53 Exes and Boundaries

30:09 Simp Culture

31:25 OnlyFans and Validation

34:11 Approaching Relationships

43:54 Travel Dreams and Life Goals

46:20 Podcast Conclusion



Welcome to The Talking Taboo with Tara podcast, where Tara presents the unfiltered interviews with guests about today's taboo topics. And now here's your host, Ms. Tara.

Tara:

So you're hell spent on not ever being in another relationship. Not ever again. Someday. Someday. But I just feel like

it's,

Tara:

it's just best for me to, not do it now. Until I accomplish my bucket list. You know what I mean? What is your bucket list? You've been talking about your bucket list. I don't have much of one. It's just really You said traveling.

Well,

Tara:

because that's my number one, my bucket list is working for myself, which I'm doing. You're already doing that. Yeah. I had a boss of five years. I do my own thing and I prefer it that way.

Right.

Tara:

Whatever headache comes along with the business, it's my problem. Nobody else's.

Right.

Tara:

If I got a bitch or something, I tell'em myself, what the fuck was I thinking? I like that problem. Handle it.

Well

Tara:

handle. That's a good problem. It is a good problem. I don't want someone else belittling me less than the human on the time clock because every, I can't stand having timeclock. Yeah. Whoever's on a time clock. Would you do what you do for one hour? For what? You get an hour? Fuck no.

You know,

Tara:

think about it. So really, you know you're worth more than what you're getting an hour, right? You're Yeah. Essentially. Absolutely. So I've always been about peace rate, like I wanna get paid for the jobs that I'm doing. Cause if I can get'em done quick, get paid the same, be gone

Right.

Tara:

And it's done

right,

Tara:

then I feel like what's wrong with that?

And,

Tara:

and my line of business is sales. If I don't sell nothing, I ain't making nothing.

So, right.

Tara:

The motivation there is just get that show going. Get the people in, warm'em up and put it out there. Okay. So you sell some legal cracks. Fuck it. List number one, work for yourself. Check. Fuck. Yeah. Yeah, me too. I highly recommend it. Take a chance. People take a fucking chance. Listen, a millionaire told me this. This is a guy, this guy don't look like he's, he just looks like a, he's been hanging out at the country golf club for a couple decades and he is got checker pants and a fat ass. This guy looks like a fucking substitute teacher driving a badass V 10. Specked out. Fucking viper, Burt, orange colored Viper. Damn that roared. You've heard a fe, a 10 cylinder engines roar,

you know? Mm-hmm. And this motherfucker comes up and they're like, what do you do? I've seen you several times. Not just this car. I've seen you in other cars. I've seen you Maserati, and they all yours. Or do you work for a dealership and you're just taking these to get service done? Oh no, these are all mine. These are all mine. I'm like, I said, look, I like to ask people questions when they're where I want to be. He said, always a source where you're getting your information. If you're getting advice from somebody, consider the source. And I tried to read into that. What do you mean consider a source? Who's telling it to you? Mm-hmm.

Tara:

Is he a fucking loser trying to give you successful advice? Are you gonna take successful advice from a fucking opioid addict? Doesn't make no sense. So you got somebody who's already where you wanna be, that's who you listen to. And I feel like that's contagious. If you get yourself around those people, then you can absolutely evolve

to that,

Tara:

to that world. You get put in advantages that you know you might not have before so yeah. Yeah. So bucket list number one. Check. Yep. What's the other bucket list? What's you said? Traveling. Yeah. I wanna see some more places I wanna go. Some, I wanna be a stranger somewhere, hit California coastline for a while, and I wanna come back here through the spring and the summer. Be a snow, a permanent snowbird for a while, I guess I have a life in different places and it's been like that my whole life anyway. And

maybe this,

Tara:

maybe this makes it easy on me,

I guess.

Tara:

cause I've lived. I've had a driver's license in three states, Arizona, California, Ohio. I've lived in all three of those states multiple times. And then I like the diversity of change and I learned later on

what,

Tara:

what a snowbird was. And I'm like, I get it, man. I get it. If these senior citizens can fucking do it. And they, they, there's people who are retired that go across the country and they stay in Arizona, most likely Arizona and Nevada. It's cheaper to, it's like the same cost as being here. There's no difference when you hit California, that all changes, but, oh, yeah. And I've been to Arizona, not to,

not,

Tara:

not Nevada, Arizona. Flagstaff's expensive. Flagstaff is'cause that's a college, mountain country. It's high country in Arizona.

Mm-hmm.

Tara:

It's like a little piece of Colorado chilling in the middle of the desert.

Right.

Tara:

I've been there.

I

Tara:

I've know Payson. Sedona. I've hit all those places. Me too.

Puff

Tara:

puff pass. Buff puff pass. I don't wanna fucking hear that. You know how long you held that thing in your thing? This girl was in her new car talking to me for a half hour holding the blunt. Said she this, she said,

puff,

Tara:

puff pass. I'm trying to get high over here. Now people, if you're having to listen to this and she don't edit this out. You don't have to consider this to be all men's thoughts. There is men that's looking for love out there. I just had a friend. Let's bring him up. I feel like he deserves it because he's a great guy, lifelong friend and like family. Not blood related, but like family. His wife just

left him,

Tara:

left him a couple days ago. Johnson, if anybody wants to be anti relationship, it should be this fellow. By now he's cheat death twice back in the late nineties. He went under a fucking semi trailer while it was moving. Jesus. He got plowed by a semi-truck, chopped the whole top of his car off. He ducked in time, stayed alive. He got cancer. They cut a piece out of his neck. He survived that cancer. Never came back. He's had two wives, both of them, shit on him a few years ago. This girl that he met was a dialysis nurse, I believe it was, saying she couldn't have kids, you know, and then lied to him. She got knocked up and he fucking told her he didn't want to have kids. Okay? He fucking told her he didn't want to have kids. He already has a kid that's 17 and 18. He just got out of child support. Okay? He's free, right? And then this bimbo blonde saying she can't get pregnant. Johnson knocks her right up the same night. She told everybody she couldn't get pregnant that the 4th of July party. What? So now he's got a, I think he's five or six now. Good kid. But his, he's already had grown kids, so now he's back into the cycle again.

Paying child support 12 years. And then he meets this girl Misty. I don't throw last names out there. He just got married to her two years ago. I was so happy for him. I'm like, you know,

Tara:

as much as you've been shit on this woman's an angel in your life, and this is me saying this. Remember all the bullshit I just said for the past few hour? Yeah. Yep. I still show support to people. It's still in my head. Listen, I still show support to people who are finding that and successful with it. Congrats to'em. It doesn't work out for everybody. I have burning proof. You want to go to the cemetery? Is every fucking headstone have a lover that died with them?

Is there,

Tara:

is there not tombstones out there? Where they're out there laying and they died? Single. My grandmother died. Single. My current grandmother's gonna die single. Both my grandfather's who's dead died single. Oh my God. You're manifesting this shit. My dad married somebody. You're manifesting dying single. I'm not manifesting it. I'm just, why can't you understand what I'm trying to tell you? I do understand. Not everybody gets this. Not everybody's entitled to love and happy ending. Go to the graveyard and look at the tombstones.'cause every one of'em have a partner that's either going to be laid next to him. No. Or got to. No. See what I mean? The end of life tells you everything. How life's all about. You were born alone. You're gonna die alone. You're born the same way. You're going out, you're shitting in diapers. You have no fucking hair left in your head, and you got no teeth and you're gibberish, br. That's all you say. When we're born and die, we're going in the same way. We came out dumb and

like

Tara:

a baby has to be taken care of and nobody's gonna be there. And of course I was selfish to not have kids. So when I die, it's just, there ain't gonna be nobody there. You know why I don't give a fuck?'cause I ain't gonna realize that I'm gonna be dying. What do I give a shit? I don't care if anybody's there when I'm dying. I don't give a fuck. They're like, oh, that's a weird thing to say. It's like, well, what good are you gonna do me? I'm fucking dying, man. You know you still gotta go home. These nurses and doctors are just keeping me drugged up until I'm outta here. I probably don't even know you're here. You see what I'm saying? Life is bullshit. Life is a fucking joke. All it

is is a trick. Until we get to the next life to see, ask, what the fuck was that all about? Everything that everybody had to go through, not just me. I gotta share this life the same 24 hours with everybody else. I can't stand you. Well,

Tara:

this is this all about, I can't fucking stand you because oh my God, I can't fucking stand to you. You're right. It sucks to be right. I don't like being right. Oh, I can't fucking stand you right now. I want to be dumb and not be able to have this in my head. I want to go by with what everybody thinks is gonna happen in the end. I think differently than you do though. I know. It's fantasy, honey. I have faith. That's fantasy. It's not fantasy. It's faith. It's hope. It's something you don't have. I do. Yeah. I'm happy you do. I'm glad you're happy I do. Giving yourself something to look forward to. Of course I am. And you might find it. I am gonna find it. Yeah, because that's what kind of positive thinking I have. I mean, mine's it's positive too. It's just, oh shit.

Uh, a p.

Tara:

Hey, Mr. Positive, Mr. Positivity over here.

Well,

Tara:

listen. That was funny though. It was very funny'cause that's the most bullshit I've ever seen. Come out your mouth. Here, hit this. It's not negative, it's just facts. Why call yourself this you don't agree with you. Just call it negative'cause somebody wants to say, you call yourself a realist. And really it's negativity. If you think

more positive,

Tara:

more positive things will happen. I think making more positive is thinking about myself. If you manifest. Being with someone, you will be with someone. If you manifest being alone,

you will manifest,

Tara:

you will end up alone.

I mean,

Tara:

and I've been doing it right all along. Yeah. You have, you sure have props to you. Positivity. Oh Lord, help me now. Let's get a little more realistic here. Oh boy. I'm not opposed. How much more realistic could we get?

Well, uh,

Tara:

okay, let's break. Break it down for me. No, I someday it would be nice to have a relationship. That'd be nice. Huh? I said maybe,

you know,

Tara:

maybe just someday. Yeah. Okay.

Well,

Tara:

when that someday does come, you need to open up. Let that, what am I missing? That on that person Know that you're interested in that person. I think

if, if,

Tara:

if the right.

That

Tara:

that's why they call it the right person. If the right person came along, that's what I'm saying. Maybe make a change To me, it just, not in the near future. I just don't see that happening. That's fine. But when you do find the right person, you need to open up When I do, yeah. I'll open up. But I'm not gonna be stupid and just go head first. That's something we all were talking about.

Well,

Tara:

we both agreed on that things. Yeah. We are old enough now that we're not,

you know,

Tara:

we've been in those rushed relationships. Yeah. Even if I found my dream girl, I think I told you this story with the one that supposedly crushed me. Whatever. Supposedly, dude. She did. Dude.

You,

Tara:

you haven't been in a whole nother relationship since then, have you? Yeah. Oh, sure, sure have. Okay. But sure I have love. Yeah. Love, like you loved her. Last time I was in, I fell in love with somebody and it was short-lived. But I was having like real hard, like real time. Whew. I'm getting lovesick here. I'm not hungry. I'm happy. My heart's full. That's a fucking great feeling. But love's like an opioid. If you don't keep feeding that shit that high, the withdrawal sucks. Aw. And there kills you, right? Yeah. You're a woman, you know this. Yeah. Emotions more and more. Aw. See, I'm not all fucking Mr. I don't understand love or anything's. You're not Mr. I'm hardass You finally gonna, no, I think that love is addicting. It's great, but you do have to dot a lot of i's and cross a lot of t's to make that work. And there's a lot of criteria. And no, not a hundred percent. Everything's gonna be perfect. You have to understand like there's no such thing as absolute perfection. But a, perfect ideal old person would be more correct if you're gonna describe that. Anyway, she was, but she was young. She was, 11 years younger than me. She was 28. I did a seven year younger than me. I just 40 or something. I don't like the younger ones. Younger, I don't. I have to teach'em. And, i'm good with the younger guys. I'm going for older now. I don't think

she was,

Tara:

she was younger, but she wasn't like super young. She was almost 30 at the time.

You know,

Tara:

I was one, I was 39, she was 28. I've done whole, that's not a huge separation. I've done the whole 5, 6, 7, 8, not 10 year gap. I'm good. I'm looking for someone my age or around my age. I want my age or younger. Preferably

I want my age

Tara:

I just young ho and they,

you know,

Tara:

decent shape for their age or something. I don't know. No, I've dealt with all the young fucking idiots.

I mean,

Tara:

I've. This one has its own business and cars and everything else. Are you turned off by the guys you're talking to? Like recently? Oh, yeah. Still not meeting nobody. Cool. I completely shut down. What makes you shut down? I don't mention the dick pics. We know that's an automatic kill it and guys don't do that shit. I already told you not to do that.

Right.

Tara:

I shut down. They'll say,

well,

Tara:

Sean, man, didn't you show, tara sneak peek? No. And when I did this on the show, oh. And he was like, oh, I saw it. No, I did not. But I just, I was, I'm turned off. I not looking. I stopped looking. It sucks to have so many options, doesn't it? It's not the options.'cause options are okay, but none of them are compatible or connect or can hold a conversation. Really? Yeah. Through text or like on the phone? Yeah, through text. You guys,

I mean,

Tara:

do you ever, I've given a couple of my phone number and still it's the same bullshit.

How,

Tara:

how are you? Good. How are you? Where are you from? Ohio. You? Oh, I hate that stage I just wanna get past that. I'm over it. Yeah. I've already shut down. I quit doing it. I already quit. Like I'm done. I did it for

like

Tara:

two weeks. Oh. Even got stood up. Got went out to meet someone and went to meet them. Oh, I'm on my way. I'll be there. I don't know if they showed up and tried to pretend they were somebody else walked around the bar. I don't know. I could have swore I saw them, but I sat there for

like

Tara:

15 minutes. I was like, yeah, I'm good. I'm gone. So I got up and I left. Was this like it recently? Yeah. So like after that I was like, I'm done. Being stood up, I feel is

kind of

Tara:

in the same neighborhood as ghosted, isn't it? Oh, I think it's worse. Isn't it worse? Yes. I think it's worse.'cause like you worked all day, you may have had to get fixed up or something to meet somebody. Oh yeah. I was looking cute. Yeah. And then you go out there and motherfucker just don't show up and then ghost you stood up and then ghosted. See, the fucked up thing is, I think that did show up. I think he did show up and I think that the person was using a different photo because this motherfucker was staring me hard and that person did not look nothing like their photo catfish. Why do people fucking do know what though? Do that though? I, the person looked better than the fucking photo. Oh yeah. Some people say I look better in person, but similar to the photo, because I guarantee your girls that saw'em, those pictures,

like, I mean,

Tara:

I could have swore it was that person. Yeah. But then it was like, maybe not. But then I'm like, damn, you look better in person than your photo. Which I look better in person. I feel I look better in person than my photos. I feel like I do. People was like, I'm like some fat dude or something, but I, yeah, I think they showed up and just didn't approach me or whatever. I don't fucking know. But I got up and left. I only sat there for

like

Tara:

15,

well,

Tara:

I waited for

like

Tara:

10 minutes out in the car and then went inside, got a drink and sat there for another 15 minutes. I was like, it's 30 minutes and then you're gonna text me like seven minutes after I leave the place. Yeah. And say that you're still 22 minutes out. And the date was for 1245 and I was gonna be a couple minutes late, so I showed up at 1255. I was 10 minutes late and here it is.

1222 And you're still saying you're gonna be late. Like

Tara:

if you didn't wanna show, don't show. If you wanted to see if it was really me, walk in the fucking restaurant and see, you see it obviously was me, but why would you stand me up? I don't know why people do that. Why would a dude stand in any checkup? I don't know. It hurt. I don't know. Why can't people just go to halls? Just, it hurt my feelings. I'm not gonna lie. It hurt my feelings really bad. Yeah. And I came home cried and went to bed and I You think you were gonna

like

Tara:

that person you thought? No, it was just the being let down.'cause I've been let down so much in my life. Like you said, I was gonna say, welcome to my life. Welcome to a lot of life. Everything you say. A lot of it's fucking true. But it's the negative side. It's the negative way of thinking in my eyes. And I am more positive. Just'cause you don't like hearing it don't mean it ain't the truth. I listened to it, didn't I? There's no, doesn't mean I just,'cause I don't wanna hear it doesn't mean I'm not gonna listen. I listened. But I also think you thought be negative and you, when you are, I think a different way than you do, I think a positive more way. I feel you. Once again, you're considering it a positive and negative thing other than a preference. It's not a negative thing. If I've had a shitty experience all my life. So if I listen, I'm almost 46, right? I'm older than you, but I a fucking year. Still a Craig, but I've still, that don't do shit now. I've still had all the bad experiences. I've still got shit on just last weekend. But you still want a partner. But I still wanna meet somebody that's fucking literally. Do you just like the thought of it? Do you just No. In love with the fact of being in love. I think a woman does that a lot. No, it's not a movie. No.

It's, it's,

Tara:

it's maintenance. It's stuff you got to work on all the time. Ah, yeah. There's compromise yeah. What happens when you get into it and you think this is the greatest age? It's called communication. Not everybody's great at that. I know. I am. I hate when people can't communicate. That just sucks so bad. That's a deal breaker too. Somebody can't communicate and tell you what's on their mind and how they feel God and what bothers them. Oh God. Yeah. Oh God. I have no problem telling people how I feel. God. Yeah. Why people hate that about me, because I tell them how I feel. I felt

the, the,

Tara:

the most recent girl I was seeing, it was like that. And it was just like, they're just there and that's it. I'm blunt, I'm brass. I have no problem telling people how I feel. And they don't like that. And sometimes that's a bad quality. Sometimes they say about me because I'm too blunt. So mates, yes. That's fantasy too way. I'm sorry. There's no such thing. Sorry. You feel that way. Prove me wrong. How can I prove you wrong? Exactly. I can prove you wrong, but you can't prove me wrong. So sorry. And the only thing you'll reach in the drawer is the negative button. That's okay. You can press it if you want. It's not, but there's no such fucking thing.

Who,

Tara:

who says you're entitled to a a soulmate. I, because Everybody's born with one. Really? Who isn't? Yeah.

Well,

Tara:

don't fucking know. You've almost lived all your life. Exactly where the fuck they at some meet'em before. Maybe your soulmate has, when they're young, they're fucking dead. That's who your soulmate is. Could be. You're in another life. But I don't think so. I still feel'em. It ain't here. I still feel'em. I don't feel her. I ain't say, I don't even, I don't feel anything and I can't help that. I still feel mine. I've told so much shit. And you want to hear you, you say, what I said was bullshit was funny by the way. I was laughing. But what, what are you talking about? I'm not singling out, but I say women'cause I date women,

but women have lied so much so of men. I've heard so much bullshit. So have I.

Tara:

And it's like you get so immune and it's, it don't even bother you anymore. It's just

like,

Tara:

you think it's funny. You've heard it all before. Yeah. You've, there's nothing new. Anybody gets somebody like you, you're the only one I ever this with or felt this way with or see, I don't sh I never stopped shaking about you. That's your husband. Does he know this?

You know,

Tara:

I'm like, come on man. Actions speak louder than words. I got an ex from six years ago who still contacts me also, who's currently pregnant. And I congratulated her because once again, not a bad connection. She likes me.

She loves my family too. They all liked her too.

Tara:

She's a good person. Couldn't trust the fuck out of her.

Lied, lied,

Tara:

lied. Compulsive liar. I hate a compulsive liar. She was

just,

Tara:

just that. See, I hate a liar too. I'd rather tell the truth. She's in, she inbox. She,

I got,

Tara:

I got the messages. Prove it. I got the messages right. Now what does she want the fuck? No. No, she's not. But she talks about when we did fuck though. And then she's calling the fuck, she's horny the bitch to the park. That cut my ass. There was like a wooden bench and there was like a nail kind of protruding out the back of the nail.

Mm-hmm.

Tara:

While she was on her butt with her legs up. I was getting a, the bench was just perfect height where I can get some good leverage,

you know,

Tara:

and it fucked like

the,

Tara:

the butt bone up top above,

um,

Tara:

the hole, whatever.

Well,

Tara:

the nail caught that and she

yelled,

Tara:

yelled up and Yelp. And I went, backed out, pulled out of her and everything. I'm like, whoa, what happened? So she started bleeding from her tailbone.

Mm-hmm.

Tara:

Where that nail clipped her. Yeah. We were,

you know,

Tara:

essentially going back and forth. Bam. It snagged just right. She's

like,

Tara:

oh, we gotta stop. I'm

sorry,

Tara:

sorry. And then she's like reaching for her ass and there's like blood on her finger and I'm like, oh my God, what the fuck happened? So we got her phone light and looked down. There was a nail sticking out of the board, just the, not the sharp part, but the part you hammered down. It was coming up out of the wood, right? The flat part. So the head of the nail, we were talking about that, stuff like that. And then,

you know,

Tara:

I teased her, she said,

you know,

Tara:

she's six months along. I'm like,

well

Tara:

it ain't mine. She's

like,

Tara:

duh or something like that ain't fucking yours. But

uh,

Tara:

she still says she has feelings for me and she thinks about me. And I'm like, you shouldn't be doing that. You have a man, you have a man helping, taking care of you, your dad and the kid that's about to be born. You're still texting me. You did this shit while you were with me and I told you you did this and you said you didn't, but you're doing it now. And I'm on the other end of it. And this is what I'm talking about. There's no, I have no girl that I wish I could go back to. I have nobody that I miss. Nobody. I want me either.

It's,

Tara:

it's crazy man. Me either. I don't want none of my exes. I don't want any of them back. That's the reason why they're their ex. But I became friends with so many of'em and I don't want'em back because they wanna fuck. I don't know. Maybe

they do,

Tara:

they do.

You know,

Tara:

some of it I just wouldn't make. The only reason why a girl gonna call you up outta the blue for no reason is to fuck no. Okay. I wish that was the case. But no, not always. 90% of the time you're full of shit. Whatever. Don't always mean they want to fuck. They're just flirting. They're getting validation. They're flirting and attention. That's all it is. Yeah. They're flirting with you to see if they can get the dick. Read between the lines there buddy. No, I'm not stupid creep twin whites. I wish other women were here. When you're saying that, they'd be like, oh, I'm not like that. That's as soon as they would say that immediately. Oh my God. There's too many of'em. There's too many of'em.

Like,

Tara:

I'm just not like that. Oh, I'm just flirting with him to fucking get his dick card and not wanna fucking him. No, I don't think so. I don't, everybody's sexually motivated as you are. Okay. I promise you that. Some girls didn't give a fuck less. I like sex and there's guy and I don't wanna single out to guys.'cause there's a lot of guys that don't like sex too. Yeah, there's, there was this hot black girl and black girls are not really my flavor, but this is what I wanted. Okay. And I'm like, she's just constantly telling me that her fucking, she comes on her man, she gets butt ass naked, lights, candles and

you know,

Tara:

gets her legs up to the couch and stuff. And just, she said, I got, I put it all out there for him. He don't wanna fuck, he just sits down and checks his emails and he's gay. That's what I told her because she's a pretty black girl's. Like she's light's skinned and she's very model like he's gay. Like girl, you're beautiful. Like he's gay is a$2 bill. And I'm not even simp. And I'll just tell you'cause I'm your friend and I work with you and you're nice. I hate that word. What? Simp? Yeah. I hate a simp. I You keep using the word though, but go ahead. Fucking hate him, man. I hate a simp. Every simp needs punched in the joint. What is a simp? That's a guy who gives women

over

Tara:

over amount of attention that's not deserved and they don't get it back. It's never reciprocated.

Mm.

Tara:

One sided love. It's that guy that's, oh, you're so beautiful. You're so special. Oh my God. I just wanna be your friend. I can't be with a guy like that. Fuck off dude.

I can't,

Tara:

I can't be with a guy like that. I don't want,

it's, it's,

Tara:

it's guys that pump women egos up. Only fan type shit.

Like,

Tara:

look in the comments of these only fan girls that are on there and it's, they're all saying how amazing they are. How special? I'm like, you don't even know this bitch. She's probably hateful in public. She's taking pictures and posing. To get money and views and followers. She don't give a fuck about your ass. There's 15 other Matthews saying the same thing on this comment section. I hate a simp. And boy, if you say something to one of these motherfuckers, they're gonna tell you back what? You can't get pussy. I'm like, no, you're not getting late either.'cause you're sipping. There's 1500 guys just like yourself doing the same thing. Give it a rest, bro. Calm down. I just don't like, I'm not, I don't support. Only fan girls can't stand that shit. Probably the biggest red flag ever.

Well,

Tara:

good thing I'm not on OnlyFans my pages. Yes you. You'll be marketable.'cause if you're not out there showing your ass everywhere my page is out there. My, my podcast, but not my ass. But you're not in a white bikini. That's wet. No, I'm in. Okay, so But you are in a classy look. Yeah. At best you were laying down and had something fancy on.

Right.

Tara:

Okay,

well

Tara:

that's sophisticated. Sexy. Okay, that's sophisticated. No, they're bourgeois pictures now. Hi. I am happen to be 18. I haven't had cock before, but No, just wait for the right one. Oh, lemme show you my pussy. Just a second. Back up. Oh

no, no, no,

Tara:

no. You don't even see any nipples on mine. Mine are classy and there's all these little young can't see broccoli heads fucking forming a straight line just to compliment somebody. But again, mine, they're only to promote my podcast. I don't have anything nude on there. I don't have any videos or anything like that. Yeah.'cause you want something serious. Yeah. I'm not doing none of that. Real men don't want that shit now women think no. See, women think a lot of times I have options. They'll say they have so many options and it's no you don't. No, I don't think you do. Because a lot of these men making you think and they're validating you and you're going along to pump your ego up in the back of their heads. They're just trying to get some and they'll wait months for it. They'll wait a long time for it. As a matter of fact, it's not very practical for opposite sex to be friends. True friends. No, like I said, you're right. I have a lot of chick friends from my past. Again, you are correct, my friend. They're still the fuck too, just like you said. Yeah. You just wanna fuck. Hell yeah, they do. I know. Yeah. You can't be friends with the opposite sex. No, not truly. No. Not unless they're gay. To a limited extent. I'm not unless they're gay.

Uh,

Tara:

all my chick friends that are my considered chick friends for life, I don't see on a regular basis go. But do you fucked them? There you go. No. Never fucked Misty. Never fucked Michelle. Never. Fuck Sarah. These are girls that I told you Oh, okay. That you grew up with. Okay. That's right. That's right. That you, okay, I see what you're saying. These are my nonstick dick friends. Okay. Okay. This are the ones I just wouldn't do to break.'cause we're just too good friends. It's just Well, that, and they fucked all your friends. Exactly. They fucked up. They're not getting nowhere. So it's a pride thing. And just not gonna be that guy that watched everybody run through that person. They had a op, they had their chance. Okay. You had most of my life chance, but,

right. So,

Tara:

the minute I'm dissed by somebody,

I'm, I'm,

Tara:

I'm just, I'm going the other fucking direction. I don't, I'm not, I don't try too hard.

I'm not,

Tara:

I'm not that person. I don't like rejection either. Do you even put yourself out there though? What Is putting yourself out there? Help me with this?'cause probably not. Oh, I know you don't, but I gotta hear your explanation to see what you're saying. Oh, I know you don't. I

kind of

Tara:

do. If you mean by going to bars and being seen by the public or something like that. Now I know you do that. That's putting yourself out there right now. Are you letting these females know that you're single, and that you're interested in them? No. That's why. Fuck, you can't even get a conversation like that going in most cases. We've already, we discussed this too. Men don't really wanna go up to women and start talking to'em. I feel like if I'm gonna meet somebody and when I do meet somebody, it's always by chance. That's awful funny.'cause I met you and talked to you. You met me by chance too. How was it? By chance? Wow.'cause you was by chance right next to me. Oh, so it happened by chance. It ain't because you came and sat to me'cause you was in interested or that I came into. You did the same to you. I happened to be sitting there. You needed a drink, you came up, you got that drink and the band was super fucking loud. So I barely heard anything you said. You remember there was a big loud band playing Pink Floyd and other shit? Yeah, I remember bits and pieces. That was a badass night. That was a good band. They had that night. So yeah, that was jamming out or anything. And then when the band was over with, that's when you're like, you said something, I don't know. Are you gonna talk to me or you? So you said something to an aggressive state. I don't know what you said. Aggressive. I am aggressive. Yes. I said, so are you gonna talk to me or what? Yeah. I'm like, what do you mean? Am I gonna talk to you? What? I never talked to you before. No, shit. That's the whole point.

Well,

Tara:

do you see how that worked out by chance though? No. That's not by chance. That's me making a move on you because you wouldn't talk to me.

Well,

Tara:

I think more women should have to. Don't argue with me on that one. You know damn well if it's a fair playing field, women should be approaching men. I can't help that. Women are not approaching women. Women should be approaching men. I can't help that. I do. The women's success rate's gonna be much higher anyway, because I approach men. You're gonna make that man feel like he's the best thing ever. You know why?'cause you could've chose anybody else, but you went to him. There's a huge difference. Huge difference. Okay. And when you, when I walked in that bar, do not think I scanned around that bar. And yeah, I needed a drink. I needed a seat. I still don't understand your point. The seats were taken all the way around us. That was your only spot. Once again, it was by chance. By chance. You think you don't think it was fate?

Well,

Tara:

how could it be fate? What have we done since then? I'm just asking if you don't think it was fake. Wow. Fate, man. What have we done since then? Yeah. I don't know. A year and a half later you contacted me, asked me how I'm doing. I said, I'm cool. You wanna come and hang out and go on a podcast was perfect.

I mean,

Tara:

that's friendship. Yeah. Hell yeah. I'm like, then why not? So you don't think it was fate that I met you that night? You think it was coincidence? Maybe the podcast was the fate. That's a good fate. I'm okay with it, but still you. You're silly man. I'm telling. No, I'm not silly. Yeah you are. No I'm not. You're crazy. But I like you say no. So you don't even make the first move. I know that I like mutual moves. No. You like the woman to make the first move. You've already told me that. You've said that kinda,

I mean,

Tara:

you've said that'cause you say you don't know when to make the first move, so you always rely on the woman to make the first move. So you rely on the woman to do a lot of things first. No,

kind of,

Tara:

and that's really for the woman's safety. Honestly, that's

kind of,

Tara:

that's something I had to do because of experiences making first moves.

You know,

Tara:

some women could, the rejection thing

and,

Tara:

and I shouldn't be holding my younger dating life against what today, but in the past, like if you make a move and they just fucking, what are you doing? Women like to lead men on, especially when you're young. So those are bad experiences. And I'll be damned if somebody pushes me off after fucking leave me on forever. I'm like,

well, you're fucking gone. I should have figured that out a long time ago that you were just gonna push me off and reject me and make me think you liked me all this time. Have you had a guy do that to you? You've never been let on? Of course I have. Okay, so you can't be looking at me like you're confused. I'm over here thinking that's why I'm looking at you. Like I'm confused, but yeah, it's just that, that thing I just, that lead you on and just when you think it's a good time to go ahead and just plant one on her and just kiss her, you know, and you don't get the response that you were hoping for. So I got rewired a little bit and I go with the, the mutual you. This is how it works. Usually this is the way I like how it works. Please explain,

Tara:

body language.

Mm-hmm.

Tara:

Body language is better than words. Any day when somebody makes an excuse to be close to you. That's how it usually unfolds, isn't it? You get somebody and they just find ways to talk close to you.

They,

Tara:

they're talking close to you or they're leaning towards you. They just

kind of

Tara:

rub your shoulder for a second. They just do these micro moves. Quick hugs. I'm gonna go to the bathroom real quick. You want a drink? Alright, cool. And you do this little flirt hug and you roll off and they laugh.

Like,

Tara:

that was weird but cute.

Right?

Tara:

Yeah, that's what I'm talking about. Natural organic connection. It just, that's someone flirting with you. It just hap, that's fun to me. I like that. So again, you want someone to engage the flirting. I want a mutual. You want listen though, mutual. It's both ways. I'm leaning in, she's leaning in. We like each other. We're finding out that we're attracted to each other. At least. Jesus. Tara, poor Tara. We gotta find Tara. Man, guys. No, Tara will find her own man. It'll come. All the fellas listening. All this number. Terry's about to give you your number. Don't you fucking dare. It's, I'll edit it out. Fuck you. No. Okay. Oh, do you know it by heart? No. No, you don't. I was about to say, I say day. I want to hear it. Let me see if you know it by heart. Yeah, I didn't think so

well,

Tara:

I'm blocked and I haven't used that number a lot, guys, so you can't blame me. Just like when it came to this podcast, you blocked me front and I don't even know why I think I was a creep or I called you or something. Do you think I was gonna call you or did you have a girlfriend or something? Is that why you blocked me? I don't even remember, honestly, because I know you haven't blocked. I said you got mad at me for some reason and was like, I got mad at you. Probably got a little dick and hung up. I didn't say that to you. I know. I would never say that I'm messing. Hold on. Why did we quit talking? I thought you knew that I had just broke up with my ex and I think that you knew I needed time to get over him, is what I thought, but I don't know.

Hmm.

Tara:

Yeah, I wish I had the messages from like before. I don't remember we missed a lot of sex talk on that podcast, but it was still cool. Find what you thinks cool out of it. Whenever we think it's shitty, it's actually turns out really good. A lot about relationships. Yeah. Your take on it. My take on it. I think having the podcast and being able to expand outside of sex. Yeah. That's what taboo and talk about these viral people can relate to what we're saying. That's the whole point of me doing this, what he said was true and I'm, and she's agree with him,

right.

Tara:

And she's fucking sitting there agreeing with You're right.

Right.

Tara:

And then I can't stand you, but you're right.

But the ladies,

Tara:

but the ladies can see where you're coming from too. Yeah. So nobody's truly 100% right or wrong. We both have our points.

Right?

Tara:

There are opinions. Opinions are like assholes. Everybody's got them. This should be a lesson to everybody. That life experience can change your perception. Yes. On things it can. And you can't help it. You know, it sucks. And

if you, if you've,

Tara:

if you've lived a

rough,

Tara:

rough road, you have to pick the path where you feel like you're gonna be stable the most. If I fall in love with somebody and it doesn't work out, my world's fucking crushed. And then that's gonna interfere with my career when I'm trying to do. And be more independent, where I can live completely by myself and not have to be renting fucking rooms. How there, how we have so much in common. It's not even fucking funny. Huh? Nothing. Go ahead. No. What would you say? I said we have so much in common. It's not funny. We do, but we don't, we have the same goals. No, we don't. You're looking for somebody. I'm not. How is that the same? Are you talking about fundamental goals?

Like

Tara:

Yeah. Fundamental goals. Yeah. Working and traveling, living life. Going, yeah. Around the world. How do you

Well,

Tara:

I guess you could, I've always wanted that get old enough to where you probably could pull it off.

Right?

Tara:

They are have watch your house while you're going, or

like, I mean,

Tara:

you homeschool. I wanted a camper because I wanted a camper. I wanted to live, literally live on the road and travel and work on the road. And I've, that's a dream of mine. It's always been a dream of mine. Yeah. I just feel like it's a life where you really could just live deeper. It's a fucking life, man. Can you imagine? Have more spending money. Oh my God. Eliminate all your bills. You rv you to camp sites. I've already, I've had a camper. I tried to do it, but I couldn't do it on my own because I'm a woman. I needed a man. You're afraid to. No, I needed a man because I couldn't hitch the thing. I couldn't,

i didn't have the truck.

Tara:

I couldn't hitch the trailer. There was just so many things that I needed a man for. I could teach you all that.

Well,

Tara:

I've moved people across country several times. I'm used to driving. I could drive big vehicles, towing vehicles too, so I know how to use the, car dollies and trailers. I had a camper and I sold it. You can do it. If I showed you one time, you'd figure it out, backing it up. All that shit. That is a pain in the dick.

I mean,

Tara:

that takes a little practice, but I don't wanna do it by myself. I want to do it with somebody. Yeah, there's, why would I wanna do it by myself? It's boring by yourself. I want to share it with somebody. I want to go to that new beach and walk on that beach and watch that sunset or sunrise in the morning with that person. That's what I want. You get in your camper and it's like having a house. It is the house. Get your fuck on right in the parking lot and never know that's fucking

right.

Tara:

And you can fucking in all 50 states. Yeah.

I mean,

Tara:

my god, life goals,

like, yeah, that's pretty much it. Oh my God, that's the fucking drink. Few drinks here and there, smoked my weed, talk about things I did in my life. It's crazy. And that's that I never thought I'd be doing this and that. I've had i've got to have those moments in my life so far where I've got to travel and I've got to go places Me too. And freeze for a moment and just take it in and go, man, my feet have been everywhere. I've stepped on so many different terrains thanks for listening to today's podcast. Follow all of Tara's social media, but going to talking Taboo with tara.com. Also subscribe to this podcast and our YouTube channel.

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