When Fantasy Meets Reality

Dealing with Fantasies: Navigating Relationship Dynamics

In this episode, we delve into three intriguing stories, with a particular focus on a relationship dilemma faced by a 23-year-old man. He shares his experience with his girlfriend's specific fantasy and how it has impacted their intimate life. Initially resistant, he tries out a new toy that his girlfriend is enthusiastic about, which leads to intense and conflicting emotions. Seeking advice, he contemplates whether his feelings are rooted in insecurity and debates how to address the situation while maintaining a healthy and happy relationship. Tune in for a thought-provoking discussion on handling intimate fantasies and open communication in relationships.

00:00 Introduction and Overview
00:05 Story 1: Relationship Dynamics and Fantasies
00:44 The New Toy and Its Impact
01:57 Emotional Aftermath and Avoidance
03:47 Seeking Advice and Confrontation
03:58 Update: Trying Again
05:10 Conflicting Feelings and Final Thoughts

Transcript

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Today's stories are, what do I do? We have three short stories and here we go. I am a male 23 who has been with my female 21 girlfriend for about three years now. We've also had a really active and fun gig, Getty Gig, Getty Life with lots of experimenting, trying new positions and role play. She's mentioned before that she has A BBC fantasy. And we've watched some incredible corn together here and there, which was hot in the moment, but never went beyond that. I was cool with it since it was a big fantasy of hers. Hmm. A few days ago, though, she surprised me with a new toy. It's a extender sleep thing that absolutely is massive and black. Designed to look like A BB, C. She was excited to show me and wanted me to wear it right away during Gig Getty. Gig Getty time. I was super hesitant at first because it felt weird and kind of em emasculating, but I didn't. I want to ruin the mood or take her feeling, make her feel bad, so I eventually gave her, gave in and, and put it on. The Whoopi was very intense for her. She climaxed way harder than normal. Moaning louder. And talkative. She was very talkative. Afterwards. She kept going on about how amazing it felt and how much she loved it, which is not normal for either one of us. After Gig Gig Getty, gig Getty time, I felt totally I deranged and inferior, and. The entire time, especially after her raving about how amazing it was. I guess because I'm wearing this thing that's supposed to make me bigger and a different color and it's clear she's responding to that way more than me. We are both Caucasian and it's messing with my head big time. Hmm. Okay. All right, let's get into it. Let's get into it. Since that night, I have been avoiding Whoopi with her. I have made excuses or just say, I'm tired because I'm scared she won't. She want to use it again, and I don't know if I can handle feeling like that again, but at the same time I do. I don't want to upset her or knock her kinks or shame her. Because she obviously enjoyed it and I love making her happy. And I'm over re am I overreacting here? Is this just, I can't read that. Some of the stuff I can't read on here, people, um, am I just insecure? Is it just insecurity on my part or is it valid? Feeling weird about this? I don't know if she would talk to her, if I should talk to her about this or just push through. Hmm. I think I would have a conversation with her. I don't know. Just to see what she has to say. I don't know. I'm into this kind of stuff, so we'll see. Okay. There's an update. So last night I did confront her about. The last night we had Long Con, I did confront her about last night, and we did have a long conversation that essentially led her to explaining her thought process more depth, and eventually got to where I decided we'd give it another try. Well open-minded. That's good. And we will admit this, and I will admit the second time with this wasn't bad The first time she truly climaxed like crazy with it. She ca she climaxed even harder. The second go round, she climaxed harder the second time and there was more dirty talk from her this time. She did let me finish after she had climaxed several times, but it wasn't as enjoyable as for me as it was for her. Uh, let's see. I lost my place. Sorry. So I guess I am exploring more for her. I don't know, still having conflicting feelings. That it makes sense. Is anyone actually been or had this happen to them? If so, please women give me information, feedback. I love making her happy and I love making her feel wanted. So I'm asking should I keep this, should I keep this in the fantasy or should I just cut it off completely? I would not do it all the time. Personally. I would do it every once in a while just'cause she likes it and she, she's into it, but it's not something I would want to do all the time. No.